#TLAP is a weekly chat for educators who embrace author, keynote speaker, and moderator David Burgess' approach of teaching like a pirate. Burgess is author of Teach Like A PIRATE: Increase Student Engagement, Boost Your Creativity, and Transform Your Life as an Educator and co-author of P is for PIRATE: Inspirational ABC’s for Educators.
✨☠️Hi Crew! I'm Kimberly from NE, and I teach 7th grade ELA. I Iove Monday nights when I get to spend time with you! #TLAP is always on fire with amazing educators and hot convos! Looking forward to @kimbearden steering the ship tonight! Let's do this! 🔥☠️✨#TalkToMe#TLAP
Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
The book teaches 6 principles for effective communication, and it is designed to equip you with ways to better interact with coworkers, students, and parents. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Thank you all! @PaulSolarz Thank you for a book that inspires so many of us! I've said it before, but it was a true game changer for me! #tlap#learnlap
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Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hey #tlap! This is Michael A. from #122edchat in Chicago. I am an award-winning #STEM Facilitator for @SmartLab_tweets from @Simmonsknights1. Excited for the conversation, trying to beat the heat and humidity.
Hey!! Glad to see all of you in #tlap tonight with the amazing @kimbearden leading us. Let's talk about effective communication principles!! This topic is based on her new book, #TalkToMe which is out TODAY!!! https://t.co/mk4l6qpFky#LeadLAP
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Hello, I am Tika Epstein, and I am an elementary school teacher & mentor in Las Vegas, NV. I can’t wait for my copy of Talk to Me to be delivered this week! #TLAP
Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hi everyone! Jeanneen from Wisconsin and I teach K-8 Technology...we are finally getting into the swing of things and readjusting to having a baby in the house after 6 years! #tlap
I always try to consider that everyone has a story, and we have no idea what others are struggling to overcome. I realize that I will never know what it is to walk in another’s shoes, and this mindset guides my approach. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Jenni - I’m a principal of a small private school in south Louisiana! I heard Kim speak last year in Atlanta so I’m excited about tonight and her book! #tlap
A1 Identifying who I am speaking about/to, the identified struggle or area of weakness, and also pointing out the good because it’s not just negative. #talktome#tlap
A1: Where are they coming from? Where have they been? We have to understand what makes someone tick & what has influenced their live to be in a position to help them. #tlap#talktome
A1 - I always take into account that this parent is sending me their very best. With a coworker, Inoffen think that they just need some TLC, training, modeling, help. No is a lost cause. #TLAP
A1. I have to consider the whole student. Not just what they show in my class, but who they are outside of school, what's going on in their lives, their interestes, their passions, their struggles. We don't talk to a person, but a life. #tlap
A1 If it is a difficult situation, I like to give the other person time to calm down (student or adult) then empathize and LISTEN before saying anything. Most times they just want you to hear their side #tlap
A1 I always think about how I would like to receive the message. Then think about how they might perceive it and try to be considerate of their feelings. #TLAP
A1: What matters to me may not matter to them. How does the world look from their eyes? How can adopting their perspective help us both to meet our goals? #TLAP
A1 - It always starts with listening and relationships. Getting to know your students is key. Then, it’s about showing empathy and a positive attitude. We should consider each situation as unique and adjust based on that student. #TLAP
A1: You always have to be cautious, especially when speaking to children. People will forget what you said but people will NEVER FORGET how you made them FEEL! Always be open and honest and make sure families know you are available to chat! 👍🏼 #TLAP
A1- remind myself not to take anything personally. Ask them how they are doing, do they need anything I can help with. Everyone has a struggle or burden we don't know about. Take time. #tlap#talktome
Hey, y’all! I’m Ashley from Baltimore (by way of ECU.. looking at you @mrronclark_ ) a 6th grade math teacher at an all boy charter school in Baltimore City, MD! #tlap
A1) I want to know what communication style they are most comfortable with. Can I use humor, should I be quieter/calmer, should I be extra positive and upbeat. This matters.
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A1: The source of the struggle...we must be able to empathize with what someone else is feeling before being able to fix the issue. LISTEN to their concerns, find the root of the issue, and take action to rectify if possible! #TLAP
A1: I think the biggest thing to consider is their background (where they are coming from, their lives outside of school, what is their previous interaction with the school like) #tlap
A1 Realize that no one WANTS to be unsuccessful. Listen to their side, and always give the person a lifeline to pull themselves up. Some people just don't know how to get out of the hole they are in. Be their rope and light. #tlap
A1: perspective taking has been a personal area of professional growth. It helps me to perceive motivations + understandings and respond appropriately. #TLAP#talktome
A1: The most important factor for me is the relationship & trust I’ve built with them. I always try to see things from their perspective & do more listening than talking. I’ve found that sometimes they just need someone to listen & help guide them. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 - perspectives and situations are important to take into consideration. Some people are struggling bc of a specific situation that may be causing stress, often has NOTHING to do with you! Also must think about other people’s perspectives! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to remember that you never know what is going on in someone’s life. Treat them with kindness and empathy, show grace, you never know how your kindness can lift another up. #TLAP
A1 I try to rely on the relationship I have w/ them (hopefully I have one as that’s the goal), really listen and be intentional w/ the conversation, and I try to remember to “V.A.B.B.” #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to find out as much as I can... what’s their background or are they going through something personally. I approach the conversation with an open mind, willing to listen and support, and express my intent to come up w/ a solution together! #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 Do we understand the things that happened before Ss get on the bus? Is there a reason why Ss act out? Take time to invest if we want Ss to give us their best! #TLAP
A1 what is there state of mind what does their body language say, what kind of a relationship do I have with them. I must be a good listener first and foremost, have compassion and be genuine #TLAP
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Student - stop, find out about them, give some extra attention.
Parent - stop, acknowledge their frustration, and explain. Sometimes not ALL or correct info. went home.
Colleague - stop, try and see their side and problem solve together.
A1: What’s my purpose, the why behind the conversation. What perspective might they have? How can I make sure the conversation is as positive as possible? #tlap
A1: I consider that there are many factors (to the struggle of someone else) that I don’t know about. I try to ask non-invasive questions to gain a deeper understanding of who they are and how they are affected by a situation. #TLAP#TalkToMe
#TLAP The why? Is the struggle academic, emotional, social. The how? How can I best address the sittwith mindfulness & calm. Words are my ally-I pause & listen-this is my best strategy then when I fully understand the needs of my student -I can actively guide them to a solution
#tlap Anyone who is struggling does not want to struggle. We all want to be successful. Always assume good will, interest, and desire.
What are the obstacles? How can I remove or help you avoid obstacles to your success?
I use empathy & think how can I “clear the path” for this person. What do they need from me? What resources can I provide to support them? Starbucks helps too #TLAP
A1: When it comes to staff, I try not to think the worst. Sometimes it’s a case of didn’t know instead of refusing to do something. I give lots of feedback and support in any way I can. #tlap
A1 I’ve learned that I need to speak concisely. Not use idioms, etc. Sometimes a misunderstood reference can make a conversation take negative turn. #learnedthehardway#tlap#talktome
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Love this @alicekeeler quote:
"You're not going to get that light bulb moment talking at kids, you're going to get that light bulb moment talking with kids."
This doesn't only apply to kids, but the same goes when communicating with parents and colleagues too! #TalkToMe#TLAP
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A1. Where am I coming from in this interaction? Am I in a good state of mind? Am I down to listen to understand? Did I have my coffee?
A1: Not everything is always what it appears to be when one is struggling. I work really hard to listen intently and validate feelings. One may not be looking for a solution just a listening ear. #TLAP
Things to consider: lol past the illusion and see what’s really going on. Students behavior typically is not related to me or the assignment or the class. Listen and share with empathy. Find middle ground #TLAP#talktome@kimbearden
A1 What type of relationship is there? Have we been friends or colleagues for a while and focus on empathy, understand where theyBre coming from. #Tlap#talktome
A1: When talking to students, I remember that they are someone else's little boy or little girl. I need to treat them with honor. When speaking to other adults, I need to remember that like me, they make mistakes, and are on a journey to greatness. #tlap
I always try to consider that everyone has a story, and we have no idea what others are struggling to overcome. I realize that I will never know what it is to walk in another’s shoes, and this mindset guides my approach. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 Taking time to hear their side of the story.
Listen to Learn is one of the REAL Talk Treasures I love. Also, leading with Humble Inquiry. No judgement. #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 try to make sure I know them and have an understanding about their struggle, lean in and listen first, really listen intentionally, try help focus on small parts first and then work through it #tlap
Patrick Shipway, MN, tech intergrationist, science teacher and trying to to this while walking with my wife... A1: I try to put myself in their shoes, see through their lens, what wouldn't I like in this situation if I was them? #tlap
A1 When you take the time to get to know a child and their family, you can engage with your heart and show the parents that you truly care about their child and not just about academics. Their child becomes my child for life! #tlap
A1. I'm usually the most patient with parents first because they have the most power in encouraging students to be openminded with my message. Least patient with colleagues but getting better. I just feel like we all have the same education here, but remind myself that #tlap
A1 I want to think of the situation through their lense. I also want to think about their needs. Do they need advice, a person to listen, or choices? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to think what I would want/need to hear if I was the student or the parent. I also take into consideration what will have the greatest impact. Some kids gma has a huge role in that kids life. Another it might be a coach. Who is their person? #tlap
I try to listen to them in the moment...what's happening right now....how does the now effect their past story...and where they are going...#TalkToMe#TLAP
Love this! I also try to remember that this is their prize position that they giving me and I need to treat each situation with that sensitivity in mind! #tlap#LULearns
A1: What is their story? What does their walk look like and how do I fit into it? Can I walk beside them and listen? Can I take the lead and extend a helping handq? #RelationshipsMatter#tlap
A1: I try not to define my Ss as struggling. I approach each by attempting to get to the root that is causing the problem by communicating. I try to help them devise a plan to address the problem. #tlap
A1: It's so important to really know and respect the other person's position. Listen with empathy and make sure not to be defensive. Be reflective and sensitive so that when it's time, you can be heard too #tlap
A1: What is the main focus that needs to be addressed, what positive can I include, how would I want someone to say this to my own child or to me? Is this the best time, setting, mode of sharing information? #TLAP
A1. I consider what is going on underneath the surface that may be causing the confusion or undesired behavior. I also consider my timing and my way of communicating. The right thing to do at the wrong time or in the wrong way is the wrong thing to do. #tlap
A1: We never know as educators what others have faced. What have their previous school experiences been like? You never know someone until you have walked in their shoes. #tlap
A1: Background...we are only together for a portion of the day/week and everyone's life outside of school is different. LISTEN! Everyone wants to feel heard, especially when discussing a difficult topic. #TLAP
A1 try to make sure I know them and have an understanding about their struggle, lean in and listen first, really listen intentionally, try help focus on small parts first and then work through it #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 - What is their perceptions of the situation? Is this a necessary issue or something of a nit picking nature? Is there a way that I can share and help and reteach rather than confronting them? #tlap
A1: Listen, listen, listen. Often that’s what teenagers need from me. To be “heard” them and truly understood. Also striving to understand the motivation behind what they are saying. Whether I agree with it or not, it’s important to them so i need to listen ! #tlap#talktome
A1: I like to stay as calm as possible and listen intently. I like to share all the positives I can and talk about all the things I am going to do to help! #tlap#lulearns
A1) Consider that every individual has varied perspectives based on their experiences. Those experiences are not often outwardly shown so give all parties a bit of time to process/reflect before response. Be cautious & empathetic. #tlap
A1: I always remember that all parents are advocating for their students. They may do it differently, but they want the best for them. #kidsdeserveit#TLAP
I try to do extravagant acts of kindness without telling anyone in order to keep my motives in a pure and unselfish place. When I am struggling with interacting, I assess my motives and try to reframe my mindset. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: Always good to know where they are coming from, but even if that isn't possible, I can make sure that I am listening and restating and asking for clarification. I do what it takes to make sure we're on the same page. #tlap
A1- I struggle with Dyslexia #TLAP and so I understand what it feels like to be confused and disconnected and yes discouraged- so my first approach is positive reinforcement and listening this way they feel comfortable talking to me
A2: Learning from mistakes and when life goes down. Find the positive in it, even when you feel that you are on empty and build from ground up again. #tlap#TalktoMe
A1: It is definitely important to know the person that you’re communicating with. Take caution to your words and how you approach the conversation. Professionalism is key, especially when addressing parents #TLAP
A1: I try to picture myself in their place and let them talk first. I know it's not comfortable for some parents to discuss the difficulties their child may be facing, so I always offer solutions or help even if that means that I will give up my personal time. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: When talking to students, I remember that they are someone else's little boy or little girl. I need to treat them with honor. When speaking to other adults, I need to remember that like me, they make mistakes, and are on a journey to greatness. #tlap
A1: Perspective- What might appear 1 way to me might appear completely opposite to the other person, & as we know, the “reality” usually lies between the 2. Authenticity I think is important too- not giving responses just bc they are expected or to make the convo easier. #TLAP
A2. When we keep the best interest of the student at the center of every conversation, knowing that is the common goal, it helps make it easier to stay positive.
