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Thursday October 27, 2016
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Hi Jena and Sunny! Gillian from Vancouver BC https://t.co/pa6uWcGG3x
Welcome to ! Tonight your moderators are and . is in Australia running workshops in schools.
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Hi everyone. Ian from the UK here for another great chat
Meredith joining ready to stand up and speak out about bullying. Intervention Specialist from Florida… https://t.co/ZWKRyFNkh5
Welcome Gillian. Great to have you on
Gillian so glad you could make it. Welcome.
Welcome Ian. Great to have you on today.
Why do I feel like Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid? LOL
Sarah here from Singapore. Consultant & coach for and personal/social ed. Morning all!!
Thank you Sunny. Great to meet you
Hi there, I'm Shelaine from Nova Scotia, Canada. This is my first twitter chat
Great to see you Meredith!
Michala from Virginia Beach ready to chat for the first half before I have to drive children around!
Thank you Jena. Good to see you.
Always great to connect with fellow educators from back home. :)
Hi I am Terry, 3rd gr T in Fl and HUGE fan of Happy to be here
Oh Nova Scotia. Is it snowing already up there? Welcome :-)
Morning Spiri. How are you?
Spiri! I knew i could count on you to bring the GIFs
Fantastic! Where in the UK was home for you?
Hi Tim. Love your animations and drawings. Welcome
Welcome Tim and agree. Come on you are getting us worried about your health.
not yet but it sure feels like it is going to any day! Thanks:)
Hi, Anna here. Will be in and out of the conversation. Day off! Yes, sadly anyone can become a bully.
Terry! So glad you could make it.
Hi Michala! Great to see you here
Robert from Los Angeles. Hello, friends!
Glad to have you onboard Julie
Dani here from VA. agree!
Julie! You made it. Can you please post a link to your amazing video!
Great to have whole reading list authored by you to supplement
Question #1 is Coming up in one minute.
I think some are at little/no risk of becoming a bully, for others the risk is higher, depending on their circumstances
Excited for this relevant chat!
Hello Jackie from CT, US a little late to the party
library media specialist
Hello all! Amanda from NJ. Agree.
Q1: It’s been said that bullying is the tip of a larger iceberg. Do you agree or disagree? Why? https://t.co/Pj60cuXKJb
A1: It could be the tip or it could be the base. More importantly we need to invesitage whats inside. What causes it?
Best to follow any Twitter user who stays awake until midnight to talk about education.Hope sleep finds you quickly.
Welcome to today. great to have you onboard.
Hi Robert! Glad you could make it.
A1: Bullying = symptom of a larger problem. We must help kids develop emotional intelligence too! Emotions affect everything.
A1: I think bullying often can be the tip of the iceberg with a more deep rooted issue within.
Love your program Join right now chat re:
thanks, delighted to be a part of the conversation
Hi Anna, welcome to today and indeed the potential of being a bully is in even the best of us.
A1: yes, absolutely, so much more to understand
A1: In my experience of it, bullying usually masks something bigger. It is important to find out what that is - to address.
Hello from Long Island, NY
Hi Robert. Great to have you on today.
Lovely. I trained in West London many years ago!
Hi Ian 😊 How are you? I hope all is well 😊
Yep, even that obsessive, repetitive hassling of people over the smallest thing is a form of it.
A1: It has so much below it. So much we need to deal with that gets a bully to that point. We need to go below the surface.
A1 Feel like it's the start of unhealthy power-filled rel'ships...& it's likely caused by unhealthy p… https://t.co/FStbA8zVvK
Q1: It’s been said that bullying is the tip of a larger iceberg. Do you agree or disagree? Why? https://t.co/Pj60cuXKJb
Wow. Small world. I was in Harrow and Hounslow. How about you?
A1: not all cases are the same; why is the victim targeted? why is the aggressor lashing out
I'm good thanks Spiri. Had our half term this week so a nice rest and family time :-)
A1: bullying is a symptom of deeper issues
A1 Not necessarily. We all can be mean w/very little thought or reason behind it. This is why attention & intention are vital
A1: I agree and believe bullying is a manifestation of other issues .
