Welcome to our #scchat talking about helping students bounce back using coping skills and resiliency. We are excited to be here with you tonight asyour co-moderators. @CounselorPowers
Let’s find out who is with us tonight for this important chat on coping skills and resiliency. Please introduce yourself and tell us where you are from! #SCCHAT
Let’s find out who is with us tonight for this important chat on coping skills and resiliency. Please introduce yourself and tell us where you are from! #SCCHAT
We will now jump into our first question. Please note that with each question post, we will identify it as Q1, Q2, and so on. When responding, use the format A1, A2, A3, etc. Always use #SCCHAT Let's have fun!!!!!!!!!
A1. Healthy copy skills is essential for all ages, because without those essential skills, students are stuck in their issues and cant focus on higher learning or deeper thoughts, college & career planning #scchat
A1 Developmentally, challenges get more difficult as we take on more responsibilities.
Strong coping skills are part of any good problem solving tool kit. #scchat
A1: Kids have SO MUCH to deal with this day and age and they deal w/it constantly. They need these coping skills for the many times no one is around to help. And kids interact with kids....good coping skills can be modeled & learned from each other. #scchat
A1. Healthy copy skills is essential for all ages, because without those essential skills, students are stuck in their issues and cant focus on higher learning or deeper thoughts, college & career planning #scchat
Very true! If kids cannot process using coping skills, their brains stay stressed. Stressed brains cannot learn as well and kids will fall behind or not learn at all. #scchat
A1. Healthy copy skills is essential for all ages, because without those essential skills, students are stuck in their issues and cant focus on higher learning or deeper thoughts, college & career planning #scchat
A1 Resilience is a skill set - if kids are taught emotional regulation at an early age we can reduce or eliminate some of the issues typical to teens #scchat
A1: we need to teach our kids how to get through things, overcome things, and be strong when things get them down so they can build self esteem, resiliency and know THEY can help themselves when others are not there #scchat
A1. Healthy copy skills is essential for all ages, because without those essential skills, students are stuck in their issues and cant focus on higher learning or deeper thoughts, college & career planning #scchat
A1 #SCCHAT - We have a lot of parents/guardians who do not have or model the best coping skills for our students. Teaching coping skills from a young age is the start to breaking this familial cycle so we can start to see our students effectively cope with challenge
A1 #SCCHAT - We have a lot of parents/guardians who do not have or model the best coping skills for our students. Teaching coping skills from a young age is the start to breaking this familial cycle so we can start to see our students effectively cope with challenge
A1: I'm also not sure healthy coping skills are taught or modeled in the home as much by parents anymore. Even more of a reason that they need specifically taught, modeled, and discussed in schools. #scchat
A1: I think at any age, how we react to challenges rather than the challenge itself can determine how successful we are. If we can teach effective coping skills at all ages, students will be better equipped to build that success for themselves. #scchat
A2. YES. Go back to basics with attending skills and unconditional positive regard.
I like to have lunch with students and give them the option to bring a friend for social support. #scchat
A2: We have a full time school counselor, psych, social worker, and school based clinician that are available. Not only do we provide responsive services, but also preteach those coping skills, provide planned breaks, triage &Tier2 interventions, #scchat
A2: Does every student have a go-to adult at school? Are they allowed to find them/speak to them? How can we adjust their day to handle current trauma/crisis? We build in some break times for students in crisis throughout the day. #scchat
A2 Shift focus to a solution, baby steps to improve the situation, and what is in their control. Help Ss realize many things are a process and take time. #scchat
A2: Does every student have a go-to adult at school? Are they allowed to find them/speak to them? How can we adjust their day to handle current trauma/crisis? We build in some break times for students in crisis throughout the day. #scchat
A2. I use “exit” type cards that Ss can use to come to our offices for a break/breathers. We work on breathing, darker room, self awareness of thoughts & feelings, drawings/art of what they’re feeling before a trigger and during #scchat
I do the lunch with a friend a lot. Just getting away from the 100+ other students talking, laughing, shouting, controlled chaos. A quiet room and lunch w/a friend can really help.
