#Resiliencechat Tidbit: There are a number of skills learned from sports that are referred to as "transferrable skills" --skills that are nurtured in sports yet can be applied in one's academic, business and personal life. #resiliencechat
A1) Games aren’t defined by a single play. It’s about the grit, and knowing that each new whistle, bell, or drop of a flag is about using what happened in all the previous attempts to inform the current attempt. #resiliencechat
Funny, didn't even know the topic tonight. I am the most non-sports oriented person ever BUT I've enjoyed watching my daughter's experience in cheerleading. A lot of falls before you get it right. Seems to me that builds resilience. #ResilienceChat A1
I'm a fan of team sports. In team sports, knowing your "why" is a push for resilience. And your "why" is always the family of teammates there with you. And the team's "why" is the individuals on the team. ALWAYS. NEVER give up on or for family. #resiliencechat
A1 I would first say there are competitive and non-competitive sports, individual and team sports, and suggest that each can build resilience in different ways. Promoting overall physical fitness is probably a universal plus to sports.
A2 I’ve had athletes who struggle to win a match, these kiddos are the same that feel they can’t get anything right. I’ve made it a point to email teachers & find supports for academics, as well as finding areas of growth in the sport and celebrating that. #Resiliencechat
A3: I love watching teams grind it out and overcome adversity, Jordan when he had flu against Jazz or the Bad Boy pistons #resiliencechat individually remember Jimmy Connors grinding it out on Tennis courts
A2 I'll also say I've seen even otherwise good coaches and/or parents buy into stereotypes that affect the kids on their teams. Giving girls the impression they don't matter because they're girls, rewarding toxic male behavior for boys...
A3: Canadian hockey reference Steve Smith causes the Oilers to lose with an own goal in 1986, 12 months later lifts Lord Stanley over his head all teammates are thrilled that he was not defined by that play #resiliencechat
Sweet heavens, all the time. Often it happens on every play, especially in football when the failure to be resilient usually results in injury......to a teammate. I love the offensive line 😊 #resiliencechat
A3 Would the time Tim Wakefield stepped into game 3 of the 2004 AL Championship Series against the Yankees, giving up a start to pitch in a lost cause game and help get the Red Sox stabilized, count?
A4 in all honesty, competitive sports for younger kids (6-10) are amazing! They have the ability to teach resiliency, as long as parents/coaches allow the game to be played to its full potential. 😅 #Resiliencechat
Competitive sports for young children is fine as long as the coaching is more about character and resilience and skills than it is about outcome and performance. Celebrating the success of kids on the other team is something I look for in a good program. #resiliencechat
He is possibly my favourite baseball player of all time - clearly not the best in any category, but just a classy person as well as a solid athlete with the added quirkiness of the knuckleball. :-)
A4 I guess it depends on how young. I think Kian at eight was definitely ready. But I coached YMCA Flag Football to five-year-olds, and there was some seriously unhealthy drilling and competitiveness going on around me; I just wanted the kids to play and have fun.
Kian was on a baseball team coached by his uncle one spring, with a cousin on the team atoo. One parent told me the measure of how much respect my brother-in-law held is that every parent felt no one who didn't already know which one was his kid could have told.
Problems in youth sports also show up when parents care more about which team or league their kid is playing in than about who is coaching them and how. Give me a solid coach in a less competitive league over a coach who just arranges the lineup. #resiliencechat
I totally get that. You remind me of a seventh grader one year who was, in her understated way, really upset that girls typically have to give up baseball in middle school. She said, "I'm sorry, but I just don't like softball; why *can't* girls play baseball?"
A5 as a tennis coach I have told my athletes, not all of them will get an award. Only those who showed grit, passion, and resiliency on and off the courts. (Definitely do NOT agree with participation awards) 🤷🏻♂️ #Resiliencechat
A5: Personally I have gotten a lot of awards. They just make me happy and keep me motivated to do my best. But I think the awards are jut an incentive to be the best you, that you could even be #resiliencechat
I don't believe everyone gets a trophy. If you're going to have trophies, make them for team achievement at an age/skill appropriate level. And if it's not age/skill appropriate then don't even have playoffs. Just play the games. Party after the season. #resiliencechat
A5a Honestly? I have no problem with physical mementos of participation. And I think most people who rail against trophies either want a culture that creates winners and losers rather than valuing and supporting all people, or...
A5b ... are just piling on Millennials, the current punching bag for our society. And for the record... was it not Millennials' *parents* giving the trophies they're now reviled for having received?
That makes my heart happy. I suppose, if my own school were bigger, we could add a baseball team. But supporting softball, lacrosse, and tennis (on top of dance, riding, and fitness) already stretches our resources pretty thin.
That's why I finally decided to @ you 'cause I at least wanted to say hi and good bye and good night. Maybe next week will be better as far as #resiliencechat and Twitter go. Way too tired to try and fight through it.
I also think it's unfortunate that most youth leagues I or my kids have participated in put coaches through clinics on concussions, drills, appropriate relationships, etc....but not on coaching for character. It's all driven by legality now, not good coaching. #resiliencechat
As for year round athletes, have mixed feeelings. Often individual athletes are positively obsessed by their passion, okay if it is their decision. Too often it is parent or coach driven. Most division one scholarships go to multi sport athletes #resiliencechat
Sorry. I really am more of a women's basketball fan and couldn't even have told you who was playing tonight were it not in the question.
FWIW, I do think @UConnWBB will have an uphill battle to the championship this year but that they are up to the challenge.
I actually agree with you there. I concede, I was overstating my case. Though not all people who rail against trophies are as kind and thoughtful and nuanced as you and the people on #ResilienceChat. :-)