#TMchat Archive
Current and relevant education discussions are held every Tuesday in #TMchat. A weekly guest moderator, considered an expert on the the week's topic, joins @conniehamilton to guide the one hour chat and actively engage with participants. Founder and moderator @conniehamilton supplies her responses to the week's questions visually in Thinking Maps.
Tuesday September 13, 2016
Hi all! here moderating for . I am eager to chat about shift tonight!
Welcome to . Our topic tonight is Shifting to Growth Mindset. Please follow my guest moderator https://t.co/DYDNbxHlkK
I'm Connie Hamilton. Emily Diehl and I are your moderators tonight. Let the introductions begin. https://t.co/x6prFMHJ1l
Hi and I am Terry, 3rd gr T in Fl
Our format will include 7 questions. Use A1 to respond to Q1 & remember to include hashtag in all tweets. https://t.co/uStPQTRXwi
Hi, Terry. Nice to see you in
Jeremy here from Connecticut. Glad to lend my voice as a parent! And ParentCamper! Let's do this thing!
Having trouble with my Twitter. :(
Hi Jeremy. Thanks for joining
Going to reboot. Be back in a sec...
Hello! Jenna, ELL Resource teacher in the Chicago suburbs, joining in!
Q1 What is a in your own words?
thanks for the heads-up last week.
Hi there Cathie Pennington-Elementary Principal
Hi everyone, Joël from Callander. I am a Pedagogical Leader.
A1 GM is seeing challenges not failure.
Thank goodness for scheduled tweets bc running from a cell phone would definitely not work.
My own words? is the willingness not to be a grownup. To not know the answers. To be impatient for the next thing. A1
A1: a means that you know your children (and you) can grow their abilites, habits, skills to get smarter
A1: Its a state of mind. It's your toolbox that helps you get back up when you have stumbled or fallen.
What up - Josh from MO tryin' to hang with y'all tonight,
A1: Growth mindset is understanding the process of learning is ongoing and it is a process.
has produced awesome videos on and the power of YET!!
growth mindset, Connie. Growth mindset.😉
Looking forward to a whole new thought process as a teacher and a mother.
An openness to new learning and the struggles that are part of this process
Yes... I didn't give up. Looking for a way to figure it out. https://t.co/T3ECHiQXks
growth mindset, Connie. Growth mindset.😉
A1 the thinking /idea that I may not be smart, but I can get smart https://t.co/vnQ2Rybd5I
Q1 What is a in your own words?
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
how do you think that process is affected by those roles?
It's the struggles that help us learn and grow.
A1 The understanding that your ability isn't fixed and the willingness to take a risk to reach your goals.
A1 growth mindset to me would be an open-ended approach,an adventure into what's up next...staying open-minded as well
A2: Parents can show they can still learn too.
A2 keep gently pushing them to "keep on swimming" ... Taking risks and learning something new daily https://t.co/HawzqS6aHO
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
A2: I think we need to share the knowledge or understanding with parents first.
I had a feeling you might ask me that...take up a new hobby? Or learn about something together?
I read a survey that 80+% of people prefer to never try something than to try and fail. So sad!
A2: One key to fostering a growth mindset is directly teach about mindset so they recognize growth/fixed. https://t.co/WneOfnErGh
A2 Challenge kids to overcome their own challenges. Allow them to realize they can fix their own problems. Don't do it for them.
And talk about it with the kids!
A2: Talk about it, make it part of their language. And parents need to model it also.
And narrate their positive self-talk when doing it. https://t.co/mpdrZ0rL4k
I had a feeling you might ask me that...take up a new hobby? Or learn about something together?
A2) The youngest kids know and want their body to grow. Model how you keep active to keep the brain growing. https://t.co/4WtRVSQpFJ
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
Yes! Have a parent night and tell them what you are learning about a let us know if we can help!
Or "Let's figure out how to build this IKEA bookself together."
A2 Teach a with coloring, drawing, video and visualization.
Speech at NCFL called "Good Grief" talked about Good being the enemy of great (also ) https://t.co/prF86g36Js
I read a survey that 80+% of people prefer to never try something than to try and fail. So sad!
A2: When looking at their child's school work they can help them to see that they may not get it "yet" . And embrace mistakes.
Yes! "Si, se puede!" is what I say.
And help them talk through the problem. Positive self talk while working through an issue is a powerful skill.
