Welcome to another exciting edition of #GAHSFBCHAT coaches. Tonight's chat is guaranteed to be a thriller, as @TBrianKight of @Focus3_Team will be our guest host.
Let's kick things off with intros to c who's in the house tonight.
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We follow the Focus 3 method. Attended your training last March. Teach the skills in classroom setting. Then, reinforce ideas in live events. Also, HBC is using The Real Man Program to teach life skills in conjunction with Focus 3. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1: By understanding the impact of their choices on those around them and themselves. Our choices impact more than just ourselves. Create value and worth around your organization so the players don’t want to hurt the program. #GAHSFBCHAT
We follow the Focus 3 method. Attended your training last March. Teach the skills in classroom setting. Then, reinforce ideas in live events. Also, HBC is using The Real Man Program to teach life skills in conjunction with Focus 3. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1: w/leadership council. I pretty much teach them the 6 steps of the R factor process. I have taught returners E + R = O. This summer teaching the team. Really I am teaching myself which bleeds over to them. Leadership = influence others. If I am better they are 2 #GAHSFBCHAT
Love this. Impact, consequence, reward, struggle, pain. Showing young people cause and effect is essential. These choices consistently lead to these things. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1: By understanding the impact of their choices on those around them and themselves. Our choices impact more than just ourselves. Create value and worth around your organization so the players don’t want to hurt the program. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1.) 5&5. Each decision you make. How will it affect you in 5 minutes? In 5 years? In every aspect possible. Football. School. Work. Family. Everything. 5 minutes. 5 years. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1. Provide as many scenarios as possible where their choice affects the group not just them. Everything we chart is accountable within their assigned unit. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1) Each player's actions can and will affect the entire team so it is important to make sure they understand that by constantly reinforcing the "team above self" mentality & using real-life examples. #gahsfbchat
Love this. Impact, consequence, reward, struggle, pain. Showing young people cause and effect is essential. These choices consistently lead to these things. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1: By understanding the impact of their choices on those around them and themselves. Our choices impact more than just ourselves. Create value and worth around your organization so the players don’t want to hurt the program. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1 I think it's important to explain why the right choice is the right choice, then praise/reward the ones who consistent make that disclipined choice. #GAHSFBCHAT
This is awesome. The technical term is first order consequence (now) and second order consequences (later). We simply call it thinking of the immediate and the eventual. Putting a time to it is excellent for young men. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1 - 3 parts: ask, model, accountability.
ASK
In light my past experience, current circumstances and future hopes and dreams what is the wise thing for me to do? & do you have your own best interest in mind? & what is our standard?
MODEL discipline
Hold ACCOUNTABLE
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Each Monday after school, we had character development lessons. New topic each week, but the constant was about making good choices and having the discipline to do so. #GAHSFBCHAT
A1: Disciplined choice is really just making a choice over and over and over. So you first have to be explicit about which choices you want them to be making. Define the standard. Define the behavior. Reinforce. Repeat. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 Compete in everything you do class work, weight room, everything instill that hardworking gritty atmosphere where players are ready and willing to fight and claw for everything #GAHSFBCHAT
As expected, @TBrianKight is bringing the heat tonight. & coaches across the country are marching his intensity. Great start coaches.
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A1) Each player's actions can and will affect the entire team so it is important to make sure they understand that by constantly reinforcing the "team above self" mentality & using real-life examples. #gahsfbchat
I find it so hard to define the right choice outside of established team rules. Lots of opinions, issues, initiatives, beliefs to say who is “right”. Team culture = yes. Outside that = real hard / dangerous. #GAHSFBCHAT
Q2: 6 seconds give me all you got. Don’t go till you know, but when you do go, go right now. With that, the workouts much match, if you give up on the lift, you will on the field also. #GAHSFBCHAT
As expected, @TBrianKight is bringing the heat tonight. & coaches across the country are marching his intensity. Great start coaches.
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A2: Competition is HUGE! Anything we can compete in and earn bragging rights in makes it fun for the team and allows them to learn how to turn up the heat on each other #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 - intensity is passion AND focus! Try to find guys who LOVE what we do and VALUE getting better every day. It’s caught more than taught.
