#Resiliencechat Tidbit: Love this quote by @NicholasFerroni:
"Students who are loved at home, come to school to learn, and students who aren't, come to school to be loved."
A1: It's about learning...opening a child's world to the possibilities. Teachers who love to teach are usually those whose students love to learn. #resiliencechat
A1: Every child deserves to be loved and needs a caring, loving adult in their life. I LOVE public education and the potential it has to make a difference in so may young lives. #resiliencechat
A1 Well, I love my kids and try to let that help guide me in what to do to support them. Ideally, kids love learning in general and get to focus in on what they love the most. Love among members of the school community. <3
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A1. “Love” is what is created when the passion for teaching equals the desire for learning and both aspirations are codependent on one another and are fulfilled #resiliencechat
A1 I used to think that I really loved school. But years later I realized I really hated school. It was just something to do to pass the time. #resiliencechat
A1: Educators have to 1. Love their CHOSEN profession and 2. Love their students. We have to be guided by doing what is right and best for our students everyday! If you don't like kids don't become a teacher for the love of all that's good and holy! #resiliencechat
I agree! I tell anyone that will listen I love my kids! All 600 of them! I love their smiles, love their kindness, I even love their truths! #resiliencechat
A2. Children are coming to school with more baggage than ever before. We want school to be a safe, secure, uplifting experience for students. We must develop relationships to reach our tough students; in sum, we have to show love. #resiliencechat
A1 One poem started out with "Abe Lincoln was an honest man." I couldn't think of anything so I wrote, "He put bad men in the frying pan." Needless to say she didn't read that to the class. #resiliencechat
A2: Perhaps because a person's own experience from years ago was rote, boring, or lacking engagement. Our own frame of reference does come into play, but it need not continue. #resiliencechat
Q2: Maybe for fear of not being professional. I'm not sure . I have loved what I do and my students from day 1. I have a saying , " You got to love the one your with." So if you are not loving you students, boss, chosen profession then you need to make a change. #resiliencechat
Yes. One of the toughest things to do for some is to get out of thinking "Well, that's the way we did (something) so that's how it should be for today's students." #resiliencechat
A1 Several years later when we were waiting to come back in from recess, Miss Hochstetter came up to me. She asked me to write a book of poetry. I've been writing poems all my life. #resiliencechat
A2: The influence of various types of media on our consciousness... Now before you tell me I'm wrong when was the last movie that painted school in a goid light... No it's cool I'll wait #resiliencechat
I think more ppl in supervisory roles need to have the courage to counsel those who do not love what they do, out of the profession of education. #resiliencechat
Gary, former Illinois Supt now supporting schools in creating classrooms of character Love in education is what makes students remember their teachers. #resiliencechat
A2: being scared to love ALL sides of students even the raw, vulnerable sides where they show the wounds. But love conquers ALL! The greatest of all is Love! #ResilienceChat
A1 I still think about Miss Hochstetter. I wonder if a) if she ever got married b) if she's still alive and c) if I ever do publish my poems, I will dedicate them to her. #resiliencechat
A2 I think it might go back to a strain of mistrust and underestimating of kids on the part of our society in general. Combine with patriarchal thinking and discipline in many schools becomes job one; love is "soft" & scorned. Racism plays an undeniable role, too.
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A2: Thankful to see 21st Century learning finally picking up more steam. Emotions are finally being embraced as a natural and necessary part of the learning process. #UDL#SEL#growthmindset#resiliencechat
That would be phenomenal. I hope that it does happen!
I was just thinking yesterday, if I ever publish anything, Miss Dmytryk (5th grade) deserves a line in the dedication.
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Thanks. I have wonderful friends and family, and I spend a lot of time listening to them. Hard to overestimate how much I've learned in the process. All credit to them. :-)
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A2: we are inundated daily with stories of relationships that are inappropriate, so distance including the emotional type is a survivor Val technique #resiliencechat
A2: Portraying love can sound soft to those who believe their job is content driven. Ts need to understand that caring — including the virtues of compassion, charity,
generosity, and sharing — is the heart of ethics. #resiliencechat
A3 I don't know when or how the shift began, but over time I've seen more and more people talking about how the best learning occurs in relationship - like JoAnn Deak's "confidence, competence, and connectedness." That opens the door to love.