A1: It usually is a symptom of a bigger issue. What is the function of this behavior for this particular bully? We must help.
It is a thin line indeed and our emotional intelligence plays a great part here
A bit more south west. I trained near Barnes and Richmond
A1: agreed. Often times students are struggling with issues/concerns that are unseen to others.
A1: both the bully and the victim need support, different kinds
A1: Deeper issues are the spark. Bullying is the fuel. We can let that fuel ignite, or we can help to put it out put it out
A1 So is bullying part of a dysfunctional system?
A1 I think bullying can be cultural-a tip of and iceberg, be it in a school, town or country-it's a repetitive, viscous cycle!
Yes, for sure. That knowing when to retreat from a situation is vital.
Thrilled that you are moderating, Jena! No one better than you for this topic.
A1 Joe from North Carolina Agree - bully potential lurks in everyone
We never know what led up to that behavior.
A1: Deeper issues are the spark. Bullying is the fuel. We can let that fuel ignite, or we can help to put it out
Great to be here with you, Sunny!
I see a lot of that hierarchy promoted in testing and competition for grades.
Yes, completely agree. And solutions.
Faige in Los Angels Imperative that we listen to what's going 2have a good sense of why/how the bullying manifests itself
As a special educator, my students have been on both sides of bullying. Trying to find the why can be a challenge.
A1: Even those who just enjoy the power. There is something behind that as well.
So important! abuse is cycle experienced by the victim & the abuser; how can we protect both from what hurts them?
Great effort to join . Welcome Kevin. Kudos!
Yes, great point. Kids are like sponges and pick up on the culture as well as behavior
Always a pleasure to be in your company, Spiri!
I think it is crucial to separate the behaviour from the person. Everyone has a bad day sometimes.
perhaps a reaction to an isolated incident
Hi Joe! Yes...because we all can be hurt and lash out.
Awww thanks. Certainly one I am passionate about.
Do you think being mean is bullying? https://t.co/xUsBC9EB3K
A1 Not necessarily. We all can be mean w/very little thought or reason behind it. This is why attention & intention are vital
A1 Bullying can set up lifelong patterns of behavior/response for bullies and bullied.
It is interesting though. A friend of mine noted repetitive targeting of her 18mth old by another 18mth old. Only hers.
A1: It usually stems from a deeper issue.
A1 Often yes, there is something more behind the bullying. Often underpinned by insecurity/ fear of being the next 'victim'
Question #2 is coming up!
A1.As an experienced school leader can we start In the staffroom.A happy staffroom gives a happy playground.We need to lead
Like it! What my Ss will usually say when asked why people bully.
Q2: Are there others - besides the bullies and the bullied - who contribute to the problem? https://t.co/yXxCyFjt8V
A2: By failing to act - one becomes part of the problem. It's ok to stand up even if you are standing alone.
Nope. Some people just aren't kind. It doesn't mean that they are necessarily targeting.
A2 - The system contributes to the problem. Kids think anything is bullying - how can we better define this for them?
A1 reminder how important define & the actors; bystanders etc.to make sure all understand behavior
We don't know the "why". Shouldn't assume.
I do believe that too much competition creates an atmosphere for bad feeling which can lead to unkindness
Hierarchies & defense of status is epidemic whether it is grades, social, economic, athletic...
Competition can be healthy. It helps us strive and learn sportsmanship etc. Problematic wh… https://t.co/a8N0ry3HIY
And protect that room! Don't let it become a place of gossip and discontentment. https://t.co/0AHegHd3Y1
A1.As an experienced school leader can we start In the staffroom.A happy staffroom gives a happy playground.We need to lead
Absolutely. Much of our job is to find out the why and to help
A2 yes, others that ignore the bullying going on under their noise
I think of bullying as repetitive and intentional cruelty. Not just a bad day or being mean to someone
A2 Sometimes the "rescuers" from all good intents add to cyclical process of bullying and victim hood https://t.co/2B1dxkZiJk
Q2: Are there others - besides the bullies and the bullied - who contribute to the problem? https://t.co/yXxCyFjt8V
The bystanders contribute if they allow it to happen and don't intervene in some way.
