#leadlap Archive | Participate

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:30 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP Please share your name, where you're from and what you do.

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:30 AM EDT

Good morning to the awesome #LeadLAP crew. Thanks for joining the conversation this morning. Special thanks to @techwnancy for leading us.

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Good morning #LeadLAP PLN! Nancy - Principal of Celina Primary School in N. TX. I am passionate about #Leadership #STEAM #EarlyEd

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP I am looking forward to learning from you this morning.

In reply to @staci_erickson2

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Meredith joining from SW Florida. Ever feel like this when a hard conversation is heading your direction? #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Good morning all! I'm Natasha TK-6 Principal ready to have a great chat with the pirate crew today! #LeadLAP

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Good morning, #LeadLAP !

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Always! #leadLAP

In reply to @mjjohnson1216

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Good morning! Colleen from Omaha. Author, speaker, former kdg T. Enjoying the beautiful Nebraska fall. #LeadLAP

The_Groffice Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Hey #leadlap Melissa, Elem Principal, from Pcola FL.

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Kathy from CA Lead Learner / elementary principal #leadLAP

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Good morning, Jonathan from northern Cali, coming off an awesome #leadupchat and ready for this one! #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP I am looking forward to learning from you this morning.

In reply to @drjonesie17

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Good Morning from New Jersey! Lavetta Assistant Principal #LeadLAP

pollack_hannah4 Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Hi everyone! I'm Hannah. I'm a student from Cedarville University and I'm studying Early Childhood Education. #leadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP

In reply to @SteinbrinkLaura

NiddyCed Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Good morning, I’m Nidia Cedillo an Assistant Principal from North Texas #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Good morning, Staci. I hope things are going well. #LeadLAP

In reply to @staci_erickson2

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Hi #LEADLap! Brandy from Houston. Love learning from you all ☠️

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Good morning everyone. John, Elementary Principal from suburban Chicago #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT

Thanks so much for hosting today, Nancy. Important topic. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Yay to the ECE peeps showing up this morning. #LeadLAP

In reply to @pollack_hannah4

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Good morning, #leadlap! Just finishing up #leadupchat, and excited to see my friend @techwnancy moderating this convo! #JoyfulLeaders

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Kristina from Alberta, Canada. Assistant Principal at Pre-school - Gr 5 school. #LeadLAP

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Nili Bartley tech integration from MA-trying to jump on for a few (as usual:) #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP @LSR_DrMom

In reply to @LSR_DrMom, @LSR_DrMom

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Welcome back, Natasha. I always enjoy your insights in #LeadLAP

In reply to @drjonesie17

Mr_Dixon11 Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Good morning! Adam from Missouri. Popping in and out of the conversation this morning. #LeadLAP

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Hi #LeadLAP. Joan I. A rainy California. I do Academic Technology.

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Good to see you on chat #2 this morning John😉 #leadlap

In reply to @MrWawczak

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Good morning #LeadLap. Vicki, VP from BC joining in today :)

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Welcome, Laura. Great to have you here. #LeadLAP

In reply to @SteinbrinkLaura

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Morning Pirates Ricardo from WA, ready to learn. #LeadLAP

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT

Good morning! Jenna 6th grade T from Ks, 1st time at #LeadLAP , excited to learn this am!

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Good morning Shelly! This is always a nice start to the weekend #LeadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Good morning from Texas! I work with training pre-service teachers. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP @pollack_hannah4

In reply to @pollack_hannah4, @pollack_hannah4

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

That is the cutest pic!! Glad to have you here, Colleen. #LeadLAP

In reply to @fourmonkeypress

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Good morning y’all. Elyse checking in from Katy. Excited to chat. #LeadLAP

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Hello #LeadLAP! Todd, elem principal in CA...pumped to see @techwnancy leading the charge!

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Great to have you join in this morning. Welcome to #LeadLAP

In reply to @NiddyCed

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Fav EDU way to start my Saturdays! #LeadLap

In reply to @burgess_shelley

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP Melissa.

In reply to @The_Groffice

Rdene915 Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Good morning #LeadLAP Rachelle from Pittsburgh, Spanish and a STEAM Teacher,

GambillJulie Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Gambill from SEMO on a dreary but relaxed Saturday morning #leadlap

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Yes, another hour with Bethany to start my Sat morning 😉 #leadlap

In reply to @bethhill2829, @techwnancy

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

So glad to have you with us, Kathy! #LeadLAP

In reply to @mkomorris

tishrich Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good morning! Tisha HS Culinary Tr & Lead in SO Oregon. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good morning and welcome to #LeadLAP @MrWawczak

In reply to @MrWawczak, @MrWawczak

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good morning again Jonathan! Enjoy both chats so much. When the time is there definitely like to take advantage #LeadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

JFrizzell Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Jordan Frizzell, Assistant Principal from Arkansas. #LEADLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Welcome back, Jonathan! #LeadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Afternoon, Elizabeth joining in from Guernsey, UK #leadLAP

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good Morning! Heidy from Illinois ready for some fun!😊 #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Gary from Il a former supt who understands in dealing w/ others there's a 12" difference btw a pat on the back & a kick in the rear #leadlap

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good morning Nancy and thank you for the greeting! #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Thanks for joining in @bethhill2829 Welcome to #LeadLAP

In reply to @bethhill2829, @bethhill2829

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Good morning, Harvey from Cheney, WA. Prof. former Nat. Distinguished Prin. mentoring P, author, lifelong learner. #leadlap

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Morning! I'm Tami, an international T down in Mexico. #leadlap

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT

Awwwww!!!! I better get another cup of coffee! Pressure is on! :) #leadlap

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT

Yes, another hour with Bethany to start my Sat morning 😉 #leadlap
In reply to @bethhill2829, @techwnancy

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Welcome. You're going to love it. #LeadLap

In reply to @JennaKSU

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP @nbartley6

In reply to @nbartley6, @nbartley6

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Good morning, Tisha! #leadLAP

In reply to @tishrich

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1a: When we avoid hard conversations the issue never has a chance to be resolved. #LeadLAP

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Another hour chat with Dr Schmidt?? Awesome way to start the morning😉👍 #leadlap

In reply to @tsschmidty, @techwnancy

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Q1 again... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP @Mr_Dixon11

In reply to @Mr_Dixon11, @Mr_Dixon11

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1) Just that: HARD! We might feel uncomfortble, especially b/c the outcome is unknown. BUT, 2 move 4ward, it's necessary. #leadlap

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1: Part of it is the chance for different opinions. We need to have them because avoidance and/or lack of honesty changes nothing #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1 A hard conversation is a personal one. To be supportive you need to care and understand, Can't help without knowing the problem. #leadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP

In reply to @EdLog411

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Great to have you with us, Tami! #LeadLAP

In reply to @TamiJ123

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1 Understanding how they arise & play out can help minimize the disruption w/out avoiding the issue or alienating those involved #leadlap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

Welcome back, Harvey! #LeadLAP

In reply to @HarveyAlvy1

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations make us uncomfortable and require a change. We must have them, because the alternative is status quo. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1b: Having difficult conversations is an opportunity to build trust and respect. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: Giving critical feedback. Its important for Ts growth and Ss success. #Leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

Mr_Dixon11 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: unresolved issues become bigger issues. Hard convo's have to happen to encourage growth too. #LeadLAP

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: Hope on it's own doesn't create change-- action does - I read that somewhere @BethHouf @burgess_shelley #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Welcome to #LeadLAP @JoanJtracy

In reply to @JoanJtracy, @JoanJtracy

kwiens62 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Good Morning...Kristin from Victoria, BC. 🇨🇦 #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1. Nipping issues in the bud prevent the problems from growing wings and turning into negativity, gossip, or drama! #LeadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Thanks! I'm very happy to be here and join all of you. :) #leadlap

In reply to @burgess_shelley

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1. What if ...... you avoid the truth day after day? #LeadLAP

burgessdave Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Awesome, Jenna!! Welcome to #LeadLAP!

