#resiliencechat Archive
Co-moderated by Dr. Robert Martinez and Sara Truebridge, #resiliencechat focuses on promoting resilience amongst educators and students.
Monday July 11, 2016
10:00 PM EDT
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Welcome to . Who is joining us tonight?
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Uh-oh, - I'm not seeing you in my window - in fact, I'm not seeing much at all. :-(
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Uh-Oh... might be problems with the feed tonight...
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Clint Heitz, Instructional Coach, checking into from Bettendorf, Iowa.
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Hi Thomas. Are you seeing the feed?
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HI,
Tweets for tonight's are not showing up for me either. Kitty
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Um, hi, ! I'm hoping I'll see enough to be able to participate. Following 's feed directly.
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YAY! Good to have you here as always!
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Thanks. And, thanks for the reminder!
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Hi , it's Leslie on vacation in Ontario. Thanks, for the invite, ! How is everyone doing?
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Can't think of anyone I'd rather be resilient with than this crew.
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This is Kitty. I teach & host a radio show in , but tonight I'm in
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Well - I'm seeing more of other people now. I'll just keep a tab open to follow your feed directly.
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BUMMER!! This is so frustrating!!! And getting in touch with a person at Twitter is close to impossible!!
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is showing up just fine in my Tweetdeck... Odd
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I'll RT when I can like last time, but also putting laundry as I follow
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Hello ! Tracy from MA dropping in tonight. Hope you are all having great summmers.
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All is well but it would even be better if everyone could see the feed.
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I'm actually on my computer. Bizarre.
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Would LOVE for you to stay with us tonight!
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Howdy from the Silicon Valley!
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Hi Tracy! Good to see you!!!
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With the events of this past wk and the unfolding of events this wk, it would be remiss to not make them the focus on .
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Yes, it works fine in TD, but not in Twitter itself. A chronic problem for me during . Not sure why.
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I wish I could figure this out--the problem with the feed in
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This happens so frequently with . Have you ever asked Twitter about it?
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Anyone know anyone at Twitter I can talk to??? I can't get a hold of a live person!
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Good evening everyone- Todd from NY...HS Assistant Principal.😊
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Oh well...I am grateful for everyone tapping their resilience and sticking it out!
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Hello all, Co-director of and elementary school teacher. Happy to be joining you tonight
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So far things look ok in TweetDeck.
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Good to have you here, Aija!
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Let's get started and jump right into the Q's.
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Is this the chat scheduled for tonight?
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Hi Dorothy!! Great to see you!!
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Yup! We're here and going strong!
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Good evening, everyone! Nice to be participating this evening. My apologies for being late. Trying to blog/write every day.
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Q1:"Loss" is a word that keeps coming up. What types of loss have been experienced and continue to be experienced?
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I need to learn about Tweet deck
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Good for you for keeping up w/daily writing and blog!! Welcome to
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from Sara
Q1"Loss" is a word that keeps coming up. What types of loss have been experienced and continue to be experienced?
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Pls RT Qs I can't see Sara's tweets 😞😞😞
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A1: The national events of the previous week have caused me to feel loss on a number of levels.
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Good evening Laurie joining in for a short while from Maple Ridge BC Thanks for the invite
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hi . I'm late to the party -- I'm Sara, a kindergarten teacher in Lake Tahoe, NV.
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Hi Spiri! I think Bill is retweeting Q's. (THANKS, BILL!!!!)
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A1: Many kids are experiencing a loss of innocence. By personal experience, media, family choices. https://t.co/IRBQg6Lt4m
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Q1:"Loss" is a word that keeps coming up. What types of loss have been experienced and continue to be experienced?
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I've never done this before so could you help me out on how it works?
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I agree. Care to share what levels you are referring to?
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Hello ! Nick from Pittsburgh, PA.
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Questions posted with Q#
Reply with A#
Add at the end of your answer
Reply to others if you like https://t.co/ggvjgsScgv
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I've never done this before so could you help me out on how it works?
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A1 For some, there's the loss of the illusion that systemic racism is not an issue in this country. But a chance for growth.
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I was just exploring this question with teachers and so much came up. Loved oe
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Thank you! Good to be here.
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As they say, "Better late than never." Welcome, Sara (I like the way you spell your name--the right way! ;)
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A1: Many experiencing the loss of feeling safe on both sides of the equation.
