Good evening everyone no matter where you are! You have found or returned to #resiliencechat A safe place to chat, share ideas, and connect. I'm Rob Martinez, @ResiliencyGuy also known as @DrRobM_FSUSD and I'm moderating tonight 10/01/18
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#resiliencechat Here's hoping that as #October2018 is starting that your school year is off to a phenomenal beginning, and that you are having success with your goals!
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#Resiliencechat#tidbit “To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved,” wrote the 19th century Scottish poet George MacDonald. A bit more recently, neuroscientist Antonio Damasio concluded that, “there is no love without trust.”
Amy Valentine here-- director of the Foundation for Blended & Online Learning. We give scholarships to seniors and grants to teachers-- one of the criteria being that they are resilient pioneers willing to embrace #technology in #schools#resiliencechat
Meet Jemar, FBOL scholarship winner. #Blendedlearning helped him to develop resilience. I know a student that was disengaged, felt without purpose, and was angry in school. That was me. I didn’t like nor excel at school without agency or voice in my learning, #resiliencechat
Amy Valentine here-- director of the Foundation for Blended & Online Learning. We give scholarships to seniors and grants to teachers-- one of the criteria being that they are resilient pioneers willing to embrace #technology in #schools#resiliencechat
We are in our third year of giving scholarships to kids, must tell you, the ones who rise to the top are not those with straights As, or a portfolio of extracurricular activities-- the common denominator is...resilience. #resiliencechat
#Trust is recognized as an important component of human relationships, and in our systems. Q1 To what extend do you believe that having #trust in those you work with for the benefit of children matters? Please share your thinking. #resiliencechat
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Teaching often involves us breaking from the script.
You need trust in those you work with that when they do, you can follow for the betterment of the students.
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Q2 In your experience is is more important to #giveit to others, #earnit from others, or create #mutualtrust? Asking for a friend......Okay, I'm the one asking! Please share your why with your answer.
A2 I struggle all the time with the #giveit part of trust. Been that way since I was a kid. I don't believe promises. My feeling is don't promise. Just do it. #resiliencechat
#tidbit2#resiliencechat
Trust defined: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
"relations have to be built on trust"
synonyms:confidence, belief, faith, certainty, assurance, conviction, credence; reliance
Mr. MIT and I are days away from or 25th wedding anniversary. We have been through hell and back several times over. Including now. Not just my cancer, but financial struggles. #resiliencechat
In his "Speed of Trust" book, Covey suggests that even though it is difficult, that we should #giveit (Trust) to others as a means to building that relationship without demands or expectations, and it will pay dividends in the future, Q3 Agree or no, why? #resiliencechat
Just got off the phone with my wife! I have to be awake at 4:45 because I'm driving four kids to the @NELMS_info Student Leadership Conference, but I can #ResilienceChat for a bit before going to bed. :-)
Just got off the phone with my wife! I have to be awake at 4:45 because I'm driving four kids to the @NELMS_info Student Leadership Conference, but I can #ResilienceChat for a bit before going to bed. :-)
I know I'm joining midstream and without the context of the past 25 minutes, so...
A3a I feel like you always start with trust, but that if that trust is betrayed repeatedly, it's time to look seriously at the relationship.
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Q4 #resiliencechat Sometimes, #trust is expected within systems, yet, shouldn't #trust be cultivated, and nourished, much like how we tend to our gardens? What are some examples of how to build trustful systems?
a1 you need to be live that all are doing their best trust they are doing the best they can for kids, to have an atmosphere or growth conflict : #resiliencechat
A3b That said, I also think when working with kids, trust is so fundamental to a positive and respectful relationship, and our job is after all to teach, that I have never ever stopped having faith in any of my kids.
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I really agree! While many times we have been disappointed or "burned" by someone, if we allow that #distrust to color our vision forever we might miss out on an amazing experience or opportunity that could change us, our world, or those we serve. #resiliencechat
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Yep.
You can't expect trust. Things like loyalty to the organisation are not the same as trust. They are more "expectations of your contract ".
True trust comes from another part of the person.
