#Kinderchat Archive

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Monday November 13, 2017
9:00 PM EST

  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:00 PM EST
    Come out, come out, wherever you are! It's #kinderchat time! Say hello, where you are, and what season your WEATHER (not calendar) says it is!
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:01 PM EST
    Chrstine from Southern Alberta, where it is mostly springy and melty! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:02 PM EST
    Hi all! Joel here, from Toronto - where it's solidly Wautumn (half way between winter and autumn). No snow on ground, but it's getting cold! Bought a new pair of insulated boots today... #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:02 PM EST
    Kathleen from Edmonton here, co-moderating with @happycampergirl from a frosty winter wonderland. #kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:02 PM EST
    Hi Kathleen! How much snow so far? #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen, @happycampergirl
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:02 PM EST
    Kristin from Springfield, VA (USA) by way of Philadelphia, PA (USA) it's currently 43 degrees. #KinderChat
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
    Brett, Lamar, Mo., aspiring elementary teacher #KinderChat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
    Just noticed I am using invented spelling tonight on my last tweet. #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman, @MmeKathleen, @happycampergirl
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
    Enough to not debate about winter boots or not. 😝 #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman, @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
    Eeeek! Stay warm! #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen, @happycampergirl
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
    I'll say fall #KinderChat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:04 PM EST
    Carrie here from PEI- gorgeous fall day- sunny and 4C. Perfect day off! #kinderchat
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:04 PM EST
    Oops #Kinderchat
    • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:03 PM EST
      Faige from Los Angeles where it’s our fall/autumn
      In reply to @happycampergirl
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:04 PM EST
    Kindergarten writing is accepted and can be read here! #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @JoelSeaman, @MmeKathleen, @happycampergirl
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:04 PM EST
    My grade ones think that "the calendar says fall, but the weather says spring" is the funniest joke EVER. #Kinderchat
  • KinderChat123 Nov 13 @ 9:05 PM EST
    Tonight we are discussing this article, re: mandatory apologies & young children: https://t.co/n3ANSBTAlM #kinderchat
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:05 PM EST
    4C? 😝😝😝😝 kidding kidding #KinderChat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • megan_sulava Nov 13 @ 9:05 PM EST
    I'm Megan, a student at Grove City College in PA and its fall here (cold and rainy) #Kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:06 PM EST
    I’ll let you do the math to figure out what that is in F lolololol #kinderchat
    In reply to @KC_SEASportsFan
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:06 PM EST
    Just as we respect invented spelling, I feel we must also allow US temperature readings and Canadian spelling #kinderchat
    In reply to @KC_SEASportsFan, @CarrieMarshall1
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:07 PM EST
    I can do either metric or imperial. But I cannot translate between the two. I am bilingual Canadian/American, just not fluent ;) #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:08 PM EST
    Double it and add 30. Don't know the minus formula though #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:08 PM EST
    Take away 30 and half it! #Kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @CarrieMarshall1, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:08 PM EST
    MIND. BLOWN. #kinderchat #neverstoplearning
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @CarrieMarshall1, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:09 PM EST
    Yeah… I think I’m more confused now hahaha #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @KeeneeLou, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:09 PM EST
    I’m lost but that’s ok. there is always google for me #Kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @KeeneeLou, @CarrieMarshall1, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:09 PM EST
    Well, of course! I usually just say it's really kinda cold out there, America! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @CarrieMarshall1, @KC_SEASportsFan
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:10 PM EST
    Q1: Tonight we are talking about young children & apologies. How do you currently handle apologies in your class? #Kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:10 PM EST
    It’s not that simple Brett. Trust me #kinderchat
    In reply to @KC_SEASportsFan
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:10 PM EST
    *Exhale* #KinderChat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:11 PM EST
    A1: Right now, I have the “offending” student come to the “offended: student and we talk it out- what happened? How can we fix this? #kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:11 PM EST
    A1: We don't stop at "sorry" band-aid solution. Instead try to move students (through modelling) to a more conversation + listening approach: How are you feeling? What can I do to fix this? #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:11 PM EST
    A1 Saying sorry is one very small part of making amends and learning from a challenging or hurtful situation #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:11 PM EST
