Our chat will focus on the idea that we can lead and make positive change from any position in our school systems. Leadership is not about a title, it is a way of thinking and acting.
Well good morning #LeadLAP crew. I feel blessed to have this opportunity to chat with you about this important topic: Supporting our students with challenging behavior. Thank you for joining and being a champion for all children! #LeadLAP
Don't be afraid to take a chance, shake things up, shatter the status quo, stretch boundaries, & create your own path. That is how we shift mindsets! #LeadLap#tlap#LeadUpChat#Leadership#LeadwithGusto
I'm Lynell Powell and my PLN know me as Dr. Joy. My experiences as a parent and a school administrator have fueled my passion for this topic. Please take a moment to introduce yourself. #LeadLAP
Good morning #LeadLAP friends. I’m boarding a plane heading home to Chicago after a great event with @BethHouf and Kentucky leaders. Not sure how long I can stay but wanted to say hello and thanks for joining in today.
Calling all champions! I'm super excited to join the #LeadLAP crew to chat about supporting our students with challenging behaviors. We need to ensure that they do not fall through the cracks. I'm passionate about this work! Please join in this Saturday at 9:30 CST/10:30 EST.
Well good morning #LeadLAP crew. I feel blessed to have this opportunity to chat with you about this important topic: Supporting our students with challenging behavior. Thank you for joining and being a champion for all children! #LeadLAP
Good Morning #LeadLAP crew! Kristina from snowy Alberta, Canada! I'm an AP in a Preschool to Gr 5 School! I LOVE my school - the staff, students and community are amazing!
Good morning, @drjoy77 and #LeadLAP! I am Paulette, Professional Learning Coordinator in VBCPS! I am presently enjoying the first day of fall with my mother in law in Opelika, AL!
Well good morning #LeadLAP crew. I feel blessed to have this opportunity to chat with you about this important topic: Supporting our students with challenging behavior. Thank you for joining and being a champion for all children! #LeadLAP
I told a group of rowdy 4th grade boys yesterday, "YOU are my investment, for a better world. I will pour everything that I have into watching you change the world for the better & I'm investing all that I've got" Believe in the power of positive relationships! #LeadLap#tlap
Well good morning #LeadLAP crew. I feel blessed to have this opportunity to chat with you about this important topic: Supporting our students with challenging behavior. Thank you for joining and being a champion for all children! #LeadLAP
Leila here Deputy Superintendent in beautiful Escondido up early and excited to babysit my grandson and new granddaughter after this chat. What a great day #LeadLAP
Good morning everyone at #leadlap from Audubon, IA. I'm an Instructional Coach working on her Masters in Educational Leadership. So excited for my first #twitterchat and to learn more about this important topic.
A1: One of the biggest misconceptions is that all kids can control their behavior. We sometimes forget that kids lack those skills and they need to be taught. #LeadLAP
A1: The kids are acting this way on purpose. They want to make those choices. But we know these are not the choices they want...no one wants to make bad choices. #LeadLAP
A2: great question! A common misconception is that the parents don't care and don't want to be involved. Sometimes they just don't know how to be involved and need support. #LeadLAP
@CarlaShalaby wrote a great book about this. “Troublemakers” talks about these challenging kids just want to be seen. They feel invisible. They want to be outstanding (stand out). Our system isn’t designed for them. #leadLAP
A1: Parents of challenging kids are often labeled "in denial" when they act as advocates for their children or question systems and structures. #LeadLAP
A1: Misconceptions: When Ss have behavioral challenges, they must be "bad" kids with "bad" parents. And the teachers who can't handle the "bad" kids haven't done enough to support these Ss. #LeadLAP
A1: The parents don't want to work with the school. They think their kids can do no wrong. Many times, parents are also unsure what to do, just like the school. We need to work as a team. #LeadLAP
A1: Students are challenging because they don’t like you. Very rarely is it that personal. (And if they really don’t like you - that’s on you, not them!) #LeadLAP
A1: I think one of the most common misconceptions about the parents of challenging kids is that they don't care about school and education. In vast majority of cases....FALSE. #LeadLAP
A1: I think one of the biggest misconception is that it’s easy to change their behavior… That a stern talking to is all you need to change a child’s behavior #LeadLAP
A1: #Leadlap Common misconception is that teachers don’t have the power to have an impact. Teachers underestimate their impact. T’s can make such a difference by learning the underlying issue and then giving S’s the tools to cope.
A1 hat he kids aren’t smart or can’t change. Or that their parents don’t care or what to be supportive. That teachers don’t like them or don’t understand their struggle #leadLAP
A1: the current education system is designed for efficiency. These students stand in the way of test scores. They are often perceived as a hindrance than an enhancement #Leadlap
A1: I think we can get caught in the trap of discipline as something we do TO our challenging students, rather than WITH our challenging students. One of the most resonating ideas from #DisciplineWithDignity#LeadLAP
A1: I think I forget sometimes that students with challenging behaviors have strengths and skills and passions. It’s easy to see the behavior and forget to see the kid. #LeadLAP
A1b: misconception: The Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. A lot of parents that have students that are considered challenging are more than willing to help, they just need help knowing how. After years of having the “bad kid”, it’s hard to trust the system! #LeadLAP
A1. Challenging Kids - They know how to behave, but choose not to. Their Parents - They don't know how their child behaves or they choose to allow the behavior. Their Teachers - The teachers aren't "discipling" their Ss effectively or poor classroom management. #leadlap
a1: That challenging students are actively choosing their behaviors, rather than responding to their environment, and removing necessary supports or responding with shaming consequences because of this view #LeadLAP
A1: The notion that they don’t have or have never attempted to change/remedy their situation. Thinking that they are helpless and without ideas or vision. #LeadLAP
Hey #LeadLAP - missing out on an awesome chat today, but I get to hang out with this girl at a fun event for kids with T1D in our area. Great day to wear my shirt though!
A1 A misconception of what we perceive as “bad” kids are kids that are misunderstood. We must make an intentional effort to get to know every student, every parent, and every stakeholder. #LeadLAP
A1: Misconception: the child is bad, is choosing this path, doesn’t want an opportunity, and that their parents do not care or have no control. Ts perception that it is personal can be debilitating for all. #Leadlap#Nan3EDU 😢
A1: Working at a continuation high school, #alted, there is a pervasive misnomer it is filled with “bad kids,” difficult parents, & teachers that couldn’t hack it somewhere else. I can tell you all three of these are not true. #altedchat#leadlap
This is very true. Sometimes we as educators go straight to the negative because WE don’t know how to handle the behaviors, either. We need to have tools just like the parents do so we can all face “reality” for the Ss. #LeadLAP
A1: Some of the most common difficulties are misperceptions by those involved. I think, oftentimes, people expect the worst from each other in difficult situations & it creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. Instead of hoping for the best, we expect the worst. #LeadLAP
A1: One of the biggest misconceptions I see is thinking that kids with challenging behaviour are challenging on purpose and just need to try harder. It helps to switch from “won’t behave” “to can’t behave” and then finding out what’s getting in their way. #leadLAP
A1 I agree with everyone here, a common misconception is that people don't care, don't want to learn, and/or lazy. @leftcoastpa said, "Rigor lies in the passion of the learnerer." That stuck with me... #leadlap
I think reframing it is key! How can we change behaviors and support our learners to make better choices? I agree--building relationships is crucial. #LeadLAP
A1: That parents don't care. I think that is the BIGGEST EXCUSE EVER!!!! Every parent that I build a relationship with, loves their child & wants them to be successful! They are the center of their universe! #LeadLap
A1: Misconceptions that challenging Ss/Ps/Ts don’t care and/or aren’t trying their best - I believe most Ss/Ps/Ts truly ARE trying their best with the tools they currently have to work with! #LeadLAP
A1: Regarding misconceptions, I posted this earlier this week. It’s these children who need us...our live, compassion, empathy and support...the most! 💕 #LeadLAP
That they are unreachable. Someone else has had a difficult time so therefore no one will be able to get through to them. Change your tactics, build a real relationship with the student and have honest conversations with parents to guide your approach.
