#TLAP is a weekly chat for educators who embrace author, keynote speaker, and moderator David Burgess' approach of teaching like a pirate. Burgess is author of Teach Like A PIRATE: Increase Student Engagement, Boost Your Creativity, and Transform Your Life as an Educator and co-author of P is for PIRATE: Inspirational ABC’s for Educators.
✨☠️Hi Crew! I'm Kimberly from NE, and I teach 7th grade ELA. I Iove Monday nights when I get to spend time with you! #TLAP is always on fire with amazing educators and hot convos! Looking forward to @kimbearden steering the ship tonight! Let's do this! 🔥☠️✨#TalkToMe#TLAP
Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
The book teaches 6 principles for effective communication, and it is designed to equip you with ways to better interact with coworkers, students, and parents. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Thank you all! @PaulSolarz Thank you for a book that inspires so many of us! I've said it before, but it was a true game changer for me! #tlap#learnlap
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Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hey #tlap! This is Michael A. from #122edchat in Chicago. I am an award-winning #STEM Facilitator for @SmartLab_tweets from @Simmonsknights1. Excited for the conversation, trying to beat the heat and humidity.
Hey!! Glad to see all of you in #tlap tonight with the amazing @kimbearden leading us. Let's talk about effective communication principles!! This topic is based on her new book, #TalkToMe which is out TODAY!!! https://t.co/mk4l6qpFky#LeadLAP
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Hello, I am Tika Epstein, and I am an elementary school teacher & mentor in Las Vegas, NV. I can’t wait for my copy of Talk to Me to be delivered this week! #TLAP
Hi, everyone! I am Kim Bearden, the cofounder & ex dir of the Ron Clark Academy. I also teach ELA. My 2nd book, Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done was released today! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hi everyone! Jeanneen from Wisconsin and I teach K-8 Technology...we are finally getting into the swing of things and readjusting to having a baby in the house after 6 years! #tlap
I always try to consider that everyone has a story, and we have no idea what others are struggling to overcome. I realize that I will never know what it is to walk in another’s shoes, and this mindset guides my approach. #TLAP#TalkToMe
Jenni - I’m a principal of a small private school in south Louisiana! I heard Kim speak last year in Atlanta so I’m excited about tonight and her book! #tlap
A1 Identifying who I am speaking about/to, the identified struggle or area of weakness, and also pointing out the good because it’s not just negative. #talktome#tlap
A1: Where are they coming from? Where have they been? We have to understand what makes someone tick & what has influenced their live to be in a position to help them. #tlap#talktome
A1 - I always take into account that this parent is sending me their very best. With a coworker, Inoffen think that they just need some TLC, training, modeling, help. No is a lost cause. #TLAP
A1. I have to consider the whole student. Not just what they show in my class, but who they are outside of school, what's going on in their lives, their interestes, their passions, their struggles. We don't talk to a person, but a life. #tlap
A1 If it is a difficult situation, I like to give the other person time to calm down (student or adult) then empathize and LISTEN before saying anything. Most times they just want you to hear their side #tlap
A1 I always think about how I would like to receive the message. Then think about how they might perceive it and try to be considerate of their feelings. #TLAP
A1: What matters to me may not matter to them. How does the world look from their eyes? How can adopting their perspective help us both to meet our goals? #TLAP
A1 - It always starts with listening and relationships. Getting to know your students is key. Then, it’s about showing empathy and a positive attitude. We should consider each situation as unique and adjust based on that student. #TLAP
A1: You always have to be cautious, especially when speaking to children. People will forget what you said but people will NEVER FORGET how you made them FEEL! Always be open and honest and make sure families know you are available to chat! 👍🏼 #TLAP
A1- remind myself not to take anything personally. Ask them how they are doing, do they need anything I can help with. Everyone has a struggle or burden we don't know about. Take time. #tlap#talktome
Hey, y’all! I’m Ashley from Baltimore (by way of ECU.. looking at you @mrronclark_ ) a 6th grade math teacher at an all boy charter school in Baltimore City, MD! #tlap
A1) I want to know what communication style they are most comfortable with. Can I use humor, should I be quieter/calmer, should I be extra positive and upbeat. This matters.
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A1: The source of the struggle...we must be able to empathize with what someone else is feeling before being able to fix the issue. LISTEN to their concerns, find the root of the issue, and take action to rectify if possible! #TLAP
A1: I think the biggest thing to consider is their background (where they are coming from, their lives outside of school, what is their previous interaction with the school like) #tlap
A1 Realize that no one WANTS to be unsuccessful. Listen to their side, and always give the person a lifeline to pull themselves up. Some people just don't know how to get out of the hole they are in. Be their rope and light. #tlap
A1: perspective taking has been a personal area of professional growth. It helps me to perceive motivations + understandings and respond appropriately. #TLAP#talktome
A1: The most important factor for me is the relationship & trust I’ve built with them. I always try to see things from their perspective & do more listening than talking. I’ve found that sometimes they just need someone to listen & help guide them. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 - perspectives and situations are important to take into consideration. Some people are struggling bc of a specific situation that may be causing stress, often has NOTHING to do with you! Also must think about other people’s perspectives! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to remember that you never know what is going on in someone’s life. Treat them with kindness and empathy, show grace, you never know how your kindness can lift another up. #TLAP
A1 I try to rely on the relationship I have w/ them (hopefully I have one as that’s the goal), really listen and be intentional w/ the conversation, and I try to remember to “V.A.B.B.” #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to find out as much as I can... what’s their background or are they going through something personally. I approach the conversation with an open mind, willing to listen and support, and express my intent to come up w/ a solution together! #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 Do we understand the things that happened before Ss get on the bus? Is there a reason why Ss act out? Take time to invest if we want Ss to give us their best! #TLAP
A1 what is there state of mind what does their body language say, what kind of a relationship do I have with them. I must be a good listener first and foremost, have compassion and be genuine #TLAP
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Student - stop, find out about them, give some extra attention.
Parent - stop, acknowledge their frustration, and explain. Sometimes not ALL or correct info. went home.
Colleague - stop, try and see their side and problem solve together.
A1: What’s my purpose, the why behind the conversation. What perspective might they have? How can I make sure the conversation is as positive as possible? #tlap
A1: I consider that there are many factors (to the struggle of someone else) that I don’t know about. I try to ask non-invasive questions to gain a deeper understanding of who they are and how they are affected by a situation. #TLAP#TalkToMe
#TLAP The why? Is the struggle academic, emotional, social. The how? How can I best address the sittwith mindfulness & calm. Words are my ally-I pause & listen-this is my best strategy then when I fully understand the needs of my student -I can actively guide them to a solution
#tlap Anyone who is struggling does not want to struggle. We all want to be successful. Always assume good will, interest, and desire.
What are the obstacles? How can I remove or help you avoid obstacles to your success?
I use empathy & think how can I “clear the path” for this person. What do they need from me? What resources can I provide to support them? Starbucks helps too #TLAP
A1: When it comes to staff, I try not to think the worst. Sometimes it’s a case of didn’t know instead of refusing to do something. I give lots of feedback and support in any way I can. #tlap
A1 I’ve learned that I need to speak concisely. Not use idioms, etc. Sometimes a misunderstood reference can make a conversation take negative turn. #learnedthehardway#tlap#talktome
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Love this @alicekeeler quote:
"You're not going to get that light bulb moment talking at kids, you're going to get that light bulb moment talking with kids."
