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There's a lesson I do with my students where we look at the lyrics to "romance" songs in Hip Hop and dig into the implicit messages they are sending. #hiphoped
There's a lesson I do with my students where we look at the lyrics to "romance" songs in Hip Hop and dig into the implicit messages they are sending. #hiphoped
It is important to delve into what constitutes violence. Think about the perceived overlap of aggression and what is viewed as showing emotion and passion #HipHopEd
Considering the info medium is helpful as well. My 14yo/9th grader says that her health teacher (not a model educator) did show them documentaries and supply readings that helped her learn the signs of an abusive relationship. #HipHopEd
Yes, and young people get a lot of ideas about what is "acceptable" and what love and relationships look like from what they see at home. How often do young people talk about what they learn about this from parents, siblings? #hiphoped
On one hand we know our students our exposed to hyperbolized sexuality through many mediums. But on the other hand, we sanitize all interactions between opposite sexes #HipHopEd
Great point! Don't forget #COsborne_ESL to use the #HipHopEd hashtag so that your tweets will show up to everyone! (I'm using tweetdeck, and only paying attention to the column that filters for that #).
#HipHopEd I've had young people act out relationship interactions where the only words they could speak to one another were Hip-Hop lyrics. Singing along is different that being spoken to with the same words.
I supervise school dances and the rule of thumb for years has been "no-touching". Girls can dance with girls and boys with boys, but essentially there is no mingling between genders #HipHopEd
Also, I don't want to go as far as saying there is no longer "real R&B", but..if the youth don't want to hear 1 slow song at a dance, how are we, as an institution, suppose to foster healthy relationships? #HipHopEd
As Educators we have to build the relationships that Students trust enough to see the school as a safe space to share when they feel unsafe in any way #HipHopEd
As Educators we have to build the relationships that Students trust enough to see the school as a safe space to share when they feel unsafe in any way #HipHopEd
Reinforcing heteronormativity, and not giving all children opportunities to exercise what they're (hopefully) learning about consent or about each other. #HipHopEd
Curious: Is there any education that goes along with this? How to touch respectfully when they walk out the door (since we all know they will!!) 😆 #HipHopEd
Please follow @KingAdjapong as he shares videos that show examples of relationships that can be used to help our students build healthy relationships #HipHopEd
That's what I am struggling with. I fear that we are not providing that "implicit" curriculum because our schools have shifted to uber PC-ness #HipHopEd
I know that Phys Ed and Health curriculum has an aim on healthy relationships. But that is "book learning". What about real-time, contextual experience within schools? #HipHopEd
As men/boys we have to rule out any notion of "she deserved it or she should've known better" from our narrative as explanations for violent behaviors towards girls/women #HipHopEd
Do we directly teach what could constitute as “unsafe?” There are so many shades in between.... especially for girls. There are instincts girls need to be taught to listen to and feelings that we are often taught to ‘let go’ to be cool or pilote. #HipHopEd
We are told all too often to keep our private life separate form our work. There is value in discussing certain parts of your relationship to model important skills, like communication, to students #HipHopEd
This is a great example of how curriculum falls SHORT of real need in our schools. It is absolutely our responsibility to teach children how to build positive relationships and love correctly. #HipHopEd
Yes, that's what it sounds like! I don't hear them making room for non-binary and non-gender-conforming students, either. Moving towards "consent in every situation" based on a model of respect for personal boundaries doesn't need to hang on to CYA-PC-ness (imho!). #HipHopEd
As a jay z fan, it was dope watching/listening to him grow and challenge his social norms around relationships to be a better man for his wife and family. How do we have these conversations with young people? #hiphoped
HH artists themselves have questionable ideas of what is romantic and wholesome in a relationship. I've known male artists composing what they think is a love song and as a woman I just could not see the love in it. #HipHopEd
One activity @loveisrespect provides asks the Ss to filter behaviors into three categories: Healthy, Unhealthy, and Abusive. Ss miscategorized many of the behaviors, and some necessary discussions ensued. #HipHopEd
Interesting perspective on fostering relationships. Was just talking to a friend about being able to count on (and look forward to) the music we sang along and moved to — Craig David, Aaliyah, Usher, etc.
