#educoach Archive
The #educoach hashtag is used by instructional coaches around the world. We chat each Wednesday at 8pm CST on Twitter and use the hashtag throughout the week to share resources, ask questions and collaborate with instructional coaches.
Wednesday February 10, 2016
Hi Chris in Melbourne, Australia. Just here for a bit this week - got to teach in 30 mins!
Laura =Receiving effective feedback
Kris from Nebraska. Success story--making it through the week of PT Conferences!
Hi friends! I am an Cory. A coach from Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. A success..enrolling two teachers new to our district and school
Jim Knight, in Buda, Texas tonight and I've made some progress writing my next book, The Impact Cycle.
I'm Kathy one of the co-moderators of . was signing book contract w/ w/ &
I'm Kathy one of the co-moderators of . was signing book contract w/ w/ &
Charlie Folsom - HS instructional coach in Waukee,IA. Success this week: continuing to find my coaching style
Hi friends! I am Cory. A coach from Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. A success..enrolling two teachers new to our district and school
I'm Amy, from San Diego. I've been able to visit over 25 classrooms in the last week or so!
Mikki in NE. Success - Collaborating with other es like &
number 2 chatting with you and today! :)
Glad you can join us for a little bit. Has the school year gotten off to a good start in Australia?
Barb in Minnesota learning time at conference provided new, great ideas to pursue
Lauren, K-5 Instructional Coach, Indiana. My is having Ts thank me for helping them to take risks in instruction w/ Ss.
Tracy from Hays CISD in Texas. Digital Learning Coach. I helped several virtual school Ss get their grade up to passing this week
Kim from Kalispell, MT. My is helping a long-term sub launch writing workshop successfully and with confidence.
Welcome, Kris. I'm in Iowa.
What a compliment- risk-taking means you've built a trusting relationships- powerful!
congrats to you all! Very exciting and can't wait to hear more about it!
will hopefully be response from our school leaders to the 2nd 'Leader as Coach' session later today with
Hi! I'm Amy, 5th-6th grade literacy coach in Bentonville, AR
So glad you can join us tonight, Jim! Can't wait for the next book!
Hello tweeps! Tina from TN, success has been catching up on family time during the snow days
Busy girl and you are getting your exercise in for !
I need to learn to listen and stop talking 24/7... haha! Just can't help it! I <3 learning and my job
Shelley Burgess in San Diego. Win for this week. Presenting Lead Like a PIRATE workshop with in Texas.
Lorinda, facilitator & PLC coach, Indiana. guiding conversations around better conversation w/ principals
I am! I love the daily emails and feel great when I already have one of the habits mastered!
Can't sleep! Haha! I guess is calling my name tonight! :)
coming to tonight, just starting!?
is with us this week in Hays CISD. It was a great day of discussing the coaching cycle!
some teachers asking for more collaboration.
Welcome, Shelley! Long time no see! :)
Enjoyed my first book study of with my new coaching partner and fellow coach
Kevin, IC in Minnesota, my eduwin has been supporting a T who wants to make her class more student centered.
Hi Lorinda! Done any good reading lately?
Yes, thanks Kathy - 2nd week of new sch yr and feels like week 4!!!
I know!! Miss you! Thrilled to pop into tonight!
knows my loyalty to Iowa State basketball. Watching game out of one eye!
Hey you! Great to "see" you. Just sent a DM about our next walk!
Hello! Jennifer, from Louisville, KY- had 3 new invitations for coaching convos this week in my new school!
Dan from St. Louis. Business teacher. Me win was being one of a few in an interview pool.
You have a great group. Today was fun and I'm really looking forward to tomorrow.
Tonight we will be discussing ch 2-3 of newest book Better Conversations. We love having here with us!
Jessica from Tx. Eduwin is getting to chat on tonight. It's been a long time..
Not sure if I'm moderating solo. Haven't seen and know may be a little late.
Fantastic! Let me know if you'd like a copy of Learn Like a PIRATE for you/her. All about student-led classrooms
We know you can handle it!
We got this book today. Can't wait to read it!