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A1 A common misconception is that parents don’t care. Often times parents are intimidated by the educational jargon and acronyms that we use. We must dig deep and bring the conversations down to their level for a common understanding. #LeadLAP
A1- I think the number one misconception is that these kids don't care. As an Instructional Coach, I hear that often from teachers. Looking for a impactful response for me to have when I hear this. #leadlap
A1: A misconception of Ts is that they just send them to the office b/c they don't want them in class. Our Ts have tried everything they can before they get to me. They always look for support, not punishment. #LeadLAP
A1 Misconception related to discipline (suspensions and expulsions) as a way to deal with behavior. Ss age as a reason they should know or do better. Some often think Ps don’t care when they probably need support also. #LeadLAP
A1: Also many believe that Ss with challenging behavior need punishment, when they really need consequences that help change behavior. My principal (shoutout @hainesjamie) always says something like: We are in the business of changing behavior, not punishing kids. 🙌 #LeadLAP
A1b: that having frequent conversations, or trying to speak positivity into a student’s life is a waste of time. It is that thinking that leads to a pigeon hole situation. #leadLAP
A1The Ss are acting out on purpose, some for attention, some P don't want to deal with problems and expect the school to.The Ss know what they do, they made the choice to do the actons. School working with them on empathy, apologizing,nsorry notes, taking responsibilty. #leadlap
A2: If kids are ready to learn, in the right frame of mind, and feel safe, they are ready to do their best learning. If they don't feel these things, they are telling/showing us they need help. #LeadLAP
A1: The biggest misconception of challenging kids—their behavior has something to do w/ you or school. 99% of the time a kid’s reaction has nothing to do w/you & everything to do w/something they are
going through...scratch surface & find what’s UNDER their attitude ♥️ #LeadLAP
You are right--we need to focus on changing behaviors. It's about building relationships and responsibility! Check out this read https://t.co/V8xSJYZ5Ce@ASCD#LeadLAP
A2: This philosophy challenges many of the management/discipline focused structures that schools put in place. It emphasizes the need to teach skills associated with behavior. #LeadLAP
I agree. We all need to practice grace with each other and learn how to support each other. It's a work in progress and takes a great deal of communication #LeadLAP
A2: Every child can succeed, but success may look different between children. We must understand that, at times,with challenging behaviors come deeper issues. Sometimes success is school is last on their list of concerns. Find what they need and give it to them. #LeadLAP
A1: Misconception...”It’s her/his fault.” Avoiding some level of ownership for positive supports/‘solutions’ is part of harbouring misconceptions. #LeadLAP
The misconception that some teachers manage a certain type of child better than others. Often they get overloaded with challenging students. It’s unfair to kids and to teachers. #leadLap
A1 It is easy to decide that the situation is hopeless. We have to see each difficult S as a set of contexts and behavioral strategies. Understanding (& helping the other stakeholders to understand) the cause/effect chains can draw a roadmap for change. #LEADLAP#ACSInnovates
Misconception: that the learner is intentionally acting out - there is always a root cause, and it can usually be discovered by a caring teacher. #LeadLAP
YES - Most parents just need help. Raising a kid is HARD. I know that, and mine is only 13 weeks old. I can’t imagine raising a 13 year old without help. #leadLAP
A2: Kids do the best they can with what they have. I do not believe that any kid wants to be the "bad kid". Some kids lack communication skills, and it simply could be that they didn't eat breakfast. #LeadLAP
I reference her work often - lucky to have had her address the district a couple of years ago. I like the workbook too as a resource to support Ts working on this. #LeadLAP
A2 When parents are AWARE, we show them we CARE, they see their child is treated FAIR, they will join us in the efforts to help their child get THERE! Relationships first, academics second! #LeadLAP
A1: One of the biggest misconceptions I see is thinking that kids with challenging behaviour are challenging on purpose and just need to try harder. It helps to switch from “won’t behave” “to can’t behave” and then finding out what’s getting in their way. #leadLAP
A2: Sometimes kids need us to remove obstacles, love them, feed them, and just be there to listen...really listen and not worry about the “school” stuff #LeadLAP
A2:Behavior is communication. What is the unmet need being expressed? We need to teach students the lagging skills (academic or emotional). Clean slate the next day when things go awry. Be their champion who sees their greatness.
Read Lost at School by Dr. Ross Greene. #leadlap
Breaks my heart when Ts are upset with Ss acting out for attention. Clearly they need some sort of attention or they wouldn’t be asking for it. Find productive ways to give them what they need! #LeadLAP
A2: We need to set students up for success and success looks different to every child and every adult. Sometimes it's the small wins that matter most and need to be celebrated the most. We need to create the environment for success. #LeadLAP
after my day Friday, I left wondering how I could have reacted/handled things differently. This is good to hear because it's hard not to take things personally.#LeadLAP
A2: I'm not familiar with this philosophy, but I'm interpreting it to mean behaviorally as if Ss have skills and tools related to self-awareness and self-regulation, they can do well. I agree! We are all teachers of behavior. #leadlap
A2: I believe that “kids do well if they can” feel connected, supported, empowered, respected, and loved. And I believe that applies to all areas of school and LIFE—not just behavior. #LeadLAP
A2 I have mixed feelings about this. Ss behave in ways that they are taught as there are many factors that impact behaviors. What may be acceptable in one space may not be in another. Trauma impacts. Friends impact. #LeadLAP
Student behavior can be tricky. Sometimes the cause can be much harder to ascertain & sometimes it can be downright impossible. Don't lower your expectations; try to bring every student up through positive interactions, support & a genuine desire to help them succeed.
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A2: If they can connect and begin developing an authentic relationship where they aren’t being bribed but creatively held accountable challenging, students can modify their behavior. #LeadLAP
A2: Kids don’t naturally see beyond their circumstances. We can provide a whole new vision for them to think big, use their strengths, and build a future story. #leadlap
A2 When difficult students are in an environment that they can relate to...they will step up their game, turn on the switch and perform. When challenged or feeling defeat before they start...it’s a no-go and the negative behavior switch is on. #LeadLAP
Hello #LeadLAP! Just got in from the gym! Late to the dance!
A1 - a common misconception is that all kids should act the same way. All have the same background and home life.
A2: I am 5'1". Managing behavior for me doesn't come from a daunting physical presence. Keys to classroom management 4 me have been humor, rel building, transparency and making sure Ss know and believe that I will do all I can for them to experience personal success. #leadlap
A2: Kids do well when we take care of their needs. Some need an extra hug. Some need extra help. Some need an extra meal. Get to know the kid and give them what they need. #LeadLAP
A2 All kids can do well with the right attitude mindset and support. To get there we must be compassionate, supportive and consistent. We also need to model the attitude and effort we want and individualize learn for students make opportunities to build confidence #leadLAP
#Leadlap A2. My feelings are that the system is old and out dated. I would love to go to a college model where kids get to choose classes they want. I think their behavior would change and they would be more invested if they had a choice.
Good morning, #LeadLAP family! I am a bit late to the game, but am so happy to be here! Anna from San Diego, who needs much advice and support on how to be a more effective leader.
A2) Well, what does "doing well" look like for each student? I believe they can but understanding students, their families/cultures will help me understand what behavior expectations are. Model, model, model. #LeadLAP
A2: Ss desire to do well, be loved, and give love is defined by their story. In turn what they project is one small piece. We must shine light on their positives and model what we know they need to add to their world of goodness. #LeadLAP#Nan3EDU ♥️
A2 This question made me think of thr importance of building relationships with all students. We can’t pick & choose the ones to get to know. We need to get to know all our students and families! #LeadLAP
A2. If our Ss social/emotional skills are met, and their needs are also met, then they will be prepared to learn at school! When a child is facing trama, lack of needs such as food, shelter, we find out about their needs by building relationships! So they can get help! #leadlap
I believe it. Kids do well if they can. Students with challenging behaviors have barriers. Our (ridiculously difficult) job, is to find what those barriers are, and help reduce them sonkids can do well. #LeadLAP
A2: I believe all Ss want to do well. If they are not it is because they are lacking the skills needed to be successful. This it is imperative that we take time build positive relationshipswith our Ss (and parents) and help develop those needed skills #LeadLAP
A2-Don't take bx personal; provide an empathetic, engaging environment each day & trust that Ss will respond when they are able to-Also, if the Ss is in the room, the Ss wants to be there-#LeadLAP
Such a powerful shift of mindset! How can we connect with, support, empower, respect, and love our students? What actions can we take today that will help our students tomorrow? #LeadLAP
A2: I believe that “kids do well if they can” feel connected, supported, empowered, respected, and loved. And I believe that applies to all areas of school and LIFE—not just behavior. #LeadLAP
A2: I was reminded of this yesterday in a 4th grade room. A S who typically shuts down or walks out of classrooms when he struggles just needed a little nudge to understand a concept & then he soared! Ss want to be successful but sometimes misbehavior is an easy way out. #LeadLAP
A2: I strongly believe in the philosophy that “kids do well if they can”. When they can’t do well they communicate that to us in a variety of ways: Behaviour is Communication.