This doesn't only apply to kids, but the same goes when communicating with parents and colleagues too! #TalkToMe#TLAP
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A1. Where am I coming from in this interaction? Am I in a good state of mind? Am I down to listen to understand? Did I have my coffee?
A1: Not everything is always what it appears to be when one is struggling. I work really hard to listen intently and validate feelings. One may not be looking for a solution just a listening ear. #TLAP
Things to consider: lol past the illusion and see what’s really going on. Students behavior typically is not related to me or the assignment or the class. Listen and share with empathy. Find middle ground #TLAP#talktome@kimbearden
A1 What type of relationship is there? Have we been friends or colleagues for a while and focus on empathy, understand where theyBre coming from. #Tlap#talktome
A1: When talking to students, I remember that they are someone else's little boy or little girl. I need to treat them with honor. When speaking to other adults, I need to remember that like me, they make mistakes, and are on a journey to greatness. #tlap
I always try to consider that everyone has a story, and we have no idea what others are struggling to overcome. I realize that I will never know what it is to walk in another’s shoes, and this mindset guides my approach. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 Taking time to hear their side of the story.
Listen to Learn is one of the REAL Talk Treasures I love. Also, leading with Humble Inquiry. No judgement. #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 try to make sure I know them and have an understanding about their struggle, lean in and listen first, really listen intentionally, try help focus on small parts first and then work through it #tlap
Patrick Shipway, MN, tech intergrationist, science teacher and trying to to this while walking with my wife... A1: I try to put myself in their shoes, see through their lens, what wouldn't I like in this situation if I was them? #tlap
A1 When you take the time to get to know a child and their family, you can engage with your heart and show the parents that you truly care about their child and not just about academics. Their child becomes my child for life! #tlap
A1. I'm usually the most patient with parents first because they have the most power in encouraging students to be openminded with my message. Least patient with colleagues but getting better. I just feel like we all have the same education here, but remind myself that #tlap
A1 I want to think of the situation through their lense. I also want to think about their needs. Do they need advice, a person to listen, or choices? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I try to think what I would want/need to hear if I was the student or the parent. I also take into consideration what will have the greatest impact. Some kids gma has a huge role in that kids life. Another it might be a coach. Who is their person? #tlap
I try to listen to them in the moment...what's happening right now....how does the now effect their past story...and where they are going...#TalkToMe#TLAP
Love this! I also try to remember that this is their prize position that they giving me and I need to treat each situation with that sensitivity in mind! #tlap#LULearns
A1: What is their story? What does their walk look like and how do I fit into it? Can I walk beside them and listen? Can I take the lead and extend a helping handq? #RelationshipsMatter#tlap
A1: I try not to define my Ss as struggling. I approach each by attempting to get to the root that is causing the problem by communicating. I try to help them devise a plan to address the problem. #tlap
A1: It's so important to really know and respect the other person's position. Listen with empathy and make sure not to be defensive. Be reflective and sensitive so that when it's time, you can be heard too #tlap
A1: What is the main focus that needs to be addressed, what positive can I include, how would I want someone to say this to my own child or to me? Is this the best time, setting, mode of sharing information? #TLAP
A1. I consider what is going on underneath the surface that may be causing the confusion or undesired behavior. I also consider my timing and my way of communicating. The right thing to do at the wrong time or in the wrong way is the wrong thing to do. #tlap
A1: We never know as educators what others have faced. What have their previous school experiences been like? You never know someone until you have walked in their shoes. #tlap
A1: Background...we are only together for a portion of the day/week and everyone's life outside of school is different. LISTEN! Everyone wants to feel heard, especially when discussing a difficult topic. #TLAP
A1 try to make sure I know them and have an understanding about their struggle, lean in and listen first, really listen intentionally, try help focus on small parts first and then work through it #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 - What is their perceptions of the situation? Is this a necessary issue or something of a nit picking nature? Is there a way that I can share and help and reteach rather than confronting them? #tlap
A1: Listen, listen, listen. Often that’s what teenagers need from me. To be “heard” them and truly understood. Also striving to understand the motivation behind what they are saying. Whether I agree with it or not, it’s important to them so i need to listen ! #tlap#talktome
A1: I like to stay as calm as possible and listen intently. I like to share all the positives I can and talk about all the things I am going to do to help! #tlap#lulearns
A1) Consider that every individual has varied perspectives based on their experiences. Those experiences are not often outwardly shown so give all parties a bit of time to process/reflect before response. Be cautious & empathetic. #tlap
A1: I always remember that all parents are advocating for their students. They may do it differently, but they want the best for them. #kidsdeserveit#TLAP
I try to do extravagant acts of kindness without telling anyone in order to keep my motives in a pure and unselfish place. When I am struggling with interacting, I assess my motives and try to reframe my mindset. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: Always good to know where they are coming from, but even if that isn't possible, I can make sure that I am listening and restating and asking for clarification. I do what it takes to make sure we're on the same page. #tlap
A1- I struggle with Dyslexia #TLAP and so I understand what it feels like to be confused and disconnected and yes discouraged- so my first approach is positive reinforcement and listening this way they feel comfortable talking to me
A2: Learning from mistakes and when life goes down. Find the positive in it, even when you feel that you are on empty and build from ground up again. #tlap#TalktoMe
A1: It is definitely important to know the person that you’re communicating with. Take caution to your words and how you approach the conversation. Professionalism is key, especially when addressing parents #TLAP
A1: I try to picture myself in their place and let them talk first. I know it's not comfortable for some parents to discuss the difficulties their child may be facing, so I always offer solutions or help even if that means that I will give up my personal time. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: When talking to students, I remember that they are someone else's little boy or little girl. I need to treat them with honor. When speaking to other adults, I need to remember that like me, they make mistakes, and are on a journey to greatness. #tlap
A1: Perspective- What might appear 1 way to me might appear completely opposite to the other person, & as we know, the “reality” usually lies between the 2. Authenticity I think is important too- not giving responses just bc they are expected or to make the convo easier. #TLAP
A2. When we keep the best interest of the student at the center of every conversation, knowing that is the common goal, it helps make it easier to stay positive.
