Meredith jumping into #engagechat. Relationships - great topic! I stayed awake until 1:30, waiting for the tweet that @daviswelcome was just fine. Have I ever met him? No. Interesting thing .... relationships.
Keri from NYC - woke up at 4 for work and I'm tired but ready for #engagechat! I'm an ESL teacher and instructional coach, and the founder of #ECSchat (hope you'll join us in Sunday at 7 PM ET!).
Hello #engagechat family from Barbara, school counselor, character coach, and author of What's Under Your Cape? Excited to talk about the power of relationships!
A1 Positive relationships mean that you can count on people who are there to cheer you when you do well, to pick you up when you are down, and also there to let you know when you need to change your course or re-evaluate. Positive relationships are real. #engagechat
A1 Social wellbeing is an essential element to having a thriving wellbeing. Healthy, loving relationships are vitality to a life well lived. #engagechat
A1 Postive relationships mean everything to me! They are what makes the world go round, they are the basis of everything!! I love the positive people in my life, if negative I don’t have time for ya!! #Engagechat
a1 Postive relationships spiral the climate up. It's not that we can't vent, but it's hugely important that we not drain the life out of another person with negativity. #engagechat
A1- To me, positive relationships are non-judgmental and supportive. It's the person that leaves you feeling better than when you came. It's being accepted for who (and where) you are. #engagechat
A1: Positive relationships positively change lives! But they take work. We must learn to trust and be vulnerable, to respect and be kind, to listen with intention to understand, to step into one another's story and be willing to change its trajectory! #engagechat
A1 positive relationships are those that are synergistic and promote mutual growth and development. You feed positive vibes and feelings to each other. #engagechat
A1: Positive relationship mean helping one another achieve our best versions with whatever connected us. We champion and challenge lovingly in positive relationships! #engagechat
When there is a balance, ego steps aside and a deep bond if formed where both members grow and learn from one another. There is a trust & respect that allows honesty & concern to form. There is a kindness and friendship but more than that a kinship #Engagechat
A1: Positive relationships are a driving factor behind how I measure how well I am doing. With positive relationships. I have trust from my Ts and Ss. The culture in my school is high. Positive relationships drive it all together. #engagechat
A1~mutual in nature that fosters a sense of positive well~ being & inspires & encourages all involved~ these relationships are felt deeply in our hearts & allows others to soar
A1~ #engagechat
A1 Postive relationships mean everything to me! They are what makes the world go round, they are the basis of everything!! I love the positive people in my life, if negative I don’t have time for ya!! #Engagechat
a1 Postive relationships spiral the climate up. It's not that we can't vent, but it's hugely important that we not drain the life out of another person with negativity. #engagechat
A1 positive relationships are built on respect and trust regardless of standing. In the classroom it’s the most important foundation to make the SY go smooth. #engagechat
Like when have someone positive in my life, it really motivates me to be positive and be a light in people's lives. It creates a spark in me to be a better person like they are so I can make someone else's life better. :) #engagechat
A1) It means I am acknowledged, loved, appreciated, valued for being me, positive relationships mean that I can take risks & have support & encouragement to do so #engagechat
"Striving" is a really good word here. None of us have arrived and having a good understanding of our own strengths & weaknesses is a great place from which to launch new friendships. #engagechat
A1 Positive relationships help me to grow and be my best self! I can receive criticism in a constructive way from people that I know have my back. We care enough about each other to be real with each other. #engagechat
A1 #engagechat Positive relationships guide you through life. They provide the impetus for growth because they are honest and provide not just feedback but reflection and an eagerness to share and find solace as well.
When there is a balance, ego steps aside and a deep bond if formed where both members grow and learn from one another. There is a trust & respect that allows honesty & concern to form. There is a kindness and friendship but more than that a kinship #Engagechat
A1- To me, positive relationships are non-judgmental and supportive. It's the person that leaves you feeling better than when you came. It's being accepted for who (and where) you are. #engagechat
And then I just want to help people be better and move them to look more at the positive and good things they have, so they can share their good and be a light in other's lives. #engagechat
A1: Positive relationships positively change lives! But they take work. We must learn to trust and be vulnerable, to respect and be kind, to listen with intention to understand, to step into one another's story and be willing to change its trajectory! #engagechat
A1 #engagechat they push you in your boundaries, things you never even knew you were capable of becoming of doing. They are impactful and life-changing
A1 #engagechat When teachers greet you by name, not only listen but pay attention and ask questions and most importantlytrust you to self-advocate and think for yourself- this is a positive relationship
A1 positive relationships are those that are synergistic and promote mutual growth and development. You feed positive vibes and feelings to each other. #engagechat
A1 #engagechat Positive relationships guide you through life. They provide the impetus for growth because they are honest and provide not just feedback but reflection and an eagerness to share and find solace as well.