Great way of putting it https://t.co/PBxUSiWwsp
A1: Deeper issues are the spark. Bullying is the fuel. We can let that fuel ignite, or we can help to put it out
V few people are truly 'bad' so definitely separating beh from person is key, plus beh can be changed
A2: Absolutely. The bystanders, those that pass it by, the encouragers (whether parents or students), cultural biases...
& victims can either seek power when they are “on top” or internalize bullying=appropriate power relationship
Hi Teresa. Good point. Children come with so much we know nothing about.
A2: yes, my Ss and I talked about bystanders and how they can be a bystander or an upstander.
A2: adults if they witness it and turn the other way.
Welcome Faige Listening with intent is always crucial in any situation. Here it is vital.
It is so true and can create a very complex environment with a mixture of emotions
Exactly and important the in program A2 Yes yes! just make sure safe/caution when… https://t.co/XPCyZc0p7T
A2: By failing to act - one becomes part of the problem. It's ok to stand up even if you are standing alone.
A2: All are complicit becuz all contribute 2 the school culture. Kindness, empathy & respect for differences must be the norm.
I like that term - upstander.
A2: The "bystanders," the audience members, the ones who stay quiet.The Tt & Ss who let it go.
A2: The bystanders contribute if they allow it to happen and don't intervene in some way.
We need to let kids work out discrepancies with other kids. They need to learn coping skills. 1/2
A2: Yes there are bystanders or those that love to watch "the show". There are those who excuse the action, or say "kid stuff"
Absolutely agree-Ts need to take time to investigate the background- not always easy
A2: help the bystanders understand they will be supported when standing up to bullying. We have to help them become UPstanders
watched one athlete help opposing team member up after collision; S's showed sportsmanship when parents on sidelines were not
Role playing situations works well to help kids define bullying.
Agree. The intent to inflict harm/ridicule however it rears its head is bullying IMO https://t.co/6nk4sJF9wj
I think of bullying as repetitive and intentional cruelty. Not just a bad day or being mean to someone
A2 Being a bystander is just as bad. You're implicitly condoning & encouraging the behavior by watching. Stop it or tell some1
A2) Yes, parent who doesn't talk to child, T who doesn't pick up cues, anyone who doesn't notice, speak up & ask
When it is targeted and sustained. It is bullying.
What if they don't have adequate skills to deal with it? Do we let them learn the hard way?
A2 Bullying can be a institutional issue- everyone is part of the problem if the if the behavior is accepted!
A2: I also think when we just punish and do not seek below the action, get the help.
Part of a Ts job is to assist students with conflict resolution (the right way)
Real bullying issues should be quickly and swiftly dealt with. 2/2
Hi just finding you all again. A2 as a parent do I fuel or distinguish bullying by being aware of "my" child?
A2 YES! Bullying is cultural problem--it's deeply rooted. Being in a context where bullying is happe… https://t.co/xld3606HhI
Q2: Are there others - besides the bullies and the bullied - who contribute to the problem? https://t.co/yXxCyFjt8V
A2.Can we start in the staffroom.A staffroom void of bullies gives a playground devoid of bullies.Teachers give examplw
Bullying is often a sign of a deep problem that we shouldn't ignore
Bullying is often a sign of a deep problem that we shouldn't ignore
I think this is crucial too. Kids watch us like hawks. They model their behavior on what th… https://t.co/0Wlc6YOodx
wrote an amazing book called Upstanders. LOVE LOVE LOVE the vocabulary and lessons in it.
A2 BYSTANDERS! They have so much power in the moment but don't realise-empower the bystanders to be upstanders
Perfect, I shall check it out. Thank you.
A2: we must teach children alternatives for when they see bullying so then understand that bystanders are often enablers.
