#leadlap Archive

Our chat will focus on the idea that we can lead and make positive change from any position in our school systems. Leadership is not about a title, it is a way of thinking and acting.

Saturday August 4, 2018
10:30 AM EDT

  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:30 AM EDT
    Welcome to #LeadLap! Please introduce yourself, and share a GIF sharing your thoughts this morning! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:30 AM EDT
    YES! Thank you so much to @kimbearden for leading us today! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    I am the cofounder & executive director of @ronclarkacademy, an innovative middle school and educator training facility in Atlanta. Over 50K educators from around the world have visited our school to observe classes and receive PD training. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Thanks for joining us! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @rokstar19
  • tsschmidty Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Well, hello #LeadLAP! Todd, elem principal in CA... this is going to be a great chat with @kimbearden leading the convo!
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Good morning everyone. Tim from Nebraska #LeadLap
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Good morning! Scott, middle school dean from Michigan. #leadlap
  • MrsRackleyCCMS Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    YES!! THIS!! So important to remember as we welcome our students, parents, and staff for a new year! #RelationshipsMatter #CultureMatters #ChooseKind #LeadLAP #BePositive #BetterTogether #CommUNITY
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Welcome, Tim! Nebraska is so beautiful! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @timlriley
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Welcome! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @saschnit
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:31 AM EDT
    Teresa, MS Literacy Teacher, NY. #LeadLAP
  • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hey #leadlap - Jordan, K-4 principal from MA here. @Oprah
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    I'm Beth, proud middle school principal and co-author of #LeadLAP with the amazing @burgess_shelley So pumped to be here with you today!
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hi #LeadLAP crew!! I'm Dave Burgess from San Diego...but out on the road this weekend. Totally excited to have the amazing @kimbearden host today!!! Her #TalkToMe book has me like...
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Teresa, I have loved your comments on the book! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hi Colleen from Omaha! Former kdg T. Current ece program evaluator, author, and zookeeper to 4 monkeys. I’ve been looking forward to this chat all week. #LeadLAP
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Good morning #leadlap! Jon from Irvine CA in the house!
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Welcome! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @j_hoffman22, @Oprah
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Jordan! Great to have you here! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @j_hoffman22, @Oprah
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Glad to be here! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Good morning @kimbearden and #LeadLAP - I'm Jay from NJ, an elementary principal. Looking forward to sharing your message #TalkToMe
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    #LeadLAP Lisa Smith Apache Junction, Arizona
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Ryan from IL, just got up and ready for #LeadLAP
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hello #Leadlap! I'm Jessica, a principal from rural WI. Feeling relaxed this weekend, yet pumped up with ideas for the new school year and excited to join this chat!
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Welcome, Lisa! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @ljsmith0414
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Good morning, I’m Jove a MS Principal from MO #leadlap
  • WentzvillePRE Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hello,Elementary Principal from MO here! #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:32 AM EDT
    Hi, Colleen! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @fourmonkeypress
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    I am also the author of Talk to Me: Find the Right Words to Inspire, Encourage, and Get Things Done. The book teaches 6 principles for effective communication. I am so excited to join you all, so let’s get started! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • heathercalvert Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Good morning #LeadLAP! Heather, elementary principal from KS!
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Always great to see you, Jay! #LeadLAP #talktome
    In reply to @JayBilly2, @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Thanks for joining in! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Hi! I'm Gladys a high school instructional coach. Excited! I saw some years ago as you were a keynote at a small county conference here in Fayetteville, NC #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Hi, Lisa! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @ljsmith0414
  • principledlady Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Leila here from Escondido #LeadLAP
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Welcome, Teresa!!! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Good morning #LeadLAP friends! Excited to the convo today!
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Chris (MS Principal ) joining this great bunch. Inspired by all of you☕️Got my coffee - ready to roll. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    I have my caffeine, too! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Ryan7Read
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Welcome, Jove! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JoveStickel
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    So great to see you, Leila! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @principledlady
  • staci_erickson2 Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Staci from Texas 😃 #talktome #LeadLAP
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
    Hi! I’m Thomas from North Carolina! I’m an Instructional Facilitator! I’m so (see gif) because I’m about to head out to #WizardWorld!! #LeadLAP
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Thanks for being here, Leila! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @principledlady
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Tamara, tech integrator from VA, happy to connect in #leadlap today! My morning was filled making memories with my boys gaming!
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Hello #LeadLap! My name is Tika, and I am a teacher leader in Las Vegas, NV! 9 more days until school starts!
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Jonathan from Northern CA excited for an awesome chat coming off an amazing #leadupchat #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Thanks for joining in! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @WentzvillePRE
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Welcome, Thomas! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @martianteacher
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    #LeadLap Johnothon, HS math teacher, Ohio
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    I am so glad! I have loved every word. Definitely a book I will need to go back and reread. I just love the way you weave together personal/professional stories and insights/suggestions. Beautifully written! #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    I’m not a school leader so I’ll be doing more watching from the sidelines #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Thanks, Gladys! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @GladysJohnson03
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Staci! Great to see you! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @staci_erickson2
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Yeah I’ve cut down on it a lot this summer thanks to @jennifer_burdis been more green tea #LeadlAP
    In reply to @kimbearden, @jennifer_burdis
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Good morning, Jonathan! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @coacheagan
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Leila was my mama’s name! Welcome! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @principledlady
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Lena! Great to see you! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @Dr_LMR
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Hey Jordan, Good to see you. Hope all is well in your preparations. Hope to see you soon F2F - #LeadLaP #talktome
    • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:33 AM EDT
      What’s up, jay?
      In reply to @JayBilly2, @kimbearden
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Jason, Principal from Mo. hoping on for some #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Hi, Lena! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Dr_LMR
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Truly one of the best I have read! #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @burgessdave, @kimbearden
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Ricardo from WA excited to be here this morning. Hello Pirates #leadlap
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    James Whitfield, assistant Principal from the great state of TX! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 10:34 AM EDT
    Good morning! Tisha Tech Instructional Coach from Medford, OR! Excited to chat with @kimbearden and the #leadlap crew this morning!
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Ed Ventura @Chandler_View school librarian & Proud Union member @NEAToday @nsea_org @OmahaOEA Thanks to @fourmonkeypress for invite #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Welcome! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JASauer
  • yankee_todd Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Morning #LEADLAP ! Todd from San Antonio, Texas. Principal of the best school in the South! #boom
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    No way, Tim!! We need your input! Lead from anywhere! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timlriley
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Hello, Courtney from Bay Area. CA high school #ELA teacher and history teacher at an inclusive school. A little sleepy, but excited to be here. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    You are welcome, here! Thanks for joining us! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @timlriley
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    #leadlap Good morning! Lavetta from New Jersey is feeling BLESSED this morning!
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Hi #leadlap! Akilah, from VA. First year on my #admin journey! Always excited being here! #JoyfulPD
  • DrShanaHenry Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Shana, middle school principal from Nothern Ca #LeadLAP
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Welome, Todd! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @yankee_todd
  • TerriHarpster Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    #leadlap #learner #maker #leader of K-4 School in south central PA. I want Ss and Ts this excited about coming to school #BDNPLN
  • latoyadixon5 Aug 4 @ 10:35 AM EDT
    Good morning y’all! Latoya-checking in from SC and drinking some good ☕️. #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Good morning #LeadLAP Jenn here - ready to learn with the best
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Leadership is an action, not a title! You will love what Kim shares, as it is applicable no matter what you do! You've got this, Tim! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timlriley
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Awesome! Thanks for being here! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JasonCMcDowell
  • yankee_todd Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Thanks! Honored to say hello! #leadlap
    In reply to @burgessdave
  • GenvieveD Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Genvieve, principal from California #LeadLAP
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Rich Hayzler, Middle School Principal from NJ joining #tlap from the Jersey Shore where I am #vlap (vacationing like a pirate) #leadlap
  • kasnelson Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Hi #LeadLAP! I’m Kas, Elem Lead Learner in OK! Just picked up fresh peaches from CO...so I’m dying to dig in to them!
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Q1 is up! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Good morning! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @rokstar19
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Just LOOK at all of these amazing educators joining #LeadLAP this morning!! 😊 Meredith jumping in from beautiful SW Florida. I quickly snapped up this book as soon as it became available!!
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Morning #leadlap! Nili Bartley from MA -excited to be able to chat this morning.
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Morning, my friend! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @james_e_whit
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Although I identify more with the ninja way, I am a big fan of pirates! Permission to come aboard? Tyler from Santa Barbara, CA #LeadLAP
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Gotta love #vlap!! Glad you are jumping in, Rich! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @RichHayzler
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
    Hey #leadlap I'm Dennis ... if my kids can't #TalkToMe then i find that to be a personal failure.
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Thanks Beth! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: Seek to understand their perspective. Provide time for them to share what they are comfortable sharing. Support thought listening! #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Hi, Meredith! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @mjjohnson1216
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    I agree— me too! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @TerriHarpster
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Hey y'all! Jumping in a few minutes late - going to spend the day on the lake! Alicia from NC #LeadLAP
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Good morning #LeadLAP crew! On the road but will pop in as signal allows.
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: do they have all the informationtheu need, what is really at the root of the problem #LeadLap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: LISTENING is key. I need to Seek to Understand first and see things from their perspective. Also body language, it can speak volumes! #LeadLAP
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: what can I do to genuinely validate them? I start there. #leadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: So important to not make any judgements. To listen to understand and try to come together for the sake of students. #Leadlap
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Still time for our next few studies.... #2menandabook #LeadLap
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: Not everything that's going on with them will be spoken aloud. Watch and assume best intentions. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JasonM_2 Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Morning from Australia #leadlap
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1: It's important to consider where they're coming from. What is their experience, their understanding, and their perceptions. We need to be empathetic in our approach to working with people #LeadLAP #talktome
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Welcome, Tyler! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @3_DLeadership
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Exactly! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tamaraletter
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    ✨👟Good morning, #LeadLAP Crew! I'm Kimberly from Nebraska, and I teach 7th Grade ELA. So excited to be here this morning for a little chat time with @kimbearden to get the gears turning! 👟✨#TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    A1 their personal story, what their day has looked like so far or the night before, what is their emotional state #leadlap
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 10:37 AM EDT
    Clay. MS Principal from Grinnell, IA. A1: Definitely need to make sure to take the whole circumstance into considering when working with a S, Tch, or family. There’s always more than meets the eye. #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    I regularly remind my staff that everyone has a story, and we may never know what someone else is trying to overcome. Therefore, we must build relationships and let those who struggle know that we see them and care! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • heathercalvert Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: I always try to take the value system of the other person into consideration. The conversation goes much differently if I speak to their values. #LeadLAP
  • tsschmidty Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: A big struggle for me is really listening rather than just waiting to respond...sometimes you miss so much when all you are doing is biting your tongue to keep from interrupting... #talktome #leadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: I try to keep in mind that, in general, people are good. I do all I can to imagine that the Ss, Ps, and Ts have done all they can and are still struggling. #LeadLAP
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    Yes! There is always more to the story! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Ryan7Read
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    I am a tech coach and green leader at an incredible school in @OakHarborPS and I am getting my Master's degree from @WGU. #Leadlap
  • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: They have a voice and want to be heard. The saying "the struggle is real" and sometimes people want to be able to explain their struggle and what is behind it without judgement. #talktome #LeadLAP
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1. Empathy is important so understanding their perspective and getting them to be part of solutions and having them share ideas. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • latoyadixon5 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1. Use emotional intelligence. Listen to what they say and what they don’t say. Ask clarifying questions. Express my empathy and understanding before “trying to fix it”. #leadlap
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1 I always try to put myself in their shoes and think about how I would like to receive the message I am delivering. Being honest also build trust. #LeadLAP
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    YES! Listen to care! #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
      I regularly remind my staff that everyone has a story, and we may never know what someone else is trying to overcome. Therefore, we must build relationships and let those who struggle know that we see them and care! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: What happened RIGHT before they came to me? What is going on in their life right now that we may know nothing about at all. See to understand and presume positive intentions. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: Always try to put myself in their shoes to better understand where they are coming from. #talktome #leadlap
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    Good morning #Leadlap I’m a principal from right outside of DC. Super excited for the new school year
  • staci_erickson2 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1- what are the needs? What action can we take to help with those needs. How can I offer support? Making sure we do a lot of listening. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    SO important. Listen more than you speak! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1 Listen. Provide should to cry or vent. Heard all summer - so many have things in their backpacks we are not aware of #leadlap #talktome
  • yankee_todd Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: been thinking about this all summer as we get ready to have kids return. We all need to remember our why! We all got into the game to change it. We wanted movies made about us! It’s our mindset when dealing w/struggling SS. #LeadLAP
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1. Listen. You can learn so much about their perspective. #LeadLAP #talktome
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    Hi Carl! Great to have you here! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @patton_carl
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 10:38 AM EDT
    A1: Always remember the times when struggled, reflect on how it made you feel, and how you felt. Be considerate, patient, nonjudgmental & *listen*! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Consideration doesn’t mean that you allow others to bully or mistreat you. It is a mindset that tempers your approach and interactions. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1. Stopping and really hearing them. I want to focus on more of where they are coming from. What’s their story? #leadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    I learned a lot listening to @Sisonkemsimang about storytelling. Every story has a beginning, middle, and end. You may be engaging with someone’s middle. The end hasn’t been written yet. #leadlap
    In reply to @kimbearden, @Sisonkemsimang
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Awesome! You just mentioned the 4th principle, one of my favorites! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @3_DLeadership
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1: Their story is so important. We need to learn it in a way that honors the person—not intrusive or judgmental—we give them time to share, reassure that we want to listen. They need to feel that we are seeking to understand. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1 I try to relate with what’s going on with their home life..at the very least I take that into account. #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Right! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @PrincipalJ
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1: I focus on listening and understanding the why of what is going on #leadlap
  • JasonM_2 Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1 I always view what is happening from their position and ask myself why is it happening. People don't struggle or fail on purpose there is always something that is leading them to. If we find this we can help them to succeed. #leadlap
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1: Think about where they are in this particular moment. Listen to them and be a smiling face when they may need it most. Everyone is going through something. We need to be the one to help them. Be empathetic, caring and supportive. #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    I love that. Assume best intentions! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JennSagendorf
  • samueltcollier Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Good Morning everyone with #leadlap! I am a high school SPED coordinator in Ohio. I have recently started reading the book and can’t put it down.
