#resiliencechat Archive
Co-moderated by Dr. Robert Martinez and Sara Truebridge, #resiliencechat focuses on promoting resilience amongst educators and students.
Monday February 15, 2016
10:00 PM EST
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Hey out there its 7:00 PM PST, and its AKA co-moderator of Who is here tonight?
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Hey out there its 7:00 PM PST, and its AKA co-moderator of Who is here tonight?
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Here's hoping that not everyone is busy with the tonight. Anyone here for Time to chime in!
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Hi, ! Multitasking with the Grammys. And my cat. :-)
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Tidbit: Wondering if our greater society considers the true underpinnings of “resilience” when they use the word?
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Happy Monday everyone! here from Montana
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Hi! Arturo Calisto, fifth grade teacher from CA about to finish MA/Administration Credential in Ed. Leadership
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Waving from Chicago's NW Side.
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Hamilton livestream finished a few mins. ago, itd be good
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Great to have you here Arturo! https://t.co/aP4L9EYAQJ
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Hi! Arturo Calisto, fifth grade teacher from CA about to finish MA/Administration Credential in Ed. Leadership
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hi . I'im Sara, a k-5 volunteer in Lake Tahoe, NV. Finishing up some Christmas card tasks ....
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Can only stay for a few. moderation & archiving took time. Carol from Long Island here for .
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Glad you made it Carol! https://t.co/duvLZLPLFf
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Can only stay for a few. moderation & archiving took time. Carol from Long Island here for .
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Hi Sara https://t.co/RNRr2hC41t
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hi . I'im Sara, a k-5 volunteer in Lake Tahoe, NV. Finishing up some Christmas card tasks ....
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What do you mean Hamilton livestream? grammys? We just saw The Book of Mormon in Reno the other night!
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MS AP in NC- able to able to stay up late enough 😀
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Hi Spiri from PA, sorry I'm late...had to watch Adele perform on the
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Tidbit: I don't know about society, but resilience has always been a word applied to me by others.
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(2nd time)Tidbit: Wondering if our greater society considers the true underpinnings of “resilience” when they use the word?
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Greetings from Little Rock, home of President Clinton. Happy President's Day.
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Tonight's topic--Going a little deeper into thinking.
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Thomas, College student for elem. edu. in MN, How are y'all?
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Greetings from Long Island, NY. Happy to be here.
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Logging on to from Long Island, NY.
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I've always thought of myself as rough and tough like Baggy Alligator Bags. Do they still make those?
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Hey, there's our Super Spiri! https://t.co/tYH4EQaTV7
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Hi Spiri from PA, sorry I'm late...had to watch Adele perform on the
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ooh I'll have to look for that online. (no cable) I've only heard amazing reviews!
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I don't think most people really understand the concept of resiliency.
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Think the general public has a positive outlook when they talk about resiliency
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wow L.I. represent tonight!!
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At the same time I have always been a sensitive soul. I can balance out tough and vulnerable.
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Hello Here for a bit. Faige retired kinder teacher in Los Angeles
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STOP pushing students into holes they will never fit. START creating holes that fit students. https://t.co/7Q6C2qyKjf
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I'll join while I can from LV, NV.
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Q1: As we go through our days, & connect with each other, do we consciously strive to build our own, others resilience?
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Craig from Vancouver BC, Will be jumping in/out of tonight's !
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RT https://t.co/rvFNjdz5Vi Greetings from Little Rock, home of President Clinton. Happy President's Day.
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Greetings from Little Rock, home of President Clinton. Happy President's Day.
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A1 I do. Sometimes though I need someone to boost me up. It's hard always to have to be the strong one.
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A1 "Strive"? Absolutely. Succeed? That's a lot tougher a question.
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A1: moving forward when times are tough models perseverance and tenacity
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say it sister! https://t.co/NDW7AILBEJ
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A1 I do. Sometimes though I need someone to boost me up. It's hard always to have to be the strong one.
