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Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:30 PM EDT

#SOBTC send our boys to college is starting now!!!

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:31 PM EDT

When you come on the chat state your name, position, etc and where you are from #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:32 PM EDT

Daryl from MD in the building! Love the topic. Gonna hang out as long as I can. #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:32 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd good Dr. D good to have you on sir, how is life #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:32 PM EDT

What's up @Evidence4school!? Thanks 4 not giving up on me! We need @PaulForbesNYC @DoveSoars @CarlHeastie @jamaaltbailey in da house #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:32 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd We are always a slow arriving crowd Laugh out Loud #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman @PaulForbesNYC @DoveSoars @CarlHeastie @jamaaltbailey Brother Jamaal glad to have you man!!! #sobtc

uchangenow May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

Checking in from DC! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

We are discussing respect for #womanhood #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

first question is coming #sobtc

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

Joanne from Missouri. I teach 7th grade world history and 11th grade modern global issues. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:33 PM EDT

Thanks for doing David!! #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:34 PM EDT

Q1 How does respect for one’s self and manhood impact respect for womanhood? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:34 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 Lady J, thank you for joining #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:34 PM EDT

@Evidence4school CP time crowd 😄 #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:34 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd Places to go, people to see!!! Laugh out Loud #sobtc

PresidentPat May 12 @ 7:35 PM EDT

Wussup y'all!! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:35 PM EDT

Important topic to our #SOBTC quest. We are discussing fostering a healthy respect for women and #womanhood

PresidentPat May 12 @ 7:35 PM EDT

2nd grade teacher here in DC #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:35 PM EDT

Q1 How does respect for one’s self and manhood impact respect for womanhood? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:36 PM EDT

@PresidentPat Brother Pat, thank you for joining in... #sobtc

PresidentPat May 12 @ 7:36 PM EDT

@Evidence4school Thanks again for creating the space. Also good finally meeting you in person. #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:36 PM EDT

Hope I am not late. #Sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:36 PM EDT

The bronx and https://t.co/GvG8DLGJdo is in da building! #SOBTC

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:36 PM EDT

The bronx and https://t.co/dbf4r0twIb is in da building! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

@PresidentPat yessir...I can not do it without folk who consistently chime in... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

RT @jamaalabowman The bronx and https://t.co/26mYWpjMhe is in da building! #SOBTC

uchangenow May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

A1: Critically important that we model, teach and coach young males to have respect for women/girls! #SOBTC

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

@Evidence4school I'm good. Are u presenting in upcoming conference? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb NOPE, just in time...question one is on the board #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:37 PM EDT

Q1 How does respect for one’s self and manhood impact respect for womanhood? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:38 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd YEP!!! next Friday..I am nervous as hell #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:38 PM EDT

A1 If you do not know and respect yourself you can not really respect another. #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:38 PM EDT

Q2 How does hip hop culture influence #respect for #womanhood? Positive or negative? #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:39 PM EDT

A1: Well, you have to have respect for yourself before you can fully respect others. When you respect yourself you act a certain way. #Sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:39 PM EDT

@Evidence4school respect of self and knowledge of self is the beginning of all knowledge and the journey to higher consciousness! #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:39 PM EDT

A1 You can enjoy and like but you can not fully respect. The relationship is symbiotic. Without self respect, you can not fully give #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:40 PM EDT

A2: 99.9% Negative, most music teaches young men to be disrespectful towards women. Most lyrics I can't even say. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:40 PM EDT

A2 I think hip hop culture goes a long way in disrespecting our women and men for that matter, but also promotes and respects... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:41 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb So much of our music is mysogonistic #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:41 PM EDT

@DoveSoars Brother Shawn thanks for chiming in...I know you are super busy!!! #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:41 PM EDT

1) Boys struggle to know who they are which leads to a failure in understanding the opposite sex. Men who "get it" have to model "it" #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:41 PM EDT

Q2 How does hip hop culture influence #respect for #womanhood? Positive or negative? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:42 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd absolutely... We only know relating to women in terms of sexual conquests... #sobtc

PresidentPat May 12 @ 7:42 PM EDT

A2: Hip-Hop has also been used to empower women by women. My favorite is Queen Latifah U.N.I.T.Y #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:42 PM EDT

A2: Most negative music is mainstream. So, respectful music is missing. #Sobtc

uchangenow May 12 @ 7:42 PM EDT

A2: The music is an issue but a bigger issue is how we socialize young males as it relates to women/girls. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:43 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd A1 We know how to use, but we do not know how to serve. And we do not teach that to our boys #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:43 PM EDT

@PresidentPat " I punched him dead in his eye..." #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:43 PM EDT

@uchangenow I think entertainment raises so many youth (male and female) Black white and other.. #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

Q3 What should we teach our girls in terms of demanding respect from their male counterparts? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

question 3 is on the board make sure you answer with A1 A2 A3 tags... #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

A2) Hip Hop often creates an emotionless, tough, misogynistic "manhood box" which many boys feel they must exist in. #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

@Evidence4school it's horrible for the most part Really really really destructive. We must focus on family and schools to combat rap! #SOBTC

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:45 PM EDT

You have to teach them the opposite. Teach positive relationships. That is at times hard to see without tradition family sctructure. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:45 PM EDT

#SOBTC use the hashtag and chime in https://t.co/OyrjNIzdPx

WALKERD03 May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

@Evidence4school Hip Hop only has influence when the listener allows it to persuade his thinking positively or negatively.