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1. Not everyone is coming to the table with the same experiences and background. We need to be mindful of that. #LeadLaP #talktome
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Yes! EVERYONE has a story! You're just there for a chapter in that story. What can you do to make their story a good one? Love it! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @fourmonkeypress
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    A1: I try to validate their frustration, anger, helpless, or whatever emotion they’re feeling but guide them into a solution mindset. No problem too big that we can’t figure out or find help. #LeadLAP
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Yes! Body language is important to assessing their message of need. #leadlap
    In reply to @JennSagendorf
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:39 AM EDT
    Have you failed? What happened? What did you learn? Most true learning occurs when we get out of our comfort zone, take healthy risks, and get off the porch #GOTP. When we do this and have a positive mindset, there is genuine and deep learning. #leadupchat #satchat #leadlap
  • WentzvillePRE Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Am I taking the time to truly listen and do they need answers or just to be heard. Where are they coming from and I might be the only person they have that can be positive for them! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: Need to be empathetic- try to look through their lens. Come from a point of care. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Empathy is key. Yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1 Some factors I take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker are his/her change in behavior, how they have reacted in the past,our relationship. Is there trust there? How can I validate how this person is feelling? #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • mrjefflahey Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Jeff HS AP in TX. At martial arts with my son. #LeadLAP
  • MrsMochrie Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Hi #LeadLap! I’m Julia, and Instructional coach from Nor Cal. Excited to join in!
  • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: listen with an open mind and heart and ask what they need from me. Assume positive intentions. Know that I can’t possibly know their whole story. #leadlap
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: Their perception, I reflect on how they might respond. I have predetermined answers to questions they may ask. Comfortable/relaxed appearance. Calm voice and understanding approach. #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Love your photo— perfect! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @KimSnodgrass
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: Howdy #leadlap crew ~ When someone's struggling, my goal is to step into their story and figure out the root. Is it a behavior masking a fear? Is there a trauma or change we need to understand better? #Empathy is a key in helping move forward compassionately.
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Good Morning! Niki Cassaro, MS AP from Seattle. #leadlap
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Hi #leadlap! First time joining this chat -- MS ELA teacher in Missouri.
  • kasnelson Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: 1. location-conversations should always be private. 2. Existing relationship between myself & other person. 3. I do More listening than talking in many cases. #LeadLAP
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: It’s imperative that we understand and try to see things from their perspective. Most often it’s not bc they want to be difficult, it’s simply bc they‘re having a rough time. We must listen and seek to be empathetic in our practice. #talktome #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Something I’m chewing on; why don’t we include our admins in this question? What factors do we consider in communicating with a struggling principle? Are those factors similar or different? #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Empathy! Yep! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @RichHayzler
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: #LeadLAP I communicate through the lens of pure #empathy: I listen purely seeking to understand & help them to be a part of a solution.
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: Factors to consider for struggling Ss include • Does content connect to Ss personally? • What factors outside of school might contribute to motivation? • Am I forcing info or guiding Ss thru learning? #LeadLAP
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    #LeadLAP A1. I always remind myself that naturally everyone wants to do well. It is not a natural instinct to want to fail. Then listen and take the time to invest in their struggles to success.
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1 Understanding that individual student ... knowing them ... how I speak to them varies and if an outsider sees how I interact with my kids they may be confused, but i do what I have to do. #leadlap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1: This has weighed heavily on my mind especially as we enroll new students and families. Are we taking time to truly listen and consider what has brought them our way. There's always a story. Can't be caught up in the paperwork more than the person! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    A1 this is hard sometimes but before having a serious conversation I try to identify what I’m thinking and what my emotions are first so that I can be as open minded and empathetic as possible. #leadlap
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    Back at you captain! #leadlap
    In reply to @burgessdave
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    I love that. It means that you really see others and notice them. SO important! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tikaee
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
    You have to give them your undivided attention and listen. While listening, try putting yourself in their 👠 shoes. This is what I do. #LeadLap
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Assuming they have positive intentions is huge! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    #LeadLAP
    • swrather62 Aug 4 @ 10:40 AM EDT
      I take into consideration, what are some of the basic needs of the student etc.that we need meet, before we can move on.
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Tara from Kansas=Sliding in a tad late...but oh so PUMPED to join the #TalkToMe #leadlap with my girl, @kimbearden ! Let’s do this thing!!
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A1: If they have transgressed norms then I try to empathize and brainstorm good reasons for them to have transgressed. What if there is a situation going on at home? #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Listening with heart… yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A1, make sure they know we all want the same outcome, their success; then work to see their perspective before developing a plan #Leadlap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Great advice! ::taking notes of what @BarbaraGruener shares::: #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener, @BarbaraGruener
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Excellent point, Todd! #leadlap
    In reply to @tsschmidty
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Welcome, my friend!! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @TaraMartinEDU, @kimbearden
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Grrr. Autocorrect. I’ll leave it because I’m #flawsome #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    Great way to be prepared. And yes, be calm… #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @saschnit
  • stevenhelmick Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A1: Am I truly listening or just planning a response. I’ve got to actively listen! #LeadLAP
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A1: Listen first. I need to know where they are coming from. No two people see the same situation through the same lens. #leadlap
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A1: Our first reaction should be to understand and relate #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    I love that phrase “step into their story” #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener
  • principledlady Aug 4 @ 10:41 AM EDT
    A:1 I always try to presume positive intent. I always try to use reflective questions. I embrace vulnerability #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    A1: My mentor teacher, Melinda Oliver, taught me that many times angry parents just mostly want to feel heard...give them the space and oxygen to be heard. I wrote about her here: https://t.co/cVSknlCDQf #LeadLAP #tlap #TalkToMe
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    A1: Listening to what’s being said. Let them do the talking. Offering support and resources depending on the struggle. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    So important...because it can be hard to listen with our thinking brain if we are emotional about a situation. #leadlap
    In reply to @nbartley6
  • PlayYay Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    I make sure that when I'm communicating I'm using their feelings as a guide and not my own. #talktome #leadlap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Honor privacy— yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @kasnelson
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Great advice! Sometimes people don't want advice, don't want you to fix their issue. They just want to be heard and validated. #leadlap
    In reply to @latoyadixon5
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Maslow is so critical, and we often forget it! Excellent point! #leadlap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    A1. Don't think or judge .... just listen. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    "Understand and Relate"... BOOM! Here comes @JayBilly2 killing it today! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @JayBilly2, @JayBilly2
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @james_e_whit
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    True-consideration is a bridge to healthy, impactful communication #TalktoMe #leadlap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • mrjefflahey Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    A1: Separate the struggles from the people and always use positive presumptions. It's truly never to late to get going. #LeadLAP
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    #Leadlap A1: Listen, sometimes people have a lot of stressors that we don't know about. Assume good intent and always start fresh with students, sometimes each moment. #TalkToMe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Great quote! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @OrganicLeaderVB
  • kwiens62 Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    A1: I like to remind myself that “kids do well if they can” and not just kids...everyone is doing the best that they can in each moment. If they are struggling, something is getting in their way. I try to be curious and less judgemental. #LeadLAP
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    @kimbearden A1. Listen first. Understand their struggle, and work with them to find a solution...if that's what they need. Don't make assumptions, and don't solve things *for* them. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Forcing or guiding.. that is powerful! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @courtkneeruns
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
    Thank you, Kim! It's not always easy, but it IS always worth it! #TalktoME #leadlap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • KamRenae Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A1 one needs to always consider where they are coming from... Their background and experiences that have influenced them and gotten them to this point... #talktome #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A1. So much benefit to being quiet! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    I'm downloading your book on my kindle right now #TalktoMe #LeadLAP @dbc_inc
    In reply to @kimbearden, @dbc_inc
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    So important to be empathetic to that person, to have the #EmotionalIntelligence of their state, and then use a good tone/approach to deliver the message. Sometimes the best thing is to LISTEN after the message. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    Love this reminder, Beth! It could be that something happened right before the discussion that has nothing to do with the main issue, but it was a catalyst to an emotional response. So important to keep this in mind! #leadlap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    Wonderful, Nili. Mindset and reflection are important! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @nbartley6
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A1: Gotta be totally immersed in listening means dropping everything else! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • heathercalvert Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A2: We have to recognize that timing is everything. If I’m coming from a place of negative motivation, or I’m not in a solid emotional state, the conversation shouldn’t be happening. #LeadLAP
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    Hey friends! Mena, Instructional Learning Coach in Kansas, popping in a little late! :) #LeadLAP
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A2: I always try to build trust from the beginning. I currently have been connecting with my Ts for the upcoming year. Being new to the admin team and school, I need to do my thing, but I also want them to know I understand where they are coming from. #leadlap
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A2 build those relationships up. Pick them up when they need it and they will do the same for you. #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:43 AM EDT
    A1: Ask questions to seek to understand rather than lecture. Listen AND hear- use what you learn to build the conversation. Make sure they know you are on their team- be authentic. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Hi Tisha! Yes! So important! #leadlap
    In reply to @tishrich
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A2: We have to take the high road as the administrator. There is no other choice. However, we can always put a halt to a conversation as resume later when emotions aren’t as high. #LeadLap
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Let the kids vent ... sometimes they need to get it off their chest so they can move on. We don't have to fix everything. Sometimes just being there is all they want and need. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tamaraletter, @latoyadixon5
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Seeking understanding is make or break in these situations! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A2: First of all... love this chart! Second and easy way is just to keep referring to what we want the outcomes to be and why. If we remain with our why, we'll stay with the positive #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tsschmidty Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A2: Modeling is key...hard for teachers to focus on this when site leaders are not walking their talk! #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Q2 is UP! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A2. Keep the focus on “helping others improve and grow” - that starts by making connections and developing trust. Always remember it’s nit about you - it’s about kids! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    See their persective! Yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @patton_carl
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A2. I love this idea! When I am motivated by KINDNESS I like it to be random and a secret. Then I know I am truly doing it for the right reason. #LeadLaP #talktome
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Hey Y’all Henry HS Principal from MA here and excited to learn from you! #LeadLAP
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Your gif game is on point this Saturday morning, @bethhouf !! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BethHouf, @BethHouf
  • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    A1b. I think it’s also helpful to make a plan to follow up. #leadlap
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    Dealing w/parents is always a job interview?? Thanks for this #Leadlap
    In reply to @burgessdave
  • TerriHarpster Aug 4 @ 10:44 AM EDT
    #leadlap #talktome our perceptions are often the reality we experience and base decisions upon...important to know what the perceptions of others are...I start conversations with Ss, Ps, and Ts with a ?
