It's 8:30 on a Wednesday...let's chat awhile! #txed is ready to go. I'm Paul, an ITS from Richmond, TX. Who else is here tonight? Let us know who you are and where you're from.
Yay finally making it to #txed chat ... I’ve been swamped in Principal certification class.
I’m jessica - an Balanced Literacy Specialist in central Texas
Hi everyone, I'm Patricia Williams, an educational consultant at Region 10 working w/ the Alt Cert Program and new teachers. I am EXCITED to be here learning w/ you tonight! #TXed
I always find the right people during the #txed Twitter Chat!!! Starting NOW! Tom Spall, 4th year ITS from @BrenhamISD in the HEART ♥of TEXAS! Welcome Ya'll! Let's collaborate!
Hi everyone, I'm Patricia Williams, an educational consultant at Region 10 working w/ the Alt Cert Program and new teachers. I am EXCITED to be here learning w/ you tonight! #TXed
A1. Don't have to think back far - it was yesterday. A 5th grader told me I was the reason she believes in taking risks, and asked me why I believe in it so strongly. #txed
Hi #txed !!! My phone is at 4% - I’m here for as long as it will make it!!! Meredith Akers, Elementary AP in CFISD tuning in from choir practice in between songs 🎵🎼🎶
A1: Her name was Cherie. She had more issues than you can count. We built a relationship that I still think of 16 years later. I miss that little girl. #txed
To that person, nothing else seemed to matter. I was front and center and had all their attention and compassion. It made me feel loved and cared for. #txed
#txed A1 my 5th and 6th grade PE Coach gave me advice on how to respond to being bullied that I WILL NEVER FORGET! Happened in 1979. I remember word for word what he told me. #LifeTimeLesson
A1: I had a professor in college that encouraged me so much! He went out of his way to tell me the potential he saw in me. He made me want to be my best self. #txed
A1: My 6th Grade Teacher had the greatest impact on me in a very positive way. Not only did she make teaching fun, she also pushed us, as students, to always put forth 110% effort! EVERYTHING was tied to the real world, full on PBL's, and tons of voice and choice!!! #txed
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
I received the Excellence in Education award from the local NAACP. One of our counselors nominated me. The nomination & award made me feel that I was truly making a difference, that is why I went into teaching. #txed#NAACP
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
I think when someone truly validates your beliefs and let's you do your thing without judgement. It shows trust, and you feel important. Body language is also key. Really. Listen. #youmatter#TXed
A2 when it comes to building relationships I think each component would depend on the situation, person & circumstances as well as where you are in building/strengthening the relationship #TXed
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
A2- At first glance, I say validate. So many times ppl's feelings are not valued. I don't usually strive to be understood, but I HATE being made to feel like my feelings/emotions aren't valid. #TxEd My experiences are very real to me & therefore very valid. So are Ss!!
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
A2 I believe in listening. Give them 100% of your attention, look them in the eye, close your mouth and open your ears. So many just need someone to stop and listen. #txed
A2 I’d have to agree with everyone and go with listen. But I think it has to be clear headed -open minded listening. You can’t listen with preconceived thoughts or ideas. #txed
A2: Awesome Question! Listen!!! Listen, Listen, Listen! Listen to their story, listen to their hopes, goals, and aspirations. Listen to them when they have failures, and listen to when they are being successful... Literally, don't talk, JUST LISTEN! #txed
Tie between listen and hope. To listen is to begin to understand. Hope is my belief for us to work constructively fir a better future or relationship. #txed
A2- At first glance, I say validate. So many times ppl's feelings are not valued. I don't usually strive to be understood, but I HATE being made to feel like my feelings/emotions aren't valid. #TxEd My experiences are very real to me & therefore very valid. So are Ss!!