A4 My mom was not nurtured as a kid because her immigrant mother didn't know how to nurture. She didn't cultivate trust within me. Oddly enough my dad who was a sensitive soul did that more so for me. #resiliencechat
A3: I haven’t read the book, but I believe that initial trust is a must and in order to keep the trust one must prove themself to be trustworthy! If we don’t give the initial, we are 1/2 empty thinkers and I like to think its headed towards being full! #resiliencechat
A3: I agree with Covey hard to believe people are not trying to be capable, essential for self image. So start from belief in their talents #resiliencechat
A3c I've also, fortunately, never been in a position where I had to give up trusting a relative or a close friend. Friends of friends, on the other hand, have on rare occasions left me so weirded out I've cut off contact altogether.
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You are lucky. I have been processing psychological and emotional abuse I suffered at the hands of one of my brothers. Good thing I have some good people in my life. #resiliencechat
A4: trust is nurtured through authentic input, an atmosphere where descent is allowed and valued and where everyone fells they are pulling in the same direction at the same time #resiliencechat
#Resiliencechat This makes me think of #positiveintent The idea that we seek to believe that the actions of others are intended to have positive intent, rather than negative motivation. When we apply motivation we are doubtful of others.
A3: I agree with Covey hard to believe people are not trying to be capable, essential for self image. So start from belief in their talents #resiliencechat
A4 "Trust is expected within systems" reminds me of the point several people have made about "respect" as a thing earned and given vs. "respect" as code for "I'm in charge and you have to do what I say." I don't, er, respect all that much people in the 2nd group.
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No, not uncommon. And at least this go round I don't have nausea. Also dealing with anxiety because of financial struggles. I hope things turn around fairly soon. 2018 cannot end soon enough. #resiliencechat
It is extremely difficult to overcome "Adverse Childhood Experiences" #ACES That is also why it is so important that we recognize the many difficult experiences all of our children endure, so that we approach learning from a design to support their positive growth #resiliencechat
You are lucky. I have been processing psychological and emotional abuse I suffered at the hands of one of my brothers. Good thing I have some good people in my life. #resiliencechat
I know. I think about what you've been going through from time to time. I remember when it was spilling onto Twitter. So sorry you've been going through that. Happy for the strengths in you and the good people around you.
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I did that very deliberately because they both were stalking me on Twitter. When I found that out, I thought, OK, then I will give you an earful. #resiliencechat
I totally agree that's a great place to start, and the ideal place to end up as well. And assuming negative motivation can be deeply hurtful.
That said, sometimes, intent really is malevolent. Racism, misogyny, other isms... Threats to kill people who disagree...
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I think that is why it would have been good if I could have talked to my teachers about the teasing/bullying, but back then they were not trained to be sensitive to kids. #resiliencechat
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When we seek to value the individuals in our unique worlds, I think that we can choose to live a #trustful life. Meaning we can be #true to our words, our actions, our commitments, and work to build trust in these relationships. Q6 Agree, why?
#resiliencechat#Trust#Valueit If we seek to value trust we can then make it a priority in our world. Q7 How might you work to help your classroom, your ed system, your personal relationships grow with #trust so that everyone in the equation benefits?
A3) I am routinely criticized for trusting pretty much everybody (I’m not a total boob; I can smell an obvious scam). They call me soft, foolish, and naive. But truly, it’s a choice. I choose to give people a chance every time. The net positive is there. #resiliencechat
#Resiliencechat Hi Will, There is nothing wrong wit making a effort to offer #trust to all. I think it demonstrates a grand step towards being human. When individuals find it so hard to #Trust I would suggest that they probably have a difficult time in many relationships as well.
A3) I am routinely criticized for trusting pretty much everybody (I’m not a total boob; I can smell an obvious scam). They call me soft, foolish, and naive. But truly, it’s a choice. I choose to give people a chance every time. The net positive is there. #resiliencechat
A7: at the most base level never violate the trust you have earned in any situation. If you can be called trustworthy, ethical is the next compliment you will earn #resiliencechat
A7) I can’t help but reflect on the notion that I got into this work for others as much as myself. If I lose sight of the “others” than I need to recalibrate or get out of the game. #resiliencechat
#resiliencechat I #trust that tonight if you participated in #resiliencechat that you have been able to think just a bit about where #trust fits into your world, and I hope that you will carry some of these thoughts with you move about your day on Tuesday, giving #trust.