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    Before a mtg that might be a challenge, I remind my team of our goals, such as to seek solutions, truth, and insight. I remind them that the goal isn’t to be right; the goal is to help the parent or child. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A2: I loved from @TaraMartinEDU #RealEdu sitting beside the person you are talking to, coaching, conferencing, etc. Making it feel like a "we". And skillfully focusing on strengths & positives. Don't let it turn into a grip session, especially for Ts #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A1. Talk, talk, talking during communication with someone struggling will eventually gain you a school with people who have nothing to say. #LeadLAP
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A2. As a former T the biggest impact an admin could have on me was the climate and culture they set for the building. Was gossip running the show? Did the admin partake? Lead by example. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A2: it’s developingbthose relationships and celebrating the small victories that lead to giant celebrations #LeadLap
  • samueltcollier Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A1: When communicating with others who are struggling I really try to first understand their viewpoint and where they are coming from before saying anything. #Leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    Yes— they watch what we do and say as leaders. We must set the standard! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tsschmidty
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A2: always focusing on the positive and best intentions and being clear on your WHY keeps you focused on the positive #leadlap
  • yankee_todd Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
    A2: Treat every interaction as if the other party has the best & purest intentions. AND it starts over each day with each smile & each interaction. #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    By reminding my team of the positive motivators, it also lets them know that they don’t have anything to prove. They don’t have to rely on neg. motivators like defensiveness or anger. They relax because they know I already support them. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A1 CONSIDERATION ✨👟✨👟✨ "True leaders understand that communication isn’t as much about the words you say as it is about the sincerity with which you say them." ~@kimbearden ✨👟✨👟✨ #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2: Practice communicating without backing others into a corner. Steer conversations toward positives. There’s room for all to be successful. #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A1: It's important to start these conversations by conversing in a way that communicates we have the same goal: their kid's success. Then, listen, listen, listen, ask Qs to ensure understanding, bring in additional supports if needed, develop a plan collaboratively. #leadlap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2. This is so true! People know when we are being genuine and sincere. Ss pick up in this in our interactions with them. Helps me to build strong relationships when my motives are positive and respectful. #LeadLaP #talktome
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2: I LOVE the approach our school takes with "presume positive". I've used it in several areas of my life when approaching conflict, not just at the school. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2: Staying focused on the truth... the facts is so important when communicating. So many times our opinions and emotions get in the way of really hearing and resolving the problem. #LeadLAP
  • SarahSajohnson Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    Hey my #LeadLAP family. So badly want to join in this morning with @kimbearden’s #talktome message. Mama immersion time calls! I’ll check back in later to learn from you all! Already seeing so much awesome. @BethHouf
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    Thanks, Gladys. Honored. #leadlap #TalkToMe #REALedu
    In reply to @GladysJohnson03
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2: I'm reminded of this clip and how differently things would have gone if the child had shown empathy instead of envy. Show clips like this to your stakeholders and discuss. Every day, we get to chose! https://t.co/AvCnPuOM09 #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2: I believe in transparency & honesty. As a team, all must be willing to be open to having a growth mindset. Show yourself loyal in everyday interactions. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    Yes, Tara has great examples of this! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @GladysJohnson03, @TaraMartinEDU
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    It's so important to start the school year with positive phone calls home, especially look for something good to say with previous "frequent flyers" but reach out to all to build relationships, then hard convo. Isn't so difficult later. #LeadLAP
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    Good morning #leadlap! Tracy, T from MA, jumping in to Q1. A1: Everyone at the table has best interests of Ss in mind, but w/different perspectives.
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:46 AM EDT
    A2 I truly feel a lot of this goes back to the old adage “treat others as you would like to be treated”. We are all different but we all want to be heard. Anger and NEGATIVITY MAKE NO ONE FEEL BETTER. you catch more flies with honey #leadlap
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: Leaders need to model these behaviors first. Don't tell others how to behave (especially if you aren't doing it yourself). Show people how. Then be transparent about why. "Sometimes it's hard for me to ___ but then I think ___" #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2. This comes naturally if you keep your passion for helping others in your heart. Your impact extends outward - on and on and on .... #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: I’m learning that it’s okay to not have a response immediately. It’s okay to take time to breathe, think, consult, brainstorm solutions and solve a problem well rather than fast. #leadlap
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: I’m reflecting on the juxtaposition of truth and peace. It feels like those two things are opposed when speaking truth might create cognitive dissonance #leadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • WentzvillePRE Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2 As the admin it is imperative to keep the team focused on our WHY and do my let to keep us positive and build the bond among the team! #LeadLap
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: Modeling focus on the positive in situations where it would be easy to fall into the negative trap. #Leadlap #TalktoME
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2 Some ways to keep our team focused on the positive motivators is ALWAYS thinking is our discussion based on what is best for kids. Our parents are usually trying to be advocates for their babies. We need to work together to do what is best for their kids. #LeadLap #TalktToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2. The positive motivations require self-discipline and practice, the negative motivations are default actions. Get disciplined and practice daily. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: I tend to go negative when I'm not making sure I'm my Maslow needs are met--exhausted, hungry, etc. I've got to take care of me, so I can keep the focus! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    Love that you're practicing what you preach! #BalanceLAP #LeadLAP
    In reply to @SarahSajohnson, @kimbearden, @BethHouf
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: I think being clear about my own motivation before entering a conversation is very important. We, as humans, vibe off of one another. If I enter a convo balanced, positive, humble, I can gage where my Ts are coming from and guide in a + direction #LeadLAP
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    So stinkin' true, Alicia. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @iluveducating
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    That is great— I love that! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @HapnerMelody
  • staci_erickson2 Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2- I always go in remembering my purpose for the meeting. Is it to be right? If it is then it’s really easy to slide right into those negative motivators. Keep the goal in mind and it’s easy o stay with the positive motivators #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    So important. We do NOT have to attend every argument or negative interaction we're invited to, right? Self-care at its finest. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
    A2: On any given campus, complaining is common. Most of the time, its venting without a solution. So our teams have set a norm. If you express a concern, then you must also propose a solution or engage in brainstorming solutions on the spot. #LeadLAP #talktome
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Love this, Melody! #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @HapnerMelody
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Admin need to guide ... cultivate success in their teachers in the same way teachers do with their kids. Give us what we need to be successful and let us grow. #leadlap
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Providing insight about that new mandate or procedure will help in maintaining a positive atmosphere. In other words, don't just introduce it, share the WHY. This may avoid the negative talk. #Leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Agreed. Sometimes we just want to "get it off our plate" rather then think it through. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    A2: My challenge to keeping positive motivation is looking at the vision for who and what our classroom will become. The moment I focus on myself is the moment I lose purpose. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Loyalty. Yes. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @martianteacher
  • PlayYay Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    A2: I believe when we are positive with each other as a staff, it is easier to focus on the positive in all aspects of the building. #kindness #relationships #onegoal #talktome #leadlap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    That is such an honest sharing ... you are appreciated!! #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    A2 my former principal @AcarverM reminded us often that if we walk around with the mindset that everyone around us is well intentioned what a difference it would make. I think this certainly helps with remaining positive as well as with moving forward. #leadlap
  • MrsMochrie Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Q2 Being aware of the negative motivators and acknowledging that they exist. Sometimes this helps me to take things less personally and instead focus on the solutions. #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    Truthbomb! Hangry leads to bad interactions #leadLap #
    • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
      A2: I tend to go negative when I'm not making sure I'm my Maslow needs are met--exhausted, hungry, etc. I've got to take care of me, so I can keep the focus! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
    YES! I will often say, "I need some time to think about this." #leadlap
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • MarshaSirkin Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A1: Everyone has a story that shapes them. We are all in this together and have to be a positive force to build one another up and relate with fellow humans. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:36 AM EDT
      Q1 What are some factors that you take into consideration when communicating with a struggling student, parent, or coworker? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    It is hard to express appreciation when… #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    This is a tough line, for sure! Not so easy to navigate in the real world...great point. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @3_DLeadership, @kimbearden
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Love this chart! Remembering not to take personally any behaviors that may shown. People from adverse experiences will protect themselves when they don’t feel safe. It isn’t personal, so we keep our focus on helping them feel safe. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Crucial not to allow too much problem admiring ... it breeds negativity and resentment ... and steals our joy right out from under and inside of us! #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A2: Creating norms to be solutions-oriented and laser-focused on the topic at hand. Also, I challenge the team to always assume positive intent. If we lead with the heart of believing people are coming from a good place it can help tremendously. #talktome #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A1: Honesty and empathy are so important and have to go hand in hand. How can you give any feedback if you don’t demonstrate empathy? Also celebrating growth is so important to keep leaning towards those motivators. #LeadLAP
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A2: The words we choose to use or not use are sooo important. Just one word can make or break motivation! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Yes! In the book, I talk about the concept of hesitation… pause, reflect... #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @j_hoffman22
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A2: Keeping the focus on solutions & compromise or consensus. Egos need to be kept in check; it's not about us, it's about kids. #leadlap
  • mrjefflahey Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A2: I've become a big believer in the idea that you should always start by asking if there's an elephant in the room and if so, identifying it and resolving it first. Otherwise those negative motivations will reign supreme. #LeadLAP
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    SO important! Those who are functioning in a negative mindset cannot be pulled from that headspace until they are listened to and feel that they have been heard & VALIDATED! This is KEY!! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timwolffSSD
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    This. When pointing out in checkers that by jumping a certain place you get exposed to being “double jumped” does that create complaining culture or a culture of care and compassion? #leadlap
    In reply to @timwolffSSD, @j_hoffman22
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Yep. Can't help others if you are a mess. #leadlap #BalanceLAP #mentalhealth
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    A2 Being the example - be an open book by telling your story. When a situation arises then your teammate will not be afraid to communicate with you #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    ...and being positive about other, even when they aren't around. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @PlayYay, @kimbearden
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Q3...a favorite #LeadLAP topic for sure!! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Absolutely! And LOVE the Golden Girls GIF!😊 @BethHouf #LeadLaP
    In reply to @PlayYay, @kimbearden, @BethHouf
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    That is how it should always be. I love schools that remember this! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tikaee
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:49 AM EDT
    Applies to adults too! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • cybraryman1 Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    Helpful pages for this #LeadLAP chat Our Parent-Teacher pages https://t.co/q2TGnIbiDR includes PT Communication. Our Communicating with Children page https://t.co/Q6fSaS1X8W @RemindHQ page https://t.co/Y30CRWkmjK @ClassDojo page https://t.co/nq8eZx9VVn
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    Very true. That happens to me, too. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • silversprings77 Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A1) empathy...look at things from their perspective and approach the situation as an ally rather than an enemy. We usually all have the same goal in mind (Ss well being) and they need to be reminded we are teammates. Think “how can I bless them” #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    Oh my gosh yes! I am more than willing to listen...... IF you want to try and reach a solution. BUT if I am just a sounding board, you are moving on to the next person after me, then it doesn't seem like the intention is to problem solve. #leadlap
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    Exactly. Love the way you said that! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JASauer
  • MarshaSirkin Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A2: Build a habit of being positive and finding the silver lining. In turn the bigger picture will be clearer than ever. #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A2: If we are filling the cup of positivity for others on a daily basis, it helps to pour from it on stressful days. While it's natural to feel negative emotions, recognizing those moments and redirecting ourselves can help others, too. #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A2: People don't always know they hold the key to a solution. Providing options, offering advice and modeling a positive outlook is https://t.co/DfyXocfcI0 people find their purpose and live their excellence. They may know their "what" but they don't know their "why." #leadlap
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A2 I believe in #JoyfulLeadersship: those qualities mean we communicate with love, empathy & understanding on our vision in mind. We want safe, vibrant learning environments-all communication can be a bridge to this #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:50 AM EDT
    A3: It's hard to express appreciation when I don't feel appreciated. #LeadLAP
  • heathercalvert Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3: It’s hard to express appreciation when I get super busy. I have to make a conscious effort to stop and show appreciation! #LeadLAP
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2 REFLECTION IS KEY ✨👟✨👟✨👟 "If you had yourself as a teacher, what kind of student would you become?" ~@kimbearden ✨👟✨👟✨👟 #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3:.......you point out what I have NOT done instead of appreciating what I HAVE done. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Wonderful idea. The perfect norm. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Very good point. We have to keep ourselves balanced (as much as possible) to be at our peak performance level for the ones we serve. #Leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • samueltcollier Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2: When working with others I really try to focus on the relationship I am building. This allows me to keep me focused on positive motivators. #LeadLAP
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Thanks for the resources Jerry! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo
  • GenvieveD Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Take time to really listen to understand. Connect to their perspective and experience. #LeadLAP
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    WOW!! Just check out the length of the responses shared during #LeadLAP #TalktoMe this morning! These questions are excellent and everyone can't wait to share their passion! Outstanding!!