In reply to @JennaKSU

NiddyCed Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: teaching is personal period and so having those conversations becomes difficult at times. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Good morning! Latoya, ed leader in SC here with my ☕️. #leadlap

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: For me, a hard conversation is one where emotions can run high and the solutions tough to take... #LeadLap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

Absolutely. Best to get to it early, before it seems impossible to move forward. #leadlap

In reply to @Mr_Dixon11

JFrizzell Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: A hard converstion is one where you may be uncomfortable but it is necessary to grow from, for each person involved #LEADLAP

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: emotions, passion & beliefs run high & there is lots at stake #leadLAP

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1 In my experience if we don't have hard conversations we decrease the potential for change-it takes courage but 100% necessary. #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: The hard conversations are so important becuz w/out them exists passive aggressiveness and a neg culture = toxic environment #LEADLap

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

The feeling is mutual, my friend! So glad to see you last week at #FallCUE! #LeadLap

In reply to @coacheagan, @techwnancy

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: worst we can do is avoid conversions that need to be had. Being honest and having them for the right reasons are a must #leadlap

ZoniLOPEZ Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

Good morning! Zonia from Corpus Christi #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

Nail on head 👇#leadLAP

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT

A1: Hope on it's own doesn't create change-- action does - I read that somewhere @BethHouf @burgess_shelley #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: Conversations that you don’t enjoy having but may b necessary for self-growth! Makes you uncomfortable. #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1 these are growth opportunities, if you avoid them nothing changes #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1. Important to have them to reduce stress of thinking over and over about them. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1. Hard conversations: telling some one the truth, facts about a deficiency and trying to do so kindly, but honestly. #leadlap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

Well said, Todd. #LeadLAP

In reply to @tsschmidty

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

Agreed! Sometimes a question can seem like a criticism need to tread carefully with understanding #leadLAP

In reply to @tsschmidty

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: IN order for change to occur everyone must be rowing in the same direction. Sometimes they're rowing but the wrong way #LeadLAP

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: Hard balance between connections and instructional leadership. Must be willing in order to move forward. #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

Great to have you in #LeadLAP friend!

In reply to @latoyadixon5

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: A hard conversation is planned. It never goes as intended if it is on the fly. #leadlap

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1. A hard conversation involves painful truths, disagreements. Also maybe different power situations #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: I've had to give news of tragedy and it was horrible. But it was an opportunity to grow as a team. #Leadlap

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations make us feel uncomfortable, but are what help us & others grow. Be comfortable w/the uncomfortable! #LeadLAP

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations are needed to make corrections and help build and grow. #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

Exactly :) #leadLAP

In reply to @Mr_Dixon11

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

Great presentation and engagement at #fallcue #leadlap

In reply to @tsschmidty, @techwnancy

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1 When a leader talks w a T about th need to do better w S. Must have the conversation; we r here 4 S. Must give helpful feedback. #leadlap

The_Groffice Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: Hard convos are those that move us from acceptance to action. That’s the what and the why. #leadlap

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: Hard=behavior that needs correcting. Why=allow bad behavior from 1 & it'll spread. Need hard convos 2 create positive culture. #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

#LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1. Important to have them so a resolution can be gained. #LeadLAP

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

Agreed! I need to have notes or at least have practiced it several times in my head! #leadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: A hard conversation is planned. It never goes as intended if it is on the fly. #leadlap

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: convos that are outside of comfortzone, are crucial to push each other to grow, easier when trust and relationships r in place #LeadLAP

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: if it matters & will make ur school a better place for kids, then summon the courage & have the conversation. All about growth. #leadlap

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

They are essential to growth #LeadLap

In reply to @LSR_DrMom

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

Well said. We can still treat people with kindness and dignity even when giving a hard message. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1. Hard conversations: telling some one the truth, facts about a deficiency and trying to do so kindly, but honestly. #leadlap

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

Yes! And if we see this we have to take some ownership in redirecting even if it's hard #leadlap

In reply to @JayBilly2

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

This is something I learned a few years back. It can definitely change directions during t he convo but still need a plan #LeadLAP

In reply to @bethhill2829

ZoniLOPEZ Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations are necessary for growth and change #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

Lovely way to put it. Being prepared to have that difficult conversation is the only way to help! #leadLAP

In reply to @drjonesie17

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A1: bottom line of tough conversations show that you notice, you care, you want to listen and help

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations with Ps about Ss is an opportunity to work as a team. Show them we are all here for the same thing. #Leadlap

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations aren't effective if only opinions are involved. Tangible evidence supports the convo. #leadlap

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

Love the growth opportunities lens #leadlap

In reply to @rokstar19

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

For sure! #leadlap

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

This is something I learned a few years back. It can definitely change directions during t he convo but still need a plan #LeadLAP
In reply to @bethhill2829

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT

A1. b Hard conversations are necessary if you value authenticity. #LeadLAP

GladstarGTSchl Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

Top story: Beth Houf on Twitter: "Join us tomorrow on #leadlap with special gue… https://t.co/veyamEU0PC, see more https://t.co/yWHxXfIjzH

Principal_PPE Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

A1: necessary for growth & always goes back to the mission! Decisions will be made for what's best for Ss not adults! #LeadLAP

GambillJulie Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

A1: Alerting a person of a shortfall that isn't perceived as such. People aren't receptive of hearing about their own flaws. #leadlap

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

Great way to tackle a difficult conversation! #leadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan, @rokstar19

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

A1. A wise person once shared with me ..."With conflict comes change." #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

Absolutely true! Best if its more than 1 piece of evidence. #LeadLap

In reply to @bethhill2829

tishrich Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

A1: A convo that makes us uncomfortable, but necessary for healthy relationships & school culture. #leadlap

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

A1: Many of my regrets are linked to hard conversations that stemmed from my emotions, and were not planned w/perspective. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

So true! Too important to ignore when it affects our students. #LeadLAP

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT

A1: if it matters & will make ur school a better place for kids, then summon the courage & have the conversation. All about growth. #leadlap

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT

Hard conversations address actions that are out of line with our mission. They are vital to keep our mission on track for kids! #leadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1: Hardest thing for me to do! 👀 #KeepItReal #LeadLAP

Rdene915 Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1 Might have to give some not as positive fdbk, or might be uncomfortable, but are necessary for growth & progress to happen #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

Plan ahead for sure! #LeadLAP

In reply to @MrWawczak, @bethhill2829

huels_ryan Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1 Hard convos involve behavior that is detracting from our mission of serving kids. It’s crucial bc kids deserve our best! #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversation doesn't have to be "mean" or "argumentative". Can be from point of concern. #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1: Hard conversations come in many forms but often they involve addressing something that the person is not ready to hear. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1.When we avoid hard conversation,we amplify ineffectiveness.We build a culture of avoidance behavior,a failure to deal w/ reality #leadlap

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1 when a respected T has lost the passion that once led to success & now it is necessary to reflect on the need to refocus #leadlap

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1 There are hard conversations about teaching, but leaders must provide feedback & support T, be present & make a difference. #leadlap

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT

A1. Spent years trying to hide from these conversations - doesn't work well in the long run. #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

A1. #leadlap

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

Love this. We have to get the rowers in sync! #leadLAP

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: IN order for change to occur everyone must be rowing in the same direction. Sometimes they're rowing but the wrong way #LeadLAP

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

A1 A hard conversation has a need identified and a change needed to be made. It has perceptions needing to be shifted. #LeadLAP

The_Groffice Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

Even when they aren’t accepting that you care during the convo. As they look back, can they say you came from a point of care? #leadlap

In reply to @dianepeterson01

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

Trust me when I say this Meredith but you're not the only one #LeadLAP

In reply to @mjjohnson1216

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

Absolutely! Helping and supporting not judging... #leadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

A1: When I want to have an intentional, "hard" convo I always go to a trusted colleague to think through the right strategy/words. #LEADLap

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

A1 Hard convos can necessary in defining and making shifts (for the better) in a sch culture #leadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT

This is true! Student needs first! #LeadLap

In reply to @Principal_PPE

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Tweeting from #edcampFLX17 ! Good morning #LeadLAP!!!!!

