#gtchat Archive
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Tuesday August 2, 2016
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Welcome to Global Gifted and Talented Chat Powered by the Texas Association for the Gifted & Talented
Our topic today is “Emotional Intelligence”
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I’m Lisa Conrad ~ advocate, conference presenter, blogger & mother of 2 gifted young adults from Pittsburgh, PA
Parent Support in North Texas - going strong for 10 years!!
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Hi everyone! Parent of two "adult GT kids - still learning!
Ruth - GT Coordinator from Maine
Hi Lisa! Always happy to !!
Hi, Jack! Nice to 'see' you again!
Jack! You rock. I share your TED talk with my middle schoolers.
Hi y'all! Valerie from Atlanta a gifted education teacher of littles K-2. ♥️ I'm so lucky!
Question 1 is coming up; let’s chat!
hi Twitter friends! Tuesday is chat night- chats- sorry for all the tweets
Thanks, Jerry! I was hoping you had a page for this!
A1) Emotional Intelligence is understanding emotions … both your own & others and ultimately how to manipulate emotions.
A1 - Emo intell: IS - awareness of others, empathy, body lang, etc. Is NOT - IQ, intellect, quick processing, curiosity of things.
A1) EI is the ability to regulate emotion; empathy
A1) It is not simply being happy, optimistic, agreeable or even motivated … the fodder of self-help gurus.
Kristine - rural Iowa - K-12 G/T (hands on for 3-8 grades)
A1 EQ is not IQ. They aren't synchronous. EQ is empathy and coping with interpersonal relationships.
takes a while to grow into for sure
A1) Being able to control emotions can aid in critical thinking and problem-solving under critical circumstances.
Hi! Hope I can stay, but unlikely tonight!
love to hear how group helps teach emotional intelligence- or do they foster existing kernels
Always love your contributions!
A1) Emotional Intelligence is discerning which emotions and actions are deemed appropriate for any given situation
We hope we are nurturing nature! ;) https://t.co/f7Dz2Hrmgi
love to hear how group helps teach emotional intelligence- or do they foster existing kernels
of boys (8) here! Following to learn
A2) Yes! EQ can and needs to be taught. Teaching social action helps. Over the summer all of my Ss are doing acts of kindness & blog
A2) As Ts, we can help Ss develop Emotional Intelligence by modeling and giving opportunities to practice
This is so true! https://t.co/oauZaCBI50
A2) As Ts, we can help Ss develop Emotional Intelligence by modeling and giving opportunities to practice
A2 - yes! Emotional Intelligence can (and MUST) be taught! Life skills needed to navigate the world!
A2) Teaching Emotional Intelligence is a topic of debate for some; depending on whether you believe its innate or malleable.
A2. Also important to teach metacognition and help SS identify different types of thinking
A1) EQ is being both aware of one's emotions & interface betwn self & other, while appropriately maintaining control over emotions.
A2 Model. Find strong literature with characters that have identifiable emotional traits (good & challenging!)
A2) Modest, but appreciable may be gained by teaching emotional intelligence in schools.
A2) The benefits are unending! It could mean the difference between success and failure for G/T students.
A form of discipline "discipline w/o damage" taught by cultivates EI very well! Fosters self regulation/empathy by ex.
A2 TeachingEQ is critical to those with high IQ that may/always lack awareness...
A2 yes, EQ teachable moments occur daily as well as purposeful instruction, modeling, reflection, self-awareness
A2 I don't think you can teach emotional intelligence per se but you can teach skills that can grow & nurture it.
Since we're already mentioning it ... let's move on to question 3!
A2) I think the current presidential race highlights the importance of having a high EQ ;)
This is the consensus I noticed while researching the topic.
The book, "The Essential Guide to Talking with Gifted Teens" helps open doors to discussing/sharing/modeling with Ss.
Thank you! Adding to resources! https://t.co/aIVFpVDdTb
The book, "The Essential Guide to Talking with Gifted Teens" helps open doors to discussing/sharing/modeling with Ss.