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A1: I once received this parenting advice, "Don't ask Q's you already know the answer to" because you set your kid up to lie. As a T in a full inclusion setting, I have to find ways to build Ss confidence. Have supring levels of vision. #tlap
A1 Never take things to personal and remember everyone has things going on and you are someone that can make things better or worse for them, choose better! #TLAP # talktome
A1: Don’t assume I know how they feel. Never presume I have the answer to solve their concern or problem. Offering support and that I am there to help is a good start. Let them know I am here to help and listen if needed. #tlap
A2) Always stay positive. Remember that what you are hearing for the seventy-fifth time may be the first time for someone else. Take cheer in other peoples growth. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I strive to be investigative but not interrogative. I strive to listen and maintain open body language. I consider the length of my relationship w/ the person, how we can do things differently next time & let them know I’m available to help however possible. #tlap#talktome
Give. Give. Give. Show curiosity, learn about people, and figure out what they want. Then give it to them without giving up your boundaries at the same time. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 Stop and listen when others are giving their input, encourage open and honest relationships, and be intentional in conversations and actions. #talktome#tlap
A2: Remember to try to stay positive yourself because you’ll draw in what you give out. Don’t let small things build up. Address things as they come up and don’t let them linger. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1. Perspectives, situations are extremely important to take into consideration when communicating with someone. You never know what someone is going through unless your walking in their shoes. Trust is a main factor! #tlap
A2- Always assume the BEST in people. Remember you have impact to make a negative a positive with a smile & friendly tone! Be aware of your body language & tone of voice! #tlap#TALKTOME
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Reminding myself that by focusing on the positive motivators, we ALL get better. We're all in this to make everyone better, so the negative motivators should be pushed away hard! #tlap
A2 have an open door and an open mind, model positive behavior, make people feel appreciated, valuable and important. Make school engaging, fun, kind, and mindful for all. BE SUPPORTIVE #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1) First, I ask myself if I’ve tried everythig I can think of with the student directly. Second, I rethink the situation putting one my own children in the role of the student. #tlap
A1: Listen, listen, listen. Often that’s what teenagers need from me. To be “heard” them and truly understood. Also striving to understand the motivation behind what they are saying. Whether I agree with it or not, it’s important to them so i need to listen ! #tlap#talktome
A2: Leave your ego at home. As a leader, my job is to build others up, not myself. When you are focused on the right things, the positive motivators come. #tlap
A2: Word choice. The words we choose can be POWERFUL. Always assume positive intentions and make sure your facial expressions match the words you are exclaiming. #TLAP
A2 My biggest way is definitely relying on surrounding myself w/ the right people that help me keep that focus. Being real and kind. The 7 Habits and a focus on relationships have also helped w/ this and being such a huge piece of culture. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Here is a tip that has worked for me. If a colleague breaks a norm, search for a GOOD reason for them to have transgressed. For instance, if they are snarky with a colleague, they may have a negative situation at home. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Remember that it’s not just about you. Communicating requires listening and not just speaking. When having a tough convo, remember that we’re all in this together! #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: For P's, put yourself in their shoes. If this was my kid... This was much easier for me once I became a parent. For T's and S's, just be real & embrace your emotional intelligence. #TLAP
A2: Good question! Self reflection is key. Oftentimes we say things without thinking of where those thoughts are coming from. Negative motivators often come from being insecure. Lean into that trust you have with your colleagues to keep each other in check. #TLAP#talktome
A2. To stay positive in communication, you've got to check yourself!
Why am I saying the things I'm saying? Are they helpful? Are they true? Am I ready and willing to learn from this person? #tlap#talktome
Surround yourself with positive people because you become like the 5 people you're around the most. Great people will keep you focused on positive motivation #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: When we focus on solutions and creating a positive outcome and look at growth then we make others understand our motivation and they will be receptive #tlap
A2: Remember- as the leader, it’s NOT about you! It’s about building capacity & growing other leaders! Leave your ego at the door & list others up. Always do more listening than talking & don’t feel like you have to solve all the problems! #TLAP
A1: Find the joy in simple moments and shine the light on other’s accomplishments. Show a true interest in others and remind them in unique ways just how special they are! #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Motivations start with the heart. Connect with the heart. I have found any struggle has an emotional seed that when identified changes the whole perspective. #tlap
#TLAP Mindfulness-awareness of the needs & personalities of others. Facial expressions and body language have such an impact on those around us. Keep a calm demeanor, positive tone and smile. When we truly find joy in teaching it shows & this keeps the atmosphere cheerful 😀
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Keeping the big picture goal in mind, especially when working on the same team or organization. We need to operate collaboratively rather than competitively. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: My class once a month has #TBhThursday “to be honest Thursday” they may write a letter to anyone in the school encouraging them. Ex. “To be honest you are an amazing principal” #TLAP
A2: Remember your overall goal- student success! Positive motivators help us reach our goals of creating independent and strategic lifelong learners! #tlap#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: That they probably want to be heard, students especially. That may fall under validation, but the past couple of years, I've made a cognizant effort to focus on actively listening first, and it has helped. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 - I personally promise to be positive. Yes, certain situations can be tough. But, if we separate the person from the issue, things usually work out. Learning to smile and stay calm will always put people at ease. #TLAP
A1: When communicating w/ a struggling S, a parent or co-worker, I think about the S as though they were my own child, myself as a S or my sibling, and a parent or co-worker as though they were myself. How would I want to be viewed or communicated with? #TLAP#TalkToMe
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Remember to be compassionate and just listen. Sometimes people just need to get their feelings out in the open, so let them! Have an open mind, be optimistic, and give them the chance to be heard! ☠️✨ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A2 Find the positive even if it simply means learning and growing from the negative. Find those who have positive outlooks so you can push one another. #tlap
A2: remembering that I’m dealing and working with people and they respond better to honey than vinegar. And if it has to be vinegar at least make it apple cider vinegar #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Intentionally focus on positive interactions with others! When we approach with the right motivations, we are open to learning from others & working together towards a common goal! #tlap#TalkToMe
A2: My class once a month has #TBhThursday “to be honest Thursday” they may write a letter to anyone in the school encouraging them. Ex. “To be honest you are an amazing principal” we then hand deliver them! #TLAP
A2) Ways to focus on the positive motivators with students: "Make them shine in ways they don't know they shine." -Fellow teacher in a twitter chat. Loved this, so I noted it. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 - Smiling helps. I remind myself to smile as I stand outside my classroom, if I am listen to a student, if I am walking down the hall. Some days it is hard, but when I remember it helps to maintain and propagate a positive motivation in my daily interactions. #tlap
A2: You hbe to know them on a personal level- not only what are their cademic strengths & weaknesses but what do they enjoy? What inspires them? What do they do outside of school? When you have a true connection, then you can motivate. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Word choice. The words we choose can be POWERFUL. Always assume positive intentions and make sure your facial expressions match the words you are exclaiming. #TLAP
A2: I try to stay positive in all situations. Being a good role model for others is important as well. I always try to treat others like I want them to treat me! #ElonEd#talktome#tlap
A2 surround yourself with positivity. Remember to lead with the heart. Truly listen to others without the intent to respond or fix anything. Build on those relationships. #tlap
A2 I have a pause and a breath where I rephrase the questioning to bring about a more positive light. Often, ss and ts and ps all have damaged relationships with each other. Quickly, conflict will disappear if we ask What does success look like? #tlap
A1. Some of the factors I take into consideration are how tough it is for them to talk about this (probably again), remain open, nonjudgmental, empathetic and paraphrase what they are saying to verify understanding. #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 When communicating w/struggling Ss, parents or coworkers, determine areas with which you can relate & empathize in a given situation. Give them a chance to speak uninterrupted. Listen to really hear what’s being said & not just to respond. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 Constantly remind ourselves to focus on the positives. We may be the only light that shines in our Ss lives so don’t blow it out being negative! #TLAP
A2: Focus on what to do, rather than what not to do. Reinforce the idea that we're all on the same team & working together to be the best we can be. I try to use "we" vs "I" or "you" as much as possible. Build and maintain a positive culture as that in itself is motivating #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 I always think about the relationship. I think about a positive story or event I have shared with the person. I also always try to remember the 5 to 1 rule: 5 positives to every redirect or negative. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2b: Surround yourself with the positive. It’s important for us to recognize that we (educators) are in this together—to build each other up. There’s no room for negativity in our profession. Who has time for that? #TLAP#talktome#tmgenius
A2: celebrate the small things! This is especially true with students. Noticing and celebrating small things can instantly change someone’s day. It’s all in the detail and it lets them know that you’re paying attention! #TLAP#TalkToMe
#TLAP Sometimes it’s easy to want to “teach kids a lesson” when they mess up. How about taking the positive mindset of “helping” them avoid making the same mistake in the future.
Our tone of this communication is huge.
A2: If you want to live fully and love your work with others, you have to focus on positives. Being positive isn’t really about others...it’s about you. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Carry a smile, be a good listener, be a problem solver...remember misery loves company and that is company I prefer not to keep. Ask if help is needed. If not, just let the person know you are there if needed, just ask. #tlap
A2: Never assume the motivations of another and don't always see what they say as negative. Let people's words just be and don't add your own meaning. Take them for their word and they will take you for yours. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 #TLAP Set mindful intentions- repeat them throughout the day- focus on them- even in times of frustration & doubt- repeat aloud the intentions- always respond not react-this keeps the energy positive & productive and more importantly contagious-calm is contagious
A2: Try to remember that the negative motivators really aren't going to improve a situation. And accepting that people have different experiences and perspectives. #tlap
A2: Great rule of thumb is to assume positive intentions, work at bonding with responses, and truth is always the best. Unless they ask how their hair looks, and it looks bad, but they are proud of the new do. #tlap
A2 As a staff our goal is to support kids! As long as we share that goal, how can we help but have positive interactions! #kidsdeserveit surround yourselves with positive people! #tlap
A2: The motivator should always be to come to some positive consensus, and NEVER to be to attack or tear someone down. We have to speak with grace, even when we're tempted to speak with rage. Maybe especially then. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. There is always a positive that can come out of every situation. Always search for the positive and work to create a positive outcome. Give people the benefit of the doubt and know that everyone wants to be their best. #tlap
A2: I stay focused on the big picture and goal, which is to see my students succeed and be happy. When you lead with that, all interactions can stay focused on positives. #TLAP#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: I try to check myself: Am I being kind in the interaction? I know that I'm a conflict avoider so if I sense that a conversation isn't going well, I will stop or change the topic (which is something I need to work on!) #TLAP
A2 Sharing the truth and being prepared to hear the truth, being solution oriented is a HUGE way to stay focused on effective communication! I often listen and jot down concerns and then attempt to get the team brainstorming solutions! #tlap#TalkToMe#champforkids
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: It's important to realize not everyone comes from the same background. Some people have faced traumatic difficulties in their lives that others cannot fathom. People have to take a step back and give others a chance, realizing they may have good intentions as well. #tlap
I host a Mothers’ Night Out to thank my amazing mamas. We have volunteers from the business community who serve them a delicious dinner. We have music, inspirational messages, a photographer, and more! It is a beautiful night of bonding! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Try to be positive, ignore the naysayers and the negative people! If there is someone playing a Jekyl and Hyde character, they will get caught in the end! Don't let their negative culture bring you down! #tlap
A2: As I heard @docspeaks say at #NPC18 - you must stay on the balcony. Always. Don’t let them take you to the basement! Keep a positive outlook, smile, and keep on smiling. Acknowledge others’ feelings but spin it toward the ➕ #TLAP
I think through my communication by asking what impact will I make rather than outcomes. My impact must be long term and always in the best interest of those I’m serving. Relationships must be the motivator in every situation! #tlap#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. I remember that I am not going to solve everyone's problems, but if I can do my part to take myself out of the equation and let Ss know that they matter, then that is a good day's work. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 Try to first put yourself in their shoes, what if you had a bad day, was up late arguing with their kids, or working two jobs and still short for paying bills. Then you can talk to them, listen, understand and problem solve better. #tlap
A3. I love finding things of interest to them and simply sharing what I found with them. Kids love to know I am thinking of them at random times & care enough to share a photo, song, magazine, book, article, etc.