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

A1 - Hard convos can lead to better classrooms...fads w/o evidence of effectiveness are harmful in the classroom. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

You're right, Dr. Dixon. Avoidance can definitely effect the climate of your school! #LEADLap

In reply to @latoyadixon5

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

A1: crucial conversations are not about "getting someone". They are about necessary action. "Help me understand..." is my stem #leadlap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2 is up... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

A2 - You don't want to insult, but continued discussions of learning styles, brain gyms, the leaning pyramid, etc. are dangerous. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

so true! Excellent point! #LeadLAP

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

A1: crucial conversations are not about "getting someone". They are about necessary action. "Help me understand..." is my stem #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A2: Lots going on in their personal life, don't want to push or overwhelm them. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

shannonwyckoff Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

I’d rather know what I️ can improve than receive an eval thats negative/hard. I️ lose respect 4 your opinion . #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy, @burgessdave

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

So true! When you have a strong mission, it just becomes a "get on the bus" scenario and not a personal attack. #leadLAP

In reply to @HeidyLaFleur

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A2: I find it best to tackle those hard conversations as soon as possible... "What you permit, you promote". #LeadLAP

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A1. Being advocates for students can be difficult. Not optional. Must have conversations. #LeadLAP

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

*continued usage of those edumyths is harmful to our Ss. #LeadLAP

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
A2 - You don't want to insult, but continued discussions of learning styles, brain gyms, the leaning pyramid, etc. are dangerous. #LeadLAP
- techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
  
  Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

Hard conversations also send a message: We are here for students, and to help teachers be the best they can be. #leadlap

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A1: There is a definite skill needed to carry out effective conversations! #LeadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

That right there is the toughest situation for me when a difficult convo needs to be had #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A2: it's hard to have when you know they will be defensive and take it personal no matter how hard you try to spin it #leadlap

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

Keeping emotions out of hard conversations is a tricky thing #LeadLAP

In reply to @bethhill2829

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

Emotions or personal connections get in the way. #leadlap

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A2: Sometimes you need to make sure that you truly understand or you haven't seen the negative impact. Sooner is always better #LeadLAP

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

Love that, Meredith! :) Thanks for sharing it. #LeadLAP

In reply to @mjjohnson1216

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

I've been saying that line in my head non-stop lately #LeadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A2: In planning stage,also need some tangible facts to support, so it isn't based on opinion only. Also alignment with our vision. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A2. Fear of hurting a respected peer's feelings #LeadLAP

tishrich Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A2: The fear of how the convo will be received & if it will result in the change that is needed. #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A2: When there are multiple things we need to discuss, where do we start? Hard to come at them constantly. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

Absolutely! I always admire those who seem to have developed a skill to have these conversations. #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A1: There is a definite skill needed to carry out effective conversations! #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A2: A civil convo is impossible right now bc emotions are running high.So, better to postpone to allow the individual to calm down #leadlap

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A1 Educators have big hearts. Difficult convos often pull the heartstrings but are necessary for growth #leadlap

KetchamPaul Nov 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT

A1: Is this an opportunity to get better? Successful leadership is achieved by serving others & having meaningful (tough) conver. #LEADlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2. I need to get my emotions in check and turn up my empathy before having this convo. ❤️ #LEADLap

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2 #leadLAP Fear of upsetting that person, fear of reasons being mis-understood, not sure of correct way forward. Tough to do!

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2. Some reasons include - can’t quite define what seems wrong - avoiding pain - wonder if I am right person to speak #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

Eric, Sped/Math Teacher, joining in late. Living and working in Brazil. #leadlap

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

Ironically, hard conversations send a message to the best T, improving T, and to students that leaders take a stand for excellence. #leadlap

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2 There’s a need for a change but it’s not something I can change overnight. It’s a mindset shift and heart changer. #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

Agreed. We need to be respectful, but we also need to be clear in our message. Beating around the bush isn't good for anyone. #LeadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2: Hard conversations can be hurtful. Nobody likes to hear things that they're doing wrong #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

Definitely! When you are present, in classrooms, working alongside Ts, then the expectation is SHOWN & not just HEARD #leadLAP

In reply to @HarveyAlvy1

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

Welcome to #leadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

This can be so difficult sometimes. I struggle with this too. #LeadLAP

In reply to @fourmonkeypress

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2. I like to have them face to face and as soon as possible. Putting it off makes it worse I think. #LeadLAP

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT

A2 - Also tough b/c Ts care...they don't mean to do the 'wrong' thing...but sometimes it still happens. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2: Sometimes self-doubt. What if I don't know all about the situation? What if my ideas and/or solutions are wrong? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

It always goes back to us setting the model doesn't it #LeadLAP

In reply to @latoyadixon5

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

agreed! Am I the right person? is that passing the buck? (talking about me!) so many questions... #leadLAP

In reply to @JoanJtracy

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

Glad to have you with us, Eric. #LeadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2. Feelings of fear can block our ability to be fully emphatic and listen carefully during conversations. #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2: Sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint the exact issue, because the entire picture is a hot mess! #leadlap

huels_ryan Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2 Putting off a hard conversation is an acceptance of the status quo and a concern with protecting all egos involved #LeadLAP

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

All the paddles in alignment = progress. #leadlap https://t.co/NPfFh98FWJ

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT

A1: IN order for change to occur everyone must be rowing in the same direction. Sometimes they're rowing but the wrong way #LeadLAP

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2. Sometimes we avoid Hard Conversations because we worry about damaging our relationship with the other person. #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A1a: Hard conversation in one where you know that the person is not going to be happy. #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

Absolutely! No Ts wakes up thinking "how can I be a bad teacher today" We need to support them. #LeadLAP

In reply to @effortfuleduktr

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT

A2)I've been putting 1 off. B/c she &I get along so well, I hate having 2 bring up this topic. But. I. Have. 2. #leadlap

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A2: Avoidance may be due thinking about desired outcomes, how to support learning or actions needed for success #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A2: I'm new to a campus & building relationships. We also have a new principal so I'm aligning my mission & work w/ her vision. #LEADLap

GambillJulie Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A2: It's best to let the positive get a bit better before getting the negative out in the open. #leadlap

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

Truth! It's then you go slow to go fast, BUT don't avoid... #leadlap

In reply to @bethhill2829

LiaGyore Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A2: Waiting for emotions to calm down, my intentions to be 100% clear so that my words & manner can reflect love instead of anger. #LeadLAP

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A2. I am finding this year I have to have many tough conversations with students. #LeadLAP

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A2: no easy, one solution given. Start w clear communication but true hearing/understanding is sometimes a long road

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

A1b: We need them because we are not perfect and lose our way. We may not be doing right by Ss or being really arrogant.#leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

I had a hard convo with a T my first year as AP. Thought it would be good b/c of relationship. Total failure. #LeadLAP

In reply to @EdLog411

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT

Tough but a good relationships should be involve trust and honesty. Hard to remember but is true #LeadLAP

In reply to @TamiJ123

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

True. I also think a good relationship makes these convos easier. If there is trust and respect, they are more open to hearing you. #LeadLAP

In reply to @EdLog411

The_Groffice Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

A2:When you have to decide which impact is worse...the one you need to have the convo about or the potential effect of the convo. #leadlap

Rdene915 Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

A2 Wanted to really think about approach, words, anticipate how conversation might go #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Avoidance could also be because we know that it will make more work for us and there is no time to take more on. #leadLAP

In reply to @JennaKSU

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Relationships are the key to growing from hard conversations! #LeadLAP

In reply to @ReaderLeaderBSA

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

A2: I tend to watch my words very carefully! I don’t like the term “sugarcoat” but it could be perceived as such. Thoughts?😀#LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Looking back what would you have done differently. #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz, @EdLog411

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

It's important that hard conversations r respectful & that helpful feedback is offered to send the message: "Our culture is caring" #leadlap

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Time & reflection are our friends when difficult convos are needed #LeadLAP

In reply to @ReaderLeaderBSA

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Glad to be here #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

#THISiswhy we must have tough conversations. They get one shot and we are privileged to assure it’s AWESOME! #LeadLAP #kidsdeserveit

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

A2: bc the culture sides with what needs to be changed and you know it'll be a ripple effect. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

A2. I don’t avoid hard conversations. It’s not worth the consequences that come from avoiding them. High achievers see it first. #LEADLap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

Absolutely, we need to plan ahead. Timing, location, planned outcome, etc. #leadLAP

In reply to @Rdene915

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

Thanks! Always great to join you all. #leadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

Sugarcoating clouds up the real message. Be direct from the beginning and have reasons/explanations follow #LeadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

A2: Trying to identify how to have the hard conversation in a way it will be accepted and not taken defensively and just dismissed #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

There are SO MANY perspectives to take in before passing judgement so I always hesitate to go forward w/out considering all sides. #leadLAP

In reply to @MrWawczak

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

A2. What if ..... ten years from now you are still avoiding challenging conversations? Time for change and growth. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT

I wasn't prepared on how she would react took a few months to get a relationship back. Its hard to predict the person's reaction. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @EdLog411

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

A2 I put off hard conversations due to past experiences-I was able to let go learn from each & get stronger-made all the difference #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

A2: Sometimes reflective questions must be planned. After all, the goal of a hard conversation is to induce change and improve! #leadlap

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

Yes, We have all had convos go sideways even though we are coming from a place of caring #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz

MrDougCampbell Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

Hard conversations can be tough bc we want to stay positive. Sometimes it's better to just be direct. #LeadLAP

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

Thats a good reminder for me- can rush right in not so much w/ anger - just urgency that can be misunderstood #LeadLAP

In reply to @LiaGyore

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

Great suggestion! #LeadLAP

In reply to @bethhill2829

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT

A2: Have T w/major negativity,issues- lately toward me, but has always been negative. Been pouring positives on her. No convo yet. #leadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Respectful convo requires us to focus on the issues rather than on the individual involved #LeadLAP

