#Satchat is a weekly Twitter conversation for current and emerging school leaders that takes place every Saturday morning at 7:30 EST. Co-founders and co-moderators are Brad Currie, Scott Rocco, and Billy Krakower. #Satchat's mission is to expand educator's Personal Learning Network (PLNs) that in turn will promote the success of all students.
Good morning and welcome to #Satchat. Today we discuss having those tough educational conversations https://t.co/Lza6WQeJD2. Please introduce yourself.
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Topic: Having the Tough and Honest Educational Conversation
Moderators: @ScottRRocco@wkrakower@wkrakower
Questions and resources posted here: https://t.co/K84yty7NR3
Please introduce yourself, where you & from and what you do in education
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Good morning #satchat! Lauren from NY, currently on leave from teaching 6th grade English to write a book about integrating #SEL into academic classes.
Good morning #satchat! Lauren from NY, currently on leave from teaching 6th grade English to write a book about integrating #SEL into academic classes.
Good morning #satchat friends! Chris, K teacher from Ontario, Canada. Such an important and challenging topic this morning! Happy to be with all of you!
Good morning #satchat! I’m Casey Kocsis, a Title I Climate and Culture Specialist in Hamilton Township School District. I’m looking forward to great conversations this morning!
Morning! Emily, social studies teacher from NJ. Just checked my mega millions numbers and guess I'll still be driving my noisy, aging van for a while #satchat
Good morning #satchat! I’m Casey Kocsis, a Title I Climate and Culture Specialist in Hamilton Township School District. I’m looking forward to great conversations this morning!
Hello #satchat Jackie from CT, US I'm a library media specialist and former HS social studies teacher, a Google Innovator and local activator for @fdesignschool
Good morning #satchat. This is Jessica, Director of Curriculum and Academies in Hunterdon County, NJ. I am going to apologize in advance for running in and out; we have a crazy toddler on our hands this morning!
Good morning #satchat. This is Jessica, Director of Curriculum and Academies in Hunterdon County, NJ. I am going to apologize in advance for running in and out; we have a crazy toddler on our hands this morning!
A1: How to avoid emotions getting in way of tough education convos...focus on why you're having the convo, be prepared for the convo, & listen #satchat
A1 Meet face to face, social media conversations on controversial topics become elevated b/c you do not have to deal with the other person's reactions and often hit send in an emotional reaction without reading what you typed #satchat
A1: Try to remember where the other person is coming from. #satchat You may even have to revisit the convo another time in a better setting or different conditions.
A1: to have courageous conversations, you need to have the end in mind and don’t make it personal. Frame the conversation around what is best for those you serve #satchat
Q1 In Fierce Conversations Susan Scott says we behave emotionally first, rationally second. How do we assure our emotions do not get in the way of the tough and honest educational conversation? #satchat
A1: Without a doubt, I find myself having to take time first. No set amount, just whatever you need and whatever the urgency of the situation can handle. I also will write out the main points or focus on the "data". Helps tremendously. #satchat
#satchat A1 As I have aged not so gracefully I have learned to not react immediately but to mull and ponder before responding within a conversation. If I leave my emotions at the door the discussions flow much better.
A1 Our emotions signal what‘s important to us. If we’re anxious, it means we think something important might be taken away. If we’re angry, it means something important has been violated. #satchat (1/2)
In difficult conversations, we can use our emotions as signposts toward our values—and then vulnerably explore those values as a way to seek common ground. #satchat (2/2)
A1: everyone has an emotion in a tough and honest conversation. Sometimes a person's passion comes out as emotion. Put a focus on professionalism and the message you are trying to get across to the other person. #satchat
A1: Remember that both sides are passionate about what they believe and want. Keep in mind WHY it is important to you and go with the reasons instead of the anger. #satchat
A1: it is important to keep in mind what we want from the conversation and how we want others to feel as well. Then keep in mind how would I behave to get those things. #satchat
A1: Without a doubt, I find myself having to take time first. No set amount, just whatever you need and whatever the urgency of the situation can handle. I also will write out the main points or focus on the "data". Helps tremendously. #satchat
A1: Listening first and understand where the other person is coming from. I am very aware of my emotions during those tough conversations and I try not to let them get the best of me. #SatChat
A1: Emotions do serve a purpose, but we need to be able to label our emotions rather than transfer them onto the other person in the conversation. Be transparent. Explain what it is you're feeling & why. Always remember the purpose of the conversation in the first place. #satchat
A1 I think it's also important to be aware of the other person's emotions and let them vent before carrying on the conversation. Once someone feels listened to, they can often calm down & communication improves #satchat
A1 You have to acknowledge your emotions first. Recognize how you feel and then move forward with the conversation. Repressed feelings usually make themselves known in less than positive ways. #satchat@TheBradCurrie@ScottRRocco
A1 Develop relationships and trust. When we know we support each other and what we are doing, we can be more successful in having direct, fierce conversations. #satchat
I have found if you can introduce a point of agreement into a difficult conversation when it only seems to be black/white, it helps to calm emotions and make both sides believe that the goal is solution not victory #satchat
A1 The conditions for courageous & difficult conversations doesn't happen at the moment. Trust and safe vulnerability happens in small moments before the need arises. Creating a thriving culture where the wellbeing of all adults and students is at the center is critical #satchat
A1: Know yourself, your feelings, and your biases. Know what the end goal of the conversation is (if possible) and try to only stick to the facts. Always remain calm and respectful. #satchat
A1 It's ALWAYS ok to table a discussion of emotions interfere. Being mindful of the other people and their emotional intelligence is as important as knowing our own limitations. Use the emotion to propel the hard topic, or rest and visit later.#satchat
A1: Emotions do serve a purpose, but we need to be able to label our emotions rather than transfer them onto the other person in the conversation. Be transparent. Explain what it is you're feeling & why. Always remember the purpose of the conversation in the first place. #satchat
Excellent point! Don't let the emotion of the short term take over the long term POSITIVE goal of the conversation (or series of conversations, if need be). It's not about winning, it's about getting to a better place. #satchat
We have found the Regulate, Relate, Reason approach advocated by Bruce Perry applies to adult interactions as well as students. Poster in my office reminds me that we are all in need of the 3 Rs approach - especially difficult discussions. #satchat
A1: Susan Scott reminds us of the following when it coming to having tough and honest conversations (and avoiding getting mired in emotional reactions)... #satchat
A1: I’ve learned to follow the 24 hour rule. Really allow the emotions to soften prior to having the conversation. Prepare with talking points to make sure you stay on target. If time sensitive than I put myself in this mindset to stay balanced. #satchat
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A1- because of this factor, sometimes the 1st convo on a topic should be brief, because those emotions will arise. Then you can leave, digest it, apply some logic and reasoning, then everyone come back and have the real convo in a better fame of mind #satchat
A1) I tell both teachers and students that enotions are real and there’s no judgementforcemotions, but how we respond to our emotions is where judgement comes into the discussion. #satchat
A1: Don't ignore those emotions. Identify and name them first so they can have their bit of time first. If we name emotions, we can more easily move into the rational part of the convo. Instead of letting them overage us in the moment. #satchat
A2: Reflecting on what those people are saying and seeing how their opinion compares to my vision. Seeing their "heat" as feedback for improvement helps me. #SatChat
In 1970, only 1 child in 10,000 was diagnosed with #autism. Today, according to the Centers for Disease Control, the number is 1 in 59. Teachers, how recently have you participated in professional development related to #autismawareness? #satchat
A1: emotions are hard & unpredictable. Many Ts or Ps or Ss have to get through the emotion first, before they can get to reason. I let them talk. I validate their emotions, and I then ask questions to help get them over the bridge to reason. :) #satchat
An intentional practice of internal and external self-awareness is a precursor to having conversations where others feel vulnerable. Self awareness and feedback from others leads to emotional intelligence critical to having difficult conversations #satchat