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There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Sometimes we overthink the little things. A simple, genuine thank you can go a long, long way. Genuinely noticing what others are doing is powerful. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: One way I motivate myself to be positive with others is to stay calm and cool: “Vanilla Ice Cube” Style: chickity check myself first. Then, if you’ve gotta problem, yo, I’ll solve it. (My other answer is: finding the silly side of things.) #TLAP#TalkToMe#MashUpAnswer
Simply saying "I appreciate you" goes so far! Also leaving little happy notes or something meaningful to the person directly. If I know you like Reese's, I will bring you Reese's, etc. #tlap
A3: I take time to go tell them how much I liked what they did or said. I try to focus on stuff they did on behalf of me or our mutual students, even if it doesn't clearly benefit me. I try (but don't always succeed) to put my own ego out of the picture. #tlap
A1. Reyna from NY jumping in a few minutes late. I find the best way to effectively communicate is first to give space for them to express their feelings and perspective. Then, collaborate with them on possible solutions to come up with a plan to solve the problem. #TLAP
A3 I like sending hand-written notes/treat. If I do this when I feel unappreciated, it completely changes my mood and I'm grateful for the people in my life. I'm not perfect but this helps! #tlap
A3 I have decided that the joy I get from helping and adding a positive vibe is enough. If I’m not appreciated I think that maybe a little positivity could help chip away at whatever is making things so negative. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3 Show up & be intentional in your words, actions, and relationships. Be positive and proactive. Engage and be encouraged by the others that share your community with you. Compliment & be real. #talktome#tlap
Gratitude journal
thank them for anything that they do for me/kindness/etc
Drop in bucket, positive calls home, colleagues--send email with cc to principal
live with attitude of graditude
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How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: I try and stay focused on who I am and what is important to me. I also try to always do by best and when I fail, I try to do better. This helps to keep me positively motivated. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Tell the truth. Look them in eye and tell them SPECIFICALLY why I appreciate them. Build them up with kind words. To the haters, I find their good and speak it over them. If they want it, it is there for the taking. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. Best way to show appreciation to folks you interact with:
Spend time with them.
Listen to them.
Remember what they talked about.
Ask them about it later, genuinely.
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A3: I always give my students and coworkers hand written notes of appreciation. It takes little time to thank someone for their hard work or for going out of their way for someone else. #TLAP
A3: I think I need to get better at this...but we send positive post cards home to students, fun positive affirmations to colleagues, I’ll send a quick email or note home to parents. Just not enough. It needs to be a daily goal for me. #TLAP#talktome
A3: Simply saying "I appreciate you" goes so far! Also leaving little happy notes or something meaningful to the person directly. If I know you like Reese's, I will bring you Reese's, etc. #tlap
A3: Make a positive phone call or send a note sharing your appreciation. I keep my special notes in a Smile File for those days where the seas are rough and I need a little wind in my sails! #tlap#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Remain a calm & empathetic, reframe what is being said with a focus on the positive, & make every attempt to not "go down the rabbit hole" or the "dark forest" with them. Goal is to be their anchor. #tlap#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hey #Tlap peeps! I’m super late, but still wanted to drop in for a few! I’m Eryka, teach HS ESL and I’m interested in making my class more student-centered and #innovative by getting my Ss involved in the #community and hopefully experimenting w/ #entrepreneurship.
A3 be kind be supportive be respectful be honest be honerable be Upstanding. Give praise I write two notes a day to staff. Get out andrhank people and ask how they are call home for positive things send out positive referrals #TLAP
Non verbals definitely speak louder than words. How do you prevent yourself from making negative faces or body language when you don't like something but need to maintain a positive environment? #tlap#lulearns
A3: For students, I like to make positive phone calls to parents. Parents are always so surprised to get a good call from the principal and the kids love getting to brag about their accomplishments. #tlap
A3. Even when I struggle with feeling appreciated, I try to remember that the Ss being there is them giving me the chance to reach them, even if I don't always succeed. Them giving me chance after chance is their version of patience and I keep hoping I hit the right note. #tlap
A3 - I am terrible at presents and letters, but I am great at trying to give honest praise and remembering to make students feel special. I students to remember me like Ron Swanson - If he says something, he means it. #tlap
A3: As a leader you can do so much to show appreciation for what others do, but the most simple is the most effective -- just be there for others. Show them you value them and their work. The simple things can have huge impacts. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. I am sincere in my interactions, and when they do something awesome or show improvement, I make sure to praise them. I like to show off their work, whether it is a student or a coworker. When a parent helps me, I make sure that others are aware of their wonderfulness. #tlap
Q3 (part 1) Compliments go a long way, any chance you can get; in person, on social media, through another colleague.
(part 2) Two wrongs do not make a right, so give people compliments, even if it doesn't get returned #modeling#highroad#tlap
A2: I try to remove my ego from the equation. It's not about me. My job is to serve others, so start with kindness, maintain relationships, and be honest. I don't always succeed though.#TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3a: I try to write or verbally give specific affirmations.
A3b: I’m a sentimental person 🙈, so I keep all the nice notes I’ve ever been given and sometimes I just pull them out and they’re a good reminder of why I do what I do. A burst of encouragement. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Write them notes, tell them thank you, give them shoutouts, treats, coffee time mornings, a hug or pat on the back, whatever I feel they seem to need. #tlap
A3: I make sure that my positivity shows through and that everyone know how much I appreciate their work by shouting them out on SM and by thanking them F2F. When I feel unappreciated, I go back to my why! It's not about me #tlap
A3 A short handwritten note goes a long way to make someone feel appreciated. Remember your why even when you feel like no one notices all you do. It’s not about recognition! #tlap
Sometimes, people don't realize how much they appreciate you until later. You may not even be in their lives anymore. We just have to have faith that we are being the best we can be. Right?:) #TLAP
A2: Stay curious. Focus on the joy and the good. Choose kindness. Question hurtful thoughts and turn them around (love using @ByronKatie's the work for this—read more here about using it with students here: https://t.co/OxP7HmxcKR ) #tlap
A3- you show them they have value when you create amazing experiences for them they will never forget, Teach & show them they matter! Boys & Girls event @CaldwellElemen inspires by @kimbearden#tlap#TALKTOME
A3: I started doing a pre-summer survey for teachers. Two of the questions - What do you like to receive as a treat? And what can I do for you? I use that intel ALL year! #tlap#talktome
A3: keep smiling. Keep serving. Model appreciation for all acts of kindness, big and small. Give of your time, talents, resources. Say yes whenever possible. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3:I love to build anyone I know up with specific compliments.I also love to share "little happys"with my Ss like special treats,extra game time,etc.With Ps I always acknowledge the wonderful job they're doing and how hard parenting is If I feel slighted,I rembr my why #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3 Random acts of kindness will help to build specific relationships. No matter the circumstance, find positives in every child, every teacher, every day! #TLAP
#TLAP Just before the bell, beginning of class period- I greet them with enthusiasm and I say “I am excited to learn with you today” & at the end of class “thank you for learning with me today. “ it is a daily thing- sets a mindful energy
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3) State focused on the most important thing: The STUDENTS!
Look for the positives in small moments when necessary. Find their love language and reach out. #tlap
A3 - Positivity above all other things is transformational for school. If we stay upbeat and always remember that kids deserve it we can change our class and school. #TLAP
#tlap 1 day, in the winter, I took time at end of class to tell each S what their unique contribution was to the class. How proud I was of their specific growth. In front of all the whole class. First time I did that. I will do this every year going forward.
A3 Really focuses on this last year. Best way I found was to offer opportunities or Ts to appreciate one another. Compliment cards, staff shoutouts, thankful cards, etc. These were big hits. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I love to send home handwritten notes or E-Mail’s to parents thanking them for their support! Even those who don’t communicate as much DESERVE your support as well. The students know I appreciate them from my passion in the classroom each and every day! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I head straight to social media! Everyone wants to feel “famous”/appreciated every once in a while. Photos or work are easy things to post. A simple thank you goes a long way as well. #TLAP
I love the phrase "you made my day" whether it's the person who runs the computer lab who fixed a tech issues, or a student who shared where she sees physics in her life. Doesn't need to be a big thing. #tlap
A2: Being competitive/jealous of others does NOT make us better. It is NOT a good motivator bc although our results may be decent, intentions of getting there were lousy. We have to be practical, realize everyone has something good to offer, and collaborate respectfully. #tlap
A3: First of all, leadership of any kind, is about service to others. And the best types of leadership are the ones without an “official” title. Appreciation is shown when you keep showing up and keep your commitments to those you’re serving. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Our students are rewarded often and periodically for good behavior and excellence academic scores. Our teachers are usually rewarded with “jean day” 😂 or an hour lunch. Our parents are usually invited to our school and are treated to free breakfast or lunch. #TLAP
A3 I ❤️ to leave sticky notes with a little note for my peers and admin. I make sure to call parents for even the smallest thing for Ss who have had a tough time in previous years. I ❤️having lunch with my Ss to hear about what is going on outside of school. #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: when talking to with/about struggling students I try to focus my conversation with a STRENGHTS/Compliment first and then to be CLEAR (no jargo) and KIND about the concern #TalktoMe#tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Sincere thank you’s go a long way. Make sure you acknowledge the things that people do. Tell them f2f, write thank you cards, give shout outs at meetings. I still have the thank you’s my former principal @KevinCa28581019 gave me. It’s a big deal! #tlap
A3: Be specific in what you appreciate about them and their actions. Be real and remember why you are doing what you are doing it. I have to remind myself that much of what I do is not necessarily expected, but what I want to do to make the world better. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
Haters are so hard for me to deal with, but I'd rather hear their truth though than to wonder what they think. Typically my brain creates a worse version of the situation than the actual situation. #tlap
A3: Lots of positive reinforcements in the form of notes or pictures to share successes! I try to always remember what is best for the student no matter how much EXTRA it might involve! Their smile or aha moment is enough appreciation! #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap A1 today in training @UNCGMSPS we talked about different people's personality traits. I came up super strong on the blue-caring spectrum. It made me think about how we all come with traits which influence how we interact w each other. #ElonEd#MED523
A3b: When I don’t feel appreciated? I can be pretty hard on myself...but it doesn’t cause me to appreciate anyone else less. I try to think about what the other person might be dealing with and know lack of appreciation shown isn’t necessarily intentional. #TLAP#talktome
A3. I try to make it habit to give status checks once a week with parents. When I worked with my dd kiddos, they produced their own picture based newspaper that said what each student was doing during a week. If like to do something similar for my hs ss this year. #tlap
A3: I remember that an appreciated person is always willing to do more!! I love giving notes of encouragement & thanks! I think it’s important to recognize the efforts of others even if it’s not returned! Always do what’s right! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I tend show my appreciation through actions. I show you I love you by being reliable and helpful. This is a problem sometimes because words matter too. I have stated to send random appreciative texts to my team and individual colleagues when I think of them. #tlap
A3: Take the time to notice the hard work, the improvements, and the effort. Verbally thank others often for their input and contributions. Little handwritten notes of appreciation and food. Food is big. #TLAP
A3: We have class reward parties, we do silent cheers for great ideas and actions. I send all parents thank you notes for coming to conferences. When I don't feel appreicated, I do some mindfulness exercises and focus on the good & positive. #tlap
It is one of those things that people remember. I was in Union Station in DC once waiting for a train. I got on any my seat partner was tickled that she was sitting next to me because she saw me smiling while I was getting on. I was just excited to be traveling. #tlap
Love that! Each teacher in our school fills out a survey sheet with favorites that we keep in the office so all stakeholders can surprise others with acts of kindness here and there! Such a joy to see a surprise in our mailbox from our favorite's list! #tlap#TalkToMe
A3: I am a big believer in thank you cards and positive notes! I say thank you for everything and tried to leave positive notes for students, parents, and staff each week even if I am not receiving anything back! #tlap#lulearns
A3 Tell them! I find a simple "Thank you" and You rock!" go a long way! I try to be extra nice and kind to others, even the ones who do not reciprocate. We don't know other people's struggles #tlap
A3: I make sure to always say thank you and tell them how much their gesture means to me. I smile and say something positive to each student every day! #ElonEd#tlap
A3: I bring my A GAME every day... I do not take one day of their learning or my time with them for granted. That is one thing that every child and parent alike knows about me... they have my heart, my time, my everything. All in! #tlap#TalkToMe
A3. I absolutely love showing people I appreciate them...it can be a simple thank you, to a card, to a gift, a public acknowledgement, or a simple hug. I consider myself to be a Chief Encouragement Officer (CEO) and appreciation is the easiest way to do that! #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3a: I try to write or verbally give specific affirmations.