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A2 intensity can come from a focused clear message that is consistently reinforced by the attitude and actions of the entire program. We talk simply about supporting behaviors that win. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2: Everybody’s optimal level of inensity is different. Get guys to understand their own optimal inensity level and how to be there and the control is a byproduct. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2: In practice for example during the spring we pick out 5 real game situations from the past year and we practice them. For example we lost in OT in playoffs we will practice that during Spring. Off season team building activities by player families. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2) To me, being under control comes from being great at the details and/or fundamentals in anything you do. Without mastery of those then any intensity is going to be unfocused. So in other words get great at the little things and then you can jack up the intensity #gahsfbchat
A2: They follow our lead! We set the tone and they begin to take ownership of it! Effort is non-negotiable for our program, and the JUICE follows. Coaches don’t take reps off (WR, Practice, Film) and neither do kids. If it’s important to you, it’s important to them! #GAHSFBCHAT
A1 - Most adolescents need to learn the lesson on their own. That their actions have positive and negative reactions. To start the discipline convo I try and find as many current real world examples as possible. Video, stories, tweets help them learn from their heros. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2: Build trust! You can only push athletes as far as the trust you build with them. Work earn the trust you feel you deserve. When this occurs you then have control to set the bar high! #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 believe that the eliminating distractions asking for eye contact and giving a consistent message can create an intensity that screams far louder in the minds of the kids then actually yelling #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 - intensity is passion AND focus! Try to find guys who LOVE what we do and VALUE getting better every day. It’s caught more than taught.
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I teach this because playing football, unfortunately, has to come to an end eventually. But being successful and making smart decisions will never come to an end. #GAHSFBCHAT
1. Build trust with your teammates through character, connection and competence.
2. Give relentless effort on the task at hand.
3 Get 1% better today.
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A3: teamwork, resilience, and hard work. If you can master those three things you'll be on the right track in all aspects of your life in my opinion #GAHSFBCHAT
Intensity works so much better then you are clear about what WINS and what LOSES and there are consequences for doing both.
Clarity and consequences have ALWAYS worked for 4,000 years. Keep it simple and execute. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 intensity can come from a focused clear message that is consistently reinforced by the attitude and actions of the entire program. We talk simply about supporting behaviors that win. #GAHSFBCHAT
This is MASSIVE Lindsey. Football defaults to crazy levels of intensity that ruin a lot of guys / games. I was chilllll before games and played with absolute fire, but never past the edge. It was my way. It worked. I didn’t fit any mold. #GAHSFBCHAT
A3:
effort - no loafing (we have a extensive loaf policy)
commitment - 1-0 every day (create your own energy),
toughness - ignore the circumstances (don't matter get better)
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A3 -
Resiliency - never quit
Effort - best is the standard
Attitude - blue collar workmanship
Love - don’t do what you don’t love
Football, working in a factory, being a dad, owning a business, etc. LIFE!
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A3) Discipline - sacrificing short-term gratification for long-term results; Toughness - an ability to overcome adversity that life throws at you, and Teamwork - understanding your role to work as part of a unit to reach a common goal #gahsfbchat
A3: perseverance, the example I loke to use is you work your entire life come in every day like your supposed to then boom, downsizing happens and you are fired with 3 kids at home. How are you going to respond? #GAHSFBCHAT
A3- 1. Mental toughness: must be able to go thru valleys to get to the peak. 2. Discipline: do what must be done, how it must be done, when it must be done, every time. 3. Commitment: if you start it, you better finish it and finish it the right way. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2 - Help team to see it as a visual of a steep cliff. Being as close to that edge is optimal but going over is terminal. I want them to ramp up to that edge repeatedly in game but know when they need to rev it back to not hurt themselves/team physically or mentally. #GAHSFBCHAT
1. The ability to show respect: You show respect because of who you are!
2. The ability to make disciplined decisions under pressure.
3. The ability to demonstrate mental toughness and focus no matter how tall or tough the task. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2: Intensity has a great deal to do with confidence. It has to be real, from the heart. Its not a rivalry game that gets us going but the relentless pursuit of being our best everyday. #GAHSFBCHAT
Real close to the sign on the wall in my son’s room. Only three “rules” I’ll ever give him:
Work hard
Be kind
Have fun
You’re a success if you do it. I’ll accept whatever that produces from him. #GAHSFBCHAT
A2: part 2. You have to train your mins the same way you do your body. No matter if its a life decision or 3rd and win, you have to have the mental fortitude to overcome. That’s life. #GAHSFBCHAT
too many adults try to do it for them, force them, or alleviate the consequences. Doesn’t work for kids. Never has. Adults do it more than ever before. #GAHSFBCHAT
A3 we focus on 5 leadership accountability selflessness investment preparation . everything we say, do and create has these foundational behaviors. Kids make presentations on what it looks like n the product it yields when acted upon #GAHSFBCHAT
A3
Effort-It takes no talent to give 100%
Attitude-Positive ones are contagious, so are negative ones. Treat each day as a gift.