Let’s get started. Chapter 2 introduces the 6 Beliefs to Better Conversations.
You will ROCK this, Kathy!
Jody from learning coach from Alberta, Canada. Success this week: supporting teachers in implementing PD they've recently had.
Q1 Belief #1: I see conversation partners as equals. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
Suzanne in Sherwood, AR. is meeting with district colleagues on Thursday.
My eduwin is planning synthesis writing with a 6th grade Tt and using Google Drive in our planning and data collection.
A1: True conversations involve equal parts listening & sharing, a collaborative dialogue where both parties learn & benefit.
A1: Both individuals walk away feeling valued and empowered from the conversation.
Curious! Also, thank you for your music recommendations. I Will, Up to the Mountain, Bill Evans Trio
A1: when this is honored it feels like all members in the conversation can and should contribute for a shared learning experience
Great word choice- valued & empowered! Everyone wants to feel those! https://t.co/5EwoDrT70k
A1: Both individuals walk away feeling valued and empowered from the conversation.
A1 when violated it feels top down and creates an atmosphere of distrust - when done right, liberating and empowering
A1: Collaborative conversations are a must. It's not about "fixing" teachers. It's about working together https://t.co/jCL3Tm5gct
A1: Negative: Looks/sounds top down, rushed, feels like there is no autonomy
I think when others treat us like equals, they see the good in us, affirm us, and that feels life-afirming
A1 A partners as equal convo feels safe. Both parties value each others thoughts. No hidden agendas.
A1 when others dominate rather than approach as = it is no longer a conversation. Its a lecture or a parent child dynamic.
A1: Positive: Feeling affirmed, and valued, that leadership is shared
A1: Seeing Convo Partners as Equals looks like positioning the T as a decision maker. Giving them the status they deserve.
Yes. ;( It can also feel like micromanagement & lack of trust.
A1 It's empowering not to mention engaging to realize that we are in this together.
A1: If violated we lose trust and put up barriers. We are not the only experts in the room!
A1: when this is violated, it feels like 1 person is trying to dominate the 'versation. Is more about power than shared interest
A1: authentically integrating others' ideas, regardless of role, demonstrates this; put one's opinion over another's does not
A1:top down conversations rarely impact practice; creates unsafe environment to admit struggles/concerns https://t.co/WGdqzPk9cA
Q1 Belief #1: I see conversation partners as equals. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
Just watching tonight because I'm making my toddler's Valentine's box <3
A1: Conversations partners who are equals walk away energized, passionat enad excited!
Yes, organizers are very helpful!
it's amazing how affirmation charges both individuals to make the conversation feel truly valued and appreciated
Well said! Our conversations shouldn't establish/reinforce a hierarchy. https://t.co/uTuLCcna7V
A1 when others dominate rather than approach as = it is no longer a conversation. Its a lecture or a parent child dynamic.
The top down approach puts the top in a position of knowing the answers - do you really?
A1: When this is violated there is resistance and negativity. When it is respected help is accepted with open arms.
I think vice-verca is true, too. When we treat others as equals, they also see the good in us. https://t.co/PceqVKo5F6
I think when others treat us like equals, they see the good in us, affirm us, and that feels life-afirming
No one should believe they know it all, especially alone!
Q2 Belief #2: I want to hear what others have to say. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A1 When conversational equality is violated it represents belief in power over the other & feels disempowering for the other
it also infects the culture. You can feel negative energy in that environment
A2: I see this as empowering Ts to set their own goals & request feedback on their work; also Ts having a voice in their learning.
A2: Honoring: Less talking, more active listening, goal comes from T https://t.co/QwHCdBHrVG
Q2 Belief #2: I want to hear what others have to say. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A2: Working w/ someone who violates Belief #2 feels infuriating, like you are untrustworthy or disrespected.
A1: Seeing Convo Partners as equals means that both people walk away feeling valued.
A2: Violating: talking ticks, interruptions, forcing, more talking, less listening
A1 a belief in equality in conversation = empowerment, uplift, learning, growth, energy, motivation, action
A1: creates a culture of compliance when one assumes they have all the answers or the right way & not all perspectives are valued
A2: not listening to respond, but to let others be heard
A2: you ask questions that reflect how you are listening. There is nothing more affirming than being in a reciprocal conversation
And no interrupting or giving unsolicited advice.