    A1: My students apologize after I've spoken to them about what they did to hurt a classmate. #Kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:12 PM EST
    We also discuss what they can do to make it better for the next time #Kinderchat
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:12 PM EST
    A1. Not one t tell kid to say Sorry. And I cringe when I sub and hear Ts say it. Article really supported what I did for years & do #Kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:13 PM EST
    Yes! I love this article as I feel it is what I always try to do with people #kinderchat
    In reply to @dubioseducator
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:13 PM EST
    I agree. Sometimes we aren't sorry at that time. And sometimes we are, but that doesn't make it better! #kinderchat
    In reply to @dubioseducator
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:14 PM EST
    It's really more about learning how to be empathetic rather than how to say you are sorry #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman, @dubioseducator
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:14 PM EST
    Also, young children don't even understand what "I'm sorry," means. #Kinderchat
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:14 PM EST
    I once hear a child say to another: "Just say sorry and you won't be in trouble anymore." #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:15 PM EST
    I think it is often used as a quick way to solve a problem and it doesn't mean much #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:15 PM EST
    Kids have become so enculturated to say Sorry that they come over and complain when another child doesn’t for any infraction #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:15 PM EST
    For sure, I've seen it before where it's totally just a script they are going through: "I'm sorry" "It's ok" (when it's obviously not!). Kids can (and need to!) go deeper. #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @dubioseducator
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:15 PM EST
    As an aspiring T, I'm really happy that this topic is being discussed because it's something I never really thought of. Looking to get a lot of notes tonight on this! #KinderChat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:16 PM EST
    “But I said I was sorry!” Thinking that just because they said that, the person isn’t still hurt, or the “offender” will get out of trouble #kinderchat
    In reply to @dubioseducator, @JoelSeaman
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:16 PM EST
    My other favourite is "on accident" as in "I didn't hurt her! My fist hit her mouth on accident!" #kinderchat
  • emiblaser Nov 13 @ 9:16 PM EST
    Kinders brainstorming toys and games for their summative assessment! #pypchat #visiblethinking #kinderchat #shareLJA
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:16 PM EST
    A1: After both parties tell their sides of the story, the student apologizes and asks "What can I do to make you feel better?" #kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:17 PM EST
    Such a great point Christine. Are we trying to encourage apologetic people? Or empathetic? #kinderchat
    • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:14 PM EST
      It's really more about learning how to be empathetic rather than how to say you are sorry #kinderchat
      In reply to @JoelSeaman, @dubioseducator
  • megan_sulava Nov 13 @ 9:17 PM EST
    Kids think that saying sorry will get them off the hook for the wrong they committed. Reinforcement actions need to take place in order for them to understand they did something bad #Kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:17 PM EST
    I had a G1 who "accidentally" kicked his boot across the room and into the head of his peer #ididlaugh #notoutloud #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:17 PM EST
    Love this. Have been trying to get better at letting one student talk, while myself and other student listen, and then giving second student chance to talk while we listen. Making sure all voices are heard before solution #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:17 PM EST
    Both of these (I'm sorry and on accident) have become meaningless phrases that just mean "get me out of trouble now" #kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:18 PM EST
    Don't forget "They did it first!" #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • St006C Nov 13 @ 9:18 PM EST
    A1) Ss1: I'm sorry for_______. Are u ok? (Appropriate follow up). ss2: thank you for apologizing. I teach Ss NOT to just say okay. #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:18 PM EST
    I also ask the offended person, what would you like so-and-so to do to make you feel better? #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:18 PM EST
    So many times actions are just accidents waiting to happen. #kinderchat helping kids understand how their behavior/actions impact others the bigger lesson then I’m sorry
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:19 PM EST
    All this reminds me of, is this Simpsons clip. 😂 #kinderchat https://t.co/7lMDjqO5W0
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:19 PM EST
    Yes! Own the behaviour that caused the problem/hurt! And, it's NOT okay to hurt or be hurt! #kinderchat
    In reply to @St006C
  • St006C Nov 13 @ 9:19 PM EST
    A1b) I also teach Ss2 to say "It makes me feel ____ when u_____. Recognizing others' feelings is impt in convo #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:19 PM EST
    I teach in an area with a heavy ELL population. If they aren't taught it at home I can't expect it at school. #KinderChat
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:20 PM EST
    Q2: In your experience, how often do kindergarten students genuinely FEEL sorry? #kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:20 PM EST