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

It's important that hard conversations r respectful & that helpful feedback is offered to send the message: "Our culture is caring" #leadlap

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

A2 Hoping change happens on it's own, letting emotions settle, finding the right words or evidence to facilitate a positive convo #leadlap

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

A2: I think timing of hard conversations has to be right or it can be ineffective and the situation can get potentially worse #LeadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Agreed. Sometimes a hard balance to find. Want to address the situation quickly to fix but sometimes many involved as well #LeadLAP

In reply to @ReaderLeaderBSA

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Also don't expect an immediate outcome. Let the other person have thinking time to respond too. #leadLAP

In reply to @bethhill2829

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

I’m kind of blunt, so when I choose words carefully I sound stilted. But better for me to do so. I hope my care shows through #leadlap

In reply to @valerietilton

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

A2. When we make decisions based on our best people, hard conversations aren’t hard. We can’t move forward by avoidance. Courage. #LEADLap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

100% agree. Clarity is essential when we deliver hard messages. Asking "What did you hear me say?" is important too! #LeadLAP

In reply to @MrWawczak, @valerietilton

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Sugarcoating what we say is just as bad as using loaded words #leadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

A tip: Before I engaged in hard conversations I would make brief notes stating what needed to be said: It about the S & helping T. #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

A3: Make sure my emotions are in check. Come w/ evidence. Always have a box of Kleenex! #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3) I actually think out my thoughts & write them down to refer to. I know in the moment I can lose important thoughts & ideas. #leadlap

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3. #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

Q3 is up... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3: Pinpoint the issue, have facts to support, leave emotion out, devote time (can't rush), plan for helping, and PRAY. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A2: I’m afraid the situation won’t improve and just create resentment. #LeadLAP

effortfuleduktr Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3 - I try to remind myself that what I'm doing is for the greater good and I'm coming from a good place. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3: step one is being clear on all the facts, step 2 use data wherever possible to support the convo, step 3 plan the key points #leadlap

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3. Make sure you have the facts straight, share the positives, have empathy and most importantly have a plan to resolve the issue #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A1: Important to have conversations to get problems solved. It’s not about us. We have to communicate so we can impact Ss. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT

Q1: Define a hard conversations and why is it important that we have them? #LeadLAP

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT

A3: @ToddWhitaker talks about recognizing the monkeys people will use...it helps keep me calm when tensions may rise. #LeadLap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3: I discuss the issue with a trusted PLN friend, ask for feedback, script and practice. #LeadLAP

BrobergTerry Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A2 I read once that we need to build relationships before we need relationships. That really applies to hard conversations. #leadlap

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

It’s hard to articulate to those who refuse to see beyond status quo. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3. Grab a critical friend and have reflective time on previous hard conversation - what did I learn that I can apply this time? #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3 #leadLAP Be sure to know why you are having this conversation. What do you want to achieve? What will you do if the reaction is different

leighmragsdale Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

Hey #LeadLap!!! Leigh, from SE, MO! So excited to jump in, even though I am late!

GambillJulie Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3: Plan how I want to use "I" in the conversation instead of "you". You is too accusatory. #leadlap

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3: I like to think about how the hard convo can help my relationship with that person become stronger. #leadlap

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT

A3: know all the facts I can to help it be meaningful. Predict the ?s that might arise. Plan for support & follow up conversation. #leadlap

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3: Start from a place of love & empathy. Assume best intentions. #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A2: In some cultures, you have to be very careful how you have these conversations. It could lead to passive aggressive behavior. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

I always discuss with my principal @ryanssiemens first to make sure I can be calm and come from a place of support. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @ryanssiemens

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3. I stay focused on the end goal. Keep it factual. Write a script to avoid going down the emotional winding road. Be clear. #LEADLap

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

Realizing that what seems obvious from my perspective can look very different from other people’s..more listening!#LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT

Looking back what would you have done differently. #LeadLAP
In reply to @APKRentz, @EdLog411

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3b: I have a lot of conversations by myself in my car while sitting in traffic...it helps me hear my thoughts out loud #LeadLAP

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3: Must have a plan, evidence, outcome & emphasize the growth mindset. #LeadLAP

MrDougCampbell Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

Just like for classroom management, staying unemotional is key to productive conversations. #LeadLAP

leighmragsdale Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3: Ask yourself one simple question, "if this was me on the other end, how would I like to be treated?" #leadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3: Have a plan and evidence. Think of directions the convo might take and prepare. Know we can't plan everything though #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A2: Time and opportunity are biggest barrier to conversations in edu. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT

Q2: Think about a hard conversation you are putting off. What are some of the reasons you haven't said anything yet? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

We need to prepare incase there is crying, screaming, cursing, etc. Anything can happen when people get emotional. #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz, @EdLog411

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3. Reflect during quiet time on how to frame discussion with compassion rather than other two choices. #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

Yes planning for follow up essential and demonstrates care and understanding #leadLAP

In reply to @DuffysClassroom

huels_ryan Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3 Most difficult conversations are adult issues, therefore keep the focus on how we can better serve kids in all we do #LeadLAP

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A3: Make sure of the facts, prepare Have you consider__ questions, and have a plan to support. All with a I'm here to help tone. #LeadLAP

tsschmidty Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

This is a great question for so many things!! #LeadLAP

In reply to @leighmragsdale

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

This is CRITICAL to remember. The American style/norms for hard conversations are NOT universal! #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT

A2: In some cultures, you have to be very careful how you have these conversations. It could lead to passive aggressive behavior. #LeadLAP

BrobergTerry Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3 remember the purpose, plan to partner, pray. #leadlap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

Yes. I'd also add have a clear outcome/goal. What should change as a result of the conversation? #leadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

I got the silent treatment and avoidance. It was hard. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @EdLog411

Principal_PPE Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3: always try to think abt what I want most from the convo & make sure it relates to the Ss. Everyone shld want what is best 4 Ss #LeadLAP

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3: Remember the doctor's promise: First do no harm. #LeadLAP

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3:Give time for reflection, have evidence vs assumptions, preparing thoughts and questions that will coach towards disired outcome #LeadLAP

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3. I wait until I am ready. Mentally and emotionally. With adults, different with Ss. I can ready myself in the moment. #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT

A3: Organize in advance need to understand each other, find common ground & how to resolve in a way that works for all involved #LeadLAP

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3 Leave the emotion at the door, stick to the facts, and show your heart to change the situation going forward. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3. Plan - what will I do that will increase my listening rather than responding? Take notes of their thoughts. #leadLAP

JoanJtracy Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3.I imagine how I would hear this from receiving end. Prepare for authentic reaction. Assume the best of all. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Yes. A short script, bullet points, something to guide the conversation and make sure you don't forget to say something. #LeadLAP

In reply to @HarveyAlvy1

LiaGyore Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3: Prayer. Then I work to discover the true heart of the problem. The problem you SEE is usually a symptom, not a diagnosis. #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3: I write out my talking points in case convo goes elsewhere. I get in a calm happy place in my mind 🏝🏖 & remind myself I'm a ☠️ #LEADLap

JayBilly2 Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3: Usually do some push ups, some jumping jacks, and then call them in... Not really, just make sure my thoughts are in order #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3:The most important ? to include once the issue is shared... "How can I support you? I have thoughts, but want to hear from you." #leadlap

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Timing, tone critical & in a busy sch day can be a challenge - go to intent #LeadLAP

In reply to @LSR_DrMom

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Some of us have learned this the hard way when we started teaching overseas. When I say some of us, I mean me. 😞 #leadlap

In reply to @ritaplatt

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Need to write this one down! #leadLAP

In reply to @Hahne_Elyse

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Agreed. I often summarize what I hear them say and ask if I understood correctly. #LeadLAP

In reply to @mjjohnson1216

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3: I believe in scripting and preparation!! No good being tongue-tied or taken by surprise!#leadlap

leighmragsdale Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3: Have a clear vision of what changes need to happen, make sure you are human, & be honest! #leadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3: Try to remember that "filling the silence" does not apply in these convos. Leave time for reflection. #LeadLAP

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

@valerietilton "Sugar coating" is not the same as being kind. You are VERY kind. Keep being you, my friend! #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

That is a huge point! #leadlap

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Also don't expect an immediate outcome. Let the other person have thinking time to respond too. #leadLAP
In reply to @bethhill2829

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

Q3: Just as when I worked for a newspaper, I plan ahead, write down Qs I want to ask, and focus on facts. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT

Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

100% agree! #leadlap

In reply to @burgess_shelley

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

Excellent suggestion! #LeadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3 outline important points, practice or bounce thoughts off a colleague, positive words of encouragement to end on. #leadlap