A2: I take time to listen. Just listen and let them get it all out. Not many in this very busy world listen to the story/trauma/stress of a teen. Calm and quiet and non-judging. They don't get that much. #scchat
A2 Our district is really focused on helping kids identify their Adult Champions- but I also teach my kids to watch out for each other. They are my barometers and need to give me a heads up if worried about a friend #scchat
Relationships are everything. And if Ss see that they have someone in their corner who is calm and comforting, they’re more likely to open up and eventually mirror that calming nature #scchat
Yes! I went to a workshop on Secondary Trauma. Really made me think. (Noticed I had a lot of symptoms). It isn't easy to hear the trauma of a young person so I try to debrief with that adult as well. #scchat
A2 Having a support system inside & outside the school environment, interests/hobbies to occupy their thoughts & time, & having the skills to process what they go through & to put it into words #SCCHAT
We as well have a district SW, 2 counselors in building, and an SRO. We’re working towards a better planned and systemic MTSS behavioral approach to provide to those across all 3 tiers and their needs #scchat
A2 Having a support system inside & outside the school environment, interests/hobbies to occupy their thoughts & time, & having the skills to process what they go through & to put it into words #SCCHAT
A2: Protective factor: tell them what they are good at, tell them something you see in them that perhaps nobody else has been able to appreciate yet, about their strength, personality, etc #scchat
I’m looking at ways to implement/train staff in how to be prepared if a student approaches you as trustworthy but has a serious issue arise and how to react and not act #scchat knowledge and education equally for classroom teachers
A2: Sense of belonging is crucial and build their resiliency. Provide them with the support they need to overcome the current challenges. Resiliency is something that will help them throughout life, so be a support that helps them recognize and develop it #SCCHAT
A3: Wow...not sure where to start. Abuse, especially emotional and verbal abuse. Some come to school after being ridiculed and shouted at at home. Others take the verbal abuse from peers throughout the day. If they get it in both spots, that is incredibly tough. #scchat
A3. I think today's student also sees the evil (and good) in our world in real time and many times unfiltered. I grew up seeing our world 30 minutes a day on the news and it wasn't graphic. Now, events are 24/7 and unedited. They get this a variety of ways throughout day #scchat
A3. Students have to face being adults already at an early age, social media, addictions that stem from mental health issues, lack of outside support/social skills, parents who are unresponsive/not knowledge #scchat
A3: bullying and cyber / texting issues that never stop since tech access is 24/7. Anxiety and stress in a fast paced world. Families that are struggling-substances, poverty etc #scchat
A3 Face to face interaction with peers/adults, differentiating btwn friends and acquaintances, school violence, living up to the portrayals of social media, having a voice.
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A3: My answer is totally different cause I'm from Israel. I would say rockets being fired at your house in the middle of the night, or a terrorist tunnel leading straight to it. #scchathttps://t.co/PaVHpQcQVu
The toughest challenges they might have to face child and sexual abuse, violence or alcoholism and or drug abuse in the home, so many challenges that no child should have to encounter or bounce back from #scchat
A3 there seems to be a large discrepancy between many students emotional development and the types of situations they are being pressured by society to handle #scchat
A3: I am seeing so many teens facing issues relating to anxiety, self-harm, and social media. But, what is huge is the lack of coping mechanisms when tough times hit. #scchat
A3 Face to face interaction with peers/adults, differentiating btwn friends and acquaintances, school violence, living up to the portrayals of social media, having a voice.
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You all are offering such great thoughts and insights into what it's like to work with today's youth. Great conversation tonight! To those just joining us, we're talking about coping skills and resiliency! #scchat
A3: Sadly, students are dealing with a tremendous amount of grief and loss. The loss ranges from suicides, homicides, estranged parents, loss of friends and family to addiction. I just said to a friend - it seems to get worse every year! SCs have never been more needed! #SCCHAT
I have talked to my own children about that type of trauma. I can't imagine what that must be like. And then to have schools of kids who are exposed to that on daily/nightly basis. #scchat
A3: My answer is totally different cause I'm from Israel. I would say rockets being fired at your house in the middle of the night, or a terrorist tunnel leading straight to it. #scchathttps://t.co/PaVHpQcQVu
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. The threat of personal safety and security is a huge concern for kids in many corners of our world. #SCCHAT
It’s crazy to think how Ss/teens mainly communicate through Snapchat but can’t manage to confront their peers face to face. Then they see how easily conflict gets resolved 🤦🏼♀️#scchat
having to deal with trauma in many forms so sad that young people (actually anyone) has to deal with this . Thanks for sharing your perspective #scchat
I try to focus on non social-media communication exercises. Like "I Statements."
If all else fails, encourage parents to explore privacy settings or blocking unfriendly accounts. #scchat
Happy to say I don't live in that area. It's a very specific place near the Gaza strip, but actually there were times that the whole country was under attacks, so yeah, You see many changes, like 6th graders starting to wet their beds.... #scchat
A4: I have to leave soon, but this is a tough question. The part I find fascinating is teens struggle to put down phone when talking about drama/stress caused by social media/phone. They just keep looking, texting/responding. They can't quit despite it being the stressor. #scchat
A4. Right now we’re talking with students through issues, but I’m currently searching for better ways for our students to grasp these concepts as issues seem to excel at a faster pace than we can educate or hedge against #scchat
A4 I think looking at what is reality and what is portrayed on social media are important to identify. Bouncing back goes back to the toolbox of coping skills. #scchat
A4: Teach them the facts, the resources, who to report cyber issues to in the building. Help them accept their mistakes and move on from them in a positive direction. #SCCHAT
A4: Teaching them the importance of digital citizenship as it aligns with your expectations, also teaching the effects of cyber bullying, ways to be a supportive bystander, and building empathy. I share a lot of scenarios and have students problem solve...#scchat
A4 Social Media is their reality. I think it’s important for kids to have an adult that they can share their thoughts and concerns with, w/o being chastised for engaging with SM #scchat
Great questions from @CounselorPowers and @MrsAveryBMS tonight on this #SCCHAT! Stretching me to think for sure! If you are not on this chat, why not? There is still time . . .