    Hard to tell, but I have a hunch... I found it affirming that the article mentioned that for many of our students, they aren't developmentally at the stage to always feel truly sorry yet - and that's ok! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    It’s also important to talk about what happened, because even if, or especially because, it’s an accident, it still needs to be handled appropriately. I might rear-end you, it’s an accident, but I still need to make amends #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    A2 I think my students "feel sorry" about 40% of the time. Many just don't understand. #Kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    A2 In my experience, it's a rare quality in young children. Hope that doesn't sound mean. . . #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    That's where the "learning from our mistakes" part comes in, and is the truly most important part. How can I make sure this doesn't happen again? #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • St006C Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    A2) some genuinely feel sorry. Empathy often has to b taught before sorry feels genuine. #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:21 PM EST
    I teach my students to respond to apologies by saying "thank you" or "I accept your apology." It's NOT ok to say "it's ok"! #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:22 PM EST
    Very very very important. There are a few sides to every story, and everyone needs to be heard. #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:23 PM EST
    I love this. I also tell victims they can say "I'm still mad, & not ready to accept your apology yet. Plse give me some space." #Kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:23 PM EST
    A2 I’ve seen some genuine remorse in kinders Often times trying to make the situation better on their own. But for the most it’s sorry, I’m ok, everyone goes about their business till the next time #kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:23 PM EST
    A2: Most feel sorry that they’ve been caught, but not about the action. #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:23 PM EST
    Do you think empathy is a developmental thing? #kinderchat
    In reply to @St006C
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:23 PM EST
    There is also a difference btwn remorse about getting in trouble, & remorse about hurting someone. THey can look similar. #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:24 PM EST
    A2: When the accused comes running behind the accuser bawling their eyes out and I have that teacher gut feeling, they're sorry. #kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:24 PM EST
    I don’t think we should expect that kids will genuinely feel sorry. Most are still in the “me” phase- still learning to think of others #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @happycampergirl
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:24 PM EST
    RT @CarrieMarshall1 A2: Most feel sorry that they’ve been caught, but not about the action. #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:24 PM EST
    Yes I do! #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    That's an awesome add on! I find students who feel this way will often actively search another friend to play with after, too. #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • megan_sulava Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    Young children don't typically mean what they say and when they know an apology will get them out of trouble they will be willing to say it, even if they don't know what they did wrong or mean it #Kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    That's my feeling too. But it is lovely to meet a young personmwho has a natural sense of empathy and care for others #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1, @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    Haven't introduced it with this year's group yet - but I had a class one year who really needed a nudge to move beyond "sorry" - we introduced the Talk It Out table as a strategy. Blogged about it here: https://t.co/kknbmRimWF #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    We follow a social emotional awareness program that has good, consistent language we practice with the students. #kinderchat
    In reply to @St006C, @JoelSeaman
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
    I've had some great answers to "How can I help you feel better?" - Leave me alone; Don't do it to anyone else.. #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:26 PM EST
    And modeled as well. Also books can help kids understand empathy #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:26 PM EST
    Based on what our article says, yes. #kinderchat
  • St006C Nov 13 @ 9:27 PM EST
    A strategy to go beyond "I'm sorry." #kinderchat #teacherfriends
    • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:25 PM EST
      Haven't introduced it with this year's group yet - but I had a class one year who really needed a nudge to move beyond "sorry" - we introduced the Talk It Out table as a strategy. Blogged about it here: https://t.co/kknbmRimWF #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:27 PM EST
    I had a S today who was super disrespectful in our small group. He needed to make amends to all of us and it took some time because his go-to phrase wasn't working #kinderchat
    In reply to @JoelSeaman
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:27 PM EST
    Yes! It’s not unheard of, but I don’t think we should expect that they will have it. I think it takes time and is developmental. #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @happycampergirl
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:27 PM EST
    "Help me rebuild it," "Can I have a hug?" 💜💜💜 #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:28 PM EST
    Time!! We have to take the time to help everyone work through the process #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1, @happycampergirl