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:45 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb great point #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:45 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb When do you start? #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:46 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb media is horrible for all of us! They are programming us to be polarized in our reptilian brain and lust #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:46 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman I think the music is so different, and no one is teaching youth how to relate to the music #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:46 PM EDT

A2: bottom line, we need to self actualize!!!! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:46 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman in every way in every environment #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:47 PM EDT

Q3 What should we teach our girls in terms of demanding respect from their male counterparts? #sobtc

uchangenow May 12 @ 7:47 PM EDT

A2: It is always easy to blame the music. When will we create standards for appropriate male behavior. This has to be modeled! #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:47 PM EDT

A3 We have to teach our girls that they they are loved, so they do not seek it from strangers and strange people #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:48 PM EDT

A3)We often teach black girls independence but we should teach girls & boys about respect and cooperation. #sobtc https://t.co/bic67KFpr9

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:44 PM EDT

Q3 What should we teach our girls in terms of demanding respect from their male counterparts? #sobtc

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 7:48 PM EDT

A3 Again they must have self-respect before than can demand it from young men. Young teens vulnerable. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:48 PM EDT

Q4 Can we as society ever debunk the myth that #manhood (Black/Latino/White) is linked to sexual “conquests”? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:48 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 Defining that self respect is important too. Some people think they are respecting themselves because they feel good.. #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:49 PM EDT

@Evidence4school build their self confidence by teaching them things and treating them normal. Not like they're inferior. #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:49 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 That is too narrow a definition... But teens are very vulnerable, because the need to get along is almost greater now #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:49 PM EDT

RT @jamaalabowman @Evidence4school build their self confidence by teaching them things and treating them normal. Not like inferior. #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:50 PM EDT

Q4 Can we as society ever debunk the myth that #manhood (Black/Latino/White) is linked to sexual “conquests”? #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:50 PM EDT

@Evidence4school I read to my daughter she paints plays in the park plays with brown dolls tell her she's beautiful #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:50 PM EDT

A4 I think we can, but it has to start with believing it ourselves. And showing it in our conduct... #sobtc

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 7:50 PM EDT

@Evidence4school yes, there is need for role models. #SOBTC

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

Agreed.The music is problematic but most men in general have to learn about better treatment/respect of women #sobtc https://t.co/GOabnrTFIZ

uchangenow May 12 @ 7:47 PM EDT

A2: It is always easy to blame the music. When will we create standards for appropriate male behavior. This has to be modeled! #Sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

@Evidence4school destroying the self esteem of everyone is all around us. We really have to constantly be on defense and offense #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

@DoveSoars Yeah, some believe it, but positive messages do not get heard on the radio... #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

A4: Just teach them to be respectful in relationships (short or long term). Teach what being cool is or at least to be respectable. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman It is a external and civil war #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:51 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd wow #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:52 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 #rolemodels #mentorships #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:52 PM EDT

We are moving right along folk. Do not forget to follow the beautiful minds on this chat... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:53 PM EDT

Q5 How does the structure of the Black family impact how #womenhood is perceived? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:53 PM EDT

critical question on the board... #sobtc

darylhowardphd May 12 @ 7:54 PM EDT

A4) This is a challenge like no other. Sexism is worse than racism. Yup, I said it. #sobtc https://t.co/DMh8zAMrRw

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:48 PM EDT

Q4 Can we as society ever debunk the myth that #manhood (Black/Latino/White) is linked to sexual “conquests”? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:54 PM EDT

A5 When mom works hard at two jobs, it is very difficult to teach these things. Without Dad in the home, we are looking at an uphill #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:55 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd Many people agree with you... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd that suppression is extreme and real. women still make only 60 cent on the dollar when compared to men #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

@Evidence4school yes! Right now together! Beyond beats and rhymes is a great documentary to use! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

Only a few more questions folk #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman I will check it out... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

RT @jamaalabowman @Evidence4school yes! Right now together! Beyond beats and rhymes is a great documentary to use! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:57 PM EDT

Q6 Does the current Presidential race impact the perception of women? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:57 PM EDT

Q5 How does the structure of Black family impact how #womenhood is perceived? #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:57 PM EDT

A5: A boy needs a father or mentor to model himself afterwards (most of the time). So, without a father the son has to learn (1/2) #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:57 PM EDT

Keep those responses coming folk #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:58 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb This is the greatest deficit. We need fathers, but we need big brothers, uncles and grandfathers to fill in blanks #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 7:58 PM EDT

A5: That is were music & bad influences come in. Look at any culture, the dad teaches the son manhood (Natives, Africans, Euros). #Sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:59 PM EDT

