#resiliencechat Archive
Co-moderated by Dr. Robert Martinez and Sara Truebridge, #resiliencechat focuses on promoting resilience amongst educators and students.
Monday August 22, 2016
10:00 PM EDT
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Are we being resilient tonight? I could use a good tonight.
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Welcome to ! Who is with us tonight?
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YES!! Good to see you, Debbie!!!
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I am trying something new in hopes that my Tweets come through better tonight.
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Director of Teaching and Learning joining from San Francisco but a Midwesterner at heart
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Love it! I'm in the Bay Area too--but a New Yorker at heart.
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Our topic tonight is Communication. Communication in education is key-with parents, colleagues, students, and our community.
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As the sch. yr has started for some and is rapidly approaching for others we need to think abt how we communicate.
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It looks like it might be a small--yet powerful--crew tonight. Lurkers are welcome to join in ;)
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Hey Thomas!!! Good to have you here at --as always!
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Q1: What mode of communication between parents and teachers do you feel works best and why? Phone? Email? In-person? Other?
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Okay all, it's Rob from Northern CA. AKA and from and
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YAY!! My co-pilot is here!!
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A1 Phone. In person. More in person needed.
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I, myself always prefer "in person" too.
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Q1 8/22/16 with and https://t.co/6GBexqkEW0
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Q1: What mode of communication between parents and teachers do you feel works best and why? Phone? Email? In-person? Other?
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A1 Email is good for things that are pretty precise like notices abt needing supplies for Kid O. Otherwise can get murky.
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A1: there are some great apps for P-T communication but cell phone/internet access is not available to all.
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A1: in person with a note handed to them at the same time. Always works for me.
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HELLO, Kevin!! Yes, cell phone and internet may not always be available.
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A1 One of the "C"eeds of So many ways to engage w/parents. Must be sure to be authentic.
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A1. It would be great to clear it w/ parents beforehand. Discover how accessible they are and work to meet those needs
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Great to infuse , and yet, the personal touch is always the preferred method to me.
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A1: bad news face to face it at all possible, personal notes for celebrations
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What is frustrating for me, as a parent to two SpEd kids, is that meetings often IEP & report card pick up.
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A1. However, always good to communicate face to face to begin with, build that relationship
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A1a: Curious about screencasts & video clips on class pages instead of email to share some concrete info
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I encourage tchrs to also do wkly newsletters--sometimes I know the newsletters don't get read
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Have you used this? If so, have you been successful with this as a mode of communication?
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A1 If I could develop telepathy, other could work just fine.
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Love the We have many teachers using to provide glimpses into the day. https://t.co/vxA5hffmrw
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A1a: Curious about screencasts & video clips on class pages instead of email to share some concrete info
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You mean to tell me you are not telepathic?!?!
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Have not tried it yet but hope to pilot with a few teachers this year and maybe the principal
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Good point, Brian. (And good to have you here again!!!)
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Similar with Stds, we need to build routines for parents to access tech to support .
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A1. Also take into consideration,if flipped classroom or very tech-based, of Fams lacking Wifi access
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Sorry , but I'm prepping for Back-to-School Night. I want the event to support that face to face rapport!
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We have had some teachers be brave enough to go w/ and Facebook to bring families into the conversations
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Sorry, no. I get close sometimes in guessing what Kid O wants or needs, but mainly it's a lot of guesswork.
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Q2: What is something that frustrates you abt tchr-parent communication?
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Question.If we want to limit screen time with kids, y are we promoting it with parents who set the example?
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A2 Never often enough. Or it's vague. Often hasn't made me feel as if I am part of their team.
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Good question. Thoughts PLC?
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We can help parents model proper behavior w/computers
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A2: despite multiple platforms and avenues the percentage of people who miss key information
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Yes. What we DO speaks louder than what we say.
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A2: Inconsistency of teacher communication across a grade. Hearing parents say "I didn't know" Lack of action to a request.
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A2 As I have mentioned b4, I get told, "You know your kid better than anyone," but real message, "I know better than you."
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I think it is a balance- If parents can't be present, yet, can be included, tech wins, stds win https://t.co/irZBgPxGnQ
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Question.If we want to limit screen time with kids, y are we promoting it with parents who set the example?
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A2 In other words, go play on the freeway.
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A2: As a parent, I am frustrated by general feedback that is not relevant to my child. Want to hear the teachers' insights
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A2: It ends up one way T-->P. Should invite a response and conversation.
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W/ increasing prevalence of Comps, unprepared fams treat it as another toy
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Q2 from Use in your responses https://t.co/FQdMosKQmJ
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Q2: What is something that frustrates you abt tchr-parent communication?
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Q2 from Use in your responses https://t.co/FQdMosKQmJ
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Q2: What is something that frustrates you abt tchr-parent communication?