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3. I accept that emotion is a part of it, b/c It’s normal for people I be upset. We still have to focus on the facts...with ❤️ #leadlap

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3a: There are times you have to have hard conversation immediately&correct or reprimand immediately due to action & that's ok too #LeadLAP

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

Me too. #LeadLAP #liveandlearn

In reply to @mr_hayes

DuffysClassroom Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

It can't be a one and done. Getting better is s continuum. Support is the key to quality relationship building. #LeadLAP

In reply to @Elizabethutch

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

A3: What Bethany said, and use compliment sandwich where applicable. :) #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
A3: Pinpoint the issue, have facts to support, leave emotion out, devote time (can't rush), plan for helping, and PRAY. #leadlap
- techwnancy Nov 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
  
  Q3: How do you prepare yourself for a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A3: time in notes for clarity and reason for the convo, keep emotions at bay, offer a goal and progress steps & positivity

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

Yes! Excellent suggestion. #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

Agreed. I often summarize what I hear them say and ask if I understood correctly. #LeadLAP
In reply to @mjjohnson1216

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

Yes, I too talk to the windshield! #LeadLAP

In reply to @tsschmidty

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

Always so important to put yourself in the other person's seat and reflect #leadlap

In reply to @JoanJtracy

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

Can’t go wrong with this approach. Always preserve the signify of the other person. #leadlap

In reply to @leighmragsdale

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

A3. Depending on the situation I may do a little research first. Make sure I have the full story. #LeadLAP

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

A3: Tread lightly. Having "hard" conversations can make things worse. Be sure you have the facts. Assume best intentions. Be kind. #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

A3: I organize my thoughts & write down bullet points I need to cover. Once I do that, I find a trusted colleague & share w/them #LeadLAP

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

A3 I go in with empathy and an open mind but I also plan what I want to be heard and I hold myself to saying it. #LeadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT

Yeah, I can't trust that my nerves won't cause me to get sidetracked or lose ny thoughts. #leadlap

In reply to @nbartley6

McLane_Ryan Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

BWI weekly Video Newsletter, 11/4/17. #cpchat #leadlap

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Leave with an action step or goal to check back in about! Become an accountability partner! #leadLAP

In reply to @DuffysClassroom, @Elizabethutch

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Offering support is critical! #leadlap

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT

A3:The most important ? to include once the issue is shared... "How can I support you? I have thoughts, but want to hear from you." #leadlap

staci_erickson2 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

A2- our school has been turned up side down. I need to have a couple of hard talks but bad timing. Waiting a bit. #leadlap

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

yes, planning for follow on will make beginning the conversation easier. #leadLAP

In reply to @DuffysClassroom

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Just a tip: Don't keep talking just because you/they are uncomfortable. Embrace the silence. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Reflecting on the excellent answers that have been shared during #LeadLAP I sure wish I had help like this many years ago! Game changer!

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Oh man that's hard to do, ha #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

BAM!!!!! #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

Just a tip: Don't keep talking just because you/they are uncomfortable. Embrace the silence. #LeadLAP

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

I have had to learn to be more empathetic with adults. It does not always come naturally to me. #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

We always have to go back to our purpose in having those difficult conversations and know it's for the best #LeadLAP

In reply to @effortfuleduktr

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

A3.I write down specifically wh needs 2 b said, based on objective info. Documenting is critical. Emotions r involved. B respectful #leadlap

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT

@techwnancyThat's a good tip. I feel I am always quick to try to ease the discomfort, but maybe that discomfort is necessary. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

yes, making the other person feel that this is with you and not on their own will help. #leadLAP

In reply to @ReaderLeaderBSA, @DuffysClassroom

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Yes. A "What do you need from me?" towards the end of the conversation goes a long way! #LeadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

staci_erickson2 Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

A3- write down key points and pray for the right words. Remember why I’m having thectalk. Looking to solve problem #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4 has arrived... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

#leadlap definitely focused on a resolution and plan for future success

In reply to @rokstar19

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Yes! I need time to process. That think time can be very important! #leadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

staci_erickson2 Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4- what’s your end goal? How can the problem be solved #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4: Where the other person is in his/her current reality. Look at the whole person, not just the job description. EMPATHY. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4: I consider the timing, location, possible outcomes and what I want to get out of the conversation. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4: What is the ultimate goal of this convo? Should be to help Ss or provide growth & support for Ts. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

Always tried 2 hold difficult convos in a neutral place where I could sit adjacent w/o desk as a barrier & watched my body language #LeadLAP

tishrich Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A3: Plan time when not rushed & anxiety isn't high. Prepare what you want to say. Listen & put yourself in their shoes #leadlap

JasonTeaching Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

“Might *I* be the one who’s wrong about this.” #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

Agreed. I'm tougher skinned and like direct confrontation but not everyone is that way. I'm learning lots about empathy lately. 🤗 #LEADlap

In reply to @teresagross625

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4: do you have all the facts? How would you receive the message if on the other end? What is the outcome you seek at the end? #leadlap

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A3 The conversation should include helpful feedback. Criticizing w/o feedback hurts. & listening is always critical. Be respectful. #leadlap

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4: Does the conversation really need to be had? Are there other ways to resolve? Will a conversation help or hurt? #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

I was told NEVER have these convos on Friday. Would you agree? #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT

A4. Make sure you have the facts. Listen with the intent to understand. Ask the right questions. #LEADLap

huels_ryan Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4 Consider how you are going to support the other party moving forward. The work doesn’t end with the difficult convo #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4. This five step approach touches on many of the suggestions others have shared during this chat. #LeadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4: Identifying a problem is easy. What supports or solutions can we come up with? How can I help with that? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4 #leadLAP Possible immediate outcomes. Do I need to consider cover or support? Is this the right time?

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

a4: personality-- know your audience. Know your desired result. Ask open ended questions and listen. #LeadLAP

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

Greetings from SK, Canada. Principal of a large PreK-8 school. #leadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

Great insight! If our relationships are strong, these hard conversations can be perceived as less personal & more about Ss needs #LeadLAP

In reply to @BrobergTerry

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4: Am I making negative assumptions? Is it possible I don't have the whole picture? #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

This is important. I never have conversations across a desk. Had a round table in my office that I would move to for conversations. #LeadLAP

In reply to @GSmit4Character

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4: What do I hope to accomplish? Will this resolve the issue? How can I be honest yet kind? #LeadLAP

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4 Idenify the problem, possible solutions, and how we can work together to solve said problem(s). #leadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4. Make sure the convo is only with who needs to hear it. As a T I didn't like the generic email to all staff. Just address it #LeadLAP

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

#LeadLAP gonna try a pirate workout beforehand next time!

In reply to @JayBilly2

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4: It's important to consider all sides & angles. Is this the first time this issued has been addressed? What's the ultimate goal? #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4: Hard Convo Plan: Adequate time Neutral spot Empathetic heart Standard to meet Plan for support-GOALS! Emotions are checked #leadlap

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4: Mindful to limit any damage to a relationship. It takes years to build bridges w/ people & only minutes to blow them up. #leadlap

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

YES!!! Honest and kind are not dichotomies. #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT

A4: What do I hope to accomplish? Will this resolve the issue? How can I be honest yet kind? #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4: BIG one: What is your relationship w other person and how do they perceive your position as TOSA?#leadlap

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

Mornin' Crew! A4: Talking points, my feelings, HOW I will speak my truth, and what my response might be to theirs #LeadLAP

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4 What is the purpose? Who will it be impacting? where is the other person coming from? How will this conversation help them? #LEADlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

Absolutely. Read the script and avoid trigger words and vague language. We need to be clear and precise. #LeadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix

Mr_Dixon11 Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4: the purpose for the convo, do I have all the facts,their reaction, ripple effect, plan moving forward after convo.#LeadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT

A4) I go in assuming the best from the other; I also carefully consider the words I will use in advance. #leadlap

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

Oh man. That is the hardest part. The terrible silence as you wait for some sort of indication of how the person is feeling. #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

It depends on the person and the issue. I may want them to think about it over the weekend. #leadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

I agree. Having a plan for moving forward is something I often forget to have. #LeadLAP

In reply to @Mr_Dixon11

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4. Purposefully plan for possible moments when links can be made between words that are shared. #LeadLAP

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4. # 1 to consider is how will this help S? Then how will this help T? Then, how will the conversation strengthen our culture? #leadlap

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4: Positive intent, consider their perspective, purpose of convo, goals for convo, and disired outcome #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4 think of the possible outcomes and how this may strengthen or damage the relationship #LeadLAP

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4: Consider all POV, have empathy. Make sure to not only talk, but listen. Sit eye to eye. Be kind. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

A4: Consider the source in any info you gather, and motives. Go into the convo w/ a clear mindset. Don’t assume. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

nbartley6 Nov 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT

Sorry I have to go!! What an impt #LeadLAP chat today that made me really think! Will go back and look later!

