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whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:30 PM EST

Q5: #Collschat

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2ndTandT Mar 7 @ 7:31 PM EST

A5: my parents cared more about achievement and it made me a very nervous/anxious person, I think there can be a healthy balance #collschat

Colls_Gurcsik Mar 7 @ 7:31 PM EST

Q2: I hate to blame video games for today's violence. I saw a lot of violence growing up. Learn from the mistakes of others. #collschat

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:31 PM EST

#collschat A4 - how very true. I used guilt and know I was too harsh at times😢

mmebriggs11 Mar 7 @ 7:32 PM EST

A5: ideally they all work together, not one or the other #collschat

cwahlCHS Mar 7 @ 7:32 PM EST

A5: looking back, I put a LOT of pressure on my kid to do well in sports and school. Now I know - it isn't everything. #collschat

kysmith424 Mar 7 @ 7:33 PM EST

A5: oldest in kindergarten. trying to ask more how he acted/if he had fun. grades will come in to play later. Can have both #collschat

colls_academic Mar 7 @ 7:33 PM EST

A5: Thank god for this Q after my last A. This is paramount in our home. Constant positive reinforcement and empathy reminders. #collschat

kysmith424 Mar 7 @ 7:34 PM EST

A5: I had a mom tell me that she didn't like the pre-k teacher b/c she didn't challenge the kids enough! very surprised by that! #collschat

mmebriggs11 Mar 7 @ 7:34 PM EST

A5: Grades were most important in my house growing up, as well as being part of 1 million activities #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:35 PM EST

Q5: #Collschat I am guilty of stressing achievement more with my daughter and both with my son. She is already super caring.

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:35 PM EST

I think I do pretty well here. I was always pushed to get As but a B (or maybe a C occasionally) was never the end of the world. #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:35 PM EST

True, but I often find the balance difficult to strike and lean towards achievement, which is probably the easiest. #collschat

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whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:36 PM EST

Q6: #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:37 PM EST

A5 w/ sports I try to just be Dad and not critique. Harder this winter as I coached my son, don't care about wins but want effort #collschat

colls_academic Mar 7 @ 7:38 PM EST

Q6: See, I didn't. I know I can always be a better dad. I just don't plan on waiting for the reunion to start. #collschat

AnnBruckerTIS Mar 7 @ 7:39 PM EST

A1 I think I mostly figured it out by myself ;-) #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:41 PM EST

Q6: #Collschat I think they will say I was a pushover. It's hard to balance caring/empathy with discipline. I want everything for them.

kysmith424 Mar 7 @ 7:41 PM EST

A6: I have room for improvement, but that will always be the case. mistakes happen..I'm hoping I have more positive feedback! #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:41 PM EST

A6: All I can think about is this Philip Larkin poem: https://t.co/UrOY2mIkr2 #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:42 PM EST

Q7: #Collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:42 PM EST

A6 I think bc my son turns 11 tomorrow & I feel like he was born yesterday... well it's just flying. Scary. #daysRlongyearsRshort #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:42 PM EST

A6: Being a parent is tough, and no one is perfect. Striving toward doing better is all we can do. #collschat

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:43 PM EST

A6 wow Dylan that's intense #collschat

Colls_Gurcsik Mar 7 @ 7:44 PM EST

W3: I find my kids with their heads buried into their electric devices. To be more mindful there has to be times without tech #collschat

mmebriggs11 Mar 7 @ 7:44 PM EST

A6: As someone who doesn't have kids, this seems very stressful #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:45 PM EST

This is probably the biggest takeaway we all need. Being harder on ourselves won't help anybody. #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:42 PM EST

A6: Being a parent is tough, and no one is perfect. Striving toward doing better is all we can do. #collschat

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:47 PM EST

A6 my ego says my 24 & soon to be 22 year old would have positive things to say #collschat #wishfulthinking

colls_academic Mar 7 @ 7:47 PM EST

A7: It's not rocket science, but modeling is my #1. The way my wife and I speak to each other and to others is their example. #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:47 PM EST

