#vachat Archive
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Monday October 10, 2016
8:00 PM EDT
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Good evening ers, welcome as we discuss Bullying tonight! Please tell us where you are and what you do!
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hello everyone. Tiawana, Assistant Principal from Richmond
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I teach 7th grade Math. Excited to learn more about tonight's topic.
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Forgot to mention I'm in Spotsylvania
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I'll be moderating tonight, and all from my rural location on a cell phone (no wifi) so hopefully everything will go smoothly
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Q1: do your parents/staff/students really know what bullying is? How would you explain it to them?
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Hi, HS SS and adjunct instructor for Humanities, RI
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Hi I teach 2nd at an independent school in The Plains
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A1:repeated mean behavior where a power differential exists
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A1: I feel like our school has educated Ps pretty well. I would say anytime a S intimidates another S
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that's big piece the power differential.
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A1:When I was @ school, I think everyone knew what bullying was, problem was nobody wanted to be "tattletale," even to own parents
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Margo Isabel lower school head late to this evening
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I often hear my child is being bullied and it is just a negative moment/ interaction between children.
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And one abuses that differential, whether real or imagined
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Parents classify almost any unkind behavior as bullying. It is difficult to educate them
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Q2: What has your school/system done to educate stakeholders about bullying? Is any of it effective?
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I recently had 1 student tell another he thought his shirt was ugly.. Parent called telling me he was being bullied.
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we get that too. I think there is a difference b/w bullying and disagreements. We have to talk things out.
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bullying often happens just outside the view of adults...
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A2 we teach 5 lessons every fall to k-5 the grade students. Same lesson repeated each year at developmental level
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A2 We use Caltha Crow's How to Bullyproof Your ClsRm - the language is great for elem ss
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very overused term... We need to help supply new voacb and explain what it really is.
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that is typical. We teach kids the difference but I must admit we don't teach parents. Just gave me an idea!
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& parents may use 'bullying' synonymously w 'disagreeing' for lack of awareness in diff of definition
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that is fantastic... What do the lessons focus on?
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Q2: Our guidance counselors have provided lessons on bullying and our district has taken on "bullying is not tolerated" stance
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V true, hard to be everywhere + kids know they should not be doing it + are smarter than we sometimes give credit for!
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Q2: I think we can always do more to educate. Talking and processing problems is important instead of jumping to conclusions
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perfect lead in to the next question!
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define behavior; bystander, bully, victim; reporting vs tattling; hotspots
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Q2: I think we can always do more to educate. Talking and processing problems is important instead of jumping to conclusions
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Q3: What do we do when the bully is the teacher/admin? recent poll says 13% of students said they were bullied by a staff member
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maybe summary of lessons in FLASH would be helpful to parents?
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that is a good idea... That way parents can discuss the lessons with their children too.
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Maybe too loaded of a question... So,ething to think about though
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A3 we need to hold adults accountable just like kids. Use similar language to help them understand their actions
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A3: Hopefully school has clear alternate path that S is aware of, such as counselor/other teacher, key here being clear to S!
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Q3:That statistic makes me wonder if that is S perception or if Ts are actually bullying. If so those Ts need to leave education
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Q4: If you were to ask your students, what would they say is the most common form of bullying in your school?
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ABSOLUTELY! https://t.co/rTxLZnXqJD
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A3 we need to hold adults accountable just like kids. Use similar language to help them understand their actions
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Do you think bullies are always aware of what they are doing?
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that is a great question... Again, perception is important here!
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A3: Cringe. Also, investigate, listen, document, discuss, take action. I'm in the business of kids.
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No, I think some adult bullys have no clue, think they are helping.
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Yet as educated educators (a bit redundant but necessary), they know better. When you know better, you do better.
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I've witnessed. Agreed. Still not okay. Action necessary. Of some sort.
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A4: I once had a T that would yell at an S about her being tardy. Child was 7, do you think she wanted to be tardy?