Linda Lantieri: Excerpt from the 2013 Bridging Hearts & Minds of Youth conference (YouTube 8:37) https://t.co/jBoQf3vNAY
I agree. Empathy vs sympathy is an example. Sympathy is easier to teach in my opinion but empathy shows a mature emotion.
A2) Teaching EQ is often indirect - by modeling as well as thru story & discussion. Trial & error.
Yes! https://t.co/LOyOA9Hobj
A2) Teaching EQ is often indirect - by modeling as well as thru story & discussion. Trial & error.
A3 - Imperative for GT kids! Lack of EQ drives others away -> isolation...
Excellent description! MT Sympathy is easier to teach in my opinion but empathy shows a mature emotion.
A3) Raising emotional intelligence, even slightly, can sometimes counter the effects of being highly sensitive.
A3) EI is very important - but, moreimportant is the understanding from Ts that EI is NOT just being good at "playing school".
A3 I've found to be particularly helpful for gifted Ss who often are terrified of failure or imperfection
I teach a very strong affective curriculum. The lessons are insightful but I don't always see the awareness that comes with EQ.
A3) EQ essential for GT. Fewer "real" peer interactions & higher sensitivities can lead to difficulties if not supported.
And this leads to so many other serious issues. https://t.co/9ZDlFhFRcc
A3 - Imperative for GT kids! Lack of EQ drives others away -> isolation...
Its important to teach the skills needed to endure a context emotionally. Resiliency, persistence. listening, even.
A3) I think we're seeing this played out in many different parts of our society today!
Agree! Rely heavily on its language! https://t.co/8lZCANZW3O
A3 I've found to be particularly helpful for gifted Ss who often are terrified of failure or imperfection
Powerful for all learners! https://t.co/bM6kFpqOS3
A3 I've found to be particularly helpful for gifted Ss who often are terrified of failure or imperfection
A3) Emotional Intelligence is often equated with success that may elude gifted students without it.
We’re already half way through our chat! Thanks for all the great sharing.
A3 It is important as their cognitive age is often (sometimes) more advanced than their emotional one.
A3) Agree w/ about EQ = success. Our asynchronous GT kids mislabeled as incapable due to low EQ in younger years.
YES!!! I spend a lot of time on having a for my ELP students and SBL in our school!
I have seen huge gains in Ss who truly understand - willingness to take risks & tackle challenges
A4 High EQs seem to be more present, intuitive & flexible in thought.
A4) People with low Emotional Intelligence characteristically are demanding, confrontational, egotistical, & stubborn.
A4 Low EQ seem to be reactive and higher seem to be more reflective.
An important distinction! https://t.co/ruApzxaXeu
A4 Low EQ seem to be reactive and higher seem to be more reflective.
A4) The amount of friends, activities involved in, success in the classroom, confidence, and overall happiness!
A4) Low Emotional Intelligence is portrayed by people resistant to change, critical of others, and unreasonable.
Lows easily distracted, want instant gratification, & hard time seeing big picture. Highs on point & see fruit of efforts
A4) If you have low EQ with high IQ you will have difficulty spreading great ideas to make them successful
A4) High Emotional Intelligence appears as someone who is ambitious, persuasive, and consistent.
A4 - Low emot intell - don't listen, interrupt; high emot intell - are kind, caring, empathetic...
A4 low EQ is often where those negative gifted labels come from :(
Yes ... can see importance of EQ! https://t.co/ySlYgiHCVQ
Lows easily distracted, want instant gratification, & hard time seeing big picture. Highs on point & see fruit of efforts
A4) As said, EQ "demanding/confrontational" But if GT Ss not challenged via "carrots", behavior may be result of anger.
A4) High Emotional Intelligence is characterized as being enthusiastic, decisive and willing to listen to others.
A4) Hi EQ may seem an intuitive understanding of complex social interaction. W/out practice this may not come easy. Esp true of 2e.
A5) To develop a basic Emotional Intelligence, one must be willing to take the time to reflect on their own emotions.
A5 I have to think about this. I'm not entirely convinced what is developed is emotional intelligence. I think some of it is innate.
And I agree; this is more a ? about our own personal development.
