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Welcome to #leadupchat! This morning’s topic is “The Importance of Forgiveness: A Key to Exceptional Leadership.” Pls introduce yourself & share a GIF of how you’re feeling this beautiful morning!
I'm your guest moderator, Jennifer Hogan. I'm a HS AP in AL, co-founder of #ALedchat & the quarterly #USedchat. Very excited to be here with everyone this morning on #LeadUpChat!
An awesome hour of learning 7 sharing is just starting & the topic is about the importance of forgiveness in leadership. Tag 3 friends and join us! #leadupchat
Good morning #leadupchat! Todd, elem principal in CA, big fan of @Jennifer_Hogan, and coffee is just hitting the system as we look towards the last two weeks of the school year!
Good morning. I’m Latoya, an ed leader in South Carolina where the sun is shining and the skies are blue. I’ve got ☕️ in hand and I’m ready to learn with all of you. #leadupchat
Good morning #leadupchat! Happy to be with you! Sharing a quote to get us started: "Be willing to be a beginner every single morning." --Meister Eckhart
A1: Forgiveness means letting it go. We can't lead if we're holding grudges. We can't always forgive everything, but if we look into our hearts, there's a lot we can forgive. #leadupchat
A1: This job can be very challenging and emotional draining at times...
Forgiveness allows us to let go and move forward knowing that we are setting the right example for students and staff (and parents!)
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A1: I had a great leader tell me once. Forgiveness is giving a person a chance to show they have changed but it does not mean forgetting what needs forgiving. It made it easier to let go of hard feelings and view it as a chance to learn. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness is seeing the frailties of humans and letting go of the pain someone has caused you--because you know it is the key for you to move forward. #leadupchat
A1: As a Christian, forgiveness is deeply tied to repentance and sin -- changing our path to be more like Christ and granting grace for others to do that as well. In education, it also means moving past mistakes to build a better future. #LeadUpChat
A1: as leaders we must model forgiveness. Holding a grudge or hanging on to something negative effects us and the cultures we lead. We have to remind ourselves it’s rarely personal, so don’t make it personal #leadupchat
A1: at its best it is not letting someone’s hurting you to control you moving forward. At its worst it’s a weapon used against you to invalidate your feelings. #LeadUpChat
A1: forgiveness means you look past a person’s “mistakes” and allow them to use it as stepping stones; give second chances to rethink and assess; leading and teaching for mastery. #leadupchat
A1: I had a great leader tell me once. Forgiveness is giving a person a chance to show they have changed but it does not mean forgetting what needs forgiving. It made it easier to let go of hard feelings and view it as a chance to learn. #leadupchat
A1. Leadership has a deeply personal and emotional element to it. As the leader we sometimes are left to endure the complaints and criticism alone, we shield our folks from things that would distract them from the tasks, & we take the heat to protect them. #leadupchat
A1: I had a great leader tell me once. Forgiveness is giving a person a chance to show they have changed but it does not mean forgetting what needs forgiving. It made it easier to let go of hard feelings and view it as a chance to learn. #leadupchat
I think the most important to forgive in leadership is often ourselves. Leadership is messy and completely imperfect. We should not expect perfection from ourselves. #leadupchat
A1: forgiveness is giving grace when grace is needed. Knowing everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. Making sure those people understand you still support them even after a mistake... and showing them that through words/actions after. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means always being understanding, open minded, and quick to see the good in people. Forgiveness effects us as leaders because everyday we have people watching us and how we react. It's important that we show good character traits! #edu5213SBU#leadupchat
A1 Forgiveness means accepting things that happen and moving on from them. It is not healthy to hang on to things in the past and much healthier to focus on the present and moving forward. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness is understanding, connection, & the act of letting go so that everyone involved can move forward positively. The impact is deep and wide. #LeadUpChat
A1: Forgiveness to me means that you acknowledge we’re all human, that we’re all doing the best for where we’re currently at in life and that we can accept that, not allow it to move our moral compass, and continue the work together for our common mission. #leadupchat
Though unable to participate this morning in #LeadUpChat had to give a huge shout-out to @Jennifer_Hogan for sharing her heart & passion unexceptional leadership; true power in forgiveness. Thank you also to my buddy @drneilgupta for moderating! Have a great convo all!
A1: Self-forgiveness is so important. We are always learning, growing, & evolving - which is MESSY! It's important to be patient & kind with ourselves so that we can be patient & kind with others. #leadupchat
There are times that we all have been hurt, even if it was unintentional. If we don’t forgive others in our heart, we will carry bitterness that will impact our ability to connect with them... and to lead them. #LeadUpChat
I have met very few educators, who in their soul, does not want to do great things on behalf of kids. Forgiveness, for non-morally egregious acts, should be easy. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness gives us the ability to encourage, support, and accept. Allowing to fail forward and giving teams the courage and passion to try.
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A1 Forgiveness means accepting things that happen and moving on from them. It is not healthy to hang on to things in the past and much healthier to focus on the present and moving forward. #leadupchat
A1 Forgiveness is the avenue that leaders can use to release internal dead weight. Forgiveness allows us to free our mind of the unnecessary clutter that does not help us or our team improve. It allows us to collaborate with our team and build their capacity #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means always being understanding, open minded, and quick to see the good in people. Forgiveness effects us as leaders because everyday we have people watching us and how we react. It's important that we show good character traits! #edu5213SBU#leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness can mean giving people the benefit of the doubt in that their intentions were good.
It impacts us as leaders in that we can't be so immature or prideful as to not be able to forgive our team members. It will be the downfall to our team. #leadupchat
A1: We teach that mistakes show proof of learning, we learn from mistakes; forgiveness admits admission of all ideas for without a person's voice we never have the opportunity to know them. Forgiveness allows every voice to be heard even when it may be flawed. #LeadUpChat
I have found that anger can eat you up inside and take over so many other aspects of your life. Learning to "let go" and lead with grace is a big challenge for all leaders...especially when your own tank is running on fumes...
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A1: It means that relationships are more important than transgressions. We see beyond the offense. We see the see person, and we recognize the power of grace. In the classroom w/my students, it says you matter more than the mistake. Let’s learn from it and move on. #leadupchat
A1) Letting go of any anger or resentment & not allowing prior anger or resentment to factor into our decisions, or cloud our thoughts about a person. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness is giving everyone a fresh start. I always say you can’t put someone in their “box” and leave them there. People evolve, so must our opinions and views of them #Leadupchat
A1. Leaders are required to take responsibility for their actions and many times for the actions of others. Leading requires operating with a level of mercy when you can, extending grace when you’re able to do so, & forgiving those who wrong you or your organization. #leadupchat
A1: forgiveness means giving opportunities for others to grow and that in itself is leadership. Leaders help others make mistakes, grow and lead!
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A1: Forgiveness gives us the ability to encourage, support, and accept. Allowing to fail forward and giving teams the courage and passion to try.