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Not realizing that young Ss become exposed to negative behavior w/o guidance
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YES, with such limited time and busy lives the quality of the info. transmitted is impt.
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A2 A number of times from therapy staff. Very condescending. Once blindsighted by someone from downtown. Boy was I pissed.
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a short glance @ youtube comments will show such negative behavior
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but isn't that 1 aspect of the issue, parents not being present? (Need more family time).
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A2 This physical therapist was determined to prove her superiority over me.She is the one who brought in woman from downtown
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Being condescending is something that never works-for anyone. We have to be careful of "tone"
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Need to build parent capacity w/tech communication resources we will come full circle P S T A all gaining skills
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I dont want to come off as Preachy,but my exp how cyberbullies begin
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It's always a quandry--TIME! Such a valuable resource!
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In many ways systems have diminished the knowledge a teacher can share, when we report on stds data https://t.co/VNqlbiiroX
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A2: As a parent, I am frustrated by general feedback that is not relevant to my child. Want to hear the teachers' insights
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Welcome, Judy and thanks for joining in
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Tone, definitely. Acting superior is not a way to develop a team or trust.
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Now on to communicating with students...
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A2 Principals also make a difference. As I have mentioned before, principals set tone for entire school.
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Sadly I have been cyber bullied. not fun. And by educators.
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A2: Teacher communication can be vague whereas parents want and need specifics. Forms can help.
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A2 I dunno,but some parents dont hav time to have a comprehensive convos w/Ts. So how to address that?
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Absolutely! As does the feeling one gets the minutenone walks into the main office.
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A1: Don't mean to sound as if trust is non-existent, however e-mail so both parties have written documentation.
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Q3 - Very important question https://t.co/i2Qgsi9gdV
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Q3: What would you say is one of the most impt things to remember when communicating with students?
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Hi Sara. Apologies for the lateness. Hope all is well.
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Yes. I don't mind them asserting their authority, but don't hinder teachers in trying certain things.
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A3: tell them, tell them, and tell them again... Then have them write it in their journals.
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A3; must always find a way to frame the future from the fountain of hope
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:( I feel like some folks think that lack of physical=not bullying. A prob
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Yes, unfortunately we have to always be aware of documenting when necessary.
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Yes, it protects everyone.
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Yes, all is well here. Hope the same for you there!
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Especially when navigating the special ed. maze.
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It was never a prob. w/ my fam,bc I got decent grades & performed well,but fam were very busy to talk alot
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A3: Be clear. Remember their capability to remember. Put in writing if possible. Confirm understanding.
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Absolutely. Plus many students are undiagnosed yet still struggle.
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Indeed. There's a number of principals and admins on Twitter I wish could mentor some principals here.
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A3 Try not to be dismissive. Children r ppl too, they can understand a lot
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Little late. Couldn't get Rocky and Bullwinkle out of the creek. Failure in communication about chat schedules I guess.
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A3: Show that we care about them by making eye contact, listening, and validating the students' thoughts/ideas
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YES!!! And I really do not like it when I see tchrs talking "down" to students even those in K.
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Good to have you ALL here now that you are ALL out of the creek!
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A3: Effective communication with Ss not one way. Brief, clear, visual, probing, clarifying, on-going, less is more
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A3 Encourage them.Be enthusiastic.Also, don't mutter abt their shortcomings behind their back like my 1st grade teacher did.
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Here's a good question about communication with students...
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Often, the issue isn't the need to be diagnosed, it's the need to be supported, lifted, cared for https://t.co/4zz1XVyp7c
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Absolutely. Plus many students are undiagnosed yet still struggle.
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I confess,Ive done this, esp. in hi-stress situations,trying to stop. Been getting better at it mostly
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Definitely agree with the "less is more" aspect of communication in some situations.
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Q4: How do you break through the challenge of communicating w/students who are reticent to communicate with you?
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A3 My first grade teacher watched me fold paper in half: Seven years old and still can't fold paper in half.
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Indeed yet many times a diagnosis is needed to secure the supports and services needed.
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A1: BEST- Face to Face with all: students, parents and peers. F2F has best chance to produce honest transparency necessary.
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A3b: Don't tell them to "be resilient".
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A3a: Persevere in communication with Ss. If something isn't working, reroute. Try different strategy
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A3 I acted like I didn't hear her, but I obviously remember that moment as if it were yesterday.
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How honest of a reflection. Thank you for sharing with us on
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A3 Still can't fold a piece of paper in half.
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A4 Make self silly. Thats one way, I dont really care if I "embarrass" myself if they open up when I open up
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A4: Try to figure out how they listen best, what obstacles exist, whether the environment is hindering them.
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A4: just continue and be resilient. One day it will all come around.
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...and there is so much to SEE with body language.
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Q4 https://t.co/sa1LUqPl4a
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Q4: How do you break through the challenge of communicating w/students who are reticent to communicate with you?