As educators its incumbent upon us to help students find a prosocial definition for dating. Hip Hop can assist in the exploration but we cant be afraid to be critical of it, or other sources for that matter which perpetuate unhealthy behaviors. #hiphoped
As a jay z fan, it was dope watching/listening to him grow and challenge his social norms around relationships to be a better man for his wife and family. How do we have these conversations with young people? #hiphoped
BUT this can be subtle. “It happened a long time ago... she should have said something.” “She shouldn’t have had that alcohol.” “She didn’t say the word no.” Teaching consent and all the shades in between is important... redefine what it means to be a man, or a woman. #HipHopEd
we enjoy ALL of the convos about #hiphoped we also support everyone actually putting in cultural × educational real work with youth + families!! #wearetrueskool
Learning traditional academic content is disproportionately study-based instead of trial-error experience, while learning about healthy relationships is disproportionately trial-error experience instead of study-based. I wonder how the classroom can change that. #HipHopEd
Agreed. Where I am from, I think the system has done an excellent job with non-gender conforming identities. I think where we fall short is in our ability to tease out consent, love, and what relationships should mean #HipHopEd
Being infantilized, objectified, and hated on constantly is violence. We need to talk about how often we are referred to as bitches and girls and not enough as simply women. https://t.co/1Id8sDWmhP#HipHopEd
I believe that "how to love" has to be modeled and taught. There is a level that is instinctive but often times it is wrapped in norms that aren't real love #HipHopEd
I'm not sure I understand what you're saying completely, but I think teaching everyone to wait for a "hell yes!" (h/t #ODAAT) is a very clear way to teach the big picture of consent initially, then move into subtleties. #HipHopEd
I agree it's layered but I believe it has to begin with us as men modeling to other men and boys that there is an absolute which is that violence is never justifiable or explainable #HipHopEd
I feel like as educators, we need to teach lessons not just for the classroom, but for life. I feel like it is important to address our students about this topic and let them know the seriousness behind it. #hiphoped#ElonEd
I remember really falling in love with Jay after "Song Cry"... That, I think, was a foundational moment of vulnerability for him as a man and something I listened to as a teen and grew from #HipHopEd
We also need to move away from the "ends justified the means" mentality a la "Baby Boy" and Charlemagne marrying the person he admittedly assaulted. #hiphoped
We must teach young people about breaking cycles of abuse. What am I doing or accepting that I have been exposed to? How am I being deliberate about not replicating it #HipHopEd
These conversations are not happening as needed because many educators and most school systems don't see social emotional learning (w/ a focus on relationships) as a priority at the secondary level. #HipHopEd
You got it. Consent today looks different than what was considered consent even five years ago. Consent is respect and clear. Teaching our young men that a woman who drank alcohol alongside them should be taken to a safe place, not taken advantage of. #hipHopEd
In a TechGirl weekly series we are facilitating at the YWCA, we will be teaching our 25 high students who identify as female how to create VR & AR apps to educate on how to note the harbingers of teen violence...and ways to heal from it. Educate, then tech-create. #HipHopEd
"Make Me Better", for example, burdens only one person in the relationship with all the emotional work, with little accountability for the narrator/poet's own actions and feelings. #HipHopEd
Hip hop as a reflection of society. And can you think of examples where the opposite is true, where men are told to stick by a woman no matter how hard of a time she's having? #HipHopEd
It starts from young...We can’t tell little girls that a boy is picking on them because he “likes” her...We can’t perpetuate that warped notion... #HipHopEd
Terms like "dating" have to be examined with young people to understand what they believe the term entitles them to from their mate, then dissect and redefine. #HipHopEd
In a TechGirl weekly series we are facilitating at the YWCA, we will be teaching our 25 high students who identify as female how to create VR & AR apps to educate on how to note the harbingers of teen violence...and ways to heal from it. Educate, then tech-create. #HipHopEd
Emotional forms of violence are just as harmful (and sometimes more) than physical forms. We have to teach students to recognize the ways power and control play out in relationships, and to differentiate those things from love, care, and respect. #HipHopEd
https://t.co/pmPsUjEzPc This is a song my Ss are listening to this year. Great way to convo about abusive relationships, followed by the abuser shaming the victim into getting back together. I could have used this education early in life! #HipHopEd
I don't want to be negative, but I want to stay critical. Sometimes what we see as a "healthy/positive" relationship is only so to the man. The woman is burdened with all the emotional work or has to put up and forgive harmful actions by men. #HipHopEd
So many damaging phrases: boys will boys. Real men (insert phrase here). Letting go of our notion of how things have always been can help us re-examine our language that reinforces excuses. #HipHopEd
If you work in the hood you need to realize that some of these children come with trauma. And the first thing to foster, before we get to the whole relationship stuff, is LOVE #HipHopEd
If you work in the hood you need to realize that some of these children come with trauma. And the first thing to foster, before we get to the whole relationship stuff, is LOVE #HipHopEd
I had a child come today and tell me she spent the entire weekend "fe-manning" the crib because her moms was out with her new dude. She is 12, 7th grade.