A5) Developing high EQ first requires trust - of self & others. Willingness to risk failure thru trial & error.
Q4.1 Do you think scores have a tendency to label people? Doesn't this run counter to principles?
A5) Most important is time for the G/T Ss to be with other G/T Ss - to be with others who think and feel like they do!
agreed...I think the key here might be helping Ss recognize behavior, strengths then work on skills/empathy/etc.
A5 - in our district - character building is part of the strategic plan -
A5 I guess we can nudge that awareness along--but to me can we really measure how aware a kiddo is about his on emotions or others?
I like this. Just read article today about schools abandoning this.
A5) Developing Emotional Intelligence involves recognizing periods of extreme emotions & learning how to deal with them.
yes, but not all labels are bad. they can help us tailor instruction/interactions etc to help
Very important!! https://t.co/NzNEACmQ6Q
A5) Most important is time for the G/T Ss to be with other G/T Ss - to be with others who think and feel like they do!
You said it better than me! Completely agree!
is a great way to build these skills!
too true! i know many high EQs who don't trust/understand their strengths. they make apologies for them to blend in.
People label people. Sometimes they use scores to do that. Scores give some info but not all.
A5) I do think we have to encourage Ss to take that step ... to look inside. Important for all.
Model school Prek-5th - priority is teaching parts of the brain and what each controls! Results!! https://t.co/NhQcLwtsmw
A5) Developing Emotional Intelligence involves recognizing periods of extreme emotions & learning how to deal with them.
I know - harder and harder to accomplish with scheduling conflicts, lack of appropriate staffing, etc...
Agreed! Have thought this would be a good topic to explore in the future. https://t.co/ssYOuWOW40
is a great way to build these skills!
Final question coming up!
A1 Ability to understand and manage one's emotions. Not being "intelligent " about how you handle emotions
I like your answer. Still, I think we need 2 B careful about identifying someone as a 108, or withdrawn. Good chat!
Ss are so afraid of failure - ties right in with developing a in the classroom for Ts, as well as Ss!
Devil's advocate: How to "label" educators w/out understanding/support of asynchronous/PG Ss? How do Ss ever develop hi EQ here?
A6) People who have a greater control of their own emotions can disguise their emotions better.
A6 No. We could all use a little more understanding & empathy which breeds acceptance. Just look at the world today. Sheesh.
Wow! Another great idea for chat!
A2 I think some skills can be taught and can be very beneficial for those Ss labeled highly sensitive-Dabrowski
Q6) Is it ever too late? Could be!?!
A6) Being able to read others’ emotions allows one to also manipulate, even against best interests, other people.
I agree. Numbers tell only a slim story of a child. & can be misinterpreted. Qual data is so imptnt.
A6) As a T, I know I have developed a better EQ out of understanding my Ss - not so sure it would have if I was in another field.
Hmm. Interesting. I tend to think I have a high EG but no poker face to go with it. 😜
A6) Social interactions often dance of authenticity vs acting. Teaching EQ may lead 2 hiding self. Still likely greater positives.
A3 Many GT Ss start off you with these strong emotions. It is important to teach early how to use them to their benefit
I think it's both to be honest. Just not sure entirely how much each context impacts it.
YES! MT A3 Many GT Ss start off you w/these strong emotions. It is important 2 teach early how 2 use them 2 their benefit
We’re nearing the end of today … final thoughts/takeaways?
Of course I meant EQ. Have no idea what EG means. Ha!
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Now - how to effectively bring this back to school with me in 2 weeks!
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Never under-estimate a child's EQ. They may be much more self-aware/community aware than their communication skills allow one to C.
Thanks y'all! & thanks for being a voice for gifted & advanced learners! ♥️
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For GT kids, EQ is even more important than IQ! EQ allows the IQ to soar! https://t.co/JlWmNJNE83
We’re nearing the end of today … final thoughts/takeaways?
Our next chat will be on Tues Aug 9th at 8E/7C/6M/5P (US)/Wed 10th Aug at 1AM (UK)/12.00 NZST/10.00 AEST
Thanks all & thanks as always to & everyone involved in bringing these events weekly! Have a great week!