A1) Really believe you will learn from the person. Look for & share a next step in continuous improvement from the conversation.
A1 when people honor the belief that we are equal it's life-giving; when they violate it, it's life-sucking
Crazy that the image that pops up with Collaborative Conversation is the cannon ball :-I
A2: When people feel like you want to hear what they have to say, what they are passionate about emerges
A2 Belief 2 really supports that a coach doesn't need to have all the answers. Discovery conversations!
Sue, Richardson, TX - JH/HS Differentiation Specialist. My : finding exemplar small group instruction at 2 of my campuses
A2: This also helps with the nea-sayers in the coaching process, showing that even their hard opinions are heard
Can we get your thoughts? How can the debate between intuition & scientific evidence be had in a non-judgmental, equal manner?
So important. The "brainstorming" phase of a conversation is crucial. All ideas have merit
A2: Wanting to Hear what others have to say means the Coach views the convo as an opp. to learn and hear the T's experiences
Q2 When we interrupt it is mighty disrespectful, and unfortunately, I have a bad habit to work on this area
A2 I feel people know when you are listening to hear and it earns respect
A2- allows us to hear what is said as clearly as what is NOT; so often root of issue is in that "not" https://t.co/7TKyNQR4sO
Q2 Belief #2: I want to hear what others have to say. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A2 Listening builds a relationship that can be trusted and productive.
just noticed in my feed and this is the topic they are discussing!
A2: Feeling heard means Ts feel a part of the process and hopefully S learning is more effective
Great point Jim! Interrupting can cause damage in a relationship.
Q3 Belief #3: I believe people should have a lot of autonomy. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
Yes! As a coach and admin... I have learned SO much from my teachers. I'm better because of them!
A2: wait time and leaning-in show honoring; interruption or irrelevant/non-building responses demonstrate low desire to hear other
A3: The focus is on their choice goal (data-based) and what supports they feel they need https://t.co/a6xlVHlqsZ
Q3 Belief #3: I believe people should have a lot of autonomy. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
Important for us all to reflect on areas we can improve. https://t.co/G4XAGXqUo6
Q2 When we interrupt it is mighty disrespectful, and unfortunately, I have a bad habit to work on this area
Q3 Autonomy, in part, to me, means recognizing that professionals need to think for themselves.
I constantly work on this too. I love to contribute. Have to bite my tongue and concentrate on listening.
All learners (students or adults) deserve a voice & a choice in their learning. https://t.co/YmtlS70rPo
Q3 Autonomy, in part, to me, means recognizing that professionals need to think for themselves.
Greetings all! Greg- 2nd grade, MD. Hope all are well.
A3 Best way, hands down, I have found to support teacher autonomy is video goal setting!!!
Culture builder ... TOGETHER WE ARE BETTER! https://t.co/lqRiavNqLV
Yes! As a coach and admin... I have learned SO much from my teachers. I'm better because of them!
A3: Providing others with a voice and input, whereas top-down approach forces compliance not autonomy.
A2 The listener shows us that we are being heard in their body language, eye contact, empathetic responses, reflecting back, & Qus
A3: I feel that lack of autonomy is a #1 problem facing Ts
A3: violating the autonomy of teachers dampens their buy-in and confidence
A3 Autonomy builds interest, creativity, and introspection
That is sadly so true in many systems these days.
A3: Autonomy in a coaching rlshp means T has choices and makes decisions. Ts are rarely motivated by other's plans for them.
A3: the work of shows autonomy is necessary to motivation. Autonomy gives you control of your actions and purpose
A3: you notice an energy shift. T's become disengaged when not heard. We talk about student engagement. What about Ts' engagement?
So true. I don't want to learn what others tell me- I want to choose my own path for prof growth!