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A1So many types of losses, loved ones property, innocence, one teacher said a student even named loss of opportunity.
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A1: Loss of respect, dignity, freedom, life, family, trust, words, hope. This is what I feel in Canada as I watch the news.
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A1: Loss of control. Loss of faith.
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We all experience loss in different ways. I feel many children experience loss due to poverty.
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Yes, but the feed isn't working great in Twitter. Try TweetDeck?
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A1 I've been thinking about how to address current events with kinders at a private school ... address isn't the right word
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A1: I think loss is relative to who you're talking to.
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Q1. The losses I feel are personal - cancer, heart attacks, the state of how people are treating one another in our nation.
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A1 Loss of trust,innocence,loss of belief, faith
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A1 Of course, there's the loss of lives, holes in the hearts especially of loved ones, others affected, all who care.
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If you want to respond to a question (Q) all you do is put an A (meaning answer) and then type away. WELCOME to
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A1) Loss of parents, for me I struggle w/this tremendously still, loss of pet, loss of child, loss of colleague/friend
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A1 Loss of being able to turn it off,step away, take break 2 process &reflect.
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A1 (part 2) Being bombarded 24/7 w/ images &updates hard,esp for children
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This is such a difficult question to answer. We all feel and experience loss for different reasons and different ways.
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Really tough. Necessarily share gory details? Just teach respect, compassion, & empathy? https://t.co/tXEMbSOKD4
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A1 I've been thinking about how to address current events with kinders at a private school ... address isn't the right word
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the ?s r posed as A1, A2, etc.You respond with your thoughts using Q1, Q2..You can also respond to others answers
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A1: the illusion that progress on race relations was further along the paradigm than the reality of its current evolution
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A1 For some, I think there's also a loss of hope - or at least a diminution.
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A1.1: there is a macro/micro picture. The nation is reeling from recent events while Ss & their families suffer daily.
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Thanks, I think I have it figured out! I appreciate the help.
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Scott from Texas along with Rocky and Bullwinkle lurking from the daughter's ( she's 30) slow pitch game
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Yes! It's a great time to teach with all of our tech and ability to connect globally
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We will talk about this tonight in hopes we can share ideas and resources and most of all support one another.
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Yes. This is definitely a good point. That's why there is not just one singular answer.
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Yes! I have a 7-year-old and struggle with this often. https://t.co/kRzKVJfobm
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A1 (part 2) Being bombarded 24/7 w/ images &updates hard,esp for children
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A1 One friend who decided, after 25 years, that she was done with our friendship. I miss her but I accept her decision.
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Hi Brian. Glad to have you here in tonight!
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Great point and something for us all to remember as well.
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I've talked it thru a little with my 7yo. He picks up on too much now to leave him out of conversation.
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I also have experienced a loss of faith in myself over the past three years. Working to do better; so much better to do.
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A1 I think many children r experiencing the loss of social conversation & connection with family due to social media & tech
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Always great to have you here--whether lurking or participating. You and Rocky and Bullwinkle are always welcome!
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There is also loss of perspective. Unfortunately this is easy to lose when we get caught up.
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We need to do more connecting for sure!!!
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Even as Ps when we consciously shut it off, it is turned on somewhere else.Restaurants,elevators,waiting rooms etc.
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My 7yo has the bare basics, enough that he was satisfied and stopped asking Qs...for now.
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Yes. I feel comfortable w the teaching empathy and respect piece but not as much w what Ss will ask
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A1 I miss my dad who died December 9, 2000, but at the same time he doesn't feel that far away.
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That is very true, a loss for one is not for someone else.
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I went through this as well. So sorry for your loss. (Glad you are joining tonight)
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Q2: How are you addressing--or helping others address--(in home or school) the concept of loss and/or resilience?
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I agree with all that you've said here, Leslie. It's so hard right now. https://t.co/Fy6aa5Jz0g
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A1: Loss of respect, dignity, freedom, life, family, trust, words, hope. This is what I feel in Canada as I watch the news.
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I teach empathy, respect, compassion, patience, & love. Answer ?s regularly. But, we don't watch CNN together
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The truest way to teach empathy is through learning the realities of our s’s and them learning ours. https://t.co/HUzLHKHySH
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Yes. I feel comfortable w the teaching empathy and respect piece but not as much w what Ss will ask
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Such a poignant picture. Thoughts with you.