We can be detectives and find what is getting their way and help remove the barriers. #leadLAP
A2: Talk about a fixed mindset 🤔 That belief leads us to teaching to 3/4s of the classroom. Having a belief that all students can succeed is paramount to education. People, go back and read your Philosophy or Ed paper. Believe now what you wrote then! #LeadLAP
A2) Creating an environment that makes a kid feels safe, important and loved, helps to decrease student behavior. They do not want to let down that adult that wants to see them succeed.#LeadLAP
We are using her work this year to have each teacher create a FAIR Plan for a S in their class. It has been great work so far and we get to Skype with her in November! #LeadLAP
A2: I believe it. Kids do well if they can. Students with challenging behaviors have barriers. Our (ridiculously difficult) job, is to find what those barriers are, and help reduce them sonkids can do well. #LeadLAP
A1b: misconception: The Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. A lot of parents that have students that are considered challenging are more than willing to help, they just need help knowing how. After years of having the “bad kid”, it’s hard to trust the system! #LeadLAP
A3: Self regulation - so often when a child is calm, they can tell me all the things why should have done and why. In the moment they are not using the skills they have. This is a tough one for me. #LeadLAP
A1: The misconception is that they know better or are doing something on purpose. Sometimes, all it takes is asking them why they did the behavior to better understand the human behind the action. I know that I also need more self-awareness to understand others. #LeadLAP
A1: First and foremost, that the kids nor the parents care (which may be true for a few). Second, the blame is with them and not us or the system. Maybe they have been mistreated by the school in the past. We have to investigate. #LeadLAP
A2. I agree with this statement. It can be easy to lose this mindset in the moment though! This is why you need to surround yourself with other teachers who have the same mindset about S behavior you do. #leadLAP
A3: Providing students with coping skills to navigate unpleasant or difficult situations is key. Remember that gallon of ice cream you ate in your room when you were upset? Well a young child is not going to respond in that way but the feelings are the same nevertheless #LeadLAP
Kris MacBury- coming in a few minutes late
A1 - What we can’t see we make assumptions based on our biased on all levels- parents aren’t doing enough- they don’t care, not trying hard enough, kids- don’t care(not considering mental health) teachers/lead their biased #LeadLAP
A3: Communication - whether that is drawing a picture or using words, how can we talk about the feelings inside. We need to get to the root of the problem. Usually its more than a first glance. #LeadLAP
A3) How to figure out "what is this child trying to tell me though their behavior?" Who do I reach out to? What resources do I have? Consequences vs punnishment #LeadLAP
#LeadLAP A1- the common misconception is they are misbehaving because they want to- there is usually an underlying need that is not being met and it’s our job to find out what that is @t_pritekel
A3: Students need to be skills to cope with disappointment, de-escalation strategies, patience which is hard in an on demand society, how to ask for help, voicing their feelings, etc.
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Q3: No "bad" kids, just bad choices. How can we be #intentional about teaching our students decision making, reflection, and problem solving in authentic ways? #LeadLAP
A3: Self regulation is so vital. We need to show them that their emotions are validated and part of who they are, while providing them with skills to control those emotions. It is okay to feel them, but not okay for our feelings to negatively impact others. #leadlap
A3: One of the biggest for me was learning to control my emotions and not take it personally and react rashly...remaining calm is a constant challenge! #LeadLAP
A2 - They do. And when the behavior is not what one expects , there is usually a story or reason why. That's why it's important to build relationships and get to know your students! #LeadLAP
A2: The next logical step which we do automatically but sometimes don't have the time to articulate to others is: "What must be done immediately to stabilize this situation and ensure the safety, dignity, and integrity of all involved?" #LeadLAP
A2: I wanted to do well when I was young, but I just couldn’t contain my energy. My Ts just labeled me as a problem child. Thankfully, we moved to a different school and things began to change for me. #LeadLAP
A2) I see this is true in so many situations. The barrier isn’t something we can see. We use so many different modes of learning to try to reach Ss. One S would avoid work constantly til we used an audiobook. She totally engaged when she could listen to the book. #LeadLAP
EVERY comment I am reading in this chat is feeding my brain to turn pessimism and frustration into a challenge to help learn more about students, love them, and keep a positive mindset. Thank you so much everyone! #LeadLAP
Q3: Listening, taking a breath before responding, perspective taking, reframing negative/shame based thought processes... Above all helping them know and remember that they are loved and respected #LeadLAP
A3: I absolutely recommend educators read Conscious Discipline by Dr. Becky Bailey. It is a fantastic guide to working with kids, especially younger kids #LeadLAP
A3: @rulerapproach allows 4 individuals 2 identify their emotions but more importantly understand it. When Ss understand what it is that's causing them 2 act out, they r ready to deal with and address it. This leads 2 self-advocacy, accountability & self-regulation. #leadlap
A3: LISTENING. EMPATHY. COMPASSION. VULNERABILITY. I create “a walk in my shoes” experience for my children. They use notecards to write about their “colored days” and attach them to a pair of shoes. Everyone has a story. #LeadLAP#Nan3EDU 👞 👟 👠
A3: Deescalation, absolutely number 1. For Ss to recognize any sort of problem with their behavior, they must have a clear head. Talking down to a student that just acted out will not lead to success. #leadLAP
A3: Soft Skills!! S's with challenging behaviors need to be given tools to cope with their emotions. Teach them to self- regulate, but make sure to listen to them, watch what they say and do. Sometimes they just need someone to be present. #LeadLAP
A2: It’s about seeking to understand what’s behind the behavior, which takes time and patience. As hard as it is, we can’t take their misbehavior personally. #LeadLAP
Yes!!! Sometimes it is a hug that is needed, a smile, the fact that we are there for our students when they need us. I have to remember to think before reacting. #leadlap
A2: From #PBIS:
When kids can't read, we teach.
When kids can't subtract, we teach.
When kids can't behave, we ...
Can't do is a matter of skill.
Won't do is a matter of will.
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A3 Ts and staff need to be taught how to RESPOND to behaviors rather than how to REACT to them. Instead of moving student clips, we should figure out why the behavior has occurred and how can we provide support to the student. It’s problem solving! #LeadLAP
A2) Students are bringing us the best they have. If we take time to understand them, understand their needs, and meet them, then students will be able to bring their best in the classroom. #LeadLAP
#Leadlap Happy Saturday my friends! Q3 We talk about students with challenging behaviors and yet teachers focus on their content, stuff measured by State DE
#LeadLAP In my opinion we should be teaching by demonstrating ourselves skills associated with behaviour every single day, all day, at every age through real and honest informal ways.
A2: I feel that statement is true - Ss try hard to give their best/learn. When they fail, it typically isn’t because they don’t respect Ts or didn’t want to do right - it’s usually due to immaturity/misunderstanding/outside school issues/lack of relationship. #LeadLAP
A3 Can one teach patience and compassion? We need these two things to help Ss in any situation. We also need to teach specific strategies in communication and building community. Do we know the right resources? #LeadLAP
Educators have to become knowledgeable of impact of adverse childhood experiences - trauma outcomes - and strategies for working w kids across a continuum of intervention responses - counselors, teachers, admins, sch psychologists #LeadLAP
A3. Self regulation-where the Ss is able to take some time to calm down and process what is taking place and can speak clearly. Relaxation exercises- to bring down tempers, breathing exercises. to help them think clearly. #leadlap
A3: Seek first to understand. Asking questions of parents, behavior specialist, the challenging students. Then...LISTEN intently to support not to act, complain, or vent. #LeadLAP
A3) Skills teens need more of is “failure isn’t fatal” mentality. I think there’s a stigma when we don’t have everything we need physically, mentally, and academically. #LeadLAP
A3 we need to teach them some coping skills, how to advocate for themselves in an appropriate way, how react even when they don’t feel ok, help them work through the process from compliance to partnership #leadLAP
A3: Adults must keep their perspective and know that the behavior is not something kids really want to exhibit, but they are exhibiting a form a communication. We can teach them other ways to communicate that are socially acceptable.
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A3: When we can model mature communication skills, both students and teachers can have more productive discourse. Empowered people empower people. We need to foster experiences that lead to positive outcomes, so that more fuel stays away from the fire. #LeadLAP
A3: Teaching kids @StuartShanker’s 5 steps of #SelfReg is so helpful for all students (& adults) & especially for kids with challenging behaviour. It starts with our own self-regulation, then co-regulation & then kids will start to self-regulate. https://t.co/fBtcle8mcq#leadLAP
A3: I absolutely recommend educators read Conscious Discipline by Dr. Becky Bailey. It is a fantastic guide to working with kids, especially younger kids #LeadLAP
A3: Explicit teaching...of how to self-regulate, how to collaborate, how to share feelings in a respectful, calm manner, and how to ask for help...is necessary. #LeadLAP
I go back to Maslow. Do the students feel safe? What does that look like to THEM as opposed to us? Screaming is often a result of not being heard. Hitting is a defense mechanism. What is going on there? That would be my reflections #leadLAP
PATIENCE, patience & even more patience. Be prepared to wait & engage calmly with a non threatening stance, tone & general demeanor. Show empathy & understanding (even if you are mad). Measure your reactions & swallow any pride you have. It is about the Ss, not you.