A3b: I’m a sentimental person 🙈, so I keep all the nice notes I’ve ever been given and sometimes I just pull them out and they’re a good reminder of why I do what I do. A burst of encouragement. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
You always hear Ts say, don’t smile until Christmas. I always try to smile and make kids laugh all the time. Spread some joy, make school a happy place #tlap
A3: The more you know your people, the easier it is to know their "love language". So, relationships are key! If I don't feel appreciated, that's when I have to do some self reflection as to why I do what I do. It's not about me. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Quick notes of appreciation, positive social media posts, a short & specific "thank you" in person, emails & thank you cards. Keep it genuine. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Part 1: I write each of my students personalized letters at the end of the school year and make them personalized holiday ornaments as well. I celebrate their accomplishments and process that encompasses both successes and "failures". #tlap
A3: I love to record positive videos for kids and parents. I always send out a thank you email to parents after conferences and send out our positive videos to kids talking about all the awesome things they are doing. #tlap
A3: Saying “thank you” sounds simple but it’s so important & too often forgotten. I also make the #goodnewscalloftheday for Ss & Staff. They love this& parents have cried with joy to hear something positive their child has done- big or little! I love to write cards, too. #TLAP
A3: personal time! Building and strengthening relationships through face to face connections...there’s nothing greater to show appreciation than being heard and being told directly the impact you’re making! #TLAP
We have served our staff breakfast, lunch, and dinners. We have taken them bowling and provided other special treats like massages and special mindfulness activities throughout the year. We celebrate our kids all the time but need to do a better job serving parents. #TLAP
I end the day by telling kids, "Thank you for choosing to be here today." They always look at me, astonished, but it is a choice, honestly. And the next day, when they come back again, they hear me say, "I am glad you are here!" #tlap
A3 I try to make things fun by recognizing staff w/prizes, food, and of course dress down days. :) I don’t get bogged down in thinking if Im getting appreciated enough. That’s not why I do what I do. It’s not about me, it’s about the kids. A happy staff makes for happy kids #tlap
A3 #TLAP The most meaningful appreciation is consistent, mindful interactions. Greeting, smiling, intently listening, being respectful and through positive interactions helping reinforce a positive school culture. Squashing negativity with a positive spirit- lots of smiles
Yes, Yes, YES! Random acts of kindness are so very important! And they don't have to cost a thing! Total morale booster! #tlap#talktome#passionforkindness
A2. Remember that everyone has strengths. When you mirror the positive aspects in others and elevate their positivite actions, it strengths relationships which is the biggest motivator of all! #tlap#TalkToMe
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TTY NOW...NOT TTYL!
Show others that you appreciate them by giving them your time! It's that simple! It isn't about the things, it's about the relationships! Stop when you're doing, drop what you're doing, and give them your time NOW!
✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A2: It can be aided by focusing on the issue at hand (vs the communicator) & questioning if we are being influenced by a preceding bias or history w/ the person- asking ourselves would our understanding & response be the same w/ someone else. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: It's important to celebrate and recognize those who do the work and put in the effort. I shout them out on the loud speaker, in meetings, and whenever I can. Your school can't be great until you talk about your school and staff as great #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3) Perhaps I’m not good at that. I shake their hands, and publicly praise when it’s appropriate. Something must work. I’ve had enough find me in their weakest moments for support. That’s how I l know I’m appreciated. #tlap
A3b: Every Friday is Free-Write Fri-YAY!! The students get a handwritten response from me to their free-write on their desk every Monday morning! It’s a SUPER way to MOTIVATE writers and BUILD RELATIONSHIPS! #TLAP#TalkToMe@kimbearden
A2: It can be aided by focusing on the issue at hand (vs the communicator) & questioning if we are being influenced by a preceding bias or history w/ the person- asking ourselves would our understanding & response be the same w/ someone else. #TLAP
A3 This is one of my favorite parts of my job as a principal. I love doing random appreciations for staff as well as the predictable ones, Good News Call of the Day, assemblies, etc. Parents are an area I need to work to improve #TLAP
A1: Try to start by showing them I understand their struggle. After I try to bring the S to find solutions to give him ownership or offer specific help to P or coworker instead of asking how I can help. Otherwise asking them to come up w/ solution doubles their work! #tlap
A3c - I try to concern myself with students. If they appreciate my positivity and kindness, most other stuff is easily dealt with. Even if a student doesn’t appreciate me, I try to help them and maintain the good attitude. #TLAP
A3: Part 2: I would love to learn (more) about what some of my co-workers do and celebrate their creativity as well as their innovative mindset. I love how my teaching partner was the first to incorporate escape rooms. I love how she took a huge step a few years ago. #tlap
I feel validated when students write me notes or emails thanking me for a lesson they enjoyed. It lets me know that they see that I am working hard to make learning meaningful and engaging #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I not only tell them but more importantly show them. It’s the small things, genuine kind gestures that go a LONG way. People will always remember how you made them feel, so make it positive! I remain positive by knowing what’s in my heart & that my intentions are good #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I have to fall back on the Golden Rule: Do to the other guy what you would want done to you if you were in their shoes...I always have to think about this before I say something when I'm feeling negative. Reminds me that it's not all about me. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Say thanks and show thanks. Let them know that I see them and they matter. Greet them when passing, ask how they are doing, and REALLY listen to their replies. Offer support. #tlap
A3. If you aren't feeling appreciated, I guarantee you there are others in your building feeling the same way. Go out of your way to recognize others and say thanks and you'll forget pretty quickly the way you were feeling! #tlap#talktome
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I printed out positive note paper and write each students name on a sheet. Every day I send 1-2 positive notes home to parents. This keeps me accountable for sending one about each student at least once a month and keeps the positivity in my classroom! #tlap#lulearns
A3: First of all, leadership of any kind, is about service to others. And the best types of leadership are the ones without an “official” title. Appreciation is shown when you keep showing up and keep your commitments to those you’re serving. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: When I call parents for Positive Office Refereals, I like to make sure I tell them how special their kid is, thank them for teaching them respect at home and that I’m so blessed they are at our school. #tlap
A3) This past school year I did a mid year and end of the year survey. A "teacher report card" of sorts, if you want to call it that. My intent was to show appreciation of student voice and their input on my practice and planning. #tlap
A2: Motives are either Self or Others. Why am I doing/asking/requiring/
disciplining? A3: Appreciations - Create momentous memories: My BDay I serve them lunch "every" yr. #tlap
#tlap A3 Even the smallest gestures deserve a ty. When a child brings you a tattered teddy bear...it may be their most treasured possession. #ElonEd#MED523
A4. I feel most validated when Ss quietly tell me that they learned something or loved a lesson or just thank me for the year. Handwritten notes at the end of the year are my favorites examples. #tlap
A3: Via email, hand-written note, or in-person chat, I acknowledge their contribution to the solution. Next year, I will invite coworkers to go for free with me to the San Diego Zoo as a gesture of appreciation. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Part 3: My parents... I think it's important how I ask them to tell me about their sons or daughters at the beginning of the school year. I contact them regularly and always do my best to tell them about their kids' positive attributes. #tlap
A3: It can bring you down a little when you feel your interactions are misunderstood/not appreciated. However, at the end it's not about you. It's about all of us working together as a unit. I don't need a badge of honor for every single good thing I do for my peeps. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 I feel validated when my peers and our staff and students tell me I have done a good job or tell me they appreciate me. I also feel validated when they ask for my opinion #TLAP
A3: Face to face compliments, expressions of thanks, phone calls, and verbal praise are effective - even more than an electronic message. Handwritten notes and posting amazing work products are visual displays of praise. I am always happier to give than to receive! #tlap
A4: I’ve had many times this year when I’ve spent hours on something, lost sleep, just been exhausted...@me1odystacy@kim_laughlin know I appreciate Words of Affirmation and will stop to tell me I’m appreciated and valued. Know the Love Language of others around you. #TLAP
A4: I try and always follow through on what I say I am going to do and give it my best. My hard work and my word is how I show appreciation with my own children, my Ss, coworkers, Ps, friends and family. #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The greatest validation I have ever received has always been from students. To see them create actions for change...to make a difference for others—well there’s no words to describe that. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Attention to detail, checking in with specific questions about what's going on in your world, true appreciation shared for work on a project... these are small ways to make hearts soar! #tlap#talktome
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: "I'm sorry you don't feel like I pay attention to what's happening in your class. I should do better. It's just that I trust you and know you're doing wht's best for kids." #tlap
A4- specific praise for legit hard work! Don’t fluff my feathers I don’t need it! @bmilla84 is amazing at leaving notes with specific praise for me! She is a strong encourager! #tlap#TALKTOME
A3: I write a negative sandwich down. 1 thing that frustrates me about said person, then something good, then something frustrating. Then rewrite the good thing and burn (rip up if you're not a chemist) the old one to let the frustrating ones go away. Give them the 2nd one. #tlap
#tlap *DISCLAIMER* As a Stats teacher, I have to say that there is no such thing as a "random" act of kindness. No coin was flipped, no random number generator was used. The acts are deliberately calculated and chosen, although surprising to the recipient.
Ok, rant over.
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Graduation. When I watch my Ss walk across the stage w/ their diploma I know that our time together in HS was worth every minute. That's when I know our work is complete. #tlap#talktome
A4: @Flood1Tracy and @dsimpsonsimmons were specific in their compliments. Instead of giving a dismissive, "Nice," I heard exactly how I had helped make their lives a little easier. When we are specific with our praise, we are more likely to have repeat performances. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. Welcoming Ss, P, T in, smile, sharing what Ss are working on, thank them for coming, listen to their stories, share stories! Remind myself who your doing it for, the Ss! #tlap
A4. I have had the most generous human beings as my students. They have sent emails, written me letters, hug me, and use beautiful words. I try to do the same for them. Everyone should feel like someone cares and is willing to show it! #tlap#talktome
A4: When students and parents come back to thank you and when they talk about you outside of school in a positive way then I feel validated. Here is one blog that validates what we do: https://t.co/QIAwhBslxR#tlap
A4: I feel validated when a parent or student recognizes my efforts both inside and outside the classroom to encourage student success. As a parent, I try to send text messages, emails, and notes to my children’s Ts when I see them going above and beyond. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: when I won employee of the year this school year. It was voted on by the entire staff. I can help others feel validated by honoring them in word and deed. Cover a duty or write a quick thank you letter #tlap
A4 We have PRIDE write ups that the staff fills out for Ss. Our principal comes in and announces the recipients each Friday... one day one was announced for me that a Student wrote up. Was great validation! It started a new trend too. #tlap
When I combined classes with other teachers/job coaches and they looked at me as a leader and were very receptive to my ideas. Acknowledging ideas/effort before shooting things down, and learning to brainstorm and combine instead of choosing only one idea. #tlap
A4 - It was unexpectedly being asked to do more by my superior. I just wanted to do a good job and I got more opportunity. I think the same applies to our students. If teachers reward students for their good work with more opportunities rather a gold star, change happens. #tlap
A3: when I host a PD I always provide coffee, water & snacks & when possible provide a special lunch, a quality guest speaker like @alicekeeler & of course #dbc books. When I don’t feel appreciated, I smile & do my best to model professionalism #TLAP
A4: we can take risks on people....follow their dreams with them and allow them to fly or fail. Either way you’re on a learning journey together so there’s no way to lose!! #TLAP
A3) I’ve never felt I wasn’t their teacher just because the bell rang that ended class. Similarly, even if you’re not on my roster- I still think I’m your teacher. I hope they know it’s because I value them enough to stop engaging with that relationship with them. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4a: When I have former Ss come see me, write to me, or send me a message; that’s pretty validating!