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A1: Forgiveness is acknowleging that people are flawed. I believe it includes reflecting on our own fallibility and knowing we want to be forgiven too. Then comes the work of rebuilding trust. #leadupchat
A1 Forgiveness is the avenue that leaders can use to release internal dead weight. Forgiveness allows us to free our mind of the unnecessary clutter that does not help us or our team improve. It allows us to collaborate with our team and build their capacity #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means letting go of resentment. It is more for you than the other person. It is practicing the skill of separating the person from the behavior. As leaders this helps us lead people from a healthier place. #leadupchat
Yes, Randall! This really is the biggest part, in my opinion! Actions always speak louder than words. It is the follow through that will allow others to know we really do forgive because we SHOW this. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness shows that yes, a mistake occurred but it doesn’t mean that you can’t move on. Forgiveness shows that you believe in them to do and be better. Everyone deserves a second chance. #leadupchat
A1. Forgiveness means emotionally acknowledging a mistake/failure and letting go of the outcome. It impacts leaders in their ability to trust and encourage people to grow and learn #LeadUpChat
There are times that we all have been hurt, even if it was unintentional. If we don’t forgive others in our heart, we will carry bitterness that will impact our ability to connect with them... and to lead them. #LeadUpChat
Good thoughts on self-forgiveness shared here. Wondering whether the inability to apply forgiveness to oneself or to sense the grace of others or God is also a cause of the recent uptick in suicides. #LeadUpChat
A1: Self-forgiveness is so important. We are always learning, growing, & evolving - which is MESSY! It's important to be patient & kind with ourselves so that we can be patient & kind with others. #leadupchat
#LeadUpChat A1 Forgiveness means letting go of the negativity and allow your heart to lead you! As a leader, or a person, we must find a way to forgive so we can lead with an open ❤️. It gives a clear path!
Agree, Sara. Forgiveness allows us to release the personal pressure we place on ourselves and helps us focus on lessons learned that we can use in our practice. @Sara_Utecht#leadupchat
A1: I immediately think of Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team. All teams are dysfunctional at times. We have to operate like a family and learn to forgive. #LeadUpChat
A1. Forgiveness isn’t for the person who wronged you. It’s for YOU. It’s how you make sure you don’t carry burdens that taint your next steps or efforts. #leadupchat
A1: As a school leader, I see forgiveness as going hand in hand with a coaching moment. Another opportunity for self-reflection and growth, which needs to be supported. Forgiveness allows you to focus back on the person’s potential #leadupchat
We do have to acknowledge that is easier when we have less things in our life that hurt us. For some of our friends and colleagues, their daily existence causes them hurt because this society (and our schools) were not designed for them. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means accepting what has happened and to move forward. As educators, we have to forgive mistakes, actions, words. I always tell my Ss, "Tomorrow is a new day." The slate is wiped clean, we refocus, and start again. #leadupchat
Great advice! "It's rarely personal, so don't make it personal." By choice, leaders are making themselves vulnerable every day to the hurtful actions of others. We must see the hurtful actions of others for what they are--actions that come from insecurity or pain. #leadupchat
A1: as leaders we must model forgiveness. Holding a grudge or hanging on to something negative effects us and the cultures we lead. We have to remind ourselves it’s rarely personal, so don’t make it personal #leadupchat
A1 Forgiveness is a process and stems from our own emotions. As a leader when you seek or grant forgiveness the goal should be to reestablish excellence, not lowering expectations/accountability for each other. #leadupchat
I think this is what makes it so hard... the messiness. It's not the same motivation/reasons for each of us as to why we choose to or not to forgive. Important to sort that out! #leadupchat
A1: Self-forgiveness is so important. We are always learning, growing, & evolving - which is MESSY! It's important to be patient & kind with ourselves so that we can be patient & kind with others. #leadupchat
A1 A workplace where forgiveness is modelled by leadership is an environment where staff feel safe, be themselves and take risks in order to be the best they can be. #leadupchat
A1: I immediately think of Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team. All teams are dysfunctional at times. We have to operate like a family and learn to forgive. #LeadUpChat
The ultimate truth is when we forgive for ourselves. It can't be fake, and we can't fake ourselves. It's definitely a powerful tool in leadership. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness can mean giving people the benefit of the doubt in that their intentions were good.
It impacts us as leaders in that we can't be so immature or prideful as to not be able to forgive our team members. It will be the downfall to our team. #leadupchat
A1: I tell Ss when they make mistakes the second they walk out the door it’s a new beginning and I believe in them and their ability to follow the rules. Most things I do as a school admin is based on RELATIONSHIPS! #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means that we understand others (and even ourselves) make mistakes (both kids and adults). We are all human. Forgiveness allows everyone to grow—even the one forgiving. #Leadupchathttps://t.co/K2kTwoTBD1
Learning requires mistakes, feedback, and correction. That’s one reason that the “leader as the answer person” model is so deeply flawed.
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A2: Our morale helps us forgive, but when we forgive, we expect SOMEONE to learn from their mistakes. Is it the person who wronged us, or is it ourselves? #leadupchat
I believe there is; it also means we need to empathize, to see it from their POV. Then we might understand better why they do not see it as a mistake. #leadupchat
I find it interesting that my instincts are to think about forgiveness with a lens of what is done to me. I don’t automatically think about forgiveness from a lens of how I’ve hurt others #LeadUpChat
I close all my correspondences with "Grace and ____," whatever the other person needs...peace, love, gratitude, light.. Ppl need to know they have room to make mistakes...after all, "they're not mistakes, just happy little accidents." (bob ross) #LeadUpChat
If we do not forgive, how can we expect others to innovate and extend themselves. This work is too messy to hold grudges. The imperfect (us) should not expect perfection #leadupchat
Reading the words of wisdom from so many eduleaders in #leadupchat reveals the fact that though our leadership journeys are all different, we have so much in common. Being hurt by others is one commonality. Being connected educators helps us see the hurt for what it is.
Right, Kassidy. As leaders, we are charged to remain in-tune not only with our team's emotions but our own individual emotions. When we are aware of these emotions, it helps us address areas that we can improve as we lead others @wagner_kassidy#leadupchat
A2. Mistakes and a lack of forgiveness can directly impact the learning and morale of an organization. How we deal with errors and our capacity to forgive can either hurt or help the learning and morale on our organization. In all you do, try to keep your heart pure. #leadupchat
A2 Ts, Ss and school leaders have to feel like they can try things without fear. They have to feel like they are part of a team of support. #leadupchat
A2: If we do not make room to forgive others we limit our learning and theirs. There is not a time I struggle more with teaching than when limits are placed on my learning. That translates to low morale. #leadupchat
A1: Forgiveness means being able to move past the anger or hurt of the situation in order to be able to support the person and the vision. Not an easy thing to do! #leadupchat
A2 Often mistakes have to be made for learning to take place. If we do not have a culture in our building where mistakes are accepted for our students and adults we will never take risks. #leadupchat
The hardest part is doing that when someone criticizes me. To assume someone’s criticism is well intentioned is a big leadership challenge. #leadupchat
Morale keeps us eager and learning, without morale we don't want to learn, we fear mistakes, and find it hard to forgive! If we don't positively learn from mistakes, we lose morale and the want to learn! #leadupchat#edu5213SBU
A1: I immediately think of Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team. All teams are dysfunctional at times. We have to operate like a family and learn to forgive. #LeadUpChat
The comments about the value of mistakes and forgiveness applies to students as well. If we reward perfection, students will get the message that “mistakes are not allowed.” That blocks learning
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A2: All are signs of positive growth. Morale is being open to all ideas in a positive manner, learning is gaining from other's ideas, forgiveness takes us back to morale where we are open to all and encouraging others with our grace #leadupchat
A1. Forgiveness is part of learning. Learning to forgive. We need to model it first as teachers then students see this and learn how to show it. #SEL#LeadUpChat
A2: Imagine running a family by crushing people for mistakes.
Or never forgiving.