A1 Positive relationships are the driving force behind all the successes I have or am able to be a part of, both professionally and personally. At school the relationships come first with Ts and Ss. #engagechat
A1b😊~ positive relationships are easy to visually identify by the smiles on the engaged parties faces, their body language, shared laughter & overall sense of enjoying each other’s company #engagechat
A1 positive, healthy relationships help in developing a thriving wellbeing. We can only live out our strengths in a positive way when we are thriving. #EngageChat
Positive relationships are ones where both people benefit from the interactions they have in a healthy manner.
They bring joy, encouragement, and positive growth. They minimize the negativity and help bring each person closer to where they want to be #EngageChat
A1 #engagechat Positive relationships guide you through life. They provide the impetus for growth because they are honest and provide not just feedback but reflection and an eagerness to share and find solace as well.
Being positive and optimistic is not unrealistic. It's choosing to see the good in life and to help others concentrate on spreading good vibes. Believe me, people are well aware of the bad. positive people focus on the beauty and peace in life and help others to do so #engagechat
A1: If you and I have a positive relationship, it means we trust each other enough to have real conversations that matter, convos that make a difference. #FierceConversation#EngageChat
#engagechat a1 Positive relationships don't always have to be all joy and giggles but they do need to move the relationship along in healthy, attainable, outcomes. For a ss who is used to chaos, just being safe is such a positive relationship situation for example.
A1: If you and I have a positive relationship, it means we trust each other enough to have real conversations that matter, convos that make a difference. #FierceConversation#EngageChat
A2: The leader must be positive and model it in the face of negativity or hard circumstances. Leaders should model perseverance, grit, determination etc. Interact with everyone as often as you can. #engagechat
A2. Have discussions about what staff members think each of these look like. Phrases need to be clarified and examples shared. Let's talk openly about exactly what we mean by "being positive." #engagechat
A2 leaders must ensure they are transparent and clear with their intentions. They must put aside their ambitions to ensure that everyone’s needs are met. #engagechat
A2 Model positive relationships- get to know all staff members, ask how they are, open door policy, active listening, honest, trustworthy!!! BUT need to be a model if they expect staff members to do the same! #Engagechat
A2: Greet all Ss, Ts, families with smiles, friendly tone, high fives/hugs/fist bumps/ etc. Get to know the Ss and Ts. Take the time to listen to others. Build trust. Show your passion and love. #engagechat
A2 Great leaders take the initiative. They actively listen and engage with students, peers and administrators. They are active and open to ideas. They move the group forward. #EngageChat
A2- It starts with getting to know the people in the building, students and staff alike. Everyone has an integral function in the ecosystem - value their contributions, keep doors open and speak positively about everyone's role and importance to the community. #engagechat
A2: The leader must be positive and model it in the face of negativity or hard circumstances. Leaders should model perseverance, grit, determination etc. Interact with everyone as often as you can. #engagechat
A2: Give the time and space for relationships to develop. Be a model for establishing positive relationships. Train the staff - don't assume it comes naturally to everyone. #engagechat
A2: Leaders can carve out time to give their teachers and employees the gift of time and support their collaboration! Time to connect, time to circle up shoulder to shoulder, knee to knee, face to face, to collaborate and unleash the power of relationships! #engagechat
A2 Leading from a strengthsbased lens provides everyone the opportunity to understand, appreciate the way others think, feel, behave. When we do so we no longer judge others through our own lens and seek to develop producive, complimentary partnerships. #EngageChat
Be present. Be mindful. Be cognizant of the needs of the students & faculty. Share the vision and follow the vision. A positive leader never looks for recognition but rather sparks the ignition of innovation in others. They are the biggest fan of all they lead. #EngageChat
A2. Have discussions about what staff members think each of these look like. Phrases need to be clarified and examples shared. Let's talk openly about exactly what we mean by "being positive." #engagechat
A2 Like anything worth doing it takes effort and nurturing. Effort in demonstrating positive relationships as a leader. Nurturing the postive realtionships that exist in the building and honoring the people who make up those relationships. #engagechat
A2: By practicing justice, fairness, and being an overall kind and thoughtful leader. Making sure that all people in the school practice good character qualities. #engagechat