A4b: We can validate others by supporting them and advocating for them. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
That takes a LOT of courage, Rachel. I know I have done that in the past and it was with a ton of trepidation. Need to take a deep breath and do it!! #tlap
A3: I think another thing is how at the end of the school year, I put together a 45-minute slideshow of memories and photos and do quite a bit for my Tech Club students by coming up with an amazing overnight trip as well as a competition where they showcase their talents. #tlap
A3b: This past year for Thanksgiving week. I hand wrote a thank you to each staff member. It was restorative for my heart to reflect on the good in each of them. #tlap
Q4: A parent came to visit the last day of school. She came to tearfully thank me for the progress her son had demonstrated throughout the year. It brought tears to my eyes. #tlap#talktome
When people see the work and content behind our room transformations. Yes they are big and fun but more importantly they are rigorous and require student cooperation and higher thinking. #tlap
A4: I received a very sweet letter from a P on the last day of school. It was very heartfelt & reflective. It gave me such validation & reaffirmed me belief in what I’m doing. We need to take moments to let others know we believe in them & their work! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 It takes a concerted effort to focus on positives, esp if it hasn’t been habit. It’s easy to focus on negativity, & social media makes this harder b/c we tend to only see snapshots of “perfect” lives. We must keep perspective & find our marigolds to support us. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: In all seriousness, when someone verbalizes their validation, it means so much to me. I'd rather that be one-on-one than in a group though. Validation in groups makes me uncomfortable. If I'm doing something right, tell me. I will want to keep doing it. #tlap
A3 I have my staff fill out a survey with their favorite soft drink and candy bar and keep a stash so that I can give them a cold one or a treat to say thanks or as a pick me up. #TLAP
A4: I feel validated when my principal or district RTs my students work. They are very busy people and to know they take the time and appreciate my students hard work is validation enough. Your students hard work is a reflection of you and how you teach. #TLAP
A4: It's kind of crazy how an email from a former student saying they appreciated me or still think about our class can keep me floating for weeks. #tlap
A4 For me it was simply verbal praise or validation from people I respect. I try to be very intentional about being impeccable with my word because words are so powerful. I try to be intentional and consistent w/ recognition and praise #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I feel validated when parents or students send notes or emails thanking me for something I have done. Words of affirmation go a long way for both students and teachers. #tlap#LULearns
A3: Show appreciation by including (teachers, parents, students) in the excitement of learning! Our outcomes improve when we include all stakeholders #tlap
A2: Once problem is defined, focus on solutions rather than let the problem look bigger than it is by going on and on about it. However, must remain positive in word choice and nonjudgmental: so how can we change the situation...? NOT don’t do that anymore... #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: To me the strongest factor in validating is truly listening and engaging in what matters to others. To sit on your own thoughts and allow that moment to be gifted. That moment of full attention and meaningful eye to eye contact is priceless! #tlap#TalkToMe
I like a mix of both! Sometimes my acts of kindness are very deliberate and other times they just happen in the moment! It’s a happy mix of joy either way! #tlap
A4. When someone uses your work in their classroom, it is the nicest feeling. I love it when people want to incorporate one of my ideas. I always try to tell the person whose idea I am using. It is nice to know that you have been helpful. #TLAP
A4 Ways we make our team members feel validated is by recognizing them with specificity, finding out if they like to be recognized publicly or privately, and how they like to be recognized. Shows that we value their contribution to the team & remembered their preference #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: The best validations for me are those that specifically state what actions I took that made a difference. Anyone can say "You're great". It's better to say the reasons why. #tlap
A4:When I became principal, I got a hand written letter from a student that made me cry. She wrote abt the monthly read alouds I do in classrooms & the special lunches we had- w/ music of course! All in everyday for my Ss & school & the kids know it! #tlap#talktome
A3. A true act of kindness is done when nothing is expected in return. By spreading kindness two people benefit, the one receiving & the one giving it! Appreciate the gift you’ve given yourself. Face to face compliments is my personal favorite way to show appreciation! #tlap
A4 So this happened today. A teacher was working in her room & came by the office to talk. She said she wanted to give me a hug. She was excited about where our school was headed & wanted to thank me. That felt pretty good. A great reminder for me to do the same for others. #TLAP
A4: I got a written message from a kid that was clearly not perfunctory or one she had sent to just any old teacher. The kid had had a terrible semester that included testifying in court in a molestation case. I didn't think I did anything special...:) #tlap
A4: Working with Ss is the validation everyday in teaching. Seeing Ss sense of accomplishment, and letting hem own their own learning is a great validation too. #TLAP
A4 Agreed. Validation does go far, but people need to be careful, because actions speak louder than words. I'm not a fan of people who validate your thoughts and say you have great ideas, but then do the complete opposite, like they didn't even listen. #PetPeeve#tlap
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We all feel validated when someone truly listens to us, especially when they L.I.S.T.E.N. 👇✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A4: Appreciation is about you. Validation is about them. To validate, you have to know what they are passionately striving for and acknowledge, understand and celebrate it systematically. #tlap
A4 I feel validated when colleagues or members of my PLN say “tell me more about...”. When people notice the good that I’ve done or the risks I’ve taken, it fills my soul and grows the fire within me to keep going! #tlap
I was chosen as beginning teacher of the year at the first high school I taught at. I was selected by the administration and my peers. That year was my hardest year of teaching by far and it was beyond awesome to be validated by those around me #tlap
The word validation comes from Latin, the root word also is used for:
I am healthy, I am strong, I am worthy
Take that into consideration when building others up -- you're making them feel healthy, strong, worthy.
#tlap#talktome
A4: I have been lucky this year with many positive moments of feeling validated and appreciated. This wasn't always my work experience and having had the opportunity to move into a positive culture situation is what propels me to make sure others feel the same way. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: SAY~ THANK YOU for specific reasons and SAY I appreciate ___ I show appreciation: Ts ➡️Random Act of Kindness (notes/gifts/emails) Ss ➡️ brag 📝 , + office referrals, 1:1 conference, ☎️ 🏠 Ps ➡️ ☎️ 🏠, thank you letter, notes, newsletter #TalkToMe#tlap
A4: I felt validated when my sensational scientists from last year came in on a Saturday to celebrate science and review our standards from over the course of the year. I love how my school let me make this a possibility-- and how they had faith in me. #tlap
A4: Relationships with students (when they thank you for being there every day), with teachers (when you just have dinner together and share life both schools and personal), and parents (when you go over our conference time just talking about what’s new with them) #tlap
Q4. Recently a colleague was struggling, someone observed our conversation & sent me an email thanking me for being such a good friend. I was deeply moved by their acknowledgement. I strive to be this for as many people as I can be-to see, support & validate. #tlap#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I'm sure there are a couple in the last 21 years, but the one that sticks out is a letter from a parent thanking me for years of work with a severely dyslexic boy along with an invite to his HS graduation. I still have it hanging! #TLAP If you appreciate it, tell them!
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 When someone I look up to and really want to make proud, tells me they are proud of something specific I've done to help others. That makes me feel validated.
Or, of late--feedback on my book (good and critical...both make me feel like I have purpose) #tlap#TalkToMe
A4 @Milken educator award was a big deal. To be honest though, I learned through that network to seek out like minded individuals and it has been a personal renaissance to my resolve and creativity. That shocked face though! #tlap
#TLAP A3 - This always comes back to having a relationship. You understand what is the best way to praise and encourage. Has to be personal or it’s meaningless.
The biggest reflective factor I take into consideration for parents and students ...Have I communicated with them the positive and highlighted achievements and growth? As this is the piece which builds trust, relationships, reflection and growth for all. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap I really appreciate when Ss genuinely thank me for not teaching them but for teaching them how to think and teach themselves-they share anecdotes of HS & college where this skill proved useful- they always say- I understand now why you forced me to figure it out on my own
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 Sincere feedback is what showed me that what I did for colleagues was appreciated. Not empty praises. Makes it worthwhile when you know you’re helping someone. #tlap#talktome
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I feel validated when my PLC listen to my ideas. I can have very off the wall ideas and them just listening is enough for me. :) I love hearing their ideas as well. #TLAP
A4: I'm sure there are a couple in the last 21 years, but the one that sticks out is a letter from a parent thanking me for years of work with a severely dyslexic boy along with an invite to his HS graduation. I still have it hanging! #TLAP If you appreciate it, tell them!
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I feel the most validated when I receive positive feedback from my Ss. The beautiful letters, notes, cards, pictures they give me make my heart full of love for them and my job. We have the best and most impacting jobs next to parents in the world! The kids validate! #tlap
A4 Just by connecting with them...it's no surprise that many Ts, Ss, and leadership go days without having a meaningful conversation with someone...we have to be connected to each other #TLAP
A3: I love to give out video shoutouts called Tweetups after my daily announcement videos showcasing awesome things students have done. https://t.co/uuwOsnWnRH#tlap
It's just painful when you get it at the end of the year and then have to think about it all summer. I know we get to implement changes the next year, but it still can feel like a lost opportunity. #tlap
This is an important point, Kristin. Leaders must be purposeful with not only engaging in conversations with team members but specifically referencing how they have used the team members input in later decisions @daleyscience#tlap
I recieved cards from teachers after the year was over thanking me for pushing them to do things out of their comfort zone. It was in their growth that I felt validation. #tlap
A4: I sent home a math problem to use specific digits & make the largest #. Ss next day, "I broke [the spreadsheet]". Coworker, "No you didn't!" I corrected the Tr privately. The Ss was right. We must be in this to celebrate & make others great or we are missing the pt. #tlap
Come on, YES! Validation in groups basically invalidates the action. When you go to a baseball game and Javier Baez makes a good play, you don't praise the team. You cheer for Baez who made the grab and you tell others why it was remarkable. #tlap
A4: In all seriousness, when someone verbalizes their validation, it means so much to me. I'd rather that be one-on-one than in a group though. Validation in groups makes me uncomfortable. If I'm doing something right, tell me. I will want to keep doing it. #tlap
At RCA, students are not allowed to raise their hands while another student is speaking. I love this because they must focus on what is being said, not what they want to say. #TLAP#TalkToMe
At RCA, students are not allowed to raise their hands while another student is speaking. I love this because they must focus on what is being said, not what they want to say. This hesitation strengthens their ability to listen. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: One is my more difficult students told me the year after teaching him that he was going to invite me to his Harvard graduation. Validation ten fold! #TLAP
A4: I had a teacher send me an email. He had seen great improvements this year and was thanking me for sharing my learning and ideas with him throughout the year. He was the heart and soul of that room, but it made what I try to do feel validated and my heart sang. #tlap
Q4: the last time I was validated was at a board meeting, my boss said some nice things about me; it made me feel like all my hard work was finally noticed. Recognizing people in public or around their peers is something most people like.#TLAP
A4:Last year I had just finished a small group working with words lesson and this little fellow looks up and genuinely says"Thank you Mr. J for that wonderful lesson.I understand it now because you are a wonderful teacher"It was raw and real.We can make others feel it too. #tlap
A3: Talking w/ each other is underrated. Bonding w/ Ss+coworkers by asking questions and getting to know them on a daily basis makes all the difference. Plus, we often think we aren’t appreciated, but sometimes just talking makes you realize that person had a lot going on! #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I worked in my building as a 5th grade teacher, hired as AP by a panel of my peers, then they selected me as their principal! I can’t let these people down! #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5. Give them time to think before speaking. Make the conversations genuine. Don't look for stock answers or something just to move along the discussion. We need to model this sort of time, as well, so I try not to rush answers to them myself. #tlap
A4: Recieving the #tlap award from my P, at a board meeting, & having my principal read what the P-I-R-A-T-E stood for and how I manifested those daily. That let me know that what I did was noticed, & was shared with the board. To some degree, we can do that w/Ss.
A4: Additionally, we cannot let awesomeness go unnoticed. We need to thank/celebrate others. By not focusing on competition, being cookie-cutter, and the end result (end of year exams), we focus more on teachers' creativity, risk-taking, and unique learning environments. #tlap
A4: Any gesture of acknowledgement goes a long way: a card, a visit from a former student, a quick email letting me know I made a difference. I try to make sure to celebrate the positive and validate even the authentic negative vulnerability that someone shares. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4. One of the P had thanked me for taking the time to spend with the Ss working on the STEM activities which were different from their normal science class activities! #tlap
A4 I have felt most validated when something I’ve done with students is mentioned specifically in a compliment or conversation. It is nice to know they are noticing what I’ve been working on. Therefore, I try to be specific when praising #tlap
A5: We start our opinion writing unit off by defending our opinions ORALLY by learning RESPECTFUL conversation starters... especially when we may be in disagreement with someone else’s opinion! Listening is KEY to a successful conversation with effective communication! #TLAP
A4) I’ve reached the point now that when I sit down in my admins office and say, “I have this crazy idea that...” and he cuts me off and says, “Go for whatever it is, just be clear and upfront with everyone, especially parents.” That’s validation. #tlap
A5: Stick to the facts in conversation. Pause and clarify before continuing. Don't assume what the other person is thinking. That's so hard for me!