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A1: I once received this parenting advice, "Don't ask Q's you already know the answer to" because you set your kid up to lie. As a T in a full inclusion setting, I have to find ways to build Ss confidence. Have supring levels of vision. #tlap
A1 Never take things to personal and remember everyone has things going on and you are someone that can make things better or worse for them, choose better! #TLAP # talktome
A1: Don’t assume I know how they feel. Never presume I have the answer to solve their concern or problem. Offering support and that I am there to help is a good start. Let them know I am here to help and listen if needed. #tlap
A2) Always stay positive. Remember that what you are hearing for the seventy-fifth time may be the first time for someone else. Take cheer in other peoples growth. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: I strive to be investigative but not interrogative. I strive to listen and maintain open body language. I consider the length of my relationship w/ the person, how we can do things differently next time & let them know I’m available to help however possible. #tlap#talktome
Give. Give. Give. Show curiosity, learn about people, and figure out what they want. Then give it to them without giving up your boundaries at the same time. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 Stop and listen when others are giving their input, encourage open and honest relationships, and be intentional in conversations and actions. #talktome#tlap
A2: Remember to try to stay positive yourself because you’ll draw in what you give out. Don’t let small things build up. Address things as they come up and don’t let them linger. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1. Perspectives, situations are extremely important to take into consideration when communicating with someone. You never know what someone is going through unless your walking in their shoes. Trust is a main factor! #tlap
A2- Always assume the BEST in people. Remember you have impact to make a negative a positive with a smile & friendly tone! Be aware of your body language & tone of voice! #tlap#TALKTOME
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Reminding myself that by focusing on the positive motivators, we ALL get better. We're all in this to make everyone better, so the negative motivators should be pushed away hard! #tlap
A2 have an open door and an open mind, model positive behavior, make people feel appreciated, valuable and important. Make school engaging, fun, kind, and mindful for all. BE SUPPORTIVE #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1) First, I ask myself if I’ve tried everythig I can think of with the student directly. Second, I rethink the situation putting one my own children in the role of the student. #tlap
A1: Listen, listen, listen. Often that’s what teenagers need from me. To be “heard” them and truly understood. Also striving to understand the motivation behind what they are saying. Whether I agree with it or not, it’s important to them so i need to listen ! #tlap#talktome
A2: Leave your ego at home. As a leader, my job is to build others up, not myself. When you are focused on the right things, the positive motivators come. #tlap
A2: Word choice. The words we choose can be POWERFUL. Always assume positive intentions and make sure your facial expressions match the words you are exclaiming. #TLAP
A2 My biggest way is definitely relying on surrounding myself w/ the right people that help me keep that focus. Being real and kind. The 7 Habits and a focus on relationships have also helped w/ this and being such a huge piece of culture. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Here is a tip that has worked for me. If a colleague breaks a norm, search for a GOOD reason for them to have transgressed. For instance, if they are snarky with a colleague, they may have a negative situation at home. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Remember that it’s not just about you. Communicating requires listening and not just speaking. When having a tough convo, remember that we’re all in this together! #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: For P's, put yourself in their shoes. If this was my kid... This was much easier for me once I became a parent. For T's and S's, just be real & embrace your emotional intelligence. #TLAP
A2: Good question! Self reflection is key. Oftentimes we say things without thinking of where those thoughts are coming from. Negative motivators often come from being insecure. Lean into that trust you have with your colleagues to keep each other in check. #TLAP#talktome
A2. To stay positive in communication, you've got to check yourself!
Why am I saying the things I'm saying? Are they helpful? Are they true? Am I ready and willing to learn from this person? #tlap#talktome
Surround yourself with positive people because you become like the 5 people you're around the most. Great people will keep you focused on positive motivation #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: When we focus on solutions and creating a positive outcome and look at growth then we make others understand our motivation and they will be receptive #tlap
A2: Remember- as the leader, it’s NOT about you! It’s about building capacity & growing other leaders! Leave your ego at the door & list others up. Always do more listening than talking & don’t feel like you have to solve all the problems! #TLAP
A1: Find the joy in simple moments and shine the light on other’s accomplishments. Show a true interest in others and remind them in unique ways just how special they are! #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Motivations start with the heart. Connect with the heart. I have found any struggle has an emotional seed that when identified changes the whole perspective. #tlap
#TLAP Mindfulness-awareness of the needs & personalities of others. Facial expressions and body language have such an impact on those around us. Keep a calm demeanor, positive tone and smile. When we truly find joy in teaching it shows & this keeps the atmosphere cheerful 😀
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Keeping the big picture goal in mind, especially when working on the same team or organization. We need to operate collaboratively rather than competitively. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: My class once a month has #TBhThursday “to be honest Thursday” they may write a letter to anyone in the school encouraging them. Ex. “To be honest you are an amazing principal” #TLAP
A2: Remember your overall goal- student success! Positive motivators help us reach our goals of creating independent and strategic lifelong learners! #tlap#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: That they probably want to be heard, students especially. That may fall under validation, but the past couple of years, I've made a cognizant effort to focus on actively listening first, and it has helped. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 - I personally promise to be positive. Yes, certain situations can be tough. But, if we separate the person from the issue, things usually work out. Learning to smile and stay calm will always put people at ease. #TLAP
A1: When communicating w/ a struggling S, a parent or co-worker, I think about the S as though they were my own child, myself as a S or my sibling, and a parent or co-worker as though they were myself. How would I want to be viewed or communicated with? #TLAP#TalkToMe
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Remember to be compassionate and just listen. Sometimes people just need to get their feelings out in the open, so let them! Have an open mind, be optimistic, and give them the chance to be heard! ☠️✨ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A2 Find the positive even if it simply means learning and growing from the negative. Find those who have positive outlooks so you can push one another. #tlap
A2: remembering that I’m dealing and working with people and they respond better to honey than vinegar. And if it has to be vinegar at least make it apple cider vinegar #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Intentionally focus on positive interactions with others! When we approach with the right motivations, we are open to learning from others & working together towards a common goal! #tlap#TalkToMe
A2: My class once a month has #TBhThursday “to be honest Thursday” they may write a letter to anyone in the school encouraging them. Ex. “To be honest you are an amazing principal” we then hand deliver them! #TLAP
A2) Ways to focus on the positive motivators with students: "Make them shine in ways they don't know they shine." -Fellow teacher in a twitter chat. Loved this, so I noted it. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 - Smiling helps. I remind myself to smile as I stand outside my classroom, if I am listen to a student, if I am walking down the hall. Some days it is hard, but when I remember it helps to maintain and propagate a positive motivation in my daily interactions. #tlap
A2: You hbe to know them on a personal level- not only what are their cademic strengths & weaknesses but what do they enjoy? What inspires them? What do they do outside of school? When you have a true connection, then you can motivate. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Word choice. The words we choose can be POWERFUL. Always assume positive intentions and make sure your facial expressions match the words you are exclaiming. #TLAP
A2: I try to stay positive in all situations. Being a good role model for others is important as well. I always try to treat others like I want them to treat me! #ElonEd#talktome#tlap
A2 surround yourself with positivity. Remember to lead with the heart. Truly listen to others without the intent to respond or fix anything. Build on those relationships. #tlap
A2 I have a pause and a breath where I rephrase the questioning to bring about a more positive light. Often, ss and ts and ps all have damaged relationships with each other. Quickly, conflict will disappear if we ask What does success look like? #tlap
A1. Some of the factors I take into consideration are how tough it is for them to talk about this (probably again), remain open, nonjudgmental, empathetic and paraphrase what they are saying to verify understanding. #tlap#TalkToMe
A1 When communicating w/struggling Ss, parents or coworkers, determine areas with which you can relate & empathize in a given situation. Give them a chance to speak uninterrupted. Listen to really hear what’s being said & not just to respond. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 Constantly remind ourselves to focus on the positives. We may be the only light that shines in our Ss lives so don’t blow it out being negative! #TLAP
A2: Focus on what to do, rather than what not to do. Reinforce the idea that we're all on the same team & working together to be the best we can be. I try to use "we" vs "I" or "you" as much as possible. Build and maintain a positive culture as that in itself is motivating #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 I always think about the relationship. I think about a positive story or event I have shared with the person. I also always try to remember the 5 to 1 rule: 5 positives to every redirect or negative. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2b: Surround yourself with the positive. It’s important for us to recognize that we (educators) are in this together—to build each other up. There’s no room for negativity in our profession. Who has time for that? #TLAP#talktome#tmgenius
A2: celebrate the small things! This is especially true with students. Noticing and celebrating small things can instantly change someone’s day. It’s all in the detail and it lets them know that you’re paying attention! #TLAP#TalkToMe
#TLAP Sometimes it’s easy to want to “teach kids a lesson” when they mess up. How about taking the positive mindset of “helping” them avoid making the same mistake in the future.
