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Welcome to #EduColor’s April chat w/hosts @realsabijoy and @christinaixchel on the topic of centering students of color in the fight to end gender-based violence
Welcome to #EduColor’s April chat w/hosts @realsabijoy and @christinaixchel on the topic of centering students of color in the fight to end gender-based violence
Happy to be here tonight. Here really to learn more about campaigns, resources, and work that's happening. I can admit that I feel a bit unaware. #educolor
I will also read better and answer the questions. Lol!
I want to learn what is currently happening as it relates to SOC and gender-based violence. I will share honestly. #EduColor
My name is Chelsea Colby. I am a second grade teacher here tonight as a former advocate for survivors interested in how to engage with my students in conversations about gender-based violence #EduColor
Hi, Alex from VT! I'm here because I've been involved in the movement against gender-based violence for a while but I have so much to learn about the intersections with racism. Always learn so much from #educolor!
Hi there! Razan from Little Rock, AR, but currently based in NYC. This is an important conversation and I want to be here for it! Thank you for letting me learn from you! #EduColor
A1: Schools & other educational institutions can implicitly reinforce & legitimize harmful gender norms by failing to address sexualized bullying, enforcing rigid dress codes, and perpetuating gender based stereotypes.
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hi! grace here in nashville. i'm looking forward to learning more about the practical (in contrast to theoretical) and how i can advocate from where i sit #EduColor
A1: Gender-based violence shows up in lots of ways in schools. Can be everything from sexual harassment and assault, to harassment based on real or perceived sexuality or gender identity. 1/?? #educolor
A1: Dress codes. ...Ok, a less snarky answer: in HS, teens are trying to navigate relationships in the face of strong social messaging and peer pressure...gender-based violence is a reality for so many teens #educolor
A1 The school where I teach is hyper vigilant when it comes to the bodies of girls. What they wear, how they wear it. Girls begin to feel uncomfortable and able to articulate why/how in abt 4th grade #educolor
A1: It may just be me but more girls are bring body slammed on floors by campus police than I ever saw growing up! I understand their presence in schools but some of them have so little training on child psychology it’s scary! #educolor
A0: I'm Zack, I teach middle school special ed in Denver, CO (gettin ready to walkout tomorrow) & I'm a doc candidate in education studies. I try to center students of color whenever I teach, I want to learn how I can use that approach to confront gender-based violence. #EduColor
#educolor, A1: I think first about high school hallways, toxic behavior from male students, but I also think that tries to distance the work from policy. dress code enforcement, ways we use the gender binary to structure class interactions, non-gender expansive curriculum.
Intro. William checking in from the L.A. area. Tonight’s topic lured me in because, like other issues, gender-based violence & related misogyny is not discussed in communities of color nor various root causes, although it leaves Ss & these communities traumatized. #EduColor
A1: this makes me think about teenagers navigating their own intimate relationships, learning what appropriate boundaries are for them, and also witnessing & learning from intimate relationships around them #educolor
A1: Dress codes. ...Ok, a less snarky answer: in HS, teens are trying to navigate relationships in the face of strong social messaging and peer pressure...gender-based violence is a reality for so many teens #educolor
A1: Dress codes. ...Ok, a less snarky answer: in HS, teens are trying to navigate relationships in the face of strong social messaging and peer pressure...gender-based violence is a reality for so many teens #educolor
yes! and witnessing the messages in the media/entertainment they consume. And when teachers ignore those everyday texts that students are learning from, the kids don't get a chance to make sense of those messages #educolor
A1: That is super real! Sexist and racist dress codes absolutely foster an environment ripe for gender-based violence. #EduColor See also, from my colleagues @nwlc: https://t.co/0wSImabGCi
A1: Dress codes. ...Ok, a less snarky answer: in HS, teens are trying to navigate relationships in the face of strong social messaging and peer pressure...gender-based violence is a reality for so many teens #educolor
A2: i think about racialized stereotypes re: gender-based violence, such as ideas that Black or Latinx girls are "used to" fighting and they're "tough" and therefore it's normal for them to engage in or witness it #educolor
Intro. Cont...we can’t heal or overcome issues if we cover them up. Plus, this is another reality our Ss grapple with; one they need to be empowered & equipped with the tools to process, overcome, and remedy. #EduColor
If high schools aren't a cesspool of sexual harassment experiences, I don't know what is - walking to and from school, I was always harassed. It's a terrible gauntlet. It's bothering me thinking about it. #EduColor
Many students will experience sexual harassment, sexual assault, stalking, dating and/or domestic violence before the age of eighteen and rates are higher among students of color #EduColor
A2: Traditional gender norms reinforced by school send harmful messages to youth; examples include expectations that boys constantly display strength & respond with violence & encouraging students to apply to male dominated sectors & women to female dominated sectors. #EduColor
Q2: Stereotypes make students vulnerable to gender-based violence in many ways, from teaching students' it's OK to mistreat their peers for being different from themselves, to affecting whether educators intervene or not. #educolor
#educolor, A2: the frames that teachers have about what constitutes "attitude" especially from Black girls. The ways that used to punish, discipline, pushout Black girls from the classroom.