Thank you for the share. There are schools that have banned physical touch. I would give anything to be in the conversations where these decisions are made. What are the fears? What are the root issues? Does a school-wide ban really get to the heart of these problems? #EngageChat
A2: I think a leader can foster positive relationships by simply listening and being receptive. Also, a leader should realize there are no monopolies on good ideas and talents! If this is the mindset of a leader, everyone feels valued! #engagechat
A2 leaders must ensure they are transparent and clear with their intentions. They must put aside their ambitions to ensure that everyone’s needs are met. #engagechat
A2) Approachability, customize on person by person basis, Positive leaders put that person FIRST, Transparency, breeds trust and buy-in, be 100% authentic, open, flawed, Drive culture of risk taking, embrace input from all stakeholders, walk the talk #engagechat
a2 I think it is important for leaders to make it very clear that positivity is valued. We don't want a climate that is moved by a fear of the squeakiest wheels. #engagechat
A2 Create a series climate of togetherness...greet everyone, celebrate special days, go to the least recognized person on campus and show them some appreciation #Engagechat
A2 As a principal I feel I must model what I am asking and never expect more from others than I do myself. I also think being vulnerable is a huge benefit that brings trust to a relationship. #engagechat
A2 Model positive relationships- get to know all staff members, ask how they are, open door policy, active listening, honest, trustworthy!!! BUT need to be a model if they expect staff members to do the same! #Engagechat
A2 a good leader is both firm and nurturing. One of the best leaders I’ve met always ensured that our opinions are heard and explanations are justified #engagechat
A2 when a leader creates an intentional feedback culture it breaks down the need to gossip and interactions are more positive. People will share opinions whether you want them or not. The leader determines what that feedback looks like for self and others. #EngageChat
A2 Great leaders take the initiative. They actively listen and engage with students, peers and administrators. They are active and open to ideas. They move the group forward. #EngageChat
A2 Lead by example.... create an environment where teachers understand expectations and feel the freedom to be innovative in the classroom. #engagechat
@daviswelcome#EngageChat A2: Administrators need to build trust and relationships with staff. When staff feel valued and appreciated, all the other “stuff” tends to fall in place.
A2~
Valuing input
Not showing favoritism
Being consistently available w/an open ❤️ & mind
Extends kindness, forgiveness & mercy accordingly
Shares in laughter w/Ss, Fs& Ts
Nips negativity at onset
Smiles a lot & always makes others feel a sense of belonging
#engagechat
A2- It starts with getting to know the people in the building, students and staff alike. Everyone has an integral function in the ecosystem - value their contributions, keep doors open and speak positively about everyone's role and importance to the community. #engagechat
A2 Servant leaders understand that they have a critical role in establishing a positive culture. I personally love working with a leader who is not afraid to show vulnerability. It sends the message that I can be as well. #engagechat
A2: Build a culture where supporting one another is of high value. Model it. Amplify when positive relationships exist. Create relationship building moments—FREQUENTLY. Be an active participant in positive relationships. #engagechat
#engagechat a2 With leadership, trust is a must. If you cannot trust your boss/leader to follow through, if you cannot trust their word, positive relationships fail eventually.
Thank you! Makes sense to me that if you get educators to clarify what it looks like to "life those up around me." they would internalize the actions to a greater degree. How could you do that today? Or "sees life through an outside lenses." #engagechat
A2. Have discussions about what staff members think each of these look like. Phrases need to be clarified and examples shared. Let's talk openly about exactly what we mean by "being positive." #engagechat
@daviswelcome#EngageChat A2: Administrators need to build trust and relationships with staff. When staff feel valued and appreciated, all the other “stuff” tends to fall in place.
A2: using kind words and actions, putting themselves in other people's shoes, believing in people, making an effort to know the people you work with and above all modeling positive relationships in the building and beyond #engagechat
A2 #engagechat There is an aura, an energy of a positive leader that permeates the halls-it swirls into classrooms, promoting freedom & risk-taking and above all, it makes everyone feel safe to lead themselves. Building a community of leaders connecting vision, mission & purpose.
Q2 get to know and celebrate their assets and passions. #leadlap Model positivity. Celebrate their gifts. Also have the courageous conversations when necessary. #engagechat
A2 #engagechat There is an aura, an energy of a positive leader that permeates the halls-it swirls into classrooms, promoting freedom & risk-taking and above all, it makes everyone feel safe to lead themselves. Building a community of leaders connecting vision, mission & purpose.