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
Q2: In the Brown-Skinner model for building relationships, 5 components are listed: listen, validate, problem-solve, positive regard, & hope. Which do you find most compelling/necessary? Why? #TXed
I think for me I start with a foundation of hope...without hope or when hope is lost the others are harder to get at...so a safety net of hope...built for others if necessary :) #TXed
Me too. Nothing is worse than people not listening and hearing you. It's like you don't exist, your opinion is moot. The.worst. As an employee and as a teacher, it's critical not to brush someone off. #Txed
Q3: As a collective response to the events of our time, how do you connect with students and reassure them that you are authentic in your concern and care? #TXed
You did an excellent job of not committing to one answer. Wish I would have been that smart! LOL You are right though. Each situation is different. #txed
I think for me I start with a foundation of hope...without hope or when hope is lost the others are harder to get at...so a safety net of hope...built for others if necessary :) #TXed
A3: Be authentic in the moment. Today I let a kid tell me his side of the story FIRST and we talked through it before I read what the teacher wrote in an office referral. It showed I cared, he mattered, and calmed him down #txed
A3: That is hard to do WHEN something happens. You need to already have those relationships built so they in troubled times that you are a safe place. #txed
#txed A3 This diagram is how I build relationships with my Ss, couple that with #JediLike nonverbal communication skills, my Ss will remember #AlwaysBelieve for the rest of their lives.
Haha, everyone is different which we see in everyone’s responses, what I’ve learned over the years in building relationships is that everyone is different & has different needs throughout different stages of life, career, etc #TXed
A3 I think if you want to be there and you are connected with each student genuinely it will be natural. BUT we have to treat our students as more than assignment doers and grade receivers. Treat them as a WHOLE human (because they are) #txed
I don't have a classroom anymore - But my hubby does a great job of giving Ss time to talk & process w/no judgement, no comments, no arguing, no debating - just pure expression o/their frustrations/fears & guiding them back to having hope for their future #Txed
Q3: As a collective response to the events of our time, how do you connect with students and reassure them that you are authentic in your concern and care? #TXed
Ss really want to have that conversation with us...a deep rich dialogue that stimulates their minds, involves their interests and shows we care and aren't afraid to talk with them not at them!!! yes yes yes no lecture :0 #TXed
A3 student voice/empowerment is huge for me, when kids feel safe & cared for which is the foundation of any relationship then communication will be organic, genuine, & authentic they will open up & share things they may not even share w/family & friends #txed
A3: Since those relationships have been built, & have been continually built upon since the 1st day of school... the students will know 100% that you are being authentic with your concern and care! Get respect w/ showing respect. Modeling is the KEY to relational success! #txed
Q3: As a collective response to the events of our time, how do you connect with students and reassure them that you are authentic in your concern and care? #TXed
A3: That is hard to do WHEN something happens. You need to already have those relationships built so they in troubled times that you are a safe place. #txed
A3. I try to connect things to current events when age-appropriate, and give them lots of time to discuss and debate, esp. in older grades. Ask genuine, caring questions. Give choices whenever possible. #txed
A3 Share experiences, relate to them. They love hearing stories about me as a kid. I tell them I have been there. And model thinking through issues. #TXed
A3 student voice/empowerment is huge for me, when kids feel safe & cared for which is the foundation of any relationship then communication will be organic, genuine, & authentic they will open up & share things they may not even share w/family & friends #txed
#txed My book is in the process of being edited and published through Christian Faith Publishing. Should be released this Fall. One of the themes is to give young kids #hope When you teach a kid to #AlwaysBelieve you are enabling their very being to succeed.
#txed A3. I see it every day. I have the Sped Low ELL’s, and Highly active groups, but they know I love them and will work with them. Who taught me this? My momma-she was a migrant and ensuring my students learned was her priority! That’s how we grow! @katyisd#bethechange
A4: I connect with them by finding out EVERYTHING about them. Family, friends, hobbies, past history, likes, dislikes, etc. From there, it can't be faked... kids can tell! Just be authentic and genuine when building positive relationships w/ students. #txed
A4- I was always drawn to the most difficult Ss, & still am. I share a lot of my life story w/them. I'm kind of transparent to a fault. I share my present & my past, mistakes & successes...trying to let them know that there is ALWAYS another way to "make it" #TXed
A3 I think if you want to be there and you are connected with each student genuinely it will be natural. BUT we have to treat our students as more than assignment doers and grade receivers. Treat them as a WHOLE human (because they are) #txed
A4: I feel you have to find a connection to something outside of school. Go to a game or recital. Ask about their family. Video games, sports teams...all of these can build a bond. You are taking interest outside of them being your student. #txed
A4 when a student was struggling in my class with behavior I always set aside time to meet with them. I then explain explicitly what behaviors were disruptive and ask what can I DO to help it change. I take the heat ... first they’re shocked and then it works! #txed
A4 I build relationships by getting to know them. Ask when a student looks upset, pay attention to who their friends are, talk to them, ask counselors about their stories. #txed
super LOVE...need a LOVE this over many times...it resonates with my soul!!!! 30 years in education working with at-risk and many troubled youth and coming from that background I can attest to the power of hope...one of my key words is BELIEVE!! #TXed TY!!