A1 competition can also led to stress & stress can lead to other issues
or if tchrs feel they R being targeted when situatns occurring in their classrms R reported
THis is a good point and one reason I am so big on SEL. Kids need 2 learn to deal w/all kinds of people.
especially is vital. That's why I do my job!
and her book Upstanders. love!!!!! ❤️❤️
a2. Sometimes the worst thing we can do is nothing or pretend that the problem doesn't exist
We had an assembly on that this week. https://t.co/oncHvP5S83
A2: yes, my Ss and I talked about bystanders and how they can be a bystander or an upstander.
My goodness. Wondering if observable behaviour at that age drives this or is it in our nature? https://t.co/HgJH7caD4z
It is interesting though. A friend of mine noted repetitive targeting of her 18mth old by another 18mth old. Only hers.
Question #3 coming up in one minute.
We teach Ss college&career readiness. Emotional intelligence+conflict resolution+handling emotions are life skills=important
Holiday 😊 I am so jealous my friend 😉 Enjoy 😊
My name is Danielle and I am attempting to take part in my first TweetChat.
A2: Is there anything about organizational culture that unwittingly enables bullying?
Totally agree! https://t.co/aOArkCZlzS
I think of bullying as repetitive and intentional cruelty. Not just a bad day or being mean to someone
A3: Separating the behavior from the individual is hard for many to do. Focus on individual and you eliminate the behavior.
A3: How 2 separate bullies from their behavior. How 2 address passive onlookers. How can Ps be part of solution? How 2 edu Ts?
I think that it's a combination. It was interesting when the lady was told that her child was doing that, she was 😳
I don't think that there is potential for anyone to become a bully.
A3: I think ensuring that the issue is properly addressed and that those affected feel that they can trust you to sort it out
So crucial. The culture of the school is vital and modelling is key https://t.co/Nca6gqRkMc
A1.As an experienced school leader can we start In the staffroom.A happy staffroom gives a happy playground.We need to lead
A2: parents,peers, sometimes staff at school.
A3: knowing when to intervene and when to let Ss work it out themselves
I think you and I are on the same page. This is my passion :-)
A2 Society may contribute to bullying without much intention. The norm is accepted/expected while diff is not always welcome.
A3: making both sides feel safe, supported and cared about, building trust and respect
A2 parents aren't always clear either. Schools need to provide & communicate clear definition
Often a skill they learn on the job instead of being trained for https://t.co/NrOw1iuT0G
Part of a Ts job is to assist students with conflict resolution (the right way)
So many ways to kill 'em with kindness! Doesn't always work, but it's one effective strategy. https://t.co/8jb5oQg1c2
A3: Quiet victims and silent audiences is a challenge. Sometimes we find out too late.
A3: judging the veracity of statements takes patience, persistence, attention, good questions, and a desire to get it right.
Society contributes to the problem by turning heads. Happens in schools everyday. Lack of consequences
Society contributes to the problem by turning heads. Happens in schools everyday. Lack of consequences
A3 staying objective when addressing bullying can be a challenge if you were bullied as a child.
Yes! I remember seeing bullying and being terrified that they'd hurt me next.
- Does it go back to the "Nature vs Nurture"/product of environment argument?
A3: empowering Ss to say something if or when they witness it, provide them sentence starters and language
A1: I agree that bullying is the tip of a larger iceberg. The "bullies" often have their own issues they are unable to manage
It is/ should be the job of all Ts too
A3: truly understanding the facts, as opposed to seeing it through perception. Take necessary time understand the details.
Yes that's why must be school wide program in place ready to handle when arises and consistent A3 … https://t.co/4tHJSyYLgW
A3: knowing when to intervene and when to let Ss work it out themselves
So interesting to watch how the energy of bystanders either escalates or damps down the bullying. Great point.
Glad to be connected with like minded people!
Getting parents of "bully" to get on-board with fixing the problem. They're often in denial or don't care.
Q3. Individual needs 2 be held accountable.
A3: I think we have become such a "me" world (at least USA) and bullying is fueled by this as well.