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I would hope for both. My brothers keeper comes to mind https://t.co/pGMGW1bSkU
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Q1: As we go through our days, & connect with each other, do we consciously strive to build our own, others resilience?
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A1 I never hide my vulnerability, but people often assume that I always have it all together. They never see me fall apart.
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as I go through life... reflection has definitely helped me become more resilient. I'd love for students to be able to learn
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A1. Yes and it is a practice. That requires compassion —when and when we are not successful.
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say it sister! https://t.co/NDW7AILBEJ
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A1 I do. Sometimes though I need someone to boost me up. It's hard always to have to be the strong one.
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A1. Consciously? Not unless we practice it with intentionality.
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A1: some days more than others. Teaching (&learning) can be stressful & emotional. But overall, I try...
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Not just trying but to have people expect if from you.
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Greetings from Prof Susan in IL joining tonight. Resilience is key to virtually any success in life, learning, work.
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Great answer Faige. Resiliency is something we must all strive for. A1
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In what ways to you model perseverance, tenacity? https://t.co/Kp0JIY2iwg
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A1: moving forward when times are tough models perseverance and tenacity
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A1 I think resilience starts with being mindful; what's happening? then perception - half empty or half full mindset
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Then you know what I mean.
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A1 yes, we all need support and should lovingly give it to those around us.
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Frickin' exhausting, is what it is. Especially when expected.
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A1) Yes, sometimes you give & other times you get, although I do think some are born more resilient than others
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A1. I think the practice takes focus. Thought. Intentional behaviors.
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A1: Isn't it our job to build resiliency daily with the people around us?
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A1: And wouldn't we want to be doing just that! If we recognize others, show we value them, then we are building resilience.
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A2 keep trying, keep smiling, keep loving, keep my head up and ears open
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Frickin' exhausting especially when you are going through hell and no one to really turn to.
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Hmm. Try to be kind and supportive to all, especially if I sense someone is on the verge of losing it.
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Interesting Many studies of children who experienced trauma would demonstrate variance in experience https://t.co/27WpHn91Ix
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A1) Yes, sometimes you give & other times you get, although I do think some are born more resilient than others
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I agree! compassion with one another and with ourselves https://t.co/a7OUPJ3Ukd
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A1. Yes and it is a practice. That requires compassion —when and when we are not successful.
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Yes indeed S's need opportunities to be mindful of what they learn frm setbacks-which builds resilience.
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Resiliency isn’t a thing that we do or build, but a conscious and intentional practice of care in being with others and self
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Q2-A: Think of a person who though exposed to events has persevered and demonstrated success? (first part)
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A1 A dear friend is worried about being a burden. I try to tell him he is a challenge but he ain't heavy he's my brother.
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It's all about . Right, Angelo? A1
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Never ceases to amaze me how often some are oblivious to the suffering of others.
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Staying the course for the end result even in rough waters.
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I think we all go through the day but to consciously consider resilience takes effort and practice. https://t.co/jeBWZCIPSy
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Are you saying there is a difference between going through your day, and intentionally building someone's resilience https://t.co/spGLPZ1Eot
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Q2-B (Part 2 of the 2nd Q): Describe the trauma, and how they have demonstrated their success.
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Whether born or more attune to who they are and how they work through adversity, trauma etc
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Yeah. I am not afraid to show that, either.
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Me either. And how sometimes some people are dismissive of the suffering of others once seen.
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Yes!! Transparency and honesty of self with others are key aspects of resiliency
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A1a In class today, had 2 students demo loosely swinging arms, then doing really focused bicep curls. Class discussed diff.
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Just send part A and part B of QUESTION 2----Testing your !!!
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A2: Canadian Rick Hansen suffered a spinal cord injury and made his Man In Motion tour a fundraiser for research
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A2:My Ss have so many stories and I'm always shocked when I find out what they have been through.