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Love this! Often we get so focused on "me" that other's points of view get pushed to the side. #LeadLAP

In reply to @nbartley6

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Prepare with three columns: Evidence. Support. Expectation. “Just the facts, ma’am.” #LeadLAP (🍷after work)

mellomama6 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

A2: It's the elephant in the room. Not sure how to start. #LeadLAP

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

#leadlap knowing when to time the convo and measuring the need for immediacy is essential

In reply to @LSR_DrMom

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

LOVE. #leadlap

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Prepare with three columns: Evidence. Support. Expectation. “Just the facts, ma’am.” #LeadLAP (🍷after work)

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A4: has it been shared prior to or is it first time convo? What's the point of view from the other side?

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

I want them to think and reflect, but not overthink and obsess! 3 days might be too long! #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

I hear you. My husband is not in education so he often does not understand or get the situation. #leadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

A4b also this is why it is important to have good relationships before these conversations arise #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Well said, Heidy. #LeadLAP

In reply to @HeidyLaFleur

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Love this! #LeadLAP

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

Prepare with three columns: Evidence. Support. Expectation. “Just the facts, ma’am.” #LeadLAP (🍷after work)

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

A4b: Ask “how can I support you moving forward?” And make a plan & stick to it. #leadlap

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT

That is such a GREAT point! #leadlap

In reply to @rokstar19

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

We've got to stay strong.#LeadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

Totally. And all it does is lead to speculation and gossip. #LEADlap

In reply to @BrobergTerry

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

A4: Consider possible motives or issues that the person may be having, what good they've done, timing, and goals for convo result. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

A4. Please don't sit behind an authoritative desk - move to place in the room where you are side by side. #LeadLAP

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

So true! Assumption can do nothing but create cracks in the ice. #LeadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

This is so important, but I'm often given the answer of "I don't know how you can help". Any advice? #LeadLAP

In reply to @CoriOrlando1

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT

Depends on the situation and resolution #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz, @techwnancy

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

A4: Does what I'm asking/saying align to my actions and our school vision? I don't want to seem unfair or hypocritical #leadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

A4: Consider your purpose, relationship w/that person, their perception & reactions to the information. Prepare carefully! #LeadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

This is important, Laura. One mistake/challenge/issue/concern does not define the person. Know that going into the convo. #LeadLAP

In reply to @SteinbrinkLaura

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

We speak a different language and our profession is so misunderstood. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

#leadlap I'm an optimist who always holds onto that possibility but also I'm a realist who know sometimes a push is needed

In reply to @JoanJtracy

tishrich Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

A4: Pick location where tensions aren't high, listen, empathize, put yourself in their shoes. #leadlap

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

Welcome! #LeadLAP

In reply to @arzyna

mellomama6 Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

Walked into a situation in the staff room this week. Damage. Reflecting now on how to handle. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @APKRentz, @EdLog411

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

One of the hardest parts of my role as a Sped teacher is when a teacher is not supporting a student. Time for the hard conv. #LeadLAP

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

Then maybe help set a goal, Ask more questions to guide them? #leadlap

In reply to @APKRentz

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

A4: Shared goals & passions - the state of my relationship w/ the person - a need to better understand their story #leadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

I’ve been guilty of it before. So lesson learned! #LeadLAP

In reply to @MenaHillEdu

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

And they don't always broadcast the bad! Must ask if not sure what's going on with them. Works with Ss too! :) #LeadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley

LiaGyore Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

A4 Personal triggers. Be clear about your emotions, motivations & intentions going forward. Othrwse, it’ll be about you, not them. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

Tip: Watch your body language and your tone. Sit up tall, make eye contact and speak up. #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

A4: Is it necessary? Sometimes too much talk leads to compliance not alliance!#leadlap 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

Yes. I always like to be prepared with "Here are three things I can think of that might help... would one of those work for you?" #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz, @CoriOrlando1

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

A1: The ability and courage to have them is what separates leaders and followers. #leadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

The response I may get is: “I don’t understand why I need to give this student special treatment, or I don’t have time for this.” #LeadLAP

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

A4b: Start by assuming positives intentions! Helps keep convo on right track. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

He doesn't understand that what is common sense is sometimes illegal in education. We need to work within our box of constraints. #LeadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Lurking on this question! #strugglebus in this area. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

Mr_Dixon11 Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

A4: I think how you frame the start of the conversation is important too.#LeadLAP

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Always consider a person’s story. Have support suggestions ready. Be prepared to listen to what they feel they need. #leadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Like this bc these convos should begin w/ identifying core values of our school/district & these are nonnegotiable. #leadlap

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT

A4: Does what I'm asking/saying align to my actions and our school vision? I don't want to seem unfair or hypocritical #leadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

A5. How have you been feeling lately? What have you noticed about your Ss lately? #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Absolutely love giving people choices. #LeadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley, @APKRentz, @CoriOrlando1

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Right!? I honestly try to model clarifying Qs and going straight to the person. Cannot stand how assumption = rumors = distrust. #LeadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

After delivering a hard message, it is important to build back in some voice/choice and give some control back. #LeadLAP

In reply to @APKRentz, @CoriOrlando1

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Hard conversations are about the courage to tell one the truth because you want the org to succeed. Fear must never be the leader. #LEADLap

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Jumping into the last few minutes of #leadlap A1: Hard conversations help us and others improve. Criticism and Mistakes grow your brain.

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

A5 #leadLAP The difficulty is not starting the conversation it is finding the time to get them to talk. 'Out of the blue' causes a barrier.

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

I like the idea of 3 choices. I never want them to feel like I'm making all the decisions. I want their opinion too. #LeadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley, @CoriOrlando1

lsrodgerspe Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Acknowledge the fact that this is a difficult conversation to have #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Definitely being prepared is key. And giving multiple options will help to lower walls. #leadlap

In reply to @burgess_shelley, @APKRentz

PPrincipals Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Good morning #LeadLAP! We are lurking with participants from #EdCampPOLK

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT

Sometimes we might be the one who is wrong. It is important to ask questions & not come in attacking/assuming. #LeadLAP

In reply to @JasonTeaching

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

5 Promises Instructional Coaches Need to Keep https://t.co/iIk8p1Y5vV @middleweb offers good advice #LeadLAP

cybraryman1 Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

My Body Language page https://t.co/WoDJ2M6AiL #leadlap from Twitter session at #edcamppolk

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

It's super helpfu - both for me and the person I am talking to. #LeadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton, @APKRentz, @CoriOrlando1

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5: I start with how are things going? More often then not, they jump in with worst case scenario and you can then guide back... #leadlap

BrobergTerry Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5: thank them, even if it is just for showing up #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5: First, don’t have it if upset. Start off w/ the problem and ask for a way to help find the solution. Then, listen! #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5: My principal leads a "Glow and Grow" format w/ staff for observ.s & parents/Ss. Start w/ a positive or acknowledgement #leadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5: Point out the things the person does well in a sincere way or things that you appreciate about the person. #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A5 start with positives, but make sure they're true and genuine. Don't mislead or do anything to jeopardize trust #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

yes asking them if they want to talk about anything #leadLAP

In reply to @coacheagan

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

A2: I had some hard conversations with parents during conferences (I'm a teacher). Two out of three were open to suggestions. #leadlap

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT

Many folks avoid hard conversations b/c they fear the emotional response the conversation might create. Courage trumps fear always! #LEADLap

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

A5 Start on a high note and identify what has been seen/documented around them. #leadLAP

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

A5b: "we all have growth areas including me, let's talk about one I want to support you on for you" #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

"____ has come to my attention. I value and respect you as a colleague and I know we can work through this." #LeadLAP

In reply to @lsrodgerspe

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

Absolutely! I love that! When someone had a “closed door” w me I got “You need to go fix this...” Not a good. #leadlap

In reply to @burgess_shelley, @APKRentz

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

For all hard conversations, unless something unacceptable took place th previous moment, the conversation should not be a surprise. #leadlap

susan_smith02 Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

with a smile #LeadLap

In reply to @techwnancy

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

Q5 again... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

Ts are professionals and are undervalued when not part of conversations that impact them. Imagine how Ss feel!Communication key! #LeadLAP

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

Oh I really like this. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

"____ has come to my attention. I value and respect you as a colleague and I know we can work through this." #LeadLAP
In reply to @lsrodgerspe