Q4 Belief #4: I don’t judge others. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A3: No one likes to be told what to do. Autonomy is so important. It makes people feel valued as professionals
I think that is born out of our intrinsic desire 2 help or fix things. Its harder 2 watch Ts construct their lrning
Yep and it's challenging to break through it at the district level https://t.co/0DRHCkwIDK
That is sadly so true in many systems these days.
Well said! Coaching convos should generate LOTS of ideas... up to the T to decide where to go next.
Well said! https://t.co/vxiz3dmsKg
A3: Autonomy in a coaching rlshp means T has choices and makes decisions. Ts are rarely motivated by other's plans for them.
A4: Coaching (or conversing) without judgment is an art-posing reflective questions that don't push people one way takes practice.
This describes(ed) me perfectly. As I have gotten better about pausing, I find I speak less as a
https://t.co/zBifvetW1W
Q2 When we interrupt it is mighty disrespectful, and unfortunately, I have a bad habit to work on this area
voice and choice is so important for Ts! Leads to more investment on their end and as a result, more growth.
A3: as coaches, building capacity is important, but very difficult without autonomy in conversations
A3 autonomy is critical for learners to work towards clear goals with choice in how to get there.
But worth the challenge- I work on this daily!
A3- granting autonomy sends msg of trust; can elevate practice since autonomous Ts have great responsibility for outcome of plans
A3 This is a hard one for leaders! Autonomy = choice, decisional capital, license, professional judgement etc- not a free for all
A4: When you walk into a classroom, you don't look for what you don't like. You look for potential and possibility.
A3 Autonomy is empowering, facilitates risk-taking, creates job satisfaction and is motivating
Q4. Judgment is a learning killer. When we are judged, we don't risk the vulnerability needed for learning.
A4: being free of stereotypes and judgement blurs the impact of pure conversation
A4: I truly believe that asking reflective questions can help avoid judgment & encourage Ts. https://t.co/8aLtflgmjz
Definitely an art and an area that needs ongoing support. https://t.co/Eu310Kikit
A4: Coaching (or conversing) without judgment is an art-posing reflective questions that don't push people one way takes practice.
A3: When they chose their goals they work harder at accomplishing them. ...we all do.
A4: SO passionate about this. Remove ALL judgment language. Warning... Praise is often judgmental too! https://t.co/Ne5jGq8MYh
A4: Neg-reactive and defensive, treating person like an object=no trust, =no learning w/out vulnerability https://t.co/p5t5i9flTN
Q4 Belief #4: I don’t judge others. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A4: Judgement makes it difficult for validation to happen.
Yes!!!! Bring on the challenge!
A4 part 2: loved this quote "there are many ways we can roll our eyes that don't involve our eyes" nonverbal actions can say a lot
I agree to an extent-I think some are just afraid to show creativity and a willingness to be lifelong learners.
I find that Ts struggle w/ that part when participating in Instructional Rounds. https://t.co/FwcHLt34hm
A4: SO passionate about this. Remove ALL judgment language. Warning... Praise is often judgmental too! https://t.co/Ne5jGq8MYh
A3: choice increases autonomy; top down decreases autonomy. My conundrum is: How to balance autonomy w/initiative implementation?
A4: To judge is to be human. The task is balancing judgement w/ empathy, forgiveness, and a desire to support.
Q5 Belief #5: Conversation should be back and forth. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
A4 Judging is like saying my house is not glass also, so this is a belief that I revisit and refine regularly.
I often come back to the way once described it - "freedom within form"
A5: In a balanced conversation no one dominates & both parties feel heard. They leave w/ a better understanding of each other.
A3) Questions to open up thinking/reflecting & making meaning - open ended, plural response, positive presupposition questions
Argh! That's the bell - must dash off to class now :( Enjoy the rest of the chat folks.
Autonomy builds trust and strengthens relationships with Ts, authoritarianism does the opposite.
A4: judgement is a huge issue now in our data driven culture. Admin/coaches must foster trusting relationships
A4: Non-judgemental behavior pushes me to think outside of my comfort zone and ask questions to understand.
So true! I think that's where video can help us (not that I've tried it recently!).