A2: i think about racialized stereotypes re: gender-based violence, such as ideas that Black or Latinx girls are "used to" fighting and they're "tough" and therefore it's normal for them to engage in or witness it #educolor
or stereotypes that Asian American students are not dating/not having sex and therefore intimate partner violence couldn't be an issue in their lives #EduColor
Stereotypes regarding masculinity come to mind. I am sure all the douches that called me the b-word when I didn't turn around were learning to be 'a man' in front of and with their friends.
While they are learning to be a man, girls and women are trying to stay safe. #EduColor
A2: Sterotypes=Double edge sword. It’s crucial to survival for immigrants but lessens the humanity in others when faced w/how they think they should behave vs their core character. They go from from soaking up stereotypes like a sponge to coming out of the shadows of it.#educolor
A2: When educators perceive Black girls as being hypersexualized or "fast," they often blame them for others' abuse, or assume they wanted or deserved it. And stereotypes about being "strong" or "angry" dissuade them from protecting or helping when it's needed. #EduColor
#EduColor (I'm lurking but wanted to add) A1: As a teacher who has experienced gender-based violence, I worry I am hypervigilant/overreacting/something when others break my boundaries or the boundaries of others around me, in my suuuuper un-woke context
@ValeriaBrownEdu I'm seeing the same at the MS level. Our boys haven't learned how to show attention positively, our girls haven't learned how to demand it. #EduColor
I hear male admin say to girls, "Smile! You're so pretty!" or "Smile! You did a great job on your wrk!" I had 1 visitor who the schl wanted $ from come to me to "give me fdbk" and after delivery they said, "Smile! Your class looks great!" I said, "This is just my face." #educolor
and when students don't conform to these gender norms, it often becomes conflated with assumptions about gender identity and sexuality, which can open the door for more bullying/violence #educolor
A2: Traditional gender norms reinforced by school send harmful messages to youth; examples include expectations that boys constantly display strength & respond with violence & encouraging students to apply to male dominated sectors & women to female dominated sectors. #EduColor
Hi #educolor - I'm David, HS English teacher, Palo Alto, CA
A2: gender stereotypes and pressure to conform are largely how we got into the problems we have. Must expose and subvert them
A2: Same can be said for many kinds of stereotypes about "feisty" Latinas, etc. Likewise, stereotypes about Asian American girls' being meek can lead potential perpetrators to view them as being easier targets. Myriad misperceptions spawn myriad harms. #EduColor
A3: Educators/admin are less likely to respond to complaints by youth of color in a timely manner, and often downplay the severity of the offense brought to their attention, due to stereotyped based bias. In some cases, they may even try & flip the blame on the victim #EduColor
A3: Educators who don't examine their own biases tend to make things worse, by disbelieving victims who come forward, by blaming them for the abuse others commit, or by just ignoring their pain out of a lack of care. #EduColor
A2: When educators perceive Black girls as being hypersexualized or "fast," they often blame them for others' abuse, or assume they wanted or deserved it. And stereotypes about being "strong" or "angry" dissuade them from protecting or helping when it's needed. #EduColor
A3: Educators/admin are less likely to respond to complaints by youth of color in a timely manner, and often downplay the severity of the offense brought to their attention, due to stereotyped based bias. In some cases, they may even try & flip the blame on the victim #EduColor
A2: When educators perceive Black girls as being hypersexualized or "fast," they often blame them for others' abuse, or assume they wanted or deserved it. And stereotypes about being "strong" or "angry" dissuade them from protecting or helping when it's needed. #EduColor