That is so true! People become content being "good" enough. https://t.co/IoAHGGeTK4
Speech at NCFL called "Good Grief" talked about Good being the enemy of great (also ) https://t.co/prF86g36Js
I read a survey that 80+% of people prefer to never try something than to try and fail. So sad!
Super - yes..yet is so amazing. who knew?
Or like you said ... By not trying if they can't be excellent from the beginning 😔 https://t.co/AhVgHoFaNv
That is so true! People become content being "good" enough. https://t.co/IoAHGGeTK4
Speech at NCFL called "Good Grief" talked about Good being the enemy of great (also ) https://t.co/prF86g36Js
I read a survey that 80+% of people prefer to never try something than to try and fail. So sad!
humility. Let our kids teach us something. Talk about times we're wrong and how we've grown from it.
Creation is a great place for growth mindset. Let students create things, but don't overcoach. Let them flow.
Stop giving out participation trophies. https://t.co/J09Ivtoh32
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
What are the negative effects of participation trophies? https://t.co/cNR5oJp9K7
Stop giving out participation trophies. https://t.co/J09Ivtoh32
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
A2. Nudging,encouraging,not judging,to risk and fail,make them resilient,so they come up with their own problem solving techniques
But competition isn't necessary a great thing for growth mindset either. Failing once and losing can be stigmatizing.
Q3 Instead of saying You are so talented wonderful smart perfect, what are other things can say to foster a ?
Retweet Q2. https://t.co/7aKSytz0je
Q2 How can parents teach children about a (your brain grows your whole life) at different ages?
I run the deathbed test in my mind. What will matter? We don't regret the failures, but what's left undone. https://t.co/deI2jcBzwx
I read a survey that 80+% of people prefer to never try something than to try and fail. So sad!
And reassure them they are not alone in their possibly private anxieties about looking foolish when taking a risk
During our celebration of this was so clear. It showed up in their blogs. https://t.co/iBkJDI1tZA
Creation is a great place for growth mindset. Let students create things, but don't overcoach. Let them flow.
A2: Teach them how to stop, relax, zoom out and see the big picture.
A3 You tried successfully ... What a great question! Risk! Wow, you worked really hard on this one. https://t.co/QWqSk5gZGs
Q3 Instead of saying You are so talented wonderful smart perfect, what are other things can say to foster a ?
goodness - thank you for the reminder
Retweet Q3. https://t.co/Xz6eS9NRsa
Q3 Instead of saying You are so talented wonderful smart perfect, what are other things can say to foster a ?
We MUST show this. If there's a more important thing to teach our kids, I don't know what. https://t.co/c1CRdQG14B
A2: Parents can show they can still learn too.
A3: Your hard work paid off.
What's your next challenge? How can you be EVEN better next time?
Specific feedback is good. Praise what worked but talk about how to improve what didn't.
Extrinsic rewards for attending is counterproductive to learning.
Thanks for sharing this image.
A3: I know you can grow and learn more about this. How can we get better at this? What can we do to improve?
A3 I am proud of you or better, ask a question! What are you learning from this?
A3: Don't stop; Have you tried something new ? Have you helped someone grow and be better ?
good point -- it's our life experiences that shape our learning more than the other way around.
I often say, "You must be proud of yourself. Think about everything you did to earn. Now, let's celebrate." https://t.co/3LhD8GA49F
A3 I am proud of you or better, ask a question! What are you learning from this?
I like the idea of helping SOMEONE ELSE. Fosters community and responsibility.
Sometimes. Good coaches focus on the process and celebrate growth. Sometimes this can also be evident in competition.
"I really like how you did this. What was easy about doing that? What was hard?"
Next is Q4 in one minute.
Yes, and context matters. But in a classroom I'd rather recognize and encourage effort rather than only reward success.
It can mean we don't have chance to develop life skills needed to get thru the moments we miss the mark
A3) You're a good listener. You try hard. It's still praise, but it implies there's always more work to do. https://t.co/uC05bVGFXx
Q3 Instead of saying You are so talented wonderful smart perfect, what are other things can say to foster a ?
A3 other questions are: What would you do differently? & What did you do when it got hard?
Q4 How might parents help children learn from & how to handle a mistake well?
We often understand better when we actually practice it.
For me it always comes down to fostering & supporting a balance
And when feedback is positive it should be deeper than "good job". What was good? What should I be proud of? How did I have success?