@Evidence4school it's everything. It's where children learn knowledge of self and unconditional love. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:59 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb #BROKEN #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 7:59 PM EDT

@Evidence4school we also have to overcome our inequality infrastructure which effects everyone but black families he most! #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 7:59 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman It is also where we initially learn to relate to the world #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:00 PM EDT

Only a few questions left folk #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:00 PM EDT

Q7 What should be our response when #teenage boys of color use the term #bitch? #sobtc

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 8:00 PM EDT

A6 I had a young man tell me H shouldn't be president because we would be attacked bcuz other countries would perceive her as weak. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:01 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 hmmmmm stereotyping and sexism.... #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 8:01 PM EDT

A5: Most black males aren't paying attention to the presidential race. (2) Most are not going to respect any one of the candidates. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:01 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 I guess that makes bush 41 and 43 strong...? #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@Evidence4school yes! Everything impacts everything else. We have 2 look within for answers. We're too busy looking outside ourselves #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb I disagree.... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb I think many are paying attention to #Trumps rhetoric #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@Evidence4school correct them aggressively #SOBTC

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@Evidence4school Have had discussions with this child to no avail. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:02 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb Even if some do not know all the issues, they know what he is saying.... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:03 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 We just keep planting seeds #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:03 PM EDT

A7 Correct them and give them more words. Kids have to learn that they are not cool just because of the language they use #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 8:03 PM EDT

One is a benefactors of private prisons, the other said black males "predators" which reinforces the negative black male stereotype. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:04 PM EDT

A7 Call there home and leave a message with mom calling her the same thing..... #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:04 PM EDT

A7 Schools can address this programmatically #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:04 PM EDT

Last question coming up!!! #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:05 PM EDT

Q8 What can community organizations and schools do programmatically foster more respect for #womanhood? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:05 PM EDT

Q7 What should be our response when #teenage boys of color use the term #bitch? #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:06 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman "We are the ones that we have been waiting for..." Hearing this changed my life #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:08 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb historically it is hard to argue against #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:08 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb It is subversive and full of #subterfuge but this is absolutely true #thenewjimcrow #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:09 PM EDT

last question #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:09 PM EDT

Q8 Woman’s History Month is in March, how do we organically weave it into content as educators? #sobtc

uchangenow May 12 @ 8:10 PM EDT

It will take some work but we must be intentional about addressing misogyny. #SOBTC https://t.co/oKIqKcyrho

espy4u1 May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd @uchangenow how can this happen in a way that will be widespread?

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 8:10 PM EDT

A7: Tell them right immediately. Teach them the difference as well. Make them know that word is unacceptable. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:10 PM EDT

Q8 We have to work to make disenfranchised groups a part of the narrative, but then we need to make them THE narrative #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:11 PM EDT

RT @uchangenow It will take some work but we must address misogyny. #SOBTC https://t.co/jPfgYXkSDW

espy4u1 May 12 @ 7:56 PM EDT

@darylhowardphd @uchangenow how can this happen in a way that will be widespread?

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:11 PM EDT

That was our last question folk. We will be back on 5/26 make sure you join us then two!!! Thanks for coming out #sobtc

BrownBrotherWeb May 12 @ 8:11 PM EDT

A8: Real men know the not to disrespect women. So, teach real manhood. I was taught to never hit, curse in front of , or disrespect. #Sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 8:12 PM EDT

@Evidence4school classes n leadership n well rounded curriculum Citizenry and life long skills like coding banking, entrepreneurship #SOBTC

uchangenow May 12 @ 8:12 PM EDT

A7: This kind of language toward women can't be tolerated. Must be corrected immediately. #Sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:12 PM EDT

@BrownBrotherWeb absolutely..... and we have to teach our boys to not get emotionally hi jack and succumb to violence #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 8:12 PM EDT

@Evidence4school just do it! #SOBTC

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 8:13 PM EDT

A8 It's an opportunity to discuss the traits of successful and memorable women. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:13 PM EDT

@uchangenow I know there is not such thing as zero tolerance, but when you are #nationbuilding, it should be a zero tolerance issue #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:14 PM EDT

@GeoJo22 We have to weave It by making it not just a monthly topic...!!! #sobtc

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:14 PM EDT

Thank you for coming out folk!!! #sobtc

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 8:15 PM EDT

@Evidence4school Strongly agree. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:16 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman JUST DO IT #sobtc

jamaalabowman May 12 @ 8:17 PM EDT

@Evidence4school thank u Desmond! Ur amazing! #SOBTC

GeoJo22 May 12 @ 8:18 PM EDT

@Evidence4school Thank you for the reminder. I always learn a lot. #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:19 PM EDT

@jamaalabowman I'm just trying to be like you when I grow up!!!! Keep us opting out of #JImCRow I mean #highstakestesting #SOBTC

Evidence4school - Moderator May 12 @ 8:22 PM EDT

Wanted to give you guys a quick shout out #SOBTC ended a few minutes early... #urbanedchat