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Thanks, Sara! Great to be here!
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Ah, the ?s. Ran into the same thing with 7th graders during the Mayan end of the world thing
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from Sara
Q2: How are you addressing--or helping others address--(in home or school) the concept of loss and/or resilience?
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There is nothing more powerful than a story.
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A1 Since my dad was my fellow pixie,I planted variety of coneflower, pixie coneflower right next to my house.He is nearby.
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A2: I am trying to read as much as I can, to gain greater understanding. But, overwhelming.
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It's very difficult. Loss is really the umbrella over everything I feel when I think about recent events.
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A2 Trying to understand what others need and reach out to them. Also leaning in harder in social justice work in general.
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A2: It always starts w/ positive relationships. A strong, authentic relationship allows for honest, open conversations
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A2 great tip I just learned in a writing lesson: answer the question, but ONLY the Q. Adults have tendency to go further
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There is resilience power in creating a space where students can raise their genuine questions
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Q2. I find it challenging to always be positive and cheerlead these days. I try to spread as much positive, but...
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A2 Thinking ahead to class conversations on race, patriarchy, homo/trans-antagonism, classism, ableism, etc.
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Being resilient in a situation of loss must be drawn from situations where we needed to be strong and reminding ourselves.
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Very true. Same with discussing problems. You don't always have to propose a solution https://t.co/6Wa1Wyk5On
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A2 great tip I just learned in a writing lesson: answer the question, but ONLY the Q. Adults have tendency to go further
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I have been coordinating teacher workshops on writing to heal and coping with loss with other teachers
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A2 with Ss, I've helped with family deaths and classmates moving. very local - lots of talking & sharing & listening
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Absolutely! https://t.co/sFEwPWsN4a
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There is resilience power in creating a space where students can raise their genuine questions
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A2 Consider the facts known so far, w/ neutrality. But also consider how it impacts Ss
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They need to learn how to deal with loss and be able to adapt to new situations and move on in a healthy way.
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Explicitly teaching resilience to S's using local examples
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A2 Needed to do that more so two years ago than now. I coulda been lost. We are grateful every day.
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A2)My mom died, Ss made all these cards, hugged me a lot, hard keeping it together, one S said "ur mom is w/ you in your ❤️"
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perhaps it's more oral conversation They may have more challenge reading body language/facial expressions etc
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A2:Acknowledging, validating their loss.
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All people need to feel that there is a place where they belong. Building those spaces builds capacity for resilience.
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S's also benefit from understanding that loss affects us in a variety of ways and build empathy for one another
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Yes. My kids create our units - one reason why identity (including race, gender, sexuality, etc.) an annual topic.
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A2: For my senior Ss I am mostly an ear/shoulder. For my own young kids, we talk it through. Every Q they ask.
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A2 One thing though...what if I have a relapse? Need to be prepared.
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Validating is so very impt!!!
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A2b) I'll never forget that as long as I live, our loved ones are always in our hearts
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. Stick with observations/facts and leave off any inferences/interpretations, yes!
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Loss of hope. Loss of faith. Loss of understanding...
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A2 Kids of color r living w/racism every day. They need 2 b able to talk openly & work for change, if they wish to.
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A2 Two years ago I showed my daughters my cancerous breast. I think it helped them to see what needed to happen.
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Instruc Coach/Rdg Spec urban HS, Ss carry burdens we can't imagine.They come evry day.I shdr Ts jump on Ss 4 not brngng pncl
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But then there's fear of anticipated loss. And anger. Witness this brilliant students' poem:
https://t.co/NTFA0Ya0Ok
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A1: aMErIca ( look within )
Personal accountability
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Anticipation is the worst!
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Creating a consistently safe place for kids and giving time for self-expression and play. - Elem Teacher
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Absolutely. And white kids as well, though for different (to some extent overlapping) reasons. https://t.co/jloTyktHpD
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A2 Kids of color r living w/racism every day. They need 2 b able to talk openly & work for change, if they wish to.
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Also consider this, if evidence is presented that contrasts, how do we believe which is true?
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Q3: Curious to know...How has your school or district responded to the current events?
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A2 In a way I don't think you can ever really prepare yourself or others for loss. What to expect. How to cope.
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Or how do we learn to accept the truth, no matter how painful it will be?