A4 Building a positive relationship is key, but there's no one size fits all. Students need different things at different times. Humor,empathy, and fairness are a must! The hardest ones to reach are the ones where their home life is a struggle. You have to give them hope! #TXed
#txed A4 Reference again the diagram. When the Ss KNOW you BELIEVE in them, and you build a POSITIVE environment YOUR VERY SOUL WILL BE FILLED WITH JOY! This JOY is PRICELESS! Your Ss will KNOW this! #BeenThereDoneThat
A4: Show true interest in the S. Listen to what they tell me and then really try to remember so when it comes back up I can build upon what I already know. #txed
A4: stay calm. Allow them to make oopsies & we'll learn from these boo-boos. The truth allows us to trust and respect each other. And, laugh whenever possible. #txed
A4 it’s about being vulnerable & transparent, & following up our words w/action #talkthetalkwalkthewalk for the “tougher” ones to reach I believe is about remembering that all kids need /want to be loved & many times they may not be going through a situation or rough patch #TXed
A student wanted to hang out in my classroom instead of going back to his class. I had to run him off to his class with silly string. Everyone had a good laugh! I love teenagers! #txed
#TXed family - I love you all!! This migraine will not let me be great. Thanks for the insights & laughter this evening. I'm going to retreat to a dark room and close my eyes. Good night all!!
A4: In addition to all the great things shared w/ my most difficult to reach I ask "what do you need from me? how can I better help you be successful in this class?" It really takes down walls!! #TXed
A5: I took notes. I would set reminders for myself to check back in with a child. I tried to keep a type of schedule. After the first few rounds you will know who to provide extra time for. #txed
A Killeen grandmother pleaded with Killeen ISD to work with her four-year-old grandson rather than just suspending him over and over.
"Please, help me, help you, help him... and all your answer is, is to suspend him?"
#TXlege#TXed Via@KXXVNewsNow https://t.co/d2KdVUBctp
A5: During team (PLC) meetings, we would talk about which students seemed to need someone. We would each “adopt” a kid (reach out, support, and help). #txed
A5-That is a big challenge but the most important one to try each day. In our business we need to keep the main thing, the main thing. The main thing is the kids #TXed
#txed A5 Great Trs find a way to reach Ss that are isolated. When you develop a LOVING classroom environemnt, you are more apt to reach these kids. NEVER EVER give up on a kid. STAY POSITIVE, You are planting seeds THAT WILL grow, given LOVE and FAITH!
A5: Pull in EVERYONE on a campus! Specialist, aides, cafeteria workers, janitors, bus drivers, etc!!! My biggest "champion" when I was growing up in Elem school was our campus janitor!! He was so wonderful and always gave an ear to listen to whatever we had to say! #txed
A5 obviously there is so much to this one, but I’m HUGE on classroom culture. We don’t have to get along with or like everyone in the class, but we’re family this year. We will fiercely protect each member of our family & make sure all needs are met. #txed
A4- active listening is huge in my eyes. Prove to them that you're really interested in hearing what's going on. Ss are smart. They can spot a phony! 😮 #TXed
We have done the same thing. @pinkpatterson used to lead this. We reach across grade levels and even campuses. Very powerful for Ss to see we care enough to take time for them when they are not even in our class or grade. #txed
A5 I like the idea of handing out index cards. Tell them to write their name on it and then write the name of a staff member that you can always count on. If you cannot think of anyone, write N/A. Collect the cards and focus on the N/As. #txed
A5: Keen eye and connections. Make sure ya find those kids and start saying hi. What's up "Bob"? Good to see ya "Jane." High 5s. - show the kid that you are interested in him/her #txed
Q6: What are you thoughts on the following statement and it's relative meaning for building relationships with students? "Students who are loved come to school to learn; Students who are not loved at home come to school to be loved." #TXed
Hey, friends following the #txed chat... I have to head out a question early. This has been an AWESOME chat tonight! Thanks, @drpwilliams_R10 for co-moding! Join us for the whole month of April, every Wed night at 8:30 CST. Topics and dates below!