This is a great opportunity to use SFT such as scaling or miracle question. Gives them the chance to see how they can improve the situation or what they can control. It gives them the power to make those decisions plus they learn they do have coping skills. #scchat
A4: Teach them I statements, confidence to not "take" the bad that comes their way. Teach them to take back their power-block the bully, sign off, etc. Teach specific things / role play script what to say to someone asking for inappropriate pics ETC- give tools #scchat
A2 In @LethSD51 we have challenged all students to consider who their adult ‘go to’ people are through a program taught universally to gr 5’s called Ordinary Heroes! #scchat
I miss Grad School supervision because of the direct, constructive feedback.
Without doing something wrong, I wouldn't have gained so many counseling tweaks and tricks from my peers. #scchat
A4: It's important for Ss to take tech into perspective. It is so prevalent in their lives they truly believe it has the power to ruin lives. Once they develop the confidence and resiliency to see past a cyber flaw - they will begin to realize it does not define them #SCCHAT
A4.i think helping students to enhance their sense of self, learn to love their quirks and embrace what makes them special will help them navigate social media more effectively. Also good to team up w/ teachers or librarians for digital citizenship lessons #scchat
Second Steps provides a great cyber bullying unit for the elementary that I highly recommend. My Ss love the videos, opportunities for real conversations, and scenarios. #scchat
Some of my best moments in my office are when I ask my hs ss for recommendations or to show me something. Allowing them to be the expert- I explain that I’m like a helicopter above the forest of teenage years and they are in it, they show me where and I giveperspective #scchat
I love teaching kids the power of conversation. If we don’t talk, it turns into stress and even loneliness. Then, it becomes a domino effect since stress can have physical effects on our body. #scchat
A5 we have posters about the "Learning Pit" in every room in our building. I use this as well. Resiliency is being in that pit but willing and able to keep working to get out and work they issue. #scchat
A5: Resiliency is... ability to bounce back from tough stuff. Getting through something big. Becoming stronger, expanding from the pain. Standing tall, facing goals even though everything / everyone said you couldn't make it. Sticking with it to GROW. #scchat
A5 Especially with athletes, I like to use the lifting analogy.
When you lift weights, the muscle tears, but it grows stronger. When facing set backs, know that it can propel you forward. #scchat
A5: I believe resilience comes from that emotional toughness- the mindset of “I just went through hell and back, but nothing can steal my joy” type of attitude. Resilience comes from a deeper understanding of your own capabilities and your own self worth for motivation #scchat
A5: By examples of resilient people. One more sad thing I'm gonna share (sorry...) is that the Israeli Holocaust and Bravery day is coming up so lots of examples there. #scchat
A5: Resiliency is being able to handle anything that may come your way. When you have challenges or hardships, you are able to push through and accomplish whatever you set your mind to. #scchat
A5: Resiliency = developing the grit and tenacity to fight through and overcome challenges. Building a growth mindset to never back down from challenges and accept them as way to build yourself up! Be tough as nails! #SCCHAT
What does this mean for the profession of school counseling? Must stop promoting the idea that a college degree levels the playing field. Strong school counseling training implications. More nuance is needed when working with kids. #scchat@USF_SCPhttps://t.co/MxWCqBK1T2
One of my favorite groups is a girls’ leadership group where we talk about stress, coping skills, and the girls love sharing specific examples of how they have overcome obstacles. They also didn’t realize how many others share the same issues! #scchat
A6 I need to do a better job of proactively teaching resiliency rather than reacting to a situation and teaching it. Keep the ideas coming pls. #scchat
It's an awesome program that teaches about the brain, emotional regulation, healthy coping skills, and infuses themes of kindness, gratitude, and mindfulness into the lessons! https://t.co/LGgz9O63fk#SCCHAT
A6: I love talking about the brain so I incorporate #growthmindset into these lessons. When kids understand the connections being made (new or strong) these neurons grow. I emphasize when things are more challenging in life-our Brain and neurons are happy. #scchat
A6 I teach an 8th grade girls' family changes group. We focus on all the things they have dealt with, been through and OVERCOME. We focus on the message: you don't have to do the same mistakes your parents made. You are not them. You can forgive them and be YOU #scchat
A6 any time you can teach growth mindset and coping skills in lessons is SO helpful. I just taught a lesson about coping skills and pumping up the kids to help them feel more in control, reviewing brain growth too to explain emotions #scchat
Our @bchsspectrum is another student initiated club where our LGTBQ students and other members of our school community- gather together to support each other and explore topics they are concerned about #SCCHAT
A8. Our district provides a Parent University night with different topics, and I would love to expand to have possibly quarterly MS educational nights for them. We expect them to help, but they often don’t know how #scchat