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A3: We have summer break now, so there hasn't been the opportunity. Allows for some distance when it comes up in fall.
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A3: It hasn't. Which is adding to my feelings. Greatly disappointed. On the other hand, my college alma mater has.
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Q3 How has school/district responded to current events? https://t.co/3j41xWDV4c
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Q3: Curious to know...How has your school or district responded to the current events?
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Especially when contrasting evidence can coexist - e.g. POC/White experiences with police.
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True for today's current events in the world, any day in at work, and every day with students https://t.co/WSaFjwnVXk
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A2: It always starts w/ positive relationships. A strong, authentic relationship allows for honest, open conversations
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A3 Husband and I talk about it between ourselves and with friends. It is hard to really wrap my mind around.
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Agree. One can recognize patterns from the past, but the future is still unknown and unfamiliar.
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from Sara
Q3: Curious to know...How has your school or district responded to the current events?
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Ousd worked in collaboration with local organizations to provide safe spaces for community dialogue
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Exactly. And how do we respond responsibly w/o lashing out?
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I totally understand! And if WE can't wrap our heads around it--how do our kids?
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A3 Nothing yet, but we are on summer vacation. Things have been addressed at other times though.
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Safe spaces and dialogue--two important things to support resilience!
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What college did you attend again (sorry!), and what was their response?
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A3: What Clint says is the same for us. It may not even come up: distance and we are not in the USA. https://t.co/A1Pv1eHoZU
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A3: We have summer break now, so there hasn't been the opportunity. Allows for some distance when it comes up in fall.
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A3: To date, they have not. Many are tempted to insulate and isolate themselves in the face of tragedy and loss.
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We teach resilience, problem solving & independence by letting Ss work through ?s & problems
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Yes, I'd be interest to know too.
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That's sort of us too - although I have blogged a few times on , , and more.
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Nice. Would love to know more on how this is done where you are.
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Comes down to respecting each person's experience & core humanity. I cling to that principle in tough times.
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I felt like I shouldn't blog about it, like I'd be taking away from where the attention needs to be?
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A3. We're so small that we have no one here to consider it. However, we just lost a parcel tax, so we're feeling a loss now.
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Sorry, & peeps, but I do need to sign off early. Look forward to reviewing chat later! Thanks for the chat!
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aww! I still have Ss made cards from when my husband got sick last year. I can't bear to read them
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Not that anyone actually reads my blog though...heh.
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White T's need some straight talk about how to create community & solidarity 4 SS facing things the T does not.
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Thanks for joining while you could.
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Guidance dept reaches out, some addressed in advisories,parent information sent home
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A3. We are expecting a release of suicide cluster research coming out this summer, so a heightened sense will emerge locally.
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The Truth is also ways the truth. Not always visible and more often not ubiquitously palatable. https://t.co/oBTZIp2NqB
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Also consider this, if evidence is presented that contrasts, how do we believe which is true?
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I get that. Don't want to center myself. Yet, I feel zero school response would be wrong.
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That's good. Wd. like to hear more. We did that after Oscar Grant. Not aware of it since.
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A3 we are on summer break but race class and gender takes a safe space for a courageous conversation
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These events remind me that I'm "lucky" 2 have white privilege.I've had encounters where whiteness saved me.
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Q3: We are on summer break. Counselors have been made available in the past and are available in the summer I'm sure.
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Leslie, I think many thoughts & perspectives presented help raise awareness
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Yes. Well, my own readership is pretty teeny. :-)
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Laurie having to leave early tonight. Wishing everyone a good week.
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Q4 next... (but feel free to answer any Q--just put the number by the A so we know which one you are responding to.
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Q4: How can the concept of resilience be connected and/or apply to the current events?
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I have had encounters with police that, had I been POC, would have meant my arrest instead of walking away.
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...and a good week to you, Laurie! Thanks for stopping by
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A3: We, Webster PTSA, are planning programming for Mental Health Awareness, Healthy dating/ relationships,
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Truth in tough times, sunny times, all times, for all people, always. https://t.co/S3Uwgnk0x1
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Comes down to respecting each person's experience & core humanity. I cling to that principle in tough times.
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I believe this is true. Variety supports stability in living systems anyway. I need to think more.