Or expecting instant learning/perfection.
Schools don't work that way either.
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A2: Your people need to know that failure is never fatal, and it is never intentional. We extend grace to our teachers just like we expect them to extend grace to their students. #leadupchat
I think there's a difference.U can never do better if you don't admit,believe,or accept U've done wrong.I wonder if1 can learn the lesson of what that teaches us about the person without walking around w/anger towards the person. #leadupchat
A2: We are all on a JOURNEY. There will be times of happiness and times of struggle. We must see each other as travelers TOGETHER! Mistakes mean learning, forgiveness means LOVE! #leadupchat
A2: These are all parts of a growing relationship, which is so important to build with our students, as well as other faculty members. We're all in this together! #leadupchat
A2: morale on a campus is effected by how everyone treats each other—forgiveness, accepting we all make mistakes, and encouraging a culture of failing forward and growing together are critical to a school’s success #leadupchat
As the chat progresses I continue to pause with the word forgiveness - bcz it implies initial hurt or anger (to me). I just do not find myself in that position very often #leadupchat
#leadupchat A1 - “ Forgivness takes place within the heart of a human being. It can be granted even if the other person does. It ask for it or deserve it.” John Ortberg. So freeing to make this happen.
A2: Imagine running a family by crushing people for mistakes.
Or never forgiving.
Or expecting instant learning/perfection.
Schools don't work that way either.
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A2: Forgiveness is one of the hardest adult lessons I’ve had to learn, something that didn’t come easily. What a great reminder for the importance of teaching our Ss the social skills they are developing over time that help them become 21st century learners. #leadupchat
A2: Extremely important not to allow oneself to get absorbed in the negative feelings that come along with making mistakes...forgiving yourself hardest thing to do. #leadupchat
The comments about the value of mistakes and forgiveness applies to students as well. If we reward perfection, students will get the message that “mistakes are not allowed.” That blocks learning
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A2: We cannot grow if we never try. When we do try & something goes wrong, we can’t give up. We might need someone to tell us it’s okay & to try again. If our intentions are good, then move on & let it go. We can’t live in the past if we want to impact the future. #leadupchat
A2: People that work in an environment that where they are expected to be perfect will not flourish. As a matter of fact , as leaders , if we encourage risk taking we should expect progress not perfection. #leadupchat
A2. To hold a grudge and not forgive just stops you, not others often. Forgiveness may be within so we can move on - @Jennifer_Hogan helped me with that! 😊. #leadupchat
A2: If we do not make room to forgive others we limit our learning and theirs. There is not a time I struggle more with teaching than when limits are placed on my learning. That translates to low morale. #leadupchat
Here’s the challenge - if you value forgiveness, will you commit to abolishing the average - the policy in which we need forgive the mistakes at the beginning of the semester when calculating final grades?
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A2: People that work in an environment that where they are expected to be perfect will not flourish. As a matter of fact , as leaders , if we encourage risk taking we should expect progress not perfection. #leadupchat
A1.2 forgiveness provides me the ability to move forward. Not allowing me to get trapped in a negative mindset to effects what I want to accomplish at FT Junior High #leadupchat
A2: As a Christian, it is also helpful to distinguish between mistakes and sin. Sin is an act against someone else. Mistakes are conscious decisions with good intentions that go bad. The former needs forgiveness and relationship building. The latter problem solving. #LeadUpChat
A2. There is no greater gift than the gift of a second chance. Those who learn from it and grow from it benefit from their mistakes. Ine can only learn from their mistakes if the change their behavior! Do something different! #leadupchat
Q2: going with the great @casas_jimmy for this answer.. no one but yourself is responsible for your morale. Mistakes, learning and forgiving come from being proactive. Let’s not wait for an invite, take the first step ourselves. #leadupchat
Excellent book! I lead a book study with my admin team at my previous school, using this book to help us create expectations & common language. #leadupchat
A1: I immediately think of Lencioni's Five Dysfunctions of a Team. All teams are dysfunctional at times. We have to operate like a family and learn to forgive. #LeadUpChat
A2: Learning comes from the ability to make mistakes.
Mistakes are encouraged/allowed because of forgiveness.
Forgiveness leads to increases morale. #leadupchat
This resonates with me as well...
However, as a leader, I have found it is helping folks forgive others...
But more often than not, it is helping others forgive themselves.
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As the chat progresses I continue to pause with the word forgiveness - bcz it implies initial hurt or anger (to me). I just do not find myself in that position very often #leadupchat
Here’s the challenge - if you value forgiveness, will you commit to abolishing the average - the policy in which we need forgive the mistakes at the beginning of the semester when calculating final grades?
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A2: When a baby is learning to walk, we would never dream of being angry when they fall. Mistakes are part of our human journey. We will make them and so will the people around us. Have eyes to see mistakes as a parent seeing a baby stumble. #leadupchat
A2 Leaders have options everyday. We must make the conscious choice to learn from our own individual and team's mistakes. This requires forgiving ourselves and our team members for the mistakes, which build's team morale and says "we are in this together" #leadupchat
A2) It's important to forgive & not walk around w/anger & resentment. It is also important to accept your own mistakes and shortcomings, & to say sorry when you need to. #leadupchat
A2: When schools create an environment where it is a safe place to fail and forgiveness is taught and practiced, students and staff will thrive. #leadupchat
A2: Many of us encourage growth mindset and developing grit with our school communities in learning. Part of embracing that process is learning to appreciate the critical role of failure in learning- especially mistakes! This is our chance to live what we preach #leadupchat
A2: People that work in an environment that where they are expected to be perfect will not flourish. As a matter of fact , as leaders , if we encourage risk taking we should expect progress not perfection. #leadupchat
A2: We cannot grow if we never try. When we do try & something goes wrong, we can’t give up. We might need someone to tell us it’s okay & to try again. If our intentions are good, then move on & let it go. We can’t live in the past if we want to impact the future. #leadupchat
Here’s the challenge - if you value forgiveness, will you commit to abolishing the average - the policy in which we need forgive the mistakes at the beginning of the semester when calculating final grades?
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That's something I suggest we all do before jumping to conclusions or being quick to anger. First assume the other person had good intentions, & then find out more. Too often we assume, or our information is limited. #leadupchat
Wow! Great points! I was harboring anger with someone over a situation of which I wasn't even closely involved. I saw someone closer to it forgive the offending person, and I was awestruck! It helped me to see that! #leadupchat
A2: With the shift in teaching the "whole" child we must focus not just on content learning but in creating a better community by giving opportunity for students to see what these 4 attributes are and modeling them #leadupchat
A2. They all tie together in that you truly can't learn without making mistakes. If the leader doesn't offer grace and support when a mistake happens morale/culture is low. #LeadUpChat
Agree that this self-reflection is important. We are often not honest with ourselves about our own shortcomings to the point where it is easy to pick out the shortcomings of others. This is something I need to be continually intentional about. #LeadUpChat
A2) It's important to forgive & not walk around w/anger & resentment. It is also important to accept your own mistakes and shortcomings, & to say sorry when you need to. #leadupchat
A2: When leaders admit to making mistakes they create learning opportunities, earn their peer’s respect, and lead by example. This builds a culture of trust and can ultimately boost morale amongst their team. #leadupchat#trustfall
Other religions agree with this distinction. I don't know a lot about Christianity - do people have the responsibility to forgive those who have sinned against them? #leadupchat
Great point! As exceptional leaders, we must understand that humans of all ages are at different stages in their journey. We must provide support and forgiveness along the way. #leadupchat
Revised w/o errors. Forgive me?