Value every role inside and outside the school, from secretaries (the first person an outsider sees) to cafeteria staff to paraeducators to families. Seek their guidance and treat them as equals. #EngageChat A2
A2~
Valuing input
Not showing favoritism
Being consistently available w/an open ❤️ & mind
Extends kindness, forgiveness & mercy accordingly
Shares in laughter w/Ss, Fs& Ts
Nips negativity at onset
Smiles a lot & always makes others feel a sense of belonging
#engagechat
I have been in those conversations. Unfortunately, it came from a student's parents going to police over teacher hugging. The child felt it was inappropriate. I would >never< want to put a loving, caring teacher in a position of defending hugging - but it happens. #engagechat
Thank you for the share. There are schools that have banned physical touch. I would give anything to be in the conversations where these decisions are made. What are the fears? What are the root issues? Does a school-wide ban really get to the heart of these problems? #EngageChat
A2~
Valuing input
Not showing favoritism
Being consistently available w/an open ❤️ & mind
Extends kindness, forgiveness & mercy accordingly
Shares in laughter w/Ss, Fs& Ts
Nips negativity at onset
Smiles a lot & always makes others feel a sense of belonging
#engagechat
I want to give these schools the benefit of the doubt, but goodness, I wouldn't make it in such a place. I'd encourage school-wide visionary conversations about the kind of community they want to realize, the kinds of relationships they want to celebrate. #EngageChat
Relationship building moments are key. You can't just passively hope they happen. It has to be deliberate and intentional, especially if you're just starting to build a new culture #EngageChat
A3: “Sour apples”; disgruntled, closed off, fixed mindset, looking out for their own interests instead of what’s best for kids/ the school/ community #engagechat
A3: Focusing on the negatives, the things that aren't going right, and gossiping about them instead of "care-fronting" the person and confronting the issue. So important to shut gossip and negativity down directly: Judge less, love more! #engagechat
A2- It starts with getting to know the people in the building, students and staff alike. Everyone has an integral function in the ecosystem - value their contributions, keep doors open and speak positively about everyone's role and importance to the community. #engagechat
A3. Our work is hard. Education if done right is taxing and teachers get tired. It is important to take care of oneself, Remember our why, and support others! #Engagechat
A3: Those people who are old school and don't see the value in building those relationships, parents putting up walls, Ts who are unwilling to see the value into building those relationships. #engagechat
A3: The challenge I have faced is a school where the organizational trust had been broken in cycles for a long time, and it went from top to bottom in the organization. Takes dedication and humility to bounce back from that. Daily decisions to bring the joy! #EngageChat
A3: Focusing on the negatives, the things that aren't going right, and gossiping about them instead of "care-fronting" the person and confronting the issue. So important to shut gossip and negativity down directly: Judge less, love more! #engagechat
Yes! You know a positive relationship exists when those involved are taking risks, failing, getting up and trying again. Thank you. This is how I will gauge to see where I'm at with my students come my first year teaching this fall. #EngageChat
A3. Our work is hard. Education if done right is taxing and teachers get tired. It is important to take care of oneself, Remember our why, and support others! #Engagechat
A3: The biggest barrier to creating a positive environment is the overwhelming fear of change that grips people.
Change scares people and often times they'd rather be unhappy and comfortable than trying to change for the better. #engagechat
A3 leadership is vital to building positive environments. Courage is needed to confront toxicity. Celebrations to highlight the positivity and inspirational work. Dedication to hearing all voices, even when you don't like what they're saying. #engagechat
Barriers to positive climate occurs when leaders dont take the time to acknowledge and support their staff. Fostering pride in the collective mission is what brings everyone together. #engagechat
to create a thriving school culture leaders in the building must be focused on the wellbeing of staff. We are engaged when we are able to understand and use or strengths and thriving in wellbeing. When we aren’t we make decisions counter to our values and mission #EngageChat
In every workplace there are levels of adventurous mindsets, levels of growth mindset, levels of open mindedness. There are also personalities, attitudes, resistors. It is difficult, if not impossible to align these & such negativity finds a foothold due to fear #engagechat
@daviswelcome#EngageChat A3: Sometimes admin forget everyone needs a little positive reinforcement. If a staff member does something well, let them know! It doesn’t take a lot of effort to give a pat on the back, leave a positive note, etc. Staff need to feel valued.