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3: I find it hard to express appreciation when it appears some are just doing the bare minimum. #LeadLAP #talktome
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3:........ I do not have respect for you. #LeadLAP
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    My wheels are still turning here. I feel like this is the difference between a positive culture and a “positivity” culture which are very different to me #leadlap
    In reply to @burgessdave, @kimbearden
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Presume positive and always think about what is best for kids. Using joining language (us/we). Paraphrase "I heard you say..." #LeadLAP
  • kwiens62 Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2: avoid power struggles with kids, colleagues, parents, anyone...no one wins. #LeadLAP
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A1) Validation & empathy are key. Seek to understand before being understood. My response when anyone is struggling is to listen & focus on solutions. Help them problem solve, see their strengths. #TalkToMe #leadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2; Stay focused on the outcome and the success of those whom you are leading, and if emotions start to heat up use the “3 second rule. #Leadlap
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2: Remembering that the parents are advocating for one of the most important people in their lives is key for me. Establishing a common purpose/reason for meeting up front is also helpful. Keeping the convo focused on the student and his or her needs is also critical. #leadlap
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    Absolutely...Assume good intentions! #LeadLaP
    • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
      A2 my former principal @AcarverM reminded us often that if we walk around with the mindset that everyone around us is well intentioned what a difference it would make. I think this certainly helps with remaining positive as well as with moving forward. #leadlap
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3: it’s so hard to show appreciation when... a separate incident has your mind occupied and you forget that the other person has nothing to do with someone needing appreciated. #ClearYourMind #ShowAppreciationAlways #leadlap
  • principledlady Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A2: The emotions on the negative side are born out of fear. Make sure that you have a culture that promotes safety and most importantly Love! Reference and live your core values. Help people understand their real fears.#leadlap
    • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 10:45 AM EDT
      A2: I loved from @TaraMartinEDU #RealEdu sitting beside the person you are talking to, coaching, conferencing, etc. Making it feel like a "we". And skillfully focusing on strengths & positives. Don't let it turn into a grip session, especially for Ts #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
      • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
        Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:51 AM EDT
    A3: One of my favorite considerations from #talktome regarding appreciation! #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    I have learned to shift my mindset when someone shares that they are upset or unhappy. I would rather that they tell me than tell everyone else but me! I appreciate knowing so that we can seek solutions. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A3: As common excuse I've heard (and said) is that I'm too busy. Wait, what? Too busy for #gratitude? To show #appreciation? No way! What we appreciate appreciates; don't let busy get in the way of expressing your thankfulness. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    I like this strategy! #leadLap #TalktoMe
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A3: ... when there is discomfort, lack of trust, constant need to look over my shoulder.... Relationships that are built on trust can easily bounce back to baseline. Those built on FAKE trust, remain "icky" and talk a lot longer to find baseline again. #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    For real. lol. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A3 it’s hard to show appreciation when I’m not respected. #LeadLap
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A3: ...when I feel overwhelmed. #LeadLAP
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A2: People don't always know they hold the key to a solution. Providing options, offering advice and modeling a positive outlook is necessary. Help people find their purpose and live their excellence. They may know their "what" but they don't know their "why" #leadlap #culturize
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to express appreciation when...people say they want one thing to you (in alignment with vision), but then say the opposite in the parking lot to their buddies after the meeting. Just be upfront! Tell me to my face so that we can work through it! #LeadLAP
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    It is hard to express appreciation ... when you spend too much time trying to get out of the weeds. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    YES! Appreciated that someone at least let you know opens that dialogue and leads to building trust! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
      I have learned to shift my mindset when someone shares that they are upset or unhappy. I would rather that they tell me than tell everyone else but me! I appreciate knowing so that we can seek solutions. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
    Oh gosh, yes! One of my pet peeves is status quo - people just doing a "job" then going home. This profession is a calling, a career, a work of passion and love. If it's not, get out. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @PrincipalJ
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    It took a while for me to learn this, but now I always express sincere gratitude to someone if they confide their frustrations to me. I am truly grateful for the opportunity to grow and to improve. (The sincere part is important here!) #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3. Someone is negative and never comes to you to have conversations but instead talks behind your back. I tell myself “when others go low, I go high” and model professionalism. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • mrjefflahey Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3: when I recieve something. I would give of myself all day but I've always been uncomfortable with recieving. It's difficult to explain. #LeadLAP
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    Exactly this. Is it MY classroom or OUR classroom? #leadLAP
    • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:48 AM EDT
      A2: My challenge to keeping positive motivation is looking at the vision for who and what our classroom will become. The moment I focus on myself is the moment I lose purpose. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A2: So much depends on intent. Once we understand that, we can frame the conversation. I have found that leading by example and calling these things out- work. Live your life on the left side and others will follow suit. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:42 AM EDT
      Check out the chart on positive and negative motivators. What are some ways to keep your team focused on the positive motivators when communicating with others, especially in challenging situations? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3: when you feel nothing is inspiring anyone. It’s just : “yeah, got it, don’t care, when’s lunch?” #LeadLap
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    So true. We need to provide feedback which is genuine, immediate, and specific. We still need to find a positive. This is easier with some then others who are doing the bare minimum. #LeadLAP #talktome
    In reply to @PrincipalJ
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3 It is hard to express appreciation when you keep going in circles over the same issue and there is no consensus. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3 ....when it feels forced or not genuine. #LeadLAP
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A2: A lot of those negative motivators come from focusing on ourselves rather than others. Important to seek to understand where others are coming and set aside our own negative emotions and focus on the positive. #talktome #leadlap
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    Jerry I wish @Twitter had the function of sending certain tweets straight to #bookmarks because that’s where every tweet of yours goes for me. Thank you #leadLap
    In reply to @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo, @Twitter
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3: When motives are in question. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3: when I take things for granted. #realtalk #leadlap
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    I love your honesty Teresa! This is probably true for many...def for me. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3. ...the relationship is weak or damaged, or when we know it will be met with cynicism, ridicule, of suspicion. Show appreciation anyway. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • staci_erickson2 Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3- when you are focused on the negative and what’s not going perfectly. I always says to celebrate the small victories. It’s a step in the right direction. It’s progress. #leadlap
  • silversprings77 Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A2) train your brain 2 B positive and never forget the goals you set. In many cases you receive what you give. Golden rule applies here...be the example and LISTEN. Don’t raise your voice. Don’t take things personally. People just want to feel valued and listened to. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • jblanchardedu Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3 i find it hard to show appreciation when there is a lot of negativity. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    Right. So we leaders must remember to point out the positives! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:53 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to express appreciation when... - We feel overwhelmed or put upon. When there there is a climate of distrust and pettiness. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    Ego is the enemy of everything that is great about our profession! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @tishrich
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    This!! Yesssss!!! #LeadLAP #tlap #PreachItBarbara
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    Or when the time is taken to point out what I have not done instead of acknowledging what I have done. If you have the time to point out my "downfalls" why don't you have the time to point out my "accomplishments"? What is the motivation then? #leadlap #talktome
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    Oh that is SO frustrating! #leadlap
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    A3. Hard to express when someone has recently (figuratively) slapped you in the face but is trying their best to demonstrate their apology by doing something very caring. #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    A3 It’s hard to show appreciation when adults make decisions based on themselves and not our students. It’s also hard for me to do when I’ve spent to much time at work over a 3 or 4 day stretch and not maintained balance #leadlap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    There's an app for that! If you download @GoogleKeep to your phone, you can save tweets there (if you are on Twitter on your phone). I LOVE IT!! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timlriley, @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo, @Twitter, @GoogleKeep
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    A3 ...when one might not get exactly his/her own way. #LeadLAP
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    A3: it’s hard to show appreciation to those who are “working” but are minimalist and not even focused on Ss #leadlap
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    👟✨👟✨👟✨👟✨👟 "Appreciation has power- power to transform perspective, power, to uplift and inspire, and power to initiate change." ~@kimbearden #TalkToMe 👟✨👟✨👟✨👟✨👟 #LeadLAP
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    So true! I need many reminders of this. Sometimes it’s the kids that remind me when I’m going back into myself. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @fourmonkeypress
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    Right!??? It's really not about ME. I have to ask what in their day, past, etc. has put them in a space where lashing out is what feels "good" ... Once I understand WHO they are and WHY they are, then we can move forward together. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @MrsMochrie
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:54 AM EDT
    Hey friend! Thanks! #leadlap
    In reply to @TracyMailloux
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    I’m with you on this one! #leadlap
    In reply to @PrincipalJ
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3. When I feel the relationship is lacking with my admin. #leadLAP
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    LACK OF TRUST. Ugh. There has to be steps taken, small steps at first, to repair that damaged relationship. #leadLAP #talktome
    In reply to @JASauer, @kimbearden
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    Or keep circling back to the same issue, because no one changes so the same issues keep on happening. #leadlap
    In reply to @tikaee
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to express appreciation when there are not clear expectations. Be clear (& honest) with expectations. #LeadLAP #TalktoME
  • WentzvillePRE Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    I have to head out, baby just woke up! Have a great weekend and thanks @kimbearden and @burgessdave for the chat. #LeadLap
  • MarshaSirkin Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to express appreciation when you are in survival mode. #TalktoMe #LeadLap Help others stay out of the survival mode zone.
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3: It’s hard to express appreciation when one does not feel appreciated themselves. BUT- that is even more reason to do it. Put out what you would want to come back to you. Everyone just wants to feel valued and cared for- so let’s show others that we do. #leadlap #talktome
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3: It’s hard to express appreciation when it’s due for someone you don’t always get along with or effort seems insincere. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A2: A lot of those negative motivators come from focusing on ourselves rather than others. Important to seek to understand where others are coming from, set aside our own negative emotions, and focus on the positive. #talktome #leadlap
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A3 It is hard to express appreciation when… you know you aren’t truly valued. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    What she said! Yep! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    Right! We make time for what is important! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    A2) All teams have had success somewhere. Find ways to remind them of that, & how they can use the skills they used then, now. The culture we build before the challenge occurs plays big when mindsets turn negative. Model the positive you want others to follow. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    Thanks for joining us today, Ryan! Hope to see you next week! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @WentzvillePRE, @kimbearden, @burgessdave
  • silversprings77 Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
    Yes! I have seen admin look down on teachers and dismiss their concerns without getting to know their backgrounds. The best school(s) I have been in are those where the admin shows they care about Ts and Ss without putting them against each other. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    It always comes back to the importance of building those relationships. I agree with you! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @MenaHillEdu
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    SO important to make sure to fill your cup so you can pour into others! #BalanceLAP #LeadLAP
    In reply to @JoveStickel
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3 I think it’s hard to show appreciation when doors are closed. When cultures fall into the trap of isolation or just keeping heads above water, eyes aren’t open and amazing opportunities to raise each other other up are missed. #LeadLaP
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    I love how #LeadLAP says to schedule that time on your calendar! If it's on the calendar, it gets done.
    In reply to @kimbearden, @BarbaraGruener
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    Time for Q4! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3: I think for some it becomes hard to show appreciation when they do not feel appreciated. We must not grow weary of showing appreciation to others simply bc we may not have felt appreciated. It will come eventually. #talktome #Leadlap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3. Appreciation was my #OneWord2017 There are SO many people I appreciate each day. #LeadLap #TalktoMe
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3: It's hard to express appreciation when... we are thinking about ourselves first instead of our why. Sometimes we just need someone to remind us to get over ourselves #LeadLAP
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    Absolutely! I noticed in my 2nd year as principal, people coming to tell me they were unhappy. I realized that they are coming to me because they trusted me. It is so much easier to solve problems when people come straight to you. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:52 AM EDT
      I have learned to shift my mindset when someone shares that they are upset or unhappy. I would rather that they tell me than tell everyone else but me! I appreciate knowing so that we can seek solutions. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3b it’s also hard to show appreciation when others lack the ambition or willingness to grow and learn professionally #leadlap
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3: ...when something positive comes from a person who has been actively negative towards me personally. BUT that is exactly when it is most important to recognize and appreciate them. It can become a significant turning point #LeadLAP
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    Did @kimbearden trick us into a therapy session? ;) #Leadlap
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3: It is difficult to show appreciation when there is so much focus on the negative, and there isn’t any feedback for growth or validation. #leadlap #TalkToMe #JoyfulLeaders
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
    A3 It's hard to express appreciation when you feel belittled or wronged in front of those you serve--those you give every ounce of your being to ensure success. We are often giving from an empty bucket; during these times, it's hard to express appreciation. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3: If you haven't been taught how to show appreciatipn, it's hard to show it. I will start this school year with a gratitude circle. Must share one thing you're thankful for, may share one hope for the year. #LeadLAP
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3; when it’s forced or inauthentic because it’s done so “feelings aren’t hurt”. #Leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    Yes. I talk about going directly to the source if you have an issue with someone. Don’t go to everyone else! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • TerriHarpster Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A2: I have this fable/The Wind & The Sun posted in my office as a reminder of how to lovingly & productively interact with others...I could share this with Ts. #leadlap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A4: I tweet out the awesome stuff they're doing. I put my phone down when they're talking to me. (I'm so guilty of having my phone in my hand every minute) #LeadLAP
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    Really good point. Each and every person needs a chance to feel appreciated even if other situations are going on behind scenes. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @saschnit
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    It is hard. Especially when the negativity is generated from outside sources. I constantly ask myself- How can I keep the outside out? What can I control inside? What culture am I developing?My answer usually reverts back to positive energy and enthusiasm. #leadLAP
    In reply to @jblanchardedu
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3: Hard to show appreciation when there are so many amazing things going on in our schools at once. #LeadLap
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    I’ve shared this previously; I ask for “good gossip” in meetings with Ts. Then I’ll see someone who I got a great report about and say “I heard what you did!” The smiles go on for miles #leadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A4: I make it part of my staff meetings. I make sure to share great things on twitter. I'll drop #LeadLAP anchors of appreciations. Most of all I make sure to say THANK YOU! #TalkToMe
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3 - It is hard to express appreciation when, when I don't feel appreciated. Sometimes I need a thank you. #LeadLAP
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3: People are unkind or talk about you to others in a negative way. It's difficult to build a bridge of trust when the flames of fire rage beneath. Be kind anyway. Show appreciation for those who least expect it. Everyone has value and something to contribute! #leadlap
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A4: Just say it-recognize the things they are doing that are great for kids or their colleagues-in person, via email, in the staff memo, mail a card... #Leadlap
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A4: I plan on taking this into admin, but last year as a teacher leader I would go around and post notes on my teams’ doors letting them know I’ve seen the awesome things they do, appreciate their hardwork, and encourage them to keep doing what they’re doing. #leadlap
  • teovers Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    Cannot stop reading and rereading. Culture is my passion! We needs schools that students and staff run towards. Can’t wait for our first day!! #LeadLAP
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to show appreciation when there is inconsistency in commitment to the WHY. #leadlap #TalktoMe
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:57 AM EDT
    A4: Our principal write hand written thank yous. It's very sweet and I save them all. #LeadLAP
  • staci_erickson2 Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4- when I see it I tell them but the thing that has surprisingly made the most impact are handwritten notes. We do some big things but the handwritten notes are what teachers comment the most about. They are hanging on their walls years later. There is power in a note #leadlap
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4 I tell them, write personal notes, give staff shout outs, recognize them in meetings, I have wven called first year teacher’s parents and told them how great they are doing #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    I asked the question about appreciation the way that I did so that you will consider what leads others to feel unappreciated, too. It helps us realize the importance of showing gratitude! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A3: ...the focus is on what happened in the past with no intention of moving forward to change or improve a situation or experience. #LeadLAP
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    THIS is key- authenticity matters. Take the steps to build relationships and trust. How this is done depends on the individual- but it is key. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 10:55 AM EDT
      LACK OF TRUST. Ugh. There has to be steps taken, small steps at first, to repair that damaged relationship. #leadLAP #talktome
      In reply to @JASauer, @kimbearden
  • silversprings77 Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A3) you are continually dismissed or blamed, there is a lack of trust and a culture of blame, when appreciation is one sided (try to be positive to someone and it’s thrown back in your face), and when you are down in the valley of dumps yourself #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4: giving them s/o on social media, writing them notes, sending them Voxes, and celebrating as a team as often as possible #leadlap
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4. As a T I felt most validated when it was specific and came from a genuine place. Relationships must be in present for validation to feel right. ❤️ #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4 As T, I get an email or handwritten note occasionally. But truthfully...these things don't happen enough imho. #LeadLAP
  • MarshaSirkin Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    I like slipping little notes in their boxes. A staff shoutout is nice, but a little note or email is so authentic and carries great value! #TalktoME #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    This is my pet peeve as sub. When I make mistakes the T doesn’t address with me directly. They go to district HR to express frustrations, which makes it already to late for me to fix anything #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    That’s a great point! More important to do it to because it will break the cycle and it will hopefully come back to you. Maybe not from above but from those you lead. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4 I validate staff members by asking them to facilitate PD with me, help me with a lesson, place happy sticky notes on their laptops, and send happy text messages. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4: This part of the chapter spoke to me so deeply. I want to make sure I do more of this daily! #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A3: When trust has been broken. In professional life, this is often a lack of follow-through. It's hard to show sincere appreciation when you are still questioning. Good to keep in mind when interacting with our kids too. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4: I drop little notes of gratitude to people all the time. Even if it's just a post-it. I get the warmest responses to them! #LeadLAP
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 10:58 AM EDT
    A4: Just saying it goes a long way, but we are a tight knit staff at my school. We have "Your a Gem" monthly recognition, and I make up "Achievement Badges" for staff members and hand them out. #leadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    I send texts and emails to compliment a job well done, and I give “shout outs” through group emails. I also acknowledge hard work at staff meetings. (It is important to note good things about as many people as possible!) #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Love that. We leaders have to remember that! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @martianteacher
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4 give them time. Pop in and listen to them and see what they have to say. Show them that I care and build a relationship. #LeadLap
  • DrShanaHenry Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4: Shout outs, staff meeting recognition, texts, personal notes. This is an area of growth for me this year because there is so much more to validate. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Loving this morning's #LeadLap discussion! All about communication!