A1 1)Dress codes esp impact girls of color more than their peers. Being removed from a learning space to a confined space does not encourage learning. 2) Teachers wjo excuse boys for one behavior & condemn girls for behaving in the same manner. This is always raced too #EduColor
A3: They also frequently misinterpret the symptoms of trauma from gender-based violence as misbehavior, and punish them for "having an attitude" instead of asking questions & offering support. They may also misinterpret self-defense as violence. #EduColor
Youth of color face more punitive disciplinary measure than their non-white peers, & their concerns/complaints are more likely to be overlooked or downplayed by staff & administration & law enforcement. #educolor
A4: bc of toxic & racialized stereotypes (like ones we've been discussing), skeptical adults gaslighting and asking if they're sure or if they might be overreacting, some students of color might start to wonder if they "deserve it" for not conforming to expectations #educolor
A4 I think it ends up teaching kids a lot of false things about gender, relationships, themselves... They can't begin to construct themselves if their understanding of gender is shot through if even present to begin with #educolor
A3: Just as it is on the streets, kids of color aren’t given the benefit of the doubt & presumed guilty w/o due process. Their mindset isn’t taken into account when leadership can’t possible relate due to various reasons. One being you can’t possibly know my life! #educolor
Hey! I’m Amy-Elizabeth. I’m here because four years ago, a young black girl I taught told me how people just touch her hair without consent. I was stunned. So, she told me more. I didn’t know. Since then, I’m on a mission to learn how I can be a good teacher ally. #educolor
Yes, this happens *all* the time. Believing non SOC, but not SOC, questioning why some didn’t fight back or protect themselves, all while knowing that they’d be punished if they did. Kids can’t win. #EduColor
#EduColor coach Victor Hicks of Atlanta Public Schools. ELEM. Tech Teacher & PROUD coach of the National Champs, Psi Phi Beta Step Team!!😁 https://t.co/LiQ3QZopwu
Hello Twitter PLN! Working on a paper for grad school—any articles/literature I can use for a paper supporting the importance of culturally relevant pedagogy? #AskTwitter#EduColor
A4: Our education system is less likely to believe our children, and, given how our society works, the consequences of “telling” can often feel even more awful if you’re not well-resourced. #EduColor
A4: Our MS kids aren't being educated about sexual harassment and abuse, relationships, boundaries outside school yet the system is focused solely on academic outcomes and finding time inside school isn’t happening enough #educolor
A4: Can we talk about the violence at home when students of color are trying to figure out their sexuality? So many times, I’ve had to listen to kids confide that they were abused by love ones b/c of their non-acceptance at home. #educolor
I think @realsabijoy pretty much hit the nail on the head with this one - impacts of trauma may look like "poor behavior" which then is disproportionately disciplined for students of color. #EduColor
A4: Intersecting forms of oppression increase your vulnerability to violence and your ability to recover from it. They limit access to health care (for mind and body), to the ability to get accountability, to find safe spaces to live in and learn. #EduColor
A4: the possibility-- as with voicing anything when you're a student of color-- of being accused of racializing a situation or of reverse racism, especially if the perpetrator is White #educolor
A2. The belief that young men should constantly display their masculinity and young women their vulnerability in order to fit intra-group norms and administrative expectations creates toxicity! #educolor
Gang rapes were a too common occurrence in some places for schoolgirls. Also, recently Memphis has had a spree of stalking adult males attacking girls walking to school.