Give Ss opportunities to engage in conversation. Model conversation. #tlap
A4 When coaches or Ts I lead begin to own or develop new methods of teaching/leading--bc of our conversations or encouragement or the two of us crushing goals together--love that! #tlap#TalkToMe
A5 we hold daily morning meetings where students discuss the topic of the day with a partner then share each other’s thoughts with the class. It requires them to actually listen to what the other person is saying! #tlap
A4 I recently felt validation when a former student reached out to me and told me that they were going to college. Don’t take what we do for granted because we will grant opportunities for Ss to achieve their dreams! #TLAP
At RCA, students are not allowed to raise their hands while another student is speaking. I love this because they must focus on what is being said, not what they want to say. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 : I feel validated when parents, grandparents, students, or colleagues are continuing to use what I have shared or taught them. My favorite is when students email me about the books they are reading two years later. #tlap#BringEdLife
A5 I love having students practice within the four walls of their safety net. I also know our students watch our every interaction. Therefore, we have to model and do what we’re asking our students to do. #talktome#tlap
A4 #TLAP I was teaching a science summer camp a few weeks ago and another teacher I just met said to me- I read your blog & follow you on Twitter, you inspire me - I was taken a back- I felt humbled and honored
A4: Announce appreciations at staff meetings, public meetings, in newsletters and every chance you get. Leaders put others before themselves. #tlap#TalkToMe
A5: This past year I received a
#GreatDreamsNeedGreatTeachers letter that was submitted on my behalf. Colleagues wrote about how much they appreciated how much I had done for them, I was speechless & so honored. We need others to know when they’ve done something we value #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap A5 I like the hesitation part...teaching the thoughtful waiting for otherd to finish their thought or just get thier thoughts out! #ElonEd#MED523
A5: Talking chips. Sentence starters. “Rules” for conversations, like during philosophical chairs or Socratic seminars... teaching these skills through specific guidelines. #tlap
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5. Lean forward, make eye contact, listen, remain silent to let them collect their thoughts, ask for clarification, summarize...but let them speak...no filter...no editing...just speak from the heart. #tlap#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5 I use Number Talks to initiate meaningful discourse. It spreads beautifully throughout the day. We also practice a #growthmindset daily. #TLAP#TALKTOME
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
As @JayBilly2 showed in his blog post, it’s the letters and notes of appreciation that make me and the work I do feel validated. It’s better than any material gift. #TLAP
I ask for students to listen for something specific that challenged their thinking, expanded their thinking, or changed their thinking. Then, I give them different opportunities to say who and what specifically impacted them. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Forgot about this! I also have my students demonstrate their appreciation by taking time out of our class period to affirm one another. I teach them about what affirmations are and how they make others feel. #tlap
A4: This past year I received a
#GreatDreamsNeedGreatTeachers letter that was submitted on my behalf. Colleagues wrote about how much they appreciated how much I had done for them, I was speechless & so honored. We need others to know when they’ve done something we value #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 We had our accreditation this year and that was hugely validating as a leader. Without us in the room Ps, Ts and Ss all told the team how much they loved our school and felt like a family. Validation for all! #tlap
A1: When talking to students, I remember that they are someone else's little boy or little girl. I need to treat them with honor. When speaking to other adults, I need to remember that like me, they make mistakes, and are on a journey to greatness. #tlap
A5: definitely practice their listening skills. Meaningfully listening without interrupting is difficult for my students sometimes. By listening they learn to gather their thoughts t carefully curate and form their opinions and share them with others. #TLAP
A5 We see the clarification piece often emerge in the peer mediation process. S leaders are given opportunities to guide their peers through conflict resolution. Part of this requires Ss to state their understanding of other Ss perspectives and develop reasonable solutions. #tlap
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5 This brings to mind the idea of “wait time” that works so well with #ell and #sped students. You pose a question. Wait. They respond. Wait again. Helps so much. And teaches you patience! 😆 #tlap#talktome
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: Random name generators, wait time, accountable talk questions, backing up with evidence, 1-on-1 peer and group discussions...modeling w Ss and other Ts. Provide many opportunities to work on conversation daily! They should be talking more than we are any day! #TLAP#talktome
A4: I feel validated when other teachers at school request me for their children. It shows me that they see and appreciate my efforts and passion. To make others feel this way, give credit where credit is due even if it is something minute. WeAllDeserveIt #TLAP#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I’m just crazy about this question. We work with human beings. They bring all of their personhood to work. Fears, dreams, need for belonging, desire for recognition. We can validate them by letting then know they are “enough”. #tlaphttps://t.co/RMLH1ZKs5V
A5: Teach methods of engagement before class discussion. Make sure that students agree on what respectful, meaningful dialogue is first. Then, move forward and practice. #tlap
As @JayBilly2 showed in his blog post, it’s the letters and notes of appreciation that make me and the work I do feel validated. It’s better than any material gift. #TLAP
A5: I use hesitation, and instead of instantly responding, I let it stay quiet for a second and often times, students start to solve their own problem once they hear their thoughts out loud. So they think I gave them advice, but really they figured it out on their own! #tlap
A5- We use accountable talk that help them learn how to respectfully agree or disagree by listening & stating facts, information from the conversation. #tlap#TalkToMe
A4: I have felt validated when smy admin and other Ts notice, and comment, on the hard work I do and the successes I have. Noticing what others do, and commenting on it, can do wonders! #TLAP
A5: Showing interest, letting them lead the conversation, asking questions, NOT giving advice right away, and just listening. And helping students learn that it is not always about them. #tlap#talktome
A4. Recently a student told me they helped another student reconnect during a challenging time by coaching them through it with a mindfulness strategy learned with me. It’s so important to share with students & staff that the work they are doing is being seen and heard. #TLAP
5) To help me participate I try to get up from behind my desk and sit WITH whoever is speaking to me. My desk can be a barrier or a designation of power. Sitting WITH as opposed to across FROM makes a huge difference. #tlap
A5 Modeling! Set the example for your students, have high expectations, let them know that failure is something to be expected and encouraged, great conversations will follow! #TLAP
A5: My big thing is teaching students how to be active listeners. They need to consider EVERYONE'S contributions. I model to students how I am an active listener and conversationalist. Respect is pivotal. #tlap
A3: I’m always looking for new ways and ways to do better. I believe it has to be authentic and a good combo of the little things done consistently throughout the yr & some big WOW celebrations of appreciation during holidays and appreciation weeks. Finally, schedule it! #TLAP
A5 I like giving students the opportunity for “turn and talks” so everyone feels they have the chance to come up with a contribution to the conversation or discussion and then come back as a whole group to share #tlap
A5: I love doing some of the assignments I give students. I’ll just sit down with a dif group as we’re working and chat with them about anything and everything. It’s definitely important to just ask a Q and then listen and nod your head sometimes. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap No "comma dumb-ass" Meaning, pay attention to your tone when responding to a fellow S. Don't answer in a tone that sounds like it could be followed with ", dumb-ass."
Also, make sure to respond to previous comment rather than ignore it and give your own idea.
A5 I'm a big kid and can hold my own in most video game and comic book conversations and I often relate them to the work we do in the class. In homeroom, I try to have convos about @CNN10#tlap
A5: With the early elementary grades we have thinking time before we can raise our hands and we put our hands down when someone else is speaking so we can focus on listening. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Our school was not performing to the level of expectations three years ago and now it is one of the top performing schools in Laredo and in our district. As for validation, it is our teachers that made the difference. As a principal, it is not about me but our children.#TLAP
A5: In Kindergarten, we practice speaking to each other for our morning meeting. We take turns walking up to each other, looking them in the eyes, sharing something kind about them, listening, and responding. #tlap#lulearns
A5. I intentionally teach communication skills because many don't have them. I use structures like Socratic Seminar and Visible Thinking Debating protocols to help build their capacity to communicate effectively.
#tlap#TalkToMe
A5: being intentional about the language I use, making sure I provide appropriate wait time when I ask a question (speed doesn’t equal intelligence), throw in some “so what you’re saying is...” #tlap
A5: I start with the students interest. You have to show you care about them and their thoughts. They can tell if you are faking it. “Be Real” @TaraMartinEDU with them. Develop strong relationships and they will come to you when they need you! They will feel safe. #TLAP
A5 Reading this, I feel like maybe I haven’t learned good conversation techniques. :(. Is hesitation similar to “wait time”? I feel like I need a refresher and maybe some actual conversations, lol #TLAP
A5: I love using Socratic Seminar to teach kids how to communicate with one another. This entails active listening, asking questions of others, making clarifying statements, and how to agree and disagree effectively. They have to learn to talk to each other w/meaning! #tlap
A5: I really like the idea of teaching Ss not to raise their hand while one of their classmates are speaking. No one likes to feel rushed or get cut off, even kids. Its also a great exercise in patience. #tlap
A3 When showing appreciation to others, try to notice efforts or qualities that might otherwise get overlooked & spotlight these with one-on-one conversations, emails, or post-its. When feeling unappreciated, Ts have to reflect on + moments & future goals. #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: In kindergarten, I teach students to build on each other's ideas and follow the conversation by looking at the speaker, adding information or giving feedback. Build respect in the classroom. Everyone is an integral part of the classroom community! #tlap#talktome
A5: Teaching students to disagree and challenge others' ideas respectfully is crucial! This can also carry over into PLC meetings with other educators. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: I teach my students to keep eye contact with the speaker and to stay focused on what they are saying. I also remind them how important it is to not interrupt! #tlap#ElonEd#MED523#talktome
A5: Teaching your students how to have conversations in the classroom is so important! Eye contact, listen, share, and more. Give students a chance to practice. #TLAP#LULearns
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: We used Kagan collaboration strategies for meaningful whole group discussions. We have sentence stems on the wall with things like “to add to what you said”, we model appropriate conversation skills. #tlap
A5: I stick to a “3 Before Me” philosophy where Ss nurture their relationships with others before coming to me. They must see 3 classmates before seeing me. This builds trust in peers in place of thinking I am the all be it in their world. #tlap#TalkToMe
A5: My Ss do most of the talking in my classroom, so I feel it is important to make sure that they practice the art of communication/conversation. We practice engaging in mature listening and responding and analyze the outcomes through meta cognitive reflection. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Both of us were asked to mentor first year teachers this year and host education majors for their senior field exp. This validates our passion for growing kids and the profession. My goal is to be a source of validation for kids this year. #TLAP
A5: When students are getting to share their passions they don't hesitate to participate, hesitate to clarify, provide more informatioin and make sure that their points are clear #tlap
A5 It is really hard not to call out a student for being disruptive or distracting to the clas. Finding ways to re-work the behavior by having this kind of conversation benefits everyone. It takes work though, at least for me. #tlap
A5: I use the moves I know as a coach when conferring with students. This lets them know I'm listening and there to support, but also empowers them to find the answers within. https://t.co/sWLRNXPnH6#tlap
#tlap Weekly 1-min check in w/ every student-I intently & purposefully listen, make eye contact, ask probing questions- model these skills. This also builds trusting & respectful relationships. I lean in & really pay attention & I tell them-paying attention is deeply listening
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5b I give them the time they need if they aren’t ready we can come back to it when they are. I try to never interrupt and be understanding and supportive #TLAP
A5: I also demonstrate hesitation because sometimes our own contributions need to "bake", and it is better to think for a moment than give a fast, immediate response. #tlap
A5. Give Ss time to reflect before answering questions! Ss need time to think about responses in order to participate in discussions and also form arguments! Depending what your working on! Ss voices leading! #tlap
A5 We end our days in a circle at the carpet just discussing our day and current events. This is a great opportunity for modeling, opinions, and for practice with conversational respect. #tlap
I made a "rainy day box" for each of my teachers to keep cards, notes, pictures from students, parents, staff for times when they were struggling. Helps you remember your why. #tlap
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@educatorTHR, @mospillman, @burgessdave
A5: My big thing is teaching students how to be active listeners. They need to consider EVERYONE'S contributions. I model to students how I am an active listener and conversationalist. Respect is pivotal. #tlap
A5 Modeling! Set the example for your students, have high expectations, let them know that failure is something to be expected and encouraged, great conversations will follow! #TLAP
A5 Clarification. That is my go-to. Paraphrasing to make sure I hear them correctly and am on the same page. I love it when they say--"No, not that...(and then clarify)"
Paraphrasing is powerful. #tlap#TalkToMehttps://t.co/ubHBSdXV8n
A5: Showing interest, letting them lead the conversation, asking questions, NOT giving advice right away, and just listening. And helping students learn that it is not always about them. #tlap#talktome
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Sometimes the littlest things make the largest impact! I love pushing aside the tables and opening up the floor for circle conversations and collaborative sharing. ✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP
True, Jason. Reflection is integral for our Ss to engage in strategic learning. It's imperative that we guide our Ss on how to engage in purposeful reflection, so that they will use the information from mistakes and successes to strengthen their learning @jasongriffinccs#tlap
At our staff retreat, we always take time to share our personal journeys— we start with the history of “us,” and each of us shares why we chose to teach or work with kids, what led us to RCA, and how we have grown together while being here. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: Provide various ways to participate, talk about what is causing the hesitation, clear up any misconceptions, determine what information is most important to share. Sometimes Ss share individually & others as a collaborative group. Ultimately, talk WITH them not at them. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Receiving personal, handwritten letters from S parents w/ kids in HS about specific things I did for their child that made a difference. Said personal messages to each one of my Ss in front of class to show them I understood them based on things that happened in class #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: I learned about using improv strategies with students at an @edtechteam Summit here in SC last year. I can't remember her name... Use "Say yes, and..." Make statements, no mistakes just opportunities. #TLAP
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I had the same principal for many years. He allowed me to take risks, both in the classroom and with sponsorships. His thank you’s and his approval for new ideas was validation. He made me have confidence to try and that is a powerful tool. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5. Teaching Ss the art of the conversation (listening eyes, ears, body, brain, and heart and validation of pts made) is so important - particularly now with social media/texting so often taking the place of verbal communication. #TLAP
A6. I delieberately take time to point out the good when I see it. Even if it's something like clapping for a student whose name was broadcast over the PA for scoring a goal, recognizing talent and goodness keep the world a-turning! #tlap
go to their games, care about their lives outside of school, and celebrate their successes, talk to parents, email, etc
Care about co-workers, acts of kindness, help anyway you can
#tlap
A5: I have started focusing on giving Us more guidance in giving feedback. I like to model and teach how to give constructive and useful feedback. #TLAP
#tlap A6 one of the things I do is provide lots of visuals to go w the community practices we are trying to build...we talk about these &, revisit when situations arise.