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A2: staying the path of your own life while dealing with important family issues that could alter reality.
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Amazing example of taking and creating a new world based on that event! https://t.co/BtL8Q7lS3M
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A2: Canadian Rick Hansen suffered a spinal cord injury and made his Man In Motion tour a fundraiser for research
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Hi , I'm lurking around. Leslie in Mty, MX.
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A2 "Kid President" going through multiple surgeries and how he inspires kids
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A2 I look back on Kid O's early days and wonder how the hell I did all of that.
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I understand, can you share an example or two? https://t.co/cBL8OF9I01
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A2:My Ss have so many stories and I'm always shocked when I find out what they have been through.
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A1b The biceps curls demo was to spark discussion of effort, intention, focus-- important to employers. Class in Bus. Comm.
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Another amazing story of dealing with adversity and persevering. https://t.co/CGpmPZNkFU
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A2 "Kid President" going through multiple surgeries and how he inspires kids
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A2. We also must look beyond the exceptional and recognize the resilience that is right here in front of us.
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A2 When Kid O was born,she was only 3lbs 8 oz. She looked like a plucked chicken. But with an Edwsard G Robinson look.
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Yes Carol, and love how you model yours and continue to spread the word...the mindset>
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A2. Not sure one needs to have a trauma, per se, to develop resiliency. I think of many people who had set backs instead.
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Brilliant example. Inspiring. Hero.
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for your statement, Angelo.
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Scott from Texas lurking w/ Rocky and Bullwinkle exploring and integrating UDL into lesson planning https://t.co/oqb3rE3gvf
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A2 Kid O is one of the most determined people I've ever met. Because she's severely disabled, her progress is incremental.
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A2.Thinking of a principal colleague who just found out her husband wants to leave her, or another who lost both parents.
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Going to have to duck out early tonight. Have a great chat!
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A2 I've seen families affected by teen suicide learn to cherish every moment w/loved ones, become more compassionate/loving.
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In this case "trauma" can be subjective. A small event, some form of adversity, a massive loss, a bump in the road, etc...
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A2 Shortly after Kid O was born, my husband told me that he was afraid we one or both of us would die.
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Touchy subject tonight...
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Research on tells us that some endure trauma, some fall victim to it, some use it to succeed, some succumb.
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A2. Sometimes we hide what makes us resilient because we want to suffer in silence. Alone. Not bring attention to ourselves.
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A2 If you watch Kid O, you'd realize that she practices movements all the time. I wish I knew her deep thoughts.
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lots of suicides in my hometown. Rough concept.
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Thinking about the interview on ABC with Dylan Kleybold's mother. There's resilience.
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives?
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True. Some of us quite rarely open up some of us most of the time. Very individual.
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A2: Terry Fox. Amputee who set ran 1/2 way across Canada to raise $ for cancer rsrch. Continues to inspire.
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My heart breaks for parents and famliy members who are left to pick up the pieces. So painful. https://t.co/Bi7kE62VAC
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A2 I've seen families affected by teen suicide learn to cherish every moment w/loved ones, become more compassionate/loving.
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So perceptive my friend! The frequency of our children in classes is practically immeasurable https://t.co/EDjKpfITBH
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A2. Sometimes we hide what makes us resilient because we want to suffer in silence. Alone. Not bring attention to ourselves.
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A2 Students can develop resilience. I use Prof Writing class to help all practice new skills, higher evel of commitment.
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I'm so sorry. Hope that wasn't too triggery. Warm thoughts sent your way.
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A3: as a 1:1 instructor, nuture,nurture nuture. listen to what is going on. Don't judge.
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Judgment is very real. Many of us are taught that sharing is weakness.
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oh I heard her on npr. I agree.
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Yes. Resiliency, success, shifts in perception also require healthy and supportive social relationships
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A2a) My son Gabe, he's our miracle baby, after chemo & radiation was told slim chance for kids, Gabe's a fighter
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A3:Sometimes they just need us to listen,other times we need to find help.Sometimes,they just need a safe place to belong.