Yo, we can get to the math in a minute... #HipHopEd
She told me "That in order to be with her, I had to love her the way she wanted to be loved and not the way I thought she should be loved." One key point is that she knew how she wanted to be loved! #HipHopEd
I return back to a great comment @norarahimian made in last week’s chat about teachers showing love through our commitment to nourish the development of our students and youth. Forming these strong connections can assist in breaking cycles of abuse. #HipHopEd
We must teach young people about breaking cycles of abuse. What am I doing or accepting that I have been exposed to? How am I being deliberate about not replicating it #HipHopEd
This. We also need to teach how to distinguish love from abuse. We don't need to assume that just because someone says he feels love, he will be loving towards the other person/people in their relationship.
You know what's scary? I grew up in a 2-parent household in the 90s and I thought I WAS THE ABNORMALITY in my community because of that. The twitter limit isn't enough for me to explain the greater implications of that experience #HipHopEd
We're charged with teaching kids about loving relationships. Not eros love of course, but agape for sure. Every one of our interactions should demonstrate this healthy engagement. #hiphoped
I think it helps to decode with students the hip-hopsploitative imagery they get bombarded with via “reality” shows and music. To decode is to detox. #HipHopEd
This is great! And for her to be able to do and say this, she had to grow up in a healthy environment and had access to positive non-romantic relationships. #HipHopEd
Full stop. Unconditional love. Love that expects nothing in return from our students but that celebrates who they are, and pushes them to grow into their greatness. #HipHopEd
If you work in the hood you need to realize that some of these children come with trauma. And the first thing to foster, before we get to the whole relationship stuff, is LOVE #HipHopEd
https://t.co/2d4FtLGebv This song has serious nuance. It starts with all the things he loves to do for his wife, but ends with the notion that guys 'from the hood' have to wear a tough guy face, and can't be perceived as soft. The unfortunate state of things. #hiphoped
A 🧵 #HipHopEd (this is also dope bc it shows two adults modeling healthy love & communication and sometimes youngsters need models, especially when coming from families that have been systemically torn apart— making models more scarce. Grown folks be learning and searching too)!
She told me "That in order to be with her, I had to love her the way she wanted to be loved and not the way I thought she should be loved." One key point is that she knew how she wanted to be loved! #HipHopEd
And, in my opinion, that self-love is foundational to identity. Without that, we are fixed in a state of chasing, replacing, and replicating everything else #HipHopEd
@JColeNC's "Love Yourz" was perhaps not a track about relationships, but one about loving yourself. Which comes before we figure another body into our being #HipHopEd
"I believe you can change" has to go and instead provide or demand evidence that the man has indeed changed. Women are not responsible for changing men; they have to change themselves. #HipHopEd
As the saying goes: hurt people try to hurt other people; broken people try to break other people. Beginning a pathway to self-love is so critical for our students who feel broken. #HipHopEd
I have former teens who are married now and they tell me that witnessing the relationship between my wife and I was the only example of a healthy marital relationship they had real access to growing up #HipHopEd
A 🧵 #HipHopEd (this is also dope bc it shows two adults modeling healthy love & communication and sometimes youngsters need models, especially when coming from families that have been systemically torn apart— making models more scarce. Grown folks be learning and searching too)!
She told me "That in order to be with her, I had to love her the way she wanted to be loved and not the way I thought she should be loved." One key point is that she knew how she wanted to be loved! #HipHopEd
TBH, I had to take Method Man out of my list ("All I Need) after close-reading the lyrics. It still makes me sad bc I love it, but it also has some problematic notions. #hiphoped
How did she become strong and confident enough to demand the relationship and the love she deserved? How can we help teen girls do the same? That's my question. #HipHopEd
I have a blended family and my daughter asked me when I met her at 5 years old "Was I going to treat her mommy right?" 22 year later she is 27 and my son is 19 and they have what neither my wife or I had growing up #HipHopEd
I feel like in the time we live in today, we need to be teaching how to love everyone, how to spread the love, and how to love one's self #hiphoped#ElonEd
It was a combination of having people in her life that loved and supported her and it was her faith and relationship with God and I'd say having a daughter. #HipHopEd
I thoroughly enjoyed tonight's convo at #HipHopEd.
Such a vital topic. Critical to providing our youth with the agency needed to be successful (and I ain't talking money) in society #HipHopEd
I don't know. These are still men focusing on women's appearance and centering male feelings about women instead of exploring the women's own feelings. We need a less androcentric perspective of love. #HipHopEd needs womanism.
I honestly can’t think of any love narratives in hip hop that don’t somehow spin a woman’s suffering into some sort of virtue. Really trying to think of an example and am struggling to think of one. #HipHopEd
Hey, Fam! Hip Hop Ed has a great topic tonight for #Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. Peep the Twitter Chat via the #HipHopEd hashtag. #Respect to the @TheRealHipHopEd fam. Hey @tdj6899! 👊🏾