A2. There is no greater gift than the gift of a second chance. Those who learn from it and grow from it benefit from their mistakes. One can only learn from their mistakes if he or she changes their behavior! Do something different! #leadupchat
A2. There is no greater gift than the gift of a second chance. Those who learn from it and grow from it benefit from their mistakes. Ine can only learn from their mistakes if the change their behavior! Do something different! #leadupchat
#leadupchat A2 - Bitterness and malice toward someone will taint every decision and relationship you have with people. You can’t lead, guide or uplift others if you are angry inside. Have to get right with people first.
Though we often think of forgiveness as a "gift" we give others, we need to remember that we are actually giving ourselves an important gift. Regardless of whether they ask for it or even acknowledge the pain they have caused, we have the gift of moving forward. #leadupchat
A2: You can't add leaders to your school district's leadership pool if you are always looking for mistakes. Give people a leadership platform, rather than asking them to walk the plank. #leadupchat
A2: An environment that promotes forgiveness leads to the feeling of safety and the ability to take risks. Perfection isn’t required. That’s empowerment. “Believe in me and watch me soar.” #leadupchat
A2: Many of us encourage growth mindset and developing grit with our school communities in learning. Part of embracing that process is learning to appreciate the critical role of failure in learning- especially mistakes! This is our chance to live what we preach #leadupchat
I frequently shared this same analogy with students who came into my office with a challenging behavior. They could identify with a younger sibling learning to walk and falling down. Growth process. #LeadUpChat
A2: When a baby is learning to walk, we would never dream of being angry when they fall. Mistakes are part of our human journey. We will make them and so will the people around us. Have eyes to see mistakes as a parent seeing a baby stumble. #leadupchat
Forgiveness is not the absence of accountability. Rather, effective accountability requires the acknowledgement of mistakes and the commitment to learn from them.
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A3: It's part of life and leadership. Don't make excuses, own it, and be transparent in your intent and the outcome. Things happen, but how we react is the defining moment! #leadupchat
This is such a good point and something that I think is lacking in many classrooms. The one an done mentality does not encourage growth/risk. #LeadUpChat
A2: as a school leader, I try to employ “unconditional positive regard,” into everything I do! This helps the highs and lows of Tt, parents, and Ss! They now we can solve any problem together! #leadupchat
This is a key point, Wendy. When the mistake is made, we must be intentional about learning the right lesson from the experience and use it to help our individual and team growth @MrsHankinsClass#leadupchat
A2: Many of us encourage growth mindset and developing grit with our school communities in learning. Part of embracing that process is learning to appreciate the critical role of failure in learning- especially mistakes! This is our chance to live what we preach #leadupchat
I like your focus back on the team mentality- we ARE in this together, and we can't do it alone. Sometimes making mistakes is embarrassing and disappointing, and people want to bear those negative feelings alone. Focusing back on the team = progress - huge for morale! #leadupchat
A3: Exceptional leaders provide a pathway for those they lead to feel and know that their missteps are not the end of the world. I have worked for leaders that don't let you forget your mistakes. I would describe them as less than exceptional. #leadupchat
A3: If you have built relationships first, forgiving, being held accountable, and moving forward are all easy. That being said, when you are holding someone accountable, the learning experience should be a teaching one, not a punitive one. #leadupchat
A3 Leaders must acknowledge no one is perfect and we will all make mistakes. Discuss what we COULD have done differently and be direct about future action. #leadupchat
A2: All of these begin with self-compassion, that we can be an example of keeping a positive attitude toward our own mistakes, forgive our self, learn from them and we will be leaders that serve and impact others. #LeadUpChat
A3: We forgive them for their mistakes but discuss how we can change this for next time! We forgive and help to lead them in the right direction, building on their mistakes. #leadupchat#edu5213SBU
A3: reminding ourselves its not personal and we shouldn’t let others make it that way. We assume positive intent but still must hold people accountable for their words and actions and expect mutual respect #leadupchat
A3: Forgive, but if it's egregious, don't forget. Or don't forgive if you can't, or if you're not ready to. True forgiveness comes from the heart. Don't say "I forgive you!" if you don't really forgive the person and if you're still hurting inside. #leadupchat
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A3: Avoid focusing on excuses, and instead focus on owning the issue and improving it. When leaders model this, it becomes part of the culture. #leadupchat
A3: I had a chance to hear @ToddWhitaker this week at #CFISDRRR and he talked about teaching skills we want to improve. We can use forgiveness to allow the openness in us, but then hold people accountable by teaching the skills we want to see. Don’t assume they know. #leadupchat
A3 Accepting mistakes and moving on from them does not mean you are allowing people not to be accountable. It just means support needs to be adjusted and we keep trying to move forward. #leadupchat
A3. Extending forgiveness while still holding others accountable is simple. Forgiving someone doesn’t change the expectation. You can extend understanding and compassion and still expect excellence. Tell people the truth with love and dignity. #leadupchat
Not necessarily, but in trying to reach even higher it may happen. If we don't build a culture of failure, then we won't set the bar high at all. That kills creativity! #leadupchat
A3: Forgiveness is the skill of letting go of the resentment you are holding towards others. You can do this as a leader and still hold people accountable. Both skills are needed for leaders to be exceptional. #leadupchat
Kristin, I love that you mention building relsationships first. We must build those connections long before a situation arises that needs our forgiveness. (ideally) :-) #leadupchat
A3: If you have built relationships first, forgiving, being held accountable, and moving forward are all easy. That being said, when you are holding someone accountable, the learning experience should be a teaching one, not a punitive one. #leadupchat
A3: Forgiveness does not mean you are "off the hook." It is the understanding that you are invited to try again, but with a different attitude and belief system. #LeadUpChat
A3: Being accountable directly relates to owning actions that include mistakes, being willing to persevere when the pavement cracks, and allowing others to do the same. #leadupchat Without these things, we go no where.
An awesome hour of learning 7 sharing is just starting & the topic is about the importance of forgiveness in leadership. Tag 3 friends and join us! #leadupchat
I agree to an extent, but it depends on what you're forgiving and moving forward from. If you can't really move forward, don't mislead the person and tell them they've been forgiven. It's difficult. #leadupchat
A3: Accountability can go one of two ways- either you focus on the person and their shortcomings, or you refocus the coaching conversation on the expectations, and how to get there from here. The 2nd option promotes forgiveness and growth, while the 1st is negative. #leadupchat
A3: Exceptional leaders forgive others while still fostering accountability by—while still being sensitive to others—having high expectations and helping ensure a lesson is learned. That is when growth occurs.
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A3: We are accountable as educators to creating a learning environment that is also safe for students to be in emotionally and socially and if Ss are doing something undesirable we have to forgive and get them back on track for the major purpose of learning #leadupchat
A3. Many times leaders get stuck trying to find the line between compassion and accountability. You can be compassionate as still hold bpeople accountable. Compassion isn’t about lowering your expectations. It’s about loving people enough to tell them the truth. #leadupchat
A3: reminding ourselves its not personal and we shouldn’t let others make it that way. We assume positive intent but still must hold people accountable for their words and actions and expect mutual respect #leadupchat
A3: It's part of life and leadership. Don't make excuses, own it, and be transparent in your intent and the outcome. Things happen, but how we react is the defining moment! #leadupchat
A3 Leaders recognize that there are coaching opportunities through accountability. When the mistake is made, the leader has the opportunity to help the team member identify the cause, the lesson, & a better course of action. This connects accountability with growth #leadupchat
A3: Sometimes, others in a school will see forgiveness by a leader as a weakness or as a lack of accountability. Discussions in these situations are important, as they can affect morale. #leadupchat
#leadupchat A3 - You can’t lead if you are constantly thinking about being wronged. Went down that road when I changed jobs and few years back. Things turned around when I let go of the malice and made peace with that person.