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A2: Trauma of undiagnosed mental illness. This individual educated herself, attempted to engage with friends, family
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Bill, all is good. thank you for your care though.
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A3:schools need to be like Disneyland a cleaner, nicer, happier reality for those who come from challenging home situations
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Trend lightly. Be the constant they need. Know their story first. Don't assume First do no harm https://t.co/Nvb5c4BWd7
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives?
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So on point Jenny! https://t.co/F1VcC9soPV
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A3: as a 1:1 instructor, nuture,nurture nuture. listen to what is going on. Don't judge.
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Yes. Creating that safe place to belong is the deepest listening we can offer.
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A2 Let's not forget, there was entire generation of immigrants-endured countless obstacles,gave us the country we have today
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A3 I think it depends on the kid, so a willingness to listen, a visible compassion, an avoidance of assumptions. Readiness.
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A3. I think sometimes we need to be careful. Are we stepping on the toes of their parents? I prefer to loop in parents.
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You are so wise Faige https://t.co/6jOWfCtlUe
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Trend lightly. Be the constant they need. Know their story first. Don't assume First do no harm https://t.co/Nvb5c4BWd7
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives?
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A3. We need to support, listen, be compassionate, and love unconditionally in whatever way we can, but parents come first.
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True. But then too, some of us naturally prefer to go it alone. Hard to parse out which is which.
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2Ab) Gabe has over come so much, slow steady progress, he has such positivity & determination, purest of hearts
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How can we help our students be stronger and more empathetic? to succeed & rise from challenges? https://t.co/r9GNeDXDbz
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Research on tells us that some endure trauma, some fall victim to it, some use it to succeed, some succumb.
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A3: We must teach Ss how to recover from defeat, to not let setbacks set back, to not be afraid of failure
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Q4: Should we seek to “protect” children from all adversity? Is this even reality? Do we help/hurt by protecting?
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In my lit.classes, I assign stories, films, poetry designed to build resilience:
Two Old Women
Ceremony
Winged Migratiom
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give our Ss the skills to be successful. Don't pity them.
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I've learned that its easier not to judge if you've been in the position being judged. When you've experienced, you relate.
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A3: Esp. w/ those who can coast by w/o trying, shying away from being challenged does not build resilience
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Yes, and a few ideas are on the way... https://t.co/5zihofPUxJ
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A3: We must teach Ss how to recover from defeat, to not let setbacks set back, to not be afraid of failure
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A4. Protecting them does them no good, but softening the blow is appropriate - and humane.
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A4: Life will happen. events will unfold.We can only BE there for them. We can't hide them from life, but we can GUIDE them.
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A3 When I first was diagnosed with breast cancer, Kid Q was concerned. I showed both girls what the diff was btw breasts.
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives? (2nd time)
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A4: scaffolding struggle as a method of building skills of resilience needs to be part of the continuum
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A4 depends on kid's age. Their background/history. Be sensitive to family narrative. Such a fine line
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A3 You can't instill resilience; you can be there,listen,help them realize they matter, they make a difference;
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good, could use a few for me, my own resilience is lacking lol, but I have to project it
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives?
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A3 I lifted up my shirt and showed them how much larger left breast was than right breast. Told them what would happen.
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Q3: As educators what is our responsibility to support children with responding to adversity in their lives?
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impossible to shield them. Must empower them instead with the ability to think through problems
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A3 As educators we need to be empathetic w/ students facing adversity-not just academically but also emotionally w/ support
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A4: Protect from real harm, but not adversity. Model/ demonstrate ways to cope and respond to adversity.
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A4) It's important to explain situations as best we can, be open, be honest, guide, what good does shielding them do?
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Idea1: When we focus on an difficult event as being “traumatic” it may have more power over our lives & drain our resources!