A3: The biggest barrier to creating a positive environment is the overwhelming fear of change that grips people.
Change scares people and often times they'd rather be unhappy and comfortable than trying to change for the better. #engagechat
A3 Outside forces can hinder a positive internal environment. A school works better as an integral part of the community rather than as a sanctuary from threats. #EngageChat
A3 When we intentionally separate ourselves over disagreements...we close doors and create our own kingdoms...settle our differences and choose to forgive and move forward #Engagechat
#engagechat A3) When I worked in Los Fresnos CISD, I learned to share my honest thinking without diminishing a fellow educator. I also learned to develop a growth mindset. So I would say that lack of honest communication and a fixed mindset can be barriers.
A3) The status quo & those who support it, Change is hard, led by fear of unknown, gotta take those baby steps & keep lines of communication open #engagechat
A3: Not being able to “see the forest for trees” is a barrier against positivity in some schools. Teachers have a tough job, it’s important to keep our eyes focused on the whole picture. #engagechat
A3 leadership is vital to building positive environments. Courage is needed to confront toxicity. Celebrations to highlight the positivity and inspirational work. Dedication to hearing all voices, even when you don't like what they're saying. #engagechat
#engagechat A3: Fear. Fear of being seen as too pally with people "above" you or "under" you. Fear of being appraised unfavourably by others. A lot of times, these fears are more imagined than real. We need to be more real as humans if we want to create a tve environment in schl.
A1 mutually beneficial. Relationships where both people are interested in helping and seeing the other person grow. The concept of “I will take of me, for you. And you will take care of you, for me.” Meaning each person is growing personally for the other person. #engagechat
A3 The same barriers and obstacles that get in the way of most worthwhile activities and ventures: negative people with negative attitudes. My answer is to work with the positivity while trying to lesson the negativity. #engagechat
A3~
Negative attitudes
Minimal teamwork traits evident
When Ss needs are not the top priority
Staff not held accountable for their part in contributing to detriment of a positive school setting
Team building exercises are non existent
#engagechat
#engagechat a3 Until I had a bilingual boss, I hadn't realized how hard my LOTE department's life had been. When she left, I really felt the great divide again. They don't need to speak your #Auslan but they do need to speak another language to "geddit". #edchatPH#whatisschool
A3 Something I try to hold myself to is not complaining. If I bring up a problem it’s with the intent of rolling up my sleeves and working toward a solution. #engagechat
Thank you for sharing. I am so curious to learn more. Why not only apply this to the student? Or have teachers first ask before hugging students who may not want hugs? What did other students think? #EngageChat
One negative leader in the wrong spot can derail the ENTIRE EFFORT!
If the leaders aren't on board, they have to go. It's harsh, but if the organization is serious, they're going to have to make tough choices. #engagechat
A3 Purpose, Social, Community, Physical, and Financial are essential elements to wellbeing. Purpose is a driver of the other four. To create an engaged culture we must be thriving in wellbeing and live out our mission #EngageChat
A3) The status quo & those who support it, Change is hard, led by fear of unknown, gotta take those baby steps & keep lines of communication open #engagechat
A3 #engagechat The larger the community, the more vast the outlooks. The more directions the members face, the more resistance the group feels. The more we feel we are not heard, that being one in a crowd does not matter- thus isolation occurs causing fractures in the foundation
a4 My math students work in inquiry teams, so team-building is really imp. We learn how to react & meet needs, including humility & encouragement #engagechat
A4: I think that talking about your #relationships goes a long way in modeling positive, healthy connections, not only the good times, but also the hard. Kids need to know that it's not all sunshine and flowers, that there are weeds and thorns, too, but it's worth it! #engagechat
A3: Some barriers to creating a positive environment in any school include: level of positive parental involvement, "trickle-down" PD forced upon teachers from district office, & lack of opportunities for teachers to expand upon their personal & professional passion #engagechat
A4 Get to know the students on the first day- greet at the door, smile, learn how to correctly say their name, learn about their interests, likes/dislikes, Home life, listen carefully to them!! #Engagechat
a4 My math students work in inquiry teams, so team-building is really imp. We learn how to react & meet needs, including humility & encouragement #engagechat
Be kind always. Even on your worst day, be mindful and present. Look them in the eye, show them you are happy to see them, excited to be there. Do not forget they watch your every move, see your facial expressions & read your body language- stay positive & mindful #Engagechat
For sure, I am opposed to "easy" decisions, made for legal convenience and at cost of the kind of community we are trying to build. So it is crucial that we make these decisions as a community, equitably. #EngageChat