Our tone of this communication is huge.
A2: If you want to live fully and love your work with others, you have to focus on positives. Being positive isn’t really about others...it’s about you. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: Carry a smile, be a good listener, be a problem solver...remember misery loves company and that is company I prefer not to keep. Ask if help is needed. If not, just let the person know you are there if needed, just ask. #tlap
A2: Never assume the motivations of another and don't always see what they say as negative. Let people's words just be and don't add your own meaning. Take them for their word and they will take you for yours. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 #TLAP Set mindful intentions- repeat them throughout the day- focus on them- even in times of frustration & doubt- repeat aloud the intentions- always respond not react-this keeps the energy positive & productive and more importantly contagious-calm is contagious
A2: Try to remember that the negative motivators really aren't going to improve a situation. And accepting that people have different experiences and perspectives. #tlap
A2: Great rule of thumb is to assume positive intentions, work at bonding with responses, and truth is always the best. Unless they ask how their hair looks, and it looks bad, but they are proud of the new do. #tlap
A2 As a staff our goal is to support kids! As long as we share that goal, how can we help but have positive interactions! #kidsdeserveit surround yourselves with positive people! #tlap
A2: The motivator should always be to come to some positive consensus, and NEVER to be to attack or tear someone down. We have to speak with grace, even when we're tempted to speak with rage. Maybe especially then. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. There is always a positive that can come out of every situation. Always search for the positive and work to create a positive outcome. Give people the benefit of the doubt and know that everyone wants to be their best. #tlap
A2: I stay focused on the big picture and goal, which is to see my students succeed and be happy. When you lead with that, all interactions can stay focused on positives. #TLAP#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: I try to check myself: Am I being kind in the interaction? I know that I'm a conflict avoider so if I sense that a conversation isn't going well, I will stop or change the topic (which is something I need to work on!) #TLAP
A2 Sharing the truth and being prepared to hear the truth, being solution oriented is a HUGE way to stay focused on effective communication! I often listen and jot down concerns and then attempt to get the team brainstorming solutions! #tlap#TalkToMe#champforkids
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: It's important to realize not everyone comes from the same background. Some people have faced traumatic difficulties in their lives that others cannot fathom. People have to take a step back and give others a chance, realizing they may have good intentions as well. #tlap
I host a Mothers’ Night Out to thank my amazing mamas. We have volunteers from the business community who serve them a delicious dinner. We have music, inspirational messages, a photographer, and more! It is a beautiful night of bonding! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Try to be positive, ignore the naysayers and the negative people! If there is someone playing a Jekyl and Hyde character, they will get caught in the end! Don't let their negative culture bring you down! #tlap
A2: As I heard @docspeaks say at #NPC18 - you must stay on the balcony. Always. Don’t let them take you to the basement! Keep a positive outlook, smile, and keep on smiling. Acknowledge others’ feelings but spin it toward the ➕ #TLAP
I think through my communication by asking what impact will I make rather than outcomes. My impact must be long term and always in the best interest of those I’m serving. Relationships must be the motivator in every situation! #tlap#talktome
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. I remember that I am not going to solve everyone's problems, but if I can do my part to take myself out of the equation and let Ss know that they matter, then that is a good day's work. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1 Try to first put yourself in their shoes, what if you had a bad day, was up late arguing with their kids, or working two jobs and still short for paying bills. Then you can talk to them, listen, understand and problem solve better. #tlap
A3. I love finding things of interest to them and simply sharing what I found with them. Kids love to know I am thinking of them at random times & care enough to share a photo, song, magazine, book, article, etc.
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There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Sometimes we overthink the little things. A simple, genuine thank you can go a long, long way. Genuinely noticing what others are doing is powerful. #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: One way I motivate myself to be positive with others is to stay calm and cool: “Vanilla Ice Cube” Style: chickity check myself first. Then, if you’ve gotta problem, yo, I’ll solve it. (My other answer is: finding the silly side of things.) #TLAP#TalkToMe#MashUpAnswer
Simply saying "I appreciate you" goes so far! Also leaving little happy notes or something meaningful to the person directly. If I know you like Reese's, I will bring you Reese's, etc. #tlap
A3: I take time to go tell them how much I liked what they did or said. I try to focus on stuff they did on behalf of me or our mutual students, even if it doesn't clearly benefit me. I try (but don't always succeed) to put my own ego out of the picture. #tlap
A1. Reyna from NY jumping in a few minutes late. I find the best way to effectively communicate is first to give space for them to express their feelings and perspective. Then, collaborate with them on possible solutions to come up with a plan to solve the problem. #TLAP
A3 I like sending hand-written notes/treat. If I do this when I feel unappreciated, it completely changes my mood and I'm grateful for the people in my life. I'm not perfect but this helps! #tlap
A3 I have decided that the joy I get from helping and adding a positive vibe is enough. If I’m not appreciated I think that maybe a little positivity could help chip away at whatever is making things so negative. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3 Show up & be intentional in your words, actions, and relationships. Be positive and proactive. Engage and be encouraged by the others that share your community with you. Compliment & be real. #talktome#tlap
Gratitude journal
thank them for anything that they do for me/kindness/etc
Drop in bucket, positive calls home, colleagues--send email with cc to principal
live with attitude of graditude
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How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2: I try and stay focused on who I am and what is important to me. I also try to always do by best and when I fail, I try to do better. This helps to keep me positively motivated. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Tell the truth. Look them in eye and tell them SPECIFICALLY why I appreciate them. Build them up with kind words. To the haters, I find their good and speak it over them. If they want it, it is there for the taking. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. Best way to show appreciation to folks you interact with:
Spend time with them.
Listen to them.
Remember what they talked about.
Ask them about it later, genuinely.
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A3: I always give my students and coworkers hand written notes of appreciation. It takes little time to thank someone for their hard work or for going out of their way for someone else. #TLAP
A3: I think I need to get better at this...but we send positive post cards home to students, fun positive affirmations to colleagues, I’ll send a quick email or note home to parents. Just not enough. It needs to be a daily goal for me. #TLAP#talktome
A3: Simply saying "I appreciate you" goes so far! Also leaving little happy notes or something meaningful to the person directly. If I know you like Reese's, I will bring you Reese's, etc. #tlap
A3: Make a positive phone call or send a note sharing your appreciation. I keep my special notes in a Smile File for those days where the seas are rough and I need a little wind in my sails! #tlap#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2. Remain a calm & empathetic, reframe what is being said with a focus on the positive, & make every attempt to not "go down the rabbit hole" or the "dark forest" with them. Goal is to be their anchor. #tlap#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
Hey #Tlap peeps! I’m super late, but still wanted to drop in for a few! I’m Eryka, teach HS ESL and I’m interested in making my class more student-centered and #innovative by getting my Ss involved in the #community and hopefully experimenting w/ #entrepreneurship.