A3: They also frequently misinterpret the symptoms of trauma from gender-based violence as misbehavior, and punish them for "having an attitude" instead of asking questions & offering support. They may also misinterpret self-defense as violence. #EduColor
A5 My adult son and male friend visited me at school recently. The friend had a physical reaction to being there...he was reminded of his elem days, saying how he felt he was “in prison.” He’s 19. 😒 #EduColor
A5: The number of years a youth spends in school has a positive correlation with a decrease in both future victimisation & perpetration of physical and sexual violence. Youth of color are more likely to experience educational push-out, subjecting them to higher risks. #educolor
A5: Students who report gender-based violence are frequently disbelieved, then punished for violating school codes against voluntary sexual contact, even though they just told the school it was involuntary. #EduColor
It wouldn't surprise me that in addition to countless other reasons women remain quiet, they also may choose to remain quiet because they know if they tell, the brothers don't stand a chance and their future is done too. #EduColor
A3 1 thing I have noticed even w/kinder is that my schl has higher expectations of girls to emotionally process things more quickly and w/more savvy thn is even developmentally approp while boys have the latitude to express themselves for longer and more varied ways #educolor
A1. Gender-based violence can manifest symptoms that mirror those of physical; emotional & sexual abuse. It’s tricky because it gets processed through stereotypical gender norms. If experienced at home, it can forge gender identity issues, and be re-enacted at school. #EduColor
A5: Likewise, as mentioned earlier, students of color are especially likely to *not* be seen as victims in need of help, and to be punished for attempting to defend themselves from gender-based violence. #EduColor
A4: Intersecting forms of oppression increase your vulnerability to violence and your ability to recover from it. They limit access to health care (for mind and body), to the ability to get accountability, to find safe spaces to live in and learn. #EduColor
A5: Kids who have experienced trauma often react strongly to perceived threats. When school staff treat this reaction as willful defiance, especially from a SOC, then the kid gets in trouble, the cycle repeats. #educolor
A2 girls of color are often brainwashed into thinking they can not be victims of abuse from teachers,peers,media. strong BW &the jezebel stereotypes hinder our kids & keep them from reporting abuse be it boys snapping bra straps to teachers neg comments re natural hair. #EduColor
We know that for boys, the way that this often works is; school ➡️ prison.
For girls that nexus gets complicated; school ➡️ sexual harassment/assault/abuse ➡️ prison ➡️ more sexual violence...
Educators don't talk about this enough. #EduColor
A3. Students of color are expected to submit themselves to degrading treatment and accept it is the norm. This is compounded for non-cis gender students and young women of color! Men are degraded, but then expected to be tough; "don't be a bitch"! #EduColor
A3: This is across the board- not just with gender violence. At this nuanced level (response time) we perpetuate systems of privilege and oppression. #EduColor
A3: Educators/admin are less likely to respond to complaints by youth of color in a timely manner, and often downplay the severity of the offense brought to their attention, due to stereotyped based bias. In some cases, they may even try & flip the blame on the victim #EduColor
A5: Also? Educators & school cops occasionally harass students & get away with it. And abuse their power to punish students for not complying, or for telling. It's a huge risk when cops are allowed in schools, & when educators don't learn how to create safe cultures. #EduColor
and worse, the adults they confide in might push this narrative too, especially if the perpetrator is a promising athlete whose scholarships might be jeopardized (which is also related to racialized narratives we tell about boys of color & school success) #educolor
Q6 What other policies – well-intentioned or otherwise – may disproportionately harm instead of help students of color who experience gender-based violence? #EduColor
It wouldn't surprise me that in addition to countless other reasons women remain quiet, they also may choose to remain quiet because they know if they tell, the brothers don't stand a chance and their future is done too. #EduColor
A5:@DrSubini & @MoniqueWMorris write brilliantly about girls of color and the S-to-P pipeline
Read Pedagogy of Pathologization: Dis/abled Girls of Color in the School-prison Nexus AND Pushout #educolor
#EduColor A5 Prison rape happens in prisons. Prisons haven't done what they're supposed to to protect young people. The cycle continues. The trauma is passed on.