A4 we taught our daughter "keep on swimming" - she learned to swim & conquered fear, she can learn anything https://t.co/56w1p8zGfn
Q4 How might parents help children learn from & how to handle a mistake well?
A4:Model how to learn from mistakes and continue on the task until you reach success. Children learn from how we behave
No doubt, only rewarding success and not the effort that led to success is harmful to all, especially gifted students.
Yes it should. ;) Let's just ask questions though..what did you learn?how does it feel? what about next time?
A4: They can help them develop strategies for reflection. Look at other strategies.
A4 By modeling it. What should I do when I goof up? Ask the kid what they think. Model process of overcoming a mistake or failure
A4: When a mistake is made, take the time to stop and talk/reflect about it, not just react.
A3 What did u learn from this? What are some areas we can further strengthen together?
A4 Model how to handle a mistake well. Say: That's interesting, I didn't mean to do that. I learned...
Sounds like Dory... https://t.co/jfnMaHGSMK
A4 we taught our daughter "keep on swimming" - she learned to swim & conquered fear, she can learn anything https://t.co/56w1p8zGfn
Q4 How might parents help children learn from & how to handle a mistake well?
A4) Model. They're trying to learn. Let them look up to us not for being great but for our ability to learn. https://t.co/yLa7rcZb68
Q4 How might parents help children learn from & how to handle a mistake well?
Retweet Q4. https://t.co/MCGhzhRZvp
A4 Model how to handle a mistake well. Say: That's interesting, I didn't mean to do that. I learned...
A4 As teachers it can be powerful to admit when you don't know something. Stop pretending to be the smartest person in the room.
In the hopper is Q5. Coming in one minute.
A4: Kids should understand that succeeding at anything meaningful usually stems from learning from failure. https://t.co/hxOQOuJkjB
Q5 How should parents talk about , process, and ?
Just saying "good job" becomes automatic. Like saying "Love you" to a fam member. It's good to say "Love you BECAUSE.."
Yep ... We now use Dory as a visual reminder when she feels overwhelmed and fears the risk https://t.co/5PNZyx3b3q
Sounds like Dory... https://t.co/jfnMaHGSMK
A4 we taught our daughter "keep on swimming" - she learned to swim & conquered fear, she can learn anything https://t.co/56w1p8zGfn
Q4 How might parents help children learn from & how to handle a mistake well?
A4: Sometimes it's just to make them realize that it's not the end of the world.
A5: As achievable and a team effort. The whole team...parents, teachers, and child can work together to reach goals.
A4 I find empathizing that not meeting goal can naturally feel crummy but shows level of motivation so guide how to learn from it
So true. https://t.co/tC2DiuXesh
Just saying "good job" becomes automatic. Like saying "Love you" to a fam member. It's good to say "Love you BECAUSE.."
Very hard habit to break. We always want to celebrate and emphasize positive. Must be vigilant about effective feedback.
How do you make the realize it's not the end of the world? https://t.co/5kIrl0NPLh
A4: Sometimes it's just to make them realize that it's not the end of the world.
A5 "everything, every time you try you succeed" ... Future starts today https://t.co/fkEQ1X0sKf
Q5 How should parents talk about , process, and ?
A5) Process shapes us. Success is measured not by the achievement of a goal but how we navigate the process. https://t.co/YrclOXMlmw
Q5 How should parents talk about , process, and ?
What does that guidance look like? https://t.co/betyxBMiOP
A4 I find empathizing that not meeting goal can naturally feel crummy but shows level of motivation so guide how to learn from it
A5 should be secondary, not the be-all, end-all. Focus & joy must be in learning process & getting better incrementally
well, love shouldn't have conditions. But I get your point. Platitudes don't teach.
Q6 When children are not the best at something, or when they fail, what should parents do?
Both are important ... It's just failure might be step (learn something new) or shift (go a new direction) https://t.co/YIJ4muP2a8
A5 should be secondary, not the be-all, end-all. Focus & joy must be in learning process & getting better incrementally
Often by staying calm and talking it through. https://t.co/F2vkMQ31K2
How do you make the realize it's not the end of the world? https://t.co/5kIrl0NPLh
A4: Sometimes it's just to make them realize that it's not the end of the world.
A6 "just keep swimming" ... Determine do I push or nudge or let go? Sometimes we have to do all 3 (timing) https://t.co/WDZIICwgLW
Q6 When children are not the best at something, or when they fail, what should parents do?
A5 Thank you for this. It will be a god resource for literacy program.