A2: Taking heat with grace is very difficult but drawing on empathy & viewing the other perspective helps. Remembering that leaders need to be strong & what's at stake can also build resolve #satchat
Q2: Q2 Leadership on the Line states, "The challenge of exercising leadership often involves taking intense heat from people whose support you value & need... Taking the heat with grace communicates respect for the pains of change" (p145-146). How can educators do this? #satchat
This is where we need coach or teacher friends who you can talk to about naming issues like this. Sometimes we can't name it until we vent about it with someone detached from the situation. #satchat
A1 The emotion most helpful to open courageous conversations is empathy - it’s the space that allows you to connect the conversation that needs to occur with another person it being a two way process #satchat
A1: Gather & use the facts. Sometimes we cannot avoid to be emotional, w/c is completely normal. But after all the emotions have come out, I have to be think what my next steps are. What do I do w/ the information I have just received? #satchat
Q1 In Fierce Conversations Susan Scott says we behave emotionally first, rationally second. How do we assure our emotions do not get in the way of the tough and honest educational conversation? #satchat
A1- Important to have mindfulness, especially in tough conversations. Also to remember not to internalize another’s feeling of anger or frustration that is being directed towards you #satchat
A2: Reflecting on what those people are saying and seeing how their opinion compares to my vision. Seeing their "heat" as feedback for improvement helps me. #SatChat
A2 If a leader takes heat, that “heat” is a sign that something important is at stake for the angry person. The leader can ask questions to learn what matters to that person. Is there another way to preserve it? What else matters? Where is there common ground? #satchat
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A2: 1/2 I agree with taking the heat in certain situations if it meets the end goal; however, there is only so much people can take. If it happens every time something doesn't go the right way, then that is not something to continue taking. #satchat
A2. This is a constant challenge when you change status quo for the better - I try to remind myself “QTIP - quit taking it personally”. People who oppose change need to be listened to so you gain empathy and can work with them thru change process. #satchat
Leadership is not personal ... too often people get personally offended over education decisions. Have to understand they are not personal attacks on us. #Satchat
Keynote speaker yesterday talked about the importance of actively listening and not letting your own thoughts get in the way of truly hearing the other person. @VMSAtweets@JGBspeaks#Satchat
Q2 Leadership on the Line states, "The challenge of exercising leadership often involves taking intense heat from people whose support you value and need... Taking the heat with grace communicates respect for the pains of change" (p145-146). How can educators do this? #satchat
A2: When the attachment to the desired change is emotional, finding ways to navigate those emotions openly through internal and external dialogue is key. #satchat
A2 Leaders and educators will always receive "heat" in times of change or uncertainty. We will always receive feedback. It's up to us to create a feedback culture in our school, district, or classroom so feedback or heat is constructive #satchat
A2 2/2: I have been in both situations and seen my end goals met and then received the praise, and been continually dumped on for things I had no part in. Sometimes a professional conversation about the situation in necessary. #satchat
A2 Owning the heat to support others. A lot of heat given to educators can be misdirected or misrepresented as an emotional expression of frustration. Get past the frustration level to the real issue. #satchat
A2: Build trust at every opportunity by creating safe spaces, and value your own credibility. I find it an honor when I am trusted enough to take the heat and then get a hug after taking it. Relationships are key. #satchat
A2 If my admins truly listen & consider my opinion, even if they disagree or choose another direction, I can more easily live with it. I try to do the same, not always successfully. Also have learned admitting "My bad" has rewards in other discussions #satchat
A2 When I'm taking the heat, I try to take notes on what's being said. This let's the person know that I'm actively listening & stops me from responding. I ask clarifying questions & then say, "let me look into this & get back to you." This way I respond when I'm calm #satchat
A1: Respectful listening, honest sharing that is also respectful, compassion and empathy are all useful ‘tools’ when it comes to challenging conversations. #satchat
A2: if you’re a school leader, a great start would be to stop taking things personally. If you’re getting some heat, don’t deflect. Jump right into it, ask all the questions, and then actually listen to the responses #satchat
A2 When faced w/ that heated response I remember “it’s not personal, it’s not about me”. I’m just the recipient of s/ones strong feelings that maybe they are having trouble expressing. #satchat@TheBradCurrie@ScottRRocco
A2: It’s important to listen to understand & not react. Show empathy & ask how can I help or support you. There’s a reason someone is responding the way they are & we need to figure out why, so we can address it together & move forward. Be genuine. #satchat
A2 To survive the intense heat, you have to have faith in having built strong trusting relationships with stakeholders and faith in a clear vision for change that is commonly held by all. #SATchat
A2: finding that balance of taking the heat and doing it with grace can be the challenge. You must keep the ultimate purpose in mind and understand that the path to it can be loooong and rocky. #satchat
I agree. Showing the other person that you are actively listening and attempting to help them solve a problem helps to get the ball moving towards success. #satchat
A2 When I'm taking the heat, I try to take notes on what's being said. This let's the person know that I'm actively listening & stops me from responding. I ask clarifying questions & then say, "let me look into this & get back to you." This way I respond when I'm calm #satchat
A2: when someone brings the heat, I remind myself that it comes from caring about kids. Rarely do I get someone who is HOT, just to be hot. I think validating their heat, and also helping them to get a path to the water (even if they don’t like it) is important :) #satchat
If you’re a teacher, how would you approach this with your students? If you’re a parent, how would you approach this with your kid who doesn’t understand? Think in terms of teaching, not arguing or pushing. #SatChat A1
A2 Being present and understanding that sometimes people need to move thru strong emotions to get to the deeper concerns in a more transactional process is key #satchat
A2: it takes a team effort; certainly one person can model the behavior to a positive effect, and if more people learn to engage in self-awareness and then can have empathy for others there is a wider impact on healthier conversations and better decision-making #satchat
A2: Growth mindset with feedback has become so important in change processes. Separating the personal reaction from what is best for the entire organization and ultimately keeping authentic, honest relationships at the core of what we do! Reward positive dissonance. #satchat
A2: This is another situation where remembering where they are coming from can REALLY help the situation. Emotional Intelligence & Resilience is key to be good at this skill. It can be learned! Elena Aguliar's book Onward is a great place to start! #SATchat
Q2: Q2 Leadership on the Line states, "The challenge of exercising leadership often involves taking intense heat from people whose support you value & need... Taking the heat with grace communicates respect for the pains of change" (p145-146). How can educators do this? #satchat
Leadership is not personal ... too often people get personally offended over education decisions. Have to understand they are not personal attacks on us. #Satchat
A2: Taking heat, if that means accountability and feedback. Then that's growth right there. Leaders must be accountable for themselves and for the ones they supervise. Accountability doesn't mean blame but opportunities to grow and learn from the experiences. . #satchat
A1: I believe in the good intentions and valuable knowledge of colleagues. I also try very hard to listen for understanding... thinking, listening some more, and then responding rather than reacting. #satchat
A2 - never try to take it personally, but in an emotional situation that is tough. Kids feel this pressure every day from many adults, I wonder if we ask them enough how they deal with it. #satchat
A2 - When you are personally invested as a leader it is essential to remain open to receiving criticism and honest dialogue when implementing change, stakeholders must have a voice #satchat
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A2 I find taking the heat hardest when I get ambushed (dismissal, in the hallway) at a time when I may not be in a positive frame of mind. At those moments I try not to react
but say, "can we talk about this later? I'm just not able to listen carefully right now." #satchat
#satchat A2 "Taking the heat" is one of the penalties of leadership. But how one handles the discussion can foster empathy, build respect, and lead to resolution.