....and we need students to know that all actions have consequences - some positive, some negative. https://t.co/KJcRn2KJqj
Society contributes to the problem by turning heads. Happens in schools everyday. Lack of consequences
A3 Lots --especially in ONLINE world. What does it mean to be a bystander in these impersonal online… https://t.co/SC0pTB5oCn
Welcome Dennis. Didn't see you come in. Good point.
A3 Often refrain from labeling but quick 2label bullying w/out understanding underlying reasons. Build relationship 2find out
A3: Sometimes lack of consequences at home and sometimes school.
A3 know who being bullied&where /sts keep quiet We did anonymous survey 3x year:Fall Mid End see if program worked
A3. Reinforce to Ss that they can trust me and need to come to me if there's a problem.
A3 silence of the victim and others- makes it hard to quickly intervene at an early stage
When is one S's abuse of another no longer excused by circumstances? or locker room culture? When can punitive action be taken
How to do this? Kids are so conscious of sticking together, not wanting to rat others out.
Question #4 coming up in one minute.
A3: Oftentimes kids who bully are also bullied. (and, conversely, bullies are sometimes being bullied).
a3. Oftentimes bullies have low self esteem. While we always address the bullied we must work to rebuild the bully.
Currently reading Unselfie. About teaching empathy.
Children do behave differently at home. For parents it can come across as a shock and some refuse to believe
A3: Also, when students are unwilling to disengage from online spats/disputes, it can be a challenge to help.
A3 S'times lack of guidance/policy/process/strategies for Ts so they engage w effective practice in dealing with bullying
A2: Although bystanders are not to blame, they contribute to the problem by not standing up to the bully and not helping.
I agree, but there are some students who, no matter how must tooling up, still need assistance.
A1 Agreed. There's a power struggle going on, lack of confidence, home issues, other conflicts or mental health concerns.
Q4: Continue celebrating the uniqueness of every child. Embrace differences and build relationships. This can only help.
A3 A circle that is hard to break open
Do we always address the bullied? I have seen lots of assistance given to bullies when the target is not helped
A3 anonymous survey 3x year or when needed ?'s: are you bullied where when Are you bullying etc https://t.co/tfF4K4GXTv
How to do this? Kids are so conscious of sticking together, not wanting to rat others out.
That's the challenging part.
& oftentimes the bully is also a victim of bullying.
A2. It can be a systemic thing. Families, building environment, tone, adult politics can all breed an atmosphere that enables
A3 Support for the bully often more effective than punishment-experience where the victims' parents are NOT ok with this
No it must be taught just as you wouldn't let them struggle to read without teaching.
Great point. We all get invested in the dramas and patterns we play out. Another reason to teach kids SE skills.
A3. Protecting both individuals and helping them while trying to solve problem. Sometime adults don't know how.
Requires resilience & kids need to be enabled / empowered for this as part of the school culture
A4: I think this always depends on the school and the situation as to how it is approached.
A4 No, due to external factors outside our control
My name is Rebecca and I am a pre-service teacher attending Elizabethtown College in Pennsylvania.
of course. I agree. But we won't be with them once they leave us. We need to prepare them to handle it.
. Tchng & duty so asked Ss y/day."I don't like it when someone is mean to me. " Karlee
A4. Talking about bullying increases awareness of the situation. Change process in improvement doesn't follow a straight line.
A4: No. Often we treat symptom/behavior rather than cause. Must implement programs that make kindness top priority year round
Kids need more support at home on cyber-safety. Hard to handle that aspect at school. Also, Ts should model respectful bx.
The guy who bullied me (and others) in ES died in his late 30s from drunk driving. It was his 6th DUI.
I think that's exactly the reason bystanders don't get involved!
A4: It is really dependent on each school. Some do it really effectively and other not so well. The school's culture is key!
Sorry friends, I must bid adieu, Thank you for a great chat 😊
A4. I think some of the measures work but we're missing something. schools cannot do it all. Remember, it takes a village.
at that point a mutually nasty dispute can get labeled bullying when simple solution is to block and unfollow.