A7: I think the best suggestion is modeling kindness and empathy. Kids are like sponges and parents, their heroes. #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:48 PM EST

Q8: #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:48 PM EST

Q7: #Collschat The question: "What did you do today that you feel good about" really stood out to me. I plan to ask that of myself & kids

cwahlCHS Mar 7 @ 7:49 PM EST

A7: Want Unselfish Kids? Help Them Practice Kindness. Always say, "you don't have to like everyone, but you do have to be kind" #collschat

2ndTandT Mar 7 @ 7:50 PM EST

A8: I see overscheduling as a huge problem. I was only allowed one activity per season #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:51 PM EST

A7 modeling is paramount and I liked the emphasis that kindness is free. Getting kids to smile and say hello is huge. #collschat

mmebriggs11 Mar 7 @ 7:52 PM EST

A8: I think over scheduling leads to burn out at too young an age #collschat

kysmith424 Mar 7 @ 7:52 PM EST

A8:I did many things, but never more than one/two at a time. I needed down-time - to learn to occupy myself! #collschat

2ndTandT Mar 7 @ 7:53 PM EST

A8: that doesn't mean I think more than one is overscheduling #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:53 PM EST

A8: SO hard. Ton of pressure from other kids and parents. 1 sport, 1 instrument and religious ed. W/ that so little downtime #collschat

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:53 PM EST

A7 I ❤️when, the parent says disconnect and look at me when we talk and make sure you do it yourself #collschat

mmebriggs11 Mar 7 @ 7:54 PM EST

A8: Or over scheduling creates kids who only see themselves in that lens ex: I'm an athlete and only an athlete #collschat

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:54 PM EST

A7 modeling is everything. Ever look around a restaurant and see how few tables are talking #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:54 PM EST

Exactly. I think parents (and teachers) feel like slackers if they allow their kids time for free play. #collschat

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whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:55 PM EST

Q9: #Collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:55 PM EST

Q8: #Collschat We have always been too overscheduled. Boy are we stressed! Taking time out is a new idea.

cwahlCHS Mar 7 @ 7:55 PM EST

A8: Wasn't a problem for me, but I do see it as a problem for many kids I know (my own at times). #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:56 PM EST

#Collschat We have no sports in my family right now. Amazing! Still have a lot scheduled but a break from the routine.

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:56 PM EST

A8 we are crazy with our kids. Why do they have to start organizing sports at 5 #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:57 PM EST

Q9: #Collschat Using team collaboration is a great way to help Ss develop US. Having Ss learn in groups builds common identity.

BarbaraWister Mar 7 @ 7:57 PM EST

A8 but you don't want your child to miss out #collschat

colls_academic Mar 7 @ 7:58 PM EST

Q9: Read a great article about parents complaining to coaches. Answer: Meet with the parents of the kid you want yours to replace #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 7:58 PM EST

A9: I think we become pretty isolated in education. See too much "us vs them". We have it pretty good at Colls but still #collschat

Tsandyhart Mar 7 @ 7:59 PM EST

#Collschat Thanks for sharing. Have a good night!

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:59 PM EST

A9: I don't think Borba mentions it, but grades are huge impediment to the 'Us' mentality - they promote hyper-competitiveness. #collschat

whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 8:00 PM EST

Thats a wrap!! Thanks so much for tuning in to #collschat. We will wrap up next week with Part 3 of #Unselfie by @micheleborba

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whalen - Moderator Mar 7 @ 8:00 PM EST

Good call! #collschat

mr_dfenton Mar 7 @ 7:59 PM EST

A9: I don't think Borba mentions it, but grades are huge impediment to the 'Us' mentality - they promote hyper-competitiveness. #collschat

2ndTandT Mar 7 @ 8:00 PM EST

Thanks @whalen #collschat

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