I was thinking of making a #flipgrid for this purpose!!..#TXed If students are having a bad day, they can play everyone's positive comments for a pick me up. 24/7
A6. All students want to be loved. Period. Whether they get it at home or not. There is no limit on the amount of love that will bring joy to people. #txed
#txed A5 Great Trs find a way to reach Ss that are isolated. When you develop a LOVING classroom environemnt, you are more apt to reach these kids. NEVER EVER give up on a kid. STAY POSITIVE, You are planting seeds THAT WILL grow, given LOVE and FAITH!
I totally scheduled follow ups with my Ss and did morning rounds to check on all the campus and my Ss who needed the little extra every morning as an admin #TXed
A4: People like to be listened to and not talked to. I have found listening and validating, not judging, what they say helps develop a bond of trust. The more “difficult” the student the more you listen. Your turn to talk will come…and it will be more meaningful. #txed#pdplc2
A6-School is suppose to be a safe place and if we don't show it then we'll lose so we need to make them feel important no matter why the6 are there. #txed
A6-Sad, but true. Happy to do our best to provide a supporting environment for our students. Relationships are not built in a day, but developed over time. #TXed
Q6: What are you thoughts on the following statement and it's relative meaning for building relationships with students? "Students who are loved come to school to learn; Students who are not loved at home come to school to be loved." #TXed
A5 Caring should be apart of classroom culture, not just the duty of the teacher. Everyone in the room is “family”. Make sure to celebrate all individuals, & establish a social contract that support regular interactions /collaboration. This strengthens the school & society #txed
A6 I believe it 100% but I also believe that if those students that are not love at home, if they are loved at school they will eventually come to school for love and for learning! #txed
A6: A healthy reminder that every student comes to school with his/her own experiences, and it’s on us as educators to love every one of them and to push each one to reach his/her optimal potential. #TXed
A6: It's the truth. We can make that a positive for the student (kind of). Build that relationship early with him/her. They feel loved, they feel loved and they will work even harder for you. Follow that Ss on after they leave you and check in. #txed
#txed A6 LOVE is the ESSENTIAL component! IT IS A VERB! It is described with the #FruitsoftheSpirit My #1 goal is for my Ss to describe me with the Fruits of the Spirit. EVERY SINGLE kids needs to see these attributes ROLE MODELED. #WalkTheTalk#KidsDeserveIt
A6: we could all use more love. I don't think there's a limit on how many people love you. ~ I may not be a part of your entire life, but we can sure make life together great while we are together. #txed
Another 45 minutes flies by when #txed is on. Thanks for joining us. Have a wonderful Easter. Come back full and ready to hit it again! Give your new friends a follow tonight! See you next time.
A6- 🤔
I think EVERY person on this 🌎 thrives to be loved. Even those hard to reach (kids & adults).
God put each of us here for a purpose. Those in education, I believe one of our "whys" is to prove to Ss each day that they matter & can make a difference.
#gamechanger#TXed
Special thanks to @drpwilliams_R10 for co-moderating tonight. If you have an idea for a chat. Head to https://t.co/1bsKTg9ANF and submit it on the form. We would love to hear you ideas! #txed
Thank you for having me...this was refreshing, enlightening, rejuvenating and thank you ALL for sharing such great ideas and caring for Ss!!!! ROCK the week!!! #TXed
Special thanks to @drpwilliams_R10 for co-moderating tonight. If you have an idea for a chat. Head to https://t.co/1bsKTg9ANF and submit it on the form. We would love to hear you ideas! #txed
A3: Don’t tell them that you are concerned and care. Sincerely behave like you are concerned and care, and they will know that you are concerned and care. Talk is cheap and students know when you don’t care. #txed#pdplc2
A6- part II
Show me a successful S that is loved at home but not at school. 😶
We have to remind ourselves that we're here for ALL kids https://t.co/ROgdhJboWU. #TXed