True and without a clear def of bullying, some may think it's normal behavior or interactions.
. S -5 yr old comments."They bully cause they think it's fun."(P). "They want to be mean and hate people." (NK)
A4: I think there are pockets of good strategies, question is, are they sustained and consistent?
A2 Contributors my be adults, onlookers, those who enable, those who approve. Yes. Contributors may add to wrong
You're welcome! The behavior often stems from
home, so parental involvement is crucial! (A3)
A5. Is huge. students need to know how to relate to self; others. With the constant stress of today's classroom, difficult.
Hear! Hear! Surprising how many adults exhibit this bullying behavior. Modeling is k… https://t.co/VsimiEI9Um
Kids need more support at home on cyber-safety. Hard to handle that aspect at school. Also, Ts should model respectful bx.
Absolutely, agree agree. It's hard to write without sounding literal. We can only do our best as educators.
A4: not all@measures are created equal. Various and multiple efforts are required. Address individuals and org. messages
A4: it depends on the situation, think still goes on in unstructured times, cyber, outside school, etc.
A3 sometime policies are over complicated and difficult to interpret clearly - hence engagement is limited
Too much navel gazing for you Robert? I agree actually. That's why kids need 2B taught how 2 deal with conflict.
Can't learn that skill too early. Defending self to a troll is counterproductive and can escalate problem
Restorative approaches seem to be effective because all parties have a chance to tell their side!
A3: When dealing with the situation and consequences, we need to remember that the "bully" is usually a victim as well.
A3: Oftentimes bullying goes unnoticed by the teacher.
Must help both children. Both can be victims.
Or the other extreme, that a child not being kind is considered a bully. The parameters are important.
Cannot agree with this more. One of the most powerful enablers to help Ss tackle bullying https://t.co/w6RePKeNgY
A3: empowering Ss to say something if or when they witness it, provide them sentence starters and language
A4 Bullying awareness & remediation is improving; impossible to catch all externalities. Hope behavior mods extend off-campus
. S-5yr old comment."Big kids bully little kids cause they want to get attention."
(Te Orihana)
Yes! Was having this conversation with 8th grader last year.
Can be. But also can have deeper roots.
Interesting. What do you ask?
A4 School culture and buy in from parents on working together to understand and combat bullying
Totally agree-policies need to be clear and simple with no room for ambiguity
As an experienced school leader I balance the uniquness of Teachers and Students daily.A happy and engaged staffroom is key
I think dialogue must be involved at all times. Bullying doesn't happen in a void.
Curious. Do you think that bullying has become overused? Are we too quick to judge?
. Agree but that's what a 5 year old sees it as
they think they lose face or are weak if they don't defend themselves. hard to help if they participate
This is so true. A happy staff reflects into a happy school
Thank you to you and your student for weighing in. What does your class think should be done?
Oh, I'm not arguing with a 5YO. The child is correct. They can understand more t if we explain it right.
Apologies, I must go. Thanks for the chat!
Yes! The child often gets used to it and it becomes a routine, despite how it makes them feel (A3)
program and others lay it all out for the as to how to and what to do Wonderful A1-6
Parents, mental health, society, politicians. Not enough time in the day to do this right for every child.
Yes, separate the person from the behavior.
Not impressed w "WITS"--walk away, ignore, tells someone--program. Bullied need a VOICE. At some point bullied must speak out
Question #5 coming right up
Q5: Maybe the most important facet of education - SEL. Prepares s's to be "choice" and "life" ready. Plays a huge role.
Vital point in combatting bullying in a helpful and sustainable way
competition usually associated with physical stress but we forget the emotional stress
Agreed! If the bullied can speak up, witnesses will stand with them; speaking up is hard for everyone
A5) Empathy and perspective-taking are KEY.
A5: social emotional learning teaches skills like empathy and remorse. Some children lack the ability to recognize these.
Good ? but NO! If clearly defined no question usually. https://t.co/VzczSC1uGr
Curious. Do you think that bullying has become overused? Are we too quick to judge?