A4: coaches need to remain aware that consulting is judgment; takes patience of Job sometimes, but avoid "the fixer" stance
I HEART this PLN-thank you for helping me to grow! I have to bow out early tonight. "See" you next week.
it takes trust in your Ts to give up the control. It is an investment that will pay back though!
A5 Back and forth conversations really rely on focused listening. All the Beliefs build on each other and need to be present.
agreed, video is powerful! I've learned a lot about myself and Ts I work with because of it.
A4) Cleanse palette before conversation. Listen for good. Don't look for the speck in another's eye when a log is in our own.
A4: surround yourself with people that share the same passim and drive you do. https://t.co/HpmdcRb40A
Q4. Judgment is a learning killer. When we are judged, we don't risk the vulnerability needed for learning.
Q6 Belief #6: Conversation should be life-giving. How does it look and feel when others honor or violate this belief?
So important to be curious & seek to understand. https://t.co/9wHjKBkn7X
A4: Non-judgemental behavior pushes me to think outside of my comfort zone and ask questions to understand.
Would agree with this completely! As coaches we can help teachers learn to .
so true about praise too! We need to be mindful of using judgement words with our feedback and conversations
Exactly! No one wants to be "fixed". But most want to grow and learn. https://t.co/H5gdT28aoi
Q4. Judgment is a learning killer. When we are judged, we don't risk the vulnerability needed for learning.
Q5 At the heart of a back and forth conversation is my authentic desire to hear another person's thinking
Absolutely. We are more cognizant of it with the negative, but phrases like "good job" are judgmental too...
A6: Post Life-Giving conversation we would feel uplifted, validated, heard and that our time was honored.
A6: Life-giving to me implies that both parties are empowered to do more on behalf of Ss- energized & positive & ready to learn!
A5 I think this is related to the equality belief. If one is dominating convo & there is little back and forth, equality is absent
A5: I love the idea that the thinking together lends itself to the end goal. Without it, you never reach your destination.
Before we go to Chapter 3 do you have any questions for about the beliefs in Ch. 2?
Preach!! That data driven world can be good for some things but detrimental in causing judgement.
A5: too often we listen to speak rather than listen to hear. Most need practice with listening to their own listening
Q6 Conversation that is life-affirming, is engaging and it fosters well-being
A5: beliefs 1, 2, & 5 overlap with a focus on Dialogue v. Monologue. If all those in conversation do not contribute, it does less
Thank you for these beliefs, and this entire book!
Yes! Look for student learning evidence "impact" & ask q's on how they "fostered."
A6: It means that we should walk away more "on fire" about our work than we were when we started!
A6: Coaches can create life-giving convos by being positive, encouraging and engaging in their questions. See the good.
A6: conversation that is life-affirming make you want to take action on what you've learned through the conversation
You are speaking my language, Lorna!! Positivity without judgment!
the beliefs seem doable individually which is the best place to start to put them all in place together?
A6: T told me Mon. "After a coaching convo I feel better abt where I'm going w/stu lrng &I want to pay it forward to my team"
A5 a true back & forth conversation should inspire reflection, growth and new ideas
Yes! Lean in to learn! Be curious & follow your curiosity w/ sincere questions.
Moving on to chapter 3
Q7 Why should educators/coaches listen with empathy?
A6: Conversation that is life-giving creates action based on your new shared understanding and learning
A6 ... Got distracted by the Big Bang Clip :).
Thanks, many Ts are implementing initiatives to varying degrees; increasing engagement is often my goal-but I ? this :)
curiosity is a coaching super-power!
A6: Individuals feeling affirmed, moved, and deeply invested.
A7: There is no other way to truly listen. We have to hear from their perspective. Makes us better able to move people forward.
A7: Empathy allows us to see our colleagues as unique individuals & meet them at their point of strength!
Congrats - number 2 trending on Twitter!
A7 Most of the coaches I've worked with identify listening as the first habit they need to work on
A7 Listening is one really important way we show that we respect others, and we learn when we listen
A5: The T should be doing the most talking. If you're doing most of the talking, then you're conducting a training. Not coaching.