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A3) Seek first to understand, then be understood. Slowing down to truly try and understand WHY a behavior is occurring is key to addressing it in the right way. This helps with de-escalation, building relationships, and meeting student needs. #LeadLAP
A2: I believe this with all of my heart- we need to push ourselves as the adults who can and care to learn all we can about our students and do everything within our control to support them! #leadlap
A3: My teaching partner always teaches students about the “size of their problem” to help Ss recognize themselves if they are having a big response to a small issue. Many times they can’t see it until the problem is over but helps with self reflection. #LeadLAP
A3: Behavior often becomes a power struggle. What if we taught empathy, compassion, listening, & empowerment with or instead of behavior management?! I go back to @docspeaks & his POWERFUL message of the 2nd backpack. What is inside the 2nd backpack our students carry?! #LeadLAP
A3: Coping skills are super important for our students to have. We also need to make sure that these kids have adults in the building that they have solid relationships with. Have a person to vent and visit with can lead to positive change. #LeadLAP
A3: They need to be taught how to identify their own triggers, self-management, deep breathing to calm themselves down. Again, this takes TIME. You can’t rush it. I spent a year helping a student with anger issues. #LeadLAP
I love the 5 point scale. I use it daily with a lot of my students. It is wonderful and feel that it is such a great tool to teach kids to self regulate. #leadlap
A3: Self-awareness - What are your body and mind doing/feeling prior to . A lot of Ss lack self-awareness of their triggers.
Self-regulation and Replacement Behaviors - What can you do when you've been triggered instead of what you tend to do? #leadlap
A3- #1- HAPPINESS AGENCY Ss need to be able to recognize what/how to be healthy and happy, have the skills to regulate relative to happiness as a GOAL& as schools we have a responsibility to provide opportunities and access build happiness agency #schoolHAPPINESSCOUNTS#leadlap
Yes! If the first reaction to misbehaviour is to send the child out of the room then the message is that they are not welcome. This damages relationships #LeadLAP
A3: Students need to be taught calming strategies, how to voice their feelings in a respectful way, and they need to know you believe they can do it, that you know they are good kids, and you will help them. #leadLAP
Also; if actual hitting is involved; what are the consequences for touching another human being without their consent? Seems like agency is a good thing to reflect and look at #leadLAP
Self regulation strategies. Helping Ss recognize when they are becoming overstimulated. Teaching mindful, calming techniques to use when Ss become self aware that they are feeling strong emotions. #leadlap
A3: A lot of time should be spent with executive functioning skills, mindfulness strategies, and self-advocacy. Regulating emotions, self-regulation, breathing, patience, growth mindset...#LeadLAP
A3b: Positive self talk. I am amazed at the students who act out that do not have 1 positive thing to say about themselves. They may hear similar at home & if we do not teach them to see value in themselves then they may only see themselves as a problem & act accordingly #leadLAP
A2: "Doing well" is subjective. What a parent believes the child is doing well may look different to the T, and also different in the eyes and opinion of the child. #LeadLAP
I can’t necessarily know what you are experiencing. Just sharing the reflection I have with what you are sharing. You are the best expert here. #leadLAP
A3: Breathing!
Breathe in through your nose like you're smelling a rose.
Breathe out through your mouth, like you're blowing out candles. #SEL#SelfReg#LeadLAP
A3b mindfulness is also an important skill for kids to learn and practice. We have to give people the time and space to practice fail and learn how to overcome the adversity they face in these situations. #leadLAP
#LeadLAP The three challenges facing society are RELATIONSHIPS, FOOD, and FUEL. Society Ed focus is on solutions to Food and Fuel. Effective TEACHERS know relationships is the foundation.
At @HortonsCreekES we are in the second year of @PosProject focusing on the character strengths & learning about the #otherpeoplematter mindset, also incorporating restorative circle process every morning has been amazing! #leadlap
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@DrPFrance, @drjoy77, @HortonsCreekES, @PosProject
A4: If we can help keep a situation calm before it escalates, we can start to change behaviours. We can help show a student what it looks like and hopefully they will be able to turn it into their own regulation. #LeadLAP
A3: zones of reg & social thinking- not taught in isolation and it’s not just for students- grown-ups need time to practice and use these strategies, too! #LeadLAP
A4: #LeadLAP. I think the most important reason to identify those conditions is so that we can teach students how THEY can identify those triggers in order to find a better strategy to cope.
A3: Students need to be taught calming strategies, how to voice their feelings in a respectful way, and they need to know you believe they can do it, that you know they are good kids, and you will help them. #leadLAP
A3: Self regulation (breathing exercises, words for when upset, safe place to calm down, etc) & relationship building (to know the adults in charge are there to keep Ss safe, that they believe in Ss, that they see the good in Ss and will support them as they grow). #LeadLAP
A3 I always loved glasser’s reality therapy steps for Educators - begin with “what am I doing?” His next step was if what I am doing is not working, consider an alternative strategy. He also believed in coaching and teaching replacement behaviors not punishment. #leadlap
A4: It gives the bigger picture. Challenging behaviors always have a reason. Sometimes there are factors the S's can control, but many times there are not. We as the adults, need to try to see the whole picture and figure out what the S's behavior is really asking for. #LeadLAP
A4: To me this goes back to the idea that the only behavior a teacher can control is how they react to a situation. By ID'ing Antecedents, Ts can figure out ways to avoid them while teaching Ss the skills they need to cope with them when they do happen. #LeadLAP
A4: from a teachers perspective, knowing our triggers will help us recognize them when they happen and work to mitigate the impact of our emotions in a classroom situation . Allows us to listen better than react #leadLAP
Q3: Required skills to be taught to behaviorally-challenging Ss: Self-knowledge, putting words to feelings, forgiving themselves, thinking before acting, empathy. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
Love the idea of the “size of their problem” to help Ss reflect and have a perspective of the issue. I think I could use this at HS level too. #leadLAP
A3: My teaching partner always teaches students about the “size of their problem” to help Ss recognize themselves if they are having a big response to a small issue. Many times they can’t see it until the problem is over but helps with self reflection. #LeadLAP
I seriously am going to Barnes and Noble today....or https://t.co/5tPMYpeDq7. SO glad I happened upon this chat......it has helped my mindset in more ways than I can explain. I feel like I have a cheer squad encouraging me. #LeadLAP
A4 From the student's perspective, so that they can develop and rehearse a plan for next time this trigger happens - we can coach more productive ways of handling issues. From school standpoint, to evaluate our systems and create a responsive, inclusive environment #LeadLAP
A4 being able to recognize triggers allows us to help students be self aware and teach them when they need to use coping skills or ask for help #leadLAP
Elementary/Jr high. But has significant implications for beyond. I work with college students and have applied what I’ve learned to significant degree #leadLAP
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@SpEdTeachLove, @marywrenfromMT, @Greg_Moffitt, @CarlaShalaby
A4 So you can AVOID THEM, but beyond that so you can help students to understand the triggers and how to find ways to regulate their challenging behaviors when the triggers occur. #LeadLAP
Building a relationship with the students, eating lunch with them etc. will show them we care and trust them. This will help us figure out the triggers as well. #leadlap
A4: Because Ss are not always there own worst enemy. If look into triggers we can attempt to be preventative rather than reactionary. We can adjust schedules, adjust lockers, adjust ways of interaction. This isn’t us giving Ss the upper hand, it is us doing our job. #leadLAP
A4: If we don't know what's triggering the behavior then how do we know 2 recognize it b4 it happens again? Ss r bound 2 repeat the same behaviors. Symptoms 4 an illness r similar 2 triggers 4 a behavior. Watch & learn 4 those so u can b ready 2 respond appropriately. #leadlap
A4: We can be proactive and try to anticipate what supports are needed to help kids cope. This is way different than lawn mowing...removing obstacles. That doesn’t help them learn to face struggles. #leadlap
A4: shouldn’t we try to avoid triggers for challenging behaviors if we can so Ss can see and feel what success is like? Also being able to prepare Ss for when those triggers are coming can help soften the blow! #LeadLAP
A3: The fact of the matter is we don’t know what goes on in our Ss lives after they leave us. My Ss in the States had to raise their younger siblings, deal with the trauma of abuse, worry about being deported, and take care of sick parents. #LeadLAP
A3 - We have to remember that everything about school is a learning experience. How to conduct oneself is class, the halls, the playground, the school-all are learning experiences. When misbehavior happens, another opportunity for a learning experience. #LeadLAP
A4. If we can detect the triggers, then we can try to eliminate the behavior from occurring. Triggers can be words, actions, treatment, ect. done by individuals. After finding out triggers, we can separate them from the problem. #leadlap
A4 If we identifythe triggers and talk about them the students will learn to self-identify, self-regulate. What scaffolds or mechanisms can we provide to assist them? #LeadLAP