A5: Howdy #tlap from Barbara in TX.
We use the SOLER model from #capturingkidshearts to help students develop their conversational skills. So much non-verbal body language involved in listening to understand.
A4 #TLAP A pause is a mind upload, this is what I tell my students- so when there is a lull in a class discussion- I say uploading and wait until they are ready to share
A6: trying to make school like a positive family atmosphere. I would let students call me by nicknames, some of my favorites: Mr K, Coach K, Klem Shady, Fam #tlap
A6 - We do letter writing, daily positive words and Flipgrid videos. Each day we share positive vibes. As for parents, call home early and with only positive calls. #TLAP
A6: I do class accomplishment photos. I can't share do to privacy, but I'm taking a cue from @mrmatera and create an accomplishment wall. #tlap#TalkToMe
A6. When my wife and I found out we were going to have this little nugget, my coworkers and principal threw a surprise baby shower and stocked us up on diapers and wipes. No better way to show love and celebrate than to know big events in people’s lives and do it up right! #tlap
A6: Our classroom is a COMMUNITY and a FAMILY. We share our stories and celebrate each other and our successes as often as possible. Fun as often as possible. A LOT gets tweeted out for parents. Our staff has monthly get togethers outside of school #TLAP
A6: Cultivating relationships with my Ss is my favorite! We take time daily—no matter what we’re doing—to laugh, share stories, tell jokes, have fun! The important thing is that this starts on Day 1! We are a family from the first day of school to the last. ❤️ #TLAP#talktome
This is great when collaborating with colleagues as well! Wait time equals: it’s okay, take time to collect & prepare your thoughts. . . We value what you have to share with us. . .we can wait. . . you’re worth it #TLAP
A6: passion projects! Let them share things they know. Entertain their randomness. Be open with them and open your classroom up to them. Help them feel comfortable and welcome. Ask about their lives. #TLAP
I learned this year how teaching kids to use a conversation protocol is helpful to ensure everyone participates, shares information, and encourages others to clarify. #tlap
A5) I politely disagree and challenge them on ideas. Students often struggle with arguing using reasoning and evidence. I really try to model this as much as possible. #tlap
@burgessdave just shared my vision for my curriculum boot camp and everyone is on board with your PIRATE theme and book...thank you for sharing your passion, energy, and enthusiasm #tlap
A6: If I'm ever out and see something that reminds me of them, I'll either buy it for them or take a picture, depending on the situation. I try to do activities with students outside of school that allows me to get to know them more. #tlap
A5: Emphasizing collaboration & giving students time to communicate w/ peers before blending those ideas into a whole class discussion. I spend a lot of time modeling this to them early in the yr & assist the process as needed to spark/redirect the convos later. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6 Cultivating relationships begins with a purposeful investment in time and conversation with our stakeholders. We celebrate the relationships by acknowledging stakeholders supports, efforts, and work in building our momentum to reach the vision of success for all Ss #tlap
A6. For us as an alt. ed HS, graduation is the ultimate celebration! One year, we had 2 graduates & 300+ guests! We do monthly celebrations recognizing completed credits, yearly awards for citizenship, as well as Words of Wisdom celebrations when Ss finish. #tlap#TalkToMe
A6: with coworkers, I try to get to know them personally. About their families, hobbies outside of school, etc. Last year, I took a first year teacher out for tacos one day after school because that is his favorite food #tlap
A6; When the kids are stressed have a drop everything and talk time. Tell them that you care and then back it up when they need you to listen. Pay attention to their cues. Go to their events outside of the school day & tell them how well they did. Back up words with deeds. #tlap
A6: Show interest in life outside of school-- or even after-school inductions or sports games. I always attend plays at the community theater, tell families about events like Maker Faires, and seek out opportunities for my students to grow. #tlap
A5: I use reciprocal teaching with my students where they lead discussions on an article. This method covers all components of meaningful conversations among students. #TLAP#TalkToMe
The components of meaningful conversation include Participation, Hesitation, Information, and Clarification. What are some strategies you use to enhance these skills with students? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A5: I ❤️ this and can’t wait to teach my Ss better speaking and listening strategies in this new year. The goal for me is to stay neutral during classroom discussions (more of a guide) #tlap#talktome
6) These were game changers. As risks were taken, they were acknowledged and celebrated with a Brag Tag. As tags were worn, conversations occurred explaining why, inspiring another risk by another person...and another...and another #tlap
A6 every year we take our 8th graders to camp for 3 days. We use this to celebrate our Ss accomplishments and growth in middle school. It is something they look forward too from the time they are in 6th grade. The memories they make at camp last forever #KidsDeserveIt#TLAP
A5. Sometimes we assume once students reach a certain age they should be able to carry on a conversation, but I think sometimes adults even need reinforcement especially when involved in face to face interactions. #tlap
A6 We do an activity where every student writes down their favorite memories of the year and puts it in a balloon. Each day we pop one and read the@ to countdown to summer. It’s a great way to reflect on some amazing moments! #tlap
A6 we give praise, build relationships, and we tell our story on social media, we model this for each other and our kids and we let people know we are proud of their growth #TLAP
A6: Laugh with them. You can’t help but like a person more after you have laughed together. Now you’re connected. Trust is slowly built. You’re on the same team. Laugh! #tlap
A6: I have no shame! I have done the Ice Bucket Challenge in front of the whole school, been in the musical, dressed up like the Mad Hatter, had an annual dance off at prom, dressed up like a cheerleader for pep rallies... #tlap#talktome
A6 I love using @Seesaw for this! Sending a quick message of validation, celebrating risks & successes, etc. ❤️ the fact that this all gets shared w families who can continue to celebrate at home. It also makes it easy to share more of me with my students & their families #tlap
A6: We give our teachers the same circle time that we expect them to give their students, so they can feel the benefit of harnessing the power of connection knee to knee, shoulder to shoulder, eye to eye, smile to smile, heart to heart. #tlap
A6 Every year my Ss have a name to live up to. Last year they were called the #Luminaries. The whole school knew who they were and understood the importance of their name. Our class relationship was positive and strong throughout the entire year. #TLAP
A6: Our faculty really tries to "do life" together in good and bad times. Our in-service and PD days all have an element of team building that focuses on really knowing each other. There's never enough time, but this is too important to ignore! #tlap#talktome
A6 We had some pretty awesome events this year, including our principal in a dunk tank, winning an award from the mayor, Saturday community academies, etc. We need to continue to improve and make education a celebration #tlap
A6: I think we celebrate them by continuing to cultivate them as long as we can, in ways that are appropriate and genuine. Relationships that are the deepest don't stop when graduation is over! #tlap
A6: Best way I've found is to attend their events: sports, art, music,and club events. By watching the Ss do what they love or are into, it goes a long way with them and with the parents too.Pic below is w/my softball pitcher at a summer game. She rocks. #tlap
A6: We embrace all moments! If the moment screams for dancing we dance. If someone says they are in the mood for waffles then we make them! Go with the vibe... don’t feel like everything must be planned to perfection or you will miss the ride of a lifetime! #tlap#TalkToMe
6) These were game changers. As risks were taken, they were acknowledged and celebrated with a Brag Tag. As tags were worn, conversations occurred explaining why, inspiring another risk by another person...and another...and another #tlap
#TLAP Parents- coffee house night, invitations to field trips and class activities Students- 1-minute check ins, staying in the power zone not behind my desk, sitting & talking with them. Also after-school clubs is a great way to meet new & stay in contact w/former Ss
A4) we have administrators @bradrobb@MrDomagalski who give feedback that matters. It is real, authentic and guides us. It is positive and meant to matter and build us up not defeat us. I feel like my hard work is noticed and appreciated. That motivates me. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3 kind words, notes, texts to coworkers and parents! I continue to look to encourage them in an effort to bring them onboard the positive/productive train! It’s not about my feelings; it’s about being our best for Ss! #tlap#TalkToMe#champforkids
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I do compliment cards with my students! They love shouting out others that they see doing good work, and they really love recognizing others. It definitely builds meaningful relationships in our class! #tlap
A6: In my Biomedical Science class, we celebrated the end of the year with a big breakfast. We invited other teachers, admins, even our school resource officer! We had a huge feast! #TLAP
A6) Celebration is the best trait thus far. With students & staff, you celebrate the big gains and the small, personal connection and growth through challenge. Students bring exponential meaning to your work and staff become true friends. #tlap
Q6: always celebrate birthdays, but at our weekly meetings everyone shares how they are, successes& challenges, always make time to help, support others when they need it, team retreat in the mountains, value others ideas #tlap
Organized a grade level team appreciation week. Each teacher was a secret "passion patron" for another teacher. (Passion=theme of the yr). Notes, surprises, and gifts secretly delivered all week long. Culminated at an end of week breakfast where all members were honored. #TLAP
A6a: I also had my daughter draw these feeling tiles, and we put them into the ceiling in our Leadership Lab. That way when there's a conflict either in a story or in real life during our skills time, we can practice emotional literacy to communicate thru issues and grow. #tlap
We started the year with “everyone has a story” and I shared my “This I Believe” statement with Staff and then encouraged them to write one and share out at Staff meetings. The goal was to remember we all have a story and then to transfer that reminder to every student. #tlap
A6: I do compliment cards with my students! They love shouting out others that they see doing good work, and they really love recognizing others. It definitely builds meaningful relationships in our class! #TLAP
Q6. You spend quality with them outside of school hours such as attending events they are participating in and asking them questions to get to know them better. #TLAP
A6: I think it’s so important to recognize the importance of building strong relationships with others! We celebrate growth & success together! We’re one big family! #tlap#TalkToMe
A6: I used to avoid friend requests from parents on FB. Now I am flattered and gladly accept their requests! It means I care about their family and they get to see a glimpse into my family and other non-principal aspects of my life. #TLAP
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There are million ways to build and celebrate relationships! It isn't important how you do it, the important thing is that you do it!
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"Building relationships & rapport with kids is the heart of teaching." -@burgessdave ✨ #TalkToMe#TLAP
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6: Show them you care about their personal loves. All questions and really listen, go to their extra curriculars, talk to them about them. Ask about coworkers families, hang out. #TLAP
A6: I make it a point to ask them about their extra curricular activities! I attend as many events as I can to show them I care about what is important to them! #ElonEd#MED523#tlap#talktome#iceskating
A6: Be genuine and real. See students, colleagues, etc. as real people and let them see you as one, too. Take time to pause and celebrate the awesome things happening whenever possible—there is so much to celebrate if you take the time to notice. #tlap
#5) communication is so much more than just verbal. #TLAP My friend, @BrianMendler made me this poster to honor a challenge I presented to my teachers daily.