A4: Pre-service teacher here. I think sometimes bullies might not realize they are bullying, so they wouldn't think to stop.
. For S being bullied WITS. Walk away Ignore Tell someone Statement eg Stop it I don't like it.
It's scary to think bullies bully because they can. Many reasons for it but when they can they go for it. Turning a blind eye
Awwww waving good-bye. See you again soon.
(Next they'll be basing our evaluation on our HIB numbers, too....) Dang, did I say that out loud?
A7: would need an entire chat to focus on social/ emotional!
A4.Our Ss forget most of what we teach them.They will however remember us their teachers forever.Lets be good and kind to them
trouble is policies written by a committee - to many cooks engaged and lack of focus
It is all about compassion & empathy recognizing in others what you've felt before & helping find a way to help
Hmm good point Words lose meaning if over used. Don’t like critical feedback - he is bullying me
A5 SEL is vital, but add the soulful element to reach the whole child. What positive passion can u pursue instead of meanness?
Especially for kids as they want so much to feel part of a group.
agreed! Children need a clear understanding of what "bullying" actually is!
A4 Not consistently or we wouldn't be on this chat. Bullying is complex issue but we're getting better strategies all the time
bullying is a learned behavior: Another person in their life acts like that so they do the same. re-teach them
Q5: Pre-service teacher here. I think students have to have the confidence and will-power to speak up about their situation.
yes why love topic on global teaching moment staff/students Must not bully each other staff/sts/pare… https://t.co/3SOH2xP5zM
A4 If is a type of bullying on a massive scale, no. Long term effects must be better understood, address… https://t.co/70JQHSaffJ
A5 Seriously, there Is something wrong at school when the bully has nothing better to do than make someone else miserable.
What does sustainable mean? Curious
A5: SE skills = foundation 4 learning. Neuroscience shows if Ss = bullied, anxious, afraid can't learn https://t.co/fxYYmJVXLG
A5 Social emotional learning promotes empathy & compassion both of which help prevent bullying https://t.co/WBpAyhTVxO
Thank you for joining in Anna. Pleasure connecting with you on
A5: SE skills = foundation 4 learning. Neuroscience shows if Ss = bullied, anxious, afraid can't learn https://t.co/N7YqHRhD5f
Yes. Value compassion & empathy. Shun violence and callousness. https://t.co/imrld5MTDv
It is all about compassion & empathy recognizing in others what you've felt before & helping find a way to help
but how do you stop reprisals?
So many chats: I keep missing this one because its right after school ends. Really want to work in Singapore!
Yes, speaking out and telling the story helps reclaim power and sense of self-worth
Yes and a support system of some sort.
I often miss this as well. Usually just getting home. https://t.co/1PSfFHEdxU
So many chats: I keep missing this one because its right after school ends. Really want to work in Singapore!
HIB Numbers? (No, you didn't)
A5 is key in driving people to take action. Emotional literacy is vital in expressing feelings
Through implementation of our behaviour policy. Our role should not diminish.
Love the title. Never heard of it.
BRAVO BRAVO key!!!!! Wish a certain candidate had been taught https://t.co/bdab0XYdyZ
A5) Empathy and perspective-taking are KEY.
Q5. Those skills need to be reinforced schoolwide...character pillars, announcements, guest speakers...
Have you heard of restorative justice? Focus on healing the hurt
A5: I think if children learn the correct skills for managing difficult situations, they are better equipped for managing them
I asked a bully "what's in this for you? How can you find another way to satisfy this need?" Her mouth hung open
Agreed, empathy and perspective-taking are key to prevention and intervention!
Sorry to hear that-sounds frustrating. Clear policies really make a difference to Ts practice
Hi Jena :) THE BEST way to ANYWAY is to have a WITHOUT ANY and , WHATEVER one!
A6: Students will follow our example more than they will follow our words. Be the change you want to see. Model it.
Wow, Jacquelyn. What did she say? And welcome btw, I didn't see you come in.
You will cry with laughter, then cry till you cannot cry anymore. My students LOVE this book! https://t.co/D9FFkkru04
Love the title. Never heard of it.