A4- part 2: I also think it is important to teach students to understand their triggers, not hide from them. The world is less forgiving- we have to set them up for success. #leadlap
A4: We need to know the triggers so we can intervene before behaviour escalates and so we can help our students learn to recognize and have strategies to deal with their triggers #LeadLAP
A4: If we take the time to identify the “triggers” that means we took the time to get know the kid. And that matters. The relationships we have with kids matters. #LeadLAP
A4: so we can figure out patterns. This will help the student learn when these behaviors are happening the most and what he/she can do to decrease them. #leadlap
#LeadLAP A4- because you can’t change a child’s history or home environment but you can change the environment that they have in your classroom to make it one of safety and caring
A4:We need to help Ss identify their triggers & teach them the skills to #selfreg. The goal is to give them skills to use even when we are not there to help. I check in with every S as they enter the class & can immediately tell if something is off. Then give supports. #Leadlap
A4: Set children up for success! We want to know the lifelines they need in order to succeed. Once Ts know better than we can help Ss do better. Don’t poke the bear! Don’t be the bear! Provide opportunity for self preservation♥️ #LeadLAP#Nan3EDU
A4: If our goal as leaders is to create the best LEARNING spaces possible for our students, then it is our responsibility to identify and addresses places or situations that don’t meet our expectations. #LeadLAP#StudentsFirst
A4This is essential. Often as adults we are the triggers and may be unaware of it. Tone of voice, proximity, rigidness,etc. Even certain phrases may trigger children who have been traumatized sexually. We have to be mindful. #LeadLAP
A4) This is so vital. The ABCs of behavior (Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence) let’s us know if we find and change the trigger, we can change the behavior. It also involves understanding a child’s past to help determine why that trigger causes a behavior. #LeadLAP
A4: Because students are not always their own worst enemy. We have to look at triggers so that we can be preventative rather than reactionary. Adjust schedules, lockers, buses, etc. This is not us giving in to students and their behaviors, it is us doing our job. #leadLAP
Knowing triggers gets to the WHY and allows adults to support student growth in response to those triggers. S can learn to manage and get through the rough times. #LeadLAP
A4: Triggers are the antecedents. They are part of the data we need to pinpoint patterns in kids’ behaviors. Once we have identified those, we can connect to the behavior and the consequence to create a plan for kids to self regulate that behavior. #LeadLAP
A4: If you can’t identify the trigger(s) and help the child see what it is, your strategies will be ineffective and reactive. You will not be able to help the child be proactive. #LeadLAP
A4: To truly teach students skills related to managing their behavior, it is critical to know the Ss' triggers & for the student to know his/her triggers. I really like teaching Ss about the ABCs of behavior as way to help them see triggers and consequences (+ or -). #leadlap
A3: It is most often the T who needs to be taught the skills in order to best provide & teach a S strategies/skills/positive replacement behaviors. It also takes a skilled and supportive team! #LeadLAP
A4: Knowing my triggers can prevent me from blaming others for my feelings. Sometimes, I am just hungry. Sometimes, there is a similar quality in a situation that is similar to a previous, negative experience. Understanding reality is helpful. Awareness is key. #LeadLAP
A4: There are always antecedents to behavior. Once the triggers are identified, we can work to eliminate, reduce or reframe the triggers and change the behaviors. (not as easy as it sounds!) #LeadLAP
A3: Ts need compassion, patience, and flexibility. They also need the to recognize when they need help and to reach out! Our guidance counselor @happycounselor1 handed out cards to our GL yesterday to help us with showing compassion and changing our language with our Ss! #LeadLAP
A4: Unfortunately, we cannot always remove triggers from our kids' lives. We must identify the triggers so we can help students OVERCOME them. We can teach students #growthmindset, #resiliency, #selfregulation, and #empower them to make better choices. #LeadLAP
Also; something this chat is causing the wheels to turn around is Sanford’s “challenge and support” model. If a student isn’t ready, we should be building environments to challenge and support them for when they are #leadLAP
A3: Difficult students need to be taught skills like self-knowledge, thinking before acting, empathy, labeling & communicating emotions, patience, forgiving others, and self-forgiveness. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A5: Empathy is critical. We need to be able to step into their shoes to determine what is happening and why. We need to be able to understand why they are feeling that way. #leadlap
A5: A story - Gr 1 S who has trouble self regulating. Screamed & cried when another kid took his lego piece. Other student then cried. In discussion - he looked over and finally realized his actions to impact others. #LeadLAP
A5: #LeadLAP. Empathy in this case is understanding the students needs and being able to relate to the teachers needs and knowing - or learning - how to hear support BOTH.
A4: one of the few things we have control over is our reaction/response to inappropriate behavior which could be triggering an escalation. Also, we can modify the environment to avoid hitting triggers to support if they are trying to avoid or obain something. #Leadlap
We use @ConsciousD in our district also and it is amazing - I especially love how it gives Tt the understanding/insight/words to help Ss learn how to connect/handle emotions so they can learn! #leadlap
I could write and write about this topic. So many of my sped Ss were labeled as problem Ss. I was always having to come to their defense. It seemed like no one took the time to help them manage their own behavior (be proactive), so I worked them. #LeadLAP
A4: If you identify triggers for a child you can prep them ahead of time and let them know your expectations and that it is an opportunity for them to practice staying calm and being respectful. Again, emphasizing that you care, want to help, and that they can do it. #leadLAP
A4: After asking questions for parents, specialists, and challenging student you can backwards plan in effort to support the student throughout a class, day, or bus ride. Next we have to coach all stakeholders to support the student with the plan. #LeadLAP
Q5: without empathy in education there can't be real connection with our students and without connection we will never see academic growth or understand their motivations #LeadLAP
A5 We need to show compassion and empathy to others, we never really know exactly what they are going through and it is so important to judge less and show compassion more!!! #LeadLAP
Just be ready. This isn’t a formula. It’s a diagnoses. The issue isn’t individual. It’s systemic. There are options to mitigate the issues, but you alone aren’t going to fix it. #leadLAP
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@marywrenfromMT, @SpEdTeachLove, @Greg_Moffitt, @CarlaShalaby, @mrronclark_
A5) Empathy helps us see different perspectives. As Ts we can understand the challenges a Ss may be facing or how they have experienced the world. Empathy is also important for Ss as they navigate a space with lots of other kids w/ diff experiences! #leadlap
A4 ID triggers so we can help Ss build a toolbox of coping strategies. This will support them in developing an understanding of their own reactions and can lead to development of self-regulation actions. #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is CRUCIAL! Understand that everyone comes with their own baggage, has their own experiences. We can't "live their life" but we can understand it is different than our own. Celebrate the differences that make us unique-begins with empathy and understanding. #LeadLAP
A5: We have a mom who is struggling. If we are not empathetic to her - we would be calling her and suspending her 2 boys daily. We need to understand her needs too. Relationships and teamwork is the best way to support the students. #LeadLAP
A4: When we ID triggers, we can work with the S to cope/deal with those situatios. We can also help to avoid, slowly ease into, and prep the S for work or situations that we know will be difficult for them. #leadLAP
A5: Empathy is the most important feeling a person can express. It opens so many opportunities for connection, establishing trust, and moving past obstacles. Empathy keeps people from feeling alone. #LeadLAP#JoyfulLeaders
Understanding the system and how it functions will help you better navigate it and have conversations with students and parents to help them navigate it as well. #leadLAP
In reply to
@marywrenfromMT, @SpEdTeachLove, @Greg_Moffitt, @CarlaShalaby, @mrronclark_
A5: Empathy is how we connect as humans. Empathy is putting yourself in their shoes. Empathy is truly understanding our Ss, their pains, their struggles, their desire 4 success & belonging. When we understand them @ a deep level, then we r truly able 2 teach & help them. #leadlap
A5: Empathy is the ability to understand others and their feelings. Without this we are shutting ourselves off from human connection. We must support and love one another towards a better tomorrow by taking the time to know where their are at today ♥️ #LeadLAP#Nan3EDU
A5: I worked with an amazing behavior teacher who said, "Kids do behaviors that work for them". The behaviors get them something they need or they perceive the need; behavior is communication & purposeful. Empathy is understanding this & taking time to learn ab. the Ss. #leadlap
A4. If we can identify their triggers, we know how to nagigate them towards success. You don’t always avoid their triggers, you teach them how to handle them. You prepare them and guide them. #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is hard to teach kids but we have to model it & find time to reflect w/ Ss about how their actions affect others. We also have to empathize w/ them making relationships so important. Most of us never experience things our Ss do so that can be hard too. #LeadLAP