BrobergTerry Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

Everyone has a story that impacts their responses and relationships #LeadLAP

In reply to @HeidyLaFleur

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

A5. Tell me how you think things are going and why you think I wanted us to chat today. #LEADLap

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT

A5: I really like starting w/ "how are you" because it's a gauge on their current mood/mindset. Shows I do care as a person... #leadLAP

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

A3: I prepare for hard conversations with data. Also, I always look for something positive to say to make it like a sandwich. #leadlap

ritaplatt Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

A5: "I've been feeling like we need to talk. How about you?" #LeadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

A5) Don't jump in w/negatives.Take time to ask the person how they are & thank them for meeting w/u. #leadlap

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

That’s good. #leadLAP

In reply to @latoyadixon5

lsrodgerspe Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

Matt from Michigan-Elementary PE teacher. #LeadLAP

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

A5: After sharing something positive and make them feel important, start with the facts. #LeadLAP

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

must speak language of listener, so perceptions of 'sugar coating' can occur, but if msg is understood, coating is irrelevant.#leadLAP

In reply to @valerietilton

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: Ask how someone is. Many times they know what the topic is. Don't 'sugarcoat' or 'beat around the bush' #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

I absolve myself of responsibility for the emotional reaction of others. Control what I can control. #LEADLap

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

Same! #LeadLap

In reply to @bethhill2829

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: Would love ideas on this one. I have had to have these convos w peers and I struggle. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

Q5: What is a good way to start the conversation? #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: Trying to figure out where they're coming from & what information is important while it is clear what’s important to me #LeadLAP

Mr_Dixon11 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: starting with a positive then explaining your purpose. Ex: my purpose is to help you to continue to grow as an educator. #LeadLAP

fourmonkeypress Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5. I liked a heads up about what the convo will be about. It's still scary as a T to get called into Ps office. #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: It's always good to start w/a positive about what the person is doing well & what you appreciate about them as part of the team #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

We need to come up w/ a plan of action before the conversation. It may change during the conversation, but we need to be prepared. #LeadLAP

In reply to @MrWawczak

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: How are you? How was your week? TY for letting me visit your classroom. How did you feel the lesson went? Glow/grow moments? #leadlap

LaRueKMurphy Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: Coming in late but start a convo with..I’ve noticed your data show some gains in a certain area. #leadlap

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

Sincerity is important, if they don't feel you're sincere you lost them #LeadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

JennaKSU Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: Ask about their day, assess timing, start with a positive, be clear #LeadLAP

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

@mr_hayes ‘It isn’t special treatment, it is what they need to have the same chance to succeed as other Ss...I will help you ’ #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT

The response I may get is: “I don’t understand why I need to give this student special treatment, or I don’t have time for this.” #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

Always make sure they know you are coming from a place of care and concern. Not anger or judgement. #LeadLAP

In reply to @CoriOrlando1

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

A4 Starting to study instructional design for my Master's program makes me think we should prepare for convo with a Needs Analysis. #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

We need to be understanding, but we also need to hold people accountable. #LeadLAP

In reply to @DuffysClassroom, @Elizabethutch

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

A2: Processing it's 'digestability'; determining is it them? Or is it me? #leadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

Yes! Absolutely! #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy, @JasonTeaching

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

A5. I’ve also posed this ? many times:Do you believe that your performance is reflective of your very best work?Answer always no. #LEADLap

LiaGyore Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

A5: Don’t pretend it is not a difficult conversation. If you don’t start with sincerity, the rest won’t be perceived as sincere. #LeadLAP

ramblintechy Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

So important in Student Discussions and Peer Feedback #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT

A1: There is a definite skill needed to carry out effective conversations! #LeadLAP

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT

For sure. I've learned too many times in my younger days going in too quickly or w/o a plan leads nowhere good #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

mkomorris Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

I try to avoid having them in my office - classrooms or their offices have worked better for me #LeadLAP

In reply to @fourmonkeypress

MrDougCampbell Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

Start, middle, and end of conversations should include one thing - respect. #LeadLAP

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

A3 Meet privately asap. Assume positive intentions. Offer specific observations/impacts. Hear them out. Agree on course of action #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

Haha I can so relate! I teach CTE so business don’t always get rules of Edu. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

LOL! I love #JoyfulLeaders WAY better, but I've learned that we are all on the #strugglebus sometimes! :) #leadlap

kwiens62 Nov 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT

#strugglebus ... I will be borrowing this hashtag. 😊
In reply to @bethhill2829

CoriOrlando1 Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

This is so important. But it has to be authentic!!! #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

Always make sure they know you are coming from a place of care and concern. Not anger or judgement. #LeadLAP
In reply to @CoriOrlando1

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

You made my tweet stronger! Modeling teamwork and collaboration would be equally powerful when handling conflict #LeadLAP

In reply to @GSmit4Character

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

A5 Difficult convos can & should involve kindness. We can be direct without being abrasive. The relationship needs stay in tact #leadlap

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

A5 Body language & initial comments count.Make eye contact, avoid barriers, B respectful. If appropriate, thank th person 4 meeting.#leadlap

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

THIS is so important! Well said, Latoya! We can control how we treat a person during the convo but not their reaction #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

I absolve myself of responsibility for the emotional reaction of others. Control what I can control. #LEADLap

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT

yes, if something is not right then the problems are going to increase or burnout which will then leave you with staff shortages #leadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @DuffysClassroom

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

drcwirth Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

A5: B sure uv had interaction and it's not a surprise. Start with a compliment then "I've noticed lately..." #LeadLAP

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A5: first give topic for the meeting ahead of time, no "surprise attack". Start w caring.

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

A5: Start with my listening ears ready, a compliment, and then the problem. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Absolutely! Focus it back on Ss and why behaviour has to change to benefit them. #kidsfirst #LeadLAP

In reply to @CoriOrlando1

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

That’s almost word for word on how I respond when I get that particular response. 😉 #leadLAP

In reply to @EdLog411

OrganicLeaderVB Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

#SaturdayJoy #LeadLap #satchatuk #vbinspired https://t.co/K4VEzHYinC

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

A3 Lastly. Valid the person and commit to help #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

#LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Yes! Too much of either of these creates imbalance. We should hold folks accountable and equally support them. One doesn’t trump the other
In reply to @techwnancy, @DuffysClassroom, @Elizabethutch

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

A5: Critique sandwich: I like___ You need to work on___ Keep doing___ As soon as you see improvement in the needed area, praise it. #leadlap

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

A5: Sandwich: Glows, Grows, How I will support you, Affirmation. #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

So true! Honest reflection is sometimes more difficult than the conversation. #LeadLAP

In reply to @LiaGyore

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

yes, be ready for the unexpected reaction. You still needed to have the conversation #leadLAP

In reply to @burgess_shelley

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

Tip: End the conversation restating what you expect. Follow up with a short summary email. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

Great reminder! I always felt terrible when the person stormed out - yelling or crying. #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

I absolve myself of responsibility for the emotional reaction of others. Control what I can control. #LEADLap

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

A5: Some hard convos need to happen for TEAMS...setting norms and collective commitments have proven effective for me @SolutionTree #leadLAP

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

The answer @techwnancy gave is spot on!! Great way to start the convo. #LeadLAP

In reply to @CoriOrlando1, @techwnancy

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

Realize that as a leader, the easiest way to eat crow is while it’s still warm. The colder it gets, the harder it is to swallow. #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

A6: Judgemental remarks. #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

A6: If you feel yourself getting heated, stop the conv. Avoid the “You” and focus more on “we” expressions. #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

It is alright to go back with a different message on the follow up if reflection brought you to a different conclusion #leadLAP

In reply to @TheresaShadrix, @LiaGyore

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

A5b. I'm glad you are part of our team. We need to build our team stronger. I'd like you to think about how to improve.... #leadlap

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

Preparation is the key to success, athletes succeed when they prepare not when the they play. #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy, @MrWawczak

tishrich Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Heading to breakfast with a friend! Thanks for a great chat this morning @techwnancy @burgess_shelley & #leadlap crew!