A2: Leaders NEED to be the risk takers... Acknowledge the frustrations and begin to brainstorm ways to work together so both parties feel like they can be successful. Always go back to the purpose and how this decision supports that purpose. #satchat
A2: As educators, we must do what any highly functional team does...develop strong relationships based on a bedrock of trust, shared respect, and radical candor - all aligned with a shared vision. That sets the stage for honest, critical conversations (vs hiden agendas). #satchat
A2 Anticipate & expect the heated reaction beforehand. Visualize and verbalize how you will respond beforehand. Voice the importance of everyone working together for the good of the team #satchat
Sometimes taking the heat is a form of kindness to the other person, a valuable lesson from my former principal @PrincipalMullen. The problem b/w the two of you sometimes isn't the problem, you need to dig deeper #satchat
A2 Leaders and educators will always receive "heat" in times of change or uncertainty. We will always receive feedback. It's up to us to create a feedback culture in our school, district, or classroom so feedback or heat is constructive #satchat
A2: Just finished this book and they talk about the “Third Story” Which is somewhere between what you and the other person experienced/understood/felt. Look for that and things should cool down a bit. #satchat
Acknowledging everyone’s vulnerability is critical to courageous convos - I work to remember that people sometimes bring past relationship baggage to tough discussions - from parents to peers - makes it harder to connect #Satchat
Sometimes this is hard because some issues a person comes with brings up the past for me. if it is unresolved for me I breath and listen so my past doesn't influence now. #satchat
A2 In our professional growth model we stress critical conversations. We look to interrogate reality so we can get to the heart of teaching & learning. We do this through PLC grpgs and goal setting shared w adm. We have more work to do. #satchat
Q3 In the Fine Art of the Big Talk @DebraFine says, "The better you work to understand other people's ideas, feelings, and desires, the more clearly others come to understand and appreciate your ideas" (p. 14). How to you assure you listen to others' feedback? #satchat
A3: Make notes, ask clarifying questions, and repeat the next steps prior to the end of the meeting; if necessary, follow-up with an email to ensure the other person feels validated #satchat
Q1: Take a breath and wait to respond. It’s a positive habit that needs to be developed in all of us. Responding on an emotional impulse is never a good idea. #satchat
A2 Completely agree. Changes always creates frustration and anxiety but we need to remember we are growing for our kids and there is always someone there to help! #satchat
A2. This is a constant challenge when you change status quo for the better - I try to remind myself “QTIP - quit taking it personally”. People who oppose change need to be listened to so you gain empathy and can work with them thru change process. #satchat
A3: Making your listening physical with eye contact, note-taking, and questions that show you are working towards a common goal. These simple things go a long way in showing a person you are on the same side. When they are not there, it communicates disinterest. #satchat
I am currently reading Brene Brown’s book Dare To Lead. She has great insight into creating healthy cultures where rumbling with difficult conversations is safe #satchat
A2: Build a culture that embraces growth mindset, value the process, learn from mistakes, solicit feedback from all stakeholders, and commit to transparency. #satchat
"Bite your tongue." So important.
Sometimes, we all need to take a breath and ask, "What good will it do for me to say something that can easily be construed as inflammatory?" I know a few people who could benefit from this lesson; I bet we all know some.