So. many. When school policies aren't modeled on consent, what are you teaching? When you tell kids, "just do what I tell you," "It's a rule," "Don't question"....what are you teaching about consent? #educolor
Q6 What other policies – well-intentioned or otherwise – may disproportionately harm instead of help students of color who experience gender-based violence? #EduColor
A5 Same system that encourages & condones gender-based violence towards SoC then uses that violence (or self-defense in face of it) as grounds for abusive discipline #EduColor
A5: This is what @MoniqueWMorris refers to as “school-to-confinement,” because, even though it may not be “jail,” there can be any number of economic, judicial, and societal restrictions upon young victims of color. #EduColor
and worse, the adults they confide in might push this narrative too, especially if the perpetrator is a promising athlete whose scholarships might be jeopardized (which is also related to racialized narratives we tell about boys of color & school success) #educolor
A4. Language barriers for ELLs, cultural barriers, poverty, sexual abuse, constant criticism, constant threats of repercussion, constant vigilance, over exposure to disciplinary action! #EduColor
A6: One huge example is mandatory referrals to police. Forcing survivors to report assaults to police means SoC who (quite reasonably!) don't trust police will be forced into an impossible choice: silence or risking further violence. #EduColorhttps://t.co/kHhHCH9LSd
Thank you for saying this! When I’m listening to horrific molestation stories of 4-5th grds, or when 2nd gr girls/boys touch in private, I’m astonished, disgusted & advocate for early education. #educolor#silenceiscomplicit
A6 The “try to handle it yourself before you come to me” mantra. Again, students have to prove they attempted conflict resolution appropriately. Sets them up for being punished. #EduColor
A5. Direct relationship! Students of color are constantly having to defend their existence as humans, adding their sexual existence creates twice the opportunity for marginalization by normative standards! #EduColor
A5 .@MoniqueWMorris tells us in #PushOut girls of color are pushed out of school through confinement/isolation tactics of the school &other systems.leading 2 exclusion and lack of connection.we know the more kids are out of school, they are at risk for incarceration #EduColor
A5: Degrading treatment from school resource officers and law enforcement sends a message to students of color that says they aren't in control of their bodies. It creates all sorts of issues pertaining to lack of consent.
#EduColor
A3. Students of color are expected to submit themselves to degrading treatment and accept it is the norm. This is compounded for non-cis gender students and young women of color! Men are degraded, but then expected to be tough; "don't be a bitch"! #EduColor
Those cops aren’t educated on the psychology of young adolescents either. I’ve yet to meet a cop that’s taken sensitivity or de-escalation courses for educators. Where are the districts holding those classes? If I’m wrong, please educate me. #educolor
Yep. If you or family are undocumented, being forced into further contact with government systems means risking deportation and separation. Similar for kids worried about being taken from families & placed in foster care. #EduColor
I have this book on my shelf. I have kept walking by it. It's hard to read about the harm that is deliberately done to you. Please let me finish #CrazyRichAsians first! #EduColor
A5 .@MoniqueWMorris tells us in #PushOut girls of color are pushed out of school through confinement/isolation tactics of the school &other systems.leading 2 exclusion and lack of connection.we know the more kids are out of school, they are at risk for incarceration #EduColor
It was a head trip for me growing up because my father would say "all men=🚮" but then in my teens I'd be like "Dad, you're a man!" It was so crazy #educolor
Absolutely. The humanization of students of color has a direct affect on their ability to access resources, be heard, validated, and responded to. #EduColor
A5. Direct relationship! Students of color are constantly having to defend their existence as humans, adding their sexual existence creates twice the opportunity for marginalization by normative standards! #EduColor
A7: In addition to anti-bias training (and not just a one-off lecture at us), we probably need a whole culture shift around how situations are handled. Tossing situations to the guidance counselor to “fix” it won’t cut it. #EduColor
yes, 100%. i take my responsibility as a mandated reporter seriously but when you know how dysfunctional and racist child protective services can be sometimes it makes these situations even more heartbreaking. #educolor
David G Martinez, soon to be PhD on May 9th #ASU all day. Ex-gang member, ex-ell, ex-drop out...not a bootstrap story! Research interests: intersection of Ed-Finance, Policy & Law, ELLs, and Social Justice! #EduColor
A7: For starters, educators need to know that gender-based violence is very common, and they need to proactively communicate with students that they're safe people to be around. They need to be watching for patterns of harassment & abuse. #EduColor
A7: It don't think they are well-intentioned, but many types zero-tolerance policies disproportionately harm SoCs as well as victims of gender-based violence. #EduColor