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

@techwnancy https://t.co/HlbDw50RjI Crucial Conversations is a great resource #leadlap

BrobergTerry Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Absolutely. This is tied so much into our choice of words and how we value everyone involved. #LeadLAP

In reply to @MrDougCampbell

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Q6 is up... #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Great advice here. "Don't put off until tomorrow ... what you can do today." #LeadLAP

GSmit4Character Nov 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT

Realize that as a leader, the easiest way to eat crow is while it’s still warm. The colder it gets, the harder it is to swallow. #LeadLAP

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

I encourage my Ts to let their admin know the subject of convo before heading in. Gives admin a time to prep. Helps Ts to be heard #LeadLAP

In reply to @fourmonkeypress

HartofLearning Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

A6: Avoid harping on the need constantly. If you see it happen again, bring it up again. Until then, see if one mention helps. #leadlap

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

To clarify: I don’t lack empathy, but I’m not responsible for someone else’s emotional reaction & can’t avoid things b/c of it. #LEADlap

In reply to @burgess_shelley

HeidyLaFleur Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Whether while staff or 1:1, I say, “I am always going 2 be honest, caring & frank, bc that’s the way we can move forward together.” #leadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

Yes! Hate surprise meetings. #leadlap

In reply to @dianepeterson01

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

A6 No shame. No blame. No judgement. #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

dianepeterson01 Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

#LeadLAP A6: placing blame, using "you" statements

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT

I love the glow/grow moments! Great way to put it, Valerie! #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT

A5: How are you? How was your week? TY for letting me visit your classroom. How did you feel the lesson went? Glow/grow moments? #leadlap

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6) Be conscious of your facial expressions & body language (so, avoid not being conscious of these things?). #leadlap

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6: Keep your emotions in check. Calm voice. Don't raise your voice. Keep judgement out, give facts. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

No one likes to be blindsided. Love this pre-conference info share! #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy, @MrWawczak

coacheagan Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6: avoid your emotions weighing in and opinion statements. Using data and sticking to the facts is critical. Avoid ending negative #leadlap

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6: Telling someone how he/she feels, not asking for input, sarcasm, pointing fingers, anger. #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

I use the commend, counsel, commend sandwich. This is good too. #leadlap

In reply to @MenaHillEdu

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

Important to note that alliance of all is an unreasonable expectation. There are times when compliance is a cause for celebration.#leadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT

A4: Is it necessary? Sometimes too much talk leads to compliance not alliance!#leadlap 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6 Avoid putting words in mouth. Leave out “I know you know” or “don’t you x.” #leadLAP

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6. Formulating your answer while the other person is speaking instead of fully listening #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

The biggest thing to remember is NOT to Avoid the issues. Contrary to popular belief they will not fix themselves #LeadLAP

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

Nobody likes hard conversations. They aren’t comfortable-for the initiator or recipient, but that’s how greatness & change happens. #LeadLAP

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6 #leadLAP Don't leave with all the work for yourself. It should be a two way process. Both making or supporting changes #leadLAP

TamiJ123 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A6) Also, remain composed. U should not let ur emotions drive the meeting. #leadlap

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT

A4: The Purpose. #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

LSR_DrMom Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

A6: Avoid showing your emotions, taking convo personally, raising your voice, being judgmental #LeadLAP

TheresaShadrix Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

Right! Cause a productive conversation leads to reflection and solutions! #LeadLAP

In reply to @Elizabethutch, @LiaGyore

teresagross625 Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

Have a great day! #LeadLAP

ReaderLeaderBSA Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

A6: Most important lesson I've learned - Control your facial expressions, attitude and watch that body language! 🤦🏻‍♀️ #leadLAP

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

I use that model when I was in the classroom with Ss and now as a learning coach too. :) #LeadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

Hahne_Elyse Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

This is so hard but true! #leadlap

In reply to @Elizabethutch

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT

Agreed! The expectation for change needs to be clearly expressed, maybe multiple times #LeadLAP

In reply to @techwnancy

BarbaraGruener Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

At a #PD learning session so I missed today's chat; super excited to facilitate next week's #LeadLAP discussion on Veteran's Day in the USA.

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

Start with the heart (i.e empathy and positive intent). Stay in dialogue Make it safe. Don’t get hooked by emotion (or hook them). #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

Always a pleasure learning with you #leadlap

In reply to @tishrich, @techwnancy, @burgess_shelley

arzyna Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

Thanks for ur great perspectives on this critical topic. Off to, u guessed it, hockey game! 😂🏒🇨🇦 #leadLAP

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

Agree a mutual purpose. Separate facts from story. Agree a clear action plan. #leadlap

In reply to @techwnancy

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

A6: Do not avoid the real topic at hand. Calm voice and demeanor is important. Do not be elsewhere - full attention the whole time #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

ABSOLUTELY! Take out the fear of the unknown meeting = productive meeting #LeadLAP

In reply to @fourmonkeypress

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

This 👇🏽 #leadlap

CJCain7 Nov 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT

Start with the heart (i.e empathy and positive intent). Stay in dialogue Make it safe. Don’t get hooked by emotion (or hook them). #leadlap
In reply to @techwnancy

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

What makes it difficult is that people use the term support synonymous with agreement. If you challenge them=not supportive. Not so #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

A6: Sharing a laundry list of negatives or things to fix. It may damage your relationship w/that person & your message may be lost #LeadLAP

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

Have fun! #LeadLAP

In reply to @tishrich, @techwnancy, @burgess_shelley

EdLog411 Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

Excellent! I spent 20 years as a Learning Support/SPED teacher so I am very passionate about inclusion :) #LeadLAP

In reply to @mr_hayes

ErinDealey Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

Fabulous reading fun! Check it out @Miss_Zapp 📚❤️ @ncte #edchat #LeadLAP

kmcshane66 Oct 6 @ 11:33 AM EDT

It's not #DEAR. It's #flashlightfriday. !

Elizabethutch Nov 4 @ 11:26 AM EDT

I agree, I have walked away and felt I am the only one making changes! Learning to do this better... #leadLAP

In reply to @Hahne_Elyse

rokstar19 Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A6 don't sugar coat anything, be honest and sincere. Don't allow your emotions to get in the way. #LeadLAP

APKRentz Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

Thanks @techwnancy for a very thought provoking morning! Always appreciate #LeadLAP chats!

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A5 If appropriate, after greetings, open w common goals about S success, & T success. Same w parents, we both want ur C to succeed. #leadlap

LiaGyore Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A6: “Always” “Never” “I’m sorry, but . . .” #LeadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A6: Avoid using judgemental words. Sit up, speak loud/clear and make eye contact. Ask questions, restate what you hear them say. #LeadLAP

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A6: Don’t forget that at one time you were probably on the other end of a hard conversation. Listen first and foremost! #LeadLAP🗣👂🏼

burgess_shelley - Moderator Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

Thanks to the #LeadLAP crew for your insights and ideas today. Great topic, great conversation! Thank you @techwnancy for great Qs

SteinbrinkLaura Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

A6: In any hard convo, the words "never" & "always" should generally be avoided. It's seldom that we "never"/"always" do something. #LeadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:27 AM EDT

In case I miss the chat wanted to share this idea of Wall of Honor we displayed/created for all of our families. #LeadLAP

In reply to @BarbaraGruener

latoyadixon5 Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

I’m awfully grateful that hard conversations about integration in public education & the civil rights movement, were had. ❤️work.🤓 #LEADLap

mr_hayes Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

Me too. It is not easy. Find myself having to build up my Ss as they face Ts who don’t take the time to get to know them. #leadlap

In reply to @EdLog411

MrCourington53 Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

1. The reason. 2. Desired outcome 3. Consequences of not having it. 4. The feelings of the other person. 5. Location. #leadLAP

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT

Q4: What things should you consider before having a difficult conversation? #LeadLAP

AmyG1970 Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

A6 "what in the world were you thinking?" Or "have you lost your mind?" Compassionate coaching & direct expectations are essential #leadlap

MrWawczak Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

Thank you @techwnancy @burgess_shelley and the #LeadLAP group. Going to look back and take some notes! Have a fantastic weekend everyone!

bethhill2829 Nov 4 @ 11:28 AM EDT

A6: Avoid blaming judging taking it personal guilting comparing #leadlap

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT

Q6: What are some things you should avoid doing or saying during a hard conversation? #LeadLAP

drjonesie17 Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

Non-verbal language sends just as loud of a message as your actual words #LeadLAP

In reply to @ReaderLeaderBSA

MenaHillEdu Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

Contrived convos are the worst. Fake Admin = Ts never really know where they stand = walking on eggshells #LeadLAP

In reply to @LiaGyore

techwnancy Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

Instead of starting with complements, acknowledge that you respect them as a professional and appreciate them as a colleague. #leadLAP

mjjohnson1216 Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

#LeadLAP certainly makes a difference in my life! Each week I learn so much from suggestions/ideas that others share. You're appreciated!

valerietilton Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

Thank you #LeadLAP for a great learning experience this morning! You are helping me become a better educator!

HarveyAlvy1 Nov 4 @ 11:29 AM EDT

Thanks, great Q today. Hard conversations r never easy. They r learning experiences 4 all. Must be about student & teacher success. #leadlap