A5: Holy moly...I love this prompt! Without empathy and understanding for our kids there is little to no chance that you will ever get to the root of the behavior. Empathy must be the heart of ALL interactions you’re having with Ss. #LeadLAP
A5 Empathy is learned as well as shown. Just because you are frustrated with a student's actions does not mean you can be empathetic to their journey. #leadlap
I would have Ts send kids to me just so that I could calm them down or the student would just come and find me. I use those as opportunities to teach them how to manage their own behavior. #LeadLAP
I could write and write about this topic. So many of my sped Ss were labeled as problem Ss. I was always having to come to their defense. It seemed like no one took the time to help them manage their own behavior (be proactive), so I worked them. #LeadLAP
A5: I worked with an amazing behavior teacher who said, "Kids do behaviors that work for them". The behaviors get them something they need or they perceive the need; behavior is communication & purposeful. Empathy is understanding this & taking time to learn ab. the Ss. #leadlap
A4: Identifying what triggers challenging behavior gives us a starting point to begin working on strategies to overcome struggle. Identification through conversation and observation data collection are starting points. #LeadLAP
A4: There will always be an antecedent or precipitating factor that triggers a behavior, even for our most behaviorally challenged. Find that (or those) & you are on the right path to creating a support plan to put into place for that child. #LeadLAP
A5 empathy is so important, students must know we care, can understand and want help them from a genuine place. If kids don’t think we understand that they will will make mistakes and we will still care for them then we will never reach a level of partnership #leadLAP
A5: Empathy means we must slow down and work hard to understand...see the challenges being faced by the student through her/his eyes...and then offering support that comes from the heart. #LeadLAP
A5. If a Ss can understand the trigger causing the behavior issue to occur, then the empathy model of understanding how someone feels because of a reaction to this trigger! Could have Ss act this out to understand fully! #leadlap
A5 empathy helps us realize some children face a mountain of challenges before they ever get on the bus or start walk to school,they use protective behaviors at sch that work at home -we need 2 see their strengths- challenged kids don’t know less they know different #leadlap
A4: We need to ID trigger for our Ss so we can better understand them/their behaviors (build the relationship) and so we can come alongside our Ss in those deep moments of struggle to help support/assist/strengthen them. #LeadLAP
A5: I worked with an amazing behavior teacher who said, "Kids do behaviors that work for them". The behaviors get them something they need or they perceive the need; behavior is communication & purposeful. Empathy is understanding this & taking time to learn ab. the Ss. #leadlap
A5 developong empathy hopefully removes your bias and prejudice out of a given situation. It allows you to respond as if it were your own child or you as a young kid struggling in this challenging world. #Leadlap
A2: Seems ridiculous on the surface because no one performs up to potential 100% of the time, but using the philosophy as a reason to dig deeper into the S's deeper context is extremely valuable. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A5: Understanding it is not one size fits all and having empathy towards students does not make you a weak leader. It makes you strong beyond measure. For you can see the path to make change in the life of a student is to connect with them on a heart to heart level. #LeadLAP
A5 Empathy is instrumental. Strangely, when one can imagine the perspective of the other, it helps us not take things so personally, reducing our gut/emotional reactions in a given situation. We make smarter choices if we keep our "thinking brains" in tact. #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is understanding the impact of your actions on others and the impact of your reaction to those actions. Teaching empathy through #restorativepractices has guided our work the last 2 yrs. #leadlap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy allows a relational connection and bridge to the student. Ss want to be understood. Our job is to be the example and teach new ways to respond and co-regulate emotions. Human first teacher second. #Leadlaphttps://t.co/liciI9tmgH
Empathy allows me to try to imagine how the student is feeling and take the perspective of the students so that I can begin to understand what they are feeling. Empathy allows me to separate the person from the behavior #leadlap
A5: I am convinced that seeking , displaying and teaching empathy is the single most important job we have as an educator. It leads humans to the most powerful force in the world LOVE #loveistheanswer#LeadLAP
#leadlap A6 The role of empathy? From a @self_reg lens, as @StuartShanker says, "A child responds intuitively to the changes he senses in you." As #coregulators, we have to remember that we lend children our calm. We cannot pour or lend from an empty cup. #seflregfirst#softeyes
A5: It's important to develop empathy in students. Start with Thankful class meetings, sharing gratitudes. Later add sharing of struggles (and a gratitude). Teach them to listen to each other. #LeadLAP
A5: You CANNOT reach and help so-called “problem” Ss without empathy. You know what they need-for you to listen and care. Like, really listen and meet them where they are at as human beings, who need to be loved. #LeadLAP
A5 Empathy allows staff to understand that there is something going on that is causing the behavior. It enables staff to remain positive about the child and want to find a way to support them. Without it we blame the child and take the behavior personal #Leadlap
A5: Empathy plays a major role in this work. Kids with behavioral issues want to be understood and they use negative behaviors to get their needs met. I also feel that humor in de-escalated times is a good strategy. #leadLAP
A5. Awesome video about understanding others circumstances and what they may be going through. Showing empathy is a must with teachers and students! https://t.co/llpUwiGukR. #LeadLap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A5: I became a teacher because I did not enjoy my academic experience. I understand the kids who just want to give up, or who struggle to understand concepts. Empathy reminds me to be creative and patient with my students and to make learning meaningful and possible. #LeadLAP
A6: understanding tuckmans model (forming, storming, norming, performing) is incredibly salient for me in understanding this. How we navigate the conflicts and storms in our class sets up norms for the year. Who is being centered in those norms? Who isn’t? #leadLAP
A4: Identifying triggers gives you the opportunity to help kids solve problems they are having or build skills they are missing instead of giving consequences. Why not use school to teach instead of punish! #LeadLAP
Q2: School leaders need to foster a culture of collaboration versus one of competition. Teachers need to do the same on their teams and among their students in the classroom. #LeadUpChat
A6: #LeadLAP. Morning community meetings, personal greetings, T’s and Admin modeling kindness, patience and collaboration so students know that’s an expectation.
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is KEY! So many incidents w/ a challenging child, a challenging family, a challenging teacher can be de-escalated with a calm & empathetic voice, body language, & change in your own demeanor. Without empathy you cannot connect on a personal support level. #LeadLAP
A6: We use Pretzel on Fridays where Ss give cubes to Ss who did something "nice" for them and then take cubes for things they feel wronged them. There is time for the group to talk about those situations and then they are dropped as we move into the next week. #LeadLAP
A4: Finally, an easy one. S-O-R. Behaviors are responses to stimuli by organisms. Humans are complex organisms, but their behaviors are highly correlated to their contextualized stimuli. To change R, the S and/or the O has to change, too. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A5: You CANNOT reach and help so-called “problem” Ss without empathy. You know what they need-for you to listen and care. Like, really listen and meet them where they are as ppl, who need to be loved. #LeadLAP
A1) I do a morning meeting with all my students. We greet each other by name. Structured(board games, matching games etc) play can also provide opportunities for positive peer interactions. Second Step has lessons on how to play, solve probs etc...#LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A5 jumping on so super late! Empathy has been leading me in building relationships-in my head always this year is everyone has a story thanks to @kimbearden and #talktome#LeadLAP
A4. If we know what triggers a leaner's challenging behavior, we clearly know the student - and that will help w/learner's behavior. It shows we cared to take the time to get to know them. #LeadLAP
Q5:No bad kids! We we have empathy for a S having an escalated moment it motivates us to help them instead of punish them. Also, just because Ss are teenagers doesn’t mean they have all the skills for #selfreg, teach them too! Also, have empathy with ourselves #selfcare. #leadlap
A5. Awesome video about understanding others circumstances and what they may be going through. Showing empathy is a must with teachers and students #LeadLap. https://t.co/llpUwiGukR
A6 We just started Restorative Justice Circle training for staff who are implementing in advisory classes. Lots of positive feedback from staff and students. #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is a critical component of the success of all aspects of school—not just behavior. Our students come to school with more on their minds than learning. We have to be conscious of that & realize that math & English come after hunger/shelter for some learners. #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy should self check us. When you are unfamiliar with something we are committed to supporting we often emit our implicit biases into the equation. #LeadLAP
A4: Step 2 #SelfReg: recognize stressors (including triggers)...this allows us to reduce the triggers and also build skills to manage them in more effective ways.