A3 I'll be totally honest I find the balance of accountability and forgiveness the most difficult part of being a leader. Will follow answers with interest with this question. #leadupchat
Leadership evaluation systems in which perfection is the only acceptable score insures that mistakes are never acknowledged and never the source of learning.
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A2: You can't add leaders to your school district's leadership pool if you are always looking for mistakes. Give people a leadership platform, rather than asking them to walk the plank. #leadupchat
Relationships are key to all great teaching! If you build those first, more than likely, you'll have the Ss hooked and ready to learn because they trust you! #leadupchat
A3: We forgive them for their mistakes but discuss how we can change this for next time! We forgive and help to lead them in the right direction, building on their mistakes. #leadupchat#edu5213SBU
A3. The greatest of men and women forgive well. They can take even a personal attack & still respond in love, grace & kindness. Pp say don’t take things personally, sometimes it is personal, but you can choose to respond well. Be awesome! Respond in love. #Leadupchat
Accountability is NOT being mean. Accountability is having high standards, providing support, and either celebrating success or providing an intervention of some sort. Accountability is necessary for growth. #leadupchat
Forgiveness is the key to resilience. No one will ever bounce back from failure if the consequence for failure is a career death penalty.
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A2 Morale is the soil. It is who we really are deep down. When we add learning , we are cultivating our soil and expanding our roots. As we forgive, our knowledge grows. #leadupchat
A3: I ask people for forgiveness daily..as a school leader I have to have big shoulders and lead in hard times and good times to make my school a better place for all! #leadupchat
I agree - I know someone who admitted he believed that leaders "above" him shouldn't fail...ever. After he discovered this flawed thought, it enabled him to build deeper relationships! #leadupchat
Brent, I have worked for leaders like that, too, and have been very intentional to NOT be that type of leader. It's not natural to me, anyway, with a background in athletics/coaching. :-) It's ingrained in me that mistakes happen during growth. #leadupchat
A3: Exceptional leaders recognize that a true team is woven up, down, back, & forth with each other. Seamless. If there is something YOU need to work on, there is something that I ALSO need to work on as a leader. How are we each accountable to the other? #LeadUpChat
A3: Relationships are key. When people understand the mission and they understand each others intent and heart then it's also easier to hold each other accountable. #leadupchat
A3: Great leaders should forgive by providing feedback (and using that input to make necessary changes), providing opportunities for mentorship, and ultimately fostering a culture of accountability at their school, so everyone is involved in the process. #leadupchat
A1: forgiveness as a leader means that every day is a new day. However, it doesn’t mean forgetting. It allows leaders to assist with the growth of others instead of holding them back based on mistakes that the leader can’t forgive. #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
A3: Exceptional leaders should model that everyone makes mistakes but what happens after that is crucial. As a school, what is the culture for forgiveness and moving on? Shouldn’t we want to thrive even during our most challenging times? #leadupchat
A3: Forgiving a mistake doesn’t change the expectation. Good leadership forgives while raising the bar...challenging the “offender” to improve and try again. Growth happens IN the process. Others follow suit. #leadupchat
A3. Exceptional leaders take time to talk and offer a time to reflect on what went wrong and acknowledge the mistake. There is something liberating about having the opportunity to say "I made a mistake" #LeadUpChat
A3: Forgiveness is about restoration and letting go of bitterness. I can forgive and do everything possible for restoration, but the restoration is ultimately something both sides must embrace. I can still seek to forgo bitterness, however. #LeadUpChat
When forgiveness is part of school culture: 1). Adults admit mistakes and seek forgiveness; 2). Adults reward students for admitting mistakes and learning from them. 3). Systems that punish learning mistakes are abolished.
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A3. Leaders must remember the consequences of not forgiving someone will impact your ability and future far greater than the person who you are struggling to forgive. The burden will remain with you. You must let it go. #leadupchat
You can forgive because we believe that their intentions were good. Building good relationships would be before this even happened
Accountability is different. Can still be held accountable without 'forgiveness' needing to be in the equation, esp w/ good relationships #leadupchat
“Enthusiasm is a mindset...fueling your school’s culture with enthusiasm starts with you; you are the one who can make a difference. “ -Jay Black in Lead with Culture
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When forgiveness is part of school culture: 1). Adults admit mistakes and seek forgiveness; 2). Adults reward students for admitting mistakes and learning from them. 3). Systems that punish learning mistakes are abolished.
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A3: Accountability is built in the culture and living out the Core Values that are a part of that #TRIBE
We can expect each member to live out the Core Values.
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A4: When forgiveness is woven into the culture I would hope to see that people do not back away from conflict but also have an awareness of the needs of others. #leadupchat
Those who don’t understand the importance of forgiveness have a hard time understanding that true forgiveness is anything, but weak. It takes great strength and humility to forgive and then care enough to provide support to grow. #leadupchat
A4: Ts are more willing to take chances and so are students. I think a culture of wonder and exploration can only be formed when everyone is not afraid of making a mistake. #leadupchat
A3: When expectations AND support have been in place and someone chooses to intentionally defy expectations, there are consequences. Building a culture of trust means people see you follow through with those who do not meet expectations. #leadupchat
A4: It is a place where there is grace for one another throughout the organization, and that is a beautiful thing. We ALL need grace because we all make mistakes. The culture of giving grace is powerful and refreshing. #LeadUpChat
I LOVE that you've mentioned tell the truth! It can be the hardest thing to do with our peers, but we all need constructive feedback to improve and grow. We OWE that to each other if we want to see growth and improvement for our kids, teachers, and communities #leadupchat
This school looks like eager staff, students, and parents. It looks like educational gains being made through vulnerability and a positive climate and culture. #leadupchat#edu5213SBU
A4: a school that promotes a #cultureofyes has everyone taking risks, failing forward, and celebrating each other for trying new things. Growth mindset is celebrated and positive intent is the lens of people in campus #leadupchat
John Maxwell writes, "Everything rises and falls on leadership." Do you want to work for a leader who doesn't hold staff accountable? Do you want to work for a leader who does not forgive? It's an and/both leadership skill set, not an either/or. #LeadUpChat
I can see myself interacting with my students this way, but it would be hard for me to approach a colleague who did something terrible and ask her what she learned. I appreciate this perspective #leadupchat
A3: I must confess I experienced this last week with @PalmaTeresa13 our ESL coordinator.
Love she held me accountable for my choices and balanced with highlights to what I’m doing great!