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A3: Assure you listen to other's feedback by being humble and empathetic. We don't know it all and the feedback often illuminates important info that can help better our own ideas #satchat
A2: Taking the heat with grace has much to do with servant leadership...listen, understand, respect, appreciate, challenge, support the realized needs. #satchat
A2: I’ve try to promote vulnerability and failing forward with staff. This mindset does allow for conversations and questions but I welcome the communication to keep everyone on the same page. I see so many issues arise due to a breakdown in communication. #satchat
There will always be heat in times of change! Humans like to live in the predictive and comfortable environment but life does not work that way and neither should education. Change is necessary for us to prepare students for life. #satchat
A2: Part of being a leader is understanding human behavior. As emotional beings, people need their feelings to be heard and validated. Understanding that our stakeholders are no different - puts leaders in the mindset to listen & empathize when others vent. #SatChat
Prioritize and value relationships with all stakeholders. Everyone in the building, and all families, should feel like they know you. Build that trust and they’re more likely to see where you’re coming from. #SatChat A2
A3. This is challenging when you hear from others indirectly- just continue to strive to treat everyone with positivity, kindness and create a “We” mentality that is focused on the collective good. A persons character and integrity will develop trust over time. #satchat
I have struggled on eduTwitter when ppl challenge me on an educational view. I will take advice better when it's presented as "Have you ever considered" rather than "Wow, you're so wrong". The latter either leads to an emotional response by me or just tuning out #satchat
A3: Don’t see the feedback as a personal attack, it’s an opportunity to reflect & learn from another pov. Ask questions, paraphrase back to the person, & take notes. Follow up on the feedback one way or another. Whether you agree or not, say thank you & consider it. #satchat
A3 Listen first. As @SusZanti5 said before listen 100% to understand then start a dialogue. If we take time to hear the issues we can help find a resolution faster. #satchat
A3: Take notes and ask questions. Most importantly, take time to reflect and then revisit the feedback. Usually, there are more questions... it's a continual cycle of professional and, often times, personal growth #satchat
A3 To ensure that I am listening, I try to sit face to face away from the computer, put my phone to the, block out my agenda, breathe and listen. #SATchat
A1: I think a natural reaction is to become emotional, but we need to stop and think. It also helps to go into the conversation with a plan if possible. #satchat
A3: Listen! Take notes & ask clarifying qs to avoid misunderstandings. Ensuring others that there is a safe space to speak your mind. Acknowledging the fact that other ppl have valid points & work on it. #satchat
Q3 In the Fine Art of the Big Talk @DebraFine says, "The better you work to understand other people's ideas, feelings, and desires, the more clearly others come to understand and appreciate your ideas" (p. 14). How to you assure you listen to others' feedback? #satchat
A3 Make yourself available. Be present at team meetings and ask lots of questions. Be visible so that you can see and hear the tenor of the learning env. #satchat
A3 Being an active listener is challenging. I put down whatever else I’m doing, look at the person speaking and give them my full attention. I’m training myself to not be thinking about my response. It’s a habit I constantly practice. #satchat@TheBradCurrie
A2: Pushback can actually be productive. I'm currently reading "The Challenge Culture" and it has lots of great takeaways for instructional leaders. I highly recommend it! https://t.co/1ZEPjneSFB#satchat
A3 It’s hard to listen when we feel attacked. We can be honest about our feelings of anxiousness in those moments and say how important it is to us to really hear and understand the other person. #satchat
#satchat A2: Listen, listen, listen. Heat aimed at you is often rooted in frustrations with others. Dont take it personally, you're there to help find solutions to problems.
A3 I appreciate critical feedback most when: I trust the person giving it, it is part of a convo about my growth which includes me in the dialogue about my needs and goals, the person giving feedback is also wants to receive it #satchat
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A2: It’s important to listen to understand & not react. Show empathy & ask how can I help or support you. There’s a reason someone is responding the way they are & we need to figure out why, so we can address it together & move forward. Be genuine. #satchat
A4: Start with cooperative learning strategies so Ss know how to talk in front of others, agree/disagree respectfully, and actively listen to others. Incorporate interactive projects that have Ss create various products. This incorporates fun and skill building. #satchat
A3: Listening to the feedback of others is critical. Sometimes you don’t want to hear it and sometimes others don’t want to hear what you have to say. But at the end of the day it goes back to what’s best for kids. #satchat
A3 checkng for understanding. "I want to make sure I understand what you are saying. . . " ask for clarification. Ask to develop further. "What makes you say that?" #satchat
I see far too many people--teachers and school leaders--whose default is to go on the defensive. I prefer people who pause, reflect, and question, over those who lash out.
I bet kids prefer the former, too.
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Processing feedback should be common practice, leader or not. For me it helps to visualize. Last week I received feedback from students, we created solutions, and I looked at a pic of them when I made my plans #satchat
A3.2 To listen well, we can use SOAR:
Summarize what the person is saying to make sure we’ve got it
Open discussion with open-ended questions to show genuine curiosity
Affirm the person’s experience to show we genuinely care
Reflect back common values
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Though really, this is a very typical type of response in these chats whenever a challenging idea is brought up, so I wonder in general about Twitter educators discussing discussing difficult topics. #satchat
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A3: I love getting feedback - usually I'll jot notes down when I have a follow-up question or an idea that stems from the feedback so I can keep the conversation going. #satchat
Everyone has a story and those stores inform how they engage in tough conversations - why focus on “I feel” gets traction better than “you need to...” #satchat
A3: The resources listed in the Qs notwithstanding, one of the best books I've ever read that helped me be a better listener was "The Art of Listening" by Erick Fromm (a classic must read for any educator): https://t.co/IxBUIZwl2n#Satchat
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Yes. I sometimes have to walk away and calm myself before approaching the subject. That's why I try not to return phone calls and emails angry. #staycalmunderstress#satchat
Q3 In the Fine Art of the Big Talk @DebraFine says, "The better you work to understand other people's ideas, feelings, and desires, the more clearly others come to understand and appreciate your ideas" (p. 14). How to you assure you listen to others' feedback? #satchat
I’m not entirely sure what I do with $1.6 Billion.
I don’t think anyone does.
Do you buy a island?
A boat to get to the island?
Donate 1 M to charity.
Jesus. $1.6 Billion #MegaMillons#MegaBillions#SaturdayMorning#satchat
A3(1/2): Sitting in our own echo chambers( with people who only validates and agree with us) results in stagnation and a false sense of achievement. Sit with people who push back on your work and thinking and be open to that. #satchat
A4: This is very important! Engaging Ss in professional conversations. I have official meetings with students and talk to them about our school and their education. I empower them by allowing them to be leaders. #SatChat
A3: you have to be genuinely curious, asking open-ended questions to understand how the other person perceived a situation and how your actions impacted them. #satchat
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? #satchat
A2 Leaders and educators will always receive "heat" in times of change or uncertainty. We will always receive feedback. It's up to us to create a feedback culture in our school, district, or classroom so feedback or heat is constructive #satchat
A3(2/2): If the feedback is given with the intention to nurture growth then it will be received with an open heart and mind. The more open we appear to thers in receiveing feedback, the more others will receive feedback from us...openly #satchat
Gee, what an inspiring message.
But when the truth is “Vote for socialism, communism, rage, anger, delusion, lies, censorship, minority pandering, demonizing border security, violence, fake news, and corruption on Nov. 6th”... I guess “Democrats” is the better branding option.
A3: It may sound simplistic but ‘listening to understand’ is all about devoting the time and attention to the person who is with you in that moment. Your full attention is really important, despite all that may be going on around you. #Satchat
Listening to podcasts and audiobooks have helped me listen more attentively in conversations - I don’t want to miss anything so I should do the same in conversations.