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A4: we've had a lot of kids report cyber bulling this year. It happens outside of school and then gets brought in.
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A4 Exclusion is the most common form I see in the elem. School
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A4: I think Cyber bullying would be their answer - there is too much drama and bullying happening over social media
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A4: Potentially subtle forms that require understanding power structures within students, such as "popular" Ss taking jokes too far
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As colleague, it's 1 of the hardest positions 2be in; you don't want to usurp another Ts authority, but... just awful
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Yes! We have consequences at school for cyber bullying outside of school
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that's what's happening at my school.
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I was bullied as an admin. A bystander reported it to HR. handled well. I was in disbelief
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I found the girl hiding and crying not wanting to go into the classroom, didn't want to be embarrassed.
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A4: Jokes at others expense can be v damaging but harder to identify, esp cuz person making the joke often doesnt mean 2 be hurtful
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I think any person/position is susceptible. Way to go to that upstander. Live the example!
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Also, I'm sorry you had to experience that.
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Q5: How do you handle cyberbullying in your school? What can be done to prevent it?
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It's heartbreaking that a comrade in arms in responsible. Literally gut-wrenching.
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adult bullying... Out jobs are hard enough without that!
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thank you. Power of bully is very strong . Can throw one off on ones normal thinking
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A5: consequences at school for cyber bullying. In depth discussion w Ss at start of year re: defining, documenting, consequences
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she sobbed. Once T realized what she had done, She felt horrible. she thought she was preparing the S for real world
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A5: We must do a better job educating our Ss on digital citizenship.
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how do you punish for something that happened outside of school?
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A5: it's is taken very seriously at my school. Our school resource officer (deputy) gets involved.
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A5 have not had that yet. Just started digital citizenship lessons through for k-6
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. I am stunned at the number of parents that will jump into social media teenage drama.
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It has to be documented. And Ss often don't (despite teaching). Consequences same as if on-campus
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It is not taken lightly. The local county police get involved and the administration steps in. Students are suspended.
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sounds like your system is dealing with this quite directly.
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At least T didn't realize...? Did T change? I see Ts defensive and don't change. Even worse...
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A5: Tough cuz so much can happen off school grounds and extremely difficult for teachers to manage, how do you all supervise cyber?
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A5 what are our consequences for cyber bullying? Go through regular discipline procedures, I would presume
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We start digital citizenship as early as Kindergarten to help nurture positive digital footprints
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she did, finally dug into issue 2 find root cause. She was a better teacher/human 4 making that mistake& learning from it
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we've HAD to. Several teen suicides in our county due to cyber bullying. It's devastating to the community.
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A5: it's is taken very seriously at my school. Our school resource officer (deputy) gets involved.
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my daughter had an issue where someone created an account with her name and picture... Very easy to fake.
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THAT is HUGE. I'm concerned about Ts that don't learn from it. Learning from it and making amends - a must.
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very important to learn from mistakes, self awareness is key
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wow, that hurts the heart.
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easy to brush it off and blame the student or parent.. We all have to reflect on the root cause for behaviors.
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Q6: wouldn't we better off just telling students to toughen up or ignore bullying?
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A6: NEVER. Also, good hashtag.
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A6 2.0: If 'true' bullying, great damage can be caused. Our job to help stop. For both bully and victim
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I taught at Holladay and Greenwood... Lived in Short Pump for 16 years, girls went to Carved Elem.
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A6 NO. I believe the 2 most important things are: teaching kids to report; observant teachers in hotspots
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wasn't fun, had to prove she wasn't the 1 that created it and using it. The tech T helped prove it through IP addreses
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A6: All educators (should be): in the business of kids. That's more than content, comm/research skills
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When I posted this topic, an old classmate named 2 bullys he dealt with 30 years ago... So no, you can't just suck it up.
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I want to thank everyone for joining in tonight, hope to see you again,next week!
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A6: Sounds like you already know the answer to this one Phil!
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thank you! Have a good week!