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A4: ability to engage them in outside the bells discussions will begin to erode barriers
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A4: Give them space, ask one question and let them know they can answer it at any time, and you will be ready to listen.
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There is ALWAYS another way...
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Love the genuine non judgmental space here. You guys rock!
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MS Ss need u 2 be real with them, honest, caring, listen to them.
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A4 Make them comfortable. When I was in junior high, I was still very shy. Sat in back. One sub used to wave at me.
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Part of it is using more "We" instead of "you." Acknowledge my own shortcomings in managing
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sorry have to bow out. Early morning tomorrow. Much love to you all at . You are all wonderful. Peace.
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A3: Communicate. Don't posture.
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A4: Connect outside of class - on their turf, somewhere that they feel comfy. Bond over sports, fashion, music, w/e works.
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A4 Whatever you do, don't belittle them.
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Of course! We're all in a welcoming space! An effort for no cyberbullying here :)
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Yes, they can ALWAYS tell when you are BS-ing them. Their BS detector is honed early in life.
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I agree w/ Dorothy eye contact. Hold attention w/ meaningful conversations...MS perspective!
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I agree that bonding over interests you know they have is a real "in" to communicating with students.
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On to communicating with our colleagues...
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Q5: What suggestions do you have to promote positive communication with your colleagues?
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A4: Show a bit of your vulnerability to connect with Ss. Be human. They respect it.
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A5 Dont go over their heads regards to how they manage their Ss. THat happened @ work this summer,drama ensued
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A5: Don't talk at colleagues, talk with. Ask questions. Listen.
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A5: Trust - get to know them: their stories, past, preferences. Then, work to have an open & honest relationship.
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A5: two ears one mouth use in proportion, clarity however uncomfortable always the best path
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Such an important distinction.
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Q5 https://t.co/hsw5JJKD6T
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Q5: What suggestions do you have to promote positive communication with your colleagues?
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Anyone willing to put a definition to the word "communicate"?
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Ahhhh...that is actually a great question. How would you define it?
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A5: Be patient and respectful to those w different style/communication than yours.
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A5 Be open. Be honest. Be compassionate.
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A5: Listen. Ask how/if you can assist them. Respect their capabilities.
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Uh-oh... P.S. (Love the image.)
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Uh-oh... P.S. (Love the image.)
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I have really been amazed with how different communication styles create such misunderstandings.
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Yep. Lol. It all...worked out, but theres some soured feelings there thatll prob. nvr go away.
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There are times when rehashing what happened at a mtg I have said "We all attended the same different meeting"
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Communication is two-way and serves a greater purpose than any person involved. Something is created as a result.
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A5: Being up front with respective personal accountability.
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As w/many issues we need to take care to not our style is roundly accepted. here 2!
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I like the way you think, Ellen!!! It reminds me of the saying that the sum is greater than the parts.
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A5 And in regards to SpEd parents, don't scrutinize every little thing they do. We need an oasis.
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And to round out our discussion on communication...
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Q6:What are some ways/methods that you/your school/your school district use to communicate and interact with your community?
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. . . . something being . . . ? value your words and bravery! https://t.co/EFMzEGgrsZ
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Communication is two-way and serves a greater purpose than any person involved. Something is created as a result.
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Q6 https://t.co/FrXXVSIVmE
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Q6:What are some ways/methods that you/your school/your school district use to communicate and interact with your community?
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Daily find something positive 2 say. Start a conversation w/a pos observation and go from there
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A6 Emails, some Ts use social media. Newsletters sent home, planner notes.
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A6: Informational nights, parent coffees, weekly Enotes. Could do more with social media and texts.
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A6.2 Also a "hub" of sorts where Ps can see Ss' digital planner
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Q7: What communication tips would you like to share with others?
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A6: Newsletters, email, personal phone calls to parents, social media, handwritten notes, group forums, and assemblies
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I have been under the microscope for twenty years now. Cops called on me three times. DCFS three times.
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I heard you catch more flies with honey than u do with vinegar so again look for the + & then work in suggestions 4 improve
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We continue to make it fun! Check our We seek to include all into
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A7: Be genuine. Use heart. Listen. Show respect to all.
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Love the part about the heart!!!
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A6: schools and division have Twitter feeds
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A7 Transparency. Openness. Don't hide what a parent's kid is up to.
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A6: Weekly Remind to parents and staff. Perpetual, forward thinking/reaching blogs and Twitter dialogue by our principal.
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Very important point--not to hide things.
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A7: Listening is the most underrated communication skill, and the most rare.
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A7: Listen to understand, be open to influence, assume positive intentions, be willing to be vulnerable
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It is important to also distinguish between listening and hearing. Listening-passive. Hearing-active.
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It has been. Traumatic at the time.
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Can't thank everyone enought for another insightful
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Q8: What will you do tomorrow as a result of tonight?
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A couple of times were disconcerting.