Q6 What other policies – well-intentioned or otherwise – may disproportionately harm instead of help students of color who experience gender-based violence? #EduColor
A1. Young women forced to change their clothing to accommodate the prying eyes of young men, and overzealous adults! School administrators and the horrible manner in which they treat their LGBTQ students! #EduColor
A7: Have a real talk about stereotypes. Name them. Edctrs see our Mexican girls as too dramatic, our black girls as too loud, and our boys as thugs. Our SOC feel the lack of belief and they will let you know…then get in trouble for it. #educolor
A6: Not having supplies. I know it sounds trivial, but I’ve had handfuls of kids kicked out b/c they don’t have supplies. I keep extra in the library. But come on. Most of them are absent-minded boys. It escalates into a classroom discipline issue quickly. #educolor
Q6 What other policies – well-intentioned or otherwise – may disproportionately harm instead of help students of color who experience gender-based violence? #EduColor
A7: Teachers & school leaders (including police/security staff) should receive intensive preparation, trauma-informed professional development, & ongoing training on the causes of/remedies for, racial inequality within & outside of school #EduColor
A7: what alternatives exist in addition to/instead of calling the guidance counselor because they're "trained" and i'm not? what resources are available in my school and in my community? what are some questions i can ask to help figure out a path forward? #EduColor
A7: Check your biases, and get familiar with how to spot symptoms of gender-based violence. Be curious about students' behavior, especially SoC who may just appear "defiant" or "angry" or withdrawn to a biased eye. Remember that kids who act out are hurting. Ask WHY. #EduColor
A2. Stereotypes can render students vulnerable to gender-based violence in numerous ways. A) racial stereotypes can cause symptoms to be overlooked or rationalized (i.e., black women/girls or children are genetically angry, when there are causes). #EduColor
A6. Clothing policies? Disciplinary policy? Lunch room policy? Bathroom policy? Answer response policy? I have to dress like I'm in prison, I eat when you tell me, relieve myself when you let me and I'm not allowed to give a correct answer! #GTFOH#EduColor
I think so many of us need training on warning signs of abuse and engagement strategies that create a safe environment for Ss to communicate their experiences and get help. #educolor
I went here first, and then I went to jumping to action. I am sure that many girls talk themselves out of action, and maybe they need someone to do that for them. I don't have a good answer here. #EduColor
A8: It's important to respond quickly and with affinity support to ensure that institutional sexism doesn't dictate the response (directly or unintentionally)
#Educolor
A7 i wonder how many educators feel like they have a supportive team of colleagues who they trust, who students trust, and who can work together to figure something out rather than feeling like they have to do/be everything for every student who confides in them #educolor
A10: By working toward reforms that strengthen gender equality in the overall; for example interventions that include gender perspectives/tools (such as gender sensitive pedagogics) in teacher & counselor training programs, & including equitable sex ed. in curriculum. #EduColor
A7) I already answered this one, but I just found out that there's talk of doing it at y school next year, and I'm going to fight it. But policies that make a big deal out of students having cell phones in class. It feeds into the school-to-prison pipeline. #EduColor
Q6 What other policies – well-intentioned or otherwise – may disproportionately harm instead of help students of color who experience gender-based violence? #EduColor
A7. Be informed. Help students be brave for themselves. Stop abject violence off at the pass with intelligence. Check your religion at the gate! Don't allow, condone, or engage in the behavior in your daily life outside of school! Don't fake it! #EduColor
Q10: As an admin, I will address this topic in PD before the EOY while critically analyzing our school policies. Will promote self-awareness of our own bias and continue to dismantle institutional practices that are well intentioned but harmful. #educolor
A8: Don't assume they're lying or exaggerating. Don't force them to be around people they've told you have abused them, or force them to quit activities & courses they love just to be safe. Also? *Don't push them out of school!* (TW: rape) https://t.co/r23jveUizl#EduColor
A8: we need to know how to adeptly, quickly, and effectively shut down harassment. we need to know how to, and be willing to, honestly confront the underlying misogyny and homophobia in things students say without really thinking about it. #EduColor
A7 i wonder how many educators feel like they have a supportive team of colleagues who they trust, who students trust, and who can work together to figure something out rather than feeling like they have to do/be everything for every student who confides in them #educolor
I love what others have suggested. @ValeriaBrownEdu, @pedagogilist, @realsabijoy & @christinaixchel have given us so much to consider.
