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Hi all! Joel here, from Toronto - where it's solidly Wautumn (half way between winter and autumn). No snow on ground, but it's getting cold! Bought a new pair of insulated boots today... #kinderchat
A1: We don't stop at "sorry" band-aid solution. Instead try to move students (through modelling) to a more conversation + listening approach: How are you feeling? What can I do to fix this? #kinderchat
For sure, I've seen it before where it's totally just a script they are going through: "I'm sorry" "It's ok" (when it's obviously not!). Kids can (and need to!) go deeper. #kinderchat
As an aspiring T, I'm really happy that this topic is being discussed because it's something I never really thought of. Looking to get a lot of notes tonight on this! #KinderChat
âBut I said I was sorry!â Thinking that just because they said that, the person isnât still hurt, or the âoffenderâ will get out of trouble #kinderchat
Kids think that saying sorry will get them off the hook for the wrong they committed. Reinforcement actions need to take place in order for them to understand they did something bad #Kinderchat
Love this. Have been trying to get better at letting one student talk, while myself and other student listen, and then giving second student chance to talk while we listen. Making sure all voices are heard before solution #kinderchat
So many times actions are just accidents waiting to happen. #kinderchat helping kids understand how their behavior/actions impact others the bigger lesson then Iâm sorry
Hard to tell, but I have a hunch... I found it affirming that the article mentioned that for many of our students, they aren't developmentally at the stage to always feel truly sorry yet - and that's ok! #kinderchat
Itâs also important to talk about what happened, because even if, or especially because, itâs an accident, it still needs to be handled appropriately. I might rear-end you, itâs an accident, but I still need to make amends #kinderchat
That's where the "learning from our mistakes" part comes in, and is the truly most important part. How can I make sure this doesn't happen again? #kinderchat
A2 Iâve seen some genuine remorse in kinders Often times trying to make the situation better on their own. But for the most itâs sorry, Iâm ok, everyone goes about their business till the next time #kinderchat
I donât think we should expect that kids will genuinely feel sorry. Most are still in the âmeâ phase- still learning to think of others #kinderchat
Young children don't typically mean what they say and when they know an apology will get them out of trouble they will be willing to say it, even if they don't know what they did wrong or mean it #Kinderchat
Haven't introduced it with this year's group yet - but I had a class one year who really needed a nudge to move beyond "sorry" - we introduced the Talk It Out table as a strategy. Blogged about it here: https://t.co/kknbmRimWF#kinderchat
Haven't introduced it with this year's group yet - but I had a class one year who really needed a nudge to move beyond "sorry" - we introduced the Talk It Out table as a strategy. Blogged about it here: https://t.co/kknbmRimWF#kinderchat
I had a S today who was super disrespectful in our small group. He needed to make amends to all of us and it took some time because his go-to phrase wasn't working #kinderchat
Itâs not that I disagree at all with the article. Iâm just trying to keep it real for me here. The bells ringing, the kids need to be in PE, other kids are crying. Sometimes itâs just easier⌠#kinderchat
Totally a valid point. I think we all agree a "moving beyond sorry" approach is certainly important - but also requires a significant amount of time/focus #kinderchat
A4: I think sharing resources with families is very important and meaningful. I'd share this article to clarify why we stay away from the "I'm sorry" script, and how that benefits the socio-emotional learning of our students #kinderchat
A4 I think it's about discussing ownership and responsibility for our actions and behaviour as well as a commitment to maintaining trust, respect, and relationship #kinderchat
A4: I think most parents arenât so concerned with the apology, but rather that the situation was dealt with as soon as possible. Thatâs my experience #kinderchat
A4 frequent or rare occurrence would guide the conversation with the parents. They often tell kids did you say youâre sorry and thatâs a good time to point out how you try to work out these situations #kinderchat
A4 restorative practices and circles occur... Allowing each of the Ss involved to talk through the situation. We presented in this at our last SAC meeting #kinderchat
I know this isn't on-topic, but can I just say - being able to use 280 characters on Twitter is LIFE-CHANGING?!?! #kinderchat#fillingextraspacewiththis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you @MmeKathleen@happycampergirl and #kinderchat Great article and conversation. Dinner calls. Jet lag continues. OH Iâm subbing in kinder tomorrow. Can I be any happier!
A3 After reading the article, I am going to be better at modeling empathy for the child who's hurt as well as give the other child a chance to practice showing empathy & asking how the other child is. I really like the idea of having Ss take action and responsibility #kinderchat
A5: I think just the general consensus that this is how problems are solved. Hard to message "being sorry doesn't always fix it" when so many other outside sources say otherwise #kinderchat
A3 After reading the article, I am going to be better at modeling empathy for the child who's hurt as well as give the other child a chance to practice showing empathy & asking how the other child is. I really like the idea of having Ss take action and responsibility #kinderchat
A5: I guess, if there is one, itâs when others arenât on board with my philosophy. Especially if itâs another adult whoâs in the classroom with you (EA, co-teacher, etc) #kinderchat
A5 To quote Elton John, sorry seems to be the hardest word! It has to be MORE than sorry to allow true forgiveness, trust, and relationship restoration #kinderchat
Also so helpful to message to families that we want to be on same page and strengthen home-school connection. Students benefit from consistency when we are all a team :) #kinderchat
A5: I don't like the natural response, "it's okay." It's not okay, that's why you're apologizing. I try to teach my Ss to continue the convo or say things like: thx for apologizing or I accept your apology & then an invite to continue learning or talk later #kinderchat