Yes, taught it. But will it work for every for incident?
A6: Make kindness & respect 4 differences a given. Reward Ss AND Ts who show it. Start programs 2 intro Ss 2 peers globally.
A6:students must experience SEL at a young age in order to build skills and be taught and talked to with respect and kindness.
Great! Can teach the skills needed to respond! https://t.co/5KDYnyDc7j
I asked a bully "what's in this for you? How can you find another way to satisfy this need?" Her mouth hung open
A6: I've always believed that if pupils see staff talking to each other kindly, having fun & smiling it makes a huge diff
Thx Is bullying pervasive r we more aware/sensitive, or do we understand safe environment a good learning place
My HS had a Student-Faculty review board, where people could bring "complaints" just like real world.
She said, I don't think I get anything, it's just her (the victim). I said, I don't believe you. Silence
So true! Ss need a way to communicate subtly ie email so the billy doesn't see https://t.co/Y2z8OYaoVt
Agreed! If the bullied can speak up, witnesses will stand with them; speaking up is hard for everyone
I think so. When students dont follow directions quickly, I take a minute from their GeniusHour.
with policies everyone wants a voice & it is fitting in all in that creates issues
Welcome Rebecca. Agree. It is vital for that environment to be built by Ts and the school.
A6 blessed to be at a very diverse school where the kids by & large celebrate difference or don't even see it in the 1st place
Have to leave a little early. Great chat and insight! Thanks for leading us into great conversation!
A6.In my school learning is often pupil led.This gives Ss a sense of leadership/ ownership.Weak Ss can be great at coding etc
Caring schools community kit is a wonderful resource to teach SEL. I'm also a supporter of restorative approaches in schools.
Indeed. Seen kids bully Ts because they were bored in the lesson. Engage their minds! https://t.co/X4rMNchkyG
A5 Seriously, there Is something wrong at school when the bully has nothing better to do than make someone else miserable.
A6 Teach them. What does it look, sound and feel like. Model, role play, include families.
Insist, in any context, that S's speak in 1st person; don't say "you" because you avoid ownership, motive, responsibility
Rationale is S made your classmates wait, so you get 1 minute off what you want to do. Not punitive
A6: pre-service teacher here. Literature can go a long way. In the early years, select books that model these good behaviors
Thank you for stopping by Terry!
I'd love to get here in my library
A6: model ourselves, create an environment encouraging this, and recognize the students who practice these skills!
Happy to. Sometimes I cannot find the right hook, other times Ss don't want to take the "bait"
It becomes a part of the culture.
We Have a Challenge for you. REady?
That is such a perceptive point, Sunny! True, sad, and I experienced it first hand in my awful first teaching years
Absolutely! Yet is still not consistently included in Ts PD. Crazy! I'm doing my best to change that
Appreciation Tree, Olweus, Miner Moments, Random Acts of Kindness, Tell me something good, just to name a few.
Good night all from Ireland.Thanks to all for engaging and thanks to our host Jena.We learn so much from eachother.My new CPD
Watch the culture. schools need the right leadership.
How does this work for those that had to wait in the first place?
Not a good place to be. But if you overcome it, makes you a stronger, perhaps more empathatic educator.
As a teacher, we can't be bullies. We have to be kind and fair.
Definitely agree with this. My 5th grade teacher had a class system that would have been similar to this (A6)
Thank you so much for staying up to share with us Kevin!
Curious to find out the impact of this-what a great idea! https://t.co/QXAr5XnkbT
My HS had a Student-Faculty review board, where people could bring "complaints" just like real world.
I have seen outstanding edu fail in schools with poor cultures. Sometimes the issue is systematic/ institutional
I only wait a minute moving on, so they dont have to wait long. Just a reminder. Doesnt happen much
Soooo glad. Kids are not hard drives to data dump then quality test.
Thank you for joining us Teresa
Without a doubt...that doesn't bully!
Thank you for welcoming me into the chat. It was great collaborating with everyone.