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:29 PM EST
    My fave: Spend ALL your centre time making me a card with flowers and a poem. #kinderchat (we made the card, but it did not take 90 min.) #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:29 PM EST
    I have a teacher friend who once encouraged a student to ask that question - the other student replied "Can you sing me a song?" <3 <3 <3 #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @MmeKathleen
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:29 PM EST
    I find it extra tough when a student does it on a regular basis, and starts digging a deep hole that's difficult to get out of. #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou, @JoelSeaman
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:30 PM EST
    Q3: Does the article have you re-thinking your practices in terms of apologies? What would you change? #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:30 PM EST
    These students are the ones who need the most support to rebuild trust and relationship and it's tough! #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen, @JoelSeaman
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:31 PM EST
    Awwwwww! If the student doesn't ask for it but I find it will help, I usually ask the offender to write an apology picture. #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:31 PM EST
    A3 I loved the article cos it reinforced what I believe and do! I think I'll share it with parents! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:31 PM EST
    A3: I confess sometimes it’s just easier to accept the “I’m sorry” and move on. #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:32 PM EST
    A3: I somewhat practice what the article is discussing. #Kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:32 PM EST
    I agree. I would like to research the topic more too. #Kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:32 PM EST
    Sometimes in that hole the student needs a helping hand. That’s hard but rewarding when the child doesn’t have to go there anymore #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen, @KeeneeLou, @JoelSeaman
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:33 PM EST
    I will ask Ss to draw an apology picture of how their behaviour SHOULD look w/ that friend, then copy it for a classroom visual. #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:33 PM EST
    That may be okay sometimes cos I think sometimes it depends on the "who" and the "what" of a problem too. #honesty #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:33 PM EST
    It’s not that I disagree at all with the article. I’m just trying to keep it real for me here. The bells ringing, the kids need to be in PE, other kids are crying. Sometimes it’s just easier… #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:34 PM EST
    Yup #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:34 PM EST
    And sometimes, kids are satisfied with an "I'm sorry," and don't need MORE to move on. It can be efficient! #Kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:35 PM EST
    Totally a valid point. I think we all agree a "moving beyond sorry" approach is certainly important - but also requires a significant amount of time/focus #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1, @krissymbutler
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:35 PM EST
    Pt. 1: It also depends on the area where you teach. If a child is from a culture where "I'm sorry," isn't part of their manners #Kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:35 PM EST
    Pt. 2: ...then it's going to be more difficult to implement the practices of the article. #Kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:36 PM EST
    A3: I enjoy the "making the guarantee" part, especially for the tougher kiddos. Saying it is like checking for understanding. #kinderchat
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:36 PM EST
    Yes, I think there is a lot of value in a child verbalizing a commitment to NOT DO IT AGAIN. #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:37 PM EST
    Accountability is big, and students will remember this! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @MmeKathleen
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:37 PM EST
    When this happens, I centre it on the classroom. "If you can do that at home, that's fine. Here, we respect our class rules." #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:37 PM EST
    I like the word "guarantee" instead of "promise". I don't like kids to make promises they may not be able to keep. #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:38 PM EST
    Yes I like that “checking for understanding” #kinderchat
    In reply to @MmeKathleen
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:40 PM EST
    Q4: In a classroom where children are not required to apologize, what are some things to consider when explaining incidents to parents? #kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:41 PM EST
    This reminds me of my daughter when she was 3, “I will never, ever, ever, do that again!” And an hour later, guess what, lol! #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl, @MmeKathleen
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:41 PM EST
    A4: Age of children #Kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:42 PM EST
    A4: Communication is key. EXPLAIN WHY we teach the way we teach. If you have a reason why, parents will understand. #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:42 PM EST
    When my students were in another classroom today with another teacher one of them cut another one on the face with scissors. #Kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:42 PM EST
    A4: I think sharing resources with families is very important and meaningful. I'd share this article to clarify why we stay away from the "I'm sorry" script, and how that benefits the socio-emotional learning of our students #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:42 PM EST