Sure! Secondary is still important :)
Retweet Q6. https://t.co/RNtDUbFabO
Q6 When children are not the best at something, or when they fail, what should parents do?
STOP SAYING YOU'RE SO SMART
Perhaps just as important as what to say in failure is what to say in success. https://t.co/zxnmqWiBKJ
Relate when you had the same feeling. Because you and the world are still here.
No, no conditions. Just good reasons why.
A6 remind children it is normal to not be perfect when in the ! Mistakes are feedback for improvement.
I actually say both ... Times she needs to hear that she made a smart choice / complement with try! https://t.co/QzcS5sa5Zr
STOP SAYING YOU'RE SO SMART
Perhaps just as important as what to say in failure is what to say in success. https://t.co/zxnmqWiBKJ
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
yes, it is about what means. We work hard to get smart. great. it is something you become
A6) Provide perspective. Help them discover their strengths and why they didn't manifest themselves here. https://t.co/1CQR2Ee9ci
Q6 When children are not the best at something, or when they fail, what should parents do?
Share appreciation for feeling frustrated-give time-take a breath-use humour to restore-remind of progress -reflect
A6 Ps should be supportive, understanding, and capitalize on the positives of the happening. Missteps lead to future success.
Q7: As a parent, what do you do to explicitly model a for your children?
Love this line of questioning.
Humor can carry you a long way as long as it's not used in the wrong way. https://t.co/JIbxOQvlPn
Share appreciation for feeling frustrated-give time-take a breath-use humour to restore-remind of progress -reflect
Strengths are sometimes hidden in the negative moment so being positive is such a plus.
A7 I fail! Laugh about it, get up & try again! (Easier to do when learning how to do a new job better) https://t.co/yxlo1gGWXG
Q7: As a parent, what do you do to explicitly model a for your children?
My daughter just finished 154th in cross country race, but we celebrated bc she not a new personal record. https://t.co/YkNJMYCwyB
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
A7 I make and my transparent. My children know I am thoughtful about my life and I am not perfect
Compare yourself to yourself, not to others. Then focus on getting even better ! https://t.co/om05P8XWcG
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
Yet "smart" isn't a goal. It's a characteristic that may (or may not) help us reach it. https://t.co/USX0GUXQCQ
yes, it is about what means. We work hard to get smart. great. it is something you become
My son started playing bogie-golf to keep from getting angry on the course - he now scores PRs https://t.co/1dHb1oxeOb
My daughter just finished 154th in cross country race, but we celebrated bc she not a new personal record. https://t.co/YkNJMYCwyB
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
A7 I listen. I learn. I try to model positivity.
A7 Think alounds help - allowing my kids to hear what a sounds like as an adult
Do you ever catch yourself in a fixed mindset? https://t.co/0cxvGssagB
A7 I listen. I learn. I try to model positivity.
Oops ... I think it's bogey-golf ☺️ https://t.co/nXFntHQqJp
My son started playing bogie-golf to keep from getting angry on the course - he now scores PRs https://t.co/1dHb1oxeOb
My daughter just finished 154th in cross country race, but we celebrated bc she not a new personal record. https://t.co/YkNJMYCwyB
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
Everyone has personal goals (dreams). https://t.co/gzl07tNAiw
My daughter just finished 154th in cross country race, but we celebrated bc she not a new personal record. https://t.co/YkNJMYCwyB
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
Thank you for hosting tonight's chat!
Yes... that's right. https://t.co/YErBsvciaZ
Oops ... I think it's bogey-golf ☺️ https://t.co/nXFntHQqJp
My son started playing bogie-golf to keep from getting angry on the course - he now scores PRs https://t.co/1dHb1oxeOb
My daughter just finished 154th in cross country race, but we celebrated bc she not a new personal record. https://t.co/YkNJMYCwyB
A6 becoming better than yesterday is the best not beating others or being #1. Focus on that and children will grow
Thank you and for moderating a great chat!
Yes, it's totally normal. a is a choice we make when we pay attention to our thoughts.
This is an important message. failure and struggle is part of the learning process. https://t.co/9Q5gSBAXjP
STOP SAYING YOU'RE SO SMART
Perhaps just as important as what to say in failure is what to say in success. https://t.co/zxnmqWiBKJ
Always tried to instill in Ss & my children that their best is great for the day & quest for better is an infinite one.
A7: I ask them "what is in our control? The way we react to situations."