  • jblanchardedu Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4 Feedback to staff has to be personal. What was it that was great? "I see YOU", not just a lesson. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Flattery gets us nowhere. If I don’t know your name, and I tell you good job, it means nothing. #custodialstaff #leadLAP
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4. Visit them. A face-to-face thank you is more impactful than an email. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Yes- BUT it has to be authentic. Everyone has a spark- everyone. It is important to find it, fan it and help it spread. It does wonders. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @MarshaSirkin
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4. I try to have personal discussion or write personal notes to them that reflect what they did that supports the culture! We as staff do lots of reflective victory celebrations too that are more public. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A3) Honestly? It's hard to express appreciation when the response is lukewarm & the receiver blows it off (or appears to!) #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    A4: By letting them know you “see” the good stuff they’re doing. Sometimes a simple acknowledgement goes a long way! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    So true, Lavetta. And...thank you for being here today! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @LSR_DrMom
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    And we know why the conversation happens in the parking lot. Its because if they brought it up in the meeting, their concerns would be revealed for what they probably are, an attempt to avoid the work inherent in serving kids first. They would lose the argument. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    I’m not familiar w IFTT #leadLap
    In reply to @iluveducating, @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo, @Twitter
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Love this Cori! This is why people need to HEAR why they're special! I am genuinely curious in why someone is invested in something I'm doing because I don't see the beauty of it. Thank you for sharing!!! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:59 AM EDT
    Love this. Yes, you must exude what you hope to create. Even when others are not stepping up! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    I also pop in and chat with staff during their planning time to tell them how much I value them. This year, my goal is to post/recognize their amazing work more on social media. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A3: It is hard to express appreciation when there are misunderstandings of each party's feelings and desires. When working toward a solution it is important to be on the same page on what you are trying to accomplish. Build relationships of trust and honesty. #leadlap
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    In my weekly news letter I make sure that the “Shout Out” section is full and it highlights, by name, the awesome teaching and innovation that is happening in the building everyday #Leadlap
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A4: This year I'm going to add traveling trophies that are each tied to our collective commitments...I'll give them out first, but then I want staff to recognize others for the good work they see their colleagues doing. #Leadlap
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    Yes!!! 👇👇👇👇 #LeadLAP
    • j_hoffman22 Aug 4 @ 10:47 AM EDT
      A2: I’m learning that it’s okay to not have a response immediately. It’s okay to take time to breathe, think, consult, brainstorm solutions and solve a problem well rather than fast. #leadlap
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    So important to invest in each other's emotional banks. There needs to be more positive and trusting experiences to offset a potential negative interaction. Also needs to be worked on DAILY. #Covey #leadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden, @MenaHillEdu
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A4 Best validation I’ve witnessed is @johncampin1 writing a letter to new staff members parents/sibling or spouse. Telling them how the staff member is an asset. Still remember the call from my sister -in-law to my wife. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    I am not Admin, but I have to understand that teachers look to me as a knowledge base ... sometimes my validation of their ideas mean more than an Admin ... i have to respect this whether I want to be a "leader" or not. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • principledlady Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A4: I try to publically give credit to individual’s ideas and accomplishments and talk about the positive impact their work, ideas accomplishments had on others. “Know thy impact” #LeadLAP
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    Thank you #leadLap #talktome
    In reply to @BethHouf, @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo, @Twitter, @GoogleKeep
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A3.... when my focus is on the wrong things and I’m to distracted and overwhelmed to take the time to appreciate those around me like I should. #talktome #leadlap
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A4 I have written notes to my colleagues thanks to #leadlap’s “notice the impact” challenge but honestly I was born with an abundance of energy:) so I tell them out loud every single day often right in front of their Ss that they are amazing.
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 11:00 AM EDT
    A4: I remind them by telling them! No tangible reward will mean more than simply saying, “thank you for what you do”, “you matter here”, and “I am proud to work alongside you”. #leadlap #talktome
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: Say something! Don't walk past it. Leave a note. Let them know how much their work means to you, to kids, to colleagues, to parents. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    This was one of my favorite stories in the book!!!!! RCA Lasies Night! #Leadlap #talktome
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: I work hard each time I'm in the classroom to drop an ANCHOR of appreciation! Saying what I appreciate and why. https://t.co/w5cdVlyAPB #LeadLAP #talktome
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: thank you notes and mentions in Newsletter is always great. The face to face thank you and fist pump is always the fastest, most meaningful and personable. #TalktoMe #LeadLaP
  • samueltcollier Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: I am BIG on verbal, face2face praise. I love giving fist bumps and high fives. I have also been known to give an occasional chest bump. I also make sure that I celebrate small victories. Not just big ones #LeadLAP
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    Yes. And it can’t be done to expect it in return- then it isn’t authentic. But with the intent of building bridges and building them up. Not about us, it’s about them. #intentmatters #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @Dr_LMR
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4b drop them anchor notes. #leadlap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    If This Then That (Sorry, it's IfTTT, I can't figure out how many Ts there are, haha) - https://t.co/cEN9aWBzYg - You create recipes or borrow others to automate things like saving Jerry's tweets to Google! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timlriley, @cybraryman1, @RemindHQ, @ClassDojo, @Twitter
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: Coteaching has really taught me to validate others. When I want to implement an idea from my coteacher, I ask her and then follow her model. Try to remind her that I value what she’s doing and want to bring it into my teaching. #LeadLAP
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    No doubt. People (students, staff, etc.) can sniff out if you are putting on a show right away. #leadLAP
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    Thanks, Beth! I have a feeling you do it often! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: Besides the bold F2F affirmation, handwritten notes of gratitude, encouragement, support and love are KEY! It is SO uplifting to get a note that says, "I see you. You matter. And I'm grateful. This is why!" Who doesn't love a gold star? #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    A4: Specific, timely feedback about the work they’re doing. Highlighting them and empowering them to share the great things they’re doing. Hand-written affirmations often. #TalkToMe #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • GSmit4Character Aug 4 @ 11:01 AM EDT
    As always, Barbara, you are right on. Expressing gratitude should be ongoing & authentic & not based solely on something a teacher does, but for who they are and what they bring to the table. #leadlap
  • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    I do a teacher/team/department spotlight in school blog, & adding more twists to that this year. Incldue Ts as leads in "Ligthning Talks", teacher showcases, simple notes & let them know they can lead & develop other Ts as well. Many don't see their own value #Talktome #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • MrDougCampbell Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Teachers are better off if they don’t need to rely on administrators for validation. Their mindset should be to serve kids. Period. #leadlap
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: Ts have different ways of receiving validation! Some like public props, other like a Post-It note, f2f, and so on. I try to learn how my peeps like to receive their appreciation and then I try to do it! #LeadLAP
  • mrjefflahey Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: Jeans passes and duty free passes for doing the little things consistently like being in the hall during passing periods and engaging kids while doing those duties. #leadlap
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4 Handwritten notes, tell them specific praise--highlighting the behavior that caused growth. Another thing, I liked to do was leave a voice vox via Voxer sharing that specific praise--acutally hearing my expression as their supervisor. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • danieldmccabe Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Dear principals, always remember that any level of success that you achieve is mostly based on the efforts of your faculty. #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Time is the greatest gift. Yes! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @rokstar19
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    ABSOLUTELY- and- being specific matters. Knowing your people matters. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @3_DLeadership
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Hate autocorrect. Ladies Night! #leadlap #talktome
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Definitely. Names matter so very much! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @3_DLeadership, @CoriOrlando1
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: Anchors of Appreciation! It's incredible how a small note to share the what and the why can completely change someone else's day! Social media shout-outs are empowering, too! Show the community how much you value staff and students! #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: First comes the effort of actually valuing it, which is not always easy. Once you have found the good in everyone you can then give them a seat at the table, publicly acknowledge when you agree with them, send them notes of appreciation and celebrate their successes. #LeadLAP
  • TerriHarpster Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A3: when I ALLOW a busy schedule to keep me from taking the time to show my appreciation #leadlap
  • JasonCMcDowell Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Off to a community event. Thanks for the great chat this morning @kimbearden and @BethHouf #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Totally agree with you, Tim! :) #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timwolffSSD, @kimbearden
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: As I read appreciation and validation in #TalkToMe I had deep connection to our ANCHOR section in #LeadLAP That validated my practice for sure!
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    A4: We need to know our tribe so we understand how they like to be celebrated or valued. Some prefer private, others prefer public. Some value a kind gesture, others love chocolate! :) (a little joke, but chocolate really does make lots of people smile!) #leadlap #talktome
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:02 AM EDT
    Sincerity matters! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1, @MarshaSirkin
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4: Tell them face to face, write notes, shout out in newsletters and at staff meetings, tweet out the awesome things they are doing! Praise them in front of others. #talktome #leadlap
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    As a sub I rarely if ever know #Talktome #leadLap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4 (part 2) I also show validation of my Ss when I ask them to facilitate PD with me. I love planning and facilitating with them. #leadlap #TalktoMe
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    I am the same- so that is why I try to be that for others. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @iluveducating
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    It is so important to know whether they value public shoutouts - for some, it's devalues the validation! Gotta build those relationships! Great point, Mena! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @MenaHillEdu
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4) I express appreciation for things done that might not have gone extremely well. if they put effort into it & I know gave their best, even if the end result wasn't as planned, I validate their effort. I've been there enough myself to know how imp that is! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4: I tell them. I enjoy our daily conversations in hallways, classrooms, offices or wherever we can.Dropping anchors of appreciation, emails, and highlighting them in community newsletters. Celebrate greatness and inspire them to more than they thought they could be! #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4: The validation is in the details! Be specific when communicating. "Good job with that lesson," is not validation. "Engagement was on-point because if your energy, the personal story you shared, and the questions you asked." #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    We had a carpenter working around our portables fixing things/hanging shelves ... he was a hat wearer ... when my parents went to Ecuador i asked them to pick up real Panama Hat for him. He said in all the years he has worked at district no one has given him anything. #LeadLap
    In reply to @3_DLeadership, @CoriOrlando1
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A3: Its hard to show appreciation when I am frustrated myself with the situation, circumstance, person's actions. That's when I have to take a step back and breathe. #leadLAP #talktome
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    Some people don’t know how to receive appreciation. I talk about that in my book— I said it is annoying when you deflect a compliment! Lol #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @blsimps
  • MrDougCampbell Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    @kimbearden I visited the @ronclarkacademy years ago. What an inspiration. #LeadLAP
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4: We set up mentors (experienced teachers) for our new teachers every year. The mentors that rly make a difference are the ones that validate with consistent check ins both regarding classroom and personal life. Makes staff feel more like a family. #LeadLAP
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    Love it! So important! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    Seeing what goes unnoticed. #LeadLap #talktome
  • silversprings77 Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4 from a teacher perspective...Something more than a mass produced trinket during teacher appreciation week is nice. My admin has offered to cover my class for 15 minutes so I could have a break. Handwritten notes have also made my day #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 11:03 AM EDT
    A4 CREATE MOMENTS 🌈👟🌈👟🌈 "Validation is all about creating moments for others; it is a language of support." ~@kimbearden #TalkToMe 🌈👟🌈👟🌈 #LeadLAP
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    Yes! It’s all in perspective! Passionate people can be your greatest allies! #leadlap
    In reply to @MrsMochrie
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    That's too bad! I talk to our subs each day and work hard to show appreciation and validation for their positive practices that help our students and staff! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @timlriley
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    A3b-I always feel the love ❤️ with the #LeadLAP CREW!