Can't just occasionally greet others or have lunch together and call that a relationship. That's an acquaintance. Relationships require people to fill the relational capacity cups of trust thru frequent conversations and accountability over a long time. #HamstraHighlights#sel
A positive school environment turns these around. It’s supportive. Communication is open and inclusive of all stakeholders. And adults and students alike contribute to a positive online community. #DigCit#EngageChat
It was difficult because half the teachers were veterans and the other half were brand new. New admin. A lot of dissenting views. At my new school, everyone seems to share the same values, and the training is comprehensive, so the relationships are quite different. #engagechat
A4: Treating colleagues, families, and staff with respect regardless of the gravity of the interaction...just being positive on a regular basis; it’s what we do when we think no one is watching that has the biggest impact on our students #EngageChat
A4) By having great, positive, caring relationships w/their learners, Be their cheerleader, Believe in them & tell them that you KNOW they will amount to greatness! #engagechat
A4: By never comparing themselves to other teachers favorably or making critical comments about their colleagues in front of their students. Unfortunately this happens waaaaay too often! #engagechat
A4 #engagechat when I used to teach my residents, I became a role model by not demeaning colleagues if I disagreed with their opinions, by encouraging fruitful discussions through teaching respectfully and by collaborating with other colleagues rather than working against them
A3 Students watch how the adults in the building treat and talk about each other. Wellbeing applies to students as well. The best way to model is to care if they are thriving and they will begin to care about others in the same way #EngageChat
A4: You should always model healthy discourse. When teachers/admin get caught in their feelings they need to be humble enough to admit this. Students need to see healthy understandings of behavior and reflection. #engagechat
A4 I think it all comes down to getting to know students well: their aspirations, interests, fears, etc. And being responsive with curriculum and instruction. Trusting & inviting the to clear the class community. #engagechat
#engagechat a4 Just moving slightly left of centre, I was suprised and chuffed, how talking with our students (we all did it) about old and often yukky jobs had moved us along. We weren't born teachers and I stuffed chickens to prove it!
A1: to me, positive relationships meaning having a "two-way street" in terms of constructive, consistent, & non-threatening communication between student/teacher, parent/teacher, teacher/teacher, teacher/principal, or school/district office #engagechat
A4. Students observe, watch, listen .... When they see teachers grouped together talking in whispered tones about a student or another teacher .... they mimic this behavior. So sad ...
Model what you wish to see in others. #engagechat
A4 Get to know the students on the first day- greet at the door, smile, learn how to correctly say their name, learn about their interests, likes/dislikes, Home life, listen carefully to them!! #Engagechat
A4: A teacher can model positive relationships by “acting like you’ve got some sense!” Everything doesn’t have to be complicated!! For goodness sake be cordial, respectful, and have some self control in what you say or don’t say! *rant over* 😏🤦🏾♀️#engagechat
A4 greet them at the door, smile, have fun, be welcoming, and keep the negatives outside. I'm So late, sorry for missing, sling is cramping my chat Style 😀 #engagechat
Be kind always. Even on your worst day, be mindful and present. Look them in the eye, show them you are happy to see them, excited to be there. Do not forget they watch your every move, see your facial expressions & read your body language- stay positive & mindful #Engagechat
A4~
Model goodness, positivity & kindness 24/7
Love them & their families with all you’ve got
Engage in authentic, continuous heartfelt conv w/them, for them
Look them in the eye &truly listen to them & offer your praise,support& encouragement consistently
Be fair
#engagechat
#stucentclass The lazy hazy days of Friday afternoons in overly hot Los Angeles. Sometimes a girls gotta do what, a girls gotta do Hope you all have a nice week end #engagechat
Some are challenges that can feel beyond their control—community problems that spill into the school. But schools can contribute if they cast blame and don’t treat all as worthy of belonging. #EngageChat A3
A4 #engagechat Do not dismiss their suggestions. Ask for feedback. Welcome change. The more we listen and #letstudentsspeak the more they will focus on learning- this is a positive relationship- trust, respectful & genuine appreciation
A4: It starts with respect. Make sure they know that you value their input. Always maintain a positive, helpful attitude.
It's especially important for them to see you treat your peers the right way. It'll show them how peers are supposed to treat each other. #engagechat
@daviswelcome#EngageChat A4: Teachers can model positive relationships by teaching with passion & enthusiasm, showing interest, not talking about students in front of students (BIG ONE), and modeling social skills while providing opportunities for kids to interact w/ peers.