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There are million ways to build and celebrate relationships! It isn't important how you do it, the important thing is that you do it!
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"Building relationships & rapport with kids is the heart of teaching." -@burgessdave ✨ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A6: Celebrate by spending time outside of the classroom together and supporting their interests: Reading books together, being a band-fan, going to parties and Disneyland together, or practicing for Facutly vs. Seniors game at Dave & Buster’s. I have SO much fun! #TLAP#TalkToMe
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I intentionally seek relationships with those who have walked a different path. I also read works written by those who have a different perspective, and I constantly strive to understand through meaningful, loving dialogue with others. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6: Remind one another of our why. This wonderfully funny crew had just spent two hours playing with students after-school. They teach school and work in our after-school program each year! #tlap
be totally real and be willing to be their go to when they need something from day one, they open up--listen with empathy, support them, highlight positives, engage
#tlap
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6. We clap and hug, we cheer, we have formal celebrations and informal-You-deserve-a-special-lunch - celebrations. There are whole group, small group, and individual celebrations all year.
#tlap#talktome
A6 spend time getting to know them, engaging Ss in diff events to share their work, welcoming families in, keeping connected and share the work being done by Ss and also of peers #tlap
A7-Asking them to share more about it! Ss love to talk about themselves. When you seek to understand a student, they feel that & it builds a bond! They know they are valued, seen & part of a bigger community. #tlap#TalkToMe
I intentionally seek relationships with those who have walked a different path. I also read works written by those who have a different perspective, and I constantly strive to understand through meaningful, loving dialogue with others. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7. Try to bring out what they want to share through projects. Let them choose something they care about/connects to them and create videos, songs, etc. Going back to A6, CELEBRATE their uniqueness! #tlap
A6 Recently got to celebrate learning at @JayBilly2 school! Every day is a celebration. That school has All The Feels!
Just coming to school is a celebration! We even greet kiddos in silly hats when they get off the bus! #tlap#TalkToMe
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A6: My Ss, their families, our community partners, & I all celebrated the culmination of a school years worth of hands on biology lessons & environmental PBL data collection on a field study trip. Getting out of school & learning together! Nothing beats that experience! #tlap
A7: That goes back to the relationships you build with your Ss. Giving each student time to regularly share about their lives outside of school enables you to see more into their lives, but also helps other Ss to develop empathy for those who are different from them. #TLAP
That's a key point, Rachael. When team members experience challenges, develop a plan to address them, and experience victories as a result of their collective work, it strengthens the bonds of the team and builds team capacity to handle the next challenge @rcollins_edu#tlap
A6: We’ve done lunch bunch celebrations, popcorn/movie parties for end of quarter growth, sweet treat celebrating success of goals met. Pretty much, find the opportunity to celebrate & always get Ss input into how we should celebrate- that’s key for motivation! #TLAP
A6 Everyday is a celebration. From what my students learn, to personal goals teaches, to new things tried. It’s the little things that matter! Taking time to cultivate relationships and experiences matters! #talktome#tlap
A7: home visits! You get to meet the student and their family in their comfortable space. Knowing who they are outside of school is extremely important #TLAP
A4 Everyone wants to feel recognized & validated for their efforts. Strive to find what might otherwise be unacknowledged or overlooked & make a positive impact. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6 I'm also very active in the community with my hockey team. We actually just played in an event to raise cancer monies called the @11DayPowerPlay#tlap
A7: Depending on the specifics, I ask the kid, either in a whole class discussion or privately, what their family thinks of this event or situation. Gotta remember, though, they don't speak for their *entire* nationality, culture, religion, or whatever. #tlap
A7: We share a lot in our room, especially around breaks, holidays, long weekends. I love hearing about the home lives, traditions and celebrations of my students. #TLAP
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6 Throw parties, play music, have fun, laugh, share stories, work hard, celebrate learning, celebrate weird holidays. Take time to enjoy stuff. Put relationships first. #tlap
A7: I read a lot about differences to help me gain a better understanding, but definitely finding ways to immerse yourself in differences and asking questions about it out of curiosity and interest. #TLAP
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7 boils down to one thing building relationships, greeting people, find out their story be genuine with them at show them that you care, be willing to listen #TLAP
A7: We work in a very diverse environment. Students and teachers appreciate when we ask questions and listen to the responses. We let the kids teach us their story. We need to set aside preconceived bias and hear the story directly. #tlap
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A6 Just be willing to have a good time in front of Ss. Life is too short to not have fun! This was our End of the year Blindfold Musical Chairs- Proud 2018 Winner (student rounds were held after) Such a great way to end the year! #tlap
A6 Recently got to celebrate learning at @JayBilly2 school! Every day is a celebration. That school has All The Feels!
Just coming to school is a celebration! We even greet kiddos in silly hats when they get off the bus! #tlap#TalkToMe
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A7: Ask the Ss - my middle school Ss are willing to talk to me about anything racial or religious if I am genuinely interested and have built the relationship prior to the question asking. Otherwise, it comes off as insincere. #tlap
A7) Spend time getting to know your students. Find out what they like and why. Go to their events. Show them that you value what they have to say. Learn to do something they value. INVEST in their lives. #tlap
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hiiii Teacher Friends! I'm Kelly Decker and I teach 2nd grade. I am going back and forth getting stuff together to leave for our RCA trip in 1 more day! WOO HOO! That's how I'm feeling! EEK! Congrats @kimbearden on your book release! #tlap#talktome
A7 Listen to your students and watch their interactions.
Learn about them through their words and information. Be present and willing to learn from them. #talktome#tlap
A7. This one is HUGE! We must seek to learn the cultural norms of our students so we can understand the WHY of what they do. Simple example is that in Spanish many words are not capitalized as they are in English. Will the #ell lose points for that? 🤔 #tlap#talktome
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7. I have learned to ask questions. How do you want me to refer to your race, culture, heritage? We have conversations about perspectives - how does an economically poor person see this situation v. a wealthy person? TALK to them!!!!
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A7: Giving students a variety of ways to tell me their story is very helpful. Draw, speak, write, rap, video, etc. find their strengths! Allow them to shine the brightest they possibly can! #TLAP
A7 love connecting with students during recess duty to build on relationships and better understand them. To build that trust we mustn’t forget to open up, ourselves, too. #tlap
A7 in some of the activ/projects we do or through blogging, ask Ss to share /create an About Me, and definitely make time to have conversations, so much to learn from one another #tlap
A7: I specifically remember a few years ago we did a bus tour on one of our PD days. We got on school buses that took us around the neighborhoods of the kids in our boundary. It was eye-opening to a lot of us. It’s something I’ll never forget. #tlap
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap Talk to them. I share my story of Dyslexia and growing up bullied and living in England for two years. I ask them about them in our 1-minute check ins- I build a rapport week one & a natural, organic energy begins to flow, the more I talk to them the more I get enlightened
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7: I think there’s great value in providing Ss a platform to share their voice! When we open the dialogue, tremendous learning, understanding, & growth can occur! #tlap#TalkToMe
A7: I love that, and also try to do the same. I try to ask questions to get to know kids and how they have developed into who they are today. They always think I'm nosy at first, but eventually they realize I'm genuinely interested in getting to know them. :). #tlap
A7. It is better to understand than to be understood. I make an attempt to learn greetings if they speak a different language...they often chuckle at my bungles, but so greatly appreciate the effort. Ask about a custom or experience. Smile-the universal language! #tlap#TalkToMe
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7: It's good to find out what they're into, watch the shows they watch, read the books they read, ask, ask, ask, and listen, listen, listen, and listen. #tlap
A7 Ive always been comfortable talking, sharing and asking my kids about culture and their lives. Creating an open dialogue of learning means we need to be open to learning bout our ss. #tlap
A7 - Bag of Life. It showcases each individual student and their culture, likes and family. We do this the 1st week of school. Takes time, but always one of the best, most important lessons of the year. #TLAP
A7: Make sure to invite families in to share their culture and their experiences. We have such a diverse population and we all become better when we understand where people are coming from #tlap
A7: As #SparksInTheDark says, adults should be reading books w/characters that are NOT like us & be sure to have lots of children’s lit that represents ppl of diff races, religions, and backgrounds. Also, with a large # of ELLs in my school, I want to learn more Spanish! #TLAP
A7: Best strategy is to ask them. I find that when you use words like "Tell me more" or "Help us understand that better" then Ss will jump in and tell you everything you want to know.
If they seem private or cautious, just make sure to not ask them publicly. #tlap#talktome
Hey #tlap hope to see you Thursday at 9pm ET for #waledchat! Summer days are drifting away, so let's spend some time reflecting on rest and our Ss for next year!
A7: Volunteer in the community your students live in, get involved and be supportive. Seeing where your kids are coming from helps to understand them. I am also a fan of the home visit. My kids school does a yearly home visit for every student, the kids ♥️ it #tlap
A7 We learned how to say hello in many different languages, most belonging to the languages my students knew. They felt proud when others would greet them in their language. #tlap
A7: Coming from a diverse cultural background myself, I share my story. I ask questions & encourage them to share their stories, traditions, perspectives with us. I do “research” to be more aware so I can respect the cultural differences as well as celebrate similarities #TLAP
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7 Allow them to share their REAL story without trying to share ours as a comparison. No two humans are the same or have the same strengths, experiences, etc.--so we really shouldn't compare. Just let them be REAL, while we model our REALness, too. #tlap#TalkToMe
7) @burgessdave reminds us all to jump in and swim. In my case I LOVED going to the park every Friday and just jumping on the swings in their neighborhood. I earned street cred. by hitting the streets #TLAP
A7) Within Social Studies Curriculum for US History I want to further illuminate my student's background in the historical voices we study. Ex. cross curricular unit with ELA, my ELA colleague added Mendez v Westminster case to our unit to accompany Brown v. Board of Ed. #tlap
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7 I learn so much from my kids when I have lunch with them, go@to their extra curricular and important events (baptisms, etc.). As they got older they invited me to their mission send offs and weddings😊#TLAP#TalkToMe
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A7. Embrace and experience different cultures and attend events held in your area. Read about them as well. Have a day where the kids share with you something that they love about their cultures. #tlap
A7: Build relationships. Get to know your students and families. Invite them to come into the classroom and share things from their cultures. Our school has a Passport Night once a year that allows families to create a booth and share things about their cultures. #tlap#LULearns
How might educators seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you do? #TLAP#TalkToMe
We don't know about the struggles others have gone through in their life. I remind myself that they might have a bigger mountain to climb right now. Instead of getting frustrated...I think to myself what can I do to HELP?! What do they NEED? It's not about me. #TalkToMe#tlap
A6: we do team celebrations every month for my team students and recognize rock star students, rock out some team builders and showcase some awesome things students are doing in class. #tlap
A6: One of my favorite events to take part in was our year end "awards" celebration. We invited all parents to an event and we celebrated each S by telling a story about them. Ps and Ss loved it. As said it was the best P event in the history of the school. #tlap#talktome
I refuse to accept that #tlap is already over for tonight... I need something to look forward to! Thank you @kimbearden for leading the way tonight! Your book should be in my mailbox Thursday! WOO HOO!
A7. I like Ss from the different cultures to talk about their different backgrounds from holidays, to foods, countries, whatever information they'd like to share with all Ss in learning. Sharing culture and diversity is important in learning! #tlap
A7: Giving students a variety of ways to tell me their story is very helpful. Draw, speak, write, rap, video, etc. find their strengths! Allow them to shine the brightest they possibly can! #TLAP
A7 It is important to get to know them, have home visits, read, and immerse yourself in their culture as much as possible. It also extremely important as an administrator to work hard and hire people who reflect your students. #TLAP
@kimbearden thank you so much for hosting the chat tonight!! I’ve learned so much and met many awesome educators! Come paycheck time I’m grabbing my copy or #TalkToMe#tlap
A7
FIND A CONNECTION!
We aren't as different as our differences appear.
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"Humans are about connecting. The most important thing a teacher can do is build relationships." ~ @mrmatera ✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP#XPLAP
A7: Asking questions about their lives and interests, while also sharing about myself and family. I know a ton more about fishing and hunting culture than I did 15 years ago! #TLAP
A7b: Also do a passion page on my S blogs. They are to cultivate videos, pictures, and information on what they like. The purpose is to teach me about what their passions are. #tlap
A7: Become the student... let them teach you! Build it from the ground up starting on day 1. Create the opportunity and make it meaningful. Allow for your Ss voice to shine through. #tlap#TalkToMe
