#resiliencechat Archive

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:01 PM EDT

Welcome to #resiliencechat! Who is out there joining us tonight?

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:02 PM EDT

Anyone being resilient tonight? #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:02 PM EDT

YUP! I'm here. Are my tweets showing up? #resiliencechat

In reply to @MissShuganah

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:03 PM EDT

I see you now. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:04 PM EDT

Our friend @ResiliencyGuy has chosen to be on a cruise instead of being with us on #resiliencechat. Can you believe that?!?!?!

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:05 PM EDT

Tonight's #resiliencechat topic: Taking Care of the Caretaker--Ourselves

dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:05 PM EDT

Buona sera! Struggling to stay awake; in need of some resilience #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:05 PM EDT

Hang in there!! Thanks for joining in #resiliencechat!

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:06 PM EDT

@saratruebridge Perfect topic for me. Except I think of myself as a caregiver. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:06 PM EDT

#resiliencechat Tidbit: We can not take care others if we don't first take care of ourselves. It's the oxygen in the airplane metaphor!

HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:06 PM EDT

Howard from Silicon Valley here. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:06 PM EDT

Hey Howard! We are neighbors in CA! Welcome to #resiliencechat!

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:07 PM EDT

Getting ready to roll with Q1 for #resiliencechat...get your fingers ready to respond...

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:07 PM EDT

Q1: What are some reasons why is it important for us to take care of our own resilience? #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:08 PM EDT

Oxygen on the airplane metaphor. Very familiar. Since I do most of the caregiving for our Kid O, I need to pace myself. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:09 PM EDT

Good for you for being so aware of having to pace yourself! #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:09 PM EDT

Part of our resilience is being able to be self-aware. #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:10 PM EDT

A1 Ever since I had Stage 3 inflammatory breast cancer, my husband and I talk about that often. (There's no Stage 1 or 2) #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:11 PM EDT

I have to otherwise I would go off the deep end. Get resentful. Lose it. #resiliencechat

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HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:11 PM EDT

Health problem and burnout are waiting for us all. I'm not very good at self care. #resiliencechat

dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:11 PM EDT

A1: taking care of our own resilience should be like daily exercise and eating healthy, playing music and going to therapy #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:12 PM EDT

Talk about being self-aware...this next question taps just that...#resiliencechat

dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:12 PM EDT

Reflection is good #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:09 PM EDT

Part of our resilience is being able to be self-aware. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:12 PM EDT

There is no better time than the present to begin turning that around! #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:13 PM EDT

Then buckle up. It's a bumpy ride. Been taking care of Kid O for almost 21 years. Also took care of my mom when she'd fall. #resiliencechat

HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:11 PM EDT

Health problem and burnout are waiting for us all. I'm not very good at self care. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:13 PM EDT

Touche! #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:13 PM EDT

Q2: What are some of your "triggers" or tender spots that often can get you a bit upset, distracted or angry? #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:14 PM EDT

A1 I was part of what they call the sandwich generation.Married late. Kids late. Took care of kids and mom at the same time. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:14 PM EDT

If this is any comfort...you are NOT alone...#resiliencechat

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HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:15 PM EDT

A2: Decibels or unfettered tirades (that aren't mine). #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:15 PM EDT

A2 When I feel as if I have to nudge my husband to carry Kid O to bed. When people judge how I am as a mom. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:16 PM EDT

Shame on others for judging others! #resiliencechat

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dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:16 PM EDT

A2: Faux news, racial slurs, migraines, poverty wages, conspicuous consumption...I should stop #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:17 PM EDT

A2 Since I've been thru wringer 3 times with DCFS, I know what it's like to be scrutinized. Walk a mile or two in my shoes. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:17 PM EDT

...the list is endless...I know! #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:18 PM EDT

Can be a bit rough. But makes us stronger, right? #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:18 PM EDT

Q3: Do you think it is a good idea to share w/others what may get you triggered? Why or why not? #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:19 PM EDT

I've been under microscope since Kid O was a baby. She wasn't diagnosed with CP right away, & was a preemie. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:20 PM EDT

Anyone taking on Q3? #resiliencechat

cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:21 PM EDT

A3: Eh. Depends. I've found that most people don't have the same intentions I do. #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:21 PM EDT

A3 Important 2 share bc it is better 2 do that than b afraid. Back in '10, @irasocol gave me a lot of support in being open #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:21 PM EDT

I understand that. #resiliencechat

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cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:22 PM EDT

A1: Resilience is everything. Especially for people who have seriously encountered trauma in their lives. #resiliencechat

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HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:22 PM EDT

A3: @saratruebridge We are social beings. Not meant to handle real life alone. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:22 PM EDT

A3: I think that it sometimes depend on the situation and the people. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:22 PM EDT

For sure! #resiliencechat

In reply to @HowardKiyuna

cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:23 PM EDT

A2: I honestly had a tough time with some of the rhetoric from the election due to a history of sexual abuse. #honesty #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:23 PM EDT

I also think that we have to create safe environments for sharing our truths. Not always easy... #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:24 PM EDT

A2 Another thing that triggers me is when I read/hear NIMBY attitude or folks saying cutting SpEd funds is OK. #resiliencechat

dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:24 PM EDT

A3: Ask permission to share/vent to others; "dumping" on someone not cool. Going below line is ok, but you can't live there #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:25 PM EDT

That is understandable considering the language that we heard--it's rough! #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:25 PM EDT

Oh I have run adrift more than once, but I find that I can correct my course. #resiliencechat

In reply to @HowardKiyuna

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:27 PM EDT

A3: Ever thought abt this: Sometimes you may not want to share for fear that ppl will use your triggers against you! #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:29 PM EDT