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I like this. A4 But, how do we swallow the bitter pill of truth? I think that's when Resilienece comes in
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There are a lot of very "woke" people in OUSD. Hopefully some of them are doing it
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A4 We need to show empathy and compassion for Stand up. Not be silent.
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A4: I am recognizing the importance of .
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Q4: How can the concept of resilience be connected and/or apply to the current events?
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A4 We need to love "the other" and stop being fearful.
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from Sara
(but feel free to answer any Q--just put the number by the A so we know which one you are responding to.
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Absolutely! I talk a lot about "Taking Care of the Caretaker" in my workshops and in my book
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A4: Without resilience in the face of everything society cannot move forward. Together we must move forward.
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Meant to spell *Resilience. lol https://t.co/UqsaXb2RKR
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I like this. A4 But, how do we swallow the bitter pill of truth? I think that's when Resilienece comes in
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We are a very forgiving bunch at Sometimes our fingers get away from us as we type. ;)
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I found myself battling hopelessness and powerlessness and found new purpose in conversation with colleagues
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A4 I think different people's experiences and feelings lead to different needs; resilience takes different forms.
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A4 Our Ss are already resilient! I admire their courage to take part in school when they are often raising themselves.
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Support with/ among others is so important in times like this. Caring relationships are the #1 protective factor
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A4 We also need to problematize the dominant narratives students are encountering that reinforce false notions
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A4 Time to offer comfort. Time to stop looking the other way. Time for mutual recognition of each other's humanity.
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A4 To me, resilience comes not just in keeping on keeping on, but also in digging in and fighting harder.
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A4 The concentration & globalization of wealth is so huge that it wd be easy to give up. Need resilience to keep struggling
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A teacher in recently presented on the importance of resisting "a single story" presentation on anything
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A4: Must Foster our communities, school and town, for people to tap resilience, feel secure, willing to trust one another
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Truth like medicine may need to be administered in non-universal forms to be effective. https://t.co/nhnfyBDLQd
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I like this. A4 But, how do we swallow the bitter pill of truth? I think that's when Resilienece comes in
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A4: Resilience can help us overcome the effects of current events and allow us to move in a positive direction
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I like this idea. Can you really be resilient w/out considering more than 1 perspective?
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A4. There are SO many amazing examples of resiliency...sharing those are critical. Its just finding PC ways of doing so.
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Q5: What are you going to do tomorrow as a result of tonight?
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I like how you said that. We can't lie down and become defeated. We must stand up for our beliefs.
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I taught my 5th graders using localized examples and family stories. S's can find powerful examples in their own homes!
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A4. One thing I do is eblasts...and I include articles about success, stress, resiliency. And I just doubled our counselors!
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A5 Is it okay to say, I don't really know....?
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Thank you. Agreed; if we don't stand up for our beliefs, why have them at all?! :-)
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Also...if anyone has any resources to share, please do so here on
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A5: I am going to try and be more hopeful.
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from Sara
Q5: What are you going to do tomorrow as a result of tonight?
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still really processing all of it. Just unsure of what to think, except that it's just a sad state our US is
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A5 I'm going to keep on keeping on. And I'm going to keep digging in and fighting harder.
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Hi Sara, we have sent an email to you re . Thanks so much!
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A5 I'm having fun planning 1st month of kinder - respect and empathy like normal w emphasis on connectedness & diversity
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a5 check in w/ my teenage son to see what questions he has and what he's thinking. Do some writing, maybe blog.
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A5: Hug my kids tight, appreciate nature, go for a run, keep up to date on events, and PD reading. Keep on keeping on.
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A5 Probably water plants. Help them be resilient. They are living beings too.
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I am SO VERY grateful for everyone who joined in for such an impt. chat. Wishing you all a good week!
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And , don't forget Sara's book "Resilience Begins with Beliefs: Building on Student Strengths..."
https://t.co/TbMupfFNRd
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. . . because briefs are often misconstrued as truth and then acted upon. https://t.co/KajxjF958z
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Thank you. Agreed; if we don't stand up for our beliefs, why have them at all?! :-)
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Missed tonight. Resilient peop face adversity and move forward. Lost both parents within a yr of each other. Their lessons!
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Feel free to continue visiting and contributing to throughout the week for continued conversation, support, and resources.
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Thank you & for keeping together! Night all!
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from Sara
I am SO VERY grateful for everyone who joined in for such an impt. chat. Wishing you all a good week!