We can build community, listen, study, understand the mechanisms, relationships and systems at play, take action & reflect. #EduColor
My first yr teaching I had a boy who a T thought was gay. so this T mentions this in passing to the child’s uncle who told the child’s stepfather who beat the shit out of him. HE. WAS. EIGHT. Thank God the mom was like GTFO to the stepdad and pressed charges #educolor
A7 i wonder how many educators feel like they have a supportive team of colleagues who they trust, who students trust, and who can work together to figure something out rather than feeling like they have to do/be everything for every student who confides in them #educolor
I always worry about whether I should coach into action more, as if I should warn girls. But I want them to feel empowered, not terrified, and it's difficult to teach when I'm usually scared myself. #educolor
This is where partnering w/local non-profits can be great. Most rape crisis centers/gender violence orgs have victim advocates who can walk you through all possible paths and help you consider your options #educolor
A9: Folks of all ages need to realize that gender-based violence is very common, and it starts young. If you're waiting until high school and college to start thinking and talking about this stuff, you're too late. #EduColor
A8: Don't make it seem like it was their fault, don't downplay it's significance, don't lecture them about what they should/could have done differently, don't betray their trust to their peers, don't hesitate to ask them what they need & then help them get it. #EduColor
A9: Folks of all ages need to realize that gender-based violence is very common, and it starts young. If you're waiting until high school and college to start thinking and talking about this stuff, you're too late. #EduColor
A9: All the work we do to debunk stereotypes, unpack biases, etc. is critical to ending gender-based violence. Violence is fueled and sustained by imbalances in power, and our complicity with those imbalances. #EduColor
A2 cont. B) Stereotype that only men commit gender-based violence leaves boys/men vulnerable, C) racial stereotypes that add fetishes & assumptions to gender equations can promote gender violence, D) stereotypes that it’s only heterosexual can cause vulnerability #EduColor
oh yeah re: betrayal. i've definitely seen immediately trying to "get the other side of the story" in student conflict turn into the perpetrator, now on the defensive, committing more violence #educolor
A8. Be empathetic but don't feel sorry! Help, if you don't know how, educate yourself! Don't jump to action. Act to help change the situation but be cognizant of creating further discordance. Recognize you are capable of more damage! #EduColor
In my adult life a fellow teacher has never been so close to catching hands as that T was when I found out that they were the reason behind that #Educolor
Oh - just to add! Those rape crisis/gender violence orgs w/hotlines? You can call those as a caregiver/educator/supporter, too. You can talk with the trained volunteers to help *you* support the student. #educolor
A9. It happens if we see it daily or not. Hep your students through violence and the rejection they will feel because of it. Work with EduLeaders to change policy and practice. Advocate all the time, even if you feel like it is futile! #EduColor
A9: We need to confront & root out misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, and shaming that lead us to deny or excuse abusive behavior. And adults who've experienced violence need to heal so they don't shame & traumatize youth out of denial/misplaced anger. #educolor
...that it impacts all of us. That being a victim does not make one bad or "fast" or undeserving of love.
And that the quickest way to make a monster is to not teach kids what they need to know.
And that the quickest way to become a monster is to be silent. #EduColor
yes and don't assume students will have a particular reaction (or the reaction you would have in a similar situation). trauma sometimes manifests as confusion over how one is supposed to feel about what happened, especially initially #educolor
A9. It happens if we see it daily or not. Hep your students through violence and the rejection they will feel because of it. Work with EduLeaders to change policy and practice. Advocate all the time, even if you feel like it is futile! #EduColor
A10: By intigrating models such as community-based policing programs w/ school restorative & transformative justice initiatives to shift the emphasis from discipline& punishment toward capacity building, relationship building & positive behavioral interventions/supports #EduColor
It's damn near impossible to protect yourself, protect a child, navigate a world that conditions violence by systems that police bodies. It's not your fault. #educolor
I love what others have suggested. @ValeriaBrownEdu, @pedagogilist, @realsabijoy & @christinaixchel have given us so much to consider.
We can build community, listen, study, understand the mechanisms, relationships and systems at play, take action & reflect. #EduColor
A9: And we need to pay special attention to youth who may be least able to speak up for themselves, esp. students with disabilities, students who are still learning English, etc. If it's harder for someone to tell, we need to be extra attentive and protective. #educolor
A8 ctd: we also need to know, or remember, that black and brown boys get sexually harassed and victimized too, despite (or maybe even because of) how they get stereotyped as sexual aggressors. #EduColor
A9: That it can happen to any of our children. We must actually deal with this violence head-on and treat this violence with the love and care it deserves for all. #EduColor
"And that the quickest way to make a monster is to not teach kids what they need to know.
And that the quickest way to become a monster is to be silent." Damn. Spot on. #EduColor
...that it impacts all of us. That being a victim does not make one bad or "fast" or undeserving of love.
And that the quickest way to make a monster is to not teach kids what they need to know.
And that the quickest way to become a monster is to be silent. #EduColor