A3 be kind be supportive be respectful be honest be honerable be Upstanding. Give praise I write two notes a day to staff. Get out andrhank people and ask how they are call home for positive things send out positive referrals #TLAP
Non verbals definitely speak louder than words. How do you prevent yourself from making negative faces or body language when you don't like something but need to maintain a positive environment? #tlap#lulearns
A3: For students, I like to make positive phone calls to parents. Parents are always so surprised to get a good call from the principal and the kids love getting to brag about their accomplishments. #tlap
A3. Even when I struggle with feeling appreciated, I try to remember that the Ss being there is them giving me the chance to reach them, even if I don't always succeed. Them giving me chance after chance is their version of patience and I keep hoping I hit the right note. #tlap
A3 - I am terrible at presents and letters, but I am great at trying to give honest praise and remembering to make students feel special. I students to remember me like Ron Swanson - If he says something, he means it. #tlap
A3: As a leader you can do so much to show appreciation for what others do, but the most simple is the most effective -- just be there for others. Show them you value them and their work. The simple things can have huge impacts. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. I am sincere in my interactions, and when they do something awesome or show improvement, I make sure to praise them. I like to show off their work, whether it is a student or a coworker. When a parent helps me, I make sure that others are aware of their wonderfulness. #tlap
Q3 (part 1) Compliments go a long way, any chance you can get; in person, on social media, through another colleague.
(part 2) Two wrongs do not make a right, so give people compliments, even if it doesn't get returned #modeling#highroad#tlap
A2: I try to remove my ego from the equation. It's not about me. My job is to serve others, so start with kindness, maintain relationships, and be honest. I don't always succeed though.#TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3a: I try to write or verbally give specific affirmations.
A3b: I’m a sentimental person 🙈, so I keep all the nice notes I’ve ever been given and sometimes I just pull them out and they’re a good reminder of why I do what I do. A burst of encouragement. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Write them notes, tell them thank you, give them shoutouts, treats, coffee time mornings, a hug or pat on the back, whatever I feel they seem to need. #tlap
A3: I make sure that my positivity shows through and that everyone know how much I appreciate their work by shouting them out on SM and by thanking them F2F. When I feel unappreciated, I go back to my why! It's not about me #tlap
A3 A short handwritten note goes a long way to make someone feel appreciated. Remember your why even when you feel like no one notices all you do. It’s not about recognition! #tlap
Sometimes, people don't realize how much they appreciate you until later. You may not even be in their lives anymore. We just have to have faith that we are being the best we can be. Right?:) #TLAP
A2: Stay curious. Focus on the joy and the good. Choose kindness. Question hurtful thoughts and turn them around (love using @ByronKatie's the work for this—read more here about using it with students here: https://t.co/OxP7HmxcKR ) #tlap
A3- you show them they have value when you create amazing experiences for them they will never forget, Teach & show them they matter! Boys & Girls event @CaldwellElemen inspires by @kimbearden#tlap#TALKTOME
A3: I started doing a pre-summer survey for teachers. Two of the questions - What do you like to receive as a treat? And what can I do for you? I use that intel ALL year! #tlap#talktome
A3: keep smiling. Keep serving. Model appreciation for all acts of kindness, big and small. Give of your time, talents, resources. Say yes whenever possible. #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3:I love to build anyone I know up with specific compliments.I also love to share "little happys"with my Ss like special treats,extra game time,etc.With Ps I always acknowledge the wonderful job they're doing and how hard parenting is If I feel slighted,I rembr my why #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3 Random acts of kindness will help to build specific relationships. No matter the circumstance, find positives in every child, every teacher, every day! #TLAP
#TLAP Just before the bell, beginning of class period- I greet them with enthusiasm and I say “I am excited to learn with you today” & at the end of class “thank you for learning with me today. “ it is a daily thing- sets a mindful energy
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3) State focused on the most important thing: The STUDENTS!
Look for the positives in small moments when necessary. Find their love language and reach out. #tlap
A3 - Positivity above all other things is transformational for school. If we stay upbeat and always remember that kids deserve it we can change our class and school. #TLAP
#tlap 1 day, in the winter, I took time at end of class to tell each S what their unique contribution was to the class. How proud I was of their specific growth. In front of all the whole class. First time I did that. I will do this every year going forward.
A3 Really focuses on this last year. Best way I found was to offer opportunities or Ts to appreciate one another. Compliment cards, staff shoutouts, thankful cards, etc. These were big hits. #tlap
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I love to send home handwritten notes or E-Mail’s to parents thanking them for their support! Even those who don’t communicate as much DESERVE your support as well. The students know I appreciate them from my passion in the classroom each and every day! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I head straight to social media! Everyone wants to feel “famous”/appreciated every once in a while. Photos or work are easy things to post. A simple thank you goes a long way as well. #TLAP
I love the phrase "you made my day" whether it's the person who runs the computer lab who fixed a tech issues, or a student who shared where she sees physics in her life. Doesn't need to be a big thing. #tlap
A2: Being competitive/jealous of others does NOT make us better. It is NOT a good motivator bc although our results may be decent, intentions of getting there were lousy. We have to be practical, realize everyone has something good to offer, and collaborate respectfully. #tlap
A3: First of all, leadership of any kind, is about service to others. And the best types of leadership are the ones without an “official” title. Appreciation is shown when you keep showing up and keep your commitments to those you’re serving. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Our students are rewarded often and periodically for good behavior and excellence academic scores. Our teachers are usually rewarded with “jean day” 😂 or an hour lunch. Our parents are usually invited to our school and are treated to free breakfast or lunch. #TLAP
A3 I ❤️ to leave sticky notes with a little note for my peers and admin. I make sure to call parents for even the smallest thing for Ss who have had a tough time in previous years. I ❤️having lunch with my Ss to hear about what is going on outside of school. #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A1: when talking to with/about struggling students I try to focus my conversation with a STRENGHTS/Compliment first and then to be CLEAR (no jargo) and KIND about the concern #TalktoMe#tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Sincere thank you’s go a long way. Make sure you acknowledge the things that people do. Tell them f2f, write thank you cards, give shout outs at meetings. I still have the thank you’s my former principal @KevinCa28581019 gave me. It’s a big deal! #tlap
A3: Be specific in what you appreciate about them and their actions. Be real and remember why you are doing what you are doing it. I have to remind myself that much of what I do is not necessarily expected, but what I want to do to make the world better. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
Haters are so hard for me to deal with, but I'd rather hear their truth though than to wonder what they think. Typically my brain creates a worse version of the situation than the actual situation. #tlap
A3: Lots of positive reinforcements in the form of notes or pictures to share successes! I try to always remember what is best for the student no matter how much EXTRA it might involve! Their smile or aha moment is enough appreciation! #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
#tlap A1 today in training @UNCGMSPS we talked about different people's personality traits. I came up super strong on the blue-caring spectrum. It made me think about how we all come with traits which influence how we interact w each other. #ElonEd#MED523
A3b: When I don’t feel appreciated? I can be pretty hard on myself...but it doesn’t cause me to appreciate anyone else less. I try to think about what the other person might be dealing with and know lack of appreciation shown isn’t necessarily intentional. #TLAP#talktome
A3. I try to make it habit to give status checks once a week with parents. When I worked with my dd kiddos, they produced their own picture based newspaper that said what each student was doing during a week. If like to do something similar for my hs ss this year. #tlap
A3: I remember that an appreciated person is always willing to do more!! I love giving notes of encouragement & thanks! I think it’s important to recognize the efforts of others even if it’s not returned! Always do what’s right! #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I tend show my appreciation through actions. I show you I love you by being reliable and helpful. This is a problem sometimes because words matter too. I have stated to send random appreciative texts to my team and individual colleagues when I think of them. #tlap
A3: Take the time to notice the hard work, the improvements, and the effort. Verbally thank others often for their input and contributions. Little handwritten notes of appreciation and food. Food is big. #TLAP
A3: We have class reward parties, we do silent cheers for great ideas and actions. I send all parents thank you notes for coming to conferences. When I don't feel appreicated, I do some mindfulness exercises and focus on the good & positive. #tlap
It is one of those things that people remember. I was in Union Station in DC once waiting for a train. I got on any my seat partner was tickled that she was sitting next to me because she saw me smiling while I was getting on. I was just excited to be traveling. #tlap
Love that! Each teacher in our school fills out a survey sheet with favorites that we keep in the office so all stakeholders can surprise others with acts of kindness here and there! Such a joy to see a surprise in our mailbox from our favorite's list! #tlap#TalkToMe
A3: I am a big believer in thank you cards and positive notes! I say thank you for everything and tried to leave positive notes for students, parents, and staff each week even if I am not receiving anything back! #tlap#lulearns
A3 Tell them! I find a simple "Thank you" and You rock!" go a long way! I try to be extra nice and kind to others, even the ones who do not reciprocate. We don't know other people's struggles #tlap
A3: I make sure to always say thank you and tell them how much their gesture means to me. I smile and say something positive to each student every day! #ElonEd#tlap
A3: I bring my A GAME every day... I do not take one day of their learning or my time with them for granted. That is one thing that every child and parent alike knows about me... they have my heart, my time, my everything. All in! #tlap#TalkToMe
A3. I absolutely love showing people I appreciate them...it can be a simple thank you, to a card, to a gift, a public acknowledgement, or a simple hug. I consider myself to be a Chief Encouragement Officer (CEO) and appreciation is the easiest way to do that! #tlap#talktome
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3a: I try to write or verbally give specific affirmations.
A3b: I’m a sentimental person 🙈, so I keep all the nice notes I’ve ever been given and sometimes I just pull them out and they’re a good reminder of why I do what I do. A burst of encouragement. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
You always hear Ts say, don’t smile until Christmas. I always try to smile and make kids laugh all the time. Spread some joy, make school a happy place #tlap
A3: The more you know your people, the easier it is to know their "love language". So, relationships are key! If I don't feel appreciated, that's when I have to do some self reflection as to why I do what I do. It's not about me. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Quick notes of appreciation, positive social media posts, a short & specific "thank you" in person, emails & thank you cards. Keep it genuine. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Part 1: I write each of my students personalized letters at the end of the school year and make them personalized holiday ornaments as well. I celebrate their accomplishments and process that encompasses both successes and "failures". #tlap
A3: I love to record positive videos for kids and parents. I always send out a thank you email to parents after conferences and send out our positive videos to kids talking about all the awesome things they are doing. #tlap
A3: Saying “thank you” sounds simple but it’s so important & too often forgotten. I also make the #goodnewscalloftheday for Ss & Staff. They love this& parents have cried with joy to hear something positive their child has done- big or little! I love to write cards, too. #TLAP
A3: personal time! Building and strengthening relationships through face to face connections...there’s nothing greater to show appreciation than being heard and being told directly the impact you’re making! #TLAP
We have served our staff breakfast, lunch, and dinners. We have taken them bowling and provided other special treats like massages and special mindfulness activities throughout the year. We celebrate our kids all the time but need to do a better job serving parents. #TLAP
I end the day by telling kids, "Thank you for choosing to be here today." They always look at me, astonished, but it is a choice, honestly. And the next day, when they come back again, they hear me say, "I am glad you are here!" #tlap
A3 I try to make things fun by recognizing staff w/prizes, food, and of course dress down days. :) I don’t get bogged down in thinking if Im getting appreciated enough. That’s not why I do what I do. It’s not about me, it’s about the kids. A happy staff makes for happy kids #tlap
A3 #TLAP The most meaningful appreciation is consistent, mindful interactions. Greeting, smiling, intently listening, being respectful and through positive interactions helping reinforce a positive school culture. Squashing negativity with a positive spirit- lots of smiles
Yes, Yes, YES! Random acts of kindness are so very important! And they don't have to cost a thing! Total morale booster! #tlap#talktome#passionforkindness
A2. Remember that everyone has strengths. When you mirror the positive aspects in others and elevate their positivite actions, it strengths relationships which is the biggest motivator of all! #tlap#TalkToMe
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TTY NOW...NOT TTYL!
Show others that you appreciate them by giving them your time! It's that simple! It isn't about the things, it's about the relationships! Stop when you're doing, drop what you're doing, and give them your time NOW!
✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A2: It can be aided by focusing on the issue at hand (vs the communicator) & questioning if we are being influenced by a preceding bias or history w/ the person- asking ourselves would our understanding & response be the same w/ someone else. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: It's important to celebrate and recognize those who do the work and put in the effort. I shout them out on the loud speaker, in meetings, and whenever I can. Your school can't be great until you talk about your school and staff as great #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3) Perhaps I’m not good at that. I shake their hands, and publicly praise when it’s appropriate. Something must work. I’ve had enough find me in their weakest moments for support. That’s how I l know I’m appreciated. #tlap
A3b: Every Friday is Free-Write Fri-YAY!! The students get a handwritten response from me to their free-write on their desk every Monday morning! It’s a SUPER way to MOTIVATE writers and BUILD RELATIONSHIPS! #TLAP#TalkToMe@kimbearden
A2: It can be aided by focusing on the issue at hand (vs the communicator) & questioning if we are being influenced by a preceding bias or history w/ the person- asking ourselves would our understanding & response be the same w/ someone else. #TLAP
A3 This is one of my favorite parts of my job as a principal. I love doing random appreciations for staff as well as the predictable ones, Good News Call of the Day, assemblies, etc. Parents are an area I need to work to improve #TLAP
A1: Try to start by showing them I understand their struggle. After I try to bring the S to find solutions to give him ownership or offer specific help to P or coworker instead of asking how I can help. Otherwise asking them to come up w/ solution doubles their work! #tlap
A3c - I try to concern myself with students. If they appreciate my positivity and kindness, most other stuff is easily dealt with. Even if a student doesn’t appreciate me, I try to help them and maintain the good attitude. #TLAP
A3: Part 2: I would love to learn (more) about what some of my co-workers do and celebrate their creativity as well as their innovative mindset. I love how my teaching partner was the first to incorporate escape rooms. I love how she took a huge step a few years ago. #tlap
I feel validated when students write me notes or emails thanking me for a lesson they enjoyed. It lets me know that they see that I am working hard to make learning meaningful and engaging #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: I not only tell them but more importantly show them. It’s the small things, genuine kind gestures that go a LONG way. People will always remember how you made them feel, so make it positive! I remain positive by knowing what’s in my heart & that my intentions are good #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I have to fall back on the Golden Rule: Do to the other guy what you would want done to you if you were in their shoes...I always have to think about this before I say something when I'm feeling negative. Reminds me that it's not all about me. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Say thanks and show thanks. Let them know that I see them and they matter. Greet them when passing, ask how they are doing, and REALLY listen to their replies. Offer support. #tlap
A3. If you aren't feeling appreciated, I guarantee you there are others in your building feeling the same way. Go out of your way to recognize others and say thanks and you'll forget pretty quickly the way you were feeling! #tlap#talktome
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
I printed out positive note paper and write each students name on a sheet. Every day I send 1-2 positive notes home to parents. This keeps me accountable for sending one about each student at least once a month and keeps the positivity in my classroom! #tlap#lulearns
A3: First of all, leadership of any kind, is about service to others. And the best types of leadership are the ones without an “official” title. Appreciation is shown when you keep showing up and keep your commitments to those you’re serving. #tlap
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: When I call parents for Positive Office Refereals, I like to make sure I tell them how special their kid is, thank them for teaching them respect at home and that I’m so blessed they are at our school. #tlap
A3) This past school year I did a mid year and end of the year survey. A "teacher report card" of sorts, if you want to call it that. My intent was to show appreciation of student voice and their input on my practice and planning. #tlap
A2: Motives are either Self or Others. Why am I doing/asking/requiring/
disciplining? A3: Appreciations - Create momentous memories: My BDay I serve them lunch "every" yr. #tlap
#tlap A3 Even the smallest gestures deserve a ty. When a child brings you a tattered teddy bear...it may be their most treasured possession. #ElonEd#MED523
A4. I feel most validated when Ss quietly tell me that they learned something or loved a lesson or just thank me for the year. Handwritten notes at the end of the year are my favorites examples. #tlap
A3: Via email, hand-written note, or in-person chat, I acknowledge their contribution to the solution. Next year, I will invite coworkers to go for free with me to the San Diego Zoo as a gesture of appreciation. #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: Part 3: My parents... I think it's important how I ask them to tell me about their sons or daughters at the beginning of the school year. I contact them regularly and always do my best to tell them about their kids' positive attributes. #tlap
A3: It can bring you down a little when you feel your interactions are misunderstood/not appreciated. However, at the end it's not about you. It's about all of us working together as a unit. I don't need a badge of honor for every single good thing I do for my peeps. #TLAP
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4 I feel validated when my peers and our staff and students tell me I have done a good job or tell me they appreciate me. I also feel validated when they ask for my opinion #TLAP
A3: Face to face compliments, expressions of thanks, phone calls, and verbal praise are effective - even more than an electronic message. Handwritten notes and posting amazing work products are visual displays of praise. I am always happier to give than to receive! #tlap
A4: I’ve had many times this year when I’ve spent hours on something, lost sleep, just been exhausted...@me1odystacy@kim_laughlin know I appreciate Words of Affirmation and will stop to tell me I’m appreciated and valued. Know the Love Language of others around you. #TLAP
A4: I try and always follow through on what I say I am going to do and give it my best. My hard work and my word is how I show appreciation with my own children, my Ss, coworkers, Ps, friends and family. #TLAP#TalkToMe
How do you show appreciation to your students, coworkers, or parents? How do you remain appreciative when you don’t feel like they appreciate you? #TLAP#TalkToMe
The greatest validation I have ever received has always been from students. To see them create actions for change...to make a difference for others—well there’s no words to describe that. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Attention to detail, checking in with specific questions about what's going on in your world, true appreciation shared for work on a project... these are small ways to make hearts soar! #tlap#talktome
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: "I'm sorry you don't feel like I pay attention to what's happening in your class. I should do better. It's just that I trust you and know you're doing wht's best for kids." #tlap
A4- specific praise for legit hard work! Don’t fluff my feathers I don’t need it! @bmilla84 is amazing at leaving notes with specific praise for me! She is a strong encourager! #tlap#TALKTOME
A3: I write a negative sandwich down. 1 thing that frustrates me about said person, then something good, then something frustrating. Then rewrite the good thing and burn (rip up if you're not a chemist) the old one to let the frustrating ones go away. Give them the 2nd one. #tlap
#tlap *DISCLAIMER* As a Stats teacher, I have to say that there is no such thing as a "random" act of kindness. No coin was flipped, no random number generator was used. The acts are deliberately calculated and chosen, although surprising to the recipient.
Ok, rant over.
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: Graduation. When I watch my Ss walk across the stage w/ their diploma I know that our time together in HS was worth every minute. That's when I know our work is complete. #tlap#talktome
A4: @Flood1Tracy and @dsimpsonsimmons were specific in their compliments. Instead of giving a dismissive, "Nice," I heard exactly how I had helped make their lives a little easier. When we are specific with our praise, we are more likely to have repeat performances. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3. Welcoming Ss, P, T in, smile, sharing what Ss are working on, thank them for coming, listen to their stories, share stories! Remind myself who your doing it for, the Ss! #tlap
A4. I have had the most generous human beings as my students. They have sent emails, written me letters, hug me, and use beautiful words. I try to do the same for them. Everyone should feel like someone cares and is willing to show it! #tlap#talktome
A4: When students and parents come back to thank you and when they talk about you outside of school in a positive way then I feel validated. Here is one blog that validates what we do: https://t.co/QIAwhBslxR#tlap
A4: I feel validated when a parent or student recognizes my efforts both inside and outside the classroom to encourage student success. As a parent, I try to send text messages, emails, and notes to my children’s Ts when I see them going above and beyond. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: when I won employee of the year this school year. It was voted on by the entire staff. I can help others feel validated by honoring them in word and deed. Cover a duty or write a quick thank you letter #tlap
A4 We have PRIDE write ups that the staff fills out for Ss. Our principal comes in and announces the recipients each Friday... one day one was announced for me that a Student wrote up. Was great validation! It started a new trend too. #tlap
When I combined classes with other teachers/job coaches and they looked at me as a leader and were very receptive to my ideas. Acknowledging ideas/effort before shooting things down, and learning to brainstorm and combine instead of choosing only one idea. #tlap
A4 - It was unexpectedly being asked to do more by my superior. I just wanted to do a good job and I got more opportunity. I think the same applies to our students. If teachers reward students for their good work with more opportunities rather a gold star, change happens. #tlap
A3: when I host a PD I always provide coffee, water & snacks & when possible provide a special lunch, a quality guest speaker like @alicekeeler & of course #dbc books. When I don’t feel appreciated, I smile & do my best to model professionalism #TLAP
A4: we can take risks on people....follow their dreams with them and allow them to fly or fail. Either way you’re on a learning journey together so there’s no way to lose!! #TLAP
A3) I’ve never felt I wasn’t their teacher just because the bell rang that ended class. Similarly, even if you’re not on my roster- I still think I’m your teacher. I hope they know it’s because I value them enough to stop engaging with that relationship with them. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4a: When I have former Ss come see me, write to me, or send me a message; that’s pretty validating!
A4b: We can validate others by supporting them and advocating for them. #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
That takes a LOT of courage, Rachel. I know I have done that in the past and it was with a ton of trepidation. Need to take a deep breath and do it!! #tlap
A3: I think another thing is how at the end of the school year, I put together a 45-minute slideshow of memories and photos and do quite a bit for my Tech Club students by coming up with an amazing overnight trip as well as a competition where they showcase their talents. #tlap
A3b: This past year for Thanksgiving week. I hand wrote a thank you to each staff member. It was restorative for my heart to reflect on the good in each of them. #tlap
Q4: A parent came to visit the last day of school. She came to tearfully thank me for the progress her son had demonstrated throughout the year. It brought tears to my eyes. #tlap#talktome
When people see the work and content behind our room transformations. Yes they are big and fun but more importantly they are rigorous and require student cooperation and higher thinking. #tlap
A4: I received a very sweet letter from a P on the last day of school. It was very heartfelt & reflective. It gave me such validation & reaffirmed me belief in what I’m doing. We need to take moments to let others know we believe in them & their work! #TLAP#TalkToMe
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A2 It takes a concerted effort to focus on positives, esp if it hasn’t been habit. It’s easy to focus on negativity, & social media makes this harder b/c we tend to only see snapshots of “perfect” lives. We must keep perspective & find our marigolds to support us. #TLAP#TalkToMe
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: In all seriousness, when someone verbalizes their validation, it means so much to me. I'd rather that be one-on-one than in a group though. Validation in groups makes me uncomfortable. If I'm doing something right, tell me. I will want to keep doing it. #tlap
A3 I have my staff fill out a survey with their favorite soft drink and candy bar and keep a stash so that I can give them a cold one or a treat to say thanks or as a pick me up. #TLAP
A4: I feel validated when my principal or district RTs my students work. They are very busy people and to know they take the time and appreciate my students hard work is validation enough. Your students hard work is a reflection of you and how you teach. #TLAP
A4: It's kind of crazy how an email from a former student saying they appreciated me or still think about our class can keep me floating for weeks. #tlap
A4 For me it was simply verbal praise or validation from people I respect. I try to be very intentional about being impeccable with my word because words are so powerful. I try to be intentional and consistent w/ recognition and praise #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: I feel validated when parents or students send notes or emails thanking me for something I have done. Words of affirmation go a long way for both students and teachers. #tlap#LULearns
A3: Show appreciation by including (teachers, parents, students) in the excitement of learning! Our outcomes improve when we include all stakeholders #tlap
A2: Once problem is defined, focus on solutions rather than let the problem look bigger than it is by going on and on about it. However, must remain positive in word choice and nonjudgmental: so how can we change the situation...? NOT don’t do that anymore... #TLAP
There are positive and negative motivators behind our everyday interactions. What are some ways to keep focus on the positive motivators while communicating with others? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: To me the strongest factor in validating is truly listening and engaging in what matters to others. To sit on your own thoughts and allow that moment to be gifted. That moment of full attention and meaningful eye to eye contact is priceless! #tlap#TalkToMe
I like a mix of both! Sometimes my acts of kindness are very deliberate and other times they just happen in the moment! It’s a happy mix of joy either way! #tlap
A4. When someone uses your work in their classroom, it is the nicest feeling. I love it when people want to incorporate one of my ideas. I always try to tell the person whose idea I am using. It is nice to know that you have been helpful. #TLAP
A4 Ways we make our team members feel validated is by recognizing them with specificity, finding out if they like to be recognized publicly or privately, and how they like to be recognized. Shows that we value their contribution to the team & remembered their preference #tlap
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A4: The best validations for me are those that specifically state what actions I took that made a difference. Anyone can say "You're great". It's better to say the reasons why. #tlap
A4:When I became principal, I got a hand written letter from a student that made me cry. She wrote abt the monthly read alouds I do in classrooms & the special lunches we had- w/ music of course! All in everyday for my Ss & school & the kids know it! #tlap#talktome
A3. A true act of kindness is done when nothing is expected in return. By spreading kindness two people benefit, the one receiving & the one giving it! Appreciate the gift you’ve given yourself. Face to face compliments is my personal favorite way to show appreciation! #tlap
A4 So this happened today. A teacher was working in her room & came by the office to talk. She said she wanted to give me a hug. She was excited about where our school was headed & wanted to thank me. That felt pretty good. A great reminder for me to do the same for others. #TLAP
A4: I got a written message from a kid that was clearly not perfunctory or one she had sent to just any old teacher. The kid had had a terrible semester that included testifying in court in a molestation case. I didn't think I did anything special...:) #tlap
A4: Working with Ss is the validation everyday in teaching. Seeing Ss sense of accomplishment, and letting hem own their own learning is a great validation too. #TLAP
A4 Agreed. Validation does go far, but people need to be careful, because actions speak louder than words. I'm not a fan of people who validate your thoughts and say you have great ideas, but then do the complete opposite, like they didn't even listen. #PetPeeve#tlap
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We all feel validated when someone truly listens to us, especially when they L.I.S.T.E.N. 👇✨☠️ #TalkToMe#TLAP
A4: Appreciation is about you. Validation is about them. To validate, you have to know what they are passionately striving for and acknowledge, understand and celebrate it systematically. #tlap
A4 I feel validated when colleagues or members of my PLN say “tell me more about...”. When people notice the good that I’ve done or the risks I’ve taken, it fills my soul and grows the fire within me to keep going! #tlap
I was chosen as beginning teacher of the year at the first high school I taught at. I was selected by the administration and my peers. That year was my hardest year of teaching by far and it was beyond awesome to be validated by those around me #tlap
The word validation comes from Latin, the root word also is used for:
I am healthy, I am strong, I am worthy
Take that into consideration when building others up -- you're making them feel healthy, strong, worthy.
#tlap#talktome
A4: I have been lucky this year with many positive moments of feeling validated and appreciated. This wasn't always my work experience and having had the opportunity to move into a positive culture situation is what propels me to make sure others feel the same way. #TLAP
Think about a time you felt validated for the work you do. What happened that made you feel this way? How can we make others feel this way? #TLAP#TalkToMe
A3: SAY~ THANK YOU for specific reasons and SAY I appreciate ___ I show appreciation: Ts ➡️Random Act of Kindness (notes/gifts/emails) Ss ➡️ brag 📝 , + office referrals, 1:1 conference, ☎️ 🏠 Ps ➡️ ☎️ 🏠, thank you letter, notes, newsletter #TalkToMe#tlap
A4: I felt validated when my sensational scientists from last year came in on a Saturday to celebrate science and review our standards from over the course of the year. I love how my school let me make this a possibility-- and how they had faith in me. #tlap
A4: Relationships with students (when they thank you for being there every day), with teachers (when you just have dinner together and share life both schools and personal), and parents (when you go over our conference time just talking about what’s new with them) #tlap