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    A4: Deep and meaningful discussions are also a way to validate our teachers. When we recognize and know them well, they are willing to share and trust us. #LeadLAP
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    #leadlap A4 We have a pride paw system where teachers/students can show appreciation to each other. They are read on the announcements on Friday and they receive a little reward.
  • danieldmccabe Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    Celebrate Faculty #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    Timely feedback matters. People get paranoid when they don’t know how they are doing! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @james_e_whit
  • martianteacher Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    A4: Be consistent. Be purposeful & provide clear details on WHY you value them. When validating then be sure to say their name- it adds special finesse to the validation! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    I have found that people are always listening and watching- so we must live our lives authentically. #leadfromthemiddle #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    "For who they are ... !" So important. We are human BEings who thrive on BEing affirmed and appreciated. People who feel appreciated will go above and beyond, they'll paint the world for you if you ask. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @GSmit4Character
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
    Reminds me that I need to leave a comment in my subs online file. #Talktome #leadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    I tell people that all the time! "Just say thank you." I have learned that, but it was hard at first! #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden, @blsimps
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    A4: I leave many notes (I try every time I visit a classroom, though I fell out of this habit toward the end of the year), write many cards, kudos in newsletters, bring in coffees, have celebrations, share my appreciation in person, etc... I love this part of my job. #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    LOVE that. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @danieldmccabe
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    I totally agree! #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
      Timely feedback matters. People get paranoid when they don’t know how they are doing! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
      In reply to @james_e_whit
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    Those little things are so critical #leadlap
    In reply to @DennisDill, @CoriOrlando1
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    A4: Validation can also be about LESS talking and more doing. I try to validate practice by saying--I believe in you, I know you've got this, let me get out of the way so you can make it happen! #LeadLAP #talktome
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    Chocolate= instant morale booster! #leadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @bethhill2829
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    A1: You have to understand their life experiences that have shaped their viewpoints, behaviors, and understanding of the situation. You can’t go in with your tunnel vision on #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    Right. You have to value it to be sincere! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @Mrjonresendez
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    Q5 is UP! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    Yes! The WHY matters so much! I love how you say their name, too. So important! #leadlap
    In reply to @martianteacher
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
    A4 (cont) The inst coaches I served mentioned the Anchors of Appreciation as something they valued in my end of the year performance survey. I learned this from @BethHouf & @burgess_shelley! LOVED dropping these! #leadlap #TalkToMe 👉https://t.co/R8nemEZqY4
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    I schedule meetings to just “check in” with our team and see how they are doing. I ask, “What is going well?” and “What keeps you up at night?” It is a good way to gain insight! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    A4: My first email daily is one of #gratitude. I love face to face-even if it's for a #mindfulmoment-to say I appreciate you. Also, actions: doing something special on #ThankfulThursday-use Ss to help #LeadLap #TalktoMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    This is critical: for Ss, Ts, all of us! #LeadLAP #talktome
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
      Timely feedback matters. People get paranoid when they don’t know how they are doing! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
      In reply to @james_e_whit
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    Oh yeah!! If the intent is not authentic- people see through the “emperor’s new clothes” act pretty quickly and you get the opposite effect. Lack of trust- and that is difficult to come back from. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @timwolffSSD
  • 3_DLeadership Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    Many may not agree, but opening up an anonymous line of communication will create meaningful avenues for real feedback. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    Chocolate covered strawberries... if you give me those, I'll walk through fire for you! HA! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @timwolffSSD, @bethhill2829
  • DennisDill Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    I have a hard time with this ... would rather go unrecognized ... who would have thought saying thank you would be so hard. But I do understand that my successes are not individual ... there are many people involved and I also want to shine the light on them. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @kimbearden, @blsimps
  • teovers Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    Cannot stop reading and rereading. Culture is my passion! We need schools that students and staff run towards. Can’t wait for our first day!! #LeadLAP
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    A5: We have a “parking lot” labeled anchor chart in meetings for staff to post questions and concerns. As well, I also ask for input. I do not give solutions until I have the teams input and potential solutions. #leadlap
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
    #leadlap A4. As a teacher it is really important to validate when any staff or students are trying something new.
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5: build relationships with ALL staff and be intentional in listening—ex: go to Ts rooms on preps just to check in and ask how it’s going #leadlap
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5. Ask them in person, then discuss the ideas in dept meetings. Google forms are efficient, but can feel impersonal. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5: I'm not saying use a survey always... but if you survey your team, you should then discuss the results. Otherwise, you're wasting their time...Oh, that's the other thing... Don't waste their time. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    I love the words, "You've got this!" and the added, "I've got your back." and "I believe in you." And showing them by walking the talk speaks volumes! Words of #empathy and validation like, "I get it." are also pretty powerful. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5 my office operates under an open door policy. We work to ask for feedback and ideas and are willing to allow people to take risks and encourage it. We also give credit to those that come up with ideas. We work hard to operate like a family of educators #leadlap
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5. We do PLC quarterly Feedback visits, padlet or other tech ways to give feedback after PD that is anonymous and I try to meet with each staff member 1:1 twice a year. Not perfect but trying. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A4: Validation is built into staff meetings. There’s actually a group that does this at our school and I am very supportive and appreciative of those folks!! #LeadLap
  • OrganicLeaderVB Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    #TalkToMe #LeadLap A4b
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5. I also have the expectation that Ss will not raise their hands when someone is talking. I am beyond comfortable with silence, being an introverted personality it helps me think. #LeadLaP #talktome
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5. Each morning, I would stop by every classroom and simply ask, "Is there anything I can do for you today?" Each person felt heard and valued. #LeadLAP #TalktoME
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5 Since everyone is a different learner - ask at a staff meeting, via email, one-on-one or survey. More opportunities = more work for you but you know you have tried to reach all. #Talktome #leadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    A5: As a tech integrator who provides on-demand PD, I want to know what my Ts WANT to learn, not HAVE to learn. I also want to know their passions & life outside of school. I provide a beginning-of-the year survey w/lots of open text boxes to share from the heart! #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
    I’m learning this, but it’s still difficult at times. I’m trying to be more conscious of it #talktome #leadLap
    In reply to @teresagross625, @kimbearden, @blsimps
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    A5 I love Professional Learning Communities and setting norms for this purpose. It does not matter how long you have been teaching. Everyone should feel comfortable sharing ideas, ideas, and input. #LeadLap #TalktoMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    A4b: I love having students participate in activities that show appreciation and help them develop an attitude of gratitude. Hosting events/activities where students can write notes of appreciation to teachers is awesome! I loved receiving these when I was a teacher. #leadlap
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    A5 tough one. Acknowledge your team, respond to them whether you agree or disagree, the key is to let them know you heard them and appreciate them. #leadlap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    That brought me goosebumps. That is beautiful! Imagine if we all treated people this way- and why aren’t we? Thank you for showing the way! #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @DennisDill, @3_DLeadership
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    🙌 thank you for this! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    Small moments = huge gains. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @3_DLeadership, @DennisDill
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    #TalkToMe by this morning's host, @kimbearden, is a book we feel can benefit EVERYBODY. Not just at school...in life. Communication is central to everything we do. https://t.co/H31BC3ZkPz #LeadLAP #tlap #leadupchat #EduGladiators #satchat
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    A5: Ask for feedback, then act on it! I love in #LeadLAP where @burgess_shelley talks about avoiding the "Deer in the Headlights" look - she's already discussed with everyone on her staff before rolling it out. Everyone gets an opp to give feedback!
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    Yes!!!! Survey me all you want but also let me know the follow up action plan from the survey👇#leadLAP
    • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:07 AM EDT
      A5: I'm not saying use a survey always... but if you survey your team, you should then discuss the results. Otherwise, you're wasting their time...Oh, that's the other thing... Don't waste their time. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:08 AM EDT
    A5: This is something I have in the forefront of my mind as we begin a new year. How can we ensure that all voices have the opportunity to be heard...including our Ss and families. #LeadLAP #talktome
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    Yes. Please always be responsive! So important! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @rokstar19
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A5. I had this displayed in my office as a constant reminder to stay focused on ideas rather than discussing who did what, to whom. #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A5: I get quiet when I'm processing. So, I always think it's important to recognize that quiet isn't necessarily disengaged. Allow time for processing and ask those quiet ones to share their great ideas. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    TRUST- takes a long time to establish it, takes one bad decision to have it questioned. The #resilience of the trust is based on the strength of the relationship. Work at it daily. #leadLAP #talktome
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A5: I loved the idea of " participation, hesitation, information, clarification". Communication is definitely the "flow" of these ideas. We must respect others by doing all 4 simultaneously. #talktome #LeadLAP
  • PrincipalTam Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A4: 1/3 My natural inclination is to validate & to praise staff one-to-one. The greater the details I am able to provide, the more effective the validation & praise. All of this is based on my formal/informal walk-throughs & any/all outside "extra" work the Ts/Staff do. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 10:56 AM EDT
      How do you validate your staff members and let them know that you value and see the good work they are doing? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • MarshaSirkin Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    Give opportunities for team members to reflect and contribute nonverbally or in small groups. It is hard to feel like you have a voice in a room of alphas. #LeadLap #TalktoME
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • PrincipalTam Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A4: 2/3 I do make myself try to publicly validate & praise staff at faculty mtgs/ parent mtgs / Twitter / etc. I've built time into our faculty mtgs wherein staff can share validations/praise/appreciations between each other. #LeadLAP
  • PrincipalTam Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A4: We pass a stuffed-animal banana around. Whoever was "recognized" w/ the banana last is in charge of "recognizing" someone else the next mtg. It doesn't have to be a stuffed-animal. The principal who shared this idea w/ me yrs ago used stones. It's in the recognition! #LeadLAP
  • LSR_DrMom Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    So true! We have to do this if we want students and teachers to continue trying new things! Otherwise, they may not feel comfortable stepping out of their comfort zone and choose not to do so. #LeadLAP
    • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 11:06 AM EDT
      #leadlap A4. As a teacher it is really important to validate when any staff or students are trying something new.
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    This avoids the negative conversations after some meetings. If people trust you to listen, they will usually bring it directly to you. Again, we circle around to RELATIONSHIPS #LeadLAP
    • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:04 AM EDT
      A4: Deep and meaningful discussions are also a way to validate our teachers. When we recognize and know them well, they are willing to share and trust us. #LeadLAP
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A5: Feedback mechanisms are easy to set up. Appreciation notes and Google surveys, set aside time at all meetings. The key is to actually follow through on the feedback. I summarize all feedback and explain how I am acting on it. It is the first activity at all meetings. #LeadLAP
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    A5: Good question, I'm an FBLA adviser and one thing we are committed to do is have our members work with each other. Appreciate what they accomplishment and be a model for that. LEAD others by example and celebrate. #leadLAP
  • 1in5awareness Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    Does your school screen 4 the most common reason 4 reading failure? https://t.co/gJLOjGJMcl #edchat #LeadLap #leadupchat #catholicedchat
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    Oh! I am keeping this! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @mjjohnson1216
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    Q5: Always respond in some way and don’t promise things that you can’t make happen. Emails - minimum of a response but even better when you talk with that person about them. Take PLC recommendations seriously. #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
    As an extrovert, I appreciate learning from my introverted friends to help ALL the Ss and Ts in my school! Great suggestion! #leadlap
    In reply to @teresagross625
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    Hey friends, gotta run! I 💜this #LeadLAP convo this morning!