#resiliencechat Q4--a "What to Do?" question

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:29 PM EDT

A3.2 I don't worry about being triggered. Life is too short. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:30 PM EDT

Q4: What can you do-or what can be done-if you're in a mtg or conversation & you or someone is abt to erupt-or has erupted? #resiliencechat

dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:30 PM EDT

You can go screaming into the night, but it's usually best to do so with the door closed. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:27 PM EDT

A3: Ever thought abt this: Sometimes you may not want to share for fear that ppl will use your triggers against you! #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:30 PM EDT

Been there--Done that! #resiliencechat

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HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:32 PM EDT

A4: Stay calm. If they're at all contrite. Reassure them that you want to help. Ask them what they need. If not... #resiliencechat

cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:33 PM EDT

A4: be there. don't judge. manage the crisis. When we start by reacting emotionally to someone's crisis, we aren't helpful #resiliencechat

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dlpetrie69 Mar 20 @ 10:33 PM EDT

A4: I have a note in my wallet from my son when he was 6. "Take a deep bref" #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:33 PM EDT

Looks good. I wish I could start that here in Chicago. You familiar with Bridge School founded by Neil Young? #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:34 PM EDT

Q5: How can peer-coaching or outside coaching be used to support a school team who may be having difficulty communicating? #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:34 PM EDT

A4 Take a walk. I did that once when I was dealing with a major league asshole speech pathologist from Bd of Ed. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:35 PM EDT

I especially like to walk in the woods or in a garden. #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:35 PM EDT

I contacted them years ago, and gatekeeper told me to go away. #resiliencechat

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HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:36 PM EDT

A5: Small peer groups are good ways to get anything done. Our staff is grouped this way. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:36 PM EDT

Q5: How can peer-coaching or outside coaching be used to support a school team who may be having difficulty communicating? #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:36 PM EDT

Couldn't do that. Was in the middle of an IEP meeting. Had to cool off and come back. #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:37 PM EDT

You know how much I love my garden and how cathartic it is for me. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:37 PM EDT

YES I DO!! #resiliencechat

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cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:37 PM EDT

A5: That would be great! NOW... Find a school willing to invest -_- #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:38 PM EDT

I wasn't even offered a chance to visit. Just told to find some place closer to Chicago. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:39 PM EDT

I am finding that there are many schools that need to really look at how they are spending their resources! #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:39 PM EDT

I am glad I took it up. Helps me retain my sanity. Peace. Joy. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:41 PM EDT

Q6: Can you provide any examples of what your school/district/school/colleagues have done to support your resilience? #resiliencechat

HowardKiyuna Mar 20 @ 10:41 PM EDT

Gotta go. Thanks everybody. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:42 PM EDT

...and thanks for joining in #resiliencechat tonight. A small but mighty crew tonight!

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ZapEdu Mar 20 @ 10:42 PM EDT

A6: As crazy as it sounds, colleagues going out for a drink, dinner, apps, whatever after stressful week can be rejuvenating #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:42 PM EDT

Not crazy at all!! I think that's great!!! #resiliencechat

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cwilsonspanish Mar 20 @ 10:43 PM EDT

A6: I have some great colleagues from all over the country, and an amazing PLN. I'll leave it at that for now. #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:44 PM EDT

A6 I have talked about Ms. AK before. She was my oasis for two years. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:46 PM EDT

Q7: Any thoughts you want to share abt taking care of the caretaker that have not yet been addressed/discussed tonight on #resiliencechat?

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:49 PM EDT

...and last but not least...#resiliencechat Q8...

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:49 PM EDT

Q8: What are you going to do tomorrow as a result of #resiliencechat tonight?

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:49 PM EDT

A3: triggers. A person in my life and I say "trigger" to each other instead of flying off and the other not knowing why. #resiliencechat

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:50 PM EDT

A3: it's good so understanding can happen but trust needs to exist for it to be helpful. It's bad b/c can be used as setup. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:50 PM EDT

Hi Jenny! Good to see you! (Love the rose, too!) #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:51 PM EDT

Repeat of Q8: Q8: What are you going to do tomorrow as a result of #resiliencechat tonight?

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:52 PM EDT

A4: step back and breathe. Try and see that it is not personal(hopefully). Try and examine their perspective. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:53 PM EDT

Like I said earlier...a small but mighty #resiliencechat crew tonight. Thanks all for joining in. Always grateful for your time and support

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:53 PM EDT

A5: peer coaching offers wisdom and insight as well as reinforcing coping strategies for difficult people. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:54 PM EDT

Yes, I've seen it work well! #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:54 PM EDT

A7 Yeah. Ask me how I am. People always ask how Kid O is, and me.... hardly ever. #resiliencechat

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:54 PM EDT

Thanks. I think everyone should,stop and smell the roses and smile more often. #resiliencechat

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saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:54 PM EDT

It really has to have a lot of trust behind it to be effective. #resiliencechat

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MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:54 PM EDT

A7 Offer to be of service instead of assuming I am being a bad parent. Have some empathy. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:55 PM EDT

SO AGREE!!! #resiliencechat

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Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:55 PM EDT

Sorry I was waaaayyyy late tonight. #resiliencechat

MissShuganah Mar 20 @ 10:56 PM EDT

A8 Keep on message. I need to get back to blogging. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:57 PM EDT

OKAY #resiliencechat gang...thanks again for "showing up" Let's spread the word to others to have them join! The more the merrier!

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:57 PM EDT

A7: step back and determine what is going on in your life so you act and not react in situations. Find your center. #resiliencechat

Watermelonworks Mar 20 @ 10:59 PM EDT

A8: I will try to be more appreciative of others. Need to step back and breathe through all this busy-ness. #resiliencechat

saratruebridge - Moderator Mar 20 @ 10:59 PM EDT

You know what they say..."Better late..." #resiliencechat

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