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You are making a terrific point that I believe has made it difficult for people to talk about love and education. Thank goodness we are moving beyond that #resiliencechat
A2 Back when I was a kid, things were different. I don't think that it would have occurred to that generation of teachers to have love enter the equation. Nothing nurturing about them. #resiliencechat
Finding in my heart this is my true calling through numerous ways one ex. When a student comes to visit and has overcome obstacles to achieve their dreams! #ResilienceChat
A3: Bringing back the focus on relationships. Also, administrators recognizing that teaching is incredibly hard work and giving teachers the support and freedom they need to be successful. #resiliencechat
A3: Instructionally... a focus on #PBL and #studentvoice with more student centered learning --promotes active learning! Teachers facilitating, modeling, and co-creating atmosphere with love of learning energy taking over! #resiliencechat
A2 I've talked about my first grade teacher and the time she stood being me while I was folding a piece of paper and said, "7 years old and still cannot fold a piece of paper." #resiliencechat
A3 My third grade teacher was a senile old bat who retired part way through the school year. The next teacher had the same surname as mine so she Germanized it to make it different. #resiliencechat
I grew up in poverty. My mom had very little education. She is now in her late 60s. She was telling me a story last week about how her second grade teacher brought her food and checked on her over a Christmas Break. Powerful ! #resiliencechat
Mm hmm. "Love isn't going to teach them to pass this quiz." That sort of thinking. Thank goodness, as you say, more and more people are moving beyond that false distinction. #ResilienceChat
This same woman complained about the fact that her birthday fell on Pearl Harbor day. As if the Japanese did that just to ruin her life. #resiliencechat
A3: Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. - Leo Buscaglia #resiliencechat
A3 My 4th grade teacher was a stereotypically neurotic Jewish woman. Once she invited her grown son in without having him report to the office first. She was a basketcase. #resiliencechat
A4 Hmm. I suppose different kids are harder and easier for us to love (or to allow us to), even for those of us who genuinely love them all. Getting through to them to really know their stories may take time and effort but can help immensely.
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A3 I forgot to bring paints and paint brushes to school this one time, and so she made me sit still at my desk while every other kid got to paint. #resiliencechat
A3 Well, I went around and told kids I thought they were doing a good job. Even at ten years old I was better able to nurture than all of those adult teachers. #resiliencechat
Pressure makes “love” in education tough ... we have these kids for a short time and we have to help them move in the correct direction ... all while keeping all of our paperwork in order and achieving proper scores. #resiliencechat
Just had a thought. Remember those years when teachers were encouraged to get involved in an online #ThankATeacher day and things like that? I wonder if that had an effect on them/us realizing the importance of relationship. #ResilienceChat
You know what's funny? With 1st grade teacher, I just sort of did an eyeroll. I never let on that I had heard her saying that behind my back. #resiliencechat
You all have got to understand that it was a generational thing. My grandma from the old country wasn't nurtured. My mom wasn't nurtured. I learned how to nurture myself. #resiliencechat
As I mentioned, I was bullied. I was a vulnerable and sensitive child. But at the same time I was already developing my deep inner strength. That's how I was able to survive all of that despite the fact that, at eleven, I was suicidal. #resiliencechat
A5 Depends on the kid. Kid Q is nurtured at school, but she is also antisocial. It's hard for her to let down her guard. I think she knows she has been nurtured by teachers and aides. #resiliencechat
A5: No, they would not. Large classes, teachers on overload, too much testing, pressure to succeed. Doubt love would even be something most students would consider although hopefully each has one teacher where they feel this way. #resiliencechat
A5 Kid O had some good well meaning teachers throughout the years. A few of them tried to make her out to be severely mentally disabled simply because they weren't interested in looking deeper. #resiliencechat
A5 Doesn't matter in a way, though. Kid O has always had her way of working a room. Besides she's a huge flirt. Boys are drawn to her and she loves the attention. #resiliencechat
A6 They can do that by reaching out to the shy ones like me in such a way that doesn't make us feel embarrassed. We had a sub in Jr. High who knew how to draw me out. #resiliencechat
A5 I...don't know. I think most *are* loved in school. But I worry that, especially as kids grow older, other things (don't always but) can interfere with that message. And teachers who don't like kids (some of whom are frankly racist) don't help. Sooooo... (1/2)
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Q5: I would like to say most feel loved ( respected and treated with dignity). I am not sure we are there yet. We have some incredible educators across this land doing their best to make sure kids are being cared for And because of that hope springs eternal! #resiliencechat
A6: keep it real about expectations. humor whenever possible and the hand-written note & personalized feedback both underrated! It ain’t about you (the T), it’s all about the Ss. #resiliencechat
A7 I find #ResilienceChat most frequently helps me clarify what I'm doing and why. So usually, I go about things the next morning much the same but with a greater awareness of intention and effect.
A7 All kidding aside, I will work on nurturing these grown up kids who call me Mom. Talking about people in their 30s who grew up in poverty and didn't receive the nurturing they needed. #resiliencechat