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    That's amazing ... and kind of sad. We have Veterans tell us that our first-grade program is the first time they've been invited to a celebration just for them, to be honored and appreciated. Thank you for helping change that experience for your carpenter. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @DennisDill, @3_DLeadership, @CoriOrlando1
  • jblanchardedu Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    A5 I ensure that I HEAR all staff members by knowing who they are and how they communicate best. Some voices are very easy to hear, but others prefer one-on-one or even an opportunity to respond in writing like email to give hem a chance to process #leadLAP #TalkToMe
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    A5: We have a solid staff that makes their offices and time very available to us. That goes a long way for feeling like I can ask questions and suggest ideas. #LeadLAP
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    A5: Open door policy, access to meeting digital agendas, Voxer, and timely communications to build trust. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • MrsHankinsClass Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    If you’re part of #NewTeacherJourney, new to Twitter, or just need refresher—Use graphic to follow/lead others, find tribe & help you grow as an edu! #hashtagbrag #SaturdayMorning #LeadLAP #LeadUpChat #TLAP #EdChat #JoyfulLeaders #CelebratED #HeardItFromHankins #PowerToChooseEdu
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    A5) Remember not everyone will speak up in a group right away. Provide reflective time & be comfortable with a little bit of silence. If the conversation is uncomfortable I find a protocol helps. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    Ha, as an introvert, we appreciate you extroverts #LeadLAP
    • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:09 AM EDT
      As an extrovert, I appreciate learning from my introverted friends to help ALL the Ss and Ts in my school! Great suggestion! #leadlap
      In reply to @teresagross625
  • DrShanaHenry Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    A5: asking for feedback, being present, allowing time at meeting for input. But, making time to be available to listen. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    I tell this story when I am presenting “culture” to leaders. A maid at a hospital was asked what she did for work. Her response “I help make sick people better”- her leader built a culture where EVERY person knew that they have an important role. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @DennisDill, @3_DLeadership
  • MenaHillEdu Aug 4 @ 11:10 AM EDT
    You too, Barbara! :) #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BarbaraGruener
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    A5: One of our buildings norms is to Pay Attention to Self and Others, which means to help others to share and make sure you aren't oversharing. #LeadLAP #TalkTOMe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    Exactly. Never make false promises! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @charrold48
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    Have you ever read Quiet by Susan Cain? Phenomenal! #leadlap
    In reply to @tamaraletter
  • samueltcollier Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    A5: I love getting feedback. Mid-year & at the end of year I send out a Google Form asking directed questions about how the department is doing. Responses are anym. I also seek feedback on how I can serve them better. I do this throughout the year at different times. #Leadlap
  • bethhill2829 Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    A5: No matter how huge our piles get, how long our to-do list is...it is never more important than conversing with people. That is where we all grow stronger, feel safer, and learn. #leadlap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • burgessdave Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    Yes...have we built strong enough relationships and enough trust to also be able to have the tough conversations and still come out the other side. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @3_DLeadership, @kimbearden
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:11 AM EDT
    A2: as leaders we have to nurture positive relationships, and show an enthusiasm for what we’re doing/trying to accomplish. We must take time to recognize those Ts w/positive motivator as we interact with others displaying those that are neg. and pointing out the + #LeadLap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    So true so true. We all work together in harmony. #leadlap @tamaraletter
    In reply to @JayBilly2, @tamaraletter
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A5 THINK ABOUT IT... ✨🧠🗣️👥✨ 6 Principles of Effective Communication ✨🧠🗣️👥✨ 👟CONSIDERATION 👟APPRECIATION 👟VALIDATION 👟CONVERSATION 👟CELEBRATION #TalkToMe / @kimbearden #LeadLAP @dbc_inc
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A5: I shared this last week, but Google Forms can be a super quick way to appreciate, validate and invite all to the conversation. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • BethHouf - Moderator Jul 28 @ 10:47 AM EDT
      A2: I include this in my newsletters and FB posts so that others have the chance to recognize the efforts of others! #LeadLAP
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A5 when I think of this question I go back to the classroom and remember the importance of simply talking with each S. I believe the same is true for Ts & Admin and love this quote from Susan Scott in Fierce Conversations. #leadlap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    "Quiet isn't necessarily disnengaged." YES! Excellent reminder! I process by writing/typing notes which some may misunderstand as being distracted. Also important to provide ways our quiet learners can share ideas without talking aloud to the entire class. #leadlap
    In reply to @HapnerMelody
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    Meaning conversation! #LeadLap #talktome
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A5: Bc I have a solid Admin that make their offices available, I’m thinking of creating office hour time for my Ss to come see me. Prep skills for initiating when they get to college. #LifeSkills #LeadLAP
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A4 Validation = kinda part of the "open exaltation" REAL Talk Treasure. Sharing Ts awesomeness! Via Twitter, in staff meetings (for those that doesn't embarrass), via #PottyPD flyers. Tear down the walls and share the amazing things the staff is doing. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A4: Validation- I tell them. I encourage them to share with others. I might ask for permission to send others see them in action. I might put it on social media. #leadLAP
  • patton_carl Aug 4 @ 11:12 AM EDT
    A5; My office door is always open, but I’m not often there. I make sure I visit with every teacher (about 100) on their “turf” as often as possible to check in with them and hear their concerns and ideas #Leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    A5: I didn’t speak in my school for my first 12 years- I didn’t feel I had anything valuable to say. I don’t ever want anyone to feel like that. Find out early who your team is- how they like to be celebrated, how they prefer to communicate - honor that. #leadlap #talktome
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    Q6 is up! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • JoveStickel Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    Got to dip out but a great chat this morning have a great week everybody. #leadlap
  • MrDougCampbell Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    I agree that a good administrator should try to give validation to teachers. My point is that teachers are better off if they don’t dwell on it. The focus should be on the students, not on getting approval. #LeadLaP
    In reply to @principledlady
  • GladysJohnson03 Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    A5: I think Ts definitely want to see some sort of action to validate they are being heard. Survey's, concern boards/boxes, unconferencing, etc is great, but as leaders the follow up & action promotes Ts knowing their voices matter & are actually heard. #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    I tear up every time I share it. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @inpursuitofed, @DennisDill, @3_DLeadership
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    Wow, Cori. Your voice is important. I am glad you realize that now and use it to help others! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
    When my admin get to know me, they respect that I need that processing time and then ask my opinion. They also know I will continue to think for days after. LOL #leadlap
    In reply to @HapnerMelody
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    I often send a simple email, thanking the person for sharing their thoughts and feelings with me. In challenging situations, such as a parent issue that has been resolved, this is especially appreciated and helpful! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BarbaraGruener Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A5: We've done some personality inventories with staff so they can recognize their own strengths and areas for growth and then those of their teammates and students. The shapes one is fun! https://t.co/uyMHmwoYff #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    My door is always open and I often stay late or arrive early to do the ‘unfinished tasks’ that result from taking the time to meet with people. You can’t get those moments back if you ignore the opportunities in the moment! #leadLAP
    In reply to @bethhill2829
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    I teach this to my students too. Listening is a HUGE part of communication! #leadlap
    In reply to @tamaraletter, @HapnerMelody
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A5. Here is an amazing resource to use - bookmark it - https://t.co/0z7aqKcSq5 Can be extremely helpful when working toward improving conversations with others. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • Mrjonresendez Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    Hey #LeadLAP! Gotta jet! Family stuff. Love you all! Thank you for all that you do for our kids and the republic!
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A6: Sharing that you appreciate them coming in and expressing concerns, questions, comments, etc. Sending an email later that evening (even scheduling it). #LeadLAP
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A5: One-on-one coffee shop mtgs, surveys, Notes Day mtgs (Pixar) where staff submit areas for growth to focus on and collaborate on solutions, and focus groups tasked with investigating staff to address constraints and build upon strengths. #TalkToMe #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    #leadlap A5. I try to check in on one person a day to see how things are going.
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A6. This is where the *public* display of appreciation happens...the shout-outs by email, in meetings, etc., along with personal notes. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    LOVE this! The piles aren’t going anywhere but there are moments that could help us grow relationships that we may never get back. #leadlap
    In reply to @bethhill2829
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A3: the craziness of the year takes over. Make it part of your daily routine. My goal for this year is to write 3 thank you notes a day to staff members to show appreciation for something they’ve done lately or I’ve heard/noticed #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • ventura_omaha Aug 4 @ 11:14 AM EDT
    A6 Quick phone call, text message or if “friends” then DM or post online #Talktome #LeadLap
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6: It's important to follow up with a quick not or comment showing you listened and highlight the main topics. This way, you validate the discussion and it is a helpful way to remember #retrievalprocess #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6: A quick note, email, or text is great! It doesn't have to be long or complex, just a quick note of appreciation for their time and ideas shared. Great way to add a smile to someone's day! #leadlap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6: I follow up with a positive note or call/text/ email saying thanks for getting together with me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Just let’s them know I appreciate them and their support for whatever the matter. #LeadLAP
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    So important to keep in mind. This is where I think tools like @googledocs & @padlet are helpful. Good for those who have a-ha! moments or Qs afterwards too. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @HapnerMelody, @googledocs, @padlet
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6: I often tell my friends, "Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your child's life." I try and carry that over to professional conversations as well. #talktome #LeadLAP
  • PrincipalTam Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A5: 1/2 I try to conference w/ Ts & staff one-to-one. This year, my aim is to have scheduled 1-to-1 conferences at least 3x per year. My staff is small enough that I can manage this. I need to schedule it on our school calendar to block out the time. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:05 AM EDT
      How do you ensure that every person on your staff feels like he/she is heard? What are some positive, meaningful ways to solicit your team’s ideas, input, and feedback? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • PrincipalTam Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A5: 2/2 We have an "agenda" that essentially comes down to 1. What's working? 2. What's not working? 3. What are your goals? 4. What can I do to help you towards your goals? These mtgs offer the chance to understand what's happening in our team's lives. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    That is a beautiful goal that shows a huge commitment on your part! Go you! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @caharrison5
  • tikaee Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6 I like to send handwritten notes, texts, or emails thanking the person for their time. I also like to show them what I learned from our discussion, if applicable. #TalktoMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    Definitely! Backchannels (that you have access to) are so powerful in giving people voice. #leadlap
    In reply to @TracyMailloux, @HapnerMelody, @googledocs, @padlet
  • blsimps Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6) For parents, a quick phone call can be powerful. A thank you note, handwritten, to staff goes far. Or just pop by the classroom to see something that ties into your meeting topic, to demonstrate that you really care! #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 11:15 AM EDT
    A6 a follow up phone call if necessary, if not then a note to show acknowledgement. #leadlap
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    Thank you- it only took a one person to believe in me- and be that mirror. THAT is why I strive to be that for others. I still struggle with it myself- but am blessed with people who keep me fighting the good fight. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    You are amazing, I just love your thoughts! #leadlap #joyfulleaders
    In reply to @bethhill2829
  • tishrich Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    A6: I usually send an email or note thanking them for the time together. #talktome #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    Nice! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @PrincipalTam
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    Great— showing what you learned shows that you were truly listening! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @tikaee
  • DrShanaHenry Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    A6: Follow through and follow up. Follow through on what you said you would do. Then follow up to thank them for feedback or time. Send a thank you card or email. Call a parent to check in. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • fourmonkeypress Aug 4 @ 11:16 AM EDT
    A6. As a parent....all it takes is a simple email. It makes me feel heard and appreciated. #LeadLAP
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6: Follow ups, I did several last year with emails. The parents were so happy I asked how things were. Instead of just letting it just go into the background. #leadLAP
  • timlriley Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    Always important to keep your introverts in mind :-) #Talktome #LeadLAP
    In reply to @teresagross625, @tamaraletter, @HapnerMelody
  • turnerhj Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6: I always try to go to the teachers office or classroom instead of having them come to me. It’s a small change that we have a huge impact. #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • coacheagan Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6: so critical to follow up and check in that how you perceived things went is how the other party did as well—in person, Phone, Vox, etc—F2F is best #leadlap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    Isn't it easy to "harp" on the negative instead of the positive? I always focus on the positive first. Someone told me once....walk away until you have a positive to give. #leadlap
    In reply to @vivababy1, @burgessdave
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A5: So many great ideas have already been shared. Time to process a topic is really important prior to obtaining feedback. Providing agendas and topics for meetings/PD a few days prior allows staff to know what's coming and prepare (even without knowing it). #leadlap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    Right! Always do what you said you would do! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @DrShanaHenry
  • clegleiter Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6. For parents- I make it as authentic as possible (phone call or a mtg). For staff, I would meet with them or if it’s a celebration then I go into the classroom and share it in front of kids. Kids need to realize admin care about teachers too. #LeadLAP #talktome
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • PrincipalJ Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    Wow, thank you for sharing that! BTW-did you know about this awesome song to go along with your message? https://t.co/OTy4etPAqd #leadlap
    In reply to @CoriOrlando1, @kimbearden
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A4: Same as A3. Making an effort to write a 3 thank you notes to staff members daily, but also highlighting the great things on Twitter and Facebook often #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6 Read amazing idea other day - Guidance Counselor started a special notebook that travels around the school being placed in a teacher's mailbox after previous person wrote a note of thanks or appreciation. That person writes another one and off it goes to next mailbox. #LeadLAP
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    I keep trying to follow people in today's #LeadLAP chat only to find that I already follow them. #TheStruggleIsReal
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6: First make sure you follow up! This could be a handwritten note, an email, a phone call, a mention (maybe by name, maybe not it depends on the person) in staff meeting. A share or retweet on social media. #LeadLAP
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    “Mirror, mirror”: https://t.co/WZDFhBZ4cr #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6 Anytime I have a P meeting, I follow up w/a phone call or email a week or so later to check in & update. #LeadLAP
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 11:17 AM EDT
    A6: Continue the convo later by asking about personal details that were shared/are known (sick kid, tickets to an event) so that they feel you value them personally too. #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    A6: For me, this means writing it down so I can follow through. Sometimes things come up in the day that make me lose my focus. I have to have a system. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • RichHayzler Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    A6: Sending a handwritten note or email saying you will follow up on what was discussed and then when you follow up, let them know too! You want to validate them and have them trust the process of effective communication! #LeadLAP
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    A6: Next day of week texts are a nice way of letting people know they are still on your mind. #LeadLAP
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    Isn't that funny? #leadlap
    In reply to @iluveducating
  • jblanchardedu Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    A6 Teachers love it when you use their comment or idea in another setting. Give them credit! #talktome #leadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    Nice! It is good for the kids— they will appreciate the teacher and will learn the importance of uplifting others! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @clegleiter
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    OMG! Yes!!! I LOVE that song. ❤️❤️ #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @PrincipalJ, @kimbearden
  • JennSagendorf Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    A6: Personal notes are so important! I always keep them where I can glance back during times of stress as a reminder to myself. I want to provide that positive recognition for others too. Saying it is good but writing it allows them to look back on a tough day. #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:18 AM EDT
    Yes! My daughter did her final book talk in 11th grade English class on Quiet, to educate everyone on why book talks have a negative impact for her as an introvert! She hated standing up in the front of class each month despite being an avid reader! #leadlap @susancain
    In reply to @teresagross625, @susancain
  • james_e_whit Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    A6: A quick follow-up call letting them know how much you appreciated their thoughts and time. An email, quick text, or popping in on a staff member to let them know how meaningful it was to visit with them. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    So cool! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @mjjohnson1216
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    A6. This amazing idea from @aaron_hogan is one every school could jump into as the year begins. Celebrate the terrific!! #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    A6: A little random but also connected...I want to be sure I do a better job this year of celebrating those that lead me. We often forget that no one else is doing this. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    That definitely makes a difference! It creates the ‘we’ instead of us and them divide. #leadLAP
    In reply to @turnerhj
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    The key is giving credit. Nothing worse than someone using your idea and then take credit for it. 😒 #Leadlap
    In reply to @jblanchardedu
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    YES! This shows you truly see, hear, and care about them! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @SteinbrinkLaura
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    A6: Make sure you thank them for their time and show your appreciation or you could sing to them #CarolBurnett https://t.co/YcV761kNOi #LeadLAP
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    I have become "Queen of the List"! If I don't write it, it may not get done when I want it to. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • nbartley6 Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    A6 We get so busy but making the time to stop by and simply ask, “How’s it going since we spoke?” And “What can I do to help?” can go such a long way because it shows our colleagues that we believe in them and that we’re invested in seeing them succeed. #leadlap
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:19 AM EDT
    I have started giving many options for book talks. Blog posts, videos, etc. #leadlap Love getting the different responses too!