Lots of great resources about Self-Reg on the @Self_Reg website: https://t.co/uPVPuIWmLl#LeadLAP@StuartShanker
A6: Class Meetings/Circle times are a powerful way to allow students to share experiences, build empathy and create a classroom community where students work to support each other #LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A6:Celebrate everyones strengths and differences. Take the time to learn about each other and how to interact. Teach students empathy. It is a challenge, but remain transparent, be honest, expose them to new things, these all the experiences that help our students grow. #LeadLAP
A6) We try to give constructive compliments a lot. Encourage it btwn peers too, sometimes challenging behavior needs a reminder that there are good things too. #LeadLAP
A5: Relationship is everything. Empathy can help build relationships and show kids how much we care. When they know we will care no matter what they do, the possibilities are endless! #LeadLAP
You assume that I didn’t try to do just that. I did. Been trying to help Ts develop empathy for years now. As you say, I’m only one person and Ss need more than just me. #LeadLAP
A6. Humans are born intrinsically compassionate. Fostering that compassion by building a class community supported by EMPATHY is a must. Social emotional learning has to be taught in our classrooms. #LeadLAP
A6 Morning meetings are good for building relationships. Call each student by name. Every student should understand the “reset” button. Every day is a new day. Shift the mindset to shift the behaviors in your classroom. #leadlap
A6: Creating classroom norms together has helped 2 build community. Modeling kindness & empathy and Shoutouts 4 empathy & compassion have helped. In the class and school, making empathy and compassion cool have allowed for Ss to grow in tolerance& compassion #LeadLAP#leadlap
A6: My mentor teacher @JimSLTP would often say that COMMUNITY comes from COMMUNICATION and UNITY. It’s created when we give kids a chance to talk to and recognize each other for who they are and then work together to accomplish something. #LeadLAP
A6 students need a voice in the classroom and how it operates, building a sense of community through the expectations of kindness and mindfulness. Restorative practices need to become the norm as well. #leadLAP
A5: You CANNOT reach and help so-called “problem” Ss without empathy. You know what they need-for you to listen and care. Like, really listen and meet them where they are as ppl, who need to be loved. #LeadLAP
A5. I cannot completely understand what child has been through or is going through, but I can show them empathy. Care about their stories and they will know you care about them! #LeadLAP
A6: Whole class & school wide team activities to celebrate & build relationships. @Ruby_SneakersRT has great ideas for building community within the classroom through mindfulness. #leadlap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
yes! Also, in morning meetings you can hear what they did the night before, what they ate (or didn't eat) and we may learn more about the behaviors. #leadlap
A6: Build relationships from DAY 1! We must allow for every child to create new moments with better tools. Allow for times of listening, sharing, team challenges, hugs, high-fives, tool-kit builders, & modeling! Create Strength Posters! #leadlap#Nan3EDU
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A5: Empathy: the only way that people can truly connect. Connection and relationship through verbal and nonverbal communication is how teaching/mentoring/learning work. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A6: I think restorative practices are so important. But, I also think opportunities to include our students with challenging behaviors is key. Using student interests & aptitudes builds bridges & helps them to achieve success! One way we do it is through #FalconsCARE. #LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A6: Starting & ending the day w/ class cheers, songs, forgiveness discussions, hugs/high fives/fist pumps/handshakes in and out the door, & clear words that tomorrow is a new day and a fresh start! #LeadLAP
A6: Class meetings help and restorative circles (which I’m learning about thanks to the resources provided by @TraceyEnser and @jillian_damon). #LeadLAP
I model and we discuss for each large project. But mostly I try to model throughout the classroom. We do sentence starters as well. “I enjoyed learning with you today because...” #LeadLAP
A4: I would say Patience and self control are key. If I panic, I can´t help!. Then, think with your brain and your heart together. Don´t get too emotinal=I´ve been working on this for 30 years!😥😱 #leadLAP
A6: Responsive classroom / restorative circles are built into our daily schedules for ALL grade levels and all classrooms K-5. SEL instruction is push-in whole group/small grp so SS practice in their classrm setting. #LeadLAP
A6 our whole school started a kindness challenge with some pretty amazing lessons and topics-has been awesome to see Ss bonding (and Ts bonding!) through a kindness mission #LeadLAP
A7: I have started a whole new classroom management system where I write home, short reflective notes each week about the week that child had and end with it a compliment! I am hoping to be more transparent in expectations and foster the belief that it takes a village. #LeadLAP
A3 Listening is a lost art. It seems we all want to be heard, but who gets heard, let alone understood, if no one listens? We need to listen to our students, and all of our stakeholders for that matter, even when we disagree. Listen and Silent have the same letters. #LeadLAP
A6 Class meetings/morning meetings are on the rise. We also need to give Ss more time to actually interact with each other socially (real recess’s, for ex). School is stressful for some Ss, and when we push all day, they have no outlet! #LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A6: I don’t have any special tricks, but I try to help everyone get to know each other personally and put time into team building and collaborative games! #LeadLAP
A7: I’ve given my weekly Friday Focus for my staff a little makeover. I think it’s time I also include tips and tools for SEL on a more regular basis. #PrincipalGoals#LeadLAP#SWMOAdmin
A6 Build time into each day for kids to get to know each other personally. We do “good things” every morning as one example. They need opportunities to connect with the child beyond negative behavioral interactions so the child does not become their behavior. #Leadlap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A6: this is where I really struggle. We have a smallish school, 2 classes per grade. Ss with challenging behaviors often struggle to break out of that mold with their peers. “I still remember when you were mean in 3rd grade” kind of resentment. It’s heartbreaking. #LeadLAP
A6. Class meetings/circle times for Ss to share and discuss things and ask each other questions. Celebrate Ss strengths , differences, activities, interests, cultures, etc. Teach and model empathy and kindness towards others. #leadlap
A6) Dont underestimate the power of honest, open conversation and the compassion that our students have. Talk it out, share, and teach Ss how to practice patience and compassion. #LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
Q6: Love @ConsciousD “wish you well” activities, along with morning meetings and time to share their emotional status (if kids choose to do so). Starting the day off focused on the feelings of others will help kids and the teacher communicate with empathy. #leadlap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A7: I want to try fitting in more restorative practices into my meetings with students. Read Better than Carrots or Sticks this summer and want to infuse some of those ideas into my tool box. @domsmithRP@DFISHERSDSU@NancyFrey#LeadLAP
A7: I want to reach out to parents more when Ss with challenging behaviors are overcoming problems. They need to see the positive 10 times more than the negative. #LeadLAP
A6: Build a Teacher BIP that allows all stakeholders a support plan similar to the student. In order for the support plan of the student to work the people supporting the plan must be supported too. #LeadLAP
A6 Clubs and other community building activities are critical. Working closely with counselors, families, and mentors are also ways we can meet the needs of students. Teach conflict resolution skills. #LeadLAP
A6: We focus on 1 character trait a month school-wide. Wee have a time in the week to teach and talk. Currently or olders are using Cloud9 & youngers use Superflex. We started with Tribes. 4 rules are school-wide. #LeadLAP
A6: I like to hold class mtgs, do role playing activities, etc. but I also publicly say positive things about the child b/c kids respond to that. "Johnny always says Good Morning to me no matter how he's feeling." "Have you noticed Susie makes the BEST bracelets." #leadLAP
A6.2 @IndigoProgram we do morning meetings to greet each other, class meetings to help each other, communication lab to teach the language of empathy and collaboration, Project Cornerstone, Respect Groups, and Restorative Practices @CKawakami_PDA is a great coach! #leadlap
A7b: Also focussing a good portion of our school PD this year on creating FAIR Plans for students that our school wide behavior system is not reaching. Check out Jessica Minahan's Behavior Code and Companion workbook for great resources! #LeadLAP
A6: I am intrigued by restorative practices and what that can do for students. Continually fostering communication skills, which emphasizes both listening and speaking, is crucial to building the classroom community. #LeadLAP#communication
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
A7: I will continue to communicate with families often. Phone calls/emails home on a random day. Busting the notion that Ts only call with bad news. Making strong alliances with parents, Ss creating a strong network of support that tells Ss that we r ALL in it 2gether! #leadlap
A5 empathy helps us realize some children face a mountain of challenges before they ever get on the bus or start walk to school,they use protective behaviors at sch that work at home -we need 2 see their strengths- challenged kids don’t know less they know different #leadlap
A7: I am trying several new things at my new school: I challenged the whole community to do one thing a day to make our school an even kinder and more welcoming place, I am meeting with staff and students & have an online survey for parents to give everyone a voice #LeadLAP
A7) This Year we added a new communication system @BloomzApp. It allows us to send photos and S portfolios to parents in real time. Even in high school it doesn’t hurt to provide some “bragging rights” to kids and their parents. Gotta just upload more. #LeadLAP
A5: Humans aren't as good as we should be...to empathize w/ feelings & thoughts of others...maybe part of our formal education should be training in empathy. Imagine how different the world would be if...that were "reading, writing, arithmetic, empathy." Neil deG. Tyson #LeadLAP
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
Behavior masks a cry for help. Behavior can be an outlet for academic frustration, emotional distress and/or low self-esteem. As teachers, we need to see behaviors as an opportunity to dig deeper. #leadlap
Q6: Over time, challenging behavior can take a toll on peer relations. What are some good resources or tools for building the classroom community? #LeadLAP
Q6: Bldg class community can by done by getting everyone talking about their fears, disappointments, hopes, dreams, etc. Developing class norms together helps. Using "I" statements when annoyed to reveal effects of behaviours. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A6: Socratic circles or philosophical chairs that focus on the issue without targeting people. Offer opportunities to #LetStudentsSpeak Oftentimes they have ideas and solutions beyond what we can only dream. #Leadlap
A7: I want to try a unified strengths-based approach to supporting Ss with behaviors. We work as a team to teach behavior through common practices; using similar language & responses will shape the behavior. Also, trying for 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative. #leadlap
A3 Listening is a lost art. It seems we all want to be heard, but who gets heard, let alone understood, if no one listens? We need to listen to our students, and all of our stakeholders for that matter, even when we disagree. Listen and Silent have the same letters. #LeadLAP
A7: This year I am introducing #mindfulness into our EA training program. It has helped me respond to challenging behaviour with more compassion, kindness and curiosity. I think it can help us all personally and professionally.