WOW! Thanks for letting us know, Todd!
agree. Might argue that coach had no answers. Coach's job is to Facilitate coachee's discovery of the answers
A7: empathy is a pathway to the soul for listening & getting to the root cause of need & growth; it allows one to be purely human
Thriving T's foster thriving students. We can't give what we don't have.
A7: empathy > judgment. You can have great conversation when you realize everyone is probably trying their best in that moment
Yes! Everyone gets up daily determined to do their best for students! https://t.co/9crf32kWLO
A7: empathy > judgment. You can have great conversation when you realize everyone is probably trying their best in that moment
Agreed unless they struggle to find one. Sometimes we need to offer solutions/ideas as well
A7 Listening with empathy involves know the whole person. Strive to understand perspectives.
A7: Listening w/empathy also means listening w/possibility of learning. Strong coaching relationships are learning partnerships
A7: Listening with empathy shows that the IC cares about the Ts needs--helps create trust needed for successful coaching relship
A7: listening set asides: autobiographical, curiosity, problem solving
YES! I truly believe no one wakes up in the morning thinking... "I'd like to just be mediocre today".
Good point! Is everyone's voice valued & adding to the pool of meaning?
I just said the same thing (with different words!)
A7 things that impede listening: time- never enuf so we tend 2 rush. As experienced Ts we auto. start thinking of solutions
Q8 What are ways educators can commit to really listen and be the listener, not the speaker?
A7: Empathy is one thing that makes us human. It connects us with the people we coach and shows that we are fully alongside them
yes! This is so true. Learning has to be the goal.
as a professional coach, no. As a consultant, yes.
John, NonViolent Communication was definitely a book that influenced me.
A8: Making time for a true dialogue. Listening takes time- give wait time, don't fill short silences, leads to reflection.
If we see them as unresourceful, we give answer. We see them as resourceful, give questions.
A8 A broken record here, but I think the best way to improve is to watch recordings of your conversations
Wait time is my Achilles heel https://t.co/XTrXzV5raH
A8: Making time for a true dialogue. Listening takes time- give wait time, don't fill short silences, leads to reflection.
Avoid 1st person, practice wait time and paraphrasing, don't ask questions out of curiosity https://t.co/ITpkbCKIqQ
Q8 What are ways educators can commit to really listen and be the listener, not the speaker?
Good reflection! At least you know that & can work on it!
Yes! And strengthens the relationship so both seek out further conversations!
A8: asking the right questions allows shift of talking & freeing ourselves of distractions to allow for intent listening
A8: remove distractions and practice. Video record conversations to be aware of bad habits that might send wrong message
Q9 What are ways educators can be mindful to pause & think before responding?
A7: I struggle with listening to understand and learn vs listening to respond and "teach"
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A7: Empathy allows coaching to manifest support and facilitation for growth. Evaluations rely on objectivity and resist empathy.
agree. In my co-active coaching certification, required to do so & listen with a mentor coach. Enlightening!
beautiful. Perhaps empathy is the essence of being human. -
A9: Build a habit out of mindfulness & reflection. Encourage wait time and/or time to write. Focus on one topic at a time.
A8: Choose to be the Listener in a coaching convo by viewing it as an opp to learn, a chance to let someone enlighten you
A9 I think the first step is to make sure we really want to hear what the other person has to say
A7: Assume all intentions are best intentions
I am not surprised, my friend!!
A9: Practice that wait time! Promise yourself you'll to count to 5 instead of immediately responding.
YES! Ts know if a coach is listening to tell, to judge, to support, or to wait for their turn to speak. https://t.co/lg7FKdohNC
A9 I think the first step is to make sure we really want to hear what the other person has to say
A9: wait time can be uncomfortable but thinking like the needs of Ss, we all need to take that wait time to think/process
yes. And to go deeper. What are they feeling. What are they needing. What are they requesting.
Yes. We don't know what we don't know...yet. We are all works in progress.
sometimes someone mentions something we stop their team of thought by asking ?'s "what website?" "Who said that?"
A8: Be completely attentive, tape my mouth shut (for the most part), and ask reflective questions.