    A4 I think it's about discussing ownership and responsibility for our actions and behaviour as well as a commitment to maintaining trust, respect, and relationship #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:42 PM EST
    A4 frequent or rare occurrence #kinderchat
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:43 PM EST
    A4: I think parents need to hear what we DO when an incident arises - that we are not just letting kids "get away with it" #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:43 PM EST
    I had to hear about it from the asst. principal and the parent was coming after me during dismissal. I felt bad but I wasn't the #Kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:43 PM EST
    A4: I think most parents aren’t so concerned with the apology, but rather that the situation was dealt with as soon as possible. That’s my experience #kinderchat
  • MmeKathleen - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:43 PM EST
    We use PATHS. #kinderchat
    In reply to @St006C, @JoelSeaman, @2ndStepProgram, @KelsosChoice
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:43 PM EST
    ...teacher in charge when it occurred. Asst. principal didn't even facilitate an apology or meeting with the two kids. #Kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:44 PM EST
    That makes it hard for you to move in this direction in your space #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:45 PM EST
    A4 frequent or rare occurrence would guide the conversation with the parents. They often tell kids did you say you’re sorry and that’s a good time to point out how you try to work out these situations #kinderchat
  • krissymbutler Nov 13 @ 9:45 PM EST
    It really does. I didn't know kiddie scissors could cut skin. #Kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:47 PM EST
    I would encourage you to stick to your guns and your Ss will learn to transfer these important social skills over time! #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:48 PM EST
    I'm sure you felt terrible too. It's hard when you're not feeling supported. #kinderchat
    In reply to @krissymbutler
  • edu_ksSkukalek Nov 13 @ 9:48 PM EST
    A4 restorative practices and circles occur... Allowing each of the Ss involved to talk through the situation. We presented in this at our last SAC meeting #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:49 PM EST
    I know this isn't on-topic, but can I just say - being able to use 280 characters on Twitter is LIFE-CHANGING?!?! #kinderchat #fillingextraspacewiththis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • dubioseducator Nov 13 @ 9:49 PM EST
    Thank you @MmeKathleen @happycampergirl and #kinderchat Great article and conversation. Dinner calls. Jet lag continues. OH I’m subbing in kinder tomorrow. Can I be any happier!
  • mrslibbyFM Nov 13 @ 9:49 PM EST
    A3 After reading the article, I am going to be better at modeling empathy for the child who's hurt as well as give the other child a chance to practice showing empathy & asking how the other child is. I really like the idea of having Ss take action and responsibility #kinderchat
  • happycampergirl - Moderator Nov 13 @ 9:50 PM EST
    Q5: What are the social pressures you (or parents) might experience around making children apologize? #kinderchat
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:51 PM EST
    A5: I think just the general consensus that this is how problems are solved. Hard to message "being sorry doesn't always fix it" when so many other outside sources say otherwise #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KC_SEASportsFan Nov 13 @ 9:51 PM EST
    Same #KinderChat
    • mrslibbyFM Nov 13 @ 9:49 PM EST
      A3 After reading the article, I am going to be better at modeling empathy for the child who's hurt as well as give the other child a chance to practice showing empathy & asking how the other child is. I really like the idea of having Ss take action and responsibility #kinderchat
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:51 PM EST
    A5: I guess, if there is one, it’s when others aren’t on board with my philosophy. Especially if it’s another adult who’s in the classroom with you (EA, co-teacher, etc) #kinderchat
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:52 PM EST
    A5 To quote Elton John, sorry seems to be the hardest word! It has to be MORE than sorry to allow true forgiveness, trust, and relationship restoration #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:53 PM EST
    Ooh. I've had that in the past. Not fun. #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • CarrieMarshall1 Nov 13 @ 9:54 PM EST
    It’s tough to not roll those eyes, isn’t it! Lol! #kinderchat
    In reply to @KeeneeLou
  • KeeneeLou Nov 13 @ 9:54 PM EST
    I would sometimes just fume inside my head. I'm wasn't very good at confronting these things but have now learned how to model #kinderchat
    In reply to @CarrieMarshall1
  • JoelSeaman Nov 13 @ 9:55 PM EST
    Also so helpful to message to families that we want to be on same page and strengthen home-school connection. Students benefit from consistency when we are all a team :) #kinderchat
    In reply to @mrslibbyFM, @happycampergirl
  • EduGladiators Nov 13 @ 9:56 PM EST
    🏁Join #EduGladiators SATURDAY as we wrap up our November series 🔑s to Success w/@brianrozinsky leading the convo on Driving Success! #COLchat #ELLchat #ksedchat #TeacherEdChat #TLAP #kinderchat #techtalkchat @ackDramatic @APLLynch @arturo_calisto @DarnGoodReads @LetchfordLois
  • edu_ksSkukalek Nov 13 @ 9:56 PM EST
    A5: I don't like the natural response, "it's okay." It's not okay, that's why you're apologizing. I try to teach my Ss to continue the convo or say things like: thx for apologizing or I accept your apology & then an invite to continue learning or talk later #kinderchat
    In reply to @happycampergirl