Intro video: https://t.co/PpRKLn0seg#LeadLAP
A5: Empathy is KEY, we cannot work with people if we aren´t at least a bit empathetic (some educators ARE NOT! let me tell you!: they choose who to be empathetic with=pitiful!.I´m too passionate & God leads me to understand why & how. #leadLAP
A7) I would like to work to partner with parents more in helping with their child’s behavior/education. So often we work to just handle it as a school. We need to do more than just call home with the bad news. #LeadLAP
A7: It is my last year at my school, so I’m pouring my heart and soul to make empathy a focus. I’m using the fact that I’m leaving to get Ss and their parents to carry on the torch. They don’t need me to be the model. My efforts are slowly starting to bear fruit. #LeadLAP
A7: @KaliSlusser recently led a PD on #Mindfulness because we all needed a reminder to #JustBreathe. Ever since, I’ve been breathing with Ss and Ts on a daily basis! I want to better share these ideas with families. YouTube video? Remind text? #LeadLAP
A7 i has my first cogen/cypher meeting yesterday with select students and it was amazing. I’d like to continue with this idea. Thank you @chrisemdin for sharing! Great book, “For White Folks Who Teach in the Hood...and the Rest of Y’all too”! #LeadLAP
Me too! There isn't a day in the week I don't have someone in my office eating lunch with me (they chose to come)! I've had the same few students come for 5 years now. I don't know what I'm going to do when they move to middle school! #LeadLAP
A7: Teacher BIP to support teachers who are supporting challenging students. We are losing too many great teachers because they isn’t a consistent plan of support for them. Who’s their go to person when they’re emotionally wiped out? #LeadLAP
A8: I would love to have PD on empathy skills. I feel I possess a strong sense of empathy, but I would love resources and open discussions on how to show it, promote it and grow it! #LeadLAP
Special thanks to @drjoy77 for leading this critical discussion in #LeadLAP this morning!! I love this inspiring group of educators who come together on a Saturday morning to uplift and support each other. Thank you!! #tlap
Mindfulness and intention. Many of these students that exhibit challenging behaviors have no sense of self-worth. They have been disappointed so many times and they need to be treated with respect and feel they matter. #leadlap#KidsDeserveIt
A8: I would like to see more PL that pushes us to reflect on our personal biases and practices that impact student behavior. We have to be willing to have the challenging conversations #LeadLAP
Q7: One of my FAVORITE questions to "breakthrough" to Ss, Ps, and Ts is: "What do you need?" This question is impossible to be taken as aggression and often is so unexpected that you get a real answer that can move closer to a solution. #LeadLAP#ACSInnovates
A7 utilizing restorative practices between Ss and Ts after an event. We do it between kids but our Ts would benefit from this practice. Sometimes no matter how hard they try they do take the bahvior personal because they love their Ss. #Leadlap
A8 we have A BIST consultant that has been invaluable in helping us with these areas, I would like to visit a school that uses restorative justice and observe their program #leadLAP
I had my first cogen/cypher yesterday! Great ideas and communication! Thank you @chrisemdin for sharing your book, “For White Folks Who Teach in the Hood ...and the Rest of Y’all too”! #LeadLAP
A6: I have had some success w @responsiveclass, esp. ‘Morning Meeting’. It sets the tone for the day and centers the Ss@as well as values inclusivity. All depends on dynamics of class. As the T we always need to set the time and model expectations. #LeadLAP
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@drjoy77, @burgessdave, @responsiveclass
Thanks Nili! I am hoping that every child reaps the benefit of a school full of family members! Too often Ts take is personal when a child is connected to another T when really we should embrace the blessing. So much more to it but this one part speaks to me! #Nan3EDU#LeadLAP
The power of #LeadLAP on Saturday morning. My new PLN friend @MrAversano shares this image and I know what I'm going to share with our 200+ teachers next week. And the Pirate ripples go on and on and on....
I worry about that every day. I try and try to help my colleagues build their own empathy. I don’t want to be the only adult that is seen as caring. I share my work with colleagues, give presentations, and even made this a focus of my masters thesis. #LeadLAP
A7 inspired by @GeorgeCouros I am trying to start every class with a quick google form-way more than taking attendance it allows me to gain a sense of where Ss are how they’re feeling and see any patterns-it’s been amazing #LeadLAP
A1: I´d say that those kids hate us, teachers, or adults, don´t want to be given instructions, they´re rebellious because they´re pre-teens tweens or teens, that parents are abusive or too strict, teachers don´t understand them. #LeadLAP
A8) Helping our teachers to understand the background of the behaviors. Being Trauma informed, understand de-escalation, and helping them to identify the why behind behaviors that are occurring. #LeadLAP
A8: The power of empathy. Showing Ts &Ss how 2 practice in the classrooms Research that shows positive impact of empathy. People need 2 know the why. Practicing meditation k-12. Building time in the day 2 do so. Practicing 2 b present & the profound impact on academics. #leadlap
A3: Before we even get to behavior we need to make sure it is not a reaction to a missing academic skill! Then we can start to look at self-regulation techniques, breathing and mindfulness! #LeadLAP
A8 - Ongoing PD includes Teachers helping Teachers, a positive discipline approach to empathizing with student behavior and #minduflness . This is something @IndigoProgram really prioritizes #proudprincipal! #leadlap
Thank you #LeadLAP for this amazing invite and the opportunity to use this platform to share this work. I am grateful for the champions who participated this morning and everyone who works to ensure that ALL students find joy in school. One last thought for you here. Much Love!
A7 I would like to work more closely with @LaquicheParrott. Equity work, culturally responsive practices, discipline, etc. through the lens of School leadership. #LeadLAP
Thank you @drjoy77 for the great questions this morning! Thanks #LeadLAP crew for lots of great ideas and thoughts to ponder as I start my weekend! #gratefulforyou
A forgiveness discussion is where Ss that have an issue w/a peer (or w/ themself) ask for class help to solve the problem so forgiveness & moving forward can happen. The kids always come up w/the best solutions & ways to prob solve. Whole group/optional/super effective! #Leadlap
A7: We are doing a push in support for kids when they struggle with behavior. Our teachers don’t send kids to the office, instead they call for support from our kid support team and we come into the classroom to provide assistance. #LeadLAP
You can also find an archive to this and all the #leadlap chats on our website. Just scroll down to the bottom. Thanks @TaraMartinEDU for making this happen! https://t.co/vxEBZn4B1M
A8: Social and Emotional Learning across all grade levels and not just for isolated committees. ACES at a glance for Ts so they can see that even some colleagues are in need of supports so that they in turn can be better for every child. #leadlap#Nan3EDU