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A3 When my mom was in a coma, we let the girls decide if they wanted to see her that way. Kid O did but Kid Q didn't.
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Big Idea#2 When we reframe a difficult event as being a learning opportunity, & we learn from it, our resources are built!
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You've still got half an hour. Check it out! I had no shareable answers so I got distracted.
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We just make it age appropriate, right?
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Oh, I know. I just can't really answer anything truthfully w/o sharing more than I care to on Twitter!
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A3 We didn't insist Kid Q say goodbye to grandma. That would have been unkind. She knew grandma was dying.
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And I think it's valuable to model/think aloud for them when we are faced with our own challenges.
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I think for some kidlets, we have to walk them through steps so they clue into the skills utilized. https://t.co/feGjm8jf5W
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Big Idea#2 When we reframe a difficult event as being a learning opportunity, & we learn from it, our resources are built!
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Totally agree! https://t.co/95dEOeDd43
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And I think it's valuable to model/think aloud for them when we are faced with our own challenges.
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Absolutely. It makes life real.
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Assassin.Classroom A manga in which resiliency is built, ironically by trying to assassinate their T, for good reason tho
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Absolutely! I grew up very sheltered, learned some tough lessons later on, wish I had know something sooner
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A4 Increase wait time; too often we jump in too quick; Best to b guardrails, there only to stop frm going too far off road
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A4 question is skewed. Can't ever say all.
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For me a sunny outlook, support system & looking UP are my reframe Can be a valuable lesson for Ss https://t.co/3w3Oo8uQXl
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Big Idea#2 When we reframe a difficult event as being a learning opportunity, & we learn from it, our resources are built!
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Q5: How do we help Stds develop protective factors: Locus of control/Re-framing of events/Distancing themselves from trauma?
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I never shared about my cancer & my son before, but maybe it could help someone out there
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. We need to balance protecting learners & allowing them to learn: some of the best learning is from mistakes
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A4: We validate the trauma/adversity/difficulty, then encourage participation in the plan of what to do next.
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When I went through cancer treatment, I did reframe it and use it as a learning opportunity. Was profound. Still learning.
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Lisa, I was thinking the same thing.
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Yes! trust... our resources, our capabilities are there! https://t.co/OLBdhw2p7R
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Big Idea#2 When we reframe a difficult event as being a learning opportunity, & we learn from it, our resources are built!
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You're one strong woman! https://t.co/N7qaRaa60k
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When I went through cancer treatment, I did reframe it and use it as a learning opportunity. Was profound. Still learning.
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growth mindset with little things leads to growth mindset with the big stuff
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Well said! https://t.co/tWVTvynJRP
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. We need to balance protecting learners & allowing them to learn: some of the best learning is from mistakes
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A4: For less severe issues (losing sports/competition/bad day) unpack and reflect on issue figure what went wrong reflect
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Thank you. Taken me a lot of years to get this strong, but I've always had inner strength even as kid.
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A5 integrate trauma experience into lives. P-factors develop through healthy relations and removal of structural barriers.
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I "reframed" my heart surgery to 4yr olds I was teaching then. Parents weren't happy but admin supportive. helped us all
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A5: ask them if their choices are good? Discuss the pros/cons of options. Will it do more good?
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A5 First we need to let kids know that they will be OK no matter what. They learn how to protect selves over time.
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A5: we try and paint a picture of what is over the hill once the adversity is in the rear view mirror, what coping is
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First we teach them that being vulnerable is OK. OK not to always know stuff. Ask for help.
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A5: We have some control over the school environment; make it a safe space, a place where can Ss able to gather strength.
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Re-frame to build the capacity for Stds to use events to demonstrate growth, not suffering. https://t.co/080OYaIbkS
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No ball ever struck while the bat rest on ones shoulder. Life is strike zone is short-don't blink! https://t.co/06XksGZbaF
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A5 Again, every kid is different. So conversations with the kid, backstage conversations with advisor, counselor, etc.,...