Q10 What techniques can educators use to avoid interrupting the speaker?
A9: Keep your own story out of it - learn the other person's story instead.
A8: as a coach, you got to get out of your own way. As soon as your head fills up with thoughts, push them out. Be an empty vessel
Yes. Definitely a challenge for me, too. Coaching and teaching can be (are?) different things.
A3 The coach role is Autonomy Support (Self-Determination Theory). Why questions trump answers.
A10: Take notes if it helps you avoid interrupting, listen to support & be prepared to ask reflective Qs to move convo forward
A9- I definitely struggle with this but the more you are seeking to understand, the better you will be able to pause & listen
A8: Giving that wait time after someone has spoken to see if there is more - so crucial
A8: I need to commit& record some conversations for reflection. Also like metacoaching-inviting other coaches in to give feedback
A10: Focus on reflective listening instead of responding to speaker or thinking about what to say next.
A10: Remember that coaching is not about being heard or your ideas being implemented. Its about helping others explore and grow
nothing better than a bit of self-reflection
A10: For me, it's a continual, conscious effort. And it takes practice. I also ask forgiveness when I do interrupt.
Write down intentional q's in advance & follow up by responding to what was said.
A10 Video taping self in coaching convos can help reveal the amount of interrupting a person may do.
Loving this group and chat, even just lurking! :)
Q11 What questions do you have for about chapters 3 on listening with empathy?
A9: Did an Amazing Silence activity with -direct eye contact, 1talk, wait 10-15 seconds before 2responding-for 1minute
A10. To not interrupt, a big part for me is just working to be mindful of my actions. .
A8 In the book, Jim tx about when you act like you have all the time in the 🌏, conversations don't take long #100%listeningworks
A8: If you are Chairing a meeting, let others speak. If it is your item, let other speak. Gather the thoughts and make decision
We chat every Wed. at 9pm CST. This chat is on book Better Conversations.
A10: avoid the autobiographical statements like the plague! Dont make it about you!
A9: If you have your own "agenda" for the conversation, then you aren't listening and you will find it difficult to pause
Nicely stated, Cory! It's about growing in a partnership. https://t.co/3JqBfstDXi
A10: Remember that coaching is not about being heard or your ideas being implemented. Its about helping others explore and grow
A8 We need to provide opportunities , a framework, and encourage our students to have conversations so we can listen to them
is there anything you'd like to share about these two chapters?
A8: Share goal of attentive listening with the Ts you coach. Internalize desired ratio of ?s to responses. Record and listen!
How can coaches help resistant Ts understand "autonomy" doesn't mean "anything I feel like doing?"
Yes. Acknowledging and using a "fix up" strategy builds trust. Humility & learning forward within our mistakes.
A10: silence is okay! A lot of thinking occurs during silence... And a little awkward string but mostly thinking
Good question! I like to help Ts focus their goals in alignment of school/ district goals.
hold the coachee's agenda. That is what we do as coaches.
Thoughts on this question? https://t.co/ghvkv7qwHM
How can coaches help resistant Ts understand "autonomy" doesn't mean "anything I feel like doing?"
Yes. We must not rush to fill all silences- provide that time for thinking! https://t.co/QoMe74YtPB
A10: silence is okay! A lot of thinking occurs during silence... And a little awkward string but mostly thinking
I"ll add that empathy is critically important--it may be what we need more than anything in our world today
Q12 What are insights you have gained from tonight’s chat or something new you want to try?
Yes, and listen to elicit.
A12: Focus on listening, provide wait time & time for reflection, empathy is most important!
I absolutely agree! And if we are too judgmental or not focused on listening, we can't be empathetic https://t.co/YrvY13rNMa
I"ll add that empathy is critically important--it may be what we need more than anything in our world today
. I think autonomy and accountability are equally important.
So true, ! Thanks for bringing this to light! https://t.co/0LmpicGjMG
I"ll add that empathy is critically important--it may be what we need more than anything in our world today
Thank you for moderating a great chat about 's book!
A10 Been working a lot on this. It helps me to focus on restating what the person says for clarification