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Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? # #satchat
A1: When topics are centralized around the facts it’s easier to be objective. Having data to point to makes tough chats more neutral & less emotionally charged. Practicing a logical mindset offsets emotional tendencies. Learn to get all the details before reacting. #SatChat
Listening sometimes requires a lot of effort! Sometimes I’ll stop someone who is talking and tell them I’m not listening and say “give me a minute to finish this because I really want to listen to you.” #satchat
A4: We can build Ss confidence to use communication to achieve objectives by providing Ss opportunities to communicate through those channels. In education setting, sometimes Ss communicating can have a much greater impact than our own #satchat
A4 When Ss come to my office to complain about a T, an unfair grade, etc. I help them plan a conversation with the T or write a letter. We focus on how to express themselves politely & clearly avoiding "you always..." type phrases. Important skills for life #satchat
It’s fairly easy to tell when someone stops listening so that’s when I stop talking. Even in mid-sentence. Or I speak faster to finish quickly, haha! #satchat
A3: well the quieter you become, the more you can hear. In the same way we do with students, ask yourself “who is doing the most talking?” Also, learn to listen with more than just your ears. We might need to think rationally, but dont take your heart out of the equation #satchat
Just because it is #domesticViolenceAwarenessMonth, let me throw out there that how we get feedback matters, & we don't have to reflect on feedback from everyone. We can't be reasonable if we are getting feedback from toxic people who aren't reasonable. #satchat
Have you ever questioned whether or not teachers are living beyond their own means? I know the lifestyle to an extent and you have to consider that possibility.
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A4: Using Improv techniqes, practicing Yes, And thinking helps students understand themselves as an essential part of whole. The whole doesn't work well when voices are missing https://t.co/zkrb0K1u4X#satchat
A3: #satchat I have a link to a feedback survey on my door. Anytime one wants to share how I am doing, they can -anonymously or give their name. I ask for feedback with the survey we have discussed a difficult subject. This builds trust for face to face opportunities.
A4: Create authentic and meaningful opportunities for students to practice 21st Century skills, technologies, and uses in the classroom w/ engaging student-centered inquiry-based lessons. #satchat
A4: Providing opportunities for Ss to practice these skills through activities, assessments, or projects. T modelling also helps provide Ss examples on how we can positively communicate. #satchat
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? #satchat
I know the feeling. Have to do the same in many occasions. I see it as a learning opportunity for myself, #reflection and for the heated situation that I am in at the time. #satchat
That’s great! I need to improve this myself. It’s easy to think whatever thing(s) are on your plate is more important that what someone is talking to you about. Active listening is a big part of building positive relationships! #satchat
A4: Just like we would with our content, Ts need to mode their emotions. In my math class, I will let Ss know when I am feeling a certain emotion. When problem solving I often ask them to do the same - articulate when they're confused, frustrated, proud. #satchat
A4: To encourage more students: utilize micro-learning activities, build their confidence, start with topics in their “wheelhouse”, show products to small audiences w/ the ultimate goal of showing to authentic audiences. #satchat
I'll ask "What are you feeling right now?" We'll work thru a tough problem... And as soon as they've been successful I'll ask the question again, hoping the positive emotion is the one they remember and associate with a good feeling. #satchat
A3 always maintain an open mind. Listening does not require an action or response. Ponder on the response warranted. Sometimes active listening is the only action needed #satchat
A2: By having established relationships with those you serve. Sometimes conversations are easier to handle if they truly know your sincere and honest about the issue. #satchat
A2 Taking the heat with grace...to me this is a growth mindset. Mistakes are made when we are learn & grow. If we stay too safe we risk limiting growth & learning outcomes. Collaborate, learn, collaborate & learn. Make the best decisions for the students we have. #satchat
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? # #satchat
A1: emotions are hard & unpredictable. Many Ts or Ps or Ss have to get through the emotion first, before they can get to reason. I let them talk. I validate their emotions, and I then ask questions to help get them over the bridge to reason. :) #satchat
A4: Simple: Provide opportunities for students to engage early & often with authentic, real-world audiences that are OUTSIDE the classroom and school. High expectations with high support. Is your school part of @ShareYourLearn? #ShareYourLearning#LearnByDoing#satchat
A4 becoming an effective communicator is more media broad today but basics of effective communication transcend media - F2F remains most effective way to connect as humans in 2 way convo / kids need practice + coaching as they age up in reading writing listening speaking #satchat
A4. “Content matters but skills matter most” - this is at the heart of classroom instruction. Use rigorous, relevant methods that connect to real world. #satchat
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A4 To cultivate public speaking skills, we need to give our students lots of modalities and opportunities to speak. We also need to tease out and actively TEACH specific speaking skills instead of just sticking them on rubrics. #satchat
A4 We need to model doing these things for Ss and provide lots of opportunities for them to have hands on practice. They’ll build confidence the more practice and exposure they get. #satchat@TheBradCurrie@ScottRRocco
No doubt! A little humility goes a long way... I try to start a contentious conversation by talking about what I contributed to the problem and I am looking for folks to acknowledge their contribution. #satchat
A2: Reflecting on what those people are saying and seeing how their opinion compares to my vision. Seeing their "heat" as feedback for improvement helps me. #SatChat
A4 Invite students into professional development to learn and share. HS Ss listing ways we engage families at yesterday's Training #satchat#studentvoice
A4: Teach Ss communication & active listening skills. Give Ss time to converse, present, & disagree respectfully. Model good communication. Coach Ss to work through their problems & to support their opinions clearly. Give specific feedback. Do this authentically & daily. #satchat
A4: Provide opportunities 4 students to practice these skills. Long term research projects which allow 4 students 2 express their learning in video, blogs, screenplays, ted talks will get kids "good" at these skills. The more u practice with feedback, the better you get. #satchat
A4. Encouragement, modeling and practice. Our MS offers a Digital Media elective where Ss produce a news program that's broadcast to the school. #Satchat
I agree. I don’t want people around me to always agree. I want people to check me at times if they disagree. This forces reflection on my end and often results in a better decision. For this level of comfort you need to create that environment and culture. #satchat#cultureEd
A5 Give them time to talk to one another. IMHO depriving them of recess time and having "Do Now" lists while Im monitoring the hallways only lessen the time where they develop skills of listening & expressing opinions w/out supervision. Messy, yes, valuable, absolutely #satchat
So few educators do this. I try to not have an answer do I can really hear the person. #satchat no need to be defensive or assertive in these type of situations.
A5: Communicating your vision is very important. Remaining consistent is key, also asking questions and observing what it is going on in the school. #SatChat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators knows what to do? #satchat
A5: Make it part of everything you and the school does. Imbed it in all activities, learning structures, PDs, meeting, everything. Show them your passion; don't just tell them and expect them to jump on board. #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators know what to do? #satchat
A4: When the learning is potentially challenging, it is essential to create safety from the start. Just like S's, T's can't learn if they are emotionally safe. #satchat
So far you've hit two on the typical response when challenged check list: We are nit talking about that, and you're being negative. This is what happens to conversation when people are more interested in curating their public image over doing hard things. #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators know what to do? #satchat
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A4: It's important to build that safe and secure space first. They won't be confident if they don't feel safe. Also, start with familiar content so you can focus on developing communication skills. This applies to both students and teachers. #satchat
A4: Success in communication comes from knowing who I am and what I believe...hopefully coming from a positive sense of self...let’s help our students believe in themselves, first...help them to understand that their potential to influence for good can be limitless! #satchat
A4: #satchat We MUST work intentionally to build student voice in our classrooms. Building community requires intentionally designing lessons that require the students to use their voices. They have much to say!! Let's be bold and listen. Let's ask them how we are doing daily!