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Q6: Response to trauma may be immediate or delayed, important to build resources in our children to be able to persevere?
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I was thinking about this earlier. Teaching & modeling reflection in writing and discussion can go far!
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Yes! A safe haven where Ss can also catch their breath and respite
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A5 I think if you focus on distancing from trauma then they never allow themselves to be open to being hurt.
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A5 At times building that protective shield of "denial" necessary until they're ready to let us in. Then help them work thru
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A6. Because response time differs, it is critical to continue to focus, praise, support and love.
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Yes, have had too many Ss apologize for bad behavior but dont seem to learn why exactly its bad
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A5 A dear friend is so self protective that he compartmentalizes. He will not be vulnerable except glimpses.
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JoAnn Deak writes of "crucible moments" - can't anticipate exact needs, but can lay down foundational guiding principles.
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This is the basis of social/restorative justice, huh? Helping Ss learn to see consequences of their actions
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A5 I wish he would let me help him heal. I know he has a lot of hurts.
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And I'm guessing he is probably more the norm. https://t.co/MepFlzJIGW
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A5 A dear friend is so self protective that he compartmentalizes. He will not be vulnerable except glimpses.
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Well said! https://t.co/P1nnShKZRg
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JoAnn Deak writes of "crucible moments" - can't anticipate exact needs, but can lay down foundational guiding principles.
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A6: Help Ss identify their resources, internal/external, what they have that no one can take away, support their identity
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We often reframe as how behavior affected others - seek to notice/understand perspectives.
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A6: always concerned that below the surface, internalized trauma is a ticking time bomb with a huge potential impact zone
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A5 I once dreamt that I was walking through his heart and collecting pearls and putting them in basket. Healing his heart.
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Unfortunately, we heal when we are ready....sad as it is. Prayers for patience. https://t.co/jpggAPNLBy
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A5 I wish he would let me help him heal. I know he has a lot of hurts.
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A6: Let them come to youOnce they open up, don't offer opinion, ask them how they feel,what can they do,how can feel better?
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I believe so, too. He resists vulnerability so much that he is almost angry about it.
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JoAnn Deak is phenomenal - one of my touchstones as a girls school educator.
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Yes. We must also remembering identity is a fluid process that we can support through deep listening
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yes, been trying to do simple empathetic discussions, reframing, modelling
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I was hoping it w as demonstrating growth?
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The "Resilience" word has been used so much, and yet, does have research significance the article provides some of the Hx.
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A6 That's why I think looking at books as bibliotherapy can be so useful https://t.co/5hIOocM6iU https://t.co/FnFGzn4u1H
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Q6: Response to trauma may be immediate or delayed, important to build resources in our children to be able to persevere?
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Listening is such a powerful demonstration of faith and love.
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A5 My dad, born in 1919, son of immigrants, forced himself not to be sensitive. I always wished he would have let me in.
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I read it and shared it!!
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Fortunately, compassion and chances to connect can help most all kids, "ticking" or not.
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Yes, they start frm birth w many resources. Up to us to nurture, sustain their capabilities, as we teach
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Yeah, I know. Can't take it on for him or anyone.
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: Reflect on the importance of the meaning of , & share its true meaning with those in your world.
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Yes it is. It is also the best way to get to the heart of a problem. BE there.
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A5 I think wanting to teach how to self-protect is wrong approach. Teach OK to be vulnerable first.
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What a great conversation Thx What thought provoking questions
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Q7: What will you do tomorrow to advance yours and others resilience?
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Yes. We must also remember identity is a fluid process that we can support through deep listening
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A6: we could be prepping for future use/future traumas.
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Similiar experience here. I believe, being sensitive perceived as sign of weakness.
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Just a change in mindset, how many on have faith in something bigger than ourselves.It's for a perspective piece.