Toughness-You choose to be tough. You can either submit or overcome. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 learn to deal with adversity so when failure and losing happens the team has the ability to bounce back show them that failure is a part of life have to keep head high and grind #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: we want to be process oriented but results driven. We try to treat the process the same regardless of the result. We preach a "Play the next Play" mentality in good or bad.
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A4: let the team know that they may not win everything in life but the important thing is to learn from it. Not everyone gets a trophy to show but everyone sees the effort you put out. Do everything as best you can and the rest will follow #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: Mistakes happen. Teach them. Have to make sure we learn from failure (fail forward) by finding how it will help us later and how we improve. Losing stinks. Never want it to feel good. Fuel the fire for improvement not paralysis. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4. Be present. Actually was on staff one time after tough loss where a few staff members never went in locker room. The worst coaching mistake I had ever seen and disappointed I didn't do something to change that moment. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: We talk about playing the next play, Real big on IgnoreTheCircumstances, things will go wrong always, press pause, get your mind right and keep going #gahsfbchat
A4 this is where Focus 3 has taken us to next level. Weekly we take meeting time to take about adversity . It’s not if ... it’s when.. we focus on our response . Our response must be greater than the event . Our response is founded on A BELIEF that we r at r best then #GAHSFBCHAT
“I would rather fail at something I know will ultimately succeed, than succeed at something I know will ultimately fail. “ I truly believe when you have a system of doing things that failure and setbacks are not as detrimental, because you focus on the controlables. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: man this is a tough one, personally I hurt for my kids when they work so hard. Mostly I self examine, what could I have done differently, did I do everything I could to help them succeed, so do I need to change, or change what I do. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 -
Prepare: Make sure they understand that every great story has conflict. THINGS WILL NOT ALWAYS GO RIGHT.
Deal with: Preach process! Model same focus/intensity/attitude every day regardless of outcomes.
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A4 I am always prepared with an open mind toward improvement of my own leadership and performance. Avoid the Blame, Complain, and Defend game we all like to play. Instead, take ownership of it and GET BETTER as the leader of that outcome. #GAHSFBCHAT
#GAHSFBCHAT A4 it's important to reflect on & learn from failure. Extreme Ownership style a la @jockowillink . Don't blame others, refs, weather. Then move on and apply those lessons in the future!
A2. I don’t care how you practice fast. How much juice the strength coach has..... During a game you can’t be intense if you are confused. You can’t be intense if you are out if shape. You can’t be intense if you don’t believe #GAHSFBCHAT
A4) Let them fail in a controlled setting to teach the proper way to reflect and rebound. Failure must always be used as a learning opportunity, not as a reason to quit trying. #gahsfbchat
A3 1.) Introspection, look to better yourself first before attempting to correct others. 2.) Leave it better than you found it, in all facets. 3.) Seek out challenge in all things, if it is easy, it doesn’t always make you better. Challenge always makes your better. #GAHSFBCHAT
A3:
1) Commitment- Finish What you Start
2) Effort- What you put in, you get out
3) Discipline- The Little Things make the BIGGEST differences #GAHSFBCHAT
1st, you have to build a relationship with your kids so they know you love them no matter what. 2nd, with mistakes there must be correction done with an emphasis on why it was a mistake and why it doesn’t fit with your scheme, philosophy, or culture. #GAHSFBCHAT
A3: 1. positive Attitude- no energy vampires (attitude is everything)
2. Commitment- to the process!
3. Effort- Give great effort in everything you're involved in! #GAHSFBCHAT
#GAHSFBCHAT A4 it's important to reflect on & learn from failure. Extreme Ownership style a la @jockowillink . Don't blame others, refs, weather. Then move on and apply those lessons in the future!