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A4: create safe spaces and clear guidelines for Ss to have conversations not topics that they care about. Promote active student leadership programs that demonstrate that student voice is respected. Then listen, listen, listen!#satchat
A3: Listen to learn & understand - not to respond. Practice active listening awareness, don’t begin formulating a response to a speaker until you have heard them thoroughly and asked clarifying or follow up questions. #SatChat
A4 Feedback cultures include creating clear intentions before meetings or conversations, a process for checking for clarity or confusion, and checking in with each other when we are creating stories in our head about what was said or decided #SatChat
Love that. I recently told my daughter, when starting a potentially contentious conversation with a teacher, it's best to begin by taking some blame for the situation, before saying what the T did that upset you.
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A5: Understand that getting your vision across is not going to happen in one conversation. Ask questions, seek feedback, give others an opportunity to voice concerns. Visionaries know that their vision's number one investment is time. #satchat
A5: This is a tough one & I work at this every day. If others don't understand message, communication may be ineffective. I would say clear, consistent communication of the vision using words if necessary #satchat
Indeed. I certainly mimic the behavior of listening and nodding, but have to stop myself. So being aware you're not listening is a key for me. And then stating so. #satchat
Listening sometimes requires a lot of effort! Sometimes I’ll stop someone who is talking and tell them I’m not listening and say “give me a minute to finish this because I really want to listen to you.” #satchat
Indeed! Authentic activities (ideally done in a #PBL framework) with authentic audiences (during the project, as well as public exhibitions) are what help to build these essential skills. @BIEpbl@openwaypbl#satchat
A4: Create authentic and meaningful opportunities for students to practice 21st Century skills, technologies, and uses in the classroom w/ engaging student-centered inquiry-based lessons. #satchat
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A5 - I think this question gets to the core of teaching and leading. If your team (students, teachers, administrators) don't get it you failed. But to me there's another part... the team has to feel comfortable to tell you they don't get it. You create that comfort. #satchat
A5: Ask them. Plain and simple. As my Student Family Support often says, "Tell me for real for real...you won't hurt my feelings." This has led to some significant growth. #satchat
A4: I’m all about project-based learning. Make it real and authentic, and not just something that exists in the classroom. There is nothing more confusing to me than assignments for assignments sake #HackingPBL#satchat
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? # #satchat
A4 How do build student’s skills to communicate? Give them authentic assignments where they are writing, speaking and collaborating with audiences on the classroom, school, regional and global level #SATchat
I find it necessary to use multiple ways of collecting feedback including group reflection. Need to make it feel safe and seeing others provide feedback that is well received can help. #satchat
As some say if you taught it and they didn’t learn.. we’ll revisit the teaching before blaming the learning - think it applies to communication in general #satchat
Definitely! We learn so much from feedback. I feel undermined when people agree with me face-to-face & then I find out they disagree behind my back. Honesty may feel more hurtful at first but is so much more helpful in the long run. #satchat
A5 follow up to check for understanding, send out information in different format from how it was delivered first time, provide support when it is not clear and take responsibility for lack of clarity with grace not blame #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators know what to do? #satchat
A5. Communication may be the sole reason why some leaders or initiatives fail - must communicate effectively and efficiently. For staff - keep it focused on the vision and use many 1:1 discussions for checking w staff to support their work. #satchat
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A3: The key word in that question is to “listen”, allow teachers to suggest, vent, problem solve, etc. You can use surveys, round tables, and meeting to do it, but the good ol’ fashioned conversation 1:1 is the best. #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators knows what to do? #satchat
A5 if you ecplain your "WHY" well, you should get everyone to at least understand if not agree. Simin Sinek is a genius https://t.co/t6zZMlUC0k#satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators know what to do? #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators know what to do? #satchat
A4: #satchat In order to enhance communication various platforms and skills must be utilized and developed. This generation of learners have early exposure to tech-tools so we as educators must focus on refining basic pragmatics! #lookmeintheeye#socialcueing@ScottRRocco
Great parenting advice! ‘Cause it would help to approach their parents the same way. (As I typed it was autocorrecting “parents” to “partners”... clearly Twitter knows this can apply to any relationship!) #SatChat
Love that. I recently told my daughter, when starting a potentially contentious conversation with a teacher, it's best to begin by taking some blame for the situation, before saying what the T did that upset you.
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A5 A vision should not be a one time, in the moment statement. A vision should be lived out in a health, productive way daily. We should see our vision in actions as well as checking in with others in both small and more formal moments #SatChat
A5 To ensure others hear and can act upon our message, we can transform our presentations into workshops. Participants need to experience something instead of just hearing us talk. #satchat
Q5: I find that when I present and speak, I'm not actually listening. In order to listen and see if the audience is on same page, I have to stop and take an informal poll asking the audience to raise their hands. #satchat
A4 Begin with Ss sharing with their peers. “Turn and talk” builds confidence in expressing their opinion. Group presentations are a way to strengthen the skill as well #satchat
#satchat A3: Once you've listened, actually try to find solutions. Do something. What under your control would make an difference. It may not solve the problem, but people appreciate the effort.
A1: It’s hard! We have to remember not to take it personally. It takes lots and lots of practice and we can get better when we practice reflection after conversations. #Satchat
A5 I ask them, “What questions do you still have and would you be able to teach this to others?” I also think by creating a good relationship with people they feel comfortable straight up telling me when they are confused or I make no sense! #satchat
A4: embedding these soft skills into curriculum is key, especially in today’s world. I don’t think students get enough of it unless they are taking a public speaking class. #satchat
A4 Give students opportunity to join with staff, parents, community to discuss school improvement. Supt. talked with students to hear their voice #satchat@schooldist186
It took my a long time to understand that after awhile, if you cannot build consensus for your educational view, you may be the one wrong. Difficult to accept, & Im not perfect, but for the good of the community, sometimes it's good to shut my mouth #satchat
A5: Collaborate & ask for input before sharing. After, seek feedback, listen carefully to questions & surrounding conversations, keep the lines of communication open, be present, follow-up with offered support, & self-reflect. Always make a connection & explain the why. #satchat
We cannot find solutions or reach consensus if we don't voice our disagreements. Talking behind someone's back takes us nowhere, but addressing the issues head-on is much more productive. #satchat
A5 - when preseting information or introducing new concepts build in points of understanding and try not to go on until you are sure those you are speaking with understand. #satchat
I also notice that sometimes the listener may protest or argue at that moment, but I learn later they actually heard what I had said. Meaning it does get through, but not in the way you'd expect. #satchat
A1: It’s hard! We have to remember not to take it personally. It takes lots and lots of practice and we can get better when we practice reflection after conversations. #Satchat
A5: Litmus test for a true, shared mission/vision: If you were to ask ANYONE in the organization to write it down, could they? If not, it's not a true SHARED mission & vision and you have work to do. (reference this video at the 21:35 mark): https://t.co/cKYqfhWrh1#satchat
A5: You can't just share your why; you must live it everyday. Your staff has to see your commitment through your daily actions and encouragement. #satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators knows what to do? #satchat
Having spent time abroad in Taipei. I've learned that many students there can create 200 text messages no problem, but often times lack the skills to carry on two way face to face conversations. #satchat
A4: embedding these soft skills into curriculum is key, especially in today’s world. I don’t think students get enough of it unless they are taking a public speaking class. #satchat
Haha! Yep, I think it applies to any relationship. I’ll often start with “I may be completely wrong here” or something where I take blame or expose some level of vulnerability. #satchat
A6: Constant reflection and feedback from those around me. You have to be honest with yourself and those around you; find those you trust and trust them to be honest with you. That's the only way to reach your goal successfully. #satchat
A5 It is so important for leaders to create first the conditions for how all stakeholders treat each other, create healthy relationships, and are able to live out their strengths in a productive way. Strengths understanding + thriving wellbeing + engagement #satchat
LAST QUESTION
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
A5: Clarity of purpose is essential...knowing and sharing your ‘why’...plus making strong efforts to share empathy...sometimes I feel these things are missing when leadership is attempting to communicate messages and/or influence the practises/actions of others. #satchat
A6: Explaining the why! Even though I am an admin, I see myself as a teacher, and I want others to see how I developed my vision and why I feel it is important for our students. #SatChat
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
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Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat#satchat
Because it's a paradigm shift from what we have been led to believe school is supposed to be (teachers lecturing bored Ss, desks in rows, worksheet "learning," canned lessons, etc.). It is in fact not easy, but it leads to much deeper learning - what we are here to do! #satchat
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
#satchat A4: too often adults are quick to give kids fast answers, life lessons, and don't take time to listen. Ask questions, and then take the time to listen. Let them talk and talk, and talk. Then transfer those comms skills to writing.
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? # #satchat
Totally agree. Include the positive aspects first. I find that talking about what went right before the hard conversations opens the person to hear my input and collaborate on how to resolve or improve. #satchat
A5 I first used this book as a young admin to focus on the “soft” side of the work in challenging convos - have found over time communication skills aka people skills may be the most challenging part of our work with people #satchathttps://t.co/6waRoOVOFP
Probably need to look for clues as to actual comprehension and not simply the head nods. I often repeat some to the effect of "I can imagine someone asking. . ." in order to illicit feedback #satchat
A5 - when preseting information or introducing new concepts build in points of understanding and try not to go on until you are sure those you are speaking with understand. #satchat
A5: Multiple times, multiple ways. It’s good for kids and it’s good for adults. Educators often battle feeling overwhelmed. Help with the why, where, how do we begin...and keep revisiting. Start with THE WHY! #Satchat
Q5 Extreme Ownership states, "it doesn't matter how well you feel you presented the information... if your team doesn't get it... you have failed" (p. 140). How do you assure your message is understood, your vision is clear & your fellow educators knows what to do? #satchat
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A6: To engage in an open & honest dialogue avoid groupthink; surround yourself w/ a diverse group of people; solicit a wide range of ideas, inputs, & feedback. #satchat
A6: We can have ongoing, honest communication w ourselves by being self-aware and reflective. We need to be very aware of how our actions communicate a vision & reflective enough to make adjustments if needed #satchat
Don’t restrict them! Don’t block what they can access, be their guide—and most important, model by doing this yourself. Treat it as more than a thing that’s good to know how to do; embed this into your culture of learning. #SatChat A4
Q4 In Most Likely to Succeed @DrTonyWagner says, "kids will also need to be good at public speaking, making a video, writing a blog... and using communication to achieve a range of objectives" (p. 141). How do we build students' skills & confidence to do this? # #satchat
A1: I find it can be powerful to revisit a conversation after an emotional response. We’re all emotional and people will forgive an inappropriate response. Coming back later to discuss your response and apologize provides space for the emotion without undermining trust. #satchat
A5 return to the message in multiple meetings over time, returning to the message at every opportunity, inviting discussion and drop in questions. You have to embrace the message and work tirelessly in its service #SATchat
A6 - no matter your role in education we must all be reflective and critical of our ability to communicate and have tough conversations. No one is perfect at them & without self reflection we don't get better. #satchat
A6: Share your vision with others, let them know your why -- and then look for them to give you honest feedback, emotions removed. Who knows, maybe you'll get one of them on board with your vision, too?! https://t.co/TfkpupuVN4#satchat
#satchat has been my Saturday mornings for too long too remember. https://t.co/f7xoPqzSYZ. Thank you whether I actively converse or just actively listen
Q6: I think the first step for the presenter is to have good listening skills. If you're unwilling to listen to others and uncoachable, there's no opening for others to contribute #satchat
LAST QUESTION
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
A6: Have a vision that everyone was a part of creating, know where your priorities are, and try to stay as consistent as possible. You may have to bring people back to the vision a lot to help them live it. It may need to be revisited as well. #SatChat
LAST QUESTION
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
A6 Im going to steal a slogan from Christian History (sorry, I cant help myself, Im a history teacher) "Reformed and Always Reforming." Reflect on ways I can do things better for the sake of my students & admit when Im wrong (not easy) #satchat
Agreed. I’ve had success with this approach as well. Nonverbal communication is important as well. Little things like where you position yourself during these conversations is vital. Physical barriers? Are you leaning in or sitting back? Head nods? #satchat
A6 In EMPOWER Your Students, we include tools teachers (and students) can use to monitor how their actions match their values. Learn more: https://t.co/gJkpGucobu#satchat
A6: I am incredibly critical of the decisions I make no matter how small or big. I am also critical of the conversations I have with folks. It’s okay to be tough on yourself for the simple fact that it will often bring out the best possible outcome for students #satchat
A5 is it because your team doesn’t get it or are they in disbelief that you are even asking. Seriously ... you’re asking me to do what and for what purpose ... awesome another poster to hang on my wall with the current Ed buzzword (sarcastic tone) #Satchat
A6: Good leadership when you are honest with who you are & where you are. Acknowledging yours(and others') strengths &weaknesses opens the gates to honest conversations leading to holding on to your vision but also creating a shared vision w/the entire school community. #satchat
A1 depending on situation - saying .. modeling clarifying questions and restating “what I heard you say is .. did I get that the way you intended me to hear it?” And sometimes depending on situation key to put in writing afterwards as a followup #satchat
A6: courageously seek out feedback from critical friends and then invest time in processing that feedback rather than dismissing it. #EasierSaidThanDone#satchat
I am constantly reflecting on my work and the strengths and weaknesses within it - the most important part of this is seeking feedback and having a critical friend / colleague to discuss it with #satchat
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
A6 Tasha Eurlich in the book Insight refers to this as internal self awareness. Know your own unique strengths, do what you do best, empower others to do what they do best, reflect regularly on your own wellbeing and actions. #SatChat
A6 Reflecting on yourself honestly is hard but so important! The trick is to acknowledge missteps but not beat yourself up over them. You are not your mistakes. Learn from them and do better! #satchat@TheBradCurrie@ScottRRocco
A6: Being reflective and having a support group to bounce ideas from really helps. It’s ok to be alone to reflect, but you can’t always do it alone. #satchat
Almost 30 years ago, I had to read the Dale Carnegie classic "How to Win Friends & Influence People" for a course and I still refer to it from time to time. If you don't have a copy, I highly recommend it based on this conversation today #satchat
A6: Daily personal reflection is essential...trying to understand how your ‘world’ is impacting you and how you are impacting others is so important...then you are better grounded to truly ‘make a difference’ in your relationships with others. #satchat
A6: I constantly reflect on what my message is, how consistent I am with it and how I'm providing it. Self-reflection leads to self-correction which I hope leads to more consistent and better conversations.
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Yes please! This this this!
Why do schools choose not to have students in the building so teachers can learn? They’re why you’re there! Bring ‘em in! #StuVoice#SatChat
A4 Invite students into professional development to learn and share. HS Ss listing ways we engage families at yesterday's Training #satchat#studentvoice
When it gets to the point liberals are even sending death threats to a Melania Trump look-alike, you know it's time to vote all liberals out. Every one. Enough of the madness.
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A5 Check for understanding before ending the conversation, follow up by asking how things are going or what support is needed. Communication is not a “one shot” deal. It is a give & take process that happens through multiple encounters #satchat
A6: so much value in reflecting on your actions and interactions and constantly questioning your goals. Without such reflection you become dogmatic and will lose the respect of those you are working with #satchat
Yes, I try to sit next to the person rather than across my desk or any desk. I get out of my office, meet the teacher in the classroom, or other location in order to work things out. #satchat
#satchat PLN please add a story about the value of being connected outside your school & country to this flipgrid. You will tremendously help my colleagues in a PD experience! Thank you! https://t.co/6asqxMEzw4 code: GlobalEd
A6 This is also where a personal coach is incredibly beneficial. Someone outside the workplace that partners with you to reflect on your strengths, current state of wellbeing, aiming your strengths at outcomes #satchat
Yes! This is so important! Establishing norms and following set protocols is an important step in establishing a culture for the necessary, critical conversations to occur in a positive manner. https://t.co/YIIjR48Q79@SchoolReformInc#satchat
A4 Feedback cultures include creating clear intentions before meetings or conversations, a process for checking for clarity or confusion, and checking in with each other when we are creating stories in our head about what was said or decided #SatChat
#satchat thank you for this amazing conversation. Excellent questions & I love the resources you shared. I'll be going back to sift through all these incredible tips & strategies.
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- Time travel
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A6: It's hard to do this by myself. I do some deep, critical thinking, but I'm intentional about surrounding myself with others who help me #becomebetter, who give me advice, perspectives, ideas, and who check my blind spots to make sure I'm seeing the whole picture. #satchat
Q6 In Fierce Conversations the author states that the most successful leaders... engage in an ongoing, honest conversation with themselves... to hold true to their vision and enroll others in it. How do you do this? #satchat
Wow that hour went fast.
Thank you #satchat PLN for another great conversation on a tough topic!
We are back next week at 7:30am EST.
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Enjoy your weekend.
I'm not in the convo but this tweet speaks to me.
This tone and dismay can be found in many workplaces. (motivational posters...)
Schools should be safe & supportive zones for students and adults alike...
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The Power That Brings the World to Its Knees
“Every God-begotten person conquers the world’s ways. The conquering power that brings the world to its knees is our faith. The person who wins out over the world’s ways is simply the one who believes Jesus is the Son of God”
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I'll ask "What are you feeling right now?" We'll work thru a tough problem... And as soon as they've been successful I'll ask the question again, hoping the positive emotion is the one they remember and associate with a good feeling. #satchat
A6: I take feedback from others & have honest conversations with professionals I trust. I ask for clarification or help when I need it. I use guiding Qs to reflect. I make lists of what went well & what didn’t. I check frequently to see if my actions align w/ my goals. #satchat
A4: Opportunities for students to engage in these experiences with the notion of self expression. This allows them by free and willing to take risk in writing, blogging and speaking. #satchat
My wife is that personal coach. She always tempers me, sees things from multiple points of view, and gives awesome advice. She makes me a better man and that has made me a better teacher #satchat
A6: Engaging in consistent honest re-evaluation of yourself often happens as you're drifting off to sleep...but when you have those thoughts you must write them down & acct on them. #satchat
Totally agree! That's what is important. Developing relationships is a major part of communication and in a heated situation or discussion, reflecting first helps me put my mind in the right frame to work together to move forward. #satchat
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Ummm, anyone notice from the pictures of the migrant caravan coming from central America that it's a lot of adult males.........
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A4 When Ss come to my office to complain about a T, an unfair grade, etc. I help them plan a conversation with the T or write a letter. We focus on how to express themselves politely & clearly avoiding "you always..." type phrases. Important skills for life #satchat
A6: #satchat I am in my second year of working on one of Hattie's mindframes at a time. I am deliberate and reflective. I added the principles of Collective Leadership from @PeterMDeWitt this year and focus on one at a time with intentionality.
A3(2/2): If the feedback is given with the intention to nurture growth then it will be received with an open heart and mind. The more open we appear to thers in receiveing feedback, the more others will receive feedback from us...openly #satchat
Thanks for a great start to the weekend #satchat Now Im off to the world of dropping of one kid at dance practice to get ready to perform Thriller & coach rec soccer for 2nd & 3rd graders. Have a great weekend too! Im out!
Thank you to our amazing #PLN for another great #Satchat.
We are back next week at 7:30am EST.
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A6: when I’m frustrated I think to myself... what was my role in this? Acknowledging ownership helps me stay honest with myself. Then I’m leading from a place of ownership and acceptance, not avoidance. #SatChat