Great leadership model! #LeadLAP#leadupchat
A3: Exceptional leaders help keep things in perspective!! You know what? It's okay to laugh a little sometimes, too! We are messy-makers! That's what life is about! #LeadUpChat
A4: LOVE must be woven into the culture. If we aren’t intentional about LOVE we won’t see the shift in culture. LOVE mean forgiveness and accountability. LOVE means safety. #leadupchat
A3.2. I am lucky to Have my wife and sons in my school —all 3 of them know when I have a rubber band on my wrist I have had a hard conversation/conflict with someone. They are a great support network! #leadupchat
A4: A school culture that encourages forgiveness is successful. People have to believe that risk taking is encouraged and that mistakes are welcomed. There’s a difference between an unexpected mistake and a negligent mistake- the reactions to both should vary. #leadupchat
The best possible outcome of creating a forgiving culture is that the students take it forward in their life and that it may impact their life outside of school #leadupchat
A4: Looks like a place where student and staff want to come vs feel like they have to come because forgiveness is the character trait most closely connected to happiness. #leadupchat
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A3.1: Leaders forgive & teach.
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I am only human and—no surprise—I have made mistakes. My best learning and most growth—didn’t come from a PD—but a real life experience in which I learned a lesson and my principal help teach me that lesson.
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A4 The conversations are consistent throughout the building: Admin-teacher, teacher-student, Admin-student, etc.: We're all on the same team. #leadupchat
A4: Everyone has a goal they’ll working on, feedback is encouraged, teamwork and collaboration are effective and valued, and everyone treats each other with respect. #leadupchat
A4) People feel safer when there is a culture of forgiveness. This results in more tranquility, unity, and positivity. In such an environment, you will see hard work, dedication, and growth. #leadupchat
Great point. We had mental health specialist interviews earlier this week, and the great candidates spoke of engaging with students by not be judgmental. That's huge! #leadupchat
This is so perfectly said. When we focus on punishment when people- especially kids- come to us for another chance, we absolutely crush the chance for them to come to us for another shot ever again #leadupchat
A4 When forgiveness is woven into a school’s culture it looks like THE school everyone (Ts, Ss, staff) wants to be at. It is the school that is constantly thriving, setting goals, and exceeding those goals. #leadupchat
A4. A culture of forgiveness means:
1. Vulnerability is seen as a strength.
2. Every day is a new start.
3.Mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
4.Your mistakes are not held against you forever.
5. Love ALWAYS wins.
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100% agree! And, it starts at the top! I always tell people that our meetings "feel like we can breathe" because there isn't judgement or expectations to never fail... #leadupchat
When forgiveness is part of school culture: 1). Adults admit mistakes and seek forgiveness; 2). Adults reward students for admitting mistakes and learning from them. 3). Systems that punish learning mistakes are abolished.
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A4: A school culture that encourages forgiveness is successful. People have to believe that risk taking is encouraged and that mistakes are welcomed. There’s a difference between an unexpected mistake and a negligent mistake- the reactions to both should vary. #leadupchat
A4: Forgiveness: The freedom to grow, flexibility to learn, and the power of positivity over negative, which is essential in building a desirable culture. #leadupchat
A4: I believe teachers, students, and stakeholders will take more risks. Innovation, collaboration, critical thinking, creativity, and contribution are more likely in a culture of learning. A culture of compliance can be unforgiving. #LeadUpChat
A3: Leaders should not take away their responsibilities, but trust them w/ something that will foster growth, confidence, & level of trust between the individual and the leader...which would hopefully foster accountability in a positive way. #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
A4: Forgiveness also promotes risk-taking. Teachers can know they can be innovative in the classroom and be forgiven if it doesn't work out as planned. #leadupchat
I am seeing forgiveness & accountability in 2 different spheres. Forgiveness is for those actions that cause pain. I don't think we need to "forgive" someone for mistakes such as a missed instructional opportunity. Forgiveness is not necessarily tied 2 accountability. #leadupchat
A4: A school culture of forgiveness is one in which we are eager to bear the burdens of both ourselves & others. A DESIRE to keep trying together! #LeadUpChat
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Would love your wisdom; at what point do we draw the line though? At what point do we forgive yet let someone go? We don’t want a culture that breeds “I can do what I want with no consequence” either
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A4. A culture of forgiveness means:
1. Vulnerability is seen as a strength.
2. Every day is a new start.
3.Mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
4.Your mistakes are not held against you forever.
5. Love ALWAYS wins.
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A4: it looks like a place where I can take risks and FAIL as an educator & students feel comfortable to be who they are without being judged
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A4: A school culture of forgiveness is one in which we are eager to bear the burdens of both ourselves & others. A DESIRE to keep trying together! #LeadUpChat
Key points from @JohnMaxwellTeam Steve. Important that as leaders identify areas of growth in their own leadership, we are intentional about linking the accountability and forgiveness facets & hone our practice to support our teams with these pieces @curriculumblog#leadupchat
A4: When teacher teams and administrators fail to forgive one another, "The Hidden Curriculum" begins to creep in and impact the written, taught, and understood curriculum. That is truly unforgivable. #LeadUpChat
A4: The school will be having teachers AND students who are not afraid to make a mistake. A caring, compassionate community will arise, full of great leaders and community members. Learning comes from the ability to make mistakes (even if no mistakes are made). #leadupchat
A4: To focus on the discipline aspect of things... forgiveness is key in putting character traits like humility, honesty, empathy, leadership, and compassion into practice! I think we see deeper relationships, more peace, and more confidence grow in school cultures #leadupchat
A4: When forgiveness is woven in the school’s culture, the people within become a family. Mutual support, giving the benefit of doubt, positive interactions. Everyone wants to work in an environment like that! #leadupchat
Forgiveness and creativity - very interesting new research on this. The best creativity environment is one in which people evaluate, admit mistakes, and start over - the opposite of ‘eery idea is great” brainstorming.
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A4. A culture of forgiveness means:
1. Vulnerability is seen as a strength.
2. Every day is a new start.
3.Mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
4.Your mistakes are not held against you forever.
5. Love ALWAYS wins.
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A5: without forgiveness collaboration can become nonexistent. I’ve watched teams fall apart due to holding a grudge and refusing to forgive and back down. Forgiveness is the key to healthy relationships which leads to collaboration #leadupchat
That is the true reflection of leadership. Knowing when and where to draw lines. Good Leadership work happens in the gray areas where we must make decisions. #leadupchat
A4: it provides a safe haven for Ts, Ss and anyone involved within the school. Knowing that a mistake will condemn them, would provide opportunities to foster growth and learning, and building trust & confidence. #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
And parents also need to hear it's ok when their children make mistakes and that it's a chance to learn. They need help and guidance with forgiveness as well. #LeadUpChat
As I’m chewing on this, I think you are right. Forgiveness seems more about emotional energy. Accountability is about navigating behaviors. Something I’m chewing on #leadupchat
A4: should finish this book today by @casas_jimmy#leadupchat I can not tell you how this book has helped my mindset on all things SCHOOL as I transition from a Elem to JH principal next year! Every Ss, every day, whatever it takes!
A5: To be creative there has to be flexibility, to be collaborative there has to be acceptance with forgiveness the air is open and our minds and hearts are free to go and grow! #leadupchat
A4: A culture where all have eyes to see that we are on a learning journey together is a culture of collaboration and shared ownership of the work. It is a culture where all feel safe to make mistakes and learn from them--students and adults. #leadupchat
Q4: Folks show up and do their best work when they are not fearful of making mistakes. I once told an angry parent " look if you follow us around for about 2 hours you are going to see us make mistakes. But we are working hard for our students everyday." #leadupchat
A4: When forgiveness is woven into a school’s culture— EVERYONE feels safe and is willing to take risks—both staff and students.