A4: By being realistic with ourselves. Hard times will come but we have to keep the faith and believe in what we’re doing. We have to stay the course and have faith in each other. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: I never stop learning! I understand that I will never know everything about this game, but i can keep pursuing knowledge to better myself. My pops has always told me: if you aren't getting better, you're getting worse. No one stays the same! #GAHSFBCHAT
Q5: Reflection, prayer, and a circle of people you trust (wives and colleagues) who don’t mind calling you out when you don’t meet the standard. You have to allow people to hold you accountable. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: Study the losses more than the wins. Examine the mistakes so they don’t get repeated. Self evaluate constantly. Find someone who will give you honest feedback and not worry about your feelings. Trust the process while refining it constantly. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 losing is the hard one. Football is the only game where u practice 80% and play 20% so much goes into. Ultimately it has to be used to evaluate the culture and effectiveness of our teaching and learning . Some gr8 moments come from losses #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: as an assistant coach I constantly seek feedback of either my HC, players or other trusted coaches. I want to have functional humility, always strive to find a better way. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: This year my goal has been to read at least 12 books. 1 a month. So far 6 down on #7, have taken ur advice. APPLYING something I read from each one, it has made me better and a better HC, helps make everyone better #gahsfbchat
A5: This is one I am always reevaluating. Luckily I have a great group of coaches and kids to hold me accountable. The one I don’t want to be is a hypocrite, and that means putting on your big boy drawers and owning mistakes rather than placing blame. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5. Really try to stay aware. Lucky to have a few longtime staff members who aren't afraid to tell me what I need to hear. Also. Never stop learning. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: Prepare through intentional chaos. Deal with by being present. Move forward through reflection and learning that you’re going to fail - so when you do, you better fail better. #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: one thing I HATE in athletics is athletes playing in fear. Can’t stand it. I did as a player and I know it hurt me as a player and person. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: Communicating with my players to find out their thoughts on the climate of the program. Networking with colleagues to either discover new ideas, or reinforce what I am currently doing! Books, clinics, webinars & TWITTER! #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 ”What if” and contingency mental game planning. I want players to have mentality “gone to” that moment in case it then happens in reality. That way they do not flinch at errors/mistakes. The mistake doesn’t not hurt nearly as much as the hesitation/reaction to it. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: self examine, have coaching friends that will lift you up and are a positive influence. More than anything they keep you grounded. Never ever get the big head, it is never ever about you, as long as you remember that, staying self aware is possible. #GAHSFBCHAT
a5: a constant reflection, remediation and evaluation process of my past and current mind sets. Journaling has helped. Ask myself what I am doing well? Where can I improve? What I am ignoring that requires my attention. Oh yeah and my wife helps a lot #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: I challenge my coaches to hold me accountable. I also have a 45 min commute. I ride home in silence after practice and reflect on my actions & decisions from the day.
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A5: I keep perspective by remembering both what it was like to be an athlete and remembering how I started as a coach. It is so critical to remain humble. I constantly think about how it would feel to be coached by me. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5) I try to surround myself with people who I know will be honest with me and keep things real. I also recently typed up my own life roadmap as I was inspired by Nick Saban in his book so I have a standard to hold myself to that I can always be reminded of. #gahsfbchat
A5 - My dad would drop me off every morning going to school and say “Learn something new today”
Try to continue to apply that to all I do. READ!, talk to folks who’ve been there before, have guys around me I trust to “check” me, etc.
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A4: I don’t think you can prepare for mistakes, you just hope you don’t make too many or they don’t set you back too much. The best way to deal with them is to take ownership and hold yourself accountable! #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 one aspect that has helped us handle fear . Has been @TBrianKight philosophy of “fearless” it’s okay to be afraid but just fear...less take that but if energy and turn it Into belief #GAHSFBCHAT
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A5: assess daily, weekly, monthly, seasonally, etc. Ask myself “Did I help the program grow in a positive direction today?” I personally need to improve on doing this and maintaining a high level of JUICE despite whatever obstacles may occur #GAHSFBCHAT
A5: I also have an inner circle of 6 other coaches. We do a great job of holding each other accountable and checking each other when we need to be checked!
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A5 - My dad would drop me off every morning going to school and say “Learn something new today”
Try to continue to apply that to all I do. READ!, talk to folks who’ve been there before, have guys around me I trust to “check” me, etc.
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A lot of coaches come to me struggling with this, often not wanting to do it in today’s environment of exposure, social media, and parenting styles. It’s the reality we coach in. #GAHSFBCHAT
A5 Curt honesty and openness with my players. They know I would not ask them to do something I would not myself do or hold them to an expectation that I do not have for myself. Being authentic and straight up ask what is working, what is not, and how can I be better? #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 cont: As I told our players at our 1st meeting this offseason, “I was humbled big time last year. I was inconsistent and tried to make up for mistakes!” Our record, our player’s attitudes and effort, were the main examples. But no sir, it will not happen again! #GAHSFBCHAT
A4 losing is the hard one. Football is the only game where u practice 80% and play 20% so much goes into. Ultimately it has to be used to evaluate the culture and effectiveness of our teaching and learning . Some gr8 moments come from losses #GAHSFBCHAT
A6: absolutely critical that you strive to see your players for what they will become and not what they currently are. It takes patience and relational persistence. #GAHSFBCHAT
Q6: I think it is pressing pause. Kids will push issues and the line. You have to hold them accountable, but seek information regarding why something is happening. That may be finding out their little brother hasn’t eaten in two days and needs food. You can fix that. #GAHSFBCHAT
A6: understanding that kids change. Your playing days doesn’t mean anything to them. You have to tell them the what and the why. The information world we are in they want it. Also, know that it could change during your career, always be flexible #GAHSFBCHAT
A4: IMO it’s kind of hard to prepare for failure and losing...when it comes to losing I try to find some good in the outcome. As well as, think about how or why we lost, interpret, grow and accept the loss...try not to do the same thing again #GAHSFBCHAT
A6: Acceptance. You can’t control all aspects of the game or your performance. Stop trying to push it away or change it. Accept what’s now and move toward action. #GAHSFBCHAT
A6) I think communication has to be up there near the top. Communication with parents who are more involved as well as parents who never show up, w/ kids on your team, w/ colleagues around the area, w/ fan bases thru social media, etc. #gahsfbchat
A6 I think a lot of this depends on the level of play you coach at, and the type of players you have. Everyone needs a different type of coach and every coach has a different style. Bc of this the main skill is adaptability, right behind that would be patients/empathy #GAHSFBCHAT
A6: coaches have to adapt with the times...kids are changing every year...also coaches gotta be flexible as well. And continue to learn your craft, and get better as a coach and man... #GAHSFBCHAT
This. You have to be interested in understanding. You can’t think you already know “millennials” or “today’s kids”. If you observe and listen, you’ll see how to connect and bring greatness out. #GAHSFBCHAT
Q6: I think it is pressing pause. Kids will push issues and the line. You have to hold them accountable, but seek information regarding why something is happening. That may be finding out their little brother hasn’t eaten in two days and needs food. You can fix that. #GAHSFBCHAT
A6 understating the trust / results paradigm . Trust is such a delicate skill and early on I failed at earning it cause I didn’t understand how to work for it . I thought quantifiable results = trust #GAHSFBCHAT
A6:
- Real confidence. No rah rah stuff, but the ability to step out and push themselves to their limits.
- Communication- human interaction and confrontation.
- The ‘R’ Factor
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A7 seeing players years after playing and knowing they are successful members of society and some giving back to the game by coaching them selves and passing down some of the knowledge I gave them #GAHSFBCHAT
A7: Being coached by my dad @RepoMafiaClan , driving to our games, blasting rage against the machine and kid rock to get pumped up. Good times! #GAHSFBCHAT
A7: tough choice. Has to be between making the playoffs last year and making the semi-finals. Getting there wasn’t why it was special. it was about those teams and how fun those teams were to be a part of. It was special. #GAHSFBCHAT
A7: Former players coming back and being successful. Some in military, law enforcement, college, etc. And realizing and appreciating why we pushed them to be elite. #GAHSFBCHAT
A6:
Adaptability- We must continue to grow in and with our profession. The only CONSISTENCY in life is CHANGE! If we are reluctant to accept the changing times we are bound to get left behind! #GAHSFBCHAT
A7: My favorite memories happen every year when our kids sign their LOI. CN them sharing that moment with their families gets me EVERY time!
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As a player playing the GA Dome state semi finals and as a coach we pulled off a minor upset of the #1 team in the state in Winnersville, USA and the state didn't think it was possible #GAHSFBCHAT
@TBrianKight A7: man junior year, the bus ride from Creekside to the Dome for the state semis...we had a police escort, people were pulling over getting out their cars cheering...every restaurant we passed had “Go Creekside beat Statesboro”..Too many to pick just one #GAHSFBCHAT
Communicate! Don't let negativity/uncertainty fill a void due to poor communication. Also, I think empathy is very important. There may 60 different things that each kid is going through. Hold accountable, but love on em and help em grow #GAHSFBCHAT