    In reply to @tamaraletter, @susancain
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    Me too, Beth! I have to write it down! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    A5 I know surveys are annoying but I did a perception survey of my perfromance for all 250 edus I serve--mid year& EOY. I used the results at PD & showed how I created PD to better serve, flipped meetings via @Flipgrid & began YouTube announcments. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • courtkneeruns Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    A6: When I take photos of something they did, I like to make a short slideshow. #LeadLAP @AppleEDU
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    Handwritten notes are the BEST! It's almost become a long-lost art form now! #leadlap
    In reply to @tikaee
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    Yes! The beauty of this....it was an anti-bullying and pro self esteem rally organized completely by one of my paraprofessionals! I did very little, mostly got out of her way. #leadLAP
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    A6. Or this idea from @gcouros - I quickly created this graphic after I read his tweet mentioning this years ago. It has been "liked" or "retweeted" more than anything else I ever shared. #LeadLAP #TalktoMe
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    #teachergoals #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • Dr_LMR Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    I think it’s great to acknowledge in front of Ss. It’s a lesson that they can carry with them thru life! Kindness and appreciation matters and is valued! #leadLAP
    In reply to @clegleiter
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 11:20 AM EDT
    A5: Seeking Solutions Protocol: 1. Present Problem. 2. Everyone silently brainstorms for a few min. 3. Each person shares one possible solution until all share. 4. Further the discussion. 5. Choose 1 solution. 6. Try it for at least 2 weeks. #Leadlap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A6: I tweet from the spot all day long to celebrate the awesome of our Ss and staff living our mission. We've built this culture of sharing in our building so LOVE to look at the hashtag at the end of the day and retweet and comment more celebration! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
  • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A6: A thoughtful, thank you note gives just the right amount of personal touch. One my my dear neighbors always wrote the best thank you notes after any interaction with our family. It was perfect! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    How might you encourage your team to better seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A6: it's inevitable that you'll have action items after the meeting, be sure you complete those items and relay answers or completion to those in the meeting. #LeadLAP
  • CraigJuelis Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Checking in late. Current weather is MA not conducive to outdoor chores. #Leadlap
  • danieldmccabe Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Language of successful principals: How can I help? What do you think? Your work matters I trust you and our team I appreciate your commitment Thank you for working hard I was wrong, I am sorry Your success is my priority Do you have the tools to succeed? #LeadLap
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Just before school started last year, I made sure to send over individual emails to all of our central office people and to the other leaders in the district #LeadLAP
  • KimSnodgrass Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A6 HAPPY MAIL ✨💌✨💌✨ Follow up with surprise! Send a note (email, card, text, ANYTHING) with happy thoughts or positive takeaways from the meeting! ✨💌✨💌✨ #TalkToMe @kimbearden #LeadLAP
  • rokstar19 Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Hahaha my problem is that I have multiple list and they disappear on me. #leadlap
    In reply to @TracyMailloux, @BethHouf
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    And that you listened, which is HUGE! #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A5: I think continually asking for feedback in various PLCs, Leadership meetings, staff meetings, 1 on 1 and as feedback is received it is never belittled, or looked down. Remem. that body language and sarcasm will turn off anyone/be the killer of conversation/feedback #LeadLap
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    I had to admit, when I see the school's phone number appear on my phone, I instantly think the worst. It's a surprising joy to realize it's a compliment instead! #leadlap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @blsimps, @kimbearden
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    A6: From @John_Eick I share it ALL the time. Give team a form at beginning of year asking HOW they like to be celebrated: in public, staff meeting, newsletter, private email, hand written note... Also- find out some of their faves. Then USE the info. #leadlap #talktome
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
      The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Welcome, Craig! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    In reply to @CraigJuelis
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
    Hahaha! I thought of this every time I used the line in the book. You must be closer to my age bracket, Jay! Love her! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    A7: Have open conversations to learn about those cultures. Discuss without judgment. Control facial expressions and offer open body language. When it comes from a place of sincerity, both parties benefit. #LeadLAP
  • HowardKiyuna Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    Greetings (yawn) #LeadLAP
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    You are so good. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @TaraMartinEDU, @Flipgrid
  • JayBilly2 Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    I often sing this to the kids at bus duty at the end of the week #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
      Hahaha! I thought of this every time I used the line in the book. You must be closer to my age bracket, Jay! Love her! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
      In reply to @JayBilly2
  • timwolffSSD Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    Nailed it- Serve and help others. Recently had this discussion with one of my mentors. Thanks Paul! #leadLAP
    In reply to @danieldmccabe
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:22 AM EDT
    Great that you gave her the freedom to shine! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @timwolffSSD
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    This is an ongoing priority for us. We have had book studies, guest speakers, and planned discussions to continue to seek insight and understanding. We teach our students to celebrate their history and culture and that of others. #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    Watch this video after the chat! It highlights how we taught all about African culture and tied it to the Black Panther movie. This is just one example of what we do with our students. #TalkToMe #LeadLAP https://t.co/Kbw8dRauDD
  • tamaraletter Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    So great! There are so many ways Ss can share their knowledge with the world! If we give them choice in delivery, we empower them to choose the delivery tool that works best for them, which almost always results in a more thoughtful response! #leadlap
    In reply to @teresagross625, @susancain
  • inpursuitofed Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    A6a: Parents: Follow through on what you said you'd do & communicate when it's completed. In more challenging/contentious meetings, following up with an email that summarizes the meeting helps ensure everyone has a common understanding of commitments & agreements. #leadlap
  • JASauer Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    A7. Talk with the students. Work with them. Learn with them. Build a relationship with each of them as individuals. Knowing *who* we teach is more important than *what* we teach. #leadlap #talktome
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • saschnit Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    A7: I think the thought of just getting to know your Ss on a personal level determines so much in the classroom with Ss and Ts. Ts have to have that drive to take time to get to know Ss and build a relationship from there. Dive into different items you learn about after. #LeadLAP
  • TracyMailloux Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    Awesome! As social media grows, I fear we have #s w/ few tweets or shares. We need to be proactive to engage! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @BethHouf
  • CoriOrlando1 Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    A6 cont. Use that spreadsheet and one that you keep track of when you did this for each member- easy to see who you have missed or who you have over celebrated- accountable to spread to all. #leadlap #talktome
  • BethHouf - Moderator Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    Q7 is up! #TalkToMe #LeadLAP
    • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
      How might you encourage your team to better seek to understand students from different backgrounds? What are some strategies you use to learn about the perspectives of students who come from a different race, religion, or culture than you? #TalkToMe #LeadLap
  • charrold48 Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
    A6: Going to be using Voxer this year, so that will help. Emails, phone calls and face-to-face convos to make sure things went as intended. #LeadLap
  • mjjohnson1216 Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A7 @KymHarjes is so inspirational in leading an ongoing chat about this book on Twitter at hashtag #ReadGrowTeachRepeat What a terrific way for staff to learn more about this important topic! Her questions are shared 24/7 - whenever you or staff have the time #LeadLAP #TalkToMe
  • 1in5awareness Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A modern vision of the cortical networks for reading. https://t.co/EMk1B6iTEp #edchat #mapoli #MAedu #leadupchat #LeadLAP #SaturdayMorning
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    BOOM! Yes, yes, yes! #LeadLAP
    In reply to @JASauer, @kimbearden
  • caharrison5 Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A6: following up with a note, email or even phone call is a great step. Even a personal thank you and smile next time you see them is a good recognition. It lets them know you valued their time #LeadLap #TalkToMe
    In reply to @kimbearden
  • HowardKiyuna Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A6: Implement something from the mtg that benefits the Ss the next day and send positive feeedback (pic, vid). #LeadLAP
  • TaraMartinEDU Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A6 I often follow up with a quick recap (via email, handwritten note, etc)--paraphrasing of the convo and thanking them for opening up to me. I like to know I appreciate their REALness--even if it stung to receive it. That's how, I feel, trust is built. #leadlap #TalkToMe
  • Ryan7Read Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A7: Talk, work with them and ask those who are experienced with different backgrounds for advice. It goes a long way. #leadLAP
  • iluveducating Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    Best response I've read today (and there's been a TON of phenomenal responses in #LeadLAP)
    • JASauer Aug 4 @ 11:23 AM EDT
      A7. Talk with the students. Work with them. Learn with them. Build a relationship with each of them as individuals. Knowing *who* we teach is more important than *what* we teach. #leadlap #talktome
      In reply to @kimbearden
  • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    Love it! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
    In reply to @JayBilly2
  • teresagross625 Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    A7: One is my biggest pet peeves right here! It goes back to listening. Talking to people is one of the best ways to learn about them, but we must be sincere in our motivation. It’s not about ME it’s about THEM. #LeadLap #talktome
  • SteinbrinkLaura Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    Gotta duck out early! Moving college kiddo into her first apartment. Thanks for moderating #LeadLAP this morning, @kimbearden ! Have a great weekend everyone!
  • ljsmith0414 Aug 4 @ 11:24 AM EDT
    #leadlap A7 This has been a hot topic already as we started 2 weeks ago. Any resources or book suggestions on how to learn about cultures????
  • CraigJuelis Aug 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT
    With all of the electronic communication these days, a simple handwritten carries so much more meaning. #LeadLAP
    In reply to @tamaraletter, @tikaee
  • REFlaugher Aug 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT
    Now, this is why I call Leading Like a Pirate! #LeadLAP #ReinvestLCS @DrCrystalEd @bw_copeland
  • HartofLearning Aug 4 @ 11:25 AM EDT
    Postcards to say thank you would be quick and special, esp. w/ snail mail being so rare these days. #Leadlap
    • HapnerMelody Aug 4 @ 11:21 AM EDT
      A6: A thoughtful, thank you note gives just the right amount of personal touch. One my my dear neighbors always wrote the best thank you notes after any interaction with our family. It was perfect! #TalkToMe #LeadLap
      • kimbearden Aug 4 @ 11:13 AM EDT
        The principle of celebration means that you follow up with others to acknowledge that “I’m so glad we had this time together.” What might be some ways to follow up with staff or parents after an informal or formal mtg? #TalkToMe #LeadLap