As adults, if we expect forgiveness—we, too, need to forgive kids...even the most challenging ones. Every day. Every time. #FreshStart#Leadupchat
A5: Forgiving and letting go of hurt feelings or anger allows you and your team to get back to sharing ideas and working together to make them happen. It’s hard to share creativity and collab when trust isn’t there #leadupchat
A5: Forgiveness promotes safety, fostering a culture of risk-taking which leads to the ability to get into the creative flow and share ideas. All feel supported to share voice and ideas grow! #leadupchat
#leadupchat A5 Great question!! Without forgiveness, people are afraid to try new things. In an atmosphere of “I gotcha” People are likely to sit back and do the same ole thing!
When there’s a culture of forgiveness, all involved are more likely to provide input or be creative because mistakes are honored everybody knows that even if they’re wrong their input or solution will be excepted #leadupchat
A5: collaboration often times deals with varying opinions and creativity can lead to learning experiences. You must have forgiveness and the ability to trust others while doing both. #leadupchat
A5: When we forgive people, we open ourselves up to additional opportunities to collaborate & be creative together. As a team, we can accomplish so much more, but we have to leave the past there & not constantly bring it back up. True forgiveness = let go & move on. #leadupchat
A5 Forgiveness removes the traditional restrictions from collaboration & creativity. Team members are less hesitant with sharing ideas, less apprehensive about sharing their mistakes in the classroom, & benefit from the creative momentum during the collaboration #leadupchat
One of the most difficult challenges for a principal is when two or more teachers are unwilling to forgive each other. A stressful work environment between adults can make it challenging for a principal. #LeadUpChat
A5. When you feel comfortable to take risks more creativity & communication emerges! We are putting together a makerspace! My admin encourages us to “think outside the box” #leadupchat
A1. Forgiveness is the acknowledgment of a transgression combined w/humility; empathy and a commitment to believing/seeing more in the transgressor so as to not let their error define them or your relationship with them.-essential to moving on. #leadupchat
A4: Everyone touts the importance of school safety. But they're focusing on physical safety, not emotional safety. Both are important and forgiveness helps on the emotional side. #leadupchat
That gray area is why leadership is hard. It can be a place where judgments, both from the outside & from within, can creep in and cause doubt. #leadupchat
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A4. A culture of forgiveness means:
1. Vulnerability is seen as a strength.
2. Every day is a new start.
3.Mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
4.Your mistakes are not held against you forever.
5. Love ALWAYS wins.
#leadupchat
A5: It lets everyone on the Team give their best (and most unique) ideas and "reach for the stars". This is how 'moonshot thinking' can exist. Your school or classroom/students will be a leader. #leadupchat
#LeadUpChat A5 - We are all flawed human beings who make mistakes. A leader can’t judge someone’s mistakes against your expectations. Have to work towards bringing the best out of every employee. Have to learn to raise the floor before the roof.
A5: Forgiveness breeds trust and acceptance. Having a safe space to spread your wings, empowered to try new things to meet your Ss needs, will impact student learning and creative a more positive culture. #leadupchat
Absolutely. It's unfortunate. We live in a world where transparency isn't always so transparent. Trust is shaky. "I gotcha" often is the go-to thought. It will take a lot of work to right that ship! #LeadUpChat
Forgiveness and creativity - very interesting new research on this. The best creativity environment is one in which people evaluate, admit mistakes, and start over - the opposite of ‘eery idea is great” brainstorming.
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Q4. I think in order to have a culture of forgiveness, you must have a culture with a deep understanding of empathy and humility. When you have that, you have a community that lives with the WE mindset and not a me mindset. #Leadupchat
A5: Forgiveness removes hostility, bitterness and resentment/anger. Once those barricades are removed via forgiveness, collaboration and creativity will flow! #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
A5:
Forgiveness is the like coolant in an engine.
High-performance engines generate a lot of heat. Without coolant, the engine will be destroyed in a few minutes.
Forgiveness & Empathy cool the culture.
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A5: Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. When we let go of pain others have caused, we free our heart 2 connect with others--we allow ourselves 2 trust others again--critical 2 collaboration. We also free our mind from persistent thoughts that impede creativity. #leadupchat
Consider the “five minute rule” - when you really mess up, feel just awful about it for 4 minutes and 59 seconds, then forgive yourself and get back to the essential work that we do.
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Long ago I had to travel for five hours, half way across the state, to be able to listen and learn from @DouglasReeves How amazing is it that on a Saturday morning I can sit right here and learn? AMAZING! #LeadUpChat
Forgiveness and creativity - very interesting new research on this. The best creativity environment is one in which people evaluate, admit mistakes, and start over - the opposite of ‘eery idea is great” brainstorming.
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Like the note about collaboration safety, Elisabeth. Team members should feel free to share ideas and mistakes in the collaboration space without fear of harsh, nonconstructive critique from colleagues @ElisaBostwick#leadupchat
A5: The feeling that you've let someone down and failed can be your own personal dark cloud! Fear of that feeling can hinder creativity and keeps others from connecting with each other & the school community. Forgiveness is optimistic- there will be sun eventually! #leadupchat
A5: It’s no secret that positivity (or the lack of it) can make or break a team; that’s why forgiveness is so important. When someone on a team radiates positivity it is contagious, boosts relationships and fosters creativity that would have ceased to exist before #leadupchat
A5. Any thing that remains heavy on your heart weighs you down. You HAVE to work it out from the inside out and then let it go. Your creativity and ability to collaborate will be swallowed up in bitterness, overshadowed by resentment & stunt your growth! Let it go! #leadupchat
I know I've felt this in the classroom and in sports! It ended with many teammates leaving. One of my inspirations to become a teacher! There needs to be practice for healthy criticism. We have to remember we all had to begin at a starting point. #leadupchat
Q4: Folks show up and do their best work when they are not fearful of making mistakes. I once told an angry parent " look if you follow us around for about 2 hours you are going to see us make mistakes. But we are working hard for our students everyday." #leadupchat
A6: Absolutely. Thinking about a mistake you have made that you can't get passed, cant forgive yourself for. It will interfere with future decisions and block your progress. #leadupchat
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A6: Yes, we are limited if we don't forgive ourselves. If we as leaders can't forgive ourselves, our Team and Students only see this example from the person who should be 'doing it right'. #leadupchat
A2 One of the best things about education is that we are all learning, and can all keep learning forever. Having a positive, growth mindset leads to positive morale. Mistakes and forgiveness = this philosophy. Students will know it's okay to make mistakes. #leadupchat
A6: Yes. We have to forgive ourselves before we can learn to forgive others. We have to accept our own shortcomings before we can empathize with the shortcomings of others. #leadupchat
I have found that the work in righting that ship is often shoulder to shoulder, frequently, in good times and bad, with your educators and students! Show them time and time again you have their backs! #leadupchat
It is challenging. You can use facilitative leadership tools, weekend time to cool down, change teacher teams the next year, 1:1 conversations, reflection, and empathy. At some point, the individuals need to move forward & teach students. Each situation is different. #LeadUpChat
A4. A culture of forgiveness means:
1. Vulnerability is seen as a strength.
2. Every day is a new start.
3.Mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
4.Your mistakes are not held against you forever.
5. Love ALWAYS wins.
#leadupchat
A6) jumping in WAY late, but absolutely it does. This week has taught me much around this exact topic. We must forgive ourselves in order to be able to take another risk that will benefit those we lead & our students. #leadupchat
A5: Leading by example is essential, so, YES, leaders must forgive themselves; w/out they are indirectly stating they aren't capable of error. That would be an oops! #leadupchat
This reminds me of the quote, "We judge others by their actions, we judge ourselves by our intentions." I think judging others' intentions is based on patterns we see in their actions. #leadupchat
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A6: If you are unable to give yourself grace, you cannot give it to others. When you hang onto shame, it's like a chain that holds you back. Muster up that COURAGE, break those chains, and lead knowing you are doing the best you can right now. #LeadUpChat
A6: Driven people are often the hardest on themselves. I imagine that applies to each of us in today's #leadupchat. Let's commit to giving ourselves permission to celebrate our strengths while recognizing that we are babies learning to walk in other facets of our profession.
Forgiveness breeds trust. When there is trust, there is a desire to work together, which leads to accountability. Each one is part of the other. Together, there is success. #leadupchat
As leaders, we send silent messages with our actions. If we can't forgive ourselves, then we are sending the message that we think we must be perfect. Staff members can see that as they must be perfect, too. Hard to flourish in this kind of culture. #leadupchat
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It's a lot easier to be punitive, than to be forgiving and helpful. If an educator shows a student how to forgive and give second chances, the morale improves and more than academics will be learned. It's not easy! #leadupchat
A6 Absolutely. If you haven’t forgiven yourself, you aren’t giving 100% to your work and your team (you’re too busy still focusing on the negative) By all means when you make a mistake, reflect on it, make necessary changes, learn from it, and move along #leadupchat
A1: You cannot lead w/o forgiveness. Unforgiveness cultivates bitterness not betterness! We have that choice to make. You are not an effective leader if you are not a forgiver. #Matthew 18:21-22
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A6: When learning anything, mistakes will happen. If we are growing as leaders, we must expect mistakes. If we can't accept that about ourselves, we become stagnant & choke out others' leadership as well. #leadupchat
A5: If we don't make mistakes, we are not truly learning and growing. But we need to foster a culture of forgiveness to allow teachers freedom to openly collaborate and share ideas. Forgiveness promotes freedom. #leadupchat
Forgiveness leads to a positive culture of error. There is a point, however, when you still must make tough decisions about those who are eroding the precious culture. #LeadUpChat
It is interesting that at times I type and share tweets like a maniac during #LeadUpChat and other Saturday mornings I scroll and can't wait to read each person's next thought. Learning is so interesting!!
A6: yes! It hinders is from growth because we are stuck on the one thing that didn’t go right! Letting that go will foster confidence needed to grow in our leadership abilities! #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
A6: If a Leader never forgives, they carry this list of transgressions with them. How difficult is it to make decisions when you have to first consider all of the negatives? It interferes with your ability to see the whole picture and lead from the front. #leadupchat
A6: You HAVE to forgive yourself before you can forgive others. Often, we are much harder on ourselves than others could ever be. We must model the expectations for others, starting with ourselves, and even be willing to take our own advice. #leadupchat
A6: YES! But, it is SO much easier to type than to actually do in practice. Just finished 2nd year as an AP, and I've made plenty of mistakes in my two years of school leadership! I think of the people I let down in each mistake, and it makes it harder to let go! #leadupchat
Love this quote by Ron Edmonds! A focus on impact keeps us honest. :) Measure if what we are doing is having the impact we are seeking. Celebrate what is working and change what is not. #leadupchat#ChaseImpact
A6: Being unable to forgive ourselves, DOES LIMIT our leadership abilities.
To be an effective leader, one needs to be able to learn from his/her own mistakes to lead others to do the same.
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A6. Such wise words from a super smart woman! @BreneBrown Learning to forgive ourselves and let it go is so hard but important. Something I have to continually work on and it's critical in leadership. #LeadUpChat
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A7: There is someone who I'm not ready to forgive yet, but I can't move on until I forgive her... even if it's just internal forgiveness. It's holding me back. #leadupchat
A7: We are all innately the same - we want to be seen, heard, loved...I will continue to do those things the best I can as a steward leader. Giving grace, and receiving it. #LeadUpChat
Forgiveness woven into a culture is a natural part of growth mindset. Without forgiveness, one won't feel comfortable making mistakes. Without mistakes, one doesn't continue to improve. Forgiveness is an essential component of mistakes, learning, and growth. #leadupchat
I'm a work in progress, too, Debbie. Being at different schools in different roles has helped me to grow & practice this. Also, the amazing educators I've connected with online have been a game-changer with this! #leadupchat
#leadupchat A6 - Think the biggest person we have to forgive is yourself. You have to be at peace with what you have done. If not, you will never be able to get the best out of others. Forgive that voice in your head.
You will make hundreds of mistakes over the next ten years. A school administrator has to make several decisions hourly. It is healthy to reflect on your mistakes and to admit them. I respect you more for admitting that you can do better in year 3! #LeadUpChat
FA: Forgiving others, and myself, is something that I need to be more aware of...not letting the day to day grind keep me from growing positively as well as fostering the positive growth in others. #leadupchat#punkrocklibrarian
#leadupchat Communication is key to have meaningful dialog about things before hard feelings set in. Better to have the hard conversation that to erode relationships. Seek for forgiveness first!
#leadupchat A6 - Think the biggest person we have to forgive is yourself. You have to be at peace with what you have done. If not, you will never be able to get the best out of others. Forgive that voice in your head.
FA: Forgiveness can be such a powerful thing. Our students, parents, colleagues, deserve it- but so do we! In order to truly move forward, we must let go of the past- live in the moment- and prepare for the future. #leadupchat
A6: You HAVE to forgive yourself before you can forgive others. Often, we are much harder on ourselves than others could ever be. We must model the expectations for others, starting with ourselves, and even be willing to take our own advice. #leadupchat
Sometimes the busyness can rob us of making the best decisions about and for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally have to be priorities so that we will be our best selves to take care of others. #leadupchat
A7: My takeaway is that although I know we need to always be modelling the best behaviour, such as forgiveness, we also need to explicitly "teach" this forgiveness and give guidance so that students can learn how to have these conversations on their own. #leadupchat
A6: As a leader you also have to allow yourself to be a risk taker. You have to model that for staff. Also, we have to always remember that people, imperfect people, living in an imperfect world are our most valuable resources and we have to take care of them! #leadupchat
A7: This chat was what I needed today! I have a lot to offer as a school leader, I'm not perfect, and I will continue to make mistakes. I can't let those consume me. I wouldn't want a teacher or student to feel that way, so I have to model grit and grow on! #leadupchat
A7: A very reflective conversation today--loved it! My action will be to help others see how forgiveness lightens their personal load and frees them to be a light for others. #leadupchat
A6: I cannot forgive or lead others if I beat myself up. I get bitter not better. Self talk and cheerleading has to take place. I love my Lord! I love my wife! I love my girls! I love my family! I love me! I love our Lanier County BullDawgs! I love my job! #leadupchat
#LeadUpChat A1: No matter what you lead, it is still like a family unit. All family units have functional parts that each have their own strengths. So it is important that leaders are able to forgive, as no person can be perfect.
As a leader I can set the example by remaining conscientious about my willingness to forgive and extend grace and mercy whenever & wherever I can, yet not at the expense of children. Further, I must make sure my heart remains light so that I might serve others well. #leadupchat
A5 If there is not a culture of forgiveness, learners will not feel comfortable taking risks, making mistakes, and working together to find solutions and improve. Forgiveness/collaboration/creativity foster growth together. Without one, the others cannot be strong #leadupchat