A2 positive relationships are cultivated by encouraging curiosity in each person. Creating an environment of questions, listening and learning from each other. Allowing everyone to participate in leadership and follower roles throughout the year. #engagechat
A4: Treat Ss, Ps, and other Ts fairly and with respect at all times. Model that as well. Try to look at the good and not put extra weight on the bad #engagechat
A4 Be kind to your students every chance you get. So many our kids are hurting inside and it takes one caring adult to help them have a more positive outlook. NO SARCASM!- The Greek word sarkasmos means" to tear flesh". Be a rock, don't throw rocks. #engagechat
A4 Teachers can model positive relationships first & foremost with their studens by demonstrating & living the characteristics that make for a positive relationship. Students are watching so make sure your relationships with colleagues and adminstration are positive.#engagechat
A4.Our pupils forget most of what we teach them.They will however remember us their teachers forever.Lets be good and kind to them.A kind word lasts a lifetime #EngageChat
A3 leadership is vital to building positive environments. Courage is needed to confront toxicity. Celebrations to highlight the positivity and inspirational work. Dedication to hearing all voices, even when you don't like what they're saying. #engagechat
#engagechat A4: Our Ss are watching what we say but more so what we do. The way we talk to people in school(from janitor to P) convey to them our regard for their dignity, or lack thereof. One S remarked one day I could smile more often. I am glad he's OK with telling me that.
A3
- lack of communication
- lack of respect
- not setting up boundaries and rules of engagement for classroom settings
- not identifying people’s uniqueness, individuality and background
- not establishing a clearly identified leader
- lack of accountability #engagechat
By not being open to building those realtionships. Refusing to come to parent-teacher conferences. I bust my proverbial ass to make sure they understand that I believe that they will always know their child better than I do and that we are a team. #engagechat
A4: Teachers can lead with vulnerability. Seek to understand before being understood. Give trust before it is earned, and give it again when the learner and or colleague loses it. Lead with vulnerability. #EngageChat
A4: Teachers can lead with vulnerability. Seek to understand before being understood. Give trust before it is earned, and give it again when the learner and or colleague loses it. Lead with vulnerability. #EngageChat
A4: Showing them that they are valued, loved, respected, cared for.- Hugs, hi-fives, listening to understand not respond, smile, writing positive notes, making them partners in learning! #engagechat#KindnessMatters
A4 a teacher must be focused at the start of each day in maintaining a calm demeanor and one that does not overreact to situations. They must also establish an understanding that their are boundaries and rules to follow for everyone and be willing to go first. #engagechat
A5: You have to do things together to really get to know them. We have a lot of surface relationships that are puddle deep. We need to fill the well ;-) Hang outside of work, laugh together, eat together, have meaningful discussions #engagechat
A5 making time to get to know them, checking in on one another, leaving in and listening more to help when colleagues need it, grab coffee together, try to have fun #engagechat
A5. Started something new today! Educators can share what book they're reading at https://t.co/1FZggF5wET or see what others shared at https://t.co/I6lZHDebkJ - what a great + relationship could come from asking person more about the book! #engagechat
A5 making time to get to know them, checking in on one another, leaving in and listening more to help when colleagues need it, grab coffee together, try to have fun #engagechat
I spent the first half of the chat just reading people's responses to Q1. Cannot keep up here. So many wonderful thoughts generously shared. Thank you all #EngageChat
A5: Listen instead of just speaking. Ask questions. Empathize. Offer support. Make their day better instead of worse (should be obvious, but, you know...) #engagechat
This is a big one! Students are ALWAYS learning and ALWAYS observing. They watch how you interact with others and it will DEFINITELY influence their interactions with their peers. #EngageChat
#engagechat A5: Humour. We take ourselves too seriously at times. Some good-natured jokes and laughter can build a more relaxed environment for everyone.
A4: This has always worked for me-
1) Do what you say you are going to do and if you can’t, say you’re sorry.
2) Never ask someone to do something you aren’t willing to do.
3) Encourage feedback and use it to make positive change.
4) Always look for the good in them.
#engagechat
A5 introduce yourself every, discover what your colleagues enjoy, do your own background research on their interests and then engage them when you have an opportunity. Have a learning and growth mindset. #engagechat
A5: When building positive relationships with colleagues it’s important to be available. Sounds simple...but as educators we’re always on the go. However, taking that time to put yourself out there so to speak is important. #engagechat#beAvailable
A5: Listen instead of just speaking. Ask questions. Empathize. Offer support. Make their day better instead of worse (should be obvious, but, you know...) #engagechat
It can be addressed by a leader - but it has to be a leader that everyone respects. A self-appointed leader (usually a member of one of the groups) will have a harder time uniting everyone. #EngageChat
A5~
Show up to things that support them & their passions
Engage authentically & give feedback that is honest, relevant & specific
Laughw/them
be loyal, dependable
☘️Always, always be the best version of you so they can be the best version of themselves
#EngageChat
A5) I’ve found that the best way is to listen, listen & listen some more, Teachers want to be heard, want validation, acknowledgement Lend an ear & a hug... you’ll be so appreciated for it #engagechat
Listen. Then pause, ask them questions & listen some more. Be present. Be open-minded. Be forgiving-we all have bad days. Say Hello when you pass in the hall, recognition prevents isolation. Above all keep any negativity to yourself because negativity is like Velcro #engagechat
Just be a model! Especially toward those the kids care about the most, including their parents and peers. Also show respect to those the teacher might find challenging. Engage through tech, too, to model positive relationships online. #EngageChat A4
A5. Trying to come up w/ creative ideas for those of us in these chats to connect further than 140 characters in tweets day after day. Sharing ideas over PD bks read seems like an easy way to do so. Agree?
Share a book - connect w/ others https://t.co/1FZggF5wET#engagechat
A5 Trust is created in small moments. Every interaction is an opportunity to create positive relationships.A formal process to include wellbeing questions in feedback/informally where staff is checking on each other. The leader creates the culture that others follow. #EngageChat
A5: When building positive relationships with colleagues it’s important to be available. Sounds simple...but as educators we’re always on the go. However, taking that time to put yourself out there so to speak is important. #engagechat#beAvailable
A5~
Show up to things that support them & their passions
Engage authentically & give feedback that is honest, relevant & specific
Laughw/them
be loyal, dependable
☘️Always, always be the best version of you so they can be the best version of themselves
#EngageChat
We have salad bar days- each T brings in one or two additions and we have a feast. It's a great way to come together- and a delicious lunch! #engagechat
A5 Bring them sweet treats unexpectedly...praise their teaching style to another colleague...tweet a pic of something awesome they do...plain and simple, just value them #Engagechat
A5 A strengthsbased culture develops a deeper understanding of self and others and acceptance of how we experience the world. It is with this lens we create and value complimentary partners and are more productive and impactful #EngageChat
A5 Bring them sweet treats unexpectedly...praise their teaching style to another colleague...tweet a pic of something awesome they do...plain and simple, just value them #Engagechat
re A3: Yea, that's sad. And when we're talking about grudges adults hold against kids, that becomes really hard to sit with. We've gotta do everything in our power, including seeking help to give our kids a new slate whenever we see them. A new chance to get it right. #EngageChat
A5 Be a participant, not a spectator. Actively listen to colleagues -- listen to understand, not to reply. Be supportive and a trusted resource. #EngageChat
I totally agree!! Last year I randomly saw clearance trinkets on sale at drug store. I grabbed a basket and loaded it up with small toys. The next morning each S had a trinket on his/her desk waiting. They were so surprised and it brought such joy - being kind is fun! #engagechat
Maybe that’s not what they’re looking for. Maybe school and teachers were traumatizing to them. Maybe it feels threatening instead of welcoming, despite best intentions. I hope the school has a support system to address family engagement challenges. #FamEngage#EngageChat
A5 #engagechat Enter the building with optimism. As you walk to your classroom smile, wave & spread joy. Everyone is unique & everyone has a different comfortable interaction level BUT everyone wants to belong and everyone wants to know they have a workplace to call home.
re A3: How have you seen this addressed proactively? I'm half hoping you saw restorative practices in action & can share your experience :-) #EngageChat
#engagechat could I ask for some help with some research I am doing? I created a survey, not all questions required of course, would love your feedback and help. It is anonymous 😀 share with pln also, hoping for a lot of information https://t.co/gjVVgoJc2u
@daviswelcome - you are appreciated! Marvelous exchanges by passionate educators.
Hope everyone will consider sharing what book they are reading and, in turn, asking others questions about what they have read. Let's build relationships! https://t.co/t6tiR9KgsF#